#and I do love being trans & I love being a femme & I love being a man with a broad and fluid gender

[punkeropercyjackson]

Oh did that trans woman present femininely in a way you find corny?Did that autistic kid annoy you by being passionate about their interests?Did that traumatized person cope by being a therian so you think they're stupid?Did that black person act in a way you found offputting?Thank you SO much for making a whole post to make fun of them because it was completely necessary to announce your most important feelings ever because weird people are vewy scawy.Should we throw a party to cheer you up?Should we invite JK Rowling?

#like shut your fake freak ass UP you're not breaking social norms by being k/inky and using over the top cruelty those are literally normal #i used these groups because they're the kindness most accepting and coolest people ever and have done nothing but help me heal as i do them #and with autistic kids i mean they did it completely unintentionally by being my friends while i took the role of the shoulder to cry on #because i'm a GROWN ASS MAN AND WOMAN who does NOT need the approval of my oppressors and i will NOT throw them under the bus to get it #go do actual activism and grow a spine and get a relathionship that's not a situationship and communicate outside out of your little bubble #transmisogyny #ableism #antiblackness #transfem #trans women #actuallyautistic #catkin #dragonkin #ghostkin #therian tag #autistic girl summer #black femme #black men #black love #blackness #misogynoir #bigender #genderfluid #transmascfem #pinkcore #weirdcore #children's rights #anti harry potter #💌 #summerposting

[dykeinthedark]

venting in tags about gender n shit (long as hell) (u can comment and talk 2 me as always :3)

#okay so i got a really masc haircut about a month ago and i know it's just a haircut but holy shit has it changed EVERYTHING for me #like.... i've always leaned masc except 1) before i came out 2) when i was actively in love with someone who i knew liked femmes #and they always described me as a fem. because that's what i showed her. because i wanted to be with her. #but lowkey whenever i'm in a not-impressing-anyone raw-dogging-life-no-crush era i always resort to a very masc style #like masc being my default and i'd only lean fem to impress people whether it's for love or peer pressure in a specific setting #like ''dressing up'' has always been a form of drag to me. like something i HAD to do to fit in or impress my parents (scott favor core) #but ever since this haircut i've realized... i could just BE masc innately like i really don't have to be womanly if i don't want to #which i usually don't. again i have only ever dressed fem for other people. but it's not even being masc that attracts me on its own #it's like. being masc in a distinctly lesbian way. as in whenever i look in the mirror i don't wanna be like a Guy i wanna be a dyke. #like lesbian as a gender identity too sort of thing honestly. okay i've been waffling but basically i sort of want to call myself butch #but i don't know if i like... can?? if i'm allowed to??? #everyone always says it's MORE than just wearing boy clothes and not wearing makeup and having short hair (which i already do all those) #i mean i've always id'd as genderqueer because it literally just means gender weird and i experience gender in a queer way #what's probably the most telling is that my friends (all queer) CALL me a butch lesbian #like every time they do i feel really internally validated. it's not just my clothes but my personality too ig is what people tell me #i have a higher pitched voice relatively speaking but apparently the way i talk is quote ''very clockably into women'' #which?? gender euphoria asf. my best friend specifically he (gay trans guy) always uses butch to describe me very intuitively #people have also noticed that i ''transitioned'' in all aspects except hormonally. like ppl have commented and noticed my masculinzation #but at the same time i always feel rly haunted by my ex relationships because one wanted me to be more masc #(she's the one who came out as straight and would treat me like a man) which i didn't like and i didn't like playing up being fem either #bc now it feels like she (butch) won't believe me if i called myself butch too bc she remembers me being femme #idk i feel like there's her voice in my head all the time that sees everything i do through her eyes (i'm lowkey still in love) #i feel like even though this comes so naturally to me i must be putting on a performance #even though i've actually read stone butch blues and done research into the history and i truly love and id with the culture like i rly do #that im still just a sad imitation of a butch lesbian and can never really be a part of it because i used to enjoy dressing up sometimes #like it's so stupid but can i still be butch if i wore a dress to prom and i think i looked good in it?? #even though i was envious of my friends who wore suits?? that i used to try goth makeup?? that i liked long dresses?? #that i enjoyed stacked necklaces and rings on every finger??? #and tbh ALL OF THAT CAME FROM A CONCIOUS EFFORT TO FEMINIZE MYSELF IN JUNIOR YEAR OF HIGHSCHOOL WHEN I WAS 16 #because omfg it was 2 months before junior prom and i was worried that i was too masc and wanted to get comfortable with being fem

[rebellum]

"We should respect trans mascs and butches because they protect us at pride"

So I get what you're doing with trying to argue against the anti-masculinity crowd and trying to say that trans mascs and butches are an important part of pride as a way to emphasize our place in the community

But...

