#Controlling What You See and Hear

[foladaniel]

Gatekeeping your mind | Fola Daniel Adelesi

You cannot empower your mind if you don’t gatekeep your mind. Gatekeeping is something that those of us in the media are aware of. It’s a process that we use to sieve information. It’s a process through which we determine what is right, what is wrong, what is good enough, and what is not good enough. So when we talk about gatekeeping your mind, the gatekeeping process for your mind involves the…

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#Achieving Goals #Adelesi #Cognitive Empowerment #Controlling What You See and Hear #Fola Daniel #Fola Daniel Speaks #Gatekeeping Your Mind #Guarding Your Heart #Information Filtering #Limiting Negative Influences #Mental Strength #Mind Empowerment #Mindful Living #Personal Development #Personal Growth #Positive Thinking #Quality of Mind #Self-Development #Self-Growth #Self-Improvement #Sense Organs #Sensory Gatekeeping #Vision Building

[pinkrose05]

Sungenti & Robinhill would go on the most terse double dates in history. That's it that's the post.

#no but hear me out: these pairs have a sitcom-worthy dynamic it's such a funny mental image actually #boothill is like the perfect candidate for sunday's disapproval in every single way #he's crass he's crude and he's getting on his nerves on purpose which is Not helping his fresh brother-in-law status #and sunday is just the sort of silently bitchy control freak that grinds boots' gears too #they keep exchanging seemingly polite banter but it's really just a combo of forced formality and a curse censor #while argenti (who's Bros For Life with boothill) sees this and cheers for a new friendship #“what beautiful rapport you two are building so fast!!” #bless his soul #nobody tell him what's going on #(robin is tempted to do it just so she can commiserate about the suffering she goes through whenever they meet up. press f for her patience #(at least argenti himself isn't bad company though!) #honkai star rail #hsr #hsr sunday #hsr robin #hsr argenti #hsr boothill #sungenti #sunti #(<- i think that's the established ship name? cmiiw tho) #robinhill #pink's musings

[identityquest]

lizzie get two wolves 👍

#strato.txt #oil painting #wip #im worried ive unbalanced the composition w the second one on the right tho... its so much closer to the edge #ugh whatever. aunt lizzie is the focus here #i wish i knew what she actually looked like this is just cobbled together from general features of my family #solid build... dark curly hair... bigass ears. she could be one of my cousins. she could be me #ok rq im gonna lay out the story in the tags for anyone who hasnt seen the previous lizzie art #my great-something aunt lizzie was disabled and couldnt walk very well and she died young #she wanted to see the second floor of the farm house real bad but no one ever carried her up there and she died before seeing it #they buried her in a long white dress somewhere down at the creek. we dont know where her graves lost unfortunately #the night she was buried something wearing a white dress walked into the house and up the stairs and disappeared #and sometimes you can hear her down around the creek screaming #somewhere along the line wolves got mixed into the imagery for me #my uncle told me a story about another 'white thing' that was wolfish and would jump on cars #so i just assumed lizzie was a werewolf my whole life #anyways. i think her staying after she died was a manifestation of her desire for autonomy. maybe #maybe if shed had modern accommodations she wouldnt have felt the need to stick around. or maybe she would have idk #either way i think death afforded her control over her own desires in a way she hadnt experienced before #and i think thats why she still hangs around the creek #i hope she would like this. maybe ill take it down there and leave it out for a night when its finished so she can see

[anti-dazai-blog]

actually I need bsd to introduce Niccolò Machiavelli and Antoine de Saint-Exupéry. and to give them a sibling or parent/child dynamic.

But most importantly I’d need them to have matching abilities. Let The Prince and The Little Prince be an inverse of each other.

