#i love both boys deeply

[itspileofgoodthings]

one of the things that I think is so beautiful and compelling and unexpected and FUNNY about boys in fiction (in real life too but we have more examples to see it in fiction) is that not only can they be fragmented and compartmentalized little creatures it’s that until they become men they pretty much inherently ARE. they can be so Beautiful and trustworthy and capable in one area of their lives and then such a complete disaster in others and of course this is true of all human beings but I feel like we fail to see this about boys especially because when we see one good or beautiful quality in them we extrapolate that to every area of their lives instantly in a way that the boy, real or fictional, hasn’t actually achieved yet. They can love their families and be completely unready for romance. They can be generous and deft with some people in their lives, their teammates maybe or even, say, the neighborhood kid who needs help, and sullen immature little assholes in other areas, where they’re more afraid or unsure or even just where they haven’t learned what to do just yet. We overreact to their good qualities sometimes, quick to label a boy who cooks or shoulders some amount of domestic responsibility as a cinnamon roll, in a way that downplays and minimizes both their humanity and the necessity of them going on a journey of growing up. And I get why we do that because those qualities alone, those of a domestic or compassionate nature, are so rare to see in boys and we WANT to see them and we love to see them. But it’s important for them as much as us to ask ourselves the question: what is a man? And the answer is: a boy whom suffering has tempered and refined, that has taken together all these disparate pieces of bravery and goodness and cowardice and laziness and welded together into one unified whole. And so that journey into adulthood and manhood is one we have to care about for them the most if we care about them at all.

#anyway this is about jonathan byers and Matt Saracen #i love both boys deeply #i DO #but as I’ve gotten older time and experience have simply released me from the chokehold #of thinking they’re perfect because they’re capable of loving in a domestic way #i LOVE them for doing so but they have so much more to learn #and sometimes they choose to learn it and sometimes they don’t #we should see boys as more nuanced than we do is what I’m tryna say #and I say this only because I absolutely have been guilty of not doing so! #I’ve done that so so much and am slowly learning not to #to see them CLEARLY and with compassion but not with rose-colored glasses

[grozen]

silly little man, silly little sketches

#mentally rotating him in my head #harry vanderspeigle #what a lovely chap he is #both the actor and the character #he's so... adorable #alan tudyk is so friend shaped #there's something so deeply endearing about both his appearance and the way he tackles his performance #lovely man #resident alien #syfy #alan tudyk #the showrunner highly undervalues the immense value this actor and character brings to a scene #also the mild physical abuse against him by d'arcy played off as a joke was in such poor taste #i understand he's a comedy character first tragedy character last but man #hitting boys is funny in like the third grade please dont make this a joke its just offputting #also this is a wip and i will post more later #vandertrees ftw btw #dark horse comics #art #digital art #fanart #drawing #painting #digital #oh and yeah thats Nathan ''Thotty Too'' Fillion the Octopus in the background #never thought i'd see k2so give cayde-6 cpr yet here we are

[welcometogrouchland]

Babygirl I can concieve of stephcass dynamics you couldn't even imagine (arospec Cass not understanding why "probably bi but has a job so she doesn't have time to think about that" Steph apparently needs a man (she doesn't, it would just be nice) and doesn't want to platonically settle down with cass in their old age)

#ramblings of a lunatic #dc comics #stephcass #another sure to be no-notes banger #anyway I think steph and cass are both very. meh on labels #like i said Steph has a job (in my heart it's retail or like a fast food joint or something but in canon its just being batgirl/spoiler) #so she's not thinking about that rn #and cass was raised so outside of conventional society that she. technically understands why ppl want labels for things #but when you grow up in essentially a few rooms with just you and one other guy 90% of the time it just feels unnecessary in her heart #likewise she was raised so far from conventional romance and has such strong emotions about those she cares about #that she's just. not that interested in delineating romantic vs platonic feelings. She Likes You. Deal w/ it #steph on the other hand. oh boy steph #I'm not gonna say comphet I genuinely think she was deeply madly in love w/ tim and that's important to her character #but at the same time she's so. she's so #steph puts a lot of stock in her romantic relationships bc shes on a perpetual quest for connection and to be seen and appreciated #but. at the same time. she resents that part of her i think (at least early spoiler characterization does?- #-local girl desperately wants your approval and would rather be waterboarded than admit that to herself bc that's embarrassing) #so she's just kinda. acting like she's in it for the fun of it but that girl is searching for a soulmate #i genuinely think pre break-up she thought tim was the guy she was gonna marry. not consciously but if it were anyone it'd be him #and the whole ''married with kids'' thing IS something i think she wants. not every female character wants to be married/a mom #but Stephanie does imo #(also lets not even get into how much her breakup with tim SHOULD'VE effected her considering how it went down- #-and how that was never really gone into besides being hinted at in batgirls and kinda. dismissed in Tim's pride special- #-like on the one hand i get it bc of optics but on the other hands. he's really important to her! this should make her so much more upset!! #ahem. anyway #I'm not even the worlds biggest tim/stephanie guy i just think they're inch resting #and Cass. is close w/ Tim and Steph and should Get all of this since she's so adept at reading ppl #but like I said she's bad at categorizing platonic/romantic feelings in herself and doesn't totally Get it w/ steph #i should just write fic about this at this point these tags are too much

