#im all up for transfemmes

[kinos-fortress-2]

maybe idk… just a thought… but i have seen people headcanoning a character let’s say… a woman. who is cis. but she’s super tall and buffy, and sometimes idk… people will come at you and tell you oh “she’s trans!” just because she is buffy or tall or she look very masculine so she can’t be cis… and idk that just made me a bit tiny annoyed when it comes to shipping… like alright i can get it if you wanna headcanon this straight as t4t or whatever i’m alright with that. but it just irks me when it comes to couples idk like zhannaXsoldier or shinXnoi or many other straight shipps where the one who is a girl is considered trans like idgaf for soldier or shin or whoever but sometimes… idk it just doesn’t go…

#or by looks i mean by ethnic looks they will go to some black cis woman and call her trans just because of her looks… #just something something… #sorry for my bad wording in english i speak spanish but eh i wanted to say it english but i hope it doesn’t like… get in the wrong ways #im all up for transfemmes #really. but sometimes… it feels a bit eek those headcanons #just sometimes unnecessary… #i don’t say that i don’t also like t4t headcanons but yeah hope it’s understandable

[customboytoy]

Ode to Topping with Bottom Dysphoria

#my boys #forcemasc #ftm #force masc #forced masculinization #ftm nsft #ftm poetry #autoandrophile #let me make perfectly clear this is about an experience i had with a CIS MAN #who said he was queer and quote unquote subversive bc he was poly with a wife. fuuucking bullshit #also comes from a non cis person who said they wanted me in missionary lol #but please do not skew my words to hate transfemmes im NOT tolerating that #this is about me as a trans man navigating hooking up w people who dont want to see me as a man #thank u #anyway subversive sex isnt just who u wanna fuck its how u fuck #its like the queer vers of women who are all into monster fuck #Then you read their fic and it’s literally just big strong man weak woman pnv sex #yaaaawnnn

[antmarco]

Since the theyfab tweet situation, I've seen a few people assert that afab trans people are centred in conversations and given opportunities and so on that trans women aren't, and I have no idea what they're talking about. It might be a UK vs US thing idk, but before I came out and started seeking out transmasc stuff, all media I saw that included transness was about trans women, the book that made me face that I'm not cis was by a trans woman, about trans women. I mistook my affinity with the trans part of trans women's stories for womanly comradery and lesbianism, because I rarely heard/saw a trans guy's perspective. I have no idea what circles the people saying trans guys get everything and trans women are left out of the conversation are moving in, they're certainly not in the North of England. And if there is some great glut of trans guy representation in tv and film out there, can someone link me? Give me some titles? I've seen Work in Progress and it bummed me out, and I refuse to ever watch Boys Don't Cry

I have come across some very terfy nonbinary people who really cling on to being afab, and have tried to lord it over me, as tho they get to have Special Oppression Points that I gave up by "giving in" to my dude-ness. That is an issue and it needs to be talked about. It isn't helping to lash out at all trans/nb people who were assigned female. As though it's not a weird little minority who are pulling that shit, and as though the ones behaving like that aren't horrible and terfy to the rest of us as well as towards transfemmes and nbs assigned male

#trans #this whole thing has added to all my nebulous anxiety esp around the idea of rejection by other trans ppl #i really need to not be rejected by other trans ppl based just on my fucking identity the irony of that would be nuts #im legit a v chill dude irl have had hours long conversations w transfemmes at irl trans meet ups ik that irl is v different to online but #i still get freaked out that ill be shut down before i can even get to know someone bc they assume im one of these shits #need to take bffs example & only look at ig to answer her messages idk how shes doing that tho bc when im waiting for a reply i scroll

[jesncin]

Hello!! I saw yalls lunar boy post (which made me so extremely happy btw, genuinely got teary eyed while reading it) and it said that yall did a lot of research into queer indonesian history and media? If yall dont mind could you link some of those? Im studying up on queer indonesian history myself and struggling to find good resources 😅 ofc all of these are /nf!! Feel free to ignore me and im so sorry for bothering yall 🙏🙏

Not a bother at all, and I'm super happy to hear that the Lunar Boy Queer Escapism comic made you so happy! 💜 Ooh yes there's a ton of sources. From the top of my head:

Creating Spaces for Dialogue: Exploring Queer Cinema in Southeast Asia. An extremely thorough analysis and catalog of queer cinema throughout SEA, with a very robust Indonesian section. My buddy Gris did the research for this and they're very dedicated to this sort of stuff! The Kontinentalist in general has fantastic articles.

