#i don't want kids

[androgynouscollectivekingdom]

#no kids just cats #no kids #childless #child free #my choice #childless by choice #i don't want kids #no babies #childfree life #kid free #not having children #tbh i'm good #fuck them kids #sorry not sorry #sorry not even remotely sorry #people with kids get so mad and offended because other people don't want kids 😂

[towlerknows]

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#i just remembered i dreamed that somehow #not the usual way #i got pregnant with Louis Tomlinson's child #I am FIFTY NINE YEARS OLD! #why would i dream that? #i don't want kids #don't want Louis #bless #love him tho #so wtf was that about?

[mfrance-writes]

Childfree and Gloriously *Not* Busy

American society glorifies "the grind" and being busy for practically every waking moment of the day. If someone favors a more relaxed lifestyle, fellow Americans tend to think of them as a lazy freeloader or some kind of New Age hippie who's probably on drugs. (This glorification of "the grind" is one of the reasons that disabled people who are unable to work are seen as less valuable members of society, but that's a topic for another blog.)

Being childfree is also sometimes viewed through the lens of that piece of American society. What I mean by that is that people will sometimes excuse someone not having children by putting extra emphasis on how busy that childfree person is. People say things like, "They have a high-power career, so they don't have time to raise children." Or, "They work full-time and care for a sick relative, so they don't have time to raise children." Or, "They work full-time and volunteer all the time, so they don't have time for children." That seems to be one of the only reasons that society as a whole understands and tolerates without trying to shame the person for not having children while every other reason for being childfree that doesn't involve working ourselves to death is still called lazy, selfish, immature, or just plain un-Godly if we live in a heavily Christian area of the country.

I think part of the reason that explanation for not having children is more easily tolerated in American society is because, in a way, society feels like we've replaced the children with the other thing that takes up all our time, which is acceptable because we still don't really have time for leisure or relaxing or "freeloading." It's like, of course, the only reason that we don't have children is because we replaced it with some traditionally productive or altruistic thing because, of course, people's lives would be empty and boring and shamefully leisurely if we didn't replace the space the children would have taken up with something. Society says that people shouldn't want lives that are boring or shamefully leisurely. At least, that feels like the assumption...

Here's the thing, though. I didn't opt out of children because I'm so busy with something else that I don't have time for them. I opted out of children so I wouldn't have to be so busy that I didn't have time for anything else. I wanted to come home and be *not* busy. (Strange concept for American society, I know.)

I don't want to be busy and productive in a way that society deems acceptable every waking moment of my day. I don't want to come home from my paralegal job to the second never-ending job of raising children. I want to come home to quiet and free time and tea and books and a nice adult-centered dinner. And that shouldn't mean I'm lazy, selfish, immature, or that I'm some kind of societal freeloader.

Childfree people don't need something that keeps them super busy in order to not have children. It's okay if people value time for leisure and relaxation instead of being busy for every waking moment of the day. (Being busy for every waking moment of the day and not taking time to relax is actually mentally and physically unhealthy, by the way.) Wanting to make sure you have time for relaxing and quiet is, by itself, a perfectly valid reason for not wanting children.

#childfree #childfree by choice #team no kids #the grind #american society #hard work #always busy #we're not lazy #we're not freeloaders #valuing different things #i don't want kids #i want free time

[sad-bi-girl]

The problem is I don't want children, But I wanna name something

#i don't want kids

[macintheknight]

the feminine urge to get bred and have your partner feed you berries in bed

#ʚ august speaks ɞ #i don't want kids #but like #that sounds nice

[mad-raptorzzz]

Another rant.

It bugs me when my family takes offense that I don't want children. Like, mates, I heard you complaining about me and my siblings for years. All about the time and money and inconvenience. You really think I want all that? I remember my parents saying we couldn't do 'xyz' because someone was too little or someone had a school thing or someone didn't like it. Call me selfish, but if and when I want to do something I just want to be able to do it. I don't want to worry about anything else.

Also, so many things can go wrong. The child could die before even being born, or be born super sick. And then you have to worry about making sure you have childcare while you work and there are horror stories about that. And then you have to make sure you're in a good school district. Like, jesus christ, why would I want all that stress?

