#i normally dont do posts with aftercare etc

[hijackalx]

ASTARION NSFW ALPHABET

A = Aftercare (what they're like after sex)

hes such a dick if ur a one night stand LMAO understandably tho. understandably..... but yeah if hes not really feeling u he just kind of dips out after coming up with some wack ass rehearsed excuse to protect ur feelings. totally different story if he loves u though. i feel like he gets sooo lovey-dovey post nut OMG like soo much praise and so many kisses. post nut clarity with his S/O consists of him enjoying the many wonders of the world 😭😭  that shit will have him watching the sunset

B = Body part (their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner's)

i think he likes his hands. i mean its one of the things he can see so like. but they are really nice. long and nimble fingers and smooth palms. his hands look like poetry lowkey. anyway if ur AFAB he loves titties. any titty. loves to mark them up and watch them bounce while u ride him. if ur AMAB its ur shoulder/collarbone area especially if its dainty and delicate looking but regardless he wants to bite around there. youll see him looking at them a lot

C = Cum (anything to do with cum, basically)

he wants to come on ur face or inside u. his two go-tos. if hes about to nut he'll ask u really quick which u want and u have like 3 seconds to answer LMAO. takes a while to get to that point tho so u have some time to think about it beforehand 😭😭

D = Dirty secret (pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

he got hard asf the first time u let him drink from u LMAOO he walked away and jerked off IMMEDIATELY

E = Experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they're doing?)

hundreds of years of experience is enough for me yeah

F = Favorite position (this goes without saying)

oooooooooooo gurl. ugh hold on theres so many it could be. ok so theres two. 1. he likes to sit u in his lap (the back of ur head on his shoulder or maybe even sitting sideways with ur legs off the side ??? idk however yall want) and finger/jerk u off. it makes him feel sooo in control 🤤 and 2. he lovesss eye contact so any positions where he can stare into ur soul 👁️👁️ yall why am i only seeing missionary rn...... or planking i guess lol

G = Goofy (are they more serious in the moment? are they humorous? etc.)

i think hes pretty serious. he might even get pissed off if u start acting too goofy lol like hes playful but not going to start cracking jokes 😹😹

H = Hair (how well groomed are they? does the carpet match the drapes? etc.)

this pains me to say...... but i dont think elves get body hair if any (like canonically)....... but i think its weird to be completely bald so im going to say hes got a little bit of pubic hair, armpit hair, and of course leg/arm hair. its just not very long or thick. he basically never has to trim or anything

I = Intimacy (how are they during the moment? the romantic aspect)

my boy is a romantic at heart yall. will kiss u a lot and hold u very close. i think its rlly important for him to have some sort of emotional connection thru sex.

J = Jack off (masturbation headcanon)

honestly dont feel like he ever does normally LMAO when u reject him or push him away during the first romance scene and he says he'll go beat off i think hes just saying that to make u feel bad 😹😭  when u let him drink from u it was probably the first time he jerked off in a longggg time. i can see him thinking hes above doing something like that lol so its an ego thing

L = Location (favorite places to do the do)

ok did u guys see the little church looking building at the first campsite in act 3??? i think if yall were to smash there he'd never forget it. like something about that turns him on so much. probably bent u over the altar. even after u guys are long gone he still thinks abt it.

M = Motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)

suck on his fingers omg. but also really likes to use sex to put u in ur place so if u guys argue or just dont get along at some point he will use that as a build up to sex. so he will purposely push ur buttons A LOT. cuz its like, how dare u raise ur voice at him ?? 😤

N = No (something they wouldn't do, turn offs)

if u dont go along with what he wants to do he kind of gets pissy after a while. he only ever really wants to be in control and thats it. also wont do anything extreme or ridiculous either 😭😭 anything that makes him feel humiliated is a big no

O = Oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc.)

for AFAB like ive said before he is the self-proclaimed coochie eating champion of faerun. sooooo good at it its not funny. will also kiss it and leave more kisses/bites on ur thighs. makes u feel like ur coochie is the most divine coochie in the world LMAO omg also will want to eat u out every time ur on ur period......... i think thats like one thing he will absolutely beg for OOP

if ur AMAB its basically the same just with a dick lol

P = Pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.)

he can do both. probably likes to be a little rougher than most people though

Q = Quickie (their opinions on quickies, how often, etc.)

yeah if hes in the mood i can see him scouting the area for a place to smash LMAO which probably happens pretty often. doesnt mind giving up the romantic aspect as long as yall still fuck for real every once in a while.

R = Risk (are they game to experiment? do they take risks? etc.)

i think he would need to be convinced. willing to hear u out at least

S = Stamina (how many rounds can they go for? how long do they last?)

TOO LONG. HE LASTS WAY TOO LONG. i mean after u been suckin and fuckin for that many years how do u not take forever to nut 😭😭  u will get urs tho dont worry. also perfect situation for u to have multiple orgasms so dont get discouraged besties 🤘🏻

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

allllll the timeeeee. he wants u to need him more than anything else before he fucks u. u need to need this man like u need oxygen. like a fish needs water. like a plant needs the sun. like a

V = Volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make, etc.)

grunts and groans but when he gets closer to finishing he'll start moaning. he doesnt make an effort to stay quiet but also wont do anything embarrassing 😹

Y = Yearning (how high is their sex drive?)

emmmmm i wanna say he can go a pretty long time without sex. but if he has a partner he is sexually attracted to his libido can be pretty high. but lets remember he is getting into his erectile dysfunction years ☝🏻 JOKINGGGG LMAO

Z = Zzz (how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

well he meditates technically. but he gets into that lil meditation pose fast as fuck boy 🧘 do not interrupt him either he'll be grumpy 😭

#astarion #bg3 #baldurs gate 3 #baldurs gate #x reader #headcanons #astarion bg3 #astarion x reader #astarion x tav #my headcanons #astarion ancunin

[mihwee]

hi! hope youre doing well~ ^^ first time asking from you, so sorry if it seems kinda awkward ;; could i possibly ask for a nsfw alphabet with gn reader and tartaglia/childe from genshin impact if youre up for it?

dont stress, take care of yourself!

hi stink, i can finally do this again since im starting to post daily 💀 after this ill do a TVIDTD (the villainess is destinied to die) nsfw hc 🔥

The Harbinger's алфавит

sys/Content: NSFW ABC. childe gets fcked 🔥

WARNING: nsfw duh, mention of bloodplay, clits nd cocks, but no specified gender

MINORS UNDER 13 DNI IN GEN. MINORS UNDER 16 DO NOT REQ.

GN READER / drabbles enjoy (+ im trying to find my blog aesthetic holy fuckk ) also, reader described as traveler or comrade yeh yeh

A: Aftercare

Let say, Childe is a sweet person. Whether its you who fucked the life out of him or vice versa, He was a person that lacked love and support from the beginning. But even so, with his playfull personality, i think he'll guarantee the best cuddles afterwards. Giving things he never received type of stuff. But ofcourse~ he'll love it more when you take care of him. (Even if hes fully capable of doing it himself lmao)

"How sweet of you y/n, How about you come a little closer."

B: bodypart :: which part do they mwa mwa the most

Your hair maybe. He likes taking little swifts of your scent every now and then, and especially your perfume, your shampoo... so he knows What type of perfumes you like. (So he can buy u them~) If were talking about Things He'd want To lick, suck and maybe gobble up... Thats up to your imagination.