[angorwhosebabyisthis]

every now and then i remember the time a few years ago, when sdmi fandom first had its revival thanks to netflix, when a wildly popular sdmi blog run by an anti said the words 'perfectly good Black woman' in reference to why you should ship [man you could easily read as white, whose arc she was fridged for] with her instead of [hatesink character whose race is ambiguous due to being a furry, but has a BLISTERINGLY antiblack narrative under a thin layer of fantasy racism, with a fun side of homophobia and holocaust denial the latter of which is directly invoked in the post], which got hundreds of notes, and i grimace my face through the back of my head all over again lmao

#sdmi #scooby doo: mystery incorporated #cassidy williams #ricky owens #professor pericles #like man i'm sorry i really do love rickidy and their dynamic and it's rich and complex and deeply tragic on both sides #but they textbook fridged her and i have never once seen someone talk about that in the wild #instead there is just nearly-always-antis being blatantly balls-out racist about her in like a dozen different ways and EUGH #while also turning around and gushing about a privileged misogynistic white boy who abuses a girl and refuses to let her leave #and literally talks about how he should have thought of hiding a tracking chip under her skin without her knowledge #and this is treated as silly + cute and kinda immature but also About His Trauma Making Him Abuse Her; and they get back together in the en #and making endless posts about how he's Cute Tragic Best Boy because he's autistic and traumatized and (genuinely!) endearing #and reblogging and celebrating and cheering on Cute Art of Them while conspicuously not shaming or excommunicating anyone l o l #you're not required to hate fred over it but god damn dude fuckin yikes #and 'perfectly good Black woman' made me physically recoil from my screen lmfao #racism cw #misogyny cw #antiblack racism cw #abuse apologia cw #homophobia cw #holocaust denial cw #the salt files #the crit files #SDMItag

[shitpostingkats]

I like to imagine Ryoken still frequents Kolter's truck after everything that happened. Not in like a cute "Now that the war is over, we can all just sit back and enjoy a meal together :)" No. Ryoken will walk up and order a hotdog with no mustard, and Yusaku will meet his eyes, take out a paper bag, and maintain eyecontact as he pours half a bottle of mustard in there and nothing else. Then Ryoken takes it, pays fifty dollars, say "Thanks! See you next week!" and he genuinely means it.

#they both think they're winning #Yusaku: *pouring mustard into a takeaway bag* I hope this is ruins his day and he never comes back #Ryoken: *taking his bag of mustard* Boy I love participating in my Anime Rivalry with my Arch Equal-And-Opposite #there's something deeply wrong with both of them #(affectionate) #those two would have the WILDEST autistic beef I just know it #yugioh #vrains #yugioh vrains #ygo vrains #yusaku fujiki #ryoken kogami

[sharonisthebettercarter]

bruh, the faces billy made when him and homie met i--

casual surprise and then--what the fuck is that face???

