#no kid is a lost cause

[co-dependance]

I’ve seen people talk about the main theme of the owl house being acceptance, and I think they’re completely right about that. But I haven’t really seen anyone look at the sub themes depicted in the show around the acceptance theme.

Specifically how the owl house is really advocating for child autonomy. Specifically in the ways of discipline, showing that communicating and talking with children ends up being a lot more beneficial and effective than punishing them.

The most obvious example comes with the collector, where instead of talking to him, King’s dad punished the kid by putting him in essentially time out, for the actions of his siblings. Which he would’ve learned if he had talked to the collector. And then following that, every interaction before talking with Luz, has the collector being used or placated in some way instead of being treated like an actual child due to the amount of power he has. The titan trappers revering him as some sort of god, Belos manipulating him, and even king attempting to appease the collector, instead of really talking to him. Though for king it’s a bit more understandable. Even so, the show showcases the collector’s change only after he’s talked to like a person, and then shown why his views were wrong.

Luz, who’s the main focus of the show, has her character arc and journey centered around being punished for her not fitting in at school. And while, yes, some of Luz’s antics that were shown seemed to be legitimately dangerous, the real solution would’ve been to talk with her and teach her about safety and why bringing wild animals and fireworks into a school building is dangerous. It should have also been that Luz should be able to talk and negotiate with her teacher about what would be acceptable for her projects with her endless creativity. The solution was not to essentially punish Luz for being creative, and what that only did was make her feel worse about herself and more isolated from the people she thought would be on her side. And then we were shown in thanks to them and for the future, Camilla’s growth into understanding that not talking to Luz about this, and essentially forcing her into normality, was not the way to go about things.

And we see this theme again, with Willow forced into the abomination track because her parent’s thought that was what was best for her, until she was able to showcase her skills and switch to what she was actually good at. Alador realizing he missed a lot of Amity’s growth by not talking to her, and then making it up to Amity by letting her set the boundaries and reestablishing their relationship. Odalia being controlling and not listening to her children which lead to actively harming their social development, until she was confronted and then shut out. Belos manipulating Hunter, isolating him, and abusing him, not even listening to what he had to say. And all of these situations were made better and more bearable when they were given the chance to take charge and be heard.

All this, in an attempt to showcase that children can be vulnerable and malleable, but they are also smart and understanding. And instead of deciding what a child needs, it’s important to communicate with the child instead, asking what they need and listening to what they’re saying. And implementing that by guiding and supporting them, not attempting to control them to what someone else thinks is right.

Children are smart and observant, they just need to be taught how to communicate, and viewed and thought of as actual human beings.

In a way, the owl house is attempting to advocate for it’s audience, and that’s beautiful.

#the owl house #toh #toh spoilers #toh season finale #luz nozeda #toh hunter #willow park #amity blight #child autonomy #honestly i think it's a really important thing to be taught to everyone at every age #Children are seen as dumb and it's disheartening because they're not #they're open to new ideas and possibilities and not yet stifled by their own learned w-orld veiw #and they don't know everything so that's why they need to be taught #refusing to teach them ultimately takes away any chance of growth #no kid is a lost cause #and kids can understand when something is wrong #ignoring them looses the chance for the kid to learn how to understand and indepen-dently come up with a solution later #toh meta

[astorianyxkings]

There's always people theorizing how the Batfamily hides Jason disappearance and reappearance, but I literally haven't seen anyone use the best explanation: Witness Protection.

Like this literally answers every question. The Death Certificate? They had to fake his death. The empty grave? Obviously it had to be believable. The time when Wayne Heir "Richie Wayne" refused to step foot in Gotham and talk to his father? He was pissed about Jason's (non) death. Brucie Wayne's very real depression after his death? Well he lost contact with his son and he was under immense stress from the government.

Like this literally answers every question I can come up with. Why has no one said he was in witness protection? And if people have done it, send me fics and prompts because I'm obsessed.

And the best part is, the Waynes are so stupidly rich that they could pull it off. Lex Luther could try and conduct his own investigation but somehow he can never find anything concrete. And if he gets too close either Babs hacks them or Tim just calls up Conner for a distraction.

One time Jason gets cornered and asked how he felt about returning to his life after being in Witness Protection. Unfortunately, him and Bruce weren't on the best terms to explain the whole story but he comes in clutch. He spins the tale about how heartbroken he was to see his brother, father and grandfather grieving and how honored he was when he learnt his new little brother idolized him. Tim got ahold of a copy of the interview and will never let Jason live it down.