"Oh, how can i just choose one comrade?"

C: Cum :: does they love cum, hate cum etc

Childe loves the feeling the he pleased you so much, (as usual.) He would usually lick up all your release, Letting the unusual flavor slide down his throat. A feeling that he cant buy again no matter how much money he gives.

"C'mon. Dont be a Loser, round two!"

D: Dirty Secret

Heavy Masochist. Honestly, hes a mix of both. He feels the thrill of fighting, the possbility of losing excites him the most. So it woudnt be a suprise if he likes getting a spank or two. Maybe a couple fingers inside, four? Pfft. Not a problem. you can choose which hole, He woudnt mind.

"A-ahh.. you can keep going, right there."

E: Experience :: how many cocks have childe took up his ass? Only time would tell

In terms of flirtiness, fuck hes a veteran. Before he met you, it was a usual ocassion that he slept with a couple women there and there. yet, never filling that void deep inside his heart. (oo~ emo.) You can enrust him he knows what hes doing, and exactly knowing how to send you over the edge.

"Mmh, close already? Want me to keep going?"

F: Favourite position

Missonary, Mating press, lotus position etc... he loves seeing your expression, your face. So its no wonder he likes these types of positions. Whether your biting your lip in pleasure as you pound into him, Or pool drooling onto your shirt as he bended your leg over. Fucking you to the fullest

"dont hide your face from me."

G: goofiness (he cant contain the silliness 😢) :: how silly are they in the sheets

Is he more humourous during sex? Not really. Well ofcourse he is on a normal day, Just not when you both are going feral on eachother. he particualarly likes being a little more serious on how he can make you orgasam. But sometimes, like for example: when you both accidentally broke the legs of the bed you were fuckin' on

He'd definetly let out a laugh or two lmaoo

"Get up~ we arent done yet."

H: Hair ::

Id say hes pretty well trimmed (if were talking ab pubes) not too much. Neither alot, Musk makes up for alot of aspects in sex you know? Plus hes busy killing people, itd be a waste to shave it all off anyway LMAO, + if its YOU were talking about, He doesnt give a fuck lol, a Poles a pole, and a holes a hole. You know the sayings

"H-hey! What are you pulling on? ......Nevermind." *💀💀

i: Intimacy :: careless whisper in the background~ how romantic are they?

Id say hes quite the rough-romantic? Always either wanting to get spanked or slapped, or gripping onto your hips and shoulders. Whispering words of "I know you love this." And all that. I guess he likes complimenting himself by a ton, and your groans seem to fuel his desire up even more.

"Let me hear you. Show me how much you want to fuck me."

J: Jack off :

He doesent really jack off most of the time, too busy doing missions, too busy getting commanded to kill this, kill that, do this. But when he gets the chance to do so, the only thing that'll ever come to mind is you roaming your hands all over his body. Pitifully bc he only jerks off when hes far away from u, doing missions as said earlier.

"Y/n. Y/n. Y/n. Y/n* —very breathless manner... wow~

K: kink :: Name atleast one of their kinks!

Getting tied up, or tying someone up, restriction of someones movements, letting him do whatever he wants with them is quite the taboo thing he inherited from his fellow harbingers. It excites him more, for every sensation is doubled.

"Don't worry y/n,, i wont bite... unless.. you want me to."

L: location :: where do u two do the devils tango more frequently?

The classic bed or some hidden alleyway in the city of liyue. Childe is quite rowdy in the bedroom, as much as his personality guarantees. —He'd probbably be moaning in pleasure, your fingers knuckle deep inside his ass as some random kid checked up 'why is there a stray cat meowing sm?' LMFAOO

M: motivation :: How long does he last? minute boy or hour man? You get the lines.

I shoudve set this to L as libido. But~ childe is very determined. Hes a man known for his incredulous stamina, and his reputation for lasting upon hours and hours, AND best believe Your gonna walk away with limp legs or a broken voice. Nothing in between.

"Your already so needy Y/N~ why waste the time? Another round."

N: NO (helll noooo) : turn off or icks

Non-consensual. It stems from his childhood, from getting forced to do things he doesnt like. Or, knowing how to fight for his life at the mere age of 14 was something he never asked for as a defenseless child. As much as he likes to spice things up in the bedroom, CNC gives him quite the ick.

"I... i think ill pass on that Traveler."

O: oral

Definetly giving, He likes to draw out some of your cute moans As he sucks you off, Or lick your clit. Holding onto your thighs or thick shaft as he lowers his head onto your crotch. Making u groan his name in pleasure.

"Mmgh,Nngh. Do you like this y/n? "

P: Pace ;; how fast the plap plap

Depending, he usually starts from slow then it grows quicker by the time you both chase for release. In a particualary good morning, he'd rather thrust in your tight hole as he whispers sweet nothings, —or in a bad evening, Riding out your lenght till it cant even produce a drop of cum.

"Fuck,fuck... im close.. im.—h-hah..."

Q: quickie

It like a everyday thing for the two of you. In some quiet boutiques Changing room? Why not? In some discreet alleyway fucking like some kind of animals? Casual. A quick fuck woudnt hurt in the eyes of tartaglia, considering hes always on the move.

"Come on...anywhere would be good Y/n...."

R: risk

S: stamina ;; how long the plap plap

Speaking of quickie... he loves risks. He loves the feeling of your hand onto his mouth as your ride/fuck the shit out of him. he grows even more harder when you tell him to keep quiet. Honestly, hes just really up for anything.

"Shit... they c-can see us.."

T: toy ;; do they use brr?

Stamina and pace is very different, as always— it depends. Childe can last for up to 8 hours with you AND a stack of bottled waters. And sometimes, he'd writhe under you, clawing your back as he came for litteraly the 5th time. Feeling like he cant take it anymore.

"Rougher..rougher..fuck, p-please.."

U: unfair :: how much dey like to tease frr

Ofcourse. A wide selection of cuffs, Muzzles, Butt plugs, Everything, its mostly you who decided to buy them to use on childe.. with his money... ahen. But he doesnt pay any mind, He even finds it quite arousing...

"Dont turn it...up...h-hah...please.."

V: volume :: how loud this bitch

Very. Childe is MAXED out stats when it comes to teasing. Letting go of your shaft as you almost neared your climax, Or pulling out the moment you convulse around his dick. He teases so much, you feel like your about to punch him at any waiting moment.

"Woah woah.. so pumped up already?"

W: wild card ;; (wild headcanon, Wild scenario etc)

he freqently lets out rough growls, or slutty whimpers. And doesnt feel embarassed to let all his noises out. —Eitherways, it always feels like music to your ears.

"....D-Dont laugh at me..."

X: Xtreme

Ok. So, You heard that childe was rumoured to be quite the playboy in his motherland. Fucking women left and right, but never reaching his climax. And it seemed to intrigue you. Later that night.. you fuck him hard and count every time he orgasamed. Sucking him to the very last drop.

"I-it was the thing of the past! C-come on now... please...nngh.."

Y: Yearning ;; how much he misses u when ur out

Hm, It might sound unusual, but he loves bloodplay. He might hate most things like Vomiting, Or stool-play, Blood is no match, and one of the many factors that turned him on quite fucked up-ly. Get it? Nevermind. You dont need to dig into it...

"Tastes the best, Mmh."

