#LITERALLY THE ONLY BOUNDARY PEOPLE

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[stuckinapril]

Think I’m making communication a non-negotiable for 2024. If you don’t know how to properly communicate like an adult we quite literally can’t be friends

#I’m not trying to be a bitch like I get that this is hard for lots of people for various reasons #i think I’m just at a point where I want people to come correct instead of waiting for them to potentially get better #only for me to learn in the harshest way that they’re only getting worse #I’m not gonna be ur practice run this year. come when ur ready #the moment I sense someone isn’t saying what they mean it’s so over. like I’m flexible on so many flaws but NOT this one. communicate !!! #the people pleasing is literally kicking in rn but I’m just trying to be honest w myself about what my capacity can handle at the moment #and I’m genuinely at my wits’ end when it comes to communication. so I don’t think I’d be the best person for people like that #is this mean?? this feels like a fair boundary to make #p

[hella1975]

it's been pointed out on here before that a lot of terf arguments are actually rooted in sexist idealology that feminists fought and died to unnormalise decades ago and that's its own kettle of fish but one thing i also find very frustrating about this so called 'radical' feminism is that it's so... defeatist? like the moment you categorically label an entire section of society as Bad and Inherently Evil then there's also the implication that nothing can be done about it, and it completely takes all accountability away. saying all men are evil is just another way of saying boys will be boys. he raped her because he's a man. he hit her because he's a man. he didn't listen because he's a man - it's almost offensively oversimplified. there's no point trying to fix this issue in society because men are just Like That, okay! so now what? it's not like they're going anywhere, so you just accept that 50% of the population are evil and will forever treat you terribly and there's nothing to be done about it bc they're biologically predisposed to it? like is that fr the argument here? you're soooo radical for that

#this is coming from someone who used to very genuinely be a misandrist #ironically it was only when i started actually analysing my own feminism that i got MORE confrontational with men #and started respecting my boundaries a lot better BECAUSE i started holding them accountable again #like when men treat me like shit nowadays i dont just write it off as 'what did you expect? he's a man' i get MAD about it #because i EXPECT BETTER FROM THEM even if it's just tiny shit women have to deal with daily #i hold them to just as high a standard as im held to and i make them take accountability when they dont meet that #and whether you realise it or not even on a subconscious level the MOMENT you black-and-white blanket statement all men as bad #you stop holding them accountable. #like it is literally just boys will be boys. do terfs seriously not realise they're sending feminism BACKWARDS #like if a girl came to me with her trauma and people - other girls no less - tried to comfort her with 'yeah all men are evil' #id be fucking furious. like no he did that because he was a piece of shit that had it normalised to him that women arent to be respected #dont you dare let him off the hook with something as simple and uncritical as 'he's a man' #i promise you men like that will MUCH prefer a blanket statement such as 'all men are as bad as each other' #than actually being point blank told they're an abuser or a rapist. because being lumped together is comfortable and even empowering #wheras isolating their behaviour with words that are Bad and Ugly (LIKE 'rapist') is not comfortable at all and has heavy connotations #idk i dont think radical feminism is always bad on its own it can be v liberating. just terfs and misandrists that i have a problem with #dropping this post in a piranha tank and closing tumblr knowing im gonna have some thirty year old karen yelling at me within 5 mins #i probably wont respond to any terf comments bc they literally mentally exhaust me with their stupidity #but that also depends on my mood and ability to keep my mouth shut LMFAO we shall see

[uncanny-tranny]

I totally get gendered petnames like dude, sis, bro, and whatever else, and I get why some people might be confused as to why some trans people might take issue with a petname you might think is neutral. However, I do want people to remember that trans people often have different relationships with those petnames because they're gendered, and they might be uncomfortable with those connotations. A trans woman who doesn't want you to call her "dude" is probably not doing it to anger or accuse you of anything, but she might just have a negative relationship with that word.

