#allos: *everyone hated that*

[moinsbienquekaworu]

The struggle between being happy that all kinds of aspecs are talking about aspec experiences more and barely being able to stand the way people talk about aspec experiences

#i don't know how to say it but like. i'm aro and i hate how nobody ever. talks about us except us #if i was the type of person who comes out and if i didn't already need a powerpoint to explain asexuality #i'd start telling people i'm aro and not aroace #like just. the way i feel towards both alloallos & alloaces who try but fail at being inclusive.... #towards alloace and sometimes aroace communities & the way they are & act.... #legit making me think about identifying as like. non sam aro or something #yeah technically i'm asexual but i'm going to take that word away from everyone #my allo friends are trying bless their heart but they DO NOT GET IT!!!! #they're trying and they're FAILING!!! BADLY!!!! #i understand people who use certain sets of pronouns but only with specific people. holy shit #like if i see one more time that asexuality means not being interested in relationships. #if my friends ask me and only me if i'm comfortable with a sex discussion when i am participating in it #if i get told 'no bitches!! :D' as a pride thing ONE MORE TIME #i'm sorry if you're seeing that m btw. on the infinitesimal chance you do see it. it's not against you it's my aro rage #i just. i'm not ace and then aro as an afterthought. #i'm ARO and eventually if it comes up i'm ace #'oh but no bitches isn't necessarily about sex it can also be about relationships' #yeah okay. well. i'm interested in both of those. i do want bitches. not like allos but i'm not signing up to be a nun here. #the flattening of the aspec experience to 'asexual and possibly aromantic' is making me want to tear things apart with my teeth #hate hate hate hate #and let's not forget adolescent romances. listen. i'm a teenager and i love romance #but all the stuff where the 17yo alloace teen feels broken and ends up dating a comprehensive partner...... #i keep seeing it like you see the fin of a shark. and that's already more than i can stand #i'm happy it's resonating with people but it's exactly as insipid as bland straight love songs to me #anyway. i didn't get everything i wanted out but i chipped away at it. #wow i have a ramble tag now

[eldritch-araneae]

Feeling angsty bc I want to have intimate relationship with someone, but I don't want sex and romance in it.

And I just know I probably never meet that person bc some many ppl still convinced that sex and romance are the most important things in life, and it's worth to sacrifice all their friends in favor of "one true love". They can't respect my boundaries bc they think I'm broken and they must fix me.

I really dodged the bullet in the past and broke up, otherwise idk what would happen if this guy decided that he will "fix me" himself since I won't go to doctors.

So yeah, idk when this gonna be the time when ppl learn about consent and boundaries and how being different doesn't mean "being broken" need "fixing", I probably won't find anyone. Especially where I live.

#ara talks #being aroace is though bc of all this hidden crap that makes your life less fulfilling unless you allo and romatic #like even being single is hard bc it's fucking expensive! #and how couples pay less taxes! #and being bullied for this too alongside being ND and poor #like there is so much all this and it's weaved into out everyday life #that sucks a lot and you cant even tell ppl about this bc you get swarmed with ppl trying to gaslight you and sending death thread #and the truth is this hate is just wont do anything good for everyone and it help awful ppl in power hurting us all #while the community fights itself #vent

[mydemonsdrivealimo]

5, 7, 16, 18

OFC for Bryce & Jensen, but feel free to tell me about Kennedy, too.

And answer this one MF. lol JK JK

thanks for the ask lol (i think ill save kennedys for another time as im currently working more on their character)