I feel like ive written this, Hm. But, He feels quite the slump whenever your not around. Even sfter his missions with the fatui, his energy quite drained whenever your not there, and hugging some random pillow in your house. (That he sneaked into when your away lol)

"When will y/n arrive... Haahh..."

Z: ZZZ :: after zex... do mimimi right away?

Not really. When he feels holding up a little, he loved to stare at you dearingly. Watching your chest rise up and down as you breathed softly, and the way your hair framed your face as you slept after a pretty hard session. Keepying you protected under his watch.

"How cute, Traveler."

I put some explanation for some Letters, bc ik some of us dumb as shit like me who dont get it right away unless i read the desc myself

this also took awhile 💀 me and my friends 10hr swimming trip ended so im really dead tired (maybe id write more for some reqs if i get horny as fuck)

ALSO I HOPE U GUYS DIDNT SEE THE WAY MY EFFORT PLUMMELED TO THE GROUND..its night here in my country...

#childe #tartagalia #genshin impact #genshin impact fanfictions #fanfiction #fanfictions #top reader #gn reader #smut #genshin smut #mihwee🐈‍⬛

[anti-porn-unicorn]

Genuinely, what is the difference between impact play, choking etc and self harm? Both happen consensually, both affect your body the same, in a sense that people with controlling kinks may not make their sub eat for a period of time, or whipping, punching until bruises or bleeding forms. But I don't see people normalizing starvation, self hurting behaviour or substance abuse as a healthy way to cope yk. I see other self harmers encourages or vent in a community but i havent seen any of them say its healthy yet. Aftercare could be the turning point but then again I know that a lot of people that self harm do peform some sort of damage control after they've calmed down. And it also makes me think whats the difference between aftercare after hurting your partner and love bombing? The mindset and intentions may be different, but if your actions are the same it doesnt change much?

I think its fine if you want to add some spice to your sex life but there has to be a line at some point? not just, is it consensual. Bcs a lot of the people on here that i see are very into degrading, dehumanizing kinks as a receiver already have a bad self image, or fucked up misogynistic beliefs or are blinded by love. Is it consensual when they're already in a rough state of mind? Is it consensual if its related to a persons trauma?

To be honest, if they actually just kept it in the bedroom i literally wouldnt have known about it but they dont and ive gotten plenty of blogs interacting with me where their first post is just their rape fantasies, sometimes just their rape story written out in detail and people in the comments saying its sexy or that they deserved it smh

I genuinely don’t even know the answer to this because, neurologically, self harm and violent sex release the same hormones. Personally I don’t see a huge difference between the two

#ask

[touyaz]

OKAY TWO QUESTIONS FROM SOMEONE NEW TO ENJOYING YANS

what separates a soft yandere from a hard yandere?

how do you “push” or “bring out” the hard yandere from a soft yandere?

WELCOME 2 THE CLUB !! 😁😁

Under the cut bc . I ended up talking quite a bit lmfao.

TW dark content, yandere, discussion about heavier elements like abuse, violence, murder, kidnapping, escape attempts, punishments.

I dont think there's a clear cut 'This is what a soft/hard yan would do' rulebook to follow or a certain mould for each, but for me I've always imagined the soft yan to take the nicer approach to getting their darling. Theyre considered more tame and less of a 'threat' (to the darling but also to others around them. Tho i think even a soft yan could be pushed to harm others). And i tend to associate darker/heavier tropes to a hard yan - things like mental/emotional/physical torture, body mutilation, affinity to violence/breaking a bone as punish type beat - because they tend to think light of the more extreme methods to get what they want. Whereas a soft yan would imo want something that resembles a somewhat normal relationship, they might only delve into darker things (maybe still not as extreme as the things mentioned before) if need be.

For instance if the yandere kidnaps their darling, I'd imagine a soft yan would give them their own room, let them explore the new house, give them some freedom & ease them into the situation a little more. Whereas a hard yan might chain them right off the bat and force them to fit into the situation. But that's not to say it has to be one way or the other, like the soft yan could also lock the darling up. I would just think that they'd do it in a nicer way, e.g. still giving them some leeway to move around the room where a hard yan might make the chain short; a soft yan might spend more time with their darling where a hard yan might decide to neglect their darling a little, give them a lesson, so to speak, that'll end with the darling realising there's nowhere to go but stay by their side. Ultimately, i just relate a hard yan to the more extreme methods, but i think it's important to bear in mind that even if the hard yan goes is willing to go to extreme lengths, they're a yandere. It's all coming from a place of love - a twisted, delusional perception of it, but love nonetheless.

(I point that out just because i see things tagged as yandere! character but it'll be like 'reader gets stuck somewhere. character fucks them for the power trip and then never does anything w them after that' and that's what I'd call dark! character as opposed to yan! char bc there isn't that element of lovesickness which is... literally what yandere means.)

I think the difference btwn them is just something fun to explore at the end of the day, and you can do it by asking yourself different questions. Like i gave the kidnapping example, but another might be murder: is it necessary? a soft yan might not kill then, but they could if their character is otherwise someone who likes planning ahead or makes a point to always tie loose ends. how do they do it? do they ever show it off to the darling? why? how? etc etc. This post +here talks abt the danger levels of a yan some more if you're interested!!

For your second question, i dont think there's always a hard yan in a soft yan, so there might not ever be something to 'bring out' - but it could lead to punishment in other, softer ways. I think it all depends on the character and their own limits. E.g. a purely soft yan might neglect you for a couple of days but that same offence might make a different character act out and accidentally break their darling's bone (which seems more soft -> hard. I imagine a hard yan might do it on purpose and might not give the same aftercare/treatment or express sorrow over the situation). But yeah i think the push from one to the other is individual to the character; in rin's case i said he's a hard yan in the shell of a soft one bc i imagine him to want a normal relationship, but he knows that if push came to shove, he'd at least be willing to do the more extreme methods. E.g. if darling kept trying to escape, rin might eventually break a leg so you learn your place (which I'd say is the soft -> hard push) whereas nagi would probably just keep you chained up, i cant imagine him ever resorting to physical violence like that (which I'd say is just soft). A hard yan might break a bone on the first attempt, but rin might do it after the 10th. I think it all just depends on the character's limits and how much they can handle before they snap - if they ever do. It depends on their capacity for the things you deem dark, and then how much patience they have before they show you that darkness.

And i think the push would come from the darling not conforming to what the yandere wants, not settling into the relationship, not listening to them, not reciprocating their feelings. I gave the example of escape attempts but it could be lots of little, 'less serious' things piling up, like not welcoming the yandere home in the proper manner, not making food on time, not using petnames, talking back, rolling eyes, etc. These things might be seen as less serious, but maybe a welcome home kiss is something the yandere has always looked forward to, so they view not getting that as more disrespectful than an eye roll - this is where looking into the intricacies of the character's background would be helpful! Ultimately, it depends on the character and what they want out of the relationship, and what they want from their darling, and whether or not they're getting that. How long can they last until they're fed up of not being satisfied? How do they deal with that?

#i hope this makes sense and answers your questions well enough!!!! i think the differences are things that can be so fun to explore #especially once you understand a character you can have a lot of fun playing with what they're willing to do. how long they're fine with #waiting. how much they think things through and deal with things not going their way etc etc #also thank you for the question this was def fun to think abt!! hope you enjoy your yandere explorati #exploration** 🥳💓‼️ #anon #tw dark content #tw yandere

[raincamp]

i feel like i might romanticize/glamorize SH too much, as someone with BPD + histrionic traits, romanticizing harmful/self destructive acts that get me attention is just a part of my disorder, and i try to keep it to just myself & not expose other people to it unwillingly, bc i dont believe in encouraging other people to start or to relapse

but i decided to make a post talking about the cons/bad parts of SH to cancel it out

obvious trigger warning

why you shouldn't self harm / the cons

- blood stains on everything. your mattress, your bedsheets, your favorite blanket, your comfy sweatshirt. how bad it feels knowing your whites will never be perfectly white again.

