#as an allo-ace myself

[oc-factoids]

Tag the OC that’s allo-ace

Tag the OC that’s aro-allo

#as an allo-ace myself #lowkey sick of the very little rep we get being almost exclusively aro-ace #like don’t get me wrong aroace people absolutely deserve more rep!! #but when it’s the only rep we get it makes it seem like people who are one or the other HAVE to be both #does that make sense? #idk it’s almost midnight and I’m rambling oldie #shut up Allison #character prompt #character tag #oc inspiration #oc inspo #oc prompt #oc tag #oc questions #orginal character tag #original character

[miitopia-cake]

I wish some aces would stop excluding other aces with complex sexual experiences. like I get why but you have to realize that being ace does not mean they don't enjoy sexual experiences and it's weird when you complain about allo people and boil it down to "people who have sexual experiences" and also shame people for their sex life and kinks as if your own community doesnt INCLUDE those people. because there are other aces out there who still masturbate, who feel sexually attracted to their own body, who barely experiences sexual attraction but still enjoys sex, who like consuming sexual media, who like sfw kink. being ace is so so much more complex than just "disliking sex". and also aromantic exclusionism in the same genre of posts is something i see a lot. especially aro allos. I hate hate hate seeing a community that SHOULD be inclusive boil down sexuality and exclude people.

#okay to reblog #if you reblog this post to argue or whatever though im killing you this is about my personal queer experiences not a discourse post #feel free to add your own experiences if youre aceflux demisexual whatever. i love you guys. #rambling #rant #messy writing sorry #but as an aroace myself i just felt like i had to get it out i guess #i always feel like im not ace enough but im not allo enough to be either #aroace #arospec #aromantic #asexual #acespec #ace #aceflux #aroflux #demiromantic #demisexual #lbgtqia #lbgtq #queer #text post #vent #queer community

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[epicdogymoment]

gender and sexuality labels are so fucking hard how am i supposed to know how what i experience (already hard to pin down) compares to what "normal people" experience (completely unknown to me)

#leologisms #smthn smthn gender and sexuality labels are social constructs that exist within the assumption of a 'normal' experience #and a) i have no idea what EXACTLY that experience is supposed to be like b) im not fully convinced it actually EXISTS #youre telling me 'normal' people all experience attraction/gender in this ONE particular way? for real? youve gotta be lying to me #even ''''''normal'''''' (allo cishet) people talk about how their experiences with romance dont align with how its commonly talked about #how am i (transgay autist) supposed to know exactly what a 'normal' experience is in order to categorise myself in relation to it #more and more i find myself attracted to ambiguous identities because i have no way of defining myself more precisely that feels right #not male or female or even nonbinary but simply transgender. if 'gay' didnt carry the meaning 'homosexual' id probably identify more #strongly with it too (rather than bi) #for a while ive been wondering about ace identities but ive been reluctant to actually explore them too deeply because a) im afraid of #stepping on toes (for some reason. i dont know why.) b) im sure these labels ARE useful for lots of people but man. considering right now i #in a sort of. 'dont look at it too hard' space wrt my identities i dont actually think id even feel very comfortable w any of them anyway #do i experience attraction in a normal way? maybe. define normal.

[kxllerblond]

demisexual/romantic characters are my bread and butter because it's like they go from uninterested or confused or even disgusted by the concepts to like "oh ok. wait a minute. we're cooking. but just with this specific person i've connected to"

#clark who just uses sex as a tool and really doesnt care much for it as soon as he ends up with a partner: i mean ykno. actually....i might #fuck with fucking actually. #it depends on the partner too tbh he tends to mirror. like if he's got a hypersexual partner. bam he fuckin on the reg #but if he's got a purely no sex-ace or low drive or whatever partner. he mirrors that too #like sex is never really something he needs or seeks out #it just becomes something fun and enjoyable instead of a chore when he does it with someone he's connected with on a certain level #the romance side tho he will be down bad. he is insanely romantic (in his own way) once he's managed to actually #connect with someone to feel that way in the first place #anyway as a demi myself i think we're so funny because #it can just be like a light switch #and it's hilarious because it's so easy to gaslight urself you might not actually be on the ace spectrum but then you leave that situation #with that emotionally connected person or you try and imagine yourself out of it. and the switch flicks right back off lol #and you're like. Oh no yeah this is def not how the allos do it

[joejoeba]

care to share more on how you understand narancia and mista now? i’ve been here throughout you trying to understand them and i love to hear your thoughts

Not them necessarily but the dynamic that I created in my brain that intrigued me so

So my initial dynamic was; they're close in a diff way than just bros. Narancia is aro-ace and Mista is anything but. Somehow their relationship makes sense even though they're like opposites. But how??.

Me now? Shit dude labels do not fuckin matter. Romantic? Platonic? Family and found family and friends?? None a that shit matters any more than exactly what you want it to.

What I've been into lately is, if you love someone, thassit. No explanation needed because some things aren't for words. I am a believer in Mista and Narancia having a sort of bond that doesnt have a title because its unique; Narancia puts the most emphasis on friendship so Mista is a Best Friend, Mista puts an emphasis on romance and family so Narancia is a Beloved Found Family Member (non-familial, found family ain't the same as biological family). Its wildly different understandings of each other but the thing is they love each other just as much so it doesn't matter. Who give a shit? The Popo? Society? Neither of them adhere to any rules but Brummo's and their own so they just do whatever and get an understanding. And no one needs to know what's up, not even them, because how could you summarise human emotion anyway? Live and vibe and love each other the best you can.