5. How did you figure out your oc's identity?

none of my characters are cis/straight so for me its just a matter of figuring out What they are, not If they are. jensens was pretty easy to figure out ngl bc he has a very similar standpoint as i do. i gave him a label coming into the fandom, but as time has gone on i realized that he is just not a person for labels and just prefers to Be (like myself). his aspec identity took a little longer just bc i was trying to write him as allo and shocker i failed, so after admitting that maybe he wasnt the rest just fell into place

okay and bryces i knew since like,, book 2. i came into the fandom everyone and their mother was having a fit that bryce wasnt proposing to mc by book 1 but like,, did we ever consider that that was for a reason? maybe the fact that he took 3 books to even want a relationship had something to do with him being demiro? (but no, ofc not, bc god forbid we expect the allos and straights to willingly admit that characters might be aspec). n e ways hes so obviously demiro and to see that erased may hurt my aspec self a little but thats fine :') as far as him being pan, he will just flirt with anyone and everyone all the time and it is a threat. he doesnt give two fucks about gender, if he vibes w someone, he's interested, and thats been clear since day one

7. Is there something that could cause your oc to question their identity? What?

not really, no. jensen is still,, iffy on gender (its so hard for him to explain like he doesnt really relate to the idea of being a man but masculinity is fine but he doesnt quite feel androgenous or anything Else enough to go by they/them pronouns--its just a lot for him lol) so thats something that he def questions a lot. but as far as sexuality, hes perfectly comfortable going by queer/grayace and thats what feels right to him. same for bryce, hes comfortable and confident in his identities, so nothing would really make him question it

16. Did you ever change an oc's identity when they were already established? Why?

yes ofc bc they develop and evolve like actual people, not just stagnant character sheets. jensen wasnt aspec originally, nor did he go by queer. i changed it bc, as i got to understand and know this version of him better, i realized he 1. wasnt allo lol but 2. wouldn't have been too keen on labels, either

18. Do you prefer to give your ocs specific labels, or keep it unspecified? Why? If applicable, do you change their labels depending on circumstance?

it depends honestly. i think choices fandom (and people in general) is overly obsessed w character sexuality labels (considering how many straight creators there are and how few queer creators there are). honestly i wouldve loved to leave jensen label-less/unspecified because realistically i think thats just how he is (even if people ask, even about his aspec identity, he'll just say queer bc he doesnt really care), but coming into the fandom, that didnt really feel like an option. and for characters like bryce, im happy to label him because i feel that its an important part of his character, not just in my hc but should be important in all hcs. im happy to label him bc, not only do i find it important as an aspec person to see that aspec representation (considering that nearly everyone in this fandom would cry if they had to actually accept that characters in relationships can still be aspec--especially confirmed aspec characters, but thats for another time), but i also think its just a huge part of his character and something he would be really proud of

#thanks for the ask :) #the absolute aphobia of choices fandom and actually all fandoms is so disgusting to me #and the fact that people would literally rather try to rewrite or explain away bryces behavior in the books #than using the perfectly logical explanation of him being demiro #is absolutely horrific and embarrassing #a fandom i used to be in literally had an aspec main character and people would say no actually i think they should be this #bc literally. god. fucking. forbid. there be aspec characters #aka i literally hate everyone all the time and have a lot of pent up rage about this topic in particular but its fine #everyone just keep writing your allo bryces. bc that makes so much sense. #was gonna say sorry for the rant but i dont even care i am just allowed to be angry about this #jensen valentine #bryce lahela #asks answers

[the-heaminator]

hbggg wanna write America and Australia asking old ppl (Scotland and prussia, china maybe) about the first high explosives which ends in them making fulminating gold and silver in scotlands garage, they get out the aqua reigis it's a fucking blast (ba dum tss).