I get that it can be hard to change habits, but it is worth it to include trans people. If a trans person in your life asks you not to use certain words, I promise they aren't trying to fuck you over or make you feel like you're under attack. They are just expressing a boundary - one that cis people also express.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #the example i gave is again just one instance of what i'm talking about #i can get why it's hard like... i use 'bro' and shit like it's a filler word and it's a habit of mine #however it isn't anybody's fault that i'm like that and i'm more than willing to stop using it for somebody #because it's like... that word is just a word to me and that means i can abandon its use at any time #and if not using it means that somebody feels included then fuck yeah i'm going to not use it #i just hear people weirdly antagonizing trans people for setting these boundaries and it's like... #...have you MET a cis person because they do the same things as trans people (it's just seen as more acceptable ig) #it IS annoying that people want to have the same conversations again and again and again #because ngl i only made this post because of the antagonism these trans people face for... no reason??? #they're literally going 'please don't call me [x]' and yet that is still too polarizing????????? HUH?????? #you'd think that that trans person like... ran a car through a bank with how they're treated but no... they're just stating a preference #and it's crazy to me because it's EASY to not do... because it's a non-action. and if you fuck up all you have to do is apologize #the hardest thing to do would be to watch what you're saying a little more but that's like... not a big deal???????

[system-of-a-feather]

Forget Nonbinary, I'm a Gender Bender from the Gender Nation

#alter: riku #xivs telling me to tag this with the terf tags to rile them up cause they literally do talk about the Gender Nation and crap i swear #but im resisting the urge #it sounds funny #but hmm #i will only do it if people poke me to #shitpost #transgender #nonbinary #atla #avatar the last airbender #ftm #mtf #ntm #ntf #enby #i will settle with #terfs dni #so that the terfs that DO interact are inherently specifically looking for people to break the boundaries of

[spider-man-2o99]

ok so apparently i can just never articulate my Deep Thoughts on purpose and can only do it by accident whilst rambling in the notes of a bookmark where the veneer of anonymity feels like a false-protective coat to hide behind, or somesuch-something like that. idk. anyways. anyways. i don't like how fucking mean-spirited across the spider-verse as a film seemingly is for literally no reason at all other than just bcuz it Could Be. y/k.

#talking tag #atsv #spider-man #spider-man 2099 #miguel o'hara #miles morales #suicide mention #suicide tw #& i am talking abt the Actual Textual Content of atsv btw not the Fandom Interpretation of it. bcuz those r 2 different things lmao. #every additional piece of context that we learn abt the behind-the-scenes too. it just. Sours this film to me. like drinking rotten milk #only ONE person outside of his family unconditionally supports miles. ONE. ONE!!!!!!!!!! the whole film!!!! #(obie obie broauwn i hate the AM i hate the PM u will live in my heart for ever) #and Knowing now how much the writers obviously didnt give a shit abt Mig.. it all just reads like that rotten any1 can wear the mask but yo #and that echoes in the narrative disdain for the one other spider-man in the whole movie whose origin is /like miles/. #who DID have a spider-man in his world who died before he got his powers who IS motivated by fear by wanting 2 be good but thinking he cant #You Cant Wear This Mask. The Only People Who Are Like You Actually LIKE You Are Twisted And Wrong And Warped Inevitably By That Wrongness. #Nobody Will Ever Understand What You Have Been Through And You Were Stupid And Naive To Ever Try Otherwise. You Petulant Child. #and the spider society treats miguel like shit like im honestly surprised that was just such a Casual Thing in the movie but no #they microaggress him 2 hell and back they insult him to his face they do not respect his boundaries they flat-out just Dont Respect Him #and he Takes It. of course he takes it. it is Literally All He Knows. taking it and hating himself and knowing that he is Different. #Christ almighty. what a shitshow.

[cosmic-kaden]

imagine gatekeeping

Imagine setting boundaries so you have a safe space for yourself.

