#abandonedment

[artieearchiee]

Ok, but- Geo and Coles relationship is actually really sweet. (And maybe a lil depressing,but they comfort eachother)

Like both know what it feels like to have a faimly that takes a issue with who they are, (Cole's father did come around in the episode but you know) It took a couple of years for that. And Geo being abandoned by both Geckle, Munce by neither wanting him. That's the reason why Geo is so ""clingy"" towards Cole, cause Cole is probably the first person to not take a issue with who he is. Someone who supports, and cares about him. Him staring at the photo in season two him wondering when Cole's going to be back. (Bro has abandonedment issues for sureee) and even though he knows Cole isn't just gonna leave him and the kids, he couldn't help to be worried about it. Like he's been abandoned before, even though he knows Cole wouldn't just do that, there definitely probably was a worm in his head trying to say other wise.

#ninjago #dragon rising #lostshipping #cole brookstone #gay legos #geo has abandonedment issues #Geo and Cole are a married couple

[myun-saidthoughts]

Why 8H/12H/Plutonian Synastry Feels 'Karmic'

In most cases, when someone's inner planets fall in your 8th/12th houses or if someone's Pluto makes harsh aspects (conjunct, square, oppose) to your Sun, Moon, Rising, Mars or Venus; the energy you'll feel from them is intoxicating, it'll be all-consuming, its energy you deep down crave, and energy you don't have within, but wish you'd possessed.

When someone enters your life and they touch these parts of you, any voids your inner self has, disappears. When you're with them; a part of you will feel complete and any upheaval you have within somehow vanishes. Suddenly, the part of you that you avoid, hide, ignore or suppress feels at ease, they are the cushion your soul wishes for.

(This kind of energy is profoundly different when this is dealing with family relations, e.g., your mother's or father's inner planets fall in your 8H/12H and vice versa.)

This is karmic energy because with them you feel your best, but without them, you'll feel your worst. Their presence becomes this necessity that you'll always desire for, once they enter your energy field you'll always need a quick fix, they become this pacifier for your pain and you'll develop a scarcity mindset without them. You'll grow a need for them because without them you can't feel this "high." Without them, you only feel the fear of what it means to be open and vulnerable, without them, you only feel the fear of what it truly means to express suppressed emotions and without them you only feel the fear of letting someone in.

You're terrified of giving a part of yourself to another but with them, that part of you feels healed.

The intensity of this synastry will vary, but for those who are are influenced heavy by Pluto or have natal Scorpio placements with 8H/12H placements with the Moon/Sun making harsh aspects to Neptune/Pluto who may have deep paternal/past partnership wounds (e.g, an absent or un-nurturing parent/s, a chaotic or recluse kind of mother, a bipolar abusive father/past partner; it all depends), will feel this heavy. The absence of the worth you wish you felt from your parents or past partner has now brought this person (who touches the darkest and deepest parts within you) to you.

The fact of the matter is the same. This person came into your life to highlight these neglected needs of yours as a catalyst for you to transform, heal and become a more secure and stable individual.

In some cases, they become this false home in your eyes, a look from them will make you feel warm, and finally for once, you'll start to feel complete. You will feel like it's safe enough to fall for them because they'll make you feel secure within yourself, (the same feeling you wish you could hold onto) their touch will feel like a bandaid from the kind of love you've received from previous relationships/parents, so you'll accept it; even to your own detriment. You'll suddenly feel the care you've always wished you felt and that's why the thought of them leaving or the thought of them choosing someone else feels gut wrenching. They become this savior you deeply wish you had.

The reason this type of energy is so easy to become attached to yet feels so hard to let go is because it's energy that you crave, it pacifies (for the time being) your pain. They are an outside manifestation of what you wish to feel on your own. They're just a reflection of what's 'broken' in you, and it's easier to give your power away, than to give it to yourself.

To look at someone with fear of them leaving will only create situations and scenarios where your self worth is tested over and over again, you'll start to feel the same terror you felt as a child, the same terror you say you try to run from.

You know you will feel this intense loss without them, yet when they're looking into your eyes; that 'feeling' feels okay. That's why this synastry is so transformative and can be life-changing.

