#victim complex

[haleyincarnate]

Don’t let people guilt you into that energy.

Quote by the wonderful @blcksmth on Instagram ✨

#blcksmith #hmh #mine #art #writing #quote #handwriting #love #loss #relationship #friendship #growth #polaroid #problem #victim complex #worth

[lostinthelights-blog]

"You can't gaslight me because I have a narcissistic mother with a victim complex"

#narcissistic mother #poetry #deep feelings #spilled truth #childhood trauma #victim complex #i hate my mom #emotions #mom why #momwho #jealousy #hypersensitivity #mental health #mental illness #actually narcissistic

[classycookiexo]

#victim complex

[creature-wizard]

It's really damned unfortunate how many people (particularly white cis women) got into witchcraft because they feel like it validates a sense of victimhood. There's so many amazing things to do and discover, and these people are just using it to act like they're the biggest victims in the world.

#witchcraft #witchblr #vent #victim complex #witches

[sickness-stricken]

Not sure who needs to hear this but if you refer to actual victims of abuse as “having a victim complex” I hope you choke on nails

“Victim complex” doesn’t mean “actual victim who still bears massive amounts of trauma, sees repeating signs of abuse and calls them out as such” you stupid fuck. That’s JUST a victim. The complex part comes from when there’s nothing to WARRANT that woe-is-me mentality. If you know someone who survived abuse and they call you out on something that reminds them of how they were abused and you back-chat them about it and accuse them of having a victim complex YOU are the one with the complex. YOU are the one who cannot handle that your actions and behaviour have consequences. YOU are the one using someone else’s misfortune to treat them like shit and get away with it.

#mad pride #victim complex #victim mentality #neuropunk #neuropride #sa survivor #abuse survivor

[bpdohwhatajoy]

I will always be a villain to you because you’re unable to get your head out of your own ass and see that you’re actually the shitty one. So sure. I’ll be your villain. I’m one more in your long list of the hundreds who have wronged you.

#ryan.txt #bpd #borderline personality disorder #abusive ex #abusive relationship #victim complex #cptsd #ptsd #trauma #traumatized #fucked up people

[mybelovedneitherdoyou]

At this point in my life I really don't have the time and energy for people with a victim complex. If I express an issue and you put up a fight that's IT. I am done with people who take no responsibility. You will not get an ounce of guilt out of me for standing up for myself.

#victim complex #healing #prose #spilled ink #sapphic love #lovecore #falling in love #soft yearning #yearning #words #love #bad friend #toxic people #toxic relationship #healing myself #narcassist

[bahbzxxx]

You know Venti be hella pissed at Zhongli for staging his own death but you know what, that lil shit would 100% stage his own kidnapping for pity points

He’s not learning hilichurlian to sing their songs. He’s learning so he can coerce them into kidnapping him dramatically from Angels share so people will feel bad for him and pay for his drinks because, you know what, MAYBE HIS HAND IS TIRED. 🙀

But then the Bartender is Filuc from Fondstadt and Filuc from Fondstadt is just immune to everything so he just ends up looking like a dum-dum

i can just smell the victim complex THERE I SAID IT

#venti #victim complex #genshin hcs

[theocddiaries]

"Those who pretend to be victims to justify their own malicious actions are masters in the art of emotional manipulation."

#manipulation #toxic mother #victim complex #toxic parents #emotional abuse

[nerdby]

There is no cancel culture. Some of us just want bigots to shut the fuck up and say so. Rightwing pearlclutchers love to dish out insults for everything under the sun, but once someone calls them out they start whining about cancel culture.

Cancel culture is a copout.

#hot take #truth #lgbt #pearlclutchers #cancel culture #victim complex #black lives matter #landback #black queer lives matter #stop asian hate #stop racism #protect native women #bullying #abuse #bullying is abuse #cyberbullying

[rory-is-hiding]

and so there you are, drawn and quartered in the square, nailed to the post, hanged and stoned. you are marred with their dirt and none of your own. you think you are pure in this state, that this makes you clean. you produced this tragedy piece, a persecution conspiracy. wearing a woven crown and the reworked scraps you stole from everyone you know. i guess guilt was too sour on its own, you learned how to swallow it. not your fault, not your fault, not your fault. it coats your throat. it is all youve ever wanted to be. you are weak and scarred and sacred and dying. how could anyone deny you this, when you write it all down so beautifully? a matyr, a sacrifice, a victim and a god. your very own jesus christ and we all say amen. not your fault.