- it hurts. i mean. listen. you can say pain feels good etc etc but be fr our human instincts really don't enjoy it we just like the afteraffects/endorphins that come from it, pain by definition is uncomfortable

- having to get medical attention, or acquire medical knowledge that most people dont have. knowing the layers of skin and where all the arteries are. the fear of hitting arteries. hitting arteries and having to get help. having to pay for stitches.

- the constant need to be deeper, the never feeling like its enough, almost, almost feeling the satisfaction but never actually achieving it. the frustration after you fail. the shame of even trying.

- the addiction. the fact that its going to haunt you for the rest of your life. you could be clean for 10, 25, 40 years and you will still instinctually want to SH anytime something goes wrong and you dont feel like you can cope. you'll constantly be fighting yourself for the rest of your life.

- scars haven't ever really been a con for me tbh. but sometimes i think about the fact that i did it to myself, that theyre permanent, and theyre never going to go away, and it hits me, how a single decision can affect the entire rest of my life. permanently. and i have nobody to blame but myself. and it sucks.

- when you sh for attention and it works, and the shame you feel immediately afterward. and worse, when you get attention/validation from your scars after youve been clean for a long time and you feel like you conned & faked your way into it, and it taints the validation you were recieving.

- "promise me you'll stop 🥺 youre too pretty to do that 🥺 stop for me 🥺" when you roll up your sleeves after making a new friend and they dont get that its an addiction/that youve been clean for a while/ that you cant promise to stop because relapse is inevitable and promising will make it worse/ that its none of their fucking business jfc

- being unable to look at normal, mundane objects like razors, pencil sharpeners, exacto knives, box cutters, knives, etc. without being triggered.

- when you realize its been 10 years since you started and you STILL think about it on a regular basis.

- the itching. the nerve/sensation loss on scars. the weird zapping pains that happen years afterward. infections. the pain lasting for days/weeks. constant aftercare.

- scars fading and being triggered. seeing your scars in the mirror and being triggered. seeing other peoples scars and being triggered. seeing people score bread and being triggered. when people cut normal things and it looks just like sh and being triggered.

- clothes sticking to fresh cuts.

- either urges to relapse during winter because its easier to hide everything or overheating in the summer because you couldnt wait till winter. or both

- other people starting sh because of you. other people shing because of you. this has happened to me multiple times. i started someone's self harm addiction on accident. i can never forgive myself for it.

- forming other addictions to stop relapsing sh. being unable to stop one without leaning hard into the other. or doing both at the same time.

[veronicathegoddess]

just wanna be edged by them until i can’t think. want them to force my legs apart and tease me until i’m crying. rubbing my clit achingly slow, only using one finger inside me, dragging it out just because they can.

shushing me when i ask them to cum. fucking me slow and steady while i’m overstimulated, every thrust making it harder to resist cumming but i do because i want to please them.

eventually when they’ve seen me cry and beg enough and feel sorry for me, they let me cum, whimpering and clutching them close. when i’m done, they pull me into their arms, stroking my hair while whispering "you were so good for me baby, you did so well. now c'mon let's get you cleaned up."

#mine #gender neutral #this is kinda soft ngl #i normally dont do posts with aftercare etc #but idk i'm emotional today #so i want to just get all my stress out #and then get loved after #fuck why am i crying #me and who

[tendouluvr]

hq!! boys taking care of their s/o who just got their wisdom teeth out - gn reader

- characters: iwaizumi, osamu, matsukawa, kyōtani

- warnings: small mentions of being on anesthesia, centered around wisdom teeth removal/oral surgery, wisdom recovery, vague mentions of blood/gauze/medications nothing graphic tho, a lot of talk about food and eating limitations

- wc: 198, 258, 241, 252

a/n: im writing as im currently recovering from my wisdom teeth removal 😪😪 so kinda (basically) v self-indulgent

this is all based on my own experience. i’m healing pretty fast i think and there hasn’t been any problems for me so i wouldn’t know, personally, cases where people get heavy nausea, dry sockets, etc etc

IWAIZUMI

#! the best :(((

#! follows every direction the surgeon gave to the dot

#! before the surgery, he was given some papers and it was covered with post-surgery aftercare instructions and he read everything over multiple times

#! doesn’t let you do anything for days even though you were capable of doing things yourself by the third day

#! makes a lot of smoothies

#! he already drinks smoothies a lot on a regular basis besides his protein shakes and all that so being his s/o, you also get to drink them every other day

#! but your smoothie intake goes ☝️

#! understands your pain, makes sure you’re taking all of your required medications on time (he sets up alarms and timers) and giving you any doses of pain relievers as needed

#! (was about to blend up meals for you but you were adamant on him not doing that. you did not want to eat blended liquified food when it’s usually meant to be eaten solid)

#! overall,, kinda strict but he’s just tryna make sure you fully recover properly with no complications :)) you’ll probably be annoyed with him at some point for feeding you another smoothie, but you’re grateful for him anyway <3333

OSAMU

#! he’s a foodie :’(

#! lowk (highkey) sad you won’t be able to eat normally with him until you’re fully healed (could be weeks, could be up to a month and a half)

#! did a lot of research before and during the recovery process to go grocery shopping so he knows what he should stock up on and what he shouldn’t get

#! was kinda convinced four (4) days into recovery that you could start eating a bit normal again but you had to tell him no

#! “so when can you eat my onigiris again? it’s getting boring when only i’m trying new recipes, and you can’t,” he would constantly huff

#! “go feed your brother,” you would reply with an eye roll making him pout

#! your bottle of salt water is always filled because he makes sure it never runs out

#! his search history (and yours) is full of “can i eat ___ after wisdom teeth removal” LMAO mine is

#! to be honest, he was probably more scared of the surgery than you were

#! throughout the healing process, you grew a lot of cravings for a lot of food you couldn’t eat so he would write down everything whenever you tell him while laying in bed together

#! promises to make you all of the food on the list once you can properly eat again :’))

#! will spoil you rotten after this

you have no idea how bad i want focaccia bread rn. i need it. in my mouth. just imagine warm, crispy, chewy fresh out of the oven focaccia bread 💭💭💭

MATSUKAWA

#! does not care.

#! JK

#! he does care but he’ll act like he doesn’t

#! immediately laughs at you passed out on anesthesia in the passenger seat as he’s driving home

#! he’s still holding your hand though and caressing it 🙄

#! literally thought you would’ve been healed the next day for whatever reason ://

#! told you, “you look like a squirrel,” while you were sleeping in bed with gauze in your mouth

#! teases you a lot about the pain cuz he’s a meanie but he does things to take care of you at the same time

#! like reminding you to not drink with a straw because you sometimes forget, or making sure he doesn’t make you laugh/talk too much cuz it really hurts to open your mouth

#! constantly asks you about your extraction sites even though you already told him all you know

#! tempted to squeeze your cheeks because they looked so cute but you were swollen,,,,

#! stacks your pillows up at night so you’re not laying all the way down (he heard it helps with your swelling, something to do with your head being higher than your heart)

#! laughs when you struggle with brushing your teeth (he makes himself so despiseable)

#! kisses your forehead every night and whispers praises before you sleep to let you know you’re doing very well and will recover in no time

I HATE HIM I HATE HIM I HATE HIM GET THIS MAN OUT OF MY SIGHT!