Within, there's a desire for someone to erase the hurt that was created by circumstances you couldn't control. And because of this, the universe has planted this individual to enter your life. Naturally the pain you've endured is hard to overcome or accept, only until you have too will the healing really begin, and this person is a catalyst for just that.

You have to choose yourself instead of someone else, and because of constant disappointment, hurt or abandonment you've experienced, that's terrifying.

How can you choose yourself or let yourself receive unconditional love? You're not familiar with that energy so it's feels foreign to you, yet when someone's Pluto make significant aspects to your inner planets or when someone's planets fall in your 8/12 houses, their language and words will feel native and fluent to you.

These questions are the exact reasons why you are experiencing this karmic situation.

Your soul knew what kind of circumstances you were going to deal with, and it wants you to heal. It wants you to accept that pain. The universe does not want you to sit in this pain, it wants you to succeed, accept and overcome any and all challenges that you've dealt with.

You're not alone in this, and you didn't come to this Earth to only experience the same never ending cycles.

This experience is only a pit-stop for you, at the end of it all you will reach your final enlightenment destination.

P.S:

This post is particularly for those who struggle with self-worth/self-love/confidence etc. 8th and 12th house synastry can be beautiful when both partners are healed and accepting of their harsh past. The depths of emotions you two can create together is unworldly and powerful. Therefore I do think 8H/12H can work but it would have to be with two profound open-minded and spiritual people. You both will have to want this in ways you've never could have imagined before. I'm also a Scorpio Moon and 12H native so this energy for me does feel more enticing, but to each their own and it really depends on the natal chart/individual itself.

Side Note: To balance the intensity these synastry aspects/overlays bring, taking on the opposite houses themes would bring more ease and create less intensity.

For example, dealing with 12H (Even Neptune) synastry, the opposite house is the 6H, the house of routine, daily life, mundane affairs, healthcare, helping others/giving etc etc. So if you take on new hobbies/activities by changing your daily routine with adding or taking away something, that will ease the fixation that 12H synastry brings. Often times with this synastry you will find yourself day dreaming or obsessing over someone you desire, you may have this innate need to be their savior or try and fix their wounds, so you will put yourself in situations where your priority is solely them. you could also fantasize and have an escapist attitude with them, (or the idea of them) they can be an escape for you or you might find yourself thinking about them a lot, repeating scenarios in your head or fantasizing about situations happening, or you might feel confused/hazy with where you stand with them so you constantly are thinking of them but keeping yourself busy is key with this synastry, and that will create more control within you.

For 8H/Pluto synastry, the opposite house is the 2H, the house of value, self esteem, possessions, finances and security etc. So to gain more control within, I would say find something that will bring value to you, something that enhances your self esteem. Something you can accomplish on your own or achieve/do that will bring you a higher sense of self. Because their eyes alone bring you that sense of value or sense of wholeness (you wish you felt on your own), focusing or harnessing your energy towards a deep creative project will ease that "need" for them (the planet person). Create something anything; writing, painting, or learn ways to make more income etc, this will bring you the sense of worthiness or value you crave for and these projects/creative outlets will ease the intensity. If you have many outlets that bring you the satisfaction that you yearn for (the sense of value that the 8H planet person brings you) there will be less of a need for them, and you won't develop a scarcity mindset because without them you still feel valuable, whole, and worthy.

I have an eBook, and with it has more precise definitions regarding the placements of the IC, Moon aspects, and the potential manifestations of each inner planet in the 8th or 12th house for individuals. As well as it provides information if the person you're connected to is a karmic connection, it has advice, insights and exact transits/synastry overlays to further understand the connection. You can find more information about it pinned on my page.