Why us?

Why are we disposable? Why are we not worthy of protection?

When are you going to protect us, too?

#'mascs do the protecting but i prommie its because im woke and not bc i love to reinforce gender norms that posit men as the protectors of #femininity'. #also i wanna say something similar about how ppl sometimes treat trans poc like this #like we are valuable not as people but as battering rams as bodies for white protection #but my thoughts are too messy rn to form the post well #goddd and how ppl treat butches is so fucked up. #i understand that butch lesbians roles are traditionally understood as being protectors but like #when are you going to protect butches? when are you going to get in someones face to protect them? how do you think disabled butches feel? #just... i feel like. ppl forget that feminity can also be weaponised in a good way #(not that you HAVE to weaponise femin. in order to protect mascs for any reason) #but like. im a 5'3 small femme. i very easily pass as an upper middle class woman. #i may be black/mixed but i have a mediumish skin tone and i live in canada #i absolutely have the power to step in front of someone and raise my voice in feminine indignation #what are you gonna do? hit me? youre gonna hit a tiny 5'3 'woman' in a skirt that has kitties on it? #the idea of feminine people as weak can cone in handy! because esp large men know they WILL face social consequences for hurting ppl #like me. #especially if i start crying. #itd be more effective if a white person did it but i have that power too

[succubusapphic]

i mean it really theres something so masc and sexy about a transmasc or butch or whatever you identify as that owns their softness their hardness their smoothness their roughness everything people think mascs "shouldnt" be and when they take that and theyre outspoken and confident about it especially (not required bc i will take just as much joy in building you up to feel that way yourself) but especially ESPECIALLY when they do what they do and they encourage others to do what they do too and not fit some toxic masculine energy. something so empowering to others about being yourself unapologetically it just makes me want to leap into your arms and call you the handsomest hunk i ever met

#being yourself and building others up to be their most authentic happy self too is the sexiest shit ever #but also if youre not there yet let me tell you how good youre doing and how masc you are and let my femmeness by comparison #fuel and empower your masculine energy #trans mascs and butches of all kinds i love you #not just trans mascs but butches getting comfortable with the masculinity they felt villainized for #any and all kinds of mascs and butches #sighs dreamily and kicks my feets #mine #femme4masc #femme4butch

[cosmik-homo]

It seems people are getting hype about Magical Girl As Horror Lately? and idk the main concept ive been revolving around- for an au I prommy ill write something for soon ok- is, like. Not exactly magical girl as horror but magical girl as. It is so so unfair. Imagine you had a falliable, human, imperfect body- imagine, even, it was unsatisfying, not fitting to you, or misfunctioning in ways that impair your life. and imagine being granted the ability to loan a perfect body made out of light and flowing with power and perfection, a poised, radiant body- only to turn back .only to have that other form only validated to help others. only to have a real actual mystical voice which claims important in the universe claim that to be or do good your own body really isnt enough?

Just. Having a good body you can turn into as if thats ok to do to someone, give them that and take it away

#this is a trans disabled reading but also its not as if even just your most basic Teenage Girls is not a category of a deeply policed body #cmon. #like yes magical girl is a beautiful celebration and defiant embracing of everything good and holy about frills and femininity #and i do very much love that im very femme #but the idea of tying that with EFORTLESSNESS is something to explore #i would like to poof lolita fit n accesories on and off it would save me a lot of money and spoons #but umm. yeah no Being A Femme Light Warrior is a lot of work. i have warrior armor montage w my fits #AND THIS IS NOT JUST THE POILITICAL AUGH I WENT DOWN A TANGENT IM SORRY #the original point is #if we want to explore the transformation sequence as a place of distortion in a horrror llike manner #lets PAINT AROUND THE EGG. lets talk about the emptiness of the minute after you poof back. #lets talk about the GAP of the change

[satanfemme]

being both gnc and trans is so hard sometimes. it's like, I'll face adversity for being gnc/trans/whatever-strangers-read-me-as, and in addition to the normal base-level difficultly and pain and fear of these experiences, I'll also feel on some level like it's "my own fault" too because this is what I purposefully decided to be.