They argue that the only way you can feel fulfilled is by having a kid that you can be proud of. But I'm plenty proud of myself thank you. I can just exist and be happy. Thanks.

#rant #I don't want kids #children are a lot of work #they are always sick and puking and sticky #why would I want the thing my parents complained about for literal years of my life

[travellermp3]

OH MY GOD I have a video of my nephew rolling over onto his back saved right next to a picture of Henry....ohhh that gives me so many thoughts

#ship.txt #I don't want kids #but I want to give this man children #🌻🐴

[imajinxnation]

I'm actually debating on whether I should write a Supernatural preference about the reader not wanting children, cause so far I see NONE of these. If anyone knows of any imagines or preferences like this, please tell me!

#supernatural #supernatural x reader #spn x reader #spn #i don't want kids

[becometheknifemaster]

I live in a country where the abortion is prohibited, unless the person got raped or the pregnancy is dangerous. But even in thoses cases is difficult to get an abortion. You can see the news about a young girl who got pregnant and the judge forbade her to get the abortion. It pains me seeing what's happening in the US. It is a huge retrocess.

And just saying, people will not stop the abortion, but more people will die because of it. Mostly poor people because rich people will keep paying for it or being able to travel to places where is it allowed to get one. That's how it works here in Brazil. This is the motive why we the pro-choice says that abortion is a topic for human rights and public health.

#laura rambles #i am so disappointed #more and more i want to get a full hysterectomy #i don't want kids

[langernameohnebedeutung]

If tumblr dies we should all regroup on vivino the wine-rating app. Can follow, can like, can post pictures, can post text. Just mention a Pinot and Chianti for the first few months until we outnumber the genuine wine people

#im kidding but I also don't want to worry about another tumblr apocalypse but also thinking about preparing some escape boat

[androgynouscollectivekingdom]

#goals #life goals #no kids #no kids just cats #childless #child free #my choice #childless by choice #i don't want kids #no babies #feminism #childfree life #kid free #maybe a dog #not having children #tbh i'm good #meme #fresh memes #memes #funny #lol #lmao #awesome #hilarious #humour #halloween #halloween memes #happy halloween

[inkskinned]

at some point it's just like. do they even fucking like the thing they're asking AI to make? "oh we'll just use AI for all the scripts" "we'll just use AI for art" "no worries AI can write this book" "oh, AI could easily design this"

like... it's so clear they've never stood in the middle of an art museum and felt like crying, looking at a piece that somehow cuts into your marrow even though the artist and you are separated by space and time. they've never looked at a poem - once, twice, three times - just because the words feel like a fired gun, something too-close, clanging behind your eyes. they've never gotten to the end of the movie and had to arrive, blinking, back into their body, laughing a little because they were holding their breath without realizing.

"oh AI can mimic style" "AI can mimic emotion" "AI can mimic you and your job is almost gone, kid."

... how do i explain to you - you can make AI that does a perfect job of imitating me. you could disseminate it through the entire world and make so much money, using my works and my ideas and my everything.

and i'd still keep writing.

i don't know there's a word for it. in high school, we become aware that the way we feel about our artform is a cliche - it's like breathing. over and over, artists all feel the same thing. "i write because i need to" and "my music is how i speak" and "i make art because it's either that or i stop existing." it is such a common experience, the violence and immediacy we mean behind it is like breathing to me - comes out like a useless understatement. it's a cliche because we all feel it, not because the experience isn't actually persistent. so many of us have this ... fluttering urgency behind our ribs.

i'm not doing it for the money. for a star on the ground in some city i've never visited. i am doing it because when i was seven i started taking notebooks with me on walks. i am doing it because in second grade i wrote a poem and stood up in front of my whole class to read it out while i shook with nerves. i am doing it because i spent high school scribbling all my feelings down. i am doing it for the 16 year old me and the 18 year old me and the today-me, how we can never put the pen down. you can take me down to a subatomic layer, eviscerate me - and never find the source of it; it is of me. when i was 19 i named this blog inkskinned because i was dramatic and lonely and it felt like the only thing that was actually permanently-true about me was that this is what is inside of me, that the words come up over everything, coat everything, bloom their little twilight arias into every nook and corner and alley

