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Yeeeessssssssss

“I guess that’s just part of loving people: You have to give things up. Sometimes you even have to give them up.”

— Lauren Oliver, Delirium

#quote #self love #motivation #self healing #self care

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Taking a huge step back from my life and everything. I'm still a mess but I got a chance to know what's really in my heart. Be it Life, friendship, work, relationship.. All I want is peace. ❤️

#self healing #self care #self love #trauma #survivor #loveislove #quotes #real life

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I want him. I want me. I want us. I want peace.

#self healing #self care #self love #poets corner #survivor #loveislove #poets on tumblr #trauma

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Sleepless thoughts.

- he is still in my head

- I keep lashing out on him but sometimes I feel like the words coming out of me is not meant for him

- where did i go wrong?

- he stripped me down naked revealing my past self (suppressed anger) the part in me that I don't let anyone touch cause it is my own, for me alone to battle

- i love him

- i feel guilty falling inlove and receiving love

- i'm afraid that no one is ever gonna accept me cause of my past

- i didn't trust him

- i'm angry at love cause it hurt me so much

- i wish my mind would just shut up

#trauma #recovery #self healing #self care #self love #survivor #poets on tumblr #quotes

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Can you love that part of you that everyone hates?

#recovery #note to self #self care #self healing #trauma #survivor #loveislove #poets on tumblr #notebooks #poets corner #self love

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“If anyone ever stop loving you, know that she never really loved. Love doesn’t end, may have ups and downs, but if it’s love, nothing or no one will destroy.”

— Vítor Hugo Mota

#truthoflife #trauma #recovery

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“The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive.”

— John Green

#motivation #truthoflife #trauma #self love #self care #progress #recovery

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“Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth even if they don’t.”

— Thema Davis

#quote #self care #note to self #motivation #positive #thinkpositive

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“If anyone ever stop loving you, know that she never really loved. Love doesn’t end, may have ups and downs, but if it’s love, nothing or no one will destroy.”

— Vítor Hugo Mota

#quote #positive #thoughts #trauma #survivor #self love #self help #self healing #recovery

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Your daily reminder that traumatised brains are literally physically different to a normal brain. Repeated trauma and abuse has a severe, long-term effect.

If you have difficulty maintaining social bonds, concentrating, sleeping, focusing, or regulating your emotions, it’s because you’re traumatised. If you’re not happy with yourself, if you worry you’re a burden, you’re toxic, that you don’t matter, it’s because you’re traumatised. If you struggle to make it out of bed, think straight, get motivated or distracted, it’s because you’re traumatised.

Have you ever been told you’re too dramatic, or emotional? Has anyone wondered why you trust no one? Why you analyse every person’s smallest behaviour? Why you’re paranoid of the most minor signs of history repeating itself? It’s because you’re traumatised.

And it is NOT your fault.

#self healing #abuse #recovery #trauma

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“QUESTION 8: HOW CAN I TELL IF A MAN I’M SEEING WILL BECOME ABUSIVE? The following warning flags mean that abuse could be down the road, and perhaps not far: • He speaks disrespectfully about his former partners. A certain amount of anger and resentment toward an ex-partner is normal, but beware of the man who is very focused on his bitterness or who tells you about it inappropriately early on in your dating. Be especially cautious of the man who talks about women from his past in degrading or condescending ways or who characterizes himself as a victim of abuse by women. Be alert if he says that his previous wife or girlfriend falsely accused him of being abusive; the great majority of reports of abuse are accurate. When you hear that another woman considers him abusive, always find a way to get her side of the story. Even if you end up not believing her, you will at least know the behaviors to watch out for in him, just in case. Be cautious also of the man who admits to abusing a former partner but claims that the circumstances were exceptional, blames it on her, or blames it on alcohol or immaturity. Be cautious of the man who says that you are nothing like the other women he has been involved with, that you are the first partner to treat him well, or that earlier women in his life have not understood him. You will be tempted to work doubly hard to prove that you aren’t like those other women, and one foot will already be in the trap. It won’t be long before he is telling you that you are “just like the rest of them.” His perceptual system ensures that no woman can be a good woman while she is involved with him.”

— Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (2002) [PDF]

#abuse #red flags #self love #self healing #trauma

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abusers be like “if you loved me you’d let me invade your boundaries and make you feel like shit if that makes me happy”

#healing #recovery #trauma #abuse

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shoutout to everyone who woke up today in a body that definitely has not forgotten you grew up knowing to be terrified the minute you heard an angry man yelling ♥️

#self care #trauma #healing #recovery #abuse

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I don't know why I'm in so much pain

#trauma #self healing #self care #journal #poetry #survivor #survival

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2013. The first time I saw him. #nostalgia

The first time I saw her, everything in my head went quiet.

— Neil Hilborn, Our Numbered Days

#self healing #poets corner #notebooks #positivity #self love #self care #trauma #survivor #loveislove

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“Sometimes life will kick you around, but sooner or later you realize you’re not just a survivor, you’re a warrior. And you’re stronger than anything life throws your way.”

— Brooke Davis (via quotefeeling)

#self healing #self love #note to self #poets corner #positive thoughts #positivity #poetry #poem

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Things that take time & many tries to get right:

learning to be a good friend/partner

healing from depression, failures or heartbreak

becoming amazing at an art or skill

overcoming anxiety, insecurities and low body image

overcoming the need to isolate yourself

changing self-hating thoughts to kinder ones

making a real connection with someone

overcoming self-defeating and self-sabotaging thoughts

learning how to study effectively

finding a sense of stability and calmness at your core

quitting habits or addictions

leaving people and behaviours that turn you into the worst version of yourself

getting used to healthier coping mechanisms & mindsets that feel fake

treating yourself like you truly care about yourself

becoming the person you always wanted to be

#survivor #self love #self healing #self care #trauma