I often dress/act like a girl but have a deep voice/facial hair/flat chest -- and I opted in for all of those. I spent more money than I can conceptualize in order to medically transition in those ways. while, in theory, I could've saved the money, not transitioned, continued dressing/acting the same way as I do now, and the problem would no longer exist... in theory. ofc logically I know that's not at all how it works. if I hadn't transitioned I would feel even worse. and the way I'd experience & express gender would still be intrinsically different from "cis girl" -- that's true regardless of how my body looks or sounds. which should all go without saying, because I very obviously don't conform to my CAGAB either. if I did I wouldn't be in this mess!! u know?

...but the self-blame is still there, because for better or for worse I did go out of my way to become myself. <- feels like a truism.

#the other big self doubt-y issue I've been experiencing lately re: being gnc and trans #is feeling like I'm ''faking'' something. to sooo many people I've just come out as a femme/nonbinary man #with no mentions of my cagab cause that's not something I like to share around irl lol #and then I complain ofc about how I'm treated for being feminine. and everyone gives me sympathy which is nice #but it's hard to fully accept cause I wonder how many of them are assuming I was shunned the same way growing up. #when in reality I was punished for not being feminine *enough*. #and ik it shouldn't/doesn't matter in this context. I still struggled then and I still struggle now; they don't cancel out #but it almost feels like I ''tricked'' my way into a marginalization that I don't ''actually'' belong in. idk #like as if I'm ''secretly'' a girl and just pretending my normal girlhood is subversive for attention #or like I should have just been content with the relative safety of my assigned social role #(hm... where have I heard ''why can't you just be ok with being a girl?'' and ''they're just doing it for attention'' before 🤔) #it's def leaps of logic & self-directed transphobia all around but it's hard to shake #and there's a real fear somewhere mixed into it all too of ''what if someone finds out my cagab and decides I'm not actually trans/a man - #- by *their* transphobic logic. even if they previous supported me''. #anyway I hope no one minds the long vent-y post. I needed to sort out my emotions here lol #I have an old ''omg I love being confusing and ambiguous XD'' post gaining notes rn for some reason and #seeing it again while mentally working thru the above just made me feel ill and confused and guilty. feeling better now <3 #and I do love being trans & I love being a femme & I love being a man with a broad and fluid gender #it's just hard too sometimes

[01tsubomi]

every time chandler friends talks about his “dad” (who the writers have retroactively confirmed is a trans woman) and how horrible his life was with her around he gives an example like “in high school [she’d] come to all of my swim meets dressed as a different hollywood starlet” as if that doesn’t automatically make her the coolest character in the show

#famous vegas drag queen who attended high school swim meets dressed campy femme in the 80s?? come on #it’s not surprising at all for a mainstream show especially an old one to use transness and queerness as a punchline #but it’s baffling now because the things they’re ragging on are like. objectively very cool and brave #shows the attitude towards gnc I guess. from the inside it’s amazing and a slay for a trans woman to put herself out there but outside the #community they literally didn’t and don’t get it #hence that character being referred to as a man for the show’s entire run #and i mean drag queens who are cis men do exist but she’s clearly femme in EVERY scenario and doesn’t use her deadname #she’s literally cooler than the whole cast. and ofc phoebe saying ‘wow she sounds cool’ is a punchline #phoebe also is an interesting case to me as a character who’s supposed to be very offbeat but is still fundamentally written by and for a #mainstream sitcom #but that’s a topic for a different day and i love her so #personal #mayas unwitting soft core friends hyperfixation 2022 #my only true guilty pleasure this show gets fucked up #see ‘can’t go two episodes without making a joke abt how lesbians are hot’ #and like we are. but not for joey tribiani

[venndaai]

Can’t stop thinking about it though…. between K and Rue I think d20 has some of my fave nb rep of all time

#d20 blogging #most canon nb characters that I love have stories that have nothing to do with being nb #like the Radchaai who are cis in their society #or in Critical Role I also get the sense being trans #is not much of a problem for anyone #and mainstream trans narratives often leave me ice cold #but k and rue are both quite specific despite making use of magical metaphor #and they just really hit. damn. #…maybe also because they are both specifically femme nb narratives…

[citrusghost-etc]

would it work/be worth it to try to be cis again?