"we're gonna replace you". that is okay. you think that i am writing to fill a space. that someone said JOB OPENING: Writer Needed, and i wrote to answer. you think one raindrop replaces another, and i think they're both just falling. you think art has a place, that is simply arrives on walls when it is needed, that is only ever on demand, perfect, easily requested. you see "audience spending" and "marketability" and "multi-line merch opportunity"

and i see a kid drowning. i am writing to make her a boat. i am writing because what used to be a river raft has long become a fully-rigged ship. i am writing because you can fucking rip this out of my cold dead clammy hands and i will still come back as a ghost and i will still be penning poems about it.

it isn't even love. the word we use the most i think is "passion". devotion, obsession, necessity. my favorite little fact about the magic of artists - "abracadabra" means i create as i speak. we make because it sluices out of us. because we look down and our hands are somehow already busy. because it was the first thing we knew and it is our backbone and heartbreak and everything. because we have given up well-paying jobs and a "real life" and the approval of our parents. we create because - the cliche again. it's like breathing. we create because we must.

you create because you're greedy.

#every time someones like ''AI will replace u" im like. u will have to fucking KILL ME #there is no replacement here bc i am not filling a position. i am just writing #and the writing is what i need to be doing #writeblr #this probably doesn't make sense bc its sooo frustrating i rarely speak it the way i want to #edited for the typo wrote it and then was late to a meeting lol #i love u people who mention my typos genuinely bc i don't always catch them!!!! :) it is doing me a genuine favor!!! #my friend says i should tell you ''thank you beta editors'' but i don't know what that means #i made her promise it isn't a wolf fanfiction thing. so if it IS a wolf thing she is DEAD to me (just kidding i love her) #hey PS PS PS ??? if ur reading this thinking what it's saying is ''i am financially capable of losing this'' ur reading it wrong #i write for free. i always have. i have worked 5-7 jobs at once to make ends meet. #i did not grow up with access or money. i did not grow up with connections or like some kind of excuse #i grew up and worked my fucking ASS OFF. and i STILL!!! wrote!!! on the side!!! because i didn't know how not to!!! #i do not write for money!!!! i write because i fuckken NEED TO #i could be in the fucking desert i could be in the fuckken tundra i could be in total darkness #and i would still be writing pretentious angsty poetry about it #im not in any way saying it's a good thing. i'm not in any way implying that they're NOT tryna kill us #i'm saying. you could take away our jobs and we could go hungry and we could suffer #and from that suffering (if i know us) we'd still fuckin make art. #i would LOVE to be able to make money doing this! i never have been able to. but i don't NEED to. i will find a way to make my life work #even if it means being miserable #but i will not give up this thing. for the whole world.

[givemewallywestorgivemedeath]

The funny thing about the PJO cabin system is that everyone's always all 'oh the twelve' this and 'the twelve' that but that's absolutely not even remotely accurate. To start, right off the bat it's thirteen, not twelve, because they don't count Hades. But not really because before Percy, there were no big three kids, so we're down to ten active cabins already but it's actually eight because Artemis and Hera don't make demigods.

And of those eight, Mr. D is stuck at camp (thus not really making new demigods all that often) and his only two kids don't even sleep in a cabin, they sleep in the Big House with him.

So, pre-Percy, there are seven active cabins at Camp Half-Blood:

Glee club, the Jocks, the Nerds, the Geeks, the Farmers, the 'Sketchy Kids' and the Popular Kids.

Or, in other words, the Apollo, Ares, Athena, Hephaestus, Demeter, Hermes (and the unclaimed kids) and Aphrodite cabins.

What's cool is that you can already see the cabin dynamics in the show. For example, the Athena cabin allies with the Hermes cabin for the numbers. The Hermes kids plus all the unclaimed kids? It's the biggest cabin in the camp by far. It's a battle strategy. Luke and Annabeth's close relationship is just the cherry on top for Annabeth. It'll be really cool to see how the show develops the differences in the cabins during the series.

