#but that felt reductive

[spatteringstars]

The SBI dynamic really is just;

Two badasses: one with a history and skill frequently forgotten to the demise of those who underestimate him, and the other so notoriously powerful he was likened to a god.

An idiot with a guitar (and occasionally the weirdest but oddly compelling stories you’ve ever heard)

An idiot without a guitar (but occasionally a piano)

#Sbi #sleepy bois inc #tommyinnit #technoblade #philza #ph1lza #wilbur soot #Two skrungles and their ever suffering “making sure these kids don’t fucking die” #like yes #they’re all badasses and idiots in their own rights #but generally speaking #there is a pattern #I kept being tempted to remove wils parentheses #but that felt reductive #But it is funnier without the () #mcyt

[silverwhittlingknife]

poem: "accident report in the tall, tall weeds" by ada limón

#when i started fussing with this it was going to be a pitch for that never-made comic series where tim moves to blüdhaven #when dick is injured and helps out as nightwing for a while #but then it felt weird having visuals and no text #so instead you get this poem i'm very attached to #it's like mmm okay it's reductive bc this is not actually just the way that men love but the poem is so good <3 #dick grayson #tim drake #dick & tim #my comic art but we are using the term ''art'' loosely #since it's just copy-pasted pictures from the comics + unsplash photos + layering to add outlines/lighting #all the comic book art here is by marcus to + patrick zircher because they are my favorites <3 #so red robin + zircher's run on nightwing

[xboxfox]

chell pony

#learning to draw for myself again or whatever #portal 2 #portal #chell #mlp;fim #mlp #my little pony #her cutiemark is a halo becuzs angel of aperture or whatever. i didnt want it to be something robot or science related bc she existed- #outside of aperture at Some Point so it didnt make that much sense and felt reductive yk #even tho the halo is still related it can be separate . perhaps she is just a good person

[butterflysonnets]

yes i'm rooting for m*leven breakup because byler is neat but mostly? i'm rooting for m*leven breakup for the sake of el and mike.

to me, their romance was always a puppy love born out of a combination of social pressures, naïve curiosity, and a lack of true understanding regarding intimacy and romantic love and what it really is. it was real in that they do truly, deeply care about each other and they are close friends, maybe even shared an attraction, but a maturing romance is so much more than that. they've grown up and out of being boyfriend/girlfriend, and that's okay! i think television/film needs to show more often that most of us don't have definite "soulmates" or first childhood loves that we spend our whole lives with. it doesn't mean these relationships meant nothing and didn't impact us, it just means they've run their course and that something else is in the cards, and this is part of life!

i've always felt el was at her best and most confident self when broken up with mike, discovering who she was and what she liked alongside another girl her age instead of just relying on mike for mentorship on how to live in the real world. she deserves more of an opportunity to find herself, her autonomy, and her independence, and to love who she is, and she's made it clear she's felt insecure in the relationship with mike because she isn't being loved and understood the way she wants, needs, and deserves from someone who is her partner.

also, it's okay if mike doesn't love her in "the way he should". he is not obligated to love her romantically and stay in a relationship with her just because she's a girl, because she "needed someone", or because he cares about her a lot. he shouldn't be pressured into a romance if it's not truly coming from his heart. he deserves freedom to find out and honour who he is, too, instead of just staying in his non-functional first relationship — one he got into as a child, essentially — and defining himself that way because it's what's expected when a boy and a girl are close. he loves her in some way, yes, but it's okay if he doesn't feel comfortable or secure being her boyfriend anymore, for whatever reason that is. he's felt insecure too, and that's valid and it matters.

they are their own people and are steadily growing and changing every day. they need time to figure out who those people are, and it's become clear (at least in my opinion) that those people aren't meant to be a couple at this stage.

they deserve freedom. they deserve to grow up and be authentic to themselves and not feel like they need to lie for the sake of a relationship. they deserve to move on from this version of their relationship that isn't making them happy and rekindle the best part of their bond: their strong, beautiful friendship. they don't have to be a couple if it doesn't make them stronger and better and happier people.

i think it would be healthy and wonderful for a show, especially one consumed frequently by young adults, to show a relationship starting, progressing, and ending on good terms in this way. sometimes things don't work out, and that is okay.