#transmasc #trans #tbh i know what i want #i want to be a man #im on t and love it #i experience dysphoria #and i want top surgery #but my parents make me scared that its a phase #and i think it would be a hell of a lot easier to just go back to being cis #i was able to live as a cis girl for three years after reallizing i was trans the first time #i think maybe i could do it again? #i just hate how conflicted i feel about this #i know i want to be a man #but i just. idk. its hard. i notice every female part of myself and wonder if i just didnt try hard enough to be a girl #i was like i jsut accepted that i was trans? and i havent tried to go back since so i dont feel like i gave it an honest shot at being cis #i guess #i tried so hard to hold onto womanhood this time aroung #i tried to be a demigirl librafeminine femme nonbinary...every feminine nb idenity i tried #but it just. never felt right. but i think i should try to be a cis girl again. its been a year and some months. maybe ill be able to #can dysphoria just go away like that? #these are all gen questions btw

[alastors-wife]

I love being a walking contradiction as a trans + gnc femme lesbian

#although I do wish I knew more people like me #I actually love the fact that I am just...by default so far from what people expect from femmes #I really love the idea of being physically androgynous and if anything leaning a bit more towards masc #but presenting more femininely when it comes to clothes n makeup #masc-adjacent body feminine everything else but in a very painfully obviously lesbian way #I want cis people in general and nonlesbians to be repulsed by me #but trans lesbians to be foaming at the mouth #this is my transition goals i am speaking it into existence

[princessefemmelesbian]

Not to be rude but a lot of white lesbians on here will see an attractive white(and especially if they're skinny, conventionally attractive, cis, and feminine) woman and go "omg she's so pretty and gorgeous and elegant, gosh, why are women so beautiful! I want her to hold me and hug me and kiss me!" but the second you see an attractive non-white woman(especially if they are fat, trans, dark-skinned, or butch, but lbr y'all do this to femmes of color as well due to how masculinized we are), suddenly y'all's brains short-circuit and you don't know how to complement us without depriving us of our humanity because you still internalized the idea that woc are wild impure animals and so out comes the "omg I want her to step on me and choke me and slap me across the face and make me her slave!!!" and y'all think it's okay because you're making yourself "subservient" to us but really all you're doing is reinforcing harmful stereotypes of woc as more aggressive, sexual, violent, inhumane, and less feminine, sweet, loving, and/or gentle than white women, and you guys think it's a compliment but it's really fucking not and I'm here to tell you that being a lesbian doesn't invalidate your white privilege if you talk about and fetishize lesbian woc this way. 😡

#lesbian #lesbophobia #racism #misogynoir #masculinization of black women #butchphobia #femmephobia #fatphobia #transphobia #transmisogyny #trans #trans women #black lesbian #black femme lesbian #femme #femme lesbian #butch lesbian #white supremacy #op #white femininity

[officialspec]

can you pleeeeease post your dm sexuality/gender hcs on here.... 🥺 i don't have a twitter but i wanna know. it's like a pandora's box to me now i'm like scratching at the door. let me in

heres the link 2 the thread (mild spoilers btw) ill post a transcript under the cut for ppl who dont have twitter

first off i think laios relationship to sex is super removed for like 50 reasons without even getting into his actual sexuality

he grew up in a place with very repressed ideas about sex and has a lot of fear about asserting his presence in situations

his special interest takes precedent over any social interactions he has and the level of closeness he feels towards people

he has a hard time figuring out his feelings towards other people both bc hes autistic and bc he has freaky deviantart fetishes that make sex in his mind a very abstract concept <- this one is me projecting mostly

that aside, i feel like gender-wise hes attracted to ppl so infrequently it may as well be entirely case-by-case