But I don't have the chemistry knowledge

#Rather I do have the chemistry knowledge I just dont know how to convey it without sounding like a paper #pls send help I hate having science brainrot #The heam speaks #For context culminating silver is incredibly reactive. If you touch it with a lighted splint even if its wet it'll just fukin detonate on #Jack would love watching Gilbert and Alisdair argue about how to make fulminating silver and Alfred would be taking notes bc he wants #Imagine your uncle and some other crusty dude yelling at each other about how not to handle high explosives. Then it detonated #Everyone knows mercury fulminate they probably wouldn't go through that #WAIT THOSE 4 WOULD HAVE A SCIENCE CHANNEL #Alfred would go on 2 hour long explanations about astrophysics #And with Gilbert and alisdair they could easily talk for hours on shitty video quality about machines and their mechanisms and their histor #Gilbert and alisdair would have a whole series “What not to do with chemistry” basically making a lot of explosives #And things of questionable legal standing. Like carbon tetra chloride because we know alisdair doesn't throw shit out and probably has some #Organo-phosphates and other highly dangerous chemicals and compounds banned in the 60s to 90s in his shed #Alfred just casually talks about nuclear reactions. #Jack and guest appearances of zee would be examining animal and human biology in a sory of crack head way that people love. #He has a pretty large base of people who watch his videos. Short and quick forward but genuinely educational #While people like me are going to watch Alfred go on for hours about isotopes and allo tropes and isomers fission fusion the whole lot. #Alisdair and Gilbert's velideos constantly toe the line of legality. There is a lot if swearing and questionable health and safety

[little-cereal-draws]

Today's installment of allonormativity

My school sent out an email to prepare us for the career fair that's coming up. The entire thing was an analogy comparing a date to a job interview.

"We’re all familiar with the date who makes you watch their favorite YouTube clip that runs just a little too long, or the date that excitedly plays you their favorite song by an obscure band from the 1920s, while you sit awkwardly on the sofa.

Recruiters and company representatives have been on more bad 'dates' than you can count. ...

Don’t be a bad first date!"

It kept going on and on abt how you wear similar things to dates and interviews and how you don't want to bore them and using vague examples of bad dates for what not to do. It even had a picture of a guy giving a girl roses at the end. I can kinda infer what I'm supposed to do but really I'm just as lost as before. I don't know what you do on a date!

#i really hate how they just assumed everyone's been on a date #even for allo kids who have never been on a date this whole email would have been useless #idk i'm mad lol #and also that example of the obscure 1920s song actually sounds exactly like my idea of a good time lol #lgbt #lgbtq #aro #aromantic #allonormativity

[little-candy-store-of-horrors]

Gestapo workplace conversations... Do you reckon they know each other?

#Jojo Rabbit #allo allo #'allo 'allo! #herr flick #Captain deertz #20th century #Wwii #When stephen merchant said Deertz uses his height to intimidate...... Herr Flick asked Elsa Bigstern out he would not be fazed #Plus he has the godfather card theyd make a good nightmare team but i think it's more likely theyd hate each other + flick is a freak #Anyway im convinced stephen 'britcom scene' merchant referred to richard 'britcom scene' gibson for his role #Herr Otto Flick limped around in lingerie so Captain Herman Deertz could make h*tler four balls joke!!!1!1! #And shoutout ronald lacey as Arnold Toht indiana jones. Walked in a serious role so these nonsense bitches could RUN in the hat and glasses #And for confusing everyone that the gestapo had a uniform </3 secret police doesnt have a uniform. Thats the point of a secret police.

[transmascnepetaleijon]

god. why are you guys so weird about bisexuals

#its either the flirty sexy sexually skilled heart-throb that gets all the girls and guys they want is a homewrecker and cheater #or its treated like this other flavor of gay to add ''''spiciness'' #when i tell someone im bi they look at me and go ''damn ok! lol'' and its like. god man idk #im not even talking about fandom im just talking about Life #it gets me pissed that making a bi person emotional and the such is actually a big subversion of the Bisexual Character #also back to real life with that thing: yes i have had people be actually shocked that i dont have much dating experience while being bi #theyre like '? i thought you were bi tho!' and i am. i dont need to kiss a girl and then kiss a guy to sit and be like #''hm which one to choose'' i can decided things because i want to #i used to have the idea that you *had* to be sure to choose a label but like? man #im just living now like im not even sure if i really like women im not even sure if im allo im just existing doing my thing #i dunno i hate labels i hate stereotypes i want to kill everyone and the next person to decide a character is bi just because theyre flirty #will have each one of their teeth pulled out by yours truly #txt

[theomachst]

I was going to say something funny and clever, but my brain is like overcooked fettucine so I’d like to wish everyone a happy don’t tell me who I can or can’t headcanon as autistic