#eve text #elmike #stranger things #byler #only tagging byler because i feel like yall will like this take lol #tagging tagging tagging WHAT ARE EVERYONE ELSE'S THOUGHTS #god i can't believe i'm making a post about stranger things. this feels like poking a bear #i'm not particularly anti m*leven but like... they'd have to do something pretty special at this point for me to feel like it's viable #i'm seeing the bts of s5 and it's got me Having Thoughts #elmike friendship is something i am so passionate about #even before i ever liked byler (didn't ship at all until s4 even though i knew it was a thing before) i've felt this way about elmike #i always believed they were close friends at heart and needed to break up #the romance part of them felt very distinctly young and very much “he was a boy she was a girl” to me #and it hasn't deepened into anything more mature and i don't see how it could based on the current state of the writing... #the fact that lumax exists — a young relationship that is actively maturing and is healthy — makes that clear to me #and the “love confession” in s4 and how disingenuous and miserable it felt was just the nail in the coffin #also the fact that will (who is IN LOVE with mike) was instrumental in making it happen? ... uh... okay... interesting choice… #fucked up and reductive if they make it another queer unrequited love sacrifice for the sake of pushing the heterosexual agenda YUCK #so i really hope the speculation about a m*leven breakup is real!! i think it just makes sense for their characters but who knows #i don't believe in the notion of love at first sight or one true love and i think the writers don't too??? #love to me is an accumulation of experiences and we inevitably choose it at some point rather than fall into it... but idk #tv is so fixated on keeping couples together... sometimes it's just not reality guys especially with young people... LET IT GO... #like i said though i'm not 100% sold that they're going to give up their “golden couple” LMAO #stranger things hasn't historically subverted too many tropes if i'm being honest #anyway i seriously need this season to come out quickly... i'm so bored and getting my master's is crushing my soul #i need frivolity #ALSO btw i won't respond to hateful messages about this so please don't bother. it's not that serious. this is a netflix show

[stil-lindigo]

emily carroll has once again permanently changed my brain chemistry

#i got my hands on her newest book recently and god. GOD #i finished that book and just lay down on the floor for an hour because i had to just absorb it all #it felt like coming out of the theater after watching ATSV for the first time #i was so full of adrenaline and the sheer impact of everything i read was hitting all at once #so perfectly paced so intuitively panelled #it feels so reductive to call myself a comic artist when emily caroll does too #shes so. she's just in an entirely different league #it feels like there should be a different word for her #im so far away from creating anything half as lifechanging as that book was #its so motivating and inspiring but its also like #fuck #FUCK #my work feels so damn juvenile in comparison #emily carroll i owe you my life #i need to rip this book apart (not literally) #i have so much to learn about writing and art #everyone read “a guest in the house” by emily carroll #i hope she gets all the accolades she could ever want or need #god #i need a tattoo of this book #expeditiously

[xylographica]

Gift

From the Cherokee First Fire story

#reductive #digital #lil sketch cuz I was itching to do art yesterday but I didn’t wanna make anything big #the imagery is from the Cherokee first fire story #it just stuck in my brain and felt like it’d be really fun to draw #and it was #and I bet this is gunna look huge on peoples dashes and you’ll be able to see exactly how low res it is #tsalagi #cherokee #ᏣᎳᎩ

[orinthered]

i id'd as femme for a while but idk... i hold all the love in my heart i possibly can for butches and i always will but i think my relationship to my own gender as well as my commitment to maintaining a certain presentation is incompatible with the femme lifestyle ;(

