#femme and butch

[androgynealienfemme]

"I know what I am when I look at old pictures long, wavy hair, eyeliner, mascara demure and mysterious. I know what I am when I wander on my lunch hour to sample new fragrances and linger near lace lingerie. I know what I am when I paw through these old letters still warm with old passions held firmly in wide rubber bands. I know what I am when the sight of old white t-shirts and the smell of Old Space can still make me shiver and smile I know what I am in the dark when you fill me your hands and your mouth in the head of the heart of my center I know what I am." "Old femme", Madeline Davis, The Persistent Desire, (Edited by Joan Nestle) (1992)

#the persistent desire #lesbian #lesbianism #lesbian poetry #lesbian lit #lesbian writing #femme lesbian #femme #femme and butch #butchfemme #butch4femme #femme poetry #sapphic writing

[hippiebeachick]

Home

Thinking about the scene in Feinburg’s “Stone Butch Blues” where it talks about femmes being the strong ones at home, holding butches in their arms and letting them just be, because they’re so visible throughout the day, and they get abused and called harsh names, and they’re never allowed to be soft. And I’m thinking about my trans girlfriend and how when she gets home after spending a day pretending to be a man—just to be safe— and I hold her in my arms, and I am her place to be soft, her place to be herself, and we comfort each other. I can’t think of anything more lesbian than us looking out for each other that way.

#lesbianculture #lesbian #femme #femme and butch #femme lesbian #butch #trans #trans lesbian #And for the record my gf is not butch #but the parallels are still there

[mellifiedfemme]

Can anyone tell me what is that poem about the "rigth way to be butch" and it constantly contradicts itself to show that there isn one? I cant remember the title for the life of me

#im talking to myself lol #femme and butch #butch #femme #butch4femme culture

[faintingviolet]

Season of Love (CBR14 #79)

Season of Love (CBR14 #79)

Season of Love would not have made its way to my holiday season reading if not for emmalita’s lovely gifting of it to me, but it does check several boxes for my recent reading input: it is a queer romance which unpacks big emotions, specifically grief and trauma responses. Season of Love is also a very Jewish story told around several holidays, including Christmas. It also made Buzzfeed’s list of…

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#a little romance #bisexual lead #f/f #femme and butch #holidays #Jewish culture #queer romance #We Need Diverse Books

[venusmage]

Shout out to the cashier at Aldi that made me and my wife malfunction

#butch #femme #lesbian #lgbt art #lgbt comic #artists on tumblr #my art #pride #comic

[urmumhaha]

I wish butch n femme balls existed. Not to b a fucking sap n a massive dyke but wow. Ugh even. Just wanna wear a gown n stilettos n have my honey greet me w a bouquet before we leave n we wear matching or complimentary jewelry n spend hours on my hair and makeup to impress. N then when we get there my honey will spin me around the room for a brief dance before grabbing something to drink, wine for me n whiskey for her, as we chat w other dykes n celebrate butchfemmeness. Or whatever

#thinkin thots #sorry everyone I’m tired n a lil high after work n feeling DRAB so we r imagining #n listen I know balls r just a flaunting wrath bourgeois thing #wealth #this is just a simple indulgence for the Eve #lesbian #i #femme lesbian #butch/femme #butch lesbian #womp womp

[murderonthedullexpress]

“Trapped”

Stone Butch Blues - Leslie Feinberg

@/lilboyblueish on Instagram

Poem by Keaton St. James (@boykeats)

I/Me/Myself - Will Wood

We Both Laughed In Pleasure by Lou Sullivan

cis people asking cis questions by Silas Denver Melvin (@sweatermuppet)

Tomboy Survival Guide by Ivan Coyote

#we are trapped in what other people see #trans #transgender #transsexual #nonbinary #butch #femme #stone butch blues #leslie feinberg #boykeats #poetry #trans poetry #will wood #lou sullivan #we both laughed in pleasure #silas denver melvin #sweatermuppet #ivan coyote #queer #gay #lgbt #lgbtq #web weaving #parallels

[androgynealienfemme]

"J: One of the issues that became clarified for me as a result of yesterday was that many of today's feminists see us as ahistorical, as if we are stuck in time and never change, as if we are that bad fifties thing. But I am always learning more about this way of loving. I have changed in the last twenty years. Now I want to incorporate into my femmeness my new layers of experience. I want to be the best of our desire without apologizing for it, and I want us to know our own history. Butch and femme can change and grow.