#Listen if you have Kouyou and Kyoka as a mother/daughter dynamic with their respective Demon abilities #Then I need The Prince and The Little Prince to have the same relation #I imagine The Prince would be something that allows its user to have some sort of influence over its target #While The Little Prince would allow its user to understand its target #So in practice both of them would be able to have control over the target but one of them is forceful and the other is more gentle #Okay wait you know what I’d love? #If Machiavelli is actually a nice guy who just got stuck with a mind-control type of ability #While Saint-Exupéry is actually malicious but uses his ability as proof of his harmlessness #“I just want to understand you better 😊 so that we can work together most efficiently 🤗” #I have *thoughts*. #Not sure if the demographic here wants to hear about what authors I wanna see in bsd #but I actually have a whole google doc of other authors I wanna see #Bsd #bungo stray dogs #bungou stray dogs

[insane-weasel]

I think as writers we should hold funerals for our WIPs more often.

Dearly beloved, gather us here today where this fic of some middle-aged man getting rawdogged and this other fanfic about the importance of friendship are laid to rest, because the author got really distracted playing that new video game.

We celebrate what could have been, cut-and-recycle those really good lines or ideas, because I swear I'm going to use them, I swear! And drag this poor document not to the great recycling bin or trash, but to the "graveyard" folder because sometimes I like to commune with the dead.

#fanfic #Writing #I just had to throw out 5k words of a one shot over something I can't change/control but I never delete old WIPs #I do just put them in a folder and still backup that folder with my other files #Yes some of my earlier ideas were horrendous but also there's a part of me still there in each of them #Sometimes it's less about the writing and more about who I was I want to sometimes revisit #Who was the teen girl writing gore at 15 and what would she think of today's writing #Who was the insecure fearful loveless boy who over expressed his masculinity online and wrote tough lonely guy characters #I don't want to be them anymore but when I hate myself sometimes it's nice to read what I've written #You hear the problems you never thought youd overcome in the author notes or in the subject and those fears and pain #You also see the first time you wrote a subject #I wish I hadn't deleted lots of my writing from when I was very young #Some I did because it legitimately could cause or encourage harm if left online #But I think I always smile when I see the old “this year is 8th grade” because by golly #Still think it's hilarious I got really into writing in middle school because I was jealous of someone else's writing ability in 6th grade #I can remember the exact moment I looked at my 2 page story and was filled with jealousy because they wrote 12 pages and my story felt so.. #I remember going home and going 'i know I can write something good!' and people will like it! #And then like while looking for some place to upload writing I found fanfic

[transmechanicus]

Brb crying on this friday night

#my stuff #my ex texted me they’re having a rough time but they refuse to let me help #i feel so thoroughly useless to them and i feel like they should/will give me up as a friend if i’m not useful #like if we’re really friends like i think we are LET ME DO SOMETHING TO SUPPORT YOU #i’m actively offering to help and they refuse every time and it hurts bc i know they’re struggling and if we were partners still they would #they would let me support them like they deserve #i know at least some of what they’re struggling with is beyond my control but there’s a non-zero chance part of why they’re upset is me #in the sense that they’re struggling to navigate our friendship after they broke up with me #and i don’t want that to be a source of stress if so. i’ve offered to provide any and all reassurances that might help them #but they’ve said they don’t need to hear anything and need to work it out on their own #how’s uhhh how’s that going for you champ?? #they need support and i’m willing to give it but they won’t admit it even at cost #so i just get to sit here and hope they’ll be ok. and that i’m not making it worse in some way i can’t see #Spotify

[obstinatecondolement]

Wish my parents would take the "not swearing at me and shouting about how they own the house I live in" challenge every time I push back mildly against them treating me like a literal child challenge.

#they're on the 'you can't lock your door' thing again #and once again using fire safety as a fig leaf for being mad about not being able to get into my room without me unlocking it #and I didn't even say no is the thing #I said that I didn't feel I had any other way of enforcing privacy as a boundary #and that I didn't think it was reasonable that I should be Disallowed from locking myself into a room on fire safety grounds #when they both do that all the time #so why is there one rule for them and one for me? #the answer you will be pleased to hear is #'do whatever you want then you selfish fucking bitch' #and 'I pay the rent!' #there is not rent #they own this house outright #and a second house which my sister lives in rent free #they don't give a shit about 'what if there is a fire?' #the problem is #'how dare you presume that you can lock part of my house away from me #and how dare you presume that you are a person with rights and not an extension of me I should be able to control at will?' #if fire safety is such a fucking risk then why can you lock yourself in a room to get away from 'the madness' but I'm not allowed? #also fwiw I never raised my voice or said anything harsher than 'I feel that I have no other way of having my privacy respected' #and 'I don't think that makes sense as a reason given that you lock yourself in rooms all the time and I don't see how that is different' #but anything other than unflinching obedience is verbal abuse time #like always #love that for me