#8th house synastry #12th house synastry #8h synastry #12h synastry #pluto #plutonic #plutonians #scorpio #abandonedment wounds #astrology #asto #astro notes #8h house #12h house #8 and 12 house #8 house overlays #8th house overlays #12th house overlays #pluto-synastry #pluto synastry aspects #moon conjunct pluto #moon square pluto #venus conjunct pluto #venus square pluto #moon conjunct pluto synastry #venus conjunct pluto synastry #mars conjunct pluto #synastry overlays #synastry observations #venus sqaure pluto synastry

[penofwildfire]

HEY GUYS BTW I'M STILL INSANE ABOUT COLE'S THEMES OF DEATH. LIKE I'VE BEEN INSANE ABOUT A LOT OF THINGS LATELY BUT THAT'S. STILL UP THERE. HIS CONNECTIONS WITH DEATH. HIS TIME AS A GHOST. THE LOSS OF HIS MOTHER BEING HIS INITIAL MOTIVATOR. HIS PROMISE TO HER BEING HIS DRIVING FORCE. HIS ELEMENT BEING EARTH, WHERE ALL LIVING THINGS RETURN EVENTUALLY. EARTH CONNECTING HIM TO HIS MOTHER. HIS GOLDEN WEAPON BEING A SCYTHE. AAAAKSKDHSJFJSJSKSNSNSNSJAKSKDBDHSJSKDLS

#ninjago #cole #cole brookstone #cole hence #I'm so normal about this stupid show guys I swear I'm so normal #OH ALSO HIS FEAR OF ABANDONEDMENT AND BEING FORGOTTEN #THE DAY OF THE DEPARTED #AUGHSKAKDSHAKD

[duraraross]

au where locus and felix act like really passive aggressive exes and everyone else just has to deal with it

#rvb #red vs blue #sam ortez #samuel ortez #locus #felix #isaac gates #felix gates #lolix #sort of #ex lolix? #my draws #lavernius tucker #cw for idk implied child abandonedment or shitty dads #partners. survivors.

[thekiltongrammarwriter94]

OH MY GOSH….Just finished The reappearance of Rachel Price and my life will never the same 😭😭 I saw your pip ficts the other day but I’m shy and didn’t want to bother you. But…since your thinking of writing for Annabel (bel) I have to just ask this. I really enjoyed Ash and Bel’s relationship, it was very cute!! But…did anyone else get vibes from Bel’s “bestie” Sam Blake?? I mean “nuzzling Bel’s cheek with her nose”….it seems kinda…🤭

Never be shy my sweet anon!! I promise I am just a soft girl who loves holly Jackson’s characters just as much as you!! I finished TRORP a few days ago and I too have no idea what to do with my life. It was such a good book!! Not to give any spoilers away but I see your point..🤭🤭 I did think that bel was a bit (very😭)fruity. She just gives of those vibes (I love her your honor) Ash and Bel were so cute! I admit!! But I am a sucker for the girl squads so bel and Sam definitely seemed to have some vibes from them. 🤭🫶(working on something for an anon request for bel and I think it’s going well) mama Rachel at the end with her “knowing eyes”…👀

#bel price #the reappearance of rachel price #holly jackson #bel price could cuss me out and I would still love her #my sweet baby girl with abandonedment issues #and perhaps some anger #and some tears #and mommy issues #that get resolved and replaced with some other issues…date I say char-🤭issues

[shouta-edits]

Content Warnings: gore please dont look if you are uncomfortable with it.

"Hi, would it be possible for a Nozomi Kuryou moodboard from the game Nie No Hakoniwa? With themes of gore, school girl aesthetics, emptiness, and abandonment issues? It’s kinda obscure so if you can’t find photos of said characters I can send them :>" -anon requested

#nozomi kuryou #nie no hakoniwa #gore tw #gore aesthetic #read the content warnings #school girl aesthetic #emptiness aesthetic #abandonedment issues aesthetic #anti harassment #proship #proship safe #request fill #proship edit blog #[assignment passed back... /requested finished] #proshippers please interact #moodboard #antis dni #hate will be blocked

[manfrommars2049]

Holiday cat via cats

#cats #abandonedes

[bluebird584]

i dont really know the first thing about rennovcation work, but i guess i can learn as i go. i remember the doctor telling me something about measure twice, cut once, or something like that.

#this place is really run down and rotting in a lot of places. #its supposed to be remote and abandoneded i guess. #but it isnt really livable. and i have nothing else to do.