#i had a butch gf at the time so it was a lot easier to just call myself a femme so i felt like i was more 'complete' with them #though ive been thinking about it a lot now and its like. im just not really good at being a femme so i will not call myself that anymore #but i still love the community. i love seeing butchfemme love still. warms my heart #.txt #honestly the thing that kickstarted my whole thought spiral was me seeing myself in the reflection of a mirror and going 'man i wish i #- could get breast reduction surgery' sdghshghksdg

[biscuit-and-jam]

Just saw the finale and ,, man,,

#between this season getting its budget cut and the reduction of episodes and the finale being tied like that... #YOU KNOW hbo told this man ''you may get a s3 . you may not. plan accordingly'' #open enough to maybe do something for a new season but neat enough to be a fitting ending i guess #it really felt like hbo sabotaged this show so bad man they wanted this shit to fail fr #ofmd #our flag means death #my shit #ofmd spoilers #omfd s2 #ofmd s2 spoilers

[thesherrinfordfacility]

thought for the morning: have we considered that maybe the reason why aziraphale seems to regress back to thinking that heaven is redeemable and intrinsically good is because the voice of god has literally implied that heaven is currently broken by saying that he needs someone like aziraphale to run it, indicating that heaven by god's design was always meant to be good and they need aziraphale to change it back to how it was intended, because it stands for truth and light and good but right now it's not doing what it was set out to do

and that aziraphale might have come round to thinking through the centuries that heaven never ever was or will be the good place but actually now he's thinking maybe he was wrong maybe it was always meant to be the good place but it's been corrupted by others enacting their own free will and that free will being to misinterpret god's word, like the realisation he touched on in job "i dont think that is what god wants" and now not only could he make a difference because he wants to, but because metatron (and by extension in his eyes god herself) needs him to

#good omens #nonsensical ramblings on aziraphale? yes please #i realise this is a bit obvious but im trying to word it differently than ive previously seen #like if i worked for a company and was practically out the door bc of shitty management making ne think that the company is shitty too #but actually felt somewhere small and deep in my gut that maybe the company is honestly trying to do Good Things #and the big boss told me 'yeah youre actually spot in and the only one who sees that' and then 'work with me to get it back #to where it was always meant to be' #well #id probably accept #maybe thats a reflection on me and is pretty reductive but yk interpretation #aziraphale meta #feral domestic/final fifteen meta #s2 meta

[phoenixyfriend]

Hi there! I wanted to reach out and say thank you for jumping in and writing Sticky fingers all those years ago. It was a joy to read and then cover in our podcast episode that comes out tomorrow. If you're interested, you can find it as episode 17 that comes out 4/1/24. Our podcast name is One Hell of a Fanfic!

Thank you, this was very flattering! I'm not used to hearing people talk about my fics like this, and I couldn't stop grinning while I listened.

(The fic, and the podcast)

I feel like an important note for you guys regarding one point (about 27min in) is that Palpatine being involved in Shmi's abduction is from an early draft of the script of AotC. It's not canon canon, but it was definitely part of the plot in at least one iteration. I believe that at the time I wrote it, I was under the impression that it was a deleted scene, rather than a scrapped one.

The other thing of note is that the "Sidious helped cause Anakin" thing is similarly ambiguous canon; he and Plagueis did some Dark Ritual about the time that Anakin would have been conceived. Whether that directly caused Anakin or, as I believe was recently asserted, the Force created Anakin as a Light side backlash to the Dark Ritual... less clear.

Also, the whispering in particular wasn't really a germ thing; moist air on the ear is just a HORRIBLE sensation imo. The rest... projection. Ya girl's had OCD since high school and really overthinks germs.

Anyway, if you want recommendations for QuinObi fics, or fics where psychometry plays more of a role, I can dig through my bookmarks. It's definitely one of my preferred ships 😅

#onehellofafanfic #also yeah this was a 'get it out onto paper' fic. #a lot of the 'what happens after' is the sort of thing that gets covered in enough other fics that I felt it would be reductive or redundan #to write up yet more of it for this one. #phoenix answers asks #star wars #the clone wars #quinobi #sticky fingers

[postnuclearwar]

So at this point, 99% of politicians in this nation are no longer viable. Like, once you go full pro-genocide, it doesn't matter what you say you are for or what you do, you are an active threat to people's lives if you have any amount of power.