Block button is free. <3

#you don't know the shit/hell I went through in the past so sit the fuck down. #I didn't just decide oh this is a thing I need to have in place. I've literally been hurt by people I thought were friends in the PAST! #I had someone send me a platonic fic of my f/o only for it to turn out it was a romance in the end- even tho they knew full fucking well #that I didn't like to share my f/o but they still felt the need to show me because they wanted to be smug #So sit down and shut the fuck up because I assure you don't know the shit I've been through with some people and their lies- #I'm setting a boundary. Those are allow.. It's not a crime to want to keep myself safe! #Next ask from a shit hole like you gets block #Sorry mutuals but I'm pissed off at people who are like this- imagine being an asshole over someone setting a boundary- jfc #negative;;

[boxwinebaddie]

uncle nina!!! will u plz post some of the nsfw dialogue ur wiritng? we will be nice!

ahhhh jeez sakhdlhds. weeeelll...

....because you asked So Nicely, omg.

Time For Cringe! xx ;)

EDIT: OKAY I KNOW I HAVE TO POST THE MEME ITS NOT DONE!!! I’M SORRY I CAN ONLY WRITE THESE LIKE EVERY COUPLE OF HOURS OR I WILL VISIBLY CRINGE AND DIE OF EMBARRASSMENT. SOON. SOZ.

so idk what this is, i feel like it basically just looks like what that dialogue i posted at the bottom of that first nsfw meme looks like but, to be fair, That Is How Stuff Usually Goes For Them, lmao.

( i also did not write real actions or sentences...we know how i am. so, ur left w my cringe & nowhere to hide )

but anyways, i was just thinking about how for the most part, having a super best boyfriend that is a celebrity is nice in the sense that when you miss him there are hundreds of thousands of pictures, edits, videos, content of him that you have access to. that's nice, ofc.

however, with that said, the internet is full of raven content. who is not real. and almost completely devoid of stan content. who is real.

and jersey kyle, specifically down horrendously, does not want to watch Everyone Else's Raven, wear the little pants, exert crazy amounts of forced sensuality, do the fake dominant, bad boy personality, and shamelessly rizz and flirt w/ the entire world on tv...

kyle wants to watch His Stan get flustered and fall apart on the bathroom floor, needy and desperate, calling kyle while he's away on tour at like 3 AM in his hotel room bc the only way he can get off is to the sound of his voice, super embarrassed and struggling to tell kyle what he wants behind his hands, blushing, eyes wide, while he shows kyle exactly how much he wants and needs him.

...Anyways.

THAT is the high qual content that he's looking for, baby!

so...idk, i was just thinking about that i wrote this whack ass little dialogue scenario thing that i'm not that proud of, but you guys seem to enjoy my weird little writer girl stuff, even if i hate it.

tw for nsfw situations obvi ( i will say theres like no action bc i didnt write it...like i could...oof...anyways ) jersey being scary amounts of hot and mean also ravenstan being very pathetic and eager 2 please.

roll clip!

anyways...good heavens lol! which is not where i am going, no sir, no maam, oh my godslkhdksad. i am sorry for everyone who endured that i am deeply embarrassed by my actions. i will be paying for them while burning in nasty writer girl hell.

...but also....lowkey....i thought i kinda Slayed?

maybe? loL

it is extremely possible that i did not slay even a little but...idk idk idk...i feel like i'm an iconique dialogue queen. my hands are over my eyes. being percieved and existence is a prison...please clap. or laugh.

screaming crying and throwing up.

again...you're welcome or i'm sorry.

maybe i'll fill the actions in...and write the extremely down horrendous dialogue that i put in blurbs...idk.

spain w/o the s.

-i am not claiming this, please don't look at me

p.s. idk why im embarrassed like nothing happened like not only am i cringing there is also nothing to cringe at the way i am like is this too much or too little or LIKE DO YALL SEE WHY I AM BAD AT THIS?

edit x2: oh my god i reread it and i am ill; this is too cringe. everyone gets 2-3 hours max to read this before i throw it in the fire.