[emolgabrine]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA /pos

#minecraft #minecraft steve #minecraft alex #herobrine #Almost done with Chapter 3 funnily enough #I certainly hope this means I'll have more motivation to work on my fic #Was considering abandoneding it too #Guess we're continuing yall #now I'm dual wielding hyperfixatons

[mr-bowtieman]

To the person that abandoned their dog on my road 5 or 6 years ago,

I want you to know that we helped him all we could, the whole neighborhood would leave food and water out for him. But whatever you did hurt him so much that he couldn't trust a single human. He was a good boy, eventually he trusted me enough to let me sit near him without running off.

Yes he would run away from people, because of what you did. My late neighbor started calling him flash and it stuck.

Yesterday me and my little saw him and got worried that he didn't have long, not moving even when someone got close to him. Today I woke up and found him dead outside. Me and my dad buried him in our field.

He was a good dog that deserved a better life than you set up for him. I want to know what drove you to hurt him the way you did and then leave him in the middle of nowhere.

Was he getting too old for you? Did he not fit your model of life? Why didn't you find him a home instead of betraying that trust?

He's in a better place now, he's not hurting, or sad, or betrayed by you. I hope karma catches up with you for what you did.

I know an abandoned dog dying isn't the most pressing thing in the world right now, but I think it's still important. He had a life, he was a part of mine and now he's gone.

Sincerely,

Christopher F. E. M.

#personal post #cw mentioned animal abuse and abandonedment #i hope this finds the right person #it probably won't

[may-prime-the-writer]

I can handle the angry

I know how to deal with the angry

I am familiar with the angry

Give me the angry

Becuase I can't handle the silence

#short poem #poetry #abandonedment issues #anger

[myun-saidthoughts]

Disorganized Attachment Style: What Happens When Someone Becomes "Consistent"

One thing no one talks about with a disorganized attachment style is the way your brain will automatically block and suppress feelings for someone once these feelings don't mirror the same pain you once felt growing up. Once they become somehow consistent for you, it can feel worse when they come to you because suddenly they don't fill your deepest void, and you'll ask yourself "do I still care?" "why am I not overly attached to this outcome anymore?" "I don't feel fear but I also don't feel this intense need for them, do I even want them?"

Struggling with a disorganized attachment style with abandonment issues creates this idea in your head where those questions causes deactivation and the desire for them, somehow vanishes.

The intense lows and highs that once persisted must always be there or the lack of will showcase a less desire for them.

Therefore a lack of fear = lack of interest.

You feel comfortable with the scarcity mindset, you feel comfortable with "'needing" someone, you feel comfortable with sitting in the uncertainty mindset with another, and so when you don't have that experience, there's a part of you that feels like they won't be able to give you the "fulfillment" feeling you think you always need in order to like someone.

The second they don't represent the self-belief that you are "not lovable," a part of you will flinch. You'll start to feel disgusted, sick, and even nauseous. This is the part of you that has never had the chance to look into someone's eyes with complete and utter trust; this is the part of you that hasn't held someone's hand with complete blissfulness and openness, and this is the part of you that hasn't looked into someone's soul without having fear being brewed in-between your bones.

The truth is, that "feeling" you are holding onto is just a "comfort zone" for you and this "comfort zone" keeps you from letting that one part of you that desires a true partner, out.

That feeling of not needing is something you're not familiar with, that feeling of being safe has been something you never had the chance to hold onto and so with it brings up the need of past patterns that you once subconsciously or consciously always held onto.

It's okay to not need someone, it's okay to not have this black or white mindset with other souls, and it's okay to just be okay in the moment and not have a constant rollercoaster of emotions embody you.

This "desire" you think you always need in order to feel emotionally safe is only because now it doesn't represent the home or care you received as a child.

You're comfortable with the highs and the lows so when someone you once felt you could lose no longer gives you that fear, somehow that need for them dissipates.

Now if you experience this, it doesn't mean that there's something wrong with you or that you can't fall in love, it just means you now are experiencing love or care in a way that you feel is unsafe because it's the love you've never had the chance to hold onto.

It's okay to not need someone.

