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rhaenyras · 7 months

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I met my current boyfriend a year ago, when I moved to his country (Denmark) for work. But I feel I’m going crazy and I don’t know what to do.

One month after meeting each other he had already said he loved me. One time, I told him I was meeting an old (male) friend for a drink and he gave me an ultimatum: if I met him, he would break up with me. He has gone through my phone multiple times and has said he doesn’t want me to meet my best friend because he says she’s disrespectful. He has said he doesn’t want me to go out later than a certain time in the afternoon (I don’t go out much anyway). He has said he hates my cat and has given me an ultimatum: him or the cat. He has said he’d come with me to meet my family but cancelled at the last minute.

We’ve lived together for four months and he has threatened to leave me several times. He has said I’m the biggest mistake of his life and has asked me to block all my male contacts.

He said he had bought me a ring, but because I had lied to him, he didn’t give it to me. When he was away for work for a few weeks, I decided to go on a trip with a friend, and he went crazy.

He can be very charming sometimes but I don’t think his behaviour is normal. Can you help me?

yeah, his behavior is anything BUT normal. he's controlling, manipulative and overall just a bad boyfriend. it's like... he's using this dangling carrot of a "ring", "meeting your parents", "a marriage" etc. to manipulate you, isolate you and make you compromise important parts of your life and personality for him. his ego is only gonna grow to gigantic proportions while you're gonna shrink down to squeeze into his stifling idea of a perfect girlfriend and it will feel like a cage. even if you somehow managed to change yourself so drastically and he somehow started to approve of you, your friends, your lifestyle etc., you would still feel dissatisfied with the relationship on the whole because the sense of having lost more than you have gained won't let you be at peace with yourself. i can't really help you other than by telling you all this in the most honest way i know. and you know what's the most disheartening thing here? you're betraying yourself and your friends to coddle the fragile ego of a manipulative man who doesn't even like you, because if he liked you and how you live and what you like doing, he wouldn't be asking you to give up on fundamental sides of yourself just to be with him. you can't make yourself small just because he's insecure. his insecurity should not be your problem. he's not worth it and if you do compromise even more than you already have, you're gonna end up missing yourself and your old life more than you'd miss him if you just dumped him while you still can. i know all this because i used to be just like him. i was that type of controlling possessive emotionally abusive insecure girlfriend too, so i know what im talking about, except at the very least i made my partners feel the most loved they'd ever felt on this earth. i was hurting them alright but at least it wasn't just to feed my ego and i tried to give as much as i took from them. he can't even do that for you. so think about it

#don't lose yourself and don't compromise your very essence for someone who doesn't even like you #or simply won't do the same for you #ask #anon #anonymous

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puttingherinhistory · 4 months

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Everyone has the potential to fall victim to being indoctrinated into a cult. Anyone can be sexually assaulted. Anyone can become a victim of an abusive relationship. Yes, even if you're intelligent and strong willed. Yes, even if you think you're tough and "don't take shit from anyone".

If you've never found yourself as the victim of a cult, or sexual assault, or abuse, the only thing separating you from people who have been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse is circumstance. That's it. Sheer luck. Luck over what family you were born into. Luck over who you were surrounded by when you were emotionally compromised or in any way vulnerable. Ect.

You are not better than people who have been victimized. They didn't do anything wrong to ask to be victimized. Anyone can be victimized by these situations given the perfect storm of circumstances. You are not better than people who have been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse.

You need to understand that if you are lucky enough to have never been victimized by cults / sexual assault / abuse, it's very little to do with how smart or strong you are or you doing all the "right" things. Someone can be smart and strong and do all the right things and still find themselves a victim given the perfect storm of bad circumstances.

The sooner this can be understood, the sooner we can do away with victim blaming culture. And the sooner we can do away with victim blaming culture the sooner atrocities like cults, sexual assault, and abuse can stop being so prolific. Victim blaming culture allows these atrocities to thrive. And they will continue to thrive until we shift the blame to where it rightfully belongs.

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pholla-jm · 18 days

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Heir

IMAGINE: HEIR ~ SUKUNA X WIFE!READER GENRE: FLUFF cw: sukuna is a bit ooc. fem!reader. not proof read. set in the heian era. true form sukuna. ***************

If someone were to tell Sukuna that in some years that he would have a wife, he would laugh at them… and then kill them.

But here he was, thinking about how his beautiful wife looked with a small bump on her tummy. It’s all he could think about really. Ever since he found out his wife is pregnant, his view of the world changed.