KYŌTANI

#! leaves you to fend for yourself

#! im kidding >< he’s a sweetheart

#! helps you change into your pajamas after he brought you home so you can go to sleep

#! gets all of your meds ready while you were sleeping so you didn’t have to do it yourself after you woke up

#! he holds gauzes out for you while you take out your bloody ones so you didn’t have to stumble around for new ones

#! you lived off of water for a bit because you were afraid to actually eat (you also couldn’t really open your mouth anyway)

#! so when you finally told him you’ll eat now, he makes you whatever you wanted out of your very limited choices

#! he has a tiny grumpy pout while doing everything but it’s just his natural face :( he loves taking care of you, i promise

#! but you don’t really care honestly, you find it adorable

#! he slowly gets irritated as time goes on though because he doesn’t like that you’re going through this and it’s ruining the kisses you would give him from time to time

#! is actually a little childish when it comes to life in general so he gets really pouty at some point with furrowed eyebrows that just keeps getting furrowed-er

#! he grumbles a lot while taking care of you because even after oral surgery you could still find a way to tease him about being a softie

#! threatens to leave you to take care of yourself but he’s all bark

my mom thought i was healed the day after my surgery and kept telling me i’m just being dramatic about not being able to eat a lot of things (and she kept cooking omf) and told me she thinks i’m fine and worried for no reason shdjsjaj i dont think she knew i had stitches in my mouth 😕

#written with love - ar #haikyuu x gn!reader #haikyuu x reader #hq x gender neutral reader #hq x reader #haikyuu #iwaizumi imagine #iwaizumi fluff #iwaizumi scenarios #iwaizumi hcs #iwaizumi headcanons #iwaizumi x reader #osamu x reader #osamu imagine #osamu fluff #osamu scenarios #osamu headcanons #osamu hcs #matsukawa imagines #matsukawa scenarios #matsukawa headcanons #matsukawa hcs #matsukawa x reader #kyotani x reader #kyotani imagine #kyotani scenario #kyotani headcanons #kyotani hcs

[prettyboykatsuki]

NO BUT FR I get so fucking tired of degradation and impact play and DADDY KINK showing up with absolutely no goddamn warning like. Tag ur shit pls dear god 😭😭😭 AND IT FEELS LIKE HALF THE TIME WHEN PEOPLE TAG PRAISE KINK ITS JOINED WITH UNTAGGED DEGRADATION AND IM JUST LIKE🧍I DONT WANT THISSSS literally when I see praise kink and no degradation tag I do NOT wanna be called a slut I am expecting absolute worship

This is probably a silly complaint but personally I’m a SUPER vanilla person and its almost disheartening to me to not be able to find vanilla smut??? Like ik writing vanilla pwp probably gets suuuuuper boring eventually, plus fiction obvi is a great way to just mess around and have fun and so I totally understand why kinky stuff is far more prevalent among smut blogs but like. It’s concerning to see degradation n stuff so normalized? Esp bc the vast majority of fics don’t go into discussions abt safewords and hard limits etc beforehand or aftercare on the tail end both of which are. Super fucking important with that shit (again, I get why, people writing & reading pwp don’t rlly wanna halt the action for that stuff and it’s fiction so it doesn’t really matter but it’s still important!). I just think abt people who r starting to explore their sexuality through smut and all they find is fucking. Degradation and hardcore impact play and power imbalances, all largely untagged bc it’s so prevalent and apparently the fandom thinks that’s what vanilla is

(And for the record, I’m not just a reader complaining abt this shit, I write what I wanna read and that’s. 10k words of buildup to sweet romantic sex at the very end KFBFKSBD I’m doing my part not just bitching abt others not catering to my whims dw) But I absolutely understand how many authors who focus on pwp end up like. Relying on kinkiness to have more variety esp when it’s smut blogs that churn out quality content daily. I just wish people would understand that tagging is rlly sooooo important even if u don’t see other authors tagging a specific thing

Anyway all that aside absolutely do post ur femdom stuff here! It’s ur blog and we’re all here bc we like ur writing yanno. It’s rlly awful that people give u shit for it but like. Ultimately u should be writing what u want. Block those dickheads and move on yanno?

HEJKFDKDSJLJF PLEASE 

i’ve gone on so many rants about this in the past so i simply will not go onto another tangent but esentially - i think there are a few reasons it gets super normalized outside of it being popular but in general it’s just one of those things that happens and you deal with as you’re online. 

honestly, a lot of tumblrs kink writing boils down to the greater issue of what i like to call “internet kink” which is so deeply far removed from actually bdsm LMAO and i understand it more n the context of writing fiction but broadly speaking like.. the internet has a truly odd idea of what sex constitutes i think and it can be p damaging to never address 

writer what you want! enjoy what you want! im literally a sadist and i spend so much of my day reading hentai comics it’s insane. but like idk.. there’s something to be said about the normalization of hard degradation and heavy kink play with no aftercare in online spaces. like no tags just raw-dog right there in the world lmao.  as a psa to anyone who is a virgin or really anyone inexperienced who needs to hear it again 

it’s completely okay if you have no interest in kinky content or sex. it’s normal to be vanilla and you shouldn’t feel any shame for that. you’re not boring. sex is fun because of your chemistry with your partner and you do not need any extra bells and whistles if you don’t want them. 

#return to sender #sex ed #ur valid anon #discourse cw #<- just in case

[fakeboitherottengirl]

Is it bad that im kind of into the idea of “consensual non-consent”?  Like especially now that my sex drive is so low, im kind okay with opening up “ongoing consent” and him just having sex with me whenever he feels like it.  Sometimes he wakes me up in the morning by fucking my face and it is really hot to be sort of made to do it while my body/brain would rather be sleeping, and I like violence so while we don’t ever play out an actual rape scenario (I never say “no” or “stop” without him immediately stopping, if he gets too rough with me or I get overwhelmed all I have to say is “ yo, chill” and he immediately goes into a gentler mode) there is some use of force, restraint, violence etc that I enjoy.  We’re not goofy about it like BDSM people are, we dont call our sex a “scene” or do “aftercare” (hes always a soft, loving partner, not only after we’ve played around violently, so i don’t need a special post-sex cuddle to prove he still loves me, if anything i prefer to be left alone afterward to bliss out on the endorphins/adrenaline until the high fades).  But like now that I don’t really have a sex drive of my own, the idea of preforming on command is more appealing.  but he also needs more than consent, he needs enthusiasm (which I can’t really  genuinely give right now), so I feel like framing it as CNC/like some spicy game will make my lack of drive/enthusiasm feel like part of the play.  IDK, I was raped a bunch as a toddler/kid/teen and now im on heavy psych meds that killed my sex drive so I guess good luck to me trying to have something akin to a “normal” adult sex life.  Would have been nice to have had a chance at that but I guess this is what we are working with.