The media doesn't ask Bruce questions about Jason's death because last time they did he broke down and a suddenly furious reporter chastised them and reminded them that while Jason may be alive Bruce still mourned his death. The picture of Bruce in tears at the interview is currently one of Jason's favourite lockscreens.

Same goes for Dick. Any questions of his brother's death results in (1) Richie Wayne ready to throw hands at any and everybody, (2) his wife (well one of them) Barbara Gordon threatening the reporters or (3) That same Metropolis reporter chastising the whole community again.

#dc comics #batfam #bruce wayne #jason todd #yes the reporter is clark #hes ready to fight for b and dick #vicky vale wonders if jason todd wayne was in witness protection due to something involving the red hood #jason goes on twitter and bashes the red hood's whole persona #dick grayson retweets that red hood is trying and is just a little lost #the official batman twitter likes that tweet #it causes a huge mess for both barbara and jim gordon to clean up #they knew they shouldn't have gotten involved with gothams pet billionaire and his weird kids

[kori-senpai]

I have never played smash bros in my life

(Edit: I did a part two ayeee ✨ you guys are persuasive (affectionate))

#Alternative tags I wanted to use; Buttons - Not a fan of whippies and R.I.P Karl #'How To: Leave your wife and kids like a gentleman' for Stede #and He loves nature for Ed #I will not add the alternate for Izzy cause you're all a bit #Peculiar when it comes to him #I lost the screenshot I had for Ed so I had to freeform him that's why he looks so strange #our flag means death #ofmd #if you take that teeny tiny comment about weddings into account its almost a spoiler #blackbeard #ed teach #Edward teach #stede bonnet #nathaniel buttons #buttons ofmd #izzy hands #my art

[padawansuggest]

13 yo Obi-Wan: You guys are keeping me captive 🥺

Jaster: Ob’ika, we are bringing you back to the temple to reunite with your people.

Obi-Wan: 🥺 then why am I in a cage?

Jaster: *looks pointedly at Jango covered in bite marks, bandages and a torn kute*

Jango: Jas’Buir, he’s really cute, the bites didn’t even hurt 🥺

Obi-Wan: Yeah, I’m just making friends 🥺

Jaster: *soul deep sigh* I am not letting you out of the cell so you can maul my ad again.

Jango: Buuuir, he’s just an ad’ika, lookit his ik’aad fangs, he won’t actually hurt me!

Jaster: You we’re begging me to get his fangs out of your wrist five minutes ago.

Jango: He’s just teething!!

Jaster: Jan’ika, I know you want to keep him, but he’s not even house broken yet.

Jango: Neither was I when you adopted me!! He’s chosen me! Lemme keep him!

Obi-Wan: 🥺 I will be a good boy if you stick your fingers in my enclosure 🥺

Jaster: *physically holding Jango back* No. We will revisit this when the baar’ur has given him a Xanax omfg- *dragging Jango out of the ship hold*

#and that’s how Jango adopted a baby 🥰 #star wars #obi wan kenobi #incorrect star wars quotes #jaster mereel #jango fett #Obi really liked Jango but being lost gave him anxiety and Stewjoni anxiety means I BITE YOU I BITE YOU I BITE YOU #and Jaster is the only one comprehending that rn #basically Obi can’t consent to an adopting at the exact moment so he’s tryina stop Jango from being an idiot till the kid got a Xanax in hi #those notes added later cause I literally stopped in the middle of the sidewalk on the way home to write this #it’s also based off that one scene in Futurama where Zoidberg keeps attacking Amy while in heat #fool me seven times shame on you fool me eight or more times shame on me #but Jango is too enamored with the baby to step back he’s a chew toy now

[wykart]

The elder men spoke low. They took a vote and said no. They turned around real slow. Where did they go? Where did they go? And the question oh, the question: can the kid keep his eyes, if the fire doesn't die? They said no.

They Took a Vote and Said No - Sunset Rubdown

#i do this instead of like. making an animatic lmao. this song is so good. the breakdown!! auughhh #doctor who #dw #thirteenth doctor #the timeless child #fanart #digital art #my art #comic #cause the fire never dies so the kid lost his eyes oh that's how it goes :( #the lyrics on spotify are wrong rip #im embracing cringe and choosing life #you can see how this started very simple and then I started putting Effort in rip #so OTHER things can stay alive you say.. much to think about #never getting over this one boys. I'm still deep in the trenches #weeping angels division agents mouri age of shadows something something tardis great house loom. you're welcome #I think this song is about soldiers going to war to prop up empires or something??? which is also fitting

[girl-named-matty]

MC: Is that... necessary? Sebastian: *trying to run away but he can't because he's on a kid-leash* Ominis: Yes.