Sure, he still thinks that humans were lowly disgusting vile, but the world seemed like a better place with you and his future child in it.

His every day activities seemed a little less fun now, and all he thought about was getting back home to his wife.

After a day full of people worshiping him and some killing, he made his way back to his castle. Where his wife should be patiently waiting for him.

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“What do you think you’re doing?” You hear the deep voice of your husband call out causing you to jump a little.

He had found you in a different room. It was bare at first, but you were starting to add things to the room.

You were working on a traditional crib for the baby, having different silks laid out in front of you to choose.

It was a bit early to start getting ready for the baby, but you were too excited.

You turn to look at him. He towered over you, with his four arms crossed as he looked at you with a disappointed look.

“I just want to make sure that the baby’s room is going to be perfect.” You say turning back to the silks.

Sukuna hums, sitting down next to you while observing the objects in front of you.

“How long have you been doing this?” You shrug, “not that long.”

“You could always have the servants do this, you know? You shouldn’t be working so hard.”

“Yeah, I know. I just feel like if I do this myself, it feels more special.”

Sukuna breathes out a happy breath, leaning his chin on one of his fists. He knew that you would make a great mother. Someone that is nurturing, and he knows that his future son will be loved and taken care of.

“Still, you should be taking care of yourself. It’s important that you and our son are completely healthy.”

You perk up hearing the word ‘son’. “Son? It’s a bit too early to know the gender.”

Sukuna just smirks, eyeing you up and down. “Trust me, I know it’s going to be a boy.” You laugh, “oh yeah? How so?”

He points at your belly, “It’s lower. A low stomach means it’s going to be a boy.”

Your eyes widen and you look away from him in disbelief. “Where did you even hear that? I didn’t know you believed in old wives tales anyway.”

“It’s not an old wives tale if it’s the current talk.” “The current talk? What, are you gossiping with the local ladies now?” You laugh at the idea of Sukuna gossiping causing him to frown. “Whatever woman. What they say is true.” “Okay, we’ll see.”

"I don't want you working on this room by yourself anymore. I have to be here to help you, okay?" You nod your head, a bit happy that Sukuna came up with a quick compromise. "Sound good to me. You can do all the heavy lifting."

Sukuna nods, then points at one of the silks that are laid out in front of you. It was a darker colored one, something that you knew he would like. “This one. It’ll be great for our son.”

You decide not to comment on the son thing again. With a smile, you pick it out and put it to the side.

Pushing your hands on the ground, you start to get up from the ground. “What are you doing?” “I have to use the bathroom.” You say. However, Sukuna gets up faster than you. He gently picks you up, carrying you bridal style. “I can walk by myself.” You tell him with a small smile.

You appreciate that Sukuna doted on you like this, but you don’t know how long you would be able to babied like this.

“When I’m around, you’re not doing a single thing. You understand?”

With a content sigh, you relax in his arms. Head resting on his shoulder, hearing the faint sound of his heartbeat.

“Yes, my beloved, I understand.”

#jujutsu kaisen #jujutsu kaisen x reader #jjk x reader #oneshot #jjk fluff #jjk #sukuna x y/n #sukuna x you #sukuna x reader #sukuna fluff

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angelltheninth · 2 months

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Alastor Watching You Finger Yourself

Pairing: Alastor x Fem!Reader

Tags: nsfw, smut, fingering, masturbation, being watched, following orders, clit stimulation, orgasm control, teasing, ace!Alastor

A/N: Once again, me projecting, hope you don't mind but writing Alastor as a sadistic ace is something so... personal to me.

Makes an effort to have the least amount of contact during sex

Unless he can keep most of his clothes on

But then they end up covered in all kinds of body fluids

This is a good compromise

Besides he loves watching you reach orgasm, it's one of the main reasons he even agreed to this

It's how he gets off, one of the only ways

Alastor always finds ways to control the situation

Even from sitting in a chair while you're on his bed with your legs spread open and fingers working in and out

While he is listening to your moans and pussy squelches you are listening to his words, his commands

Soon as he says stop you stop, letting out a frusturated cry

Alastor humms and chuckles at your whining as his antlers elongate, the Radio Demon taking delight in seeing you beg and squirm for more

Usually people beg him to stop

You would too, this is a pretty twisted form of torture in your opinion

Being denied the pleasure and release you crave so much

Making it even worse he tells you to pull your fingers out and taste yourself for him

Tell him what you taste like

While that's happening he wants you to use your other hand to slowly and gently rub and tease your clit

He knows you need both clitoral stimulation and penetration to achieve orgasm and he's kept those seperate this whole time

