#dumb child things

[skeletors-ass]

Everyone always says stuff like “oh I wanted be a firefighter when I was little” or “haha I remember when I wanted to be a princess when I grew up” but like I wanted to be a fucking aquarium when I grew up, like the whole ass building, who was gonna tell me smh

#it may have been the tism #autism #adhd problems #dumb child things

[primrosebitch]

So my last post reminded me of this story so I'm going to tell it here

So when i was a tiny child, probably around 5 or so, i decided to swallow a coin, and not because of typical child reasons of putting everything in mouth and oops swallowed it, no this was a decision in which i knew exactly what i was doing and as a child with adhd and no impulse control i chose to ignore the consequences, sadly though my sibling was a snitch and immediately told my mother

Now this would normally be the end of the story, except my body doesn't like to behave and so after my mother didn't find the coin in my poop after a couple of days (i don't remember exactly how many but anywhere from 4-6), she brought me to my pediatrician who didn't quite believe that it hadn't yet left my body, but still she had me go to get an x-ray

Now when i went to get said x-ray they had me drink this horrendous concoction that had something called barium in it to help with the contrast in the x-ray or something like that, and after a reasonable reaction to the awful taste they added chocolate milk powder flavoring so i could actually get it down, which i was able to do, and after suffering through the barium they did the x-ray and low and behold the coin was in fact still inside me, albeit nearly out

#x ray #barium #coin #dumb child things #i cannot overstate how awful barium tastes #and in addition to the horrible taste it's also very thick #i hate it so much #i did get to keep the coin tho #so that's cool #my poor mother tho #she had to look through my poop to find that coin

[ginger-garlic-goodness]

flashback to when i was a homophobic 4th grader and i wouldn’t tell my friend how to spell “gay” because she wanted two of the characters in her story to “become gay together” and i was a staunch catholic

#gay #dumb child things #garlic garble #txt

[co-dependance]

I’ve seen people talk about the main theme of the owl house being acceptance, and I think they’re completely right about that. But I haven’t really seen anyone look at the sub themes depicted in the show around the acceptance theme.

Specifically how the owl house is really advocating for child autonomy. Specifically in the ways of discipline, showing that communicating and talking with children ends up being a lot more beneficial and effective than punishing them.

The most obvious example comes with the collector, where instead of talking to him, King’s dad punished the kid by putting him in essentially time out, for the actions of his siblings. Which he would’ve learned if he had talked to the collector. And then following that, every interaction before talking with Luz, has the collector being used or placated in some way instead of being treated like an actual child due to the amount of power he has. The titan trappers revering him as some sort of god, Belos manipulating him, and even king attempting to appease the collector, instead of really talking to him. Though for king it’s a bit more understandable. Even so, the show showcases the collector’s change only after he’s talked to like a person, and then shown why his views were wrong.

Luz, who’s the main focus of the show, has her character arc and journey centered around being punished for her not fitting in at school. And while, yes, some of Luz’s antics that were shown seemed to be legitimately dangerous, the real solution would’ve been to talk with her and teach her about safety and why bringing wild animals and fireworks into a school building is dangerous. It should have also been that Luz should be able to talk and negotiate with her teacher about what would be acceptable for her projects with her endless creativity. The solution was not to essentially punish Luz for being creative, and what that only did was make her feel worse about herself and more isolated from the people she thought would be on her side. And then we were shown in thanks to them and for the future, Camilla’s growth into understanding that not talking to Luz about this, and essentially forcing her into normality, was not the way to go about things.

And we see this theme again, with Willow forced into the abomination track because her parent’s thought that was what was best for her, until she was able to showcase her skills and switch to what she was actually good at. Alador realizing he missed a lot of Amity’s growth by not talking to her, and then making it up to Amity by letting her set the boundaries and reestablishing their relationship. Odalia being controlling and not listening to her children which lead to actively harming their social development, until she was confronted and then shut out. Belos manipulating Hunter, isolating him, and abusing him, not even listening to what he had to say. And all of these situations were made better and more bearable when they were given the chance to take charge and be heard.