#leash kids raise your hand #I wasnt but I definitely should've been #hogwarts legacy #hl #sebastian sallow #hogwarts legacy incorrect quotes #ominis gaunt #hogwarts legacy mc #mc #if you dont know what that is #basically they are harnesses to keep kids from running away from their parents and causing chaos/getting lost #so basically everything Sebastian qualifies for

[soracities]

if we should protect children because they are vunerable, this means you would protect cruel children who bullies people who different than them then. the children who responsible to trauma for someone else's entire years

You're assuming that "protecting" children is the same as absolving them of responsibility and that's not what I said. All children are vulnerable, because all children are children; they don't come out of the womb with a perfectly working moral compass anymore than they come out of it waiting to hurt people--they're vulnerable because their understanding of the world is entirely at the mercy of what we, as adults, consistently tell them and show them. Children behaving cruelly aren't exempt from that--they learn that cruelty from somewhere, or someone. Your job, as the adult, is to make sure they understand that it's unacceptable so it will not happen again--but your job is also to ask why someone that young is behaving this way to begin with, so you can ensure they become better.

"Protecting" kids is not ignoring when they hurt or torment others, it's not refusing to teach them consequences or right from wrong, it's not "zero tolerance" policies in schools that treat a child being bullied and the child bullying them as equal instigators, and it's certainly not protecting them from recognizing, and atoning for, the pain they have caused someone else. You don't have to make peace with the now-adults who hurt you when you both were kids, but you cannot let the horrors of your own childhood impact how you treat or respond to the children living theirs around you right now, either.

You don't protect kids so they can get a free pass for bullying or tormenting another child. You protect them because kids are impulsive, emotionally reactive, and profoundly social (which means deeply impressionable) human beings who are still learning & processing insane amounts of information every day about what it means to be alive, to be alive as yourself, to be alive as yourself with other people. Protecting them is realising that you can't isolate the responsibility of a 10 year old from the bigger responsibility of the literal grown adults around them, adults who are in charge of teaching them about the world and how to behave in it. Whether you have children of your own in the future or not is completely irrelevant to this; we all become those adults eventually--no matter what happened to us as kids.

#ask #Anonymous #i dont want to keep repeating myself on this but we're all carrying fucked up and traumatizing childhoods to some extent and if you want to #spare another child going through the same thing the solution is not to hate on children bc they didnt ask to be born any more than the res #of us did. but they're here now and what are you going to tell them while they are? #what kind of an adult and what kind of a compass are you going to become for them during the time they're learning about being alive? #and if you decide its not your problem the minute this child says or does something fucked up and that they're a lost cause at the age of 8 #bc their impulse control is shitty and their empathy & understanding is still buffering then that is part of the problem. they learn what #they're doing is okay and then they keep doing it--to other kids and years later other adults. our world is fucked up and makes fucked up #people and if you have it in your ability to limit that damage at its most formative and dangerous point then why wouldn't you? #notes from elsewhere

[huitandahalf]

I know that we got plenty of options as to how everything with the Ender King is going to go down, but a thought that has not left my mind was the idea of the Ender King downing qPhil in some way and taking him away. Which means there would be a chat message for all to see :)

For example :)

#qsmp #qsmp philza #this could be better or worse depending on how many people qPhil tells about the whole mess (itll probably be 0 tbh) #cause if he tells no one #not even his kids #then it will be a gut punch #like pov you are chayanne and tallulah #you just lost your godfather in Tubbo #you may have just lost someone who really cares for you in Bad #and you gotta hold onto your dad right? if something was wrong he would have told you right? he promised to not keep secrets right? #and now hes gone without a word #was the Ender King that much of a threat that he could take your dad without any hint that it could happen? or were there just signs #that you missed. that you could have seen and stopped. you could have saved your dad but you didnt. why didnt you notice him change? #and to a lesser extent there is also the gut punch to fitmc #pov you are fitmc #phil promised to keep you updated on all the hallucination stuff and hasnt said anything to you about it in a long time #thats a good sign right? itd be bad if the Ender King was real and came to help phil anyway #he had some crying obsidian appear in his inventory? clearly the admins are messing with him it couldnt be anything #and now hes gone #and you find out that he was hiding things from you from his children #there were more messages more hallucinations #why didnt he tell you? #did he not trust you? hes right to do it but you thought he trusted you with this at the very least #and now #what do you do? #you dont even know where to start in looking for him #did he really trust you that little?