#pjo tv show #pjo series #if i remember correctly it's the Hermes cabin then Ares and Apollo in terms of numbers. Aphrodite would probably be next. #but the Athena Hephaestus and Demeter cabins were always under twelve kids. #they state exact numbers in one book... and if you don't want spoilers turn back now #but after the war theres only three Hephaestus kids left so like.... the numbers go real fucking low #the entire camp population plummeta #iactually really fucking depressing watching this camp filled with small tiny children knowing that only a very small fraction of themlive

[uncanny-tranny]

I recall saying this before, but it bears repeating:

There could be a billion trans people in the world and it still wouldn't be a bad thing because being trans is not a bad thing. Even if the rate of people discovering they are trans is "disproportionate" to trends from decades ago, that is not a bad thing. In fact, it's a natural consequence for there being more trans people being able to stay alive, and, overall, being able to live in a slightly more tolerant world. You'd only see that as a bad thing if you actively didn't want trans people to either live or live a life that facilitates wellness.

#trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #like even with there being more OPEN AND OUT trans people there are still more cis people by volume #even in my high school with three trans girls and three trans guys (including me) and a few NB people... #...there were still a THOUSAND cis kids going to school with us. imagine complaining when cis people are still 'dominant' #i don't know what my secondary school's population is because it's a big campus so you can deal with high school stats lol #like thank gd we are beginning to live in a world where the trans population CAN grow #i want there to be more trans people. because trans people will continue to be trans #we will continue being trans no matter what laws you put into place. no matter how dangerous you make the world for us... #...we will continue to be trans whether or not you approve. and that's fucking beautiful. i want us to live. i want us to eat well. #i want us to not worry about anything in this world. and that's going to happen one day. it will happen just like the sun rises each morning #if that is a threat to you then that is your own fault - your own self-destructive and sad thoughts about people and our world #and that is not my burden to carry - i have my own.

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

got a worm nibbling my brain. can someone help me find a piece of obscure media?

webcomic/indie comic from the 2010s. basically a sci-fi short story about a young girl (with red hair?) who was being raised by scientists as part of an experiment. she receives a haircut/has her head shaved, in preparation for her annual brain scan/testing. it is revealed that while her body is human, her "brain" is artificial, made of computer implants throughout her skull and spine. at some point her biological mother (also a scientist on the same campus?) encounters her and is repulsed, viewing her as a machine who has murdered her daughter.

it was very poignant and it bruised my heart and i can NOT find it anywhere

#i thought it was made by the creator of 'O Human Star' for some reason but apparently not? #goddammit goddammit goddammit #'i don't have to write down the title of this piece of media i encountered in my formative years bc i'll always remember it' #*cut to ten years later frantic googling* #fun fact 'a.i.' is now a completely useless search term #google in general is useless #and stuff i read 3+ years ago regularly vanishes from the internet #bookmarks are not enough! if you like indie media--download that shit! buy digital/physical copies while you can #save it to the cloud back it up and organize that shit!!! #keep a list of the stuff you read (organized by date/media type and possibly with keywords if you want it to be useful longterm) #(or a spreadsheet even if you're like me and rabidly consume short stories/comics like a pack of amnesiac piranhas on a feeding frenzy) #(that stuff PILES UP over the years ok. if you wanna make sure you'll be able to find it again a decade later--curation is key) #because art WILL touch your soul and then vanish into the void leaving naught but a 404 Error in its wake #i am an old man shaking my fist at the kids on my lawn but the kids on my lawn are me and my longterm digital planning skills circa 2012

[mad-raptorzzz]

it amazes me how much people who have/want kids are offended that I don't want kids. Like I'm not judging you at all for having/wanting them that's your decision. Good for you. But I know that I do not want them. That's my decision. Doesn't affect you. I mean are you jealous of my kidless-ness? Are you regretting your decision? Want to drag me down with you?

Also, there could be many very personal reasons for someone not wanting kids. Maybe they physically cannot and it was a horrible decision for them to make and they do 'want' them in their heart but can't have them because of their health (yes adoption could help with the carrying and birthing but some people have a lot of other health concerns that may preclude them from caring for a child). Or maybe financially their life can't support more than one person. Or maybe their jobs pulls them all around the world and they don't want a kid growing up without them or having to move all around. Or maybe they just plain don't want them because there also doesn't need to be some crazy or sad reason.

Little rant today about people getting offended when I said I don't want children.

#rant time again #rant over #i don't want kids #never have #never will #everyone always said it would change or it will change #it hasn't and it won't