All this, in an attempt to showcase that children can be vulnerable and malleable, but they are also smart and understanding. And instead of deciding what a child needs, it’s important to communicate with the child instead, asking what they need and listening to what they’re saying. And implementing that by guiding and supporting them, not attempting to control them to what someone else thinks is right.

Children are smart and observant, they just need to be taught how to communicate, and viewed and thought of as actual human beings.

In a way, the owl house is attempting to advocate for it’s audience, and that’s beautiful.

#the owl house #toh #toh spoilers #toh season finale #luz nozeda #toh hunter #willow park #amity blight #child autonomy #honestly i think it's a really important thing to be taught to everyone at every age #Children are seen as dumb and it's disheartening because they're not #they're open to new ideas and possibilities and not yet stifled by their own learned w-orld veiw #and they don't know everything so that's why they need to be taught #refusing to teach them ultimately takes away any chance of growth #no kid is a lost cause #and kids can understand when something is wrong #ignoring them looses the chance for the kid to learn how to understand and indepen-dently come up with a solution later #toh meta

[sergle]

i was a chihuahua disliker in a past life but have Grown Up since then, but earlier i saw one that made me clench my fists in agony. i wanted her so bad...

#WHAT IS THAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAT #WHY DOES SHE LOOK LIKE THAT OH MY GOD #she looks like a bug that got sunbleached... and she has permanent Sad Eyes. tell me she does not look very sweet #i'd call her chicory and we'd be soul bonded. #also the chihuahua disliking thing. i feel like that's one of those dumb things like not liking rap/country. like unfounded dislike i mean. #the chihuahua dislikery went away as soon as i realized that a lot of people grossly mishandle their small dogs #and don't attempt to do ANYTHING resembling training. and those two things together. create a very reactive dog. #anyway i don't need a second dog. goodbye everybody #i think though that if i had a dog for 20 years of my life. the day they leave is the day i jump in front of a truck. THAT'S TOO LONG. #that's my HUMAN CHILD. what do you mean #sergle.txt

[a-dumb-sarcastic-bisexual]

I’m back from my coma to talk about Nimona again

Specifically these scenes 

Because this is the moment where the similarities between Gloreth and Ambrosius’ stories end

At face value, these scenes seem incredibly similar 

In both scenes, Gloreth and Ambrosius are watching terrified as their homes are burning down around them because of a “monster” 

But that’s where the similarities stop

Because in the first scene, Gloreth decides to listen to everything that her community has told her 

And in the second scene, Ambrosius has finally figured out that everything he’s been told since he was a kid is a lie

#nimona #nimona 2023 #nimona movie #ambrosius goldenloin #gloreth #can you tell how much this movie drives me insane #god i love it #it gets better every time I watch it #I have no intention on bashing Gloreth btw #did she betray her friend? #yes #was it an incredibly fucked up thing to do? #absolutely #but she's also a terrified child #who made a dumb choice while her world was falling apart #and I cant blame her for that #if I start thinking about the parallels between goldenheart and Nimona and Gloreths stories I’ll start crying #I could talk about this man til I’m blue in the face #and I have no air left in my lungs #god I love him #he’s such a compelling character #‘​what are we doing’ is one of my favorite lines of all time #is so powerful

[golyadkin]

Long road to Colorado

#accidental child acquisition? no. intentional teenager acquisition. #the venture bros #pete white #billy quizboy #billy whalen #the invisible hand of fate #fanart #art tag #sorry i'm like obsessed with their backstory there's so much to dig into with it #the sort of kidnapping... the cocaine... the roadtrip... the media coverage... the aftermath... it's just so tasty #tonight we're thinking about pete taking this kid in and discovering only after that surprise! a teenager still needs to be parented #even the genius ones #also like was pete still high out of his mind during all this? was he still doing blow? or had he run out by the time they were on the road #also like... the necessity for immediate trust and reliance on one another because if they didnt have any other choice #and like why didn't billy ask his mom to take them? why did it have to be a secret thing? #i have... so many questions that will never be answered the whole thing was so fucked up #also i ignored their scooter design because it was dumb they're riding a vespa here whatever