Regardless of how much you want to come you'll listen to his orders because deep down you know it will be well worth it

As Alastor leans his chin on his hands and tells you to put your fingers in again you catch a glimpse of his bulge, twitching in anticipation

Watching you is all he needs in order to come, without even touching himself

#hazbin hotel x reader #alastor x reader #hazbin hotel imagine #alastor imagine #hazbin hotel headcanon #alastor headcanons #hazbin hotel smut #alastor smut #hazbin hotel x you #alastor x you #hazbin hotel x female reader #alastor x female reader #hazbin hotel #alastor #alastor hazbin hotel #hazbin alastor #x female reader

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uglyducklingofthe2000s · 30 days

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They Wouldn't Understand - LN

Dark fic 18+ - if you don't like this or the warnings/themes make you uncomfortable. I can't stress this enough, DO NOT READ THIS

Summary: Lando starts dating y/n, and despite his red flags, y/n loves him. Lando's not going to let her listen to anyone who tries to get in the way. What do they know?

Theme/warnings: toxic relationship (with Lando), manipulation, purposeful isolation, jealousy, gaslighting, possessiveness, controlling behaviours, smut ;)

naive/innocent/sweetheart!reader

No part 2 requests please - Also bc of this not being my usual content I haven't put the taglist on just incase someone who usually reads my fics would rather not read darker content

Lando wasn't always like this. At least not in his head. He'd watched others speak to y/n and tell her to be careful, to not jump into the relationship head first.

He's only relieved she didn't listen.

By the end of the first 2 weeks he'd got her away from her meddling friends and to Monaco. They're thankfully entirely out the picture after an argument which she spend defending him, then in tears she cuddled up to him while saying she didn't understand and that they just didn't know him like she does.

It's not as if Lando doesn't love her, in fact he loves her so much he doesn't want anyone else involved. Y/n is the centre of his world and he doesn't want anyone to threaten that.

"Baby, I know it's hot. But you can't walk around the paddock like that." Lando states with a frown as he sees her choice of shorts which very nearly show the apex of her thigh and a bralette.

"Really?" Y/n mumbles looking down then sighing.

"You know I just want to protect you...not everyone is going to look at you and think nice thoughts like me...I'd love to see you walk out like that, if I knew other people wouldn't judge you for it." He also hates the thought of any other many seeing more of her body if he can help it.

"I know. I'll change." Y/n smiles lightly genuinely believing that Lando is just protecting her.

Y/n changes into a light summer maxi dress, it might show some of her chest, but Lando will compromise that and maybe he can get her in a jacket later.

"I love this dress. You look beautiful." Lando smiles gently kissing her before he checks the time and sighs. "Time to get going."

Lando and y/n walk through the paddock, Lando keeping a tight hold on y/n and walking with her almost pressed against him. His body very much blocking largely blocking the view of y/n from the front as they walk.

He always wants her close and he always wants to hide her as much from cameras, fans, other team personnel and especially the media.

There's been a few unappreciated comments saying y/n is out of Lando's league or she's not his type by the likes of Alex and George. Not meaning any harm in saying it, but Lando would've liked to throttle them both for the comments. Then there's fans online, and actually they do talk about y/n in such a vulgar way that Lando wants to genuinely protect her from them.

"Lando." Zak greets then leaning around to smile at y/n who is smiling slightly peaking out from behind her boyfriend. "Hi, y/n."

"Hi, Zak." Y/n smiles stepping out a little while Lando clears her throat and kicks into a conversation about the weekend.

Lando won't fault y/n for talking very briefly with Zak. He's not even very fond of her talking to Oscar or Jon unless she's feeling entirely rude for ignoring them. But really he tries to minimise her interactions with anyone else in the entire paddock. Most of the paddock just assume she's quiet.

"Right, we're just getting to my room." Lando states at the end of the conversation when Zak asks what they're doing first. He shifts his hands from holding hers to holding her waist as he pulls her in front of him.

As soon as they get to his drivers room Lando sighs pulling her back into himself and kissing her neck.

"Alright, baby. Where do you want to place yourself for the day?" Lando asks while he smirks a little at her.

"I don't know. Where do you want me?"

"You can just stay in here if you'd like. Out the way so you're not getting trampled by crowds or bothered by anyone." Lando states watching her try to hide her disappointment that he is suggesting she just stay in the unit. "I'll come back and get you later when I've got the seat fitting in the garage. Ok?"

"Ok." Y/n nods, smiling when he kisses her.

"You ok?"

"Yeah. I'm good." Y/n confirms then swallowing. "Thursdays always good quickly."