#fearful attachment style #fearful avoidant #fa attachment #disorganized attachment #disorganized attachment style #abandonment #abandonedment wounds #abandonment issues #abandoned #fear of love #scared of commitment #fear of commitment #trauma #afraid to love #fear of vulnerability

[silcosimpo]

Genuine question how do you guys with severe abandonedment issues deal with it? Cuz like I dont think I can do this for much longer mister krabs

I legit have physical pain over this

HELP PLS and also why do folk I like keep leaving me or for some reason intentionally or not hurt the fuck out of me? I WANNA FIX MYSELF HELP

#abandonedment issues #anxiety #HELP #issues #breakup??? #i think they didn't confirm cuz im too expensive for them i guess #they dont even follow me so like they give a shit about me #i could literally drop dead and they wouldn't care so #anyway HELP

[yeasty-boy]

For the most part it is hard for me to explain what I want in a partner. I think if I had to describe it, it would be divorcees on good terms. People who do not have romantic feelings but are close in ways that you could never be with a friend. People who have seen the worst of you, ended the relationship, but still chose to have you in their life.

I think for the most part though, I'm just tired of becoming someone's second priority. I am so tired of friends getting into relationships and suddenly only being around their partner. I am so tired of being a third wheel in every conversation I'm in.

#im not sure whats speaking louder #my abandonedment issues or my aroace ness #aroace

[devine-fem]

I didn’t go into detail as to why I believe Jon Kent is the reason Damian has abandon issues and I also didn’t go into detail to depth on why I think Damian canonically should had reacted viscerally at Jon and had been angry with him or at least upset to some extent more than he’s ever revealed to be in canon.

Let’s start with Damian’s past. Do any of ya’ll remember City of Bane? Gotham War? Right, Bruce has repeatedly left Damian Wayne high and dry repeatedly in the past without disregard. Abandonedment issues is a learnt problem, they don’t come from no where, there is a point in time in which Bruce consistently made the decision to disregard Damian entirely and at times flat out neglect him.

Dick’s also done a form of this at some point.

Neither Bruce or Dick have made the decision to leave Damian for an extended period of time. So to me, this is calm before the storm, this is where Damian’s brain started chipping away at the idea of being left.

Now we know how Damian is, he doesn’t actually think of himself as important, he pretends to be so because of his upbringing. He’s actually extremely insecure. If someone was to actively walk out on him then it’d shatter an entire wall he’s built up to keep himself away from being vulnerable.

Now, Jon. Jon Kent, the only person who has decided to walk out on Damian without considering his feelings then continuing to not make a big deal out of it.

To Damian, yes, it WAS a couple weeks but in those weeks, he was suffering in so many arcs and he had to do this entirely without his best friend there to comfort him.

Jon comes back, yes, it was two weeks but Jon was gone for five years on his end. He was gone for five years. He spent years of his life without Damian, this being someone that Damian knew upon meeting was supposed to be a person he was supposed to grow up with and learn the world beside.

This fits perfectly because Jon made the active to decision to go and explore his life without considering how Damian felt and it makes the person who was left question if they were the reason that person wasn’t happy as they are and if they’re a burden and not worthy of high status but worthy of being left.

Dude, just walks out and from that point on Damian acrively questions rather the people he cares about want to stay with him or not and he does to us so much with characters like Flatline.

Anyway, in conclusion, if canon won’t awknowledge the actual fall out that Jon AND HIS FAMILY AS WELL AS THE PEOPLE HE KNOWS, should be experiencing from his age up then I choose to interpret it deeper if Tom Taylor will continue to sit in that writers chair.

#super sons #damian wayne #jon kent #supersons #jonathan kent #damian wayne meta #dc comics

[shouta-edits]

"Hi, is an Urara from Ayashimon moodboard possible? With themes of being bratty, being a daddy’s girl and abandonment issues? If possible with Lolita aesthetics somewhere in there. Ty!" -anon requested

#urara #ayashimon #moodboard #daddy's girl aesthetic #brat aesthetic #abandonedment issues cw #lolita aesthetic #anti harassment #proship #proship safe #request fill #proship edit blog #[assignment passed back... /requested finished] #proshippers please interact #antis dni #hate will be blocked