[furiousgoldfish]

This is something I experienced as a child, that I don't fully understand yet, but it contributed greatly to me feeling like my parents are right and I must be stupid. I want to know if this happened to everyone else.

So there would be times when I would be under immense pressure from the abusers, and they would try to force me to understand a concept, but mostly by shaming me and yelling at me for not getting it and repeating some kind of, very general and non-explanatory claim that apparently should have been enough for me to get it. But I could not, in my brain, make a connection, I'm not sure if it was because at the moment I was terrified, pressured, ashamed and threatened, or if I was too young to figure it out. Sometimes my mind would go completely blank and I would not be able to take in new information at all, even though I desperately wanted to understand.

However, years later, I would remember that same thing, but now I had more context about it, more knowledge that surrounds it, more ideas on how things work, and even without thinking about it more, I would suddenly understand what they were talking about. I don't know if it's the additional knowledge of the world that would help me put it together, or if it was brain development, or something else.

I had a similar problem at school, where sometimes things would be explained generally, and I just didn't understand it, I couldn't see the process of how the thing worked, and it was being said like it was something easy to understand, that I should have figured out instantly, and other kids seemed to get it. It left me permanently confused and worried that I must be somehow stupider than anyone else.

But, again years later, when I ran away from the abusers, I looked at the same concept and it made perfect sense instantly, and I didn't know how I couldn't make sense of it earlier.

Nobody had ever bothered to sit down and explain anything to me, even in school I was expected to have basic knowledge and build up on it. But growing up abused meant the most simple concepts were not explained; instead parents would say whatever suited them most was the truth, or tell me to stop being annoying with my questions, and I was left in the dark over the inner function of, pretty much anything. Sometimes, even when I did learn something at school and came home with the new knowledge, they would decide that it was trivial, wrong, unnecessary, and simply false. Which also made learning harder because I had to question everything, at all times.

Not being able to understand what others could instantly made me believe that I was in fact, stupid, and it made it more difficult to believe my own senses, my own conclusions, it made it difficult for me to know that my own thoughts, opinions and conclusions had any value at all. I often ignored my own instincts and senses and took for granted what others told me, which later often proved to be false, and just manipulative misinformation.

After escaping abuse, my mind cleared up and I don't know if I can attribute it to my brain finishing its development, but things are now extremely easy to understand, and any concept I struggled with before, comes naturally to me. I think at least a part of it had to be about me being in fight-or-flight mode and whatever brainpower I had fully focused on staying alive. I could not figure out some concept that made no sense to me in such a state. I also think it's possible that I just lacked so much general knowledge, I lacked references to put those ideas into context, I could not connect the knowledge to anything I've seen or experienced before, because I had no experienced that many things, but other kids have, so they could make the connection.

I'm also suspecting that maybe, general and vague descriptions of things were something I rejected because I needed to understand something in depth in order to feel like I am familiar with it, if I only had the wide general idea, I still counted it as 'not knowing', until I had some intimate experiences with inner workings of it. And with more life lived, I had more experiences, and became familiar in a way that made me confident about understanding it.

Did anyone else have a similar experience, and do you maybe understand why it happens this way?

#child abuse #brain development #losing cognitive function due to trauma #feeling stupid due to not being able to think under pressure #trying to figure things out without context or explanations #struggling in school #feeling dumb

[acewizardinspace]

I think the 'the jedi use child soldiers' thing is stupid for a lot of reasons, but among those is that this is a complete misunderstanding of how children's media works. Kids want to see themselves doing amazing things and giving that an in depth analysis that boils down to 'all these adults are evil' is poor, bad faith, media criticism.