MY DEAR BOI, WHY DO YOU LOOK SO THREATENED BY THE MERE PRESENCE OF THIS MAN YOU JUST MET HIM I--

i mean i get it, he's hot butt~

and now he's lulled you into a false sense of security with his charm and "good" nature... oh dear. billy bean, you sad, stupid, pathetic little kitten<3

#homelander #the boys #billy butcher #love at first sight #butchlander #lmfao #billy was so damn threatened and insecure in this scene leik i can't #it was beautiful #i love him #he's so stupid #he took one look at homelander and decided #“i feel deeply emasculated by this beautiful blond man and need to insult him to reclaim my masculinity” #“but only once he's a safe distance because i know he could fold me in half and i would love it--” #BILLY-- #he took one look and his heart went doki doki #the 5 essential b's #the best bratty british baked tsun tsun bean<3 #a nicer time for both of them #he so badly wants to get railed by the blond idiot with the bulge #honestly if homie set his sights on billy they would have just had an affair--

[devotedlystrangewizard]

the school arc to me is so good because it drags ciel out of his position as a powerful figure and literally places him in the shoes of the person he could have been. the circus arc ALSO drags him out of his position as big bad queens watch dog/head of the phantomhive estate but the school arc feels like a mockery of a future that never was. this is what he could have been had his parents not died. and even then its NOT because he will never be that kid.

he never was.

#ramblings #incoherent beyond belief its 4 am #and im trying to avoid manga spoilers #might add a reblog with more coherent thoughts when i wake up but im off my meds so i cant promise anything #actually correction im being vague w the manga spoilers #manga readers know whats up #idk if there are any anime only ppl who havent been spoiled on The Plottwist Ever yet #but i figured there will be new fans and though im not tagging this it might still get seen so #cant WAIT to see our boy absolutely miserable in animation form should they recreate that arc LMAOOO #which ofc is after the germany arc so thats still a long time away #but STILL. itd be fun i need to see this young teenager lose his mind in color with sound #him relying on sebastian to do all his fag duties (sorry. dredge) so he can work his way up the social ladder #trying to gain power while simultaneously proving that he cant do anything but rely on others #hes always needed help in basically every way and he hasnt CHANGED he just got a demon to do it for him #he learns to lie and charm and cheat and all the while hes a fucking CHILD WHO STILL STRUGGLES WITH NORMAL THINGS #ciel is my little baby and i love him deeply no matter how much of a little bitch he can be #his helplessness isnt just 'oh he was raised in british high society' its also that he never got the chance to learn anything #which to elaborate on that id also have to go into manga territory. iykyk #like absolutely at this point he just refuses to learn how to do things he has a pet demon to do it for him #but. #hi the phantomhives backstory is killing me again its so late #both atlantic and the school arc are just setup for the Big Arc but theyre very good in their own right i SWEAR #also when i rewatched the circus arc a while back and i realised how some scenes were shot #the heavy foreshadowing that i didnt realise. yk. 7 years ago or however long its been since i first watched it #CRAZY #if you are new. to kuroshitsuji. and you havent read the manga. dear god. read the manga #ALSO GRELLE IN THAT ARC IS SO BEAUTIFUL & OTHELLO IS TRANSMASCULINE. OKAY GOODBYE

[jiangzongzhu]

fun thing that folks really apparently don’t want to acknowledge if we’re discussing canon Jiang Cheng and the thing I think people are truly failing to grasp in regards to fans of his and why they care about him. His actions throughout the story repeatedly, over and over again, belied his words. Yes, he has a harsh exterior that is used as an armor against this world that repeatedly took everything from him. He uses words as a weapon at times, but his actions say everything his words don’t.

Additionally, he fucks up. He doesn’t always do the right thing, but that’s the thing about MDZS, not a damn one of these characters were in the right 100% of the time. But he cares and he works hard to do what is right by his sect and his family and yes, at times, those two groups come in conflict and he makes tough decisions because of that, but regardless he still repeatedly shows his love.

And it may take an additional time through the story to see that, but the narrative supports that fact time and time again despite the fact that Wei Wuxian as the protagonist doesn’t see it (but their struggles in communicating and understanding one another’s actions and intentions is a whole different discussion).

And that’s not even mentioning the whole plethora of cultural context that is being ignored, but again. different discussion.