#ppl who have asd: oh look i bet this character is on the spectrum #allos: *everyone hated that* #salt lake shitty #✦ OOC

[neverbesokind]

tragically “I wish that sex wasn’t considered such a be-all end-all in so many societal spaces and narratives but at the same time I acknowledge that sex is often stigmatized, especially between marginalized people, and therefore it is sometimes quite radical for sex to be portrayed as powerful and important” is an idea that cannot be condensed into a pithy little post for the internet

#I read a book today where the main character's magic gets strengthened when she has sex for the first time and I was like #ah yes #that stings a little #but it's the sort of thing you don't complain about in mixed company eh #shh gilly #in an attempt for allos to understand #it would be like if everyone treated baseball like this life altering thing and pretended you weren't a real person until you had played #and a whole contingent of fucking weirdos decided that it was wrong to play baseball except in Specific Circumstances #so there are all these progressive movements being like #everyone wants to play baseball!! #baseball is what makes us human!!! #and you personally don't care for baseball but you don't like hate it #and if people enjoy it that seems good and fine #but it's also fucking weird to have people be talking to you like you're desperate to play #ah hell I'm gonna delete this later probably

[pwurrz]

sighs for 8 years

#i know some people have the personal experience of identifying as aro or ace because of internalized homophobia #or a misstep while they were questioning only for them to come out as allo gay later on #but i just #i get wary hearing about it #because i know it’s someone’s personal experience #but i feel like not everyone does #and that somewhere someone will attempt to be like #‘see guys!!???!! asexuality is just a homophobic label to MISLEAD gay people and have it be EVEN MORE difficult for them to discover #they’re gay!!! asexuality is homophobic and the community’s number one enemy!!!!’ #or whatever exclusionists used to say #ace discourse war flashbacks lol /hj #sometimes people think they’re ace. and then they realize they weren’t and come out as allo gay #and that happens!! it’s normal to not figure out your identity immediately!!! #but it doesn’t mean the labels you applied to yourself are inherently evil and everyone who identifies as that label needs to be hated #it also doesn’t mean being ace is a phase!! i’m still asexual AND arospec several years later #you tried a label and it didn’t fit so you tried another one and it did #that’s how the questioning process goes #and i’m sorry if identifying as asexual made you repress your sexuality and your feelings and attraction #but getting over internalized homophobia is something basically all of his need to go through #and people still repress their sexuality without identifying as ace!! #y’all know what i mean? y’all know what i mean #i made this exact type of post like three years ago except it was made by an emotional baby ace #and not a matured tired ace #anyways i’m going to bed

[fusulyesheep]

You are lgbt and in one day is just a passing thought, in the next you see all kinds of analogies to being lgbt in all type of media, and others you feel it so so deeply in yourself; you are lgbt

#for me who i am is not something that i am thinking actively all the time but suddenly something so casual happens #and im stroke with the realization #i really *am* lgbt #all my life is influenced by it somehow #and is not something everyone experiences #and i mean as in #people that are het cis and allo just not lgbt #their identity also influences all their life but is just not something they need to think about #bc they are the norm they are just not affected #when i noticed all the time that im just not viewed as normal by society #but what bothers me the most is that people with distorted notions bc of heteronormativity or whatever #will look at me and other lgbt folks and try to put also distorted labels on us #i want to be genuinely me but people will look at me and think im weird; im not following rules right and that im homosexual #as in the stereotype version of homosexuality #the strict vision of man dating man (they need to ne feminine) and woman dating woman (they need to be masculine) #and are always treated like jokes #bc gay feminine men and lesbian masculine woman exist (and i love them) but is NOTHING like they think it is #they will swear they can they a gay person by distance and is so reductive of everyone who is gay here #and i hate it i hate it so much #i love being gay queer lgbt just all of this hot mess of weirdness for the danm norms #but the realization always hurts and is never only one time #CANT PEOPLE JUST LOOK AT EACH OTHER AND NOT JUST ASSUME EVERYTHING #mey thoughts #going insaaane

[circus-clown-calvary]

My Aw my therapist was right

#maybe everyone will leave me behind #honk talks #aromatic #dni allos #how was it so easy for them to leave #why did no one tell me they were leaving #i hate being alone #honk vents

[picturebird]

Some Asexual/Aromantic Reminders for Fandom

1. There is no justification for thinking “I like this character better when they’re not aro/ ace.”

Aces/aros aren’t better when they’re allos.

