#One to Grow On

[becausethathappens]

minutes later, in the future:

#link like: ru ok #freakshow #one to grow on #oh rhett #where's your head at.mp3 #good behavior #extremely normal shit only #.png #nonstop spanks and hugs lately #no complaints

[djevilninja]

I frame my method; my method is apparent. I see clearly this world’s transparent. So I reach down deep, Deliver salvation to the hands of the weak; The meek, the mild, then tame the wild ‘Cause that’s how I’m styled.

The U.M.C.’s - One to Grow On

#50 years of hip hop #the umc's #music #hip hop #90s #old school #classic #one to grow on

[awarenessaslove]

#one to grow on #the umc’s #fruits of nature #music #classic

[isthespiceoflife]

Not even sure if y'all ready for this one, wowwwww! This is why I'll never give up on hip-hop music, despite the pop-up trash🗑on every airwave, streaming platform as well as undoubtedly having the biggest budgets, influence n' mass acclaim. Usual-ly I'm not moved, nor interested in listening past 1min of most these days, but this one? Man...

.. "Unusual" is barely 2mins, but I wish it was 20! Collaborators Wiseboy Jeremy & Phoenix James helped Zahir make this a classic. Imagine if this song got some major push, how many kids would absorb the nourishment et beauty of calm, reflective and sensitive traits, instead of destructive ones? Too hyper, judgemental y predictably ignorant, a lot of the garbage rap consumed plays 'some' influence to patterned behavior by too many of our kids. Makes me wanna wear one of those T-shirts that say, "Normal People..." BUT with this "Unusual" gem, it's def one to grow on!

#unusual #zahir #art #hip hop #mental health #creativity #dmv #phoenix james #wiseboy jeremy #zahir mohammed #Youtube #normal people scare me #umcs #one to grow on

[cowardlycowboys]

girl who needs to ask for reassurance would rather be stabbed than admit they have needs

GIRL GENDER FUNNY‼️ POST MADE BY MOST FEMININE HE/THEY SHUT UP‼️

#omg kiera no one cares #admitting u have needs and stuff is so embarrassing like I'm literally an adult grow up #like I'd rather go crazy then ask if you still like being around me and love me #unfortunately that's unhealthy and i gotta work on that but until thats complete i will think about being gutted like fish instead

[withinsight-motivation]

#quote #quoteoftheday #motivation #quotes #morning motivation #life advice #withinsight #inspiration #instant inspiration #qotd #emotional #baggage #bag lady #take a load off #choose one #one to grow on

[fungalnebula]

What I love most about Gandalf big naturals is how much it eases my chest dysphoria. I can sleep without a shirt on now because of Gandalf Big Naturals. Knowing that the artist made the original image while recovering from top surgery and said the image was like a final parting gift from their boobs makes me feel even better about the image's effect on me. Men with big naturals makes me feel much more good about my body than those old posts on here that were like "trans men! Some men have pecs!!! So don't feel dysphoric <3". It's much more meaningful to see a hairy, bearded man with a huge H cup rack not letting his tits get in the way of his masculinity.

Most of all, Gandalf Big Naturals helped me love my body the way it is instead of hating something that's a part of me. Of course I still want top surgery but the fact that I can live with my own big naturals until then without wanting to guillotine them off is really important.

#losers lament #gandalf big naturals #I queued a drawing of Gandalf big naturals where he has a hairy chest and that one's my favorite #since I started t I've been growing chest hair and I really like how my cleavage looks with the hair #so when I saw that picture i knew that I would be able to keep the love for hairy big naturals #instead of losing them forever when my own hairy big naturals get removed #and it's like I'm giving them to him #I love the way gender expression has progressed on this webbed sight

[dragontummy]

Tumblr would literally rather arbitrarily delete the accounts of trans women on this site with uncharacteristic amounts of speed than address even one genuine instance of harassment. They've already lost one harassment lawsuit and they immediately decided it was more worth their time to continue on the exact same path. They KNOW what they're doing. With staff like this, the only way to see genuine change on this site is going to be to make it more of a problem for them to not address this issue.

#fuck 'em. #every time another one of our mutuals loses their account to this shit we grow more and more sick of tumblr as a whole #the only reason we're still here it all is genuinely because this is the only social media site we use anymore

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[onejellyfishplease]

Behold! Shapes and Colours <3

#did mikey first and finished with donnie #you can see the number of shapes i added just GROW #i was doodling mikey and one of them came out really well #so i coloured it and then went #u know what could make this interesting? #FUCKIN #CIRCLES #then i went insane #rottmnt #rottmnt art #rottmnt mikey #rottmnt raph #rottmnt leo #rottmnt donnie

[becausethathappens]

#one to grow on #.gif #he's so fucking pretty

[daz4i]

i’d like to think i’m funny 

#unlike the frankenstein playlist i'm not keeping this one up lol it's not going to grow beyond this #unless someone knows a song called ''i kinda feel like dancin' but i'm not sure'' or smth like that

[cglenwilliams]

"The blues isn't about feeling better, it's about making other people feel worse. And making a few bucks while you're at it."

#personal philosophy #One to grow on #The More You Know

[isolabellz]

in another life

#jjk #stsg #satosugu #satoru gojo #getou suguru #zoom in for details idk why i decided to draw on a canvas so huge #anyone want a poster? #anyway forever live in the delusional world where stsg are teachers together #they are one big happy family #nothing bad has ever happened #happy birthday geto #you deserved therapy and to grow old and raise kids with your bf

[themetalhiro]

Do you think theres any boat-degas within skywalking distance ?

#sanjis bag of tricks n gimmicks is forever growing #metalhiro arts #one piece #one piece comic #one piece fanart #one piece fancomic #sanji #op sanji #blackleg sanji #vinsmoke sanji #zoro #op zoro #roronoa zoro #pirate hunter zoro #nami #op nami #cat burglar nami #usopp #op usopp #god usopp #sogeking #tony tony chopper #chopper #op chopper

[esaari]

i just think Halsin with a beard...

#bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #halsin #he can be in my team when he grows one #lmfaooOo... #ppl wanted to see me draw this guy so here he is #im never gonna draw him without a beard thanks