[faineant-girl]

i wish all addicts, in recovery or not, a life free of sorrow forever

#.vent #kinda. im not gonna delete this one though #i just. i sure am thinking about this a lot. #i listen to like. trip report videos or whatever and like. the comments section on every single one. just nasty #theres no sympathy for an addict to be seen. unless they're also an addict or are recovering #my dad is a recovered addict. hes been clean for 6 years. i love my dad and hes a wonderful person. #i obviously still have trauma from when he was actively in his mess. to deny that addicts have caused others trauma is to be reductive. #addicts can cause trauma because theyre people. and people can cause trauma all the same #but the lack of understand or care or basic respect to anyone dealing with addiction is just. appalling. #im sick and tired of hearing the same old fucking phrase that its the addicts fault cuz they decided to take the first hit. like #man how fucking cruel can you be. how heartless ya know. #like its obvious hardly anyone commenting abiut this knows anything about what being an addict is like. like. #i know i dont. ive been sober my whole life right. i do not have the same experience. #but. i have a compulsive disorder that makes me perform a task that is 1 harmful 2 almost entirely out of my control #and i cannot describe to you how difficult it is to ignore that urge. for your mind to know what youre doing is harmful. but #your body physically is not listening to you. #like. its a different thing when its addiction. but being compelled to do something you know is hurting you isnt unfamiliar to me #plus with addiction the added factor that your body becomes physically dependent on a drug and it hurts you for a long ass time to try and #stop and withdrawl can sometimes literally be lethal. its so fucking sad to see people hold not even. like an ounce of sympathy ya know #if an addict has abused you im not saying you need to forgive them. you dont. but not every addict is youre abuser #and while you do not need to be involved. every addict deserves a good life. everyone deserves a chance. #just. god. makes me mad. makes me upset. #if you are an addict especially if youre not in recovery. i hope your days go well. i hope the world gets kinder to you.

[phoenixcatch7]

What I'd really love to see is a svsss au where shen yuan had the immense powers from saiki k.

Like, svsss is already a romcom of a guy shunted into a fantasy world with meta knowledge and immense power for no reason apart from 'make a happy ending' as a fairly thick veneer over an absolute hot mess of a tragedy with a happy ending, red flags galore, complete with a protagonist completely removed from the concept of romance and resigned to his fate of being abandoned by the people around him because of the circumstances he was 'born' into, but he's funny about it.

The disastrous life of saiki k is a fast paced crack comedy about a guy granted immense power for no reason with meta knowledge of the world as a thick veneer over something a little darker and traumatic with a happy ending, complete with a protagonist completely removed from the concept of romance and resigned to being ignored by the people around him because of the circumstances he was born into, but he's hilarious about it.

Now I don't think it should be a 1-1 transplant of saiki to the svsss world, but to imagine an sy with those powers who didn't manage to find loyal friends, who moved out to live alone as soon as possible to avoid issues with his powers, who gravitated to web novels because of their regular updates as opposed to being constantly spoiled for books with finished endings. An sy who despite his ridiculous levels of power died alone in a stupid way and woke up in a world filled with people who also had immense and varied powers, dealing with the prospect of immortality when his own powers are still constantly growing and interfering with his life, but be silly about it.

I want to see a sy with telepathy still failing to understand what lbhs deal is because of his own denial, a sy with the power to crush mountains with a finger trying not to blow down walls with a sneeze because someone put him on a mountain FILLED with plants in SPRING, an sy who deleted an entire country from the planet aged four trying to dodge overly enthusiastic maidens he keeps saving because he doesn't want to steal from the protagonist and also no, lady, please. Shen yuan sitting in the water prison absolutely deadpan as people try and scare him with 10 iq stories about the acid waterfalls. An sy who hares around the peak trying to avoid being spotted on valentines day as he redirects unwanted admirers and improves his disciples dates just so they can all have a good day.