#not tagging this anything fun I just wanted to ramble #because man the “high horse” the folks are on as if fans of the character completely lack an understanding of him #or like we got our understanding of him from a fic here or there and some fanart #its got me bummed at 8pm on a saturday night #I love me a good murder kitten #See: both of my DnD characters or Qi Rong or Xue Yang #but I love jiang cheng for his complexities and his pain and his imperfections but also his unwavering strength and his heart #and I don’t particularly appreciate folks acting like this character I resonate with so deeply is just something #that we as a fandom have collectively hallucinated #and yes I’m screaming at a brick wall that won’t be swayed by anything I have to say #I’ve been in fandoms since I was 14 and I’m… much older than that now. I truly understand this is not a winnable fight #I just don’t care for the shitty insinuations being made #because while he’s my perfect baby boy who I love with all my heart and has never done a thing wrong in his entire life #he’s also the man who kept chengqing in perfect playable condition for 13 years #and had it on his person at guanyin temple despite only going there for JL #he’s the man who begged to be taken instead of his nephew when JGY had a guqin string around the boy’s neck #the man who took a knife for wwx after everything #and who was willing to sacrifice himself to the Wens for WWX knowing there was no good outcome to that choice

[sixth-prince]

#music #we were talking about like. dance/club anthems for each of the boys and this is the one i ended up picking for alun #i think the most obvious being the feeling of being trapped by things which he knows he should love at detriment to himself #there's a lot to be said about his views on his various relationships especially as they pertain to patron(s) and his fellow princes #and how he maybe understands that there is something deeply unhealthy about the value he puts in things that do not seem to value him #riesling has been a strong advocate of him re examining these very relationships but... well. maybe someday. who knows #i also love that both of the vocalists are transgender which alun is not but yknow we've been talking a bit about gender stuff #the beautiful nomi ruiz and anonhi! the latter of whom i believe officially transitioned a while after this song released #the jessica 6 logo being that highly feminized spider figure is also funny to me #because alun is a distillation of a much older oc cuideag #whose name means spider and has always been spider coded in their various incarnations sometimes literally #there are a few other contenders that i will probably slap on here if i haven't already... #dj alun's club mix tape #anyway thanks for coming to my ted talk #also also i love the thought of earth ending alun taking a liking to disco and nu disco for some reason #medieval ass d&d ass man hears a funky bassline for the first time and loses his mind a little

[omegalomania]

today on things i make for me and no one else: the members of fall out boy as some of my favorite video game protagonists feat pete as zagreus (hades), andy as kris (deltarune), joe as the drifter (hyper light drifter), and patrick as jack (bioshock 1)

#fall out boy #*mine #*art #ids in the alt text #pete is zagreus-coded because zagreus is a disaster with good intentions and also bi (zag is also poly) #andy is kris-coded because kris is a weirdo with a love for chaos and committing to the bit #joe is drifter-coded because the drifter is a deeply compassionate individual despite their debilitating physical illness #patrick is jack-coded because jack can either be a murderer or a dad or both #i had this like 90% done yesterday and then got hit with a bad case of the tummy hurts #i scraped enough of myself together to finish it for. some reason. ok back to lying down.

[waspstar]

i was so excited abt gomens s2 and i did really enjoy it when the hype was still there especially because i was afraid to think something as good as gomens was bad but s1 is so much fucking better than s2 and s2 has a LOT of issues. and the fanbase somehow has gotten even more infuriating than they were in 2019. the vehement denial of aziraphale and crowley being queer or gay is so infuriating and upsetting to me as a queer nonbinary person. neil gaiman is a fucking cunt and i hate that good omens fans are too blind to acknowledge the issues with him and the new season.

#s2 was fun to watch. i watched it two times. i saw the first episode three times. i cried both times i watched the kiss. #when i heard good old fashioned lover boy in the first episode i flipped the fuck out i was so excited and happy #but despite how much i loved s1 and how much fun i had with s2 and what i DID like about s2 its hard to ignore the problems with it #and with neil gaiman #theres something so deeply infuriating about that man and theres too many things to list and somethings i dont even know the full extent of #why gomens fans have a parasocial relationship with a crockety old self obsessed white dude is beyond me #i can still say i will watch s3 and theres a hope within me that it will be better but. eh #have you seen jackie?