Lando nods stroking his thumb over her waist for a moment, his gaze almost burning through her.

"You know I'd bring you out to watch us do all the media, but everyone is rushing around and getting in the way and I don't want you getting hurt. Especially with fans, they might try to hassle you and I don't want that. Not after the last time."

The last time being when some fans decided to tell her exactly what they'd do in order to treat her better than Lando does. In ways that had them thrown out and y/n in tears. It worked perfectly into Lando's hands for her latching onto him for safety, but he was too caught up in his rage and doing everything to have the fans ban for what they said. He only noticed after he'd calmed down that y/n had been desperately holding onto him.

Some fans really don't like Lando, and y/n is just collateral damage of that dislike. Plus she's gorgeous and Lando is more than aware he can't let her slip out his grasp. That's why he is so protective of her the way he is.

Lando smiles as he lifts y/n up and puts her into the cockpit of the car and then pushes his helmet down over her head.

She changed into some borrowed joggers and a McLaren t-shirt since she couldn't get into the cockpit wearing her dress and Lando is definitely not mad about seeing her in a number 4 McLaren top and much more covered up.

"How do I look?" Y/n grins through the helmet making Lando smile down at her.

"You look amazing. As always." Lando states only for Will to appear moving to talk to him and catching his attention from y/n momentarily.

Y/n ends up pulling his helmet off and just watching him talk in a pretty intense conversation. It actually goes on a while and a mechanic ends up noticing her looking a little stranded in the cockpit.

"I can help you, love." A mechanic states making the rest of the mechanics grimace since they know not to cross such a line when it comes to y/n.

"Oh, thanks." Y/n smiles but as soon as she begins to shift, Lando has paused his conversation and is looking at the mechanic.

"I got her mate. Thanks." Lando states and wisely the mechanics reads his tone and expression enough to know to back off. Usually Lando is never so seriously or cold towards them but he draws the line with y/n. "Come on baby."

Y/n resists the urge to send a sympathetic but grateful smile to the man and instead just focuses on standing up and being lifted out with the help of Lando before she is placed on the ground.

"You ok?" Lando asks making her smile and nod then kissing him softly.

"Yeah, I'm ok." Y/n nods before Lando flicks his gaze, presumably to the mechanic but she just smiles at him. Her hands sliding around his waist as she hugs him.

Y/n isn't entirely stupid, she knows Lando might be a little more jealous and possessive than other men. But she doesn't really think there's anything wrong with that. Lando is the way he is because he loves her.

"Alright, come on baby." Lando mumbles patting her tummy where his hand had been keeping her pressed back against himself, making sure he had her closely kept pressed to him.

Lando guides her through the garage then switching her to her usual spot somewhat to the side but behind him as he links their hands.

"Are you hungry?" Lando asks making her nod a little. "Go up to my room. I grab us something."

Y/n moves up to his room mumbling hi's and how are you's to staff as she passes, never wanting to come across as rude.

When Lando appears he places down a poke bowl which is one of his go-to meals and she's always more than happy to just stick to his diet.

"I like seeing you in my clothes. Especially in my number." Lando comments suddenly once they finish eating making her smile and look up at him. "I would just always have you in my clothes if I could."

"I like wearing your clothes...even if they're a little baggy on me."

"You look beautiful in baggy clothes." Lando states with a small smirk then holding out his hand for her to take which she doesn't hesitate to take and allow him to guide her over. "But I do like what's underneath the most."

"But what if someone walks in?" Y/n mumbles then swallowing as he pulls her down.

Lando's been hard since he had her pressed against her after he got her out the car. He's already wait for them to eat, but he wants her now and thankfully y/n is always compliant.

"I'll tell them to go away. What do I tell you?"

"No one else gets to see me like that. I'm all for you." Y/n states then obediently moves her own hands down to pull him out as she stands up kicking off his joggers and her underwear before she climbs back onto him suddenly very eager before she sinks down on him. Maybe a little dry but she shudders at a ripple of pleasure from being filled.

Lando is actually patient, letting her adjust and feeling her grow wetter around him before she hums a little as if trying to contain louder noise as she holds his shoulders.

"That's it baby." Lando soothes as she begins to pull up up with the aid of his hands on her ass.

He ends up controlling the pace, pushing her down on himself till his tip is brushing her cervix and then eventually beginning to knock it hard with every thrust as he thrusts up, somehow getting deeper while she tries to contain any noise. After all these paddock units are not made of bricks. She wouldn't be surprised if people can hear them anyway and are aware of their activities.