#tmi

[svtsjunnie]

nct johnny a-z analysis? from the post you reblogged earlier

a = aftercare (what they’re like after sex)

Johnny would be the type to carry his partner to the bathroom to clean them up or take a bath. he would NEVER miss aftercare, under any circumstance.

b = body part (their favourite body part of theirs and also their partner’s)

Him: probably his cock let’s be honest lmao

Them: Hips, he likes the way they look, he likes gripping them as he fucks them. h i p s 

c = cum (anything to do with cum basically)

he would love to watch it spill out of his partner after fucking them, or watch it drip off of their tongue before they swallow. he definitely likes it in regards to his partner, but wouldn’t like wearing it or tasting it himself.

d = dirty secret (pretty self explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

Boys a kinky mf, but I think a dirty secret of his is that he’s a voyeur (take with that what you will)

e = experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they’re doing?)

Boys experienced and you can’t change my mind. He definitely knows how to please and probably does often

f = favourite position (goes without saying)

Doggy, loves gripping the hips or the hair and just going to town.

g = goofy (are they more serious in the moment, or are they humorous, etc)

For the most part I think he’s serious. or course there are times where he is soft with his sexual encounters, but he is normally  super serious with his actions.

h = hair (how well groomed are they, does the carpet match the drapes, etc.)

he probably trims and thats about it lmao, I dont imagine he tries to shave or anything, and probably only rarely trims

i = intimacy (how are they during the moment, romantic aspect…)

passionate in his moves if it is with the right person, but I think a lot of his encounters are pleasure driven, and he gives me huge dom vibes.

j = jack off (masturbation headcanon)

At least once a day, I think he has a really high sex drive, and probably jacks off whenever he can (including in his room at night when everyone is asleep)

k= kink (one or more of their kinks)

Lowkey has a daddy kink (Oh daddy~)

Also has a power kink, and a size kink. likes to see his partner fall apart because of him, likes towering over his partner, closing in on them.

l = location (favourite places to do it)

Bed or the shower, maybe over the counter. bed and shower are the most convenient. Counter when he is desperate and maybe trying out his voyeurism kinks.

m = motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)

I don’t think much turns him off to be honest. Teasing will definitely get him going, especially publicly, and will push him into a dom headspace.

n = NO (something they wouldn’t do, turn offs)

I think if it involves bodily liquids other than cum it would be a no for him.

o = oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc)

receiving, he likes to ruin his partner and see their tears trail down their face as they pleasure him, feeding into his power kink like no tomorrow.

p = pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.)

fast and rough and passionate, you can’t change my mind.

q = quickie (their opinions on quickies rather than proper sex, how often, etc.)

into it, does it often. Has a high sex drive like said before, so quickies are often sought out.

r = risk (are they game to experiment, do they take risks, etc.)

he’s dominant but not into hard kinks, so I don’t think he would experiment that much. I think if he was asked and shown about something enough he would probably give it a try.

s = stamina (how many rounds can they go for, how long do they last…)

all night baby, man has stamina for days.

t = toy (do they own toys? do they use them? on a partner or themselves?)

he probably doesn’t own any toys. If he does it’s probably just a shitty fleshlight he uses on himself when he needs a quick release. if his partner had toys he would definitely use them to tease them.

u = unfair (how much they like to tease)

He doesn’t do it often but when he does, he’s ruthless. won’t stop until his partner is sobbing, begging, but also incoherent.

v = volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make)

I think he would be moderately loud, based off of location. he would definitely let out some deep moans, especially when going at it hard and passionately. When if comes to masturbation or oral he’s most likely quiet, maybe letting out some heavy breaths.

w = wild card (get a random headcanon for the character of your choice)

Johnny would love to take his partner from behind, one hand gripping their hip while the other is tangled in their hair. he would pull their body back against his as he pushes forward, his hips ruthless as he makes his partner scream out.

x = x-ray (let’s see what’s going on in those pants, picture or words)

Johnny monster cock

y = yearning (how high is their sex drive?)

High sex drive, craves release often especially when it’s hard to get time to himself.

z = zzz (… how quickly they fall asleep afterwards)

definitely falls asleep fast after an orgasm lmaoo

#johnny #nct smut #nct scenarios

[hollyteague]

Adult Acne Battle - £3000 Later (What I’ve Learned)

If you HAVEN’T struggled with Adult Acne - congratulations! Long may it last! The below is less relevant for occasional breakouts, but you still might find some bits useful... here is a table of contents so you can skip ahead.

NB: I am a normal person with 0 skincare qualifications, the below is my advice based on my own experience.

1. Intro

2. General Useful Info

3. Active Acne: Drugs from Docs

4. Easy Fixes/General Well-Being

5. General Rules

6. Acne Scarring (Clinical Treatment, Home Remedies)

7. Recommended Brands

8. Points of Interest

Intro

... it’s all you see in the mirror and every photo... it feels like a constant battle against yourself, you feel unhealthy and it actually REALLY HURTS. ... And it makes no sense, because you NEVER struggled with acne at school?! And you’re 25?! Life is hard enough!!!

Good News: you DON’T deserve it. Here is a list of things I’ve tried/researched and paid for (🤦‍♀️) so that you can explore some options with much less financial upheaval.

Bad News: it’s probs going to take 6-12 months before you see some results/work out what’s most beneficial to you. Sorry! But - slowly slowly catchy monkey & you will learn SO MUCH MORE than people with good skin in the process (knowledge = power) ... think that’s the only positive thing I can offer right now.

General Useful Info

- Your skin takes between 26-30 days to completely regenerate

- Your face is 64% water... DRINK DRINK DRINK

- LESS. IS. MORE. If you have problem skin, you are the beauty industry’s DREAAAAAM. There are SO many brands, SO many treatments and SO many people wanting to help, and you will pay ANYTHING for better skin. Proceed with caution! (Recommends for what I believe is “worth” considering are at the end of this doc)

- FROM NOW ON, use ONE cleanser TWICE a day & ONE moisturiser TWICE a day, then ONE scrub to be used ONCE a week. Even LESS if possible

- As an NB to the above 👆🏻 right now, you may well be making things worse (sorry). I visited a dermatologist who reminded me that the skin I do the LEAST with (he used my inner thigh as an example ... bit dodge 🤨) is currently the healthiest. That doesn’t mean there isn’t a problem, but does highlight the importance of giving yourself a break. Scrubs and I washes will really really irritate if used excessively.

Active Acne: Drugs from the Docs

(... because it’s NOT normal and it’s been going on FOREVER and the NHS need to sort it out and life isn’t FAIR 👊 💕 🌈 )

- LEVEL 1 - “Zineryt” - antibiotic which you apply to the skin. Note: you’re really only treating the epidermis here but if used in conjunction with:

- LEVEL 2 - Oral Antibiotics (various names) - internally treat 👍 you need at LEAST a three month course for this to be beneficial, and I don’t personally believe that using one without the other (oral and topical) would have much of an effect. They need to happen together

- LEVEL 3 - “Benzoyl peroxide” ... this really stings 😣 works as an antiseptic to reduce bacteria. NB: “peroxide” = bleach 🤢 😳 This is effective almost immediately but definitely causes skin irritation, and needs to be applied regularly... ie, regular stingy stingy. For some people, surface bacteria is the cause (even post-washing) so this treatment is a life-saver!