#n/sfw #this is so embarrassing im sorry abt this #also yes all of the dialogue things i start end up like this idk maybe i am not zesty i am not a man i am a schnitzel #i do think its cute that kyle does not want 4 the streets lead singer boy raven content #and just wants cute embarrassed sweet shiny eye stan to use his words lmao and be bad at it but thats the best part #kyle making stan tell him stuff...truly chefs kiss content #like spicy of him to do that #but also very cute of him to help stan establish his boundaries #i actually wrote this n/sfw hc thats actually not tbh its just bc its kyle basically teaching stan abt consent and like #stan u only do what u want to do not what other people want or what u think they want or to make someone else happy/feel better #only what you want and authorize #and gives him a bunch of scenarios and is trying to make stan say no to them one of them is kyle being like stan tie my shoe #AND HE GOES TO DO IT AND KYLE IS LIKE BABY YOU WERE NOT SUPPOSED TO DO THAT LIKE THATS VERY SWEET BUT IM WEARING SOCKS AND #THE POINT IS TO NOT DO THAT also rip stan i am trying to b srs and teach u something respectfully i cannot talk w u down there #like bff u are way too close to my dick pls come back up lMAO ANYWAYS STAN FIGURES IT OUT its very cute and later #kyle is like stan that was so good...also do you want to pretend to tie my shoe again...yes or no LHLKSDLKHD IM SCREAMING ANYWAYS #DOWN ASTRONOMICALLY! LITERALLY!

[cypric-rat-hyperfixation]

As my following grows and as I meet more and more people who have rats, had rats, know someone who has/had rats, and love rats...

increasingly I wonder if/when a day will come... a day that I'll express rat enjoyment to someone and they'll enthusiastically ask me if I've heard of This Funnie Little Rodent Blog they like, figuring I may already know it or will enjoy it if not...

and it's.. my blog... and then I have to come out as popular Rat Tumblr blogger that they follow and now know IRL.......

#/lh #I'm saying this like it's some big deal but I'm just exaggerating for comedic effect adjfgsbkdfj #no idea what the likelihood on that looks like. based on statistics of people estimating statistics? probably likelier than we all think #anyway that time I posted a survey for a university research project here and you all wound up comprising 2/3 of our sample was so funny #I had to actually say in an academic research paper that one possible flaw in our study #was bias that may result from 2/3 the sample having come from a niche and extremely specific demographic of people #due to the fact that they flocked in from One Of The Researchers' Substantial Online Following Centered Around A Particular Theme #And Selected Specifically To Have Only A Certain Kind Of Person On It Via Boundaries And Blocking #literally you all made up 98/150 respondents (but that's assuming all digital responses were from y'all-- we had 52 paper responses) #ah but the research symposium was the best. in the paper I was able to remain that generic about it #but at the research symposium. well it's a glorified science fair. so participants have their own stations set up and observers tour them #as the participants speak to their audience; directly providing a summary and then answering any questions #some of the audience/observers are faculty and most are fellow students #so real scholarly scientific types yeah? so they had questions. thoughtful questions #long story short I confessed to numerous listeners throughout the day that the sample's bizarre gender ratio is probably my fault #around 57% women; 21% nonbinary adults; 17% men-- an unusual proportion #so I had to academically tell my professors... underclassmen..... my classmates....... acquaintances.... foes.......... #... that I'm big famous in Rat #and it was so. djkjSBCJXHQKRIGAJFSHF

[caruliaa]

it is annoying that if a team in a game i dont rly personally care about win people who are sore losers about it are going to tell fans of my fave musician to kill themselves violently just bc shes dating on of the members and that if they lose those same people being sore losers about it are still going to tell her fans to kill themselves violently just bc shes dating on of the members

#CAN YOU GUYS PLEASE JUST BE NORMAL AND NOT SAY AWFUL THINGS ABT PEOPLE JUST BC THEY LIKE A MUSICIAN OKAY. PLEASE. PLEASE #posting this here bc in my mutuals with some ppl that dont like taylor and that literally fine but if you start being cruel to her fans #over the results of a sports game you will become ex mutuals and ex friends if were friends ! setting that boundary ! #youre allowed to not like her but im allowed to not be friends with someone that thinks liking smth i like makes u deserving of cruelty oka #and dont act like ive got some victim complex bc a lot of ppl on here do actually tell swifites to kill themselves #and thats only a funny joke if the other person also thinks so. i think sometimes ppl here forget that #i dont like ariana grande. i think she kinda sucks. im not gonna talk abt her fans the way some ppl on here talk abt swifites #bc im a decent person .and i dont wanna say you guys as in my mutuals talk abt us like tht bc i wanna assume the best yk #but i literally dont know bc its so many ppl on here. so you can understand that im on edge okay #flappy rambles