[bruciemilf]

Any batkid: Wait til my grandfather hears about this!

Woke: Spoiled bat kids

Illuminated: SPOILED BATGRANKIDS

#thomas: cmonnnnn kids will be kids!! #bruce: they blew up Gotham stadium cause our team lost #thomas: now you KNOW the metropolis tigers cheated >:T #dc comics #dc #text #thomas wayne #batkids

[drawnfamiliarfaces]

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#rc9gn #randy cunningham 9th grade ninja #torn pages au #randy cunningham #rc9gn first ninja #first ninja #rc9gn oc #it has begun....the ocs... they are coming!!!! #lol but no worries ill try to not make them too much of a focus #can u believe it? freakin 9 more pages holy sjiet. and we didnt even got to the actual idea i had im gonna cry #trying to be normal and not enjoy little dad things i make first ninja do ;3 #like helping kids dress cause waiting for them will take forever. the mom hand across body to protect them and the panic run. #the 'fuck the child took off without me' panic run is very familiar for me because i experience it from both sides #when i was a kid i accidently took off into traffic (on the crossing road but on yellow light) thinking my uncle was ahead #but in reality he was behind having a heart attack at my actions and taking off after me #and when i was a teen a family friend's kid i was looking after in the mall took off somewhere and i had a panic attack i lost him lol #his mother was NOT happy #kids? amiright?

[drawncap]

She's doing ALL OF THIS, including MURDERING HER FRIEND, BECAUSE SHE THOUGHT IT WAS UNFAIR THAT HER BACKSTORY WASNT TRAGIC?!

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME?!?!?!

Yes, Rage god, sure, infected towards anger, BUT FROM THE BEGINING THOUGH?!

"Yeah, so because your dad died and the whole of you life has been bad, school should reflect that by making your life harder."

WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK

THIS IS THE HILL YOU DECIDED TO DIE ON?!

#fantasy high junior year #fantasy high #dimension 20 #I thought for certain #Thar maybe the Bad Kids accidently killed someone #like it was a civilian causualty or something #NOT THE MOST INSANE JELOUSLY IVE EVER HEARD OF #I hate the implication that Kipperlily and Riz are the same #like I see where they are coming from #the frantic work they both probably put in? #sure #the anger at being “cheated” #okay yeah ill give you that #but Riz searched for the 7 out of a noble cause #Kipperlily just seems to he CRAZY petty #this is wild #also anyone else get the vibe that Oisin and Ivybare the real leaders? #they outvoted to change the name to Rat Griders #which seems odd #maybe thats why Oisin apologized to Adaine in the cafateria when Kipperlily lost it #he was trying to keep his “puppet” on course #they both seem to be good friends with eaxh other especially

[so-sleep]

.........so it has come down to this.

@autismswagsummit

#its a hard choice but #ugh. i cant. kris is more of an adhd unhinged kid for me. them and susie are causing chaos together. they have the two different categories #no. kris shant be #the one #donniesweep #donnie rottmnt #kris dreemurr #tryna spread my hyperactive kris agenda over here #and also if anything out of the three ralseis the autism. cause im projecting #cant believe he lost that easy #buh #anywayyyyy vote donnie. maybe he has a chance

[purpleshadow-star]

Here's a reminder that Frank does not have adhd or dyslexia like most demigods, so he was stuck on the Argo II with at least five to six other teenagers with adhd at all times. I wonder what that was like for him...

#5-6 bc it was the rest of the 7 and then nico after percy and annabeth fell into tartarus #and nico def has adhd one look at his chaotic thoughts in his pov chapters confirms this #also think about his behavior as a kid. 100% he has adhd #so frank stuck on a ship full of adhd kids for like a month and a half to two months #i wonder what that was like lol #i mentioned this to my sis (who doesnt have adhd) and she said it was prob vary chaotic #she has a lot of friends with adhd and i have it too so she has experience being in franks shoes lol #i wonder how many conversations he just got lost in cause they kept going on tangents or smth #it must have been an experience for him #riordanverse #rick riordan #frank zhang #argo 2 crew #heros of olympus #pjo hoo toa #pjo verse

[20001541]

I wish the anime hadn't cut this part out. It really highlights how afo presented himself as a savior to those who felt lost during the dawn of quirks which was how he was able to get such a huge following.

we see him do that during present day too as we see how he exploits those, particularly children, who society forgot about by taking them in and caring for them so they'll remain grateful and loyal to him.

