#except no

[bethanydelleman]

So I do think the lady who wrote this stupid book has a point about modern media excusing terrible behaviour with tragic backstories, because I read a lot of justifications of Darcy that are centred in Darcy having TRAUMA. Poor boy didn't mean to be rude at the Meryton assembly, he's a poor little orphan who just had sister troubles.

Except that blaming this trend/trope on Austen is insane, because Darcy does not excuse his behaviour in this way AT ALL. He does blame his education somewhat, but if anything his excuse is that his parents loved him so darn much that he became a brat. That's not trauma, that's Trust Fund Baby Syndrome.

In fact, the one person who attempts a trauma explanation of Darcy is... Wickham! He claims that Darcy Sr. loved him more than Darcy Jr., causing Fitzwilliam to be jealous of Wickham. Which would be kind of understandable, if it were true, but Darcy doesn't really seem to care about this and clearly loved his father, so if anything Wickham was a minor annoyance in his life pre-Ramsgate.

The narrator says clearly that Darcy has always been like this, it isn't a trauma reaction, "He was at the same time haughty, reserved, and fastidious; and his manners, though well bred, were not inviting... Bingley was sure of being liked wherever he appeared; Darcy was continually giving offence." And Darcy confirms this, he's been rude "from eight to eight-and-twenty" The only time he brings up the whole Georgiana thing is to tell Elizabeth about it, he never blames that event for his behaviour.

If anything, Jane Austen was a proponent of "explain but not excuse". Lucy Steele is mercenary because she is barely clinging to her status in the gentry, but she's still portrayed as a villain because the way she goes about trying to secure Edward (and later Robert) is fundamentally wrong. Mary Crawford has a back story full of trauma, she's an orphan twice over, her uncle sounds like a misogynist creep, and yet Austen doesn't accept it as an excuse, Mary must become better to be worthy of Edmund. Willoughby is an orphan, he's in debt, he's made bad choices, but he needs to do better and because he doesn't, he's not worthy of Marianne.

My Point: Don't blame Austen for the trauma excuses all bad behaviour trope, because she didn't start it and she frequently subverted it!

#jane austen #pride and prejudice #mr. darcy #TRAUMA covers all sins #Except no #explain but not excuse #don't blame this trend on my girl Austen #anti Darcy shyboi campaign

[apomaro-mellow]

i know the idea is to keep legs covered because a bare leg is so indecent to a school environment but i dunno i just feel like my legs get sexier when i cover them in stockings

#personal #work life #i think this every time i put stockings on for work #whoop just made myself sexier #except no #i didn't

[godofdystopia]

So, i was a big supporter and believer of the “Belos Is Luz’s Father” theory way back when season 1 ended. Way before the end of season 2A, hell before Raine even showed up, i finally started making meme’s and made them for Amphibia, but i also made quite a few meme’s about the Belos theory

I am... not really sure what to do with them now. I’m trying to clean up some stuff on the computer and there they sit, mocking me for the effort i put in them when nobody ever even saw them (except for one i posted on r/theowlhouse which got middling results)

idk, y’all wanna see them?

#the owl house #toh #Camila Noceda #Luz Noceda #emperor belos #philip wittebane #belos is luz's father #except no #memes #but with a ? #idk #i feel conflicted about them #cause i can do better #and those were from when i was just starting

[lostmykeysie]

FOLKS I'VE HAD ENOUGH. EVERYONE IN THIS GODFORSAKEN VILLAGE THINKS I AM A TEENAGER. THEY THINK I AM A LITERAL CHILD. THIS HAS HAPPENED THREE TIMES NOW

#i'm actually on the edge #like oh so youthful lovely ya ya fantastic #except no #because they TREAT me like a child #it's not like oh wow you look so young and beautiful #it's like 'oh look at this odd looking child that's just moved in' #'let's offer them a glass of juice' #okay that's an exaggeration no one has offered me juice #BUT THE POINT STANDS