the idea of him being gay appeals to me from the 'raised with traditional values he Does Not fit into/hasnt begun to question it yet' perspective, i lauve characters who put a lot of stock into performing a role thats expected of them and fail miserably for unknown (gay) reasons

from his perspective tho i dont think he would ever really label himself anything. hes going to pride parades in the shirt+shorts Ally Fit to clap for his friends

hes also 'cis by indifference' imo... i love tmasc laios hcs it just doesnt mesh w his personal history to me. i do think hes got some kind of therian gender thing going on (not trans or nb but a secret third thing) but i cant see him changing anything abt his appearance/pronouns to accommodate that post-canon. hes just doin his thang

falin is in a similar boat for gender. i LOOVE tfem falin but the village repression thing has been bugging at me so i dont think i subscribe to it anymore (canon purist sorry) BUT if u hold that hc i am clapping and cheering regardless

instead i was propagandised to a while back and i LOVEEE the idea that being fused w a male dragon and the residual traits she has after being revived have given her a type of gender euphoria she didnt realise she was missing. a little boygirl swagger if u will

sexuality-wise i also dont think she would care to label herself, shes a lesbian by virtue of only being interested in One woman and zero other people. without marcille i do think shes still exclusively attracted to women, and i like to imagine she might experiment around a bit during her travels post-canon (pre-relationship). hearing abt it might put marcille on the news though

marcille is very simple That is a transfem lesbian. she cant get pregnant, shes obsessed w being femme and all that combined w her half-tallman struggles to be seen as 'properly feminine' by elf standards reads very transfeminine to Me. also her bookboy crush REEKS of comphet its not subtle

i think a more comfortable marcy might have the space to experiment w being elf butch like her manga boys but thats mainly self indulgence for me. utena could have saved her

senshi is gay his whole thing is abt not being able to perform dwarven masculinity to a proper standard (soft hearted, not as strong or rugged as his peers) which is like gaycoding 101. also hes a bear. homosexuality be damned by boy can work a grill

adding onto this i rly think senshi got some type of euphoria from being an elf in the changeling chapters. he was feeling himself so much i think he was using it as an outlet to have fun being a little fem and fruity without needing to justify it. do u understand

i dont have any particular opinions abt him gender-wise beyond that. his bulge is an essential part of his character design but i also saw a transmasc senshi a couple days ago that made me nod my head thoughtfully so i could go either way

chilchuck is cis and bisexual this is just canon. not even just his old man crush on senshi altho i do think thats very funny but they put his ass on a cover themed like hes in a dating sim with all the men and women in the cast and then slapped it in front of a chapter called "bicorn". i simply cant pass up that kind of overt signaling. its so fucking funny what else is there to say truly

izu to ME is a transmasc aroace lesbian (this one has the least basis in canon i just know it to be true) shes a little genderfluid with it nd uses he/she i think. i like to imagine she consistently uses masculine personal pronouns to refer to herself either way tho (boku, ore)

i think izutsumis gender/sexuality is entirely secondary in priorities to her body dysphoria. she has a lot of learning and acceptance 2 do before that kind of self discovery is on the docket and in my mind eschewing gender on some level is part of that. get sillay

shuro is cishet but at least he feels bad about it. next

kabru is a transmasc bisexual this is also practically text. his whole thing of being treated like a doll by milsiril to put in pretty dresses, plus i think it would be pretty easy for him to stealth in the west since tallmen are seen as inherently more masculine than elves

(i also think changing genders is just more common for elves. theyre androgynous enough that it wouldnt be hard and like who in their right miiiiind would be the same gender for 500 years. dwarves too)

i think he started presenting as male socially in the west but didnt need to consider medical transition until he moved to a more mixed culture where other races might see him as a woman

i dont have to explain the bisexual part. have u seen him

namari is a butch bisexual this is just canon straight up. shes not transmasc but i think the default settings for dwarven women is like 4 years of T regardless. shes a hit at all the local cruising spots despite her renfaire nerdisms i know this

and just bc im thinking abt em kiki and kaka are identical and kiki is tfem :} theyre both attracted to women but kaka is a sub so i forgive him

THATS ALL 4 NOW theres a lot of characters so i cant have thoughts abt all of them at once but i hope this was good. im right about everything forever as per usual

#ask #headcanons #passes out. my Mind #dunmesh