That being said, if you compare Star Wars to just about any other YA work, the jedi are miles better as far as child care goes. Canonly every single one of these 'kids in danger' has a dedicated adult who is ideally supposed to be with them to teach and protect them. Very uncommon for the genre.

So if people are mad at the jedi for this, I can't fathom what their reaction to other YA literature is. And if they hate YA literature, idk, maybe they shouldn't be reading YA. Just a thought.

#in defense of the jedi #pro jedi #the other reasons the child solider thing is dumb is that most padawans are not children #like ahsoka was considered young. Dooku was what 16 when he became one? Obi-Wan was 25 and knighted earlier than planned #even if they were knighted early because of the war (which i think is stupid and there is no evidence for that) #that doesn't make them all kids... #and the character we see as child padawans are clearly there for children to watch and enjoy #I mean unpredictable things happen but child padawans are not supposed to be facing danger alone #but eased into it by a trusted adult which is not what happens in ever other YA book #Honestly if you hate the jedi for this but don't equally hate every other adult in every other YA book #maybe you are just LOOKING for reasons to hate the jedi. In which case idk maybe examine why that is #and if you do hate all adults in YA maybe it is time to move onto adult literature because you grew up #which is awesome! I love adult books but judging kids media by these standards and hating people for wanting simple stuff #in their book created to be simple is kind of rude you know? #i realize this post is probably hitting a wasp's nest but I mean if you want to take what I say out of context #(because in context I didn't do or say anything wrong) #well that says more about you than me doesn't it #my thoughts

[minecraft-sideblog-tm]

"[Xisuma] just said 'trust it' and I interpreted that as 'Hey Grian, right click the bed'" has the same energy as 5-year-old me hearing that a freshly used frying pan was cooling off and interpreting that as ''This pan is cold now, please lay your entire hand flat on it"

#this is....a real thing i did as a 5y/o #(only got a minor burn tho luckily) #I was a smart child! but also so so dumb #grian #hermitcraft #lee speaks

[lesbianjodie]

Think about characters that the show tends to portray as innocent and chill but still 100% know Conan is Not who he pretends to be. Jodie should by now at least strongly suspect Conan is Shinichi. We have seen she's not a bad detective (in figuring out Akai faked his death), she knows Vermouth has stayed young for 20+ years and she heard her talking to Haibara at the docks, so she could probably do some research and put two and two together. Like by now she should know. Maybe she's just not addressing it to protect him?

And then there's Takagi. He doesn't have half the information Jodie does, but come on. After the "who are you" scene in the elevator???? Being answered he'll tell him in the afterlife and ending up not getting a reply???? And then moving on like nothing happened???? Like you gotta admit. Something weird must've happened inside his brain. How do you even justify that. "Maybe he's the spirit protector of cops incarnate I'd better do as he says and act natural lest he casts a Curse upon me" or some shit similar. Surely not Shinichi Kudo shrunk by a criminal organisation that would be too weird.

#detective conan #jodie starling #wataru takagi #I meant to explain this with a drawing but you're getting a text post #jodie when Conan acts like that: it is clear that he has a connection with the organisation with how he acts #and the way they called his lil friend Sherry. and there's no way a literal child would get a codename so maybe they're not children at all. #I heard they were experimenting with pharmaceuticals or something maybe that's how. if Vermouth can stay young for this long #this is a viable hypothesis. but anyway if that's the case it's clear I'd better keep my trap shut and keep acting as always.“ #Takagi when Conan acts Like That: he's an oni and if I let anyone know he'll eat my head #OR SOMETHING #not saying takagi is dumb but some things simply can't be rationalized #I need this to be addressed!!!!!!! I need the show to take these characters a lil seriously please god I'm begging!!!!!!