"Fuck baby, you always feel so good." Lando grunts feeling her begin to sweet him at those words, the lust in his voice having such an effect that it's not long before she's completely seized on him. Feeling his own orgasm be triggered as he slams her down on himself, filling her with his cum. Her so tightly around him that it fills the space and leaves her feeling the pressure of being so full and she can't contain the moan that passes her lips at the feeling. "Good girl."

Lando holds her there for a few beats before gently setting her down beside him.

"Alright baby. let's get you dressed." Lando states after giving himself a bit of a clean up and tucking himself away.

"But your-"

"Next time someone wants to try and touch you, they can do it while you know my cum is leaking out of you." Lando cuts off making her remain quiet as he helps her back into her underwear and then his joggers. Gravity not quite having worked to make his cum leak back out of her yet but she can feel the movement.

"What if someone sees?" Y/n mumbles earning a small smile as he moves his hand to tip her chin up as he leans over, stopping just short of her lips.

"The joggers are black baby, no one's going to see. That felt good didn't it? And you like being full of my cum." Lando states then kissing with a very hot and heavy kiss that she can't even stop herself from melting into. "I want to see my cum all over you later when we're back at the hotel, so don't even think about about trying to clean it up."

Y/n actually feels herself twitch at the thought of what he might have planned later and how she's going to feel when it happens. If there's one place she'd never ever try to deny Lando excels it's in the bedroom, or in this case in his driver's room.

She ends up spending a couple hours being pulled around feeling the cum leak out of her, soaking her underwear which is hardly anything that protects the joggers from at least coating it from the inside along wish the top of her inner thighs where it's dried out too.

When they get back to Monaco, Lando is almost relieved to be able to confine both himself and y/n to his apartment. No interference and no random people trying to get close to y/n.

Though Lando has gone out to have dinner with some sponsors. He certainly was not going to have Y/n dress up nice and be the only woman there playing as eye candy for the men.

"Y/n?" Lando calls out as he returns home. "Baby?"

Y/n appears from the hallway and he feels an instead heat rise from the sight of her eyes bloodshot and puffy.

"What's wrong?"

"Nothing." She mumbles moving to hug him with a very small but forced smile. "Missed you."

"Baby, tell me what's wrong?" Lando frowns as she sniffles. "Did you hurt yourself? Did someone say something online?"

"No. No. My mum called and said all my friends have been messaging saying that you're a bad guy and that you're going to hurt me and they're scared for me. So she wants me to go home for a bit."

"What did you say?" Lando questions immediately making her swallow. "You're not going back to England just because some fucking assholes think they know what's going on, y/n. What am I doing that's so wrong?"

"Nothing. I don't think you're doing anything wrong." Y/n rambles shaking her head.

"So you want to leave me for doing nothing wrong? You know they're just trying to get between us and now they've pulled your mum in because they think she has the power to get between us in the way they didn't. You're really just going to give them what they want?" Lando questions then scoffing as he steps back. "If you don't want to be with me just say rather than trying to put it into others."

"N-no. I want to be with you. They're wrong. I just want to prove it to them. I want to tell them." Y/n panics trying to move closer.

"If they don't support us then why do you even care about them. Baby, if your mum cared then she wouldn't upset you and make you cry because you're in a safe and happy relationship."

"You're right. You-you're right." Y/n nods feeling her heart thump in her chest.

"Why would you even want to talk to you mum if she's going to be as bad as them? What kind of mum is that unsupportive?" Lando questions making y/n blink a couple times, tears gathering in her eyes and Lando sighs. "Baby, how many times do I have to tell you? All these people they're just jealous that you're happy and they're trying to ruin this?

"I know. I was just thinking about going home. But I told my mum I'd talk to you and you're right." Y/n states then swallowing thickly while Lando sighs gently at her. "I'm sorry. I think they mean it from a good place."

"You wouldn't be upset if they meant it from a good place." Lando sighs softly as he moves closer to her and gently pulls her closer. "I love you, I'm just sick of people thinking they know anything."

Y/n nods then smiling as she loops her hands around the back of his neck.

"I just need you." Y/n smiles then sighing. "Anyway, now you're back. How was your dinner?"

Lando knows y/n is locked in. She's really just dismissed her own mother in favour of him and she's still looking at him with absolute adoration.

He still doesn't want anyone thinking they have a chance so he's not going to chance how he is with her and really he's not going to stop till he's cut everyone who poses a threat out of her life. Family, friends or not.

Y/n is gonna be all his. At any cost to herself or the other people who love her.

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