[butchfalin]

the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again

#yeehaw #1k #5k #10k #posts that got cursed. blasted. im making these tag updates after... 19 hours? #also i have been told it should say speech loss bc nonverbal specifically refers to the permanent state. did not know that! #unfortunately i fear it is so far past containment that even if i edited it now it would do very little. but noted for future reference #edit 2: nvm enough ppl have come to rb it from me directly that i changed the wording a bit. hopefully this makes sense #also. in case anyone is curious. though i doubt anyone who is commenting these things will check the original tags #1) my friend did not do this on purpose in any way. it was not intended to distract me or to hit on me. im a lesbian hes a gay man. cmon now #he felt very bad about it afterwards. i thought it was hilarious but it was very embarrassed and apologetic #2) “why didn't he use 🫵🏼?” didn't exist yet. “why didn't he use 🆗?” dunno! we'd been using a lot of hand emojis. 👌🏼 is an ok sign #like it makes sense. it was just a silly mixup. also No i did not invent 👉🏼👌🏼 as a gesture meaning sex. do you live under a rock #3) nonspeaking episodes are a recurring thing in my life and have been since i was born. this is not a quirky one-time thing #it is a pervasive issue that is very frustrating to both myself and the people i am trying to communicate with. in which trying to speak is #extremely distressing and causes very genuine anguish. this post is not me making light of it it's just a funny thing that happened once #it's no different than if i post about a funny thing that happened in conjunction w a physical disability. it's just me talking abt my life #i don't mind character tags tho. those can be entertaining. i don't know what any of you are talking about #Except the ppl who have said this is pego/ryu or wang/xian. those people i understand and respect #if you use it as a writing prompt that's fine but send it to me. i want to see it #aaaand i think that's it. everyday im tempted to turn off rbs on it. it hasn't even been a week

[cafffine]

be pro-aging but wear sun screen. sun protection is not beauty industry propaganda it will save you. wear it. or else.

#the girl was like ‘ugh yeah i’m done with all that mascara sunscreen makeup stuff’ and I !!! I completely agree except for!! bro come on. #double shot

[opiumvampire]

fuck w me

#my mommys cookie recipe except she makes them peanut butter cookies and i dont like peanut butter so we’re doing sugar cookies #sure hope nothing weird happens

[astronomical-bagel]

#ok no but for real this is genuinely my friend group. #the only one that's a little iffy is the anime catgirl bc 98% of us are dudes. with the exception of me and one other #we even have a union guy 😭 #side note chilchuck's name would 100% be Chris if he was a real guy. he's such a Chris. (I mean it COULD be chuck but. Chris is better) #dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #senshi of izganda #izutsumi #marcille donato #laios touden #chilchuck tims #chilchuck #falin touden #astronomically random

[professor-pants]

Genre of character: submissive like a guard dog is submissive

#very capable of taking care of themselves very eager to take care of someone else #would kill a man for even slightly offending their partner #does what they're told #am i on to anything here? #these people come to mind: #crowley #bucky barnes #izzy hands #the doctor #mostly when it comes to clara oswald #ronan lynch #pearl #from steven universe #romeo #except his person is mercutio not juliet #riza hawkeye

[brightlotusmoon]

#heavy sigh #skipping a grade for english yet failing math #gifted kid burnout #twice exceptional

[aholefilledwithtwigs]

I once had a landlord offhandedly mention that his mother had set this house on fire before. He and his wife lived on the first floor, and i rented the third.

Apparently his mom didn’t like his wife. So she set their house on fire. The house i was living in.

He assured me that everything was fine now and that this was years ago, just kinda laughed, smiled, and said ‘You know how moms are’

Yes. I know how moms are. I know how fucked up moms are as well. I have known many fucked up moms and fellow children of fucked up moms.

Attempted murder through arson is not typical mom behavior, even for a fucked up abusive mom

Oh, and his mother lived next door 🙃

#story time with sair #i might follow up with more #that was a wild living situation even for me #family owned #two neighboring houses of six units total #all of them one family/lived there decades #except the one unit rented out to me

[romanceyourdemons]

so much love for characters who are desperately unsure whether they’re a good person, a redeemable person, a person worth saving, but are absolutely certain that they’re a grade a hottie

#‘can i ever really absolve myself of my crimes? do i even want to? am i guilty everything—or of anything at all? #except for the crime of having an ass too fat i’m never beating those allegations’ #ryddles

[girlstressed]

"did i tell u this already?" we are in a timeloop and i am in love with u tell me again

#text #preya except im not in love with her

[thepoisonroom]

#personal nonsense #yellowjackets sweep except for the s2 finale

[scuffledig]

self-flagellation and self-bullying are all bad motivators for change BTW. it can be hard to escape from a spiral but genuinely u have to be nice to urself or nothing will change

#🐛 #not a vague except maybe at past me

[frownyalfred]

Thinking about the JL finding out that Bruce has contingency plans for all of his kids and being horrified. But when the League asks them about it, all the kids are like “yeah! we actually all have them for each other just in case” and move on like it’s perfectly normal to have three different ways to take out your brother on hand (for emergencies).

#thoughts #bruce wayne #batman #dc #batfamily #batkids #batfam #like father like son #except it’s like paranoid bat figure #like paranoid bat child