[puthyflapps]

ok fine, i'll start watching Bones

Hey, thanks for trying something I love

#favorite season 1 episodes: ep 1 / ep 5/ ep 7/ ep 8/ ep 12/ ep 15/ ep 19/ ep 22 #7 - 8 - 9 being back to back hits like cmon on now!! #episode 5 boy in a bush is one of my favorite of the whole series v dark but still a fav #that one and episode 9 the girl in the fridge are huge favs bc I think it shows the first real glimpses of the woman behind the anthropology #like you get to really see how deeply Brenan cares for people both dead and alive #ugh I love Bones!!!!! #bones tv #ask

[kashilascorner]

just watched notting hill which is supposed to be like an epitome of a good romcom and... Well. Let's just say i highly disagree

#jab we met (2006) really fcked up my expectations of what a good romcom should be #also stuff like nothing serious (2021). it's not enough with the pretty cinematography the colorful #(pun intendes cause they're all white) cast of side characters and the chemistey between the lead actors #i need their background their baggage their context how they actually connect as human beings and change each other #otherwise you're just preaching a stupid idea of what love should be and making up a story where the main couple #go back and forth because PLOT but it's actually because there's practically nothing going on between them in terms of actual trust #you're selling infatuation as love and they're not the same #so in notting hill we know anna has all these troubles. we know she has been in an abusive relationship one after the other. we know she #has a bf by the time she meets the guy. we know that but we never EXPLORE that. we see she's deeply hurt that her intimate #photos were leaked and that her relationship with the guy (her only solace) was revealed to the press but we never really DEAL with the #consequences of that. we're TOLD the guy is a hopeless romantic and an pverall decent fellow. they let drop he dated bella at some point #and worst of all we know he got divorced recently. but we never see his ex wife we know nothing about her he doesn't seem to think #about her at all which is odd at best for someone who claims to both be very devoted to the one he's in love and also claims he's #only been in love twice (bella & his exwife) before anna. we don't see their baggage just hear it. we don't see them talk it out or work #through it and when anna reacts roughly surely because of stress and trauma the narrative ends up putting her in the wrong (though to be #fair he isn't protrayed as being in the right exactly). the film is supposedly all about illusion vs reality and anna's deakre to be seen #for what she is (just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love her thing) but actually the movie is about infatuation. a deep #one sure buy not about love. it's about solace but not nuance. it's fairy tale but fairy tales don't work in real life. we're supposed to #strive for the fairy tale which is literally completely impossible to achieve #effective romance movies and romcoms have that fantasy element for sure but they stay grounded. if not in plot surely in human connection #laura watches stuff

[revengesworn]

reminder that mikey wanted to save izana. literally days to hours after izana killed his sister. who he loved more than anything. "i just want to save you."

#ooc #mikey why are you so BEST BOY #afsdjfkhdsfkj but really i feel like mikey's endless forgiveness is something really underappreciated about his character?? #both with kazutora but ESPECIALLY with izana #and with peh too!! it's a reoccuring theme #he struggles with empathy for strangers. he's selfish in many respects. but he also cares /so/ much about his loved ones. #and is willing to include people who've hurt him deeply in that number too... #(and in other ways he's selfless but that's not the point of this post haha but like. he is both!!) #i'm rereading izana vs mikey atm so forgive me for getting a bit emotional akfndskjfsk #also i say ''days to hours'' because i forgot how long it was after lol. i think it was like a day but??

[mediasploshion]

people keep making fan decendants so heres mine, he's just a little guy that likes to write his fanfics

#my art #homestuck #panel edit #nekkoe leijon #dont know if im fully attached to that name but oh well #he specifically loves writing enemies to lovers #or i guess kismesis to matesprite in this case #the appeal of having someone that most certainly will gut you and rip your intestines out #a life or death partner #but also through all this fighting they seem to be the only one that gets you #and they dont want you actually dead either #because then who are they gonna fight #and you both learn to just love and hate each other to care so deeply for the other but still want to rip their head off #is it so wrong for a tiger boy to just want someone to literally grab his heart and squeeze it

[lupismaris]

Two things will come from a meltdown - creative genius or creative catastrophe, it's almost a guarantee be it haircuts or interior design

#needless to say i had both a mental health and an interior deisgn break through tonight post dinner time breakdown #are we otherwise okay? eh we will find out come morning #i mean yes im stable and fine #but will probably have a slight hang over #im just very tired of feeling deeply isolated and incredibly hard to love #like wow ya know #but also i gott stop trying to reinvent myself at every sudden crisis cause i realize i do that a lot I just caught myself now boy howdy #yes i realize this reads like a columbo bit i can hear it in my head honestly it fits makes it better and minutely less depressin