An sqh who really, honestly truly doesn't know how pidw was made real, honest!! All he could do was see ghosts! It's not his fault the story he wrote to make rent turned into all of this!! But because you're here can you pretty please make some ice, I'm in desperate need of air con and my king hasn't showed up in weeks!

Sqq and sqh playing telepathic chess during boring meetings and sqq leaving him to suffer when sqh is asked a question even though he himself knows the answer.

Lbh trying everything to get shizuns attention and discovering his total weakness to his cooking. Like, will let you cheat in class levels of bribery.

Sqq stalking dourly through fields of aphrodisiac plant because he's raised his body temperature high enough to burn out any pollen before it gets too close and the system just despairing at getting this man to do something interesting.

Cat!sqq transforming back as fast as he can because he's got a meeting in half an hour and having to rush around trying to find something to cover the cat ears he didn't manage get rid of.

Shen qingqiu pulling out his limiters and dropping the mask to reveal a deity in the shape of a man, something crafted purely of psychic energy and burning fury, determined to hold maigu ridge together and keep the realms apart with his will alone, to save luo binghe if it killed him again. A shining aura stretching miles, glowing like a star, halting the earthquake with his bare hands.

Sqq seeing a bug and freaking out so hard he teleports to the northern demon realm and lands in a slushy pond, and sqh nearly giving him away because of how hard he's laughing.

#Like honestly the parallels are great #Long post #Sqq leaning hard into the aloof elegant scholar vibes because he still struggles to control his strength even with the limiters #He doesn't want to hurt anyone. #Sqh: please please tell me what my king is thinking right now he's been glaring at me all day! #Sqq (having been forced to hear an endless carnal monologue for hours from him): oh no not a chance. No way are you getting me involved. #Sqq: whatever insane thing you two have going on go ahead. Just don't involve anyone else in that EVER. #Sqh: bro 😭?! #Sqq: *makes a peace sign and goes invisible* #Sqh: BRO?!! Not even... Expensive northern import for the protagonist to cook with? #Sqq: *reappears with a pop* go on... #Sqh is salty he didn't get the godlike powers when he created the world they're in. Sqq tells him it isn't worth it #Being forced to see the past of an object with just a touch when you live in 5 million words of bad smut?? NO THANK YOU. #But both being espers AND from the same world they're still buddies (much to sqqs dismay). #Sqh is just barely outside sqqs telepathy range on an ding and lives in fear of him sensing him writing and catapulting himself #through the window at mach ten to beat him up. #Sqq every time he has to sit through a meeting with some corrupt official: thought crimes aren't real thought crimes don't count #Sqh: so how are you this bad at feelings. My guy you are an empath. #Sqq: shut up. #Lbh would definitely catch sqq doing something impossible or op and be so head over heels. He's like his father that way. #svsss #svsss au #shen qingqiu #shen yuan #scum villain's self saving system #scum villian self saving system #sqq #shang qinghua #sqh #svsss shen qingqiu

[hella1975]

my mum: you've been doing really good lately. every part of your life is really stable and you seem genuinely happy, it's great to see :)

me, who's felt like ive been going actually crazy bananas insane for months now: yeah haha