#poetic #complex ptsd #poems and poetry #ptsd poem #love poem #ptsd recovery #sad poem #mental health #prose poem #my poem #poetsandwriters #queer poets on tumblr #poets on tumblr #sa survivor #saviour complex #sa victim #victim complex #victims #ptsdawareness #ptsd art #ptsd thoughts #living with ptsd

[religion-is-a-mental-illness]

By: Gregg Henriques Ph.D.

Published: Nov 15, 2023

KEY POINTS

What people perceive is, in a major part, a function of what they look for and expect to see.

Those who expect others to act a certain way tend to perceive that, even if everything is normal.

The human mind is a prediction machine.

Knowing how much of experience is shaped by how people frame and direct their attention can be empowering.

We often think of the world as existing “out there” and that we simply open our eyes and see it for what it is. We also tend to believe that we observe other people’s reactions and pick out what is relevant based on what is actually there. Although this describes our experience of perception, the truth is actually quite different.

The facial scar experiment provides powerful evidence that people’s perceptions of social interactions arise from their expectations. The setDartmouth Scar Experimentup of the study, conducted by Kleck and Strenta, is as follows: Participants entering the study are informed that it is about how physical deformities impact interpersonal interactions. To explore this, participants have a significant facial scar placed on them and then are told to monitor the actions and attitudes of the others. A make-up artist puts the scar on the participants’ faces and has them look at it in the mirror. Then, she adds some moisturizer to help prevent cracking, and the participants have some brief social interactions. They later come back and report on those interactions.

Those with facial scars experienced the interactions as being much more tense and patronizing than controls. This makes sense, right? After all, we know people treat people with major disfigurements differently, right?

Well, it turns out that when the make-up artist added the moisturizer, she actually removed the scar. So, the person did not actually have anything on their face. Instead, they simply experienced the relational world differently because they had different expectations of what it would be like.

It is hard to emphasize how powerful this expectation effect is.

Consider, for example, the famous “gorilla experiment.” In it, individuals are asked to watch a group pass a basketball around and carefully count how many times the ball was passed for a minute. Unsurprisingly, most people can do this task relatively easily.

However, what is remarkable about this experiment is that while this is happening, a person in a gorilla suit enters the group, makes a display, and then walks off. When you see it, you can’t miss it. However, approximately 50 percent of the people who are counting the passes completely fail to see the gorilla. When you go back and take a look at the video, it is amazing that anyone would not notice the gorilla. But that is the power of expectations in forming what we see or, in this case, don’t see.

The work of the cognitive philosopher Andy Clark makes such phenomena understandable in his recent book, The Experience Machine: How Our Minds Predict and Shape Reality. The central idea in the book is called predictive processing, which is the theory that we build our perceptual experiences and act according to our predictions. One of the most compelling real-life examples he gives of predictive processing in action is of a construction worker who jumps off a large ridge only to land on a 10-inch nail and have it penetrate through his boot and stick out the other side. Needless to say, the man was in agony.

However, his perceptual experience changed dramatically when, after the boot was carefully removed, it became apparent that the nail happened to go between his toes and never actually pierced his skin. His agony was completely a function of his perceptions. If that sounds hard to believe, check out the rubber hand experiments, which show how readily people can become convinced that a rubber hand actually is their hand, such that if it is crushed with a hammer, the person will jump back in pain.

The bottom line is that what you see is defined in large part by what you look for and expect to see. This is a powerful insight for many reasons. First, it highlights that our perceptual knowledge is always an interaction between the knower and what is known. Second, it helps explain how and why people can be at the exact same event but see it completely differently. Third, as this blog on the human identity matrix makes clear, we have much flexibility in where we direct our attention and how we frame what we perceive and what it means to who we are. Thus, although the power of expectation can be a bit alarming and unsettling, it also can be very empowering, and it is one of the great insights of cognitive and narrative approaches to psychotherapy to realize how important our frame is in understanding how we experience and feel about the world around us.

#Dartmouth Scar Experiment #victimhood #victimhood culture #victim complex #psychology #human psychology #victimhood mindset #religion is a mental illness

[etherealsign282]

Imagine giving abusers/ex abusers respect on a silver platter for the mere concept that they could've possibly changed, and going easy on them

Only to harshly criticize abuse survivors for "gossiping" and "talking shit" about their abusers because "you're saying words but I'm here to see the ex abuser's actions"

But they are not seeing the abuser's actions, they're only hearing that they may or may not have changed and they've already given them a chance with zero caution and zero doubt which means any red flags are harder to spot (bc your mindset is already trying to focus on pardoning them and being biased)

While demonizing and ostracizing the survivor and not giving them a chance to be heard because "they're just bitter" which means every little flaw and mistake becomes a red flag