Gays aren’t better when they’re straight.

What that really says: “I don’t like asexuality. I don’t like aromantics.” No matter how you dress it up.

I feel like I shouldn’t have to explain why this is wrong. No character is better when you make them less special.

2. Saying “asexuals can have sex” is a huge oversimplification. When aces have sex it doesn’t make them allosexual, they don’t feel the same things. It doesn’t mean they even enjoy sex. It doesn’t mean they can have sex with a partner. It doesn’t mean they can do it more than once. And it doesn’t mean they have “fixed” themselves and can now love properly.

When bisexuals have sex with someone of the opposite gender it doesn’t make them straight. It doesn’t mean they “fixed” their homosexuality.

3. Erasure can happen in cannon and head cannon. You don’t have to be a professional to participate in it. When social media is flooded with images of an asexual character in sexual situations with no acknowledgement of asexuality, it’s impossible to see the asexuality through it. Maybe it’s not erased, it’s buried in an avalanche.

4. I can name five canonical Aro or Ace characters. The rest are allosexual. In every movie, book, tv show, and comic that’s ever been written. Throughout all of time.

Sherlock Holmes (original novels) who is constantly paired non platonically with Irene Adler or John Watson in his incarnations. No hate on those ships, just pointing out an example.

SpongeBob SquarePants who is asexual because real life sea sponges are asexual.

Rafael Santiago (Shadowhunter Chronicles) who was portrayed in the books as cold and indifferent to people’s feelings.

Isaac (Heartstopper) whose entire story is about being Asexual.

Alastor (Hazbin Hotel) who actually has a personality, a backstory, goals outside of being accepted as asexual, a dynamic story arc, and complex relationships with friends/enemies that are actually fun to watch. Honestly the best ace/aro rep I’ve ever seen: a guy with no interest in sex who actually has a sense of humor!

When the ratio is a million: 5, it’s not ridiculous for aces and aros to ask people to ship someone else as allosexual. Literally anyone else. This can’t possibly be the only option.

5. Creators have a history of not defending asexual/aromantic characters. They don’t fight to make sure people respect their sexuality. It’s always better for business and social media trends to encourage shipping. Sex sells. Romance too. They may be the authority on a character, that doesn’t mean they’re an authority on aces/aros.

6. You can’t show a visual of someone being asexual or aromantic. Not in the same way you can show two girls kissing or men getting married. You can show platonic relationships, but that doesn’t prove the absence of attraction. All fan art with ace/aro people requires context. It’s not hard to scribble a note here or put in a tag or something. It’s also super sweet to see in a post.

7. Shipping and fandom should be about fun. Fun for everyone. Ship freely and kindly.

#asexuality #aromantic #Alastor #hazbin alastor #Hazbin hotel #sherlock holmes #Rafael Santiago #isaac heartstopper #heartstopper #spongebon squarepants #shipping #fandom #Sherlock #the shadowhunter chronicles

[hp-hcs]

green eyed monster (part one of two) — yandere! jealous! fwb! theodore nott x gn! drunk! dumbass! slytherin! reader

theo’s just like…randomly the king of consent here? idk but i’m here for it!!! 👑

reader is like, really pushy, even when theo says no? like, it���s lowkey a side eye, ngl. but i asked my allo boyfie, and he said it was pretty par for the course for a drunk person to act this way so idfk 🤷 lemme know y’all

no actual smut yet! that’s in part two, which i’ll do my best to finish soon!

warnings: it’s literally just talking about sex for 1k words,❗️reader just sort of completely ignores the word no❗️, reader is under the influence of alcohol, threats of violence to reader, one minor instance of slut shaming, possessive/jealous behavior, underage drinking/teen partying

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“Hi, Teddy! D’you wanna hook up?”