[henrycavillary]

ALEXANDER DREYMON as UHTRED The Last Kingdom: Seven Kings Must Die (2023) dir. Edward Bazalgette

#mygifs #filmedit #tlkskmdedit #the last kingdom: seven kings must die #the last kingdom #uthred of bebbanburg #uthred #alexander dreymon #filmgifs #bookstofilms #moviegifs #fyeahmovies #but i think this film was unnecessary #because it didn't contribute anything to the story or as an ending #and it annoyed the h out of me #half of it went through with begging child king to act with his brain not with his.... #and he gave it all for that dumb by swearing under his sword #it was okay in a show because it wasn't like this and you knew there will be some things he could do #but this end i don't accept #he didn't died like that #periodedits #onlyperioddramas #perioddramasource #weloveperioddrama #usergif #gifshistorical #ceremonial

[flowery-king]

Okay, so I know Caleb is trans for sure, but I'm still a little confused as to what Philip is. Like, is he gay, bisexual, or demisexual?

Philip is a raging homosexual that had a big ass crush on the sacred heart of jesus christ painting as a child and translated those emotions into admiration because obviously everyone else felt that way looking at Jesus too, why else would they love him so much

#just funny child interpretations of adult things #it's also why he's so good at drawing because he constantly drew that interpretation of Jesus #He's an artiste #defanged philip au #the only reason why Philip understands that Caleb is Bi is because he got to be both genders in his life #he bow realises how dumb his thought process was lmao #not his fault but he still feels super silly #sorry if the comic was confusing lol ghh

[howlonomy]

Seeing the adult monster clover design made me realize something, due to the power of their half and half human/monster soul, wluld their aging work under the same rules as boss monsyer aging? I.e no growing old and decrepit without becoming a parent.

Like I'm pretty sure the power of a boss monster is the primary reason for that, so would they just be stuck as forever 18?

nope they would age normally! they can get older (but kanako could not)

#monster clover au #asked and answered #mcau lore #clover uty #and then finally clover will be older (kind of) #i always thought the cant age until theu have a kid thing to be dumb as hell anyways #bc like. its not even really important at all??? like its judt never really brought up as a major thing #like its just a side effect of the whole og story #so why is it there. why is that important. why was that added at all #anyways. i didnt mean to ramble AJDNWKXKS but they would age normally bc i said so 🫵 and i want them to be able to live a normal life #without the pressure of havinga child or else they’ll live for fucking ever

[civetcider]

While gender-nonconformity-club (this post: https://www.tumblr.com/blog/view/gender-nonconformity-club/746406850785869824) doesn't outright say she's a transmisogynist, she reblogs from TERFs and gendercrits. I really wish TME people were better at spotting crap like this. Do better next time, please.

this is so condescending what the hell come off anon

you yourself say she doesn't say it out right and only reblogs stuff from other poeple :((( what do you expect from me :(((((( you want me to not only look through the blogs of every post i reblog but also all the blogs that person reblogs??? :((((((((( there are so many levels of separation here :(((((( i dont even follow them or anything i don't know anything about this person :(((((((( you want me to google everyone i reblog from to check to make sure they are good people?

#ask #like feel free to let me know if i ever reblog from a nasty person or anything but tell me like im a person and not dirt please #tumblr users think this is a normal thing to ask of people #bruh they aren't even like super open about it and your still telling me like im a dumb child like i should have just known #why have i been getting so many mean asks and DMs lately im just a little guy leave me alone #sorry normally i would just delete an ask like this but like i am at my limit #transphobes

[bucksbisexual]

im trusting all writers during this three week hiatus to give me so many fics with "i wish i could help" the oed has to pay me for how much these words are living in my brain rent free

#911 #911 abc #911 spoilers #buddie #(oed = oxford english dictionary - for all my fellow dumb ppl) #what a fucking wild thing to say to your best friend who youre pretty much coparenting a child with