A: It has been the worst problem around butch-femme. I mean, that's the thing we have always been accused of, and someplace there was truth in it- someone wasn't getting pleasure someplace they needed. I have always felt that way about butch-femme stuff. There was someplace I had to twist myself around in other to make it happen. I mean, that was the technique of the good femme, of finding a way against that incredible butch barrier to be the lover of a butch. That was some of the tease and some of the-

M: Right- physically, I had to learn how to do things like learn how to use my hipbone, but more emotionally, to submit and engage in the drama that creates a setting in which they can comfortably find their orgasm. There's something kind of theatrical about being femme. It is not at all phony, but it seems like we learn to heighten our differences and create settings. We are the ones who make the surroundings safe and appropriate. You know - it's hard work! But we will do almost anything for them, the women we love and need so much.

J: There is so much irony in this. Deb came into feminism, but she is in her own way a natural butch. She isn't like any kind of butch I had known before. She likes to be made love to. Now I can give back part of the body that has been pleasured. I think I was very caught up in the emotional gratitude to women that I made love with, that lived with me. I would have driven a stone butch crazy. I provided a home; butches always came to live with me. I would find a butch living in some dingy place, not taking care of herself. My desire was to take her home, feed her, love her, reward her for bein the freak on the street. I was always moved by the contrast of flagrant courage and obvious need for tending. Now that I am forty-two years old- thats another thing: being a femme doesn't even stay physically the same. I am a different femme at forty than I was at twenty. I have to be. I feel differently about my body.

While we were making these tapes, I am thing, what did I do wrong?

A: Yes your sexuality changes, and so when you are into roles, it's real scary to figure out what that means.

J: Hopefully, they'll change with us."

-"The Femme Tapes" by Madeline Davis, Amber Hollibaugh, & Joan Nestle, The Persistent Desire (edited by Joan Nestle) (1992)

#the femme tapes #the persistent desire #Joan nestle #lesbian #lesbianism #butchfemme #butch4femme #femme4butch #butch lesbian #femme lesbian #butch and femme #femme and butch #lgbt lit #lesbian lit

[hippiebeachick]

Lesbian Book Request

I think I might identify somewhat with femme lesbians, but I have a hard time reading queer theory because it’s too relatable. 😅 I’ve read Anzaldua and Feinburg. Any suggestions for lesbian literature that explores femme-butch culture, but preferably something that will only make me cry a little bit as opposed to something like Stone Butch Blues that ripped my goddamn heart out? 😅

#lesbian #lesbianculture #butch #femme #femme and butch #queertheory #books #literature

[blvddyvvalentine]

Y’all we have to stop making eachother feel bad for having sexual attraction. Lesbians are allowed to be horny we don’t have to be sexless pastel princesses holding hands in a field or smth. Be horny, it’s frankly revolutionary to be a sweaty horny dyke.

#lesbianism #butch #femme #lesbian #dyke

[butchesanddykesandqueersohmy]

I am once again furious there isn't a dyke version of grindr

#butch dyke #t4t #femme lesbian #butch lesbian #lesbian

[iwasarob0t]

doberman femme bulldog butch what’s better than this

#my art #furry #lesbian #femme #butch #bulldog #doberman #femme4butch #butch4femme #art #drawing #procreate

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

craving pathetic wet old women characters. where is the feminism

#give me middle aged butches w anxiety & cats. older femmes w/ arm flab who refuse to age 'gracefully' #gimme a bilingual bisexual with a trench coat & crows feet & and no retirement savings #i want them bitter & jaded & dysfunctional & menopausal #i want to watch them make poor financial dietary romantic decisions (and probably commit crimes) where are they?????

[ripleylarue]

Carabiners are for lovers <3

#lesbian #femme4butch #butch femme #lesbian art #flagging

[littlefwreak]

its almost “fuck me in your hoodie on the countertop while we bake cookies” season.