- LEVEL 4 - DUN DUN DUUUUUN - 🧙‍♀️ “Roaccutane” also known as “ Rizuderm” or “Isotretinoin” ... “when all else fails”. This is a nasty naaaasty drug and there are lots of waivers to sign before taking including promising not to get pregnant! I did not take this medication (although I was eligible) because it is highly dehydrating, and I didn’t know what effect it might have on my voice. However, I have three friends who have undergone the course, and aside from having to bath in coconut oil ever day, it was by FAR the most effective treatment. IMO, this is absolutely a last resort - read the side effects and decide if you really HAVE tried everything else before going to argue with a doctor 👩‍⚕️ 👨‍⚕️ 💕 they don’t particularly like prescribing it either

- For women, contraceptives willllllll be discussed as they’re the cheapest & easiest of the hormonal offerings (combi pill recommended for adult acne). This is really a personal preference thing, DONT feel pressured into switching like it’s the ONLY option. Try to keep a log of any significant skin changes through the month (even if you’re on a pill where you don’t bleed 🩸yum!) and if you HAVE recently switched contraceptives, it’ll take a good 6 months for things to settle/work through your body

- Topical Retinoids (various names) - discussed later under “Home Treatments” but occasionally prescribed by doctors... much less popular and much less effective for very active acne IMO

Easy Fixes/General Well-Being

- Try to drink a minimum of 2litres of water per day - much more if you are exercising. For every caffeinated or alcoholic drink, you -2 glasses of water 🍷 ☕️ ☹️💔 keep drinking! (Water, not wine!) Permanently attach a straw!

- Vitamins with biotin & keratin can really help (if you’re good at taking vitamins!) although I’m sceptical (I don’t think a keratin deficiency is the root cause of acne) & results are too slow for someone like me. However, if you DO have brittle nails/thinner hair, it may be worth considering

- Usual Mantra - happy body, happy mind - and undoubtedly better skin. Feed the machine good foods, and be mindful of sugar content, which really will have a direct effect. NB: Post-workout glow is definitely a thing! 💪

- Adult acne can often be a sign of something going on internally... have a health check & gets some bloods done. Initially I was diagnosed with early menopause (yikes!) but after additional tests I was told I (like lots of women) have PCOS. Not life threatening, but very useful information that I would have really appreciated a good 5 years ago 🤦‍♀️ and now shapes a lot of my diet/approach to health

General Rules

- Try not to touch your face/back/areas with breakout. Even clean fingers will transfer additional oils

- If you have a spot NEVER. EVER. EVER “pop” it!!! Leave it ALONE until it comes to a head, then use a sterile needle to make one SINGLE hole and gently squeeze. The more you pop, the more scarring you will have

- Wash face twice a day - once additionally if you exercise (try to wash as quickly as possible after you run to rebalance pH).

- Use medium temperature water. If you need to open pours or want to help a spot along 🤦‍♀️ use a hot towel on the one area rather than across your whole face, and make sure you finish with a cold compress to close everything back up again

- Invest in a silicone sponge to wash your face (link attached) they are cheap and help to keep hands away & bacteria at bay. There are lots of expensive silicone products (eg foreo luna have a silicone range that also vibrates ... I have one, it feels nice, but it’s just a gimmick!). Get rid of any muslin cloths/face flannels you’ve previously invested in

- Use ONE moisturiser, ONCE a day and make sure it has a good SPF. Brands recommended under ... “Recommended Brands”

- Exfoliation &/ glamorous face mask MAXIMUM once a week. (Less is more less is more less is more). Again, see “Recommended Brands”

- ... Ahhhhhh lovely makeup covering all of those unlovely lumps and bumps and then making additional lumps and bumps 🤦‍♀️ MINERAL MAKE UP ONLY, HENCEFORTH. And whatever happens, do NOT fall asleep in it.

Acne Scarring

😔😔😔😔 (when the battle is kind of (mostly) over, you realise this is the hardest bit to fix).

If you have scarring AND still have active acne, DONT BOTHER WITH ANY OF THE BELOW. There’s really no point. Get the initial problem under control, THEN you can start thinking about how you’re going to get yourself to bare faced freedom.

Clinic Treatments

- LEVEL 1 - “Milk Peel”- the least abrasive chemical peel... between 4 & 8 treatments recommended, each treatment lasts about 45 mins. Lovely experience! No makeup for 24 hours and healthy skin looks kind of glowy for a day or two......... however, absolutely zero effect on scarring (total cost, £200!)

- LEVEL 2 - “Chemical Chemical Peel” - this was called a “Cosmo” - no idea what that means really other than it hurt MORE than the milk peel and left my significantly more red, with peeling etc. These treatments definitely DID have an effect, and perhaps with another round of 4, I would be a disciple... I really feel that the aftercare is annoying though... and it really is an uncomfortable procedure (acid on the face... yeah... hmmm). Cost - £250 for 4 appointments

- LEVEL 3 - “Micro Needling” - NOW. THIS ONE, if you can afford it, makes the most sense. Essentially, the needle re-damages the skin, encouraging it to re-heal itself, promoting collagen and elastin in the process. Hurts less than a chemical peel too 😂🤦‍♀️ course of 4 - £400. Excellent. 🤦‍♀️😒

- LEVEL 4 - “Laser Skin Resurfacing” ... I’m too poor to try this, but I would imagine the results are amazing .... it’s a laser, and it re-surfaces your skin, so 🧙‍♀️. Single Treatment, costs range from £600-£1000. Advice: GO TO A DERMATOLOGIST. I’m sure cheaper alternatives are available at salons and I’m SURE all salon practitioners are registered and hygienic but ... again - IT’S A LASER... ON YOUR FACE.

Yum yum yum - after most of these treatments, you might be asked if you want to sit under a LED Light Box - say yes! It takes 15 mins ish and kills bacteria.

DON’T BOTHER WITH:

- Dermaplaning! You might not be eligible anyway if you have particularly bad scarring.... lovely treatment with many benefits, but won’t fix anything

- Microdermabrasion! As above! Also really might not be a good idea if your skin is particularly sensitive after all the lotions and potions you’ve been using to try & clear up all that acne

- Any kind of facial that claims to use super special fancy lotions. It will be a lovely experience, but it will do very little.

Home Treatments

- The Ordinary (see “Recommended Brands”) have an exfoliating peel (ONCE A WEEK. ONCE A WEEK!) which does certainly lift and brighten - search for “AHA 30% + BHA 2% Peeling Solution” (easy to type, eh)

- Retinols ... to be used with caution. The Ordinary provide an affordable range of %s - retinol works to increase cell renewal and tackle blemishes and pigmentation... Start a lower % and be super careful to use an SPF. If you have active acne, avoid - it will irritate it further

- Home Derma-Rollers - similar concept to the microneedling treatment, but you MUST. MUST. Keep your equipment sterile and keep rolling to a MINIMUM. Every two weeks is still too much! Give your skin a break!!!!!! Rome wasn’t built in a day!