Theodore blinked as you stumbled your way through the Slytherin party’s crowds over to him. “Y/n, you’re drunk.”

“So?”

“So I’m not going to sleep with you,” he said plainly, narrowing his eyes in confusion. “You can’t consent right now.”

You shrugged. “No worries. I can go find someone else.”

“No. You can’t consent to them either. C’mon, let me walk you back to your dorm,” Theo sighed, ruffling your hair and plucking the plastic cup from your fingers before chucking it in the trash.

“Oh, c’mon, Teddy- even if I can’t have fun with you, I still want to have some,” you whine, pouting at him. He rolled his eyes and started leading you through the crowded common room by the hand he had splayed across your lower back. “C’mon, Teddy. D’you at least know where Mattheo is?”

But the sound of another guy’s name coming out of your mouth immediately caused Theo’s calm and caring demeanor to shift into a hate-filled scowl as he stopped dead in his tracks and snatched up your jaw in his free hand. “Y/n. Don’t you dare. He’s off limits.”

“…Huh?” You blinked.

“Circe- do I have to dumb it down for you? If you do anything with Mattheo, I swear on my mother’s grave, I’ll make you regret it,” he hissed at you, grabbing your tie and tugging you forward. “Fuck, if you so much as look at Riddle—let alone touch him—I’ll carve out your fucking eyes. Got it?”

“Shit, alright, well- if not Matty, then Enz, I guess,” you suggested, entirely unperturbed by the threat.

Theodore was practically seething. “You’d try to whore yourself out to Enzo too? No. He’s also off limits.”

You startled at his sudden aggression. “Uh- Blaise…?”

“Off. Limits.”

“Even Malfoy?”

“Everyone.”

“Potter?”

Theo’s eyes narrowed. “Anyone you’ve ever met, or anyone I’ve ever met, or anyone I see on the street is off limits.”

“Does that include you?” You asked dumbly, your eyebrows furrowing in confusion.

“What do you fucking think, darling?” He snapped, grabbing your hand and yanking you through the common room and down the hall.

“Ooh, somebody’s jealous,” you said in a singsong voice, grinning at him.

Theo sighed, his anger quickly evaporating at the sight of your dumb drunken smile. “Yeah, yeah. Shush.” He rolled his eyes fondly.

You both walked in a comfortable silence for a moment before you piped up again. “This ain’t the direction to my dorm.”

“No, I’m taking you back to mine. Don’t get your hopes up-” he added quickly when he saw you perk up with a tipsy grin. “We’re literally just going to sleep in the same bed.”

Your grin fell into another pout. “Dick.”

“That’s exactly what I’m not giving you.”

You giggled and leaned heavily against him as he unlocked his dorm door and ushered you inside.

“Theo- c’mon, your bed’s right there,” you pleaded.

“Yeah, and you’re going to fall asleep in it. That’s it.”

“Motherfucker- c’mon,” you whined. “Damn you for being so fuckin’…morally good an’ shit.”

“Don’t be a brat, Y/n.”

“Oh, shut up, bitch.”

Theo closed his eyes and let out a slow breath through his teeth. “I swear to Merlin- once you’re sober, I’m going to fuck that attitude right out of you.”

“Promise?” You asked cheekily, reaching out to smooth a hand over his chest.

“Salazar, you’re lucky you’re drunk right now,” he grumbled, batting your hand away and holding onto the sides of your shoulders to steady you before letting go to dig through his closet. He returned a second later to tug off your clothes and trade them out for one of his tshirts and a pair of his sweatpants (much to your dismay, as you’d been hoping for more to happen when he began undressing you).

Theo helped you into bed, pulling up the covers around you. He climbed into his bed behind you and wrapped both arms around your waist, burying his face into the curve of your neck. It would’ve been a sweet gesture, if his grip wasn’t painfully tight and possessive.

He stroked your hipbone with his thumb and pressed a kiss to the back of your neck. “Now go to sleep, tesoro.”