#sometimes i forget that 'being in total control of my emotions at all times' isn't just my cringe lore & is actually something im good at #like wdym my MUM said this. girl im experiencing horrors over here! #i got really offended by it? ilke i just smiled at her and agreed but inside i was like HELLOOOOO CAN ANYONE HEAR MEEEE #i just genuinely feel like i am so detached from myself and im entirely manipulative and i micromanage every facet of my personality #and change it day-to-day person-to-person and not in the Normal Human Way but in a crazy insane I Am Manipulating People Way #& it's a CONSCIOUS thing & like. idk who the real me is idk if there is a real me idk if id like her if i saw her idk if im a good person #but i look like im doing fine. i seem really stable and happy atm according to the person who knows me better than anyone #like that's the extent of my control on myself. even my mum cant tell. HUH #idk i feel like im being dramatic bc last week and this week ive definitely been feeling a lot better #and like maybe i was just having some sort of months-long episode but that doesnt negate the fact that while i was IN it no one could tell #not even the closest people to me that see me every day in the same house where im most vulnerable could tell #that's like. worrying surely. maybe. i think. whatever im just saying shit at this point #i always do this tho i go 'i fundamentally base my self-worth on how little i share vulnerability with people #and it's been a constant part of my personality since childhood that i dont talk about my feelings' and then i get SO pissed off #when people dont realise im going through shit. like girl what did you THINK was gonna happen. look inwards #hella goes home

[subconsciousmysteries]

there's an outbreak of BPD in men and it's called The Manosphere.

Since they are men and we villainize men more readily, everyone's insisting that "no it's not BPD, it's Covert NPD / Compensatory NPD". Failing to realize that these two conditions are the exact same thing. BPD is literally just the unstable and more openly wimpy version of NPD.

The core psychology of both disorders is the same solipsistic, self-obsessed sociopathy where you are completely driven by your insecurities and you view other people as mere tools to ease your constant suffering.

#Or if you wanna get more esoteric they are both cases of malevolent demonic possession #In BPD / NPD the demons channel themselves through you and act malevolently through you and jump to others thru you #You become a channel for nasty forces #In depression the demons just get you down and make you useless and devastated #Milder stuff like depression is the precursor to stuff like BPD and NPD #it's a spectrum of how much hold the demons have on you #Cluster A disorders (schizophrenia variants) is different #It means your perceptions are tuned to different frequencies than the frequencies of this reality #And you struggle to keep your perceptions exclusively within this reality #So you see stuff that is indeed real but others think it's not there #However whilst what schizos see might be real... they are still delusional... Both can be true at the same time because #Schizophrenics are not able to put all the things they're seeing into the correct context #They're not able to understand “ok that's of a different frequency reality to this one” #It's like they've lost control of their radio tuning fork or whatever it's called #Picture the frequencies randomly changing numbers on your car radio... Imagine the channels changing chaotically due to power malfunction #That's a schizo brain #Suddenly the channel changes without ur control or worse two / three channels overlap at the same time #If you've never experienced how reality is just a set of frequencies and you're the radio... this will sound super mumbo jumbo to you #A normal person stays on the same few channels which are all right next to each other and chooses when to switch between them #And only ever hears one channel at a time

[dreamlogic]

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#shit chat #disordered eating cw #how to. politely ask my housemate to stop fucking telling me about her diet progress #she's trying to lose weight cause she's a musician & her band is traveling to this big thing at the end of the month #by doing really strict by-weight portion control and it does NOT seem healthy #she's trying to get back to her 'italy weight' and like. girl. u went to italy in high school 10 years ago & biked everywhere for a month #if you are at that same weight a decade later without exercise by simply making yourself eat less food there is a problem! #that is not aspirational that's horrifying!!! no u don't look hot in your gig outfit from 2013 you look disproportionately skinny! #so i gotta sit her down at some point and be like listen. ur an adult ur gonna do what you do #& i know ur industry puts insane pressure on women to look a certain way on stage. #but as someone with a history of disordered eating i will not cheer you on and support your 'progress' #and quite honestly it makes me uncomfortable to even talk about it and see your stupid little diet scale on the kitchen counter every day!! #i strongly associate weight loss with poor health for a number of reasons #and firmly believe that weight gain is cool and sexy and that everyone should be less afraid of being actually!!! #it was a struggle w/ dysmorphia for a while but putting on some chub is one of the best things i've been able to do for my body as an adult #i love my squishy tummy and hearing you obsess about having a perfectly flat (ie concave) abdomen daily is deeply saddening!!! #bleh. it's hard. i feel like i should gently intervene but also i do not want to get involved bc it's more than i can handle rn #*less afraid of being fat actually

[snowyvoid]

every time a hlvrai character gets woobified and turned into something even vaguely human a angel dies

