Two things can be true at once:
1. Wanting queer people to be the storytellers of queer narratives is important, and it's okay to want queer people representing many queer experiences.
2. This does not, however, mean that queer people should put themselves in danger in order to be "good representation". We are not entitled to the queerness of others, just like nobody is entitled to yours.
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also it really is shit how several popular bloggers were like. Horribly bigoted towards ace people when it was cool, but once it stopped being trendy they 1) deleted those posts so receipts couldn't be pulled 2) maybe put up claimed "redactions" or said "omg its been years if you really wanna know wether i still hate those people dm me" but never apologized for their behavior lmao. I don't think any of the people who did that actually changed, I just think they know it's not such an acceptable/fun target to bully anymore. It's really sick how that type of bullying was encouraged for years and how few people repented for their behavior.
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Lindo Bacon
Gender: Genderqueer (they/them)
Sexuality: Queer
DOB: N/A
Ethnicity: Ashkenazi Jewish
Nationality: American
Occupation: Nutritionist, researcher, writer, public speaker
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i just think it would be cool to see multigender people represented in discussions of gender politics more frequently, which is to say more than never.
the same goes for discussions of art, sexuality, the trans experience, the nonbinary experience more specifically, representation in media, so on & so forth. i just think it would be cool if the community didn’t treat us like a phase or non-entity.
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ik its actually because you have to actually read and put a significant amt of effort in comparatively to like know enough abt mina and gideon to enjoy them over katya so the fan spaces for them are smaller compared to katya but the fact that gideon is the ONLY butch on the ENTIRE bracket and shes still is only getting just under 1/3rd of a three way poll (although thats still significant considering the popularity of goncharov) is. well it just brings me a lot of questions i guess abt the types of characters ppl are more willing to support over others
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this isnt about anyone or anything in particular just general fandom behavior ive seen but im begging people to rethink how they react to discussions about sexuality when it comes to lgbtq+ minor fictional characters. Fandoms aren’t teaching-learning spaces in the traditional sense by any means, but for queer teens (like a lot of us once were) sometimes it becomes the only space in which you are recognized.
the argument i see the most is about protecting minors and accusing everyone of being a creep at the slightest mention of implied attraction. but... by doing that you’re doing the opposite of protecting them😭. you can make a lot of queer kids feel like their attraction isn’t something natural. like they’re the odd ones out, especially if they grow up surrounded by their straight friends who get to talk about that openly and have a million stories to relate to.
I was just thinking about the way sttwt has been known to react whenever someone implies mike and will are attracted to each other and the way they treated authors about their fics in which they KISS.
im genuinely asking. do you not want lgbtq+ teens to grow up with stories they can relate to and make them feel less alone. and i don’t mean nsf//. im talking about being able to write fics which feature these conversations in a respectful way without people making authors go through hell. one of the best examples i can think of is the latest plot of the heartstopper comic. the characters are 16, in a relationship and they talk about sex, boundaries and consent with each other and their friends. And the thing is, coming of age stories about straight characters growing up include these topics most of the time. i do not understand why do you want it to be different for queer kids. you are making the same arguments as conservative people, the same ones they use to fire teachers who DARE to mention lgbtq+ kids exist too, the same ones they use in states where they’re controlling the school libraries (mind you im not even american, but i heard about it). you’re advocating for the wrong cause here i’m begging you to understand.
some heartstopper screenshots bc i love it and the Normal way in which the author (an adult. bc then there’s the ppl who demonize you as soon as you turn 18 and are still part of fandom spaces) handles the discussion of sexuality.
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How do you set boundaries with ppl about attraction. I’m a binary trans man and I prefer people who aren’t lesbians and/or people who are exclusively attracted to non-men attracted to me, but I feel awkward telling people to not be attracted to me
I think part of it is making it clear what your identity is, honestly. And I'll be honest, it can feel weird to know certain people are attracted to you, I totally get that. However, I'd definitely encourage you to try not to look too deeply into it. Attraction is weird, it can manifest in weird ways, and sometimes it isn't even necessary that the person attracted to you will... do anything about it.
There are definitely ways to set that boundary that can be... crass, I suppose. I'd encourage you not to do so, such as antagonizing people solely for being attracted to you. I find that simply causes more conflict and heartache for both parties. Now, if the person is trying to force you into a relationship, that's one thing, and I'm not talking about that.
I think a simple, "I'm very flattered, but I'm a trans guy, and I'm not really comfortable or ready for a relationship like that" can do wonders. Like, I totally get where you're coming from, but I want to emphasize that many times, people attracted to you aren't doing it inherently in bad faith. Attraction is something you can't really prevent or stop. You can make it clear what interactions you want, but it doesn't invalidate your manhood if somebody is attracted to you, y'know? That's something they don't have power to do, and I think knowing that can make it easier to say to yourself, "they might be attracted to me and that doesn't change anything about who I am."
I hope this makes sense. If somebody doesn't respect who you are after that, then that is on them, not you. You aren't required to explain yourself further. You aren't required to reciprocate if somebody expresses attraction.
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Yeah, this is why we need to be having discussions about transmisogynoir and general antiblackness within the lgbt spaces online cause what do you MEAN you couldn't think of a comparable situation when Black bloggers are literally being shadowbanned and sniped left right, and center? Do you know how many Black trans women have been harassed off of tumblr? Just during the summer of 2020 alone? I'm not about to waste time talking over things that have already been said but like, again, what the fuck is wrong with yall???????
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