#What is up it's me and my nonsensical words time #I love Young Justice the Comics and their dynamics. The quote 'let us love you the best that we can't really changed me #I believe that Mista and Narancia are two jokesters in a sea of grave and serious people and they just try to be there for the other I- #-that way. ALSO! I've decided I'm not into labels at all so the aro or allo thing is slightly less relevant #Yes aro-ace nara but Narancia loves so much regardless just not in a certain way #And mists is very allo both but he is all around a lover so he can adapt #I dont know if this change reads to anyone else but I been finding myself I guess and to me it makes sense #Love is like a whole thing why would you even try to put it in a box #Joejoeba not art #Not sorry that this makes like no sense lol

[arseniccattails]

I'm so sorry but if the writers of bes weren't trying to make Mizu trans then they stumbled into a nearly perfect historical trans narrative basically by accident. This really isn't me projecting, Mizu is not Literally Me. I am talking about Mizu having a vision of himself kissing Taigen only when he sees two men kissing. I am talking about gaining the rage fueled strength to demolish Fowler only after being referred to as female by him, when previously he was fading. Like. What.

Edit: Hello discourse blogs who may or may not find this post again, which is not in the main tag and is only tagged for spoilers: first you should leave me alone forever unless you have miraculously gained critical thinking and arguments that go at least a little beyond slinging the genetic fallacy around, and then you should ask yourself why being trans degrades a character in your eyes. And then you should do something better with your time on Earth 👍 I personally like volunteering at the local soup kitchen and invasive removal at my nearby nature conservancy, and also watching shows to enjoy them instead of to get mad at people on my phone.

#blue eye samurai spoilers #seriously. how do you do that by accident #ac speaks #hello writing team what were you doing #I do extremely mean that this isn't just Well I Relate To Mizu because the examples I used I don't actually relate to. #I am not stealth or out in every situation so angry reaction to misgendering isn't really. doable. #I'm not allo so. I don't think about myself when I see guys or ladies kissing. not a consideration.

[anthenasikes]

for like over a year after i starting thinking about if i was aromantic i was so horrifically upset and sad and blah blah blah ohhh no the horrrors i’m never gonna date anybody ever bro oh mo i’m so depressed about it. i was like . im never gonna date anybody and that is so terrible (i didn’t actually even want to date anybody and somehow that never occurred to me so i continued wallowing in despair or whatever) and now it’s been way way wayyyy more than a year and im like. im so aro im the aro ever thats literally the best thing ever fr. I look at every allo person around me and im like Wow! Thank Fucking God. Holy fuck rhank god i’m aro

#ok got out of bed to post this now going back to bed #all this allo shenanigans around me . literally could not be me #also this made me realize like two years or so ago that majority of my ocs were aro (and or ace) #like accepting it for myself made me realize it was in all my characters too #i think realizing shansong was aro was like a turning point #SONG IS SOOOO ARO. like i totally had her in romantic relationships but then like nah man. thinking back on it? holy shit that was not #romantic in her brain at all #lmfaooooooooOOOOOO #i do still have allo ocs #it’s just like. a lot of them .. i cant even say got hit with the aro beam— they just were already aro and i didn’t notice #ok rant over going back to bed i literally got out of bed to rant #hi mutuals

[vermillioncrown]

https://www.tiktok.com/@ceragibson/video/7213811648920964395

for the biomechanics!!(congrats on the defense)

so agree w the tiktok, i want to put it out there that most ppl writing about these huge schlongs have zero experience and have never forced the thought to its logical end

me and friend at the local sex shop for notes: where is it all going? are you using your eyes only?

(thank you 🙏)

#inquiry #Anonymous #biomechanics working group #one of my pet peeves is when (as a sex-neutral/repulsed ace person myself) other aces act like they are obviously better at writing sex #bc of being ace = decoupling the weird assumptions/conventions that allos have #which is fair bc some of the greatest and most interesting scenes i've read are from that approach! #but law of large numbers and i also see some of the... #1) blandest slot A tab B fare even when they're trying to be exciting (which is honestly so tragic) #2) some sort of interpersonal interaction that is beyond reasonable human convention. like i doubt this author holds real conversations-typ #3) outrageous ????? physically what the fuck is going on. are we kirby???? where does it all go?? #like you cannot better demonstrate that you are unwilling to dig deep and find an analogy that fits what you're trying to convey #or do a small thought exercise and walk things through #AGAIN the pet peeve only qualifies if: the author brags about it and falls on their face

[secrets-from-a-person-in-pieces]

what if i’m just allo?

#i am most definetly not allosexual #aromantic #asexual #am i aroace or just ace or what is happening #aroace #aro #ace #cupioromantic #lgbtqia #what if i am just allo #like what if i just fake this for myself

[oflgtfol]

sorry maybe im meanspirited but this aroace person on r/aromantic is like i understand allo aces but i need help understanding allo aros. like what is there to understand. bitch

#OK ALL THE COMMENTS ARE ALSO LIKE ‘WHAT IS THERE TO UNDERSTAND? ITS SIMPLE’ #ok im not mean all the comments are also mad at this person lmao 😭😭😭 #sorry i. this is incredibly intra community discourse but like #i will admit. ace people can be so fucking annoying about aro people and so yeah i often find myself irked by the ace community #and this person coming onto the aro subreddit of all places saying uwu i understand allo aces but not allo aros #‘​‘how can allo aro be ‘justified’ as an orientation’’ #like man fuck off ‼️‼️ #brot posts