#genocide #israel palestine conflict #free palenstine #the system is beyond fucked #this shows quite clearly there are no left politicians left in the us #just various shades of right that are all supporting the rise of facism #harm reduction does not exist when both sides are pro-genocide #and that pro-genocide outlook is not exclusive to palenstine #there are genocides happening here at their hands #they just felt they could go full mask off at this time bc it's happening in the middle east

[evakant]

not calling myself a trend setter but i've noticed a slight uptick in people using "rs:" for their dynamics tags, you know, so like, (twirls hair) maybe.. 🤭🧡

#maybe i am. maybe you could call me a trend setter #it's actually a boring story but way back when i made the changr to ''rs:'' it was because i was tired #of having to use otp/brotp/ot3 #it felt reductive and most tags then had to come with some sort of desclaimer #''these are just relationships'' i said to myself and putting each in a box just takes too much time #so ''rs:'' for relationships was easier to adopt #i think it took me three days to change all the tags #but anything for The Archive. #fra.txt #ignore the typos

[raven]

sleep is supposedly "healthy" but to my body its just 8 hours of no water

#I NEED TO BE HOOKED UP TO AN IV AT ALL TIMES #straight up i felt so much better than usual the day after i had my breast reduction bc of all the water they pumped into me during surgery #im kind of like a sponge

[zainmalik]

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#well today i found out my adhd medication makes me more talkative #supposedly because i am able to organize my thoughts better and there’s a reduction in anxiety and all the constant stream of thoughts #i feel like i’ve talked A LOT today #i’m very sleepy but i still want to talk #it’s kinda funny i was already talkative but now it’s like i can’t stop #also being sleepy as a side effect #i guess it relaxes you? #but also the longer the day goes the medication wears off and it leaves you tired #yesterday i went to bed at 10 something pm #which is insane because i usually go from going to sleep from 2am to 5am #i’ve always had this anxiety about sleeping because it felt like i was missing real life #hmm something to discuss with my therapist next visit #but yeah i am able to organize my thoughts and my brain feels calmer #also happy to report intrusive thoughts haven’t bothered me!!! my brain is finally shutting the fuck up in regards to that #also i feel like i’m able to absorb information and understand better? before as much as i tried i just couldn’t #i really like that a lot #logan.txt #adventures in adhd

[horusmenhosetix]

Very confused, advice would be appreciated :’3 Long post

Hey there, I'm an 24 afab non-binary asexual who just discovered they were demiromantic. I just had bilateral mastectomy, i'm at about 8 weeks recovery. I am chronically ill and this illness has stopped my education and ability to work. I feel like I have wasted half my life and feel less real compared to my friends who are all around 20-22 years old at uni living their lives and progressing while i'm stuck in painful limbo.

My online friend from the discord friend group i'm in just came to the uk to meet up with us and I developed a huge crush on him. I find him aesthetically attractive and I felt like I wanted to be close to him and cuddle/kiss him which has only happened once before, to another online friend, and to a much lesser degree. I felt like I wanted to be attractive to him so that he would like me back. But, he is a straight 20 y/o M and my internalised acephobia said he'd never want to be with me in a sexless relationship. (My first and only relationship so far was with a high libido individual and they put constant pressure to have sex on me when we were together.) And then my internalised transphobia and body shaming came into the picture telling me he'd never find me attractive now my only appeal has gone, my D cup breasts.

Before, when I thought I was aro/ace (for the last 6 or so years), I stopped caring about my appearance and the thought of being sexually attractive to randos repulsed me. So I was completely fine and happy with my surgery, and I still am for myself I think (I don’t feel a profound sense of loss or anything), but this experience of romantic attraction has these self hating thoughts are swirling around my head now.