Recommended Brands

- Bare Minerals, for all make up. Other mineral brands are available, but I like the ethos of Bare & the customer service they provide is second to none. They will give you lots of samples to try, and ALL of their staff are real brand pioneers. They’ll also do you a full face of makeup with no appointment, which is very much appreciated on a bad day. Love u Bare Minerals 💕 (Cost: Mid-Range)

- For me, Dermalogica is the one and only skincare brand 💋💋 It’s the easiest of all and feels like a professional product at all times. You only need ONE cleanser (Ultra Calming, to calm me down - thanking you) ONE moisturiser (more options available, but I would stick with Active Moist) and ONE exfoliator/scrub (Daily Microfoliant is fine, but - don’t use daily 🤦‍♀️). For heavier make up wearers, Precleanse Oil is a blessing. Again - samples available and if you go to a department store, lots of advice will be offered. Don’t be seduced by serums. (Cost: Mid-High Range)

- The Ordinary (mentioned above) are kind of cool because they just sell the BASIC product ingredients, making them much cheaper. Woohoo! You can concoct your OWN lotions and potions, how exciting! However, proceed with caution: you may find you end up a failed skin scientist, as lots of the chemicals will cancel each other out/won’t be effective. Eg. Vitamin C Suspension with Retinol in Squalene which you might be tempted to use after some research. There are articles available online to help with this

- CHEAPEST OF ALL - “Kaeso” (available online) sells a box containing cleanser, toner, moisturiser, exfoliator and mask for approx £20. The “Rebalancing” collection is for problem skin, although the hydrating collection may also be nice to try. You get SO much product for so little here, but IMO, if you have particularly bad acne, the cleanser actually isn’t strong enough. Useful to have in the cupboard though/when payday feels a long way away.

- Other brands: Juliette Armand (Cleanser & Moisturiser yum yum!) ZO Skin Health (although these are usually salon based only) Environ (far superior, but less affordable for me!). Again - you only need ONE cleanser & ONE moisturiser, then ONE scrub to be used ONCE a week!!!

Dermalogica, The Ordinary, Kaeso Beauty & Bare Minerals are all cruelty free paraben free microbead free formaldehyde free etc etc but more research needs to be taken with other recommended brands. NB: If you choose to use a moisturiser/makeup that doesn’t contain an SPF, you WILL need an SPF additionally, even on a cloudy day ☁️ Embrace the Vit D but say no to sun damage

Points of Interest

- Male & Female skin have different structures and will respond differently to different products and treatments. Most notable, male skin is about 25% thicker so much tougher, which more sebum production ie. guys are more prone to blackheads.

- There is much research being done into the acne occurrence as a predictable side effect of masculinizing hormonal therapy in transgender patients, after six months or more of testosterone treatment. More research necessary but I HAVE read that antibios have proved to be effective, as well as low doses of Isotretinoin, although this is far less likely to be prescribed due to anxiety/depression side effects.

- Super weird - peanut butter (aside from having high fat & sugar levels ... brand dependent obvs) CAN sometimes contain androgens (male sex hormones) ... give it a google, it’s all a bit strange but might lead you to cutting down

- Toothpaste DOES help to dry problem spots out ... the cheaper the brand the better 😂 🦷

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The Ass: An Emotional Place

I received a message from a follower who requested I post the answer in anon ask format

Hi, Thank you for your blog.  I really enjoy it and I learn a lot.  You mentioned "the ass is a tender and emotional place...".  That hit home for me.  Last weekend, my DD and I had anal sex for the first time. It was mutual, I had been properly prepared and had asked for him to help me with this goal.  It felt good, no pain.  But after and the next day I was an emotional wreck and I dont understand why.  I was super clingy and near tears all day.  He responded the best he could and kept reassuring me that he's not going anywhere and loves me.  But what happened?  Will it be like that if we do it again?  Thank you in advance for any insight.

Thank you very much for trusting me with your question. The quoted sentence is from an older ask here.

It’s great to hear about a positive anal experience. You wanted to explore it, prepared yourself, it didn’t hurt you, and your DD was there for you afterwards. Kudos to you both.

Please know that your response afterwards is more common than you might think. It is not talked about very often and I’m going to cover this subject  broadly in attempts to reach everyone. Some of it may not pertain to you specifically but I’m sure what does will jump out at you.

First, the ass is one of the most utilitarian, hardest working, overlooked and shamed parts of our body. The anus doesn’t have the charm of the pussy or the visual sparkle of the cock but there it is, every day, doing its job. The gluteal muscles connect to the spine and help us stand upright, power our motion by attaching to our femur. We sit on our ass, fall on our ass. As part of the pelvic girdle, the ass is very important to our balance and function as a human. 

When we go through stresses every day, the ass is there reacting along with us. The sphincters clench and relax in response to whatever our body is doing. Adrenaline, fight-or-flight, emotions, breathing changes, tension...it is there physically guarding us the way it was designed to. The inner muscles clench to ward off something “bad.” To get us ready for a quick movement or decision. It is an automatic physiological response but, more often than not, those muscles stay clenched after the tension has passed. Even this is shamed. Already seen as dirty or embarrassing, the ass becomes a joke. “Tight ass” “stick up your butt” are some terms we use for people who appear stressed.

So here we have this part of our body doing its job, trying to protect us, and it gets no attention other than maybe a few rubs during a massage or workout stretching. We don’t touch our anus unless it is to wipe or wash. And then we suddenly introduce it as a sexual pathway- this place which silently holds our stress for us and tries to protect us from more. It is full of nerves, highly sensitive and reactionary, yet is hidden away and shamed most of the time.

In addition to this, you have to remember that our body has many systems constantly interacting with each other. Cardiovascular, nervous, respiratory, hormonal, fascial, etc. Those are the ones we can see. There are additional ones too- emotions, thoughts, memory, experiences- these all intersect and build upon each other. Everything is connected. A trauma in one system will show up in another system, sometimes in an unexpected way. It’s possible to have an emotional trauma and feel a physiological change, like suddenly your neck starts hurting. Or something bad happened when you were little, you can’t quite remember, but you always have this one pain in this one place. The ass is already a sensor of stress. It will listen to all these messages from the other systems and try to protect us in its way, which is to guard us. Clenching those muscles.

So now we introduce sexual play and penetration to this delicate, tender, guarded area. Even if you prepare for it, the ass is not used to that much attention. It has spent YEARS protecting you and only letting things go out instead of in. On the physical level, the muscles and nerves accept the new sensation. On the deeper, delayed emotional level, the body still has to adjust. An extremely private area of your body has been invaded. Dominated. Experiencing a new thing for the first time. An emotional response is normal. Even if YOU, the person, is completely comfortable with the sex, the BODY still has to learn and adjust. It is still an overwhelming experience for it.

Feeling clingy or weepy, even after a loving anal encounter, is normal. You have exposed an incredibly intimate part of your body. You feel clingy because you feel that intimacy to your very core. It’s hard to put into words. A new entrance to yourself has been discovered. A hidden, protected entrance. You need extra reassurance to know that your partner will now protect this special part of you. It is a gathering place of your entire being. 

Going forward, I would recommend that you continue anal play on a consistent basis. I wouldn’t have “rough kinky anal” as a goal. Right now you need to be gentle and caring to your body. Get yourself used to sensation there. Spend plenty of time NOT FUCKING, just playing. Have him use a toy or his fingers to give you a slow massage while you do deep breaths. Find out what feels good. Try facing him with one leg over his arm as he plays with you. Kiss and whisper together. Be slow and loving. Spend extra time on aftercare. Take a hot bath before and after. Playtime like this can be some of the deepest intimacy you both have ever experienced.

 Don’t be afraid of your emotional reaction. Don’t judge it. Accept it for what it is and pay attention to how you process. I think your response was one of stress relief and your body adjusting to the new sensation. It is very rare to find a man who will do anal play properly. Enjoy this experience together. It is enormously bonding and your emotional response shows how deeply your body is reacting to it. That is something very precious to share with him. 

(If you like and agree with this advice, I’ll be starting an anal erotica series on Patreon soon.)

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