“M’kay,” you yawned. “G’night, Teddybear.”

“Goodnight, my pretty idiot.”

#harry potter #hp #fuck jkr #x reader #theodore nott #theodore nott x reader #hp x gn reader #hp x male reader #x male reader #theo nott #yandere theodore nott #theodore nott smut #theo nott x reader #theodore nott x male reader #x gn reader #gn reader #x gender neutral reader #gender neutral reader

[redysetdare]

I'm an "AroAce Stereotype" I'm Romance averse/Repulsed> I'm Sex repulsed I'm non-partnering I hate the idea of marriage in all forms I don't want a QPR at all I'm loveless I'm someone who gets uncomfortable at sexual talk and sex jokes I'm someone who often has innuendos or sexual concept fly over my head. I'm someone who can't tell when someone is flirting with me I'm someone who can't pick up on romantic or sexual tension I'm someone who finds "shipping" to be annoying I'm someone who says "They just seem like friends to me" I'm someone who believed that attraction could be turned on or off I'm someone who can't make sense of romance at all and cant figure out what makes it different from every other relationship. I'm someone who thinks romance is stupid and sex is gross and I don't understand the big deal everyone makes about it I'm someone who never was upset to find out I was AroAce but rather relieved as I have a genuine fear of being stuck in a romantic relationship that i do not want. In all cases I am not an AroAce who can be considered "normal" by the standards of allo society.

I'm not just a stereotype for you to shit on. I'm not the reason aphobes are aphobic I'm not a problem that you need to erase and refute to be accepted by allos. I'm not an experience that you and ignore as "not really how aspec people are" just because You are not part of it. Stop leaving us behind. Stop throwing us under the bus. We deserve support too. We deserve to not be demonized and shunned because we're an "stereotype". We are not the problem. We are not a problem to be fixed. start fighting aphobes on their logic instead of trying to make up for our existence.

#text #ace #aro #asexual #aromantic #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #mostly talking abt aroace experience because thats me #but this can go for other aspec identities too #aphobia #im just tired of other aspec people agreeing with the oppressors that certain experiences are wrong #and promising that THEY aren't like that THEY are normal and shouldn't be ridiculed #but never do anything to protect the rest of us from ridicule #because really they just want to protect their experience they dont care about the wider community #and it's frustrating #because we should all be supporting each other because thats how things get better #if we tell aphobes there are exceptions then suddenly all aspec people can become an exception #because they dont care about us being socially acceptable aspecs they care about us not being aspec period #they dont want us to exist because then they have to question their world view and that dont like doing that #so they'll play nice with the ones they can pretend are normal before they decide that you're not good enough either

[mellifiedprincess]

GOT MY FIRST MATT REQUEST😝 this is angsty to fluff, so be warned. i got kind of carried away and don’t have anyone to proofread my writing so sorry if this actually sucks ass.

“I’m gonna be working 16 hours again today, so I won’t be home until late.” You can feel the annoyance from your boyfriend before you even turn around. Matt absolutely hated when you worked long shifts like that, but he also knew you loved your job as a peds nurse. Still. He hated the hours. He hated how tired you were after work, all because you would pick up everyone else’s slack.

“Again? Baby-“ He stops himself, watching you pull the baby pink scrub top over your head. You can only laugh softly at his expression. “That’s the 3rd one this week.”

“I know, but I Lisa asked me to cover part of her shift. She’s always been super nice to me.”

That was one of the things Matt loved and hated about you, you were too nice. Always doing for others, never for yourself. And he worried you were gonna burn out.

He places his hands on your cheeks, placing a kiss to your slightly squished lips. “You’ve barely slept baby. You haven’t had anything to eat. You’re barely a person right now.”

“Matt, please don’t do this right now. I’m gonna be late.” You watch as he rolls his eyes, stepping away from you as you gather the rest of your things. “I know you’re just worried about me, but don’t be. I’m fine!”