Society’s standards for beauty don’t last. I feel so superficial caring about this now after years of ignoring my body completely and having bilateral mastectomy I’ve wanted for 6+ years. I've never performed femininity before, wearing makeup, doing my hair, trying to be pretty and appealing etc. But these feelings of wanting to be attractive to this guy have got me questioning if my gender isn't more feminine. Maybe I should have just had a breast reduction. Idk anymore.

I went through a period of time thinking that because I didn't feel very feminine, dressing up for prom felt like putting drag on, that I must be FTM trans, so I did try going on testosterone for a while. But doing that made me realise I didn't want to be male, or that masculine. Maybe my bad self image was contributing to the feeling that trying to perform femininity was a mask. I don’t regret trying T because it helped me explore my gender more. I'm going to try and see if performing femininty makes me feel any different. I just have no idea how to being with make-up and stuff.

He was only there for four days, and I was only there for three of those. On the third day I confessed my feelings to him. He said a relationship wouldn't be a possibility due to logistical reasons and that he wasn't up for a long distance relationship. I asked if my being non-binary had any bearing on the rejection but he said no, actually. He also said he didn't have the mental capacity at the moment for a relationship. I thought he might be trying to spare my feelings but I haven't known him to do that, he's very honest usually. He said he was glad I was comfortable enough with him to tell him and that it hasn't ruined our friendship (I had said that i hope that it hasn't so this was in response to that).

So now I have all these feelings I don't know what to do with. I've had extremely low self esteem since I was a child, I hated myself for being different than everyone else. (I had undiagnosed autism until I was 18 and the symptoms made me feel like an alien trying to blend in with humans, and I still feel that way just slightly less i suppose) I feel like I'm not good enough for him, or anyone. I feel hideously ugly but I would never call anyone else that. I feel like i'm aging too fast and my life is slipping by and my illness has wasted more than half of it.

I know he'd going to find a lovely young lady who actually lives in his country who isn't asexual and can make him happy and it feels like metaphorical daggers to my heart thinking about it.

If you've made it this far thank you. I live in a smallish town and i've only met one lgbt person, that I know of, here. I don't have any lgbtqa friends to talk to so I was hoping to get some advice on how to deal with these feelings here, or if any of you have experienced anything similar. I thought I had my gender and sexuality figured out but turns out it’s a bigger mess than I thought.

#hixspeaks #non-sims #copying this from my reddit post #i just need advice and am trying to think this through #i'm so bloody gender confused #my my asexuality has impacted my body image more than i tought #thought* #i wish I had considered reduction but I was so sure I hated them #and wanted them off completely #i thought no one could love me anyway and the chance of me finding someone who wouldn't want sex felt minute #why am i the way that i am

[stabbingandorbeingstabbed]

i need to run away from home i need to move to a city and meet people who get it and i need to get my tits cut off for realsies this time like i've had enough actually. for the love of god

#my parents are being kind enough to pay for sessions with a life coach bc im very stuck and not at all sure what to do #and the bad news is that it's a woman from my old church #but the good news is that i've always liked her and she's the most normal person there re: non-christians #like we have a relationship that goes back 15 years and i've never once felt judged by her like i love her #and had NO IDEA she did the whole life coach thing #so im hoping that once we start this it'll be the active hand holding i need to like. pull me out of the rut i've been stuck in for like #almost a decade now #gonna have to wait on even thinking abt top surg tho bc i cannot see my family being super supportive of THAT and like #idk how to go about looking into how to do that like my insurance covered my breast reduction #bc i was still on my moms really good insurance and it was deemed medically necessary for my quality of life or whatever #and im SO GLAD i did it but u know what would be even better ?? never feeling the need to put on a bra ever again in my life #anyways. right now at this moment nothing has like materially changed but i think i can feel Something shifting #but that might just be me having a little bit of hope for the first time in a while lmaoo. bleak !!