#something something about a41 presenting himself as a messiah I'll get into that in an ask #a41 did so well during the dawn of quirks because there were so many lost people who were looking for someone to bring order #which he then took advantage of #a41 works best when dealing with those who have nowhere to go and are struggling as they're easy for him to exploit #and a41 knows exactly how it feels to be forgotten by society and left to fend for himself with no hope so he just tells them what he wante #to hear as a kid so they'll latch onto him #tbh I wouldn't be surprised if machia had some sad meow meow backstory that caused him to fall for a41 so hard #anyways the point is it sucks the anime took this part out #don't even get me started about how they removed his coat when he was walking among his followers either 😑

[pain-is-too-tired]

One thing I like to hc with the Apollo Head Counselors is that they all represent a time of which the sun is out.

Lee - Dawn/Dusk

Mainly dusk, but pretty much imagine him in browns, oranges , dusky yellows and reds and the like.

Michael - Twilight

Starts after the fall of Dusk,short lived. Haralds the start of darkness and but also first light when it falls. The darkess time in which the sun is out. I see him muted/ dark blues,dull browns and blacks. Maybe a touch of greyish pale yellows.

Will - Daylight

Longest lived, bright, it's what most people think about when they think of the sun. With his golden sun kissed hair and sky blue eyes its pretty on the nose. I see him in bright/light yellows and blues.

Idk why I thought of posting this, I just love them and wanted to share my thoughts.

Think it is pretty obvious how I tend to draw them, but it's fun to write it out ^^

#mine #pain rambles #pjo fandom #pjo hcs #pjo hc #apollo cabin #cabin 7 #cabin 7 hcs #apollo cabin hcs #lee fletcher #pjo lee #micheal yew #pjo michael #will solace #pjo will #will solace headcanon #will hc #pjo headcanon #percy jackson and the olympians #percy jackon and the olympians #pjo #i just love them your honor #rick I'm so mad we got nothing about them in toa #you're telling me that one of the most family oriented gods didn't even think about the multitude children he lost in the Titan War ONCE #THE FIRST TIME HE WAS HUMAN WAS BECAUSE ZEUS KILLED ONE OF HIS KIDS #LIKE IT BE VERY REASONABLE FOR PART OF THE REASON HE WAS GETTING ON ZEUS' BAD SIDE WAS CAUSE HE WAS IN GRIEF AND NOT WATCHING HIS TONGUE #but no #we got his exes angst only #goodness sake would've loved to see him be the most nervous wreck of a dad because now he is living with HUMAN FATHER GRIEF #i'll stop now

[spotsupstuff]

If five pebbles was ever built for zephyr the same way he was built for moon, would he ever see her as a mentor?

i imagine that he'd!!! be more open with her than he is with Moon, because their personalities match better. Zephyr isn't really the doting, overprotective kind. She didn't have the chance to learn how to be affectionate and warm even though she wishes she could be and she needs to watch her own systems like a hawk 24/7 so she ain't got the attention to spare to nag at him even if she wanted to. they'd end up bonding over their anger at the injustice of the Iterators' fate, though

Pebs would probably take someone else as Mentor™ (she wouldn't be capable of fullfilling the expectations of that role), but he'd probably still look up to her a lot. she'd be like. a not-the-title mentor in the specific field of being angry at their situation and doing Something about it

#Spot says stuff #rain world #rw #oc tag #oc: abet zephyr #this scenario is such a headscratcher cuz like- zephyr is kept a secret from the public out of shame of the higher ups of her condition #not as a Person mind you but as a waste of resources. girl cant even Iterate because shes so broken. she cant do the One thing shes made- #-to do. oh what a shame. what a stain on our maps. the ancients never put Any effort into fixing her so making an entire Iterator right- #-next to her whos secondary goal is to Help her? unimaginable in canon. shed hate it because she thinks of herself as a lost cause #and now this poor kid has to deal with being Made for this lost cause. no matter what he does he will never be able to help her enough #it will be forever an itch and a heartbreak that cannot be mended #born directly into constant trauma just like her. instead of fixing Her they brought another life into this. she hates it so so much. #but pebbles himself shed fucking Love. hes her little perfectly self-sufficient boy and shed fucking throw hands with Suns for him #srry for the rambling these two combo'd together live rent free in me brain