#no benry would NOT fucking turn human oh my god #and bubby designs have a very large lack of “yeah this guy was built in a tube meant to be the perfect human” #and. i cant say much about tommy. tommy designs are surprisingly good other than the fact that people make him look like a child. #that man is 37 #AND DARE I SAY. gordon designs are kinda fucking boring sometimes ok #like yes alright hes human but hear me out ok? hed be more fucked up gmod charactr looking than benry. have you seen what he looks like from #an outsider perspective. its so fucking funny but also gives me so many ideas for character desigbs #he is a vr headset and a set of controllers. tell me why i dont see more cool stuff with him #this is not at all dissing anyone specifically. i am just TIRED and having a moment because i looked at how awful my old hlvrai art was #if im being honest its dissing me more than anyone #sorry for being a hater on main. it will happen agaib #im so fucking tired of seeing trans [character] tags on fics and then seeing the most blatant transphobic woobification on earth. kills me #he would not fucking say that #these characters killed people ok. #not maintagging this

[significant-ace-nnoyance]

i’m always so confused when people get mad about people “making things gay” because like we aren’t making anything??? the reason we are having to talk about this in fandom in the first place is because the people who actually made those characters made them not gay. we aren’t preventing ‘guys from just being friends’ or whatever because THEY WERE MADE ‘JUST FRIENDS’ IN CANON. YOU HAVE THAT REPRESENTATION AL-FUCKING-READY not that these people actually care about seeing healthy friendships in the first place trust me as an aspec i’d love to actually see friendships valued in media instead of 12 yr olds in heterosexual relationship but that’s not what these people want it’s just an excuse against queer rep (per usual what a surprise) AND WE DONT HAVE THAT REP WHICH IS WHY WE HAVE TO ‘PROJECT’ ONTO ‘STRAIGHT’ SHOWS AND CHARACTERS IN THE FIRST PLACE. literally NO HARM is coming from it. YOU ALREADY WON. LEAVE US ALONE. OMFG

#also the wording of ‘make things gay’ is like ‘oh? so you agree?? after hearing our points you can’t help but see those characters as gay?’ #it just frustrates me endlessly because why are u so mad????? u literally have everything???? #what are you trying to fight? people interpreting literature?? u already have the canon there’s not much you can control outside of that sr #ugh #lgbtq #queer representation

[godlesscity]

i think watching goodbye stranger changed me as a person

#literally WHAT the fuck #great meg. great megstiel too obviously. great sam & meg interaction too actually #great dean & meg also !!!!!! i love them interacting so bad #But. wgat the fuck #it's so crazy. it's so crazy. oohhh goodbye stranger it's been nice but by the morning i must go feel no sorrow feel no shame (i dont #remember the lyrics help) #It's just. ppl always talk abt it obvs but what do you mean cas was brainwashed and forced to kill his friend God only knows how many times #and hearing dean say he NEEDED HIM (no matter what miscommunication happened) BROKE THE DAMN CONTROL CONNECTION #And them he leaves. #IT'S MAKING ME CRAZY (and emotional actually..) CAS ALL BY HIMSELF ON THAT DAMN TRAIN BUS WHATEVER #i can reason with him. hes a good man ............. #also dean can never fucking win can he. sees his bestie flirting with his demon friend and then bares his soul to said bestie only to have #him fucking LEAVE HIM #(i prayed to you cas! every night!) i dont know dean if hes so sketchy why were you praying to him? (i dont pray because it's like begging) #spn really DOES unlock some kind of secret emotion what the hell #really makes me give some sort of vague soulful stare towards the horizon without actually showing any discernible emotion on my face #fuck. give robbie thompson a million dollars or whatever #sandy speaks

[katmaatui]

do you ever see discourse where both people involved are being idiots without nuance and it keeps on spreading

#yes this is probably about what you are thinking about like people can be annoyed about how someone was literally mind controlled into #loving someone but also he wasn't made into a sex slave see both of y'all are acting without nuanced and with blorbo vision #its so annoying too because if this was the opposite way around we would never hear the end of it #Vague blogging is tight!