#don't even talk to me

[pdouwes]

epic iii · and brother, you know what they did? they danced. » 12/?

{ patrick page & jewelle blackman }

#don't even talk to me #broadwayedit #musicaltheatreedit #musicalgifs #hadestownedit #hadestown #hadestown the musical #hadestown broadway #hades #persephone #patrick page #jewelle blackman #mine #*g #*e3 #(c) lasagna

[maxsix]

#i think i just like the way he walks #choi san #san #ateez #i can't even #don't even talk to me #about any of this #i just can't EVEN

[thefairfolk]

you, a fool: yeah i love this mxtx character but- *lists their crimes passionately*

me, an intellectual: *simply loves everyone*

#mxtx #mxtx characters #@ the previous post #how do you genuinely and sincerely hate any of them #how do you actually sit and type “they deserved this” about ANY of them #this is mainly @ jiang cheng and qi rong haters #sure imo jc is so many levels higher than qr #but literally why slander either of them #or anyone tbh #y'all loved ling wen being a queen but as soon as she took the brocade immortal you're turning against her #don't even talk to me

[ask-the-rpg-3]

Hey. Just some boundaries here. If you support proshipping, inc*st, transphobia, homophobia, the whole nine yards etc etc

Get the hell away from me and my blog. Thank you very much.

#just had to ban one from the discord #and if you're still here buddy #don't even talk to me #sock talk

[slipknot-simp]

♡

#don't even talk to me #this makes me so soft god #he was so kind to the fans I wish I could have met him :( #i miss him so bad :( #slipknot #joey jordison #murderdolls #♡ #my post

[sesquipedalianscribbler]

I need everyone to know that I am being SO normal

#this is about pedro pascal this time #don't even talk to me

[bullshit-bulltrue]

it's different when i say i lack braincells in a joking way, but if someone says that (jokingly or not) about me and i don't talk to them much/anymore i fucking hate it

#like bitch what #i don't like you #don't joke about me #don't even talk to me #lee ren smad hours #like i've obviously haven't been responding for a reason #you insult things i love #why would i talk to you and why would you talk about me

[after-nine-at-the-oasis]

IT HAS OFFICIALLY BEEN ONE MONTH SINCE SOMEONE POSTED IN THE WOPEZ TAG AND THAT IS SIMPLY UNACCEPTABLE!!!

SO

anyway I love them <333

#I just #listen #LOOK AT THEM!!! #they are the best <3333 #(dw everyone's the best lol) #the rookie #wopez #my little babeys #thank you very much <3 #or thank you for coming to me ted talk lol #anyway xD #they ❤️❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰 <33 #also the way the look at each other?? #don't even talk to me #I love them so much <333 :')) :DD!!!

[gideonisms]

Songs that simply [unintelligible radio static]

#i am biting and chomping #it's not enough to hear this song i have to eat it #not the let's put this first draft dream of mine to bed of it all!!! #not the annie laurie of it all!!!! #don't even talk to me #edit the song is acolyte by. slaughter beach #if you too want to feel indescribable alecto emotions on this day

[kero-verdade]

this prince gyesong storyline is making me SOB oh lord

#yes i'm 3 wks late sorry #BUT THIS IS SO 😭😭😭 #SHE ACCEPTED HIM BUT WANTED TO PROTECT HIM #OR HER OR THEM #don't even talk to me #under the queen's umbrella #mine

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

#yeehaw #1k #5k #10k #posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours? #also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that! #unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference #edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense #also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags #1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now #he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic #2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign #like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock #3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing #it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is #extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once #it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life #i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about #Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect #if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it #aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week

[dreamsyouleftbehind]

of course the us get rancid and smashing pumpkins supporting green day and the uk doesn't.

#don't even talk to me

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[cruelsister-moved2]

for real! (from kadji amin)

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What I've realized is that I believe that the matter of gender is practical and relational. It's not about who you are inside, it's more about how you would feel most comfortable in the world. It's not 'Who are you?' but 'How do you want to live?'

Had that been the discourse when I was coming up, I would have breathed a sigh of relief. I don't have to figure out who I am on the inside, I just have to figure out how I want to live.

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#and I kind of felt really sad when they were talking about how like they feel in some ways figuring yourself out is way harder now #bc there is this pressure to like figure out who u Really Are Inside #and instead of being like well maybe my identity goes far beyond gender and like i don't need to find some microlabel #in order to like define who is Me #it's become very fixated on like categorising ur gender rejection in a way that ends up just. making even more genders to constrain u #it's hard to summarise it was like v wordy but I thought this part was so true #for sexuality as well not to tack it on but we have really gotten into the same mindset w sexuality now as well #THANK U @VAKAVANHASAATANA for the ID it wont let me @ you in the text </33

[arataka-reigen]

I'm trying to start a movement here

[ID: The first 3 images are edited versions of the "Let's take ibuprofen together" meme. The captions now say "Let's read shoujo together". They each show a person holding their hand out to the viewer; a character from the series Benigyokuzui, Mob from Mob Psycho 100, and Jerma. / end ID]

ID provided by @siroofington thank you so much

#and don't even think shoujo is just romance. you cant even begin to understand the rich world of shoujo. join me in this beautiful journey. #let's read shoujo together #<my tags from that other shoujo post #i was definitely referencing the let's take ibuprofen together meme #gi talks #shoujo #anime #shounen #my happy marriage #natsume yuujinchou #akatsuki no yona #requiem of the rose king #colette decides to die #basara #just tagging a few off the top of my head that don't include only romance so more people can check them out #i haven't read all of them but i heard great thinga #josei #josei is also a dying art form and i'll just lump josei and shoujo together tbh #kimi ni todoke #1k #gi talks animanga #1 #b

[catsauceeartofficial]

Accepting isolation, craving belonging

#art #digital art #comic #long post #this is kind of vent? #I don't want to be all I had a rough childhood wahh #I just find it bizarre to have so many little aspects of my childhood shape me #I crave isolation #I thrive in isolation #But I want to belong #I want to intimately know someone #and I want someone to intimately know me #This is to all the people who have loved me #even if we dont talk anymore #i love you and have loved you and i want nothing but for you to be happy #original post