“Just please text me and let me know you made it to the hospital okay, and let me know when you’re on the way home. Just so I know you didn’t fall asleep at the wheel.” He reaches out for you, and you greedily fall into his embrace. “I will. I love you, okay.” You place a soft kiss to his lips and smile sweetly. “I love you more baby.”

And with that you leave.

You kept your word of texting Matt and letting him know you made it to the hospital safely. Even sending him a cute little selfie of you blowing him a kiss.

But when he saw it was almost 45 minutes past the time you should have been home, he felt a pit of anxiety form in his stomach.

He immediately ended the game of fortnite he was playing, and grabbed his phone wasting no time in calling you.

No answer.

So he tried again. And again. And again.

No answer. So he calls the floor of the hospital you work on. Only for the nurse on the phone tell him, you left almost an hour ago.

Kid was shitting bricks he was so scared.

“Nick!” At the sound of Matt’s terrified voice, the older brother of the triplets rushes into his room. “What?” Nick asks as he watches a frantic Matt put his shoes on. “I need you and Chris to take the other car and help me look for Y/N.” This only confuses Nick more.

“Isn’t she at work? And we can’t drive without our-“ “She’s not answering her phone. She left work almost an hour ago. She should have been back by now!” Matt cuts Nick off, trying his best not to break down.

Next to his brothers, you were the most important person in Matt’s life. The thought of anything happening to you made his want to throw up.

“You need to breathe before you pass out. Y/N is fine Matt, she’s gonna be okay.” Nick rubs comforting circles on his back, trying his best to calm his younger brother down.

“Maybe she fell asleep in the parking lot.”

You were not in the hospital parking lot when Matt arrived, only making his anxiety worse. “She’s not here!” He tells his brothers who are on the phone with him as they drive around the city in search of you.

“Chris is gonna take me back home, in case she shows up, but he’s gonna keep looking.”

Matt was barely listening anymore, because as he turned to get back on the highway he sees your car. And when he looks closer, he sees you in it. Asleep.

“I just found her and I’m going to kill her, right after I tell her how much I love her.” “Is she okay?” Chris asks.

“She fell asleep in her car. She’s fine.” Matt hangs up after that. He was relieved to say the least, but so furious with your stupidity.

As he gets out of his car and walks up to your window, he allows himself to take a minute to actually breathe.

You’re startled out of your sleep to a tap on your window, looking up you meet the eyes of your very angry looking boyfriend.

As soon as you unlock the door, he’s pulling it open and unbuckling your seatbelt. “I’m so sorry-“ He cuts you off by pulling you into his chest, and you can feel the rapid beat of his heart against yours.

“Do you have any idea how fucking worried we were?” You begin to gnaw at the inside of your cheek, the feeling of guilt all consuming your body. “I’m sorry, I didn’t even realize I was falling asleep.”

“I need you to realize how stupid and dangerous that was. We’re not in Maine or Utah, baby. We’re in LA. You know from working in a hospital how dangerous it is here.” He knows he should be a little more cautious with his words, but fuck he was scared.

“I’m sorry. I closed my eyes for two seconds! I didn’t mean to fall asleep.” Matt stops himself from berating you anymore, knowing you probably feel guilty enough. “Just- go get in the car. I’ll grab your things.” “I can’t leave my car here-“ You don’t even finish your sentence at the look Matt gives you.

You get in the passenger seat of his car and watch as he grabs your things, and double checks that your car is locked, before settling in the drivers seat.

“I need you to really listen to me when I say this.” You turn in your seat to face him, his hand reaching for yours. To comfort you or himself, he’s not too sure at this point.

“The next time you even think there’s a possibility of you falling asleep like that, I’m talking you yawn for 2 seconds longer than usual, you better call me. I don’t care what time it is. I love you and you scared the hell out of me tonight.”

“I’m sorry, Matty. I love you and promise I’ll never do anything like that again.” He smiles softly, and places a delicate kiss to your palm.

Now that you’ve faced the repercussions of Matt, you spent the drive home preparing yourself for the inevitable lecture to come from the one and only Nicolas Sturniolo.

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