[please-picturemeintheweeds]

I listened to TTPD all the way through on a long drive today (probably my 4th time) and I have a lot of thoughts about privacy and photography and safety. Not sure how to approach that topic on tumblr, if at all. But all of that to say, I feel a little bit ill thinking about the remaining vaults 🥴

#If anybody has advice or suggestions for how to respectfully handle that conversation on swiftie tumblr #Pls share! #I have been on tumblr since like 2011 (🤪) but only participating in swiftie tumblr since 2021 #So I know there’s some sticky nuance to the boundaries between like… academic music/poetry interpretation and biography and gossip #And I want to throw violence prevention in there as an interpretive lens too #But I don’t want to be disrespectful #But I do think that she describes some situations (wether literal or metaphorical) that I want to talk about #And I’m not prepared to do that yet without really gathering my thoughts and citations first #Just wanted to put out feelers for any swiftie cultural norms I should be aware of… #C #would've could’ve Should’ve hours #Down bad #i can fix him (no really i can) #tsmwel #Mbobhft #bdilh #Fresh Out The Slammer #waolom #Icdiwabh #clara bow #the albatross #I hate it here #thank you aimee #i look in people's windows #the prophecy #cassandra #The bolter #the manuscript #(Good lord!!? It really feels relevant to soooo much of this work)

[hella1975]

idk how irl celebrities handle fame at a young age like at seventeen i had a couple hundred people regularly interacting with me and putting me on a pedestal and that almost made me crazy. i see new writers getting attention in fandom and i immediately have to put myself in front of them and start barking. get behind me girl

#I FEEL LIKE THIS SHOULD BE TALKED ABOUT MORE LMAO LIKE EVEN THOUGH IT'S A VERY SMALL AMOUNT OF ATTENTION #COMPARED TO LIKE. ACTUAL CELEBRITY #IT'S STILL INSANE LIKE FOR THE PAST THREE YEARS IVE HAD RECURRING INSTANCES OF PEOPLE BEING WEIRD #AND PUSHING BOUNDARIES AND GENERALLY FORGETTING IM AN ACTUAL REAL LIFE PERSON #AND EVEN A LOT OF THOSE WHO AREN'T - ACCIDENTALLY OR INTENTIONALLY - NEGATIVE ABOUT IT #STILL VERY CASUALLY TALK ABOUT ME LIKE IM SOME SUPERIOR FORCE #LIKE IM JUST A GUY ACTUALLY #AND EVEN THOUGH IM ONLY TWENTY I CAN HANDLE IT A LOTTTTTTT BETTER #BUT SOMEONE NEEDS TO DO A STUDY ON THIS SHIT FOR YOUNGER PEOPLE #BC AT SEVENTEEN I REALLY REALLY CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH HOW BAD THAT SHIT WAS FOR ME LMAO #and now i just go crazy overprotective of newer/more unsure writers/artists in fandom #if ur reading this and ive done this to you then my bad <3 #like if we're in the same circle and you get a mean ask/comment/experience then it's truly a matter of time before i descend from the sky #sorry <3 it will happen again <3 #someone ive interacted with maybe one time: i got a mean ask- #me immediately seeing red: do you want me to kill them for you #nothing triggered this post btw it's just something that's on my mind a lot #i feel like a war veteran and im literally a student. ive been in the trenches besties. i have suffered more than jesus i think

[stinkrascal]

tiktok has made me terrified to befriend other women irl (and people irl in general) because i keep seeing these videos where women will be like “it’s such a red flag when girls are too nice, it comes across toxic” or like their boyfriend’s best friend will have a girlfriend and he’ll introduce her to the op and op will be like “i just don’t trust when his friend’s girl wants to be my friend, huge red flags” and everyone in the comments of these posts will be like ‘yessssssssssss girl totally agree’ but like what???? why?????????????? is there something im missing here?????????? and this is why whenever i mention wanting to befriend new people let it be known im specifically talking about wanting to befriend neurodivergent/autistic people because i genuinely dont understand what the fuck neurotypical people are talking about 80% of the time ahahadhfpogisrjgori