And both sides are just saying words (maybe the survivor is backing up the evidence sometimes) but somehow because the abuser is being their usual, egotistical self and passive aggressively doing a smear campaign based on "they don't like me anymore even though I did my best and I've changed" (which shows a very huge lack in self-awareness, emotional intelligence, and empathy), while the abuse survivor is aggressively calling them out, the abuser just seems better to listen to

And I'm tired of the injustice toward abuse survivors. I'm tired that abusers can just say or do whatever and people give them a second chance for pretty much no valid reason, when they're so overly critical of the people who were literally abused (with criticism possibly their whole life)

And people are willing to actually hang out with p3d0s and rxpists and abusers because "they probably changed" but then the people that are hanging out with these p3d0s and rxpists are just so quick to be like "anyways I can't be your friend if you're a shit talker or you're bitter and haven't moved on from trauma yet". Like I'm talking shit but your bestie RXPED SOMEONE.

Like there's clearly some part of you that is not rationalizing things properly and is making you more likely to demonize and attack people for calling a rxpist a rxpist, than demonize the rxpist itself because they can play nice to specifically get on your good side by seeming perfect and never negative (which is a huge sign of manipulation but ok)

But I've found that I just can't save y'all and make y'all see that irrationality, and I shouldn't bother trying.

Because so many people just want me to extend my emotional labor to teaching abusers not to abuse, teaching abuse apologists not to be abuse apologists, and have wanted me to since I was a kid

And the more I rant and rave the more exhausted I get with this idea in mind that I'm ranting to save them and make them understand, and I know it just won't fix anything, not for me and not for y'all

Bc y'all are dead set on letting the abusers play the victim because they know how to play the self-pity game just right to seem more relatable than the angry abuse survivor, and make the angry abuse survivor seem like the big scary mean ones for growing a jagged edge to their moral compass

And y'all have been groomed to empathize more with a bad guy who cries victim than a good guy who is here to *do good* not just to pretend play nice. And I'm over trying to be the therapist that makes you understand how fxked that is.

And no this isn't me saying I'll just move on and be positive and be a good happy lil camper that just loves and tolerates everyone and never vents anymore.

This is me saying that the mental burden of your fxcked up, victim blamey perspective is not my responsibility to fix and I'm not going to rant with the idea that I CAN fix y'all.

Imma rant about how much I can't fucking stand y'all who weaponize ignorance and incompetence, and how much I want y'all to suffer and be as miserable as the rxpists that you ride for their approval, since y'all clearly are going to be on their side either way (until they fxk you over themselves).

And how much I know you're already at that level of misery if you genuinely can't shut the fuck up about abuse survivors for two seconds bc of your insecurity and fears making you project onto them all these things you're scared of being, and how delicious it tastes to me, and how much I crave to see more

Until you're in your 50's saying contradictory shit every two seconds and starting a fight every week like a toxic boomer because you no longer know who you are, what you stand for, and what is based on your authenticity vs your performativity, you just know you want to yell and scream away your insecurities.

And if you don't like it? Cope and seethe.

(bc I might rant a lot but at least I'm ranting for justice and I'm ranting bc y'all are actually being dicks and trying to ruin my mood for no reason- ranting about how survivors are bad bc they wont repress the things that happened to them like you do is very clearly a "I'm miserable and bitter and just won't admit it so I'll project it onto everyone else" thing. The problem is I don't attack good people, and y'all will attack anything that seems even mildly threatening to your insecurities).

#toxic positivity #abuser apologist #victim blaming #victim complex #trauma #emotional abuse #toxic #mental abuse #abuse survivor #but yall the same people that uses narcissist as a buzzword for YOUR exes #but people cant say “hey i was abused by x person” without being toxic #fake supporter #hypocricy #weaponized incompetence #ignorance #performativity #oh but you understand exactly how invalid the “i tried my best and ive changed” argument is when its someone who hurt YOU

[crazycatsiren]

Privileged white gentile women in the 21st century will read about the witch hunts throughout history during which the Jews, the Romani, the disabled, the neurodivergent, the people of color, the socially disadvantaged suffered the most and say "this is about me."

#witch hunts #witchblr #white people on the internet #white gentiles on social media #for reals #victim complex #white feminism #white supremacy #white fragility #white privilege #witches of color

[sickness-stricken]

Time for everyone’s favourite game of “did this ex-friend of a person I know ACTUALLY have a victim complex or was the person I’m talking to just an uncaring asshole?”!

#anti psychology #antipsychiatry #anti therapy #mad pride #victim complex #narcissistic personality disorder

[odinsblog]

#lol #accurate #politics #republicans #faux outrage #manufactured outrage #victim complex #victim envy