#im sorry but i dont want to spend the rest of my life trying to decode whatever neurotypical people are getting at anymore its so stressful #its so funny though. because i'll read these posts and be SOOO CONFUSED #but then everyone in the comments is like 'yesssss girl totally agree. red flags all around' and those comments get 17k likes #and im like WHAT are you guys talking about. literally what is going on #i wish everyone was autistic the world would be a much nicer place #im not dissing those people either like youre allowed to have your boundaries. and im allowed to be forever confused by them lol #also the only reason i just mentioned women here is bc ive only seen women make these posts on tiktok #but im 100% certain there are men who make these weird comments too i just havent seen them #in general this just seems like very neurotypical behavior to me lol

[stupid-dyke]

Ok 10 months and I'm almost over her I promise but I really wonder how her insistence on only ever hanging out in the early hours of the morning despite my extreme sleep disorder affected the trajectory of our relationship. At the time I worried it was hurting us because my conversation suffered but now I wonder, if she had actually agreed to see me while my brain was online would I have realized on my own that she did not like me? Or did that even matter? I still don't have a clue how to go about starting a new relationship or intimate friendship or what have you and if she called today I'd do it all again because I did not and do not and I worry I will not ever have anyone else like her

#like I have friends here I have family its fine. It's just that I don't trust and feel comfortable with literally anyone in this city #like I only trust familiarity and no one will be as familiar as someone I went to school with for 12 years. #doesn't matter if new people are nice to me I don't trust them and I don't like them #I've said it many times she befriended me against all my best efforts to avoid her it's funny how it turned around #and now I don't know how to befriend someone on purpose #also I literally never leave campus and barely go outside my room if I can avoid it yeah ok I see what I'm doing wrong. #but again why would I go outside if I don't like anyone out there. #I can tell im doing this to myself but goddamn it's hard to break the habit. Like im just straight up not doing it #why cant a toxic girl just push her way into my life again and not take no for an answer actually dont do that that sounds awful #crazy how finding a woman who actually respects boundaries would require lowering this giant wall. Sounds fake

[mx-paint]

The funniest comment I've gotten on tiktok to this date, on a video about a lady dumping her fiance because he beat her kid, was a guy saying I was going to go to jail for not getting beat as a kid amd that I'll have a meltdown the first time someone sets a boundary with me.

#first of all thank you sincerely for assuming im well adjusted enough that i didnt #second do you think the one who threatened people with a gun was the one that went to jail. or me #whats my prison sona random stranger #as for the second weird comment its funny to those that know anything about me #ive broken up with friends and a partner in the past for not respecting my boundaries #but sure. im going to jail and be a inconvenience to your remarkable society #child abuse tw #ask to tag #it was genuinely funny i dont even care that more were agreeing with his comment than mine #especially considering i checked his profile and the ones responding were his four and only friends on there #not to judge but bro had to bring in the squad so he wouldnt get ratiod #i remembered it bc tiktok keeps marking my comments and not appealing them #one of them was literally like. the gays are winning. #it would not appeal and i got a strike.

[mossflower]

k i think i’ve accepted my fate at this point

#i’m literally 10 slides under the requirement and 1/3 of the ones i have are. empty. to put it politely. #so. i’m just going to go to bed tonight bc otherwise i think i might just give up and delete the entire thing #tomorrow will be better i think. i know what i need to do at least #or at least by tomorrow panic will have kicked in and i’ll do like 4 months of coursework in 48 hours #like i’m panicking now. but it’s not the productive panic it’s the ‘fuck i hate my past self im going to go live in a cave’ kinda panic #i did look at the grade boundaries and if i nail the exams i only need 8/100 coursework marks to get a b #and like my coursework is shite but i think i can scrape 8 marks together #and luckily the exams are easy even without revising and i still have over two months til my first dt exam. so i’ll be fine #sorry about this. a bunch of toh people followed me recently and somehow i don’t think this is the content they were after #morganposting