Queer Indonesia Archive. An incredible digital collection archiving the lives of queer Indonesians. There's magazines, posters, photos, newspaper clippings, and more! I've talked to and met some of the people working on this project and they're very passionate about memory preservation.

Beyond the Binary: Two Bissu Defend Their Roots in Sulawesi. New Naratif has some good articles covering queer Indonesian lives. I think personal interviews and their reporting are their strong points. I've illustrated for them a couple of times (all queer related things lol). Looks like their website is down at the moment but will be back in May!

Vice Indonesia has some great stuff like their video on Lengger Lanang, Bunda Mayora, and more! I recommend Madame X Memories: The Rise and Fall of Indonesian Queer Cinema.

Bissu A Frame of Diversity. A recent video on the Bissu of Sulawesi. I consider it extremely important to be able to hear from Bissu themselves, since most resources are by white anthropologists who often misconstrue queer Indonesian culture.

The writings of Nurdiyansah Dalidjo. He writes in Indonesian (sorry not in English, my language barrier self uses a mix of google translate and my own Indonesian to read his stuff), but the work he does is invaluable. Whether it's personal reflections on his life, or covering the lives of other queer people, it's all fantastic writing. He did a series "Queer di Masa Lansia" covering elder queer people that is very much worth a read. He's active in waria spaces, working together with transfemme lower class people. I've met him, he's very nice to me :( Idk why :'((

So I hope this is helpful! Early on when I did research for Lunar Boy I reached out to academics on queer Indonesian identities and while some of it was helpful (bless Dédé Oetomo for giving me the time of day and answering my questions), I've learned it was more valuable and enriching to find material that talks more directly with queer people. Stuff that isn't filtered through a scholarly lens or bias. If there's any takeaway I can give, it would be that.

#askjesncin #lunar boy #i know it's hard esp if you're diaspora to connect. I struggled with that early on when I did research while based in the US. #im lucky to be able to meet these people now! So I pass that on to you so others can have an easier time than I did

[sansxfuckyou]

top 5 etho ships ? bonus points for any explanation

my personal top five in no particular order, and like, ya gotta understand im still new here (hermitcraft/life series) so my opinions are poised to change, but the current standings are:

Bdubs/Etho/Cleo, i'll be honest, i haven't written or read any clethubs, but i saw some art of them that made my brain shortcircuit. they are femdom, himbo, and twink. i just think that Etho should have two people who are stronger than he is on either side of him at all times, bonus points if you let Cleo be the tallest. Bdubs being super clingy, Etho reluctantly tagging along, and Cleo making sure they don't fucking die because yeah they are god damn idiots sometimes, but they're her idiots. and she loves them. and probably gives them noogies and headlocks them.

Cleo/Etho, their marriage in limlife is so much fucking fun, especially when read under an aro4allo lens. Etho whose been happily married for over a decade watching his friends enter relationships and realizing that he loves differently, he doesn't even love remotely close to how they love, love isn't even the right word. hes scared so he leaves, hes not doing it right and his wife must be upset about it, that must be why everythings crumbling. and Cleo, not giving two shits, because that's her husband and by god they're gonna make it work if he can realize that being absent is whats breaking up their marriage, not showing affection and intimacy differently.

Gem/Etho, as a canadian i am legally obligated to ship this, as a lesbian i love it when men have chaotic gremlin girlfriends who put them in their place. see that one episode of hermicraft wherein Gem beats his ass on repeat and he keeps coming back for more. its like, like theres an unspoken solidarity, 'hey we're the same even though we're not' and they stick with each other. predator/prey dynamic if you go with deer Gem and fox Etho, you also get it with sea monster Gem and fox Etho, except he's the prey and she has the biological advantage instead. also, when paired with the transfemme Etho headcanon we get some yuri which im always down for.

Grian/Etho, this one came to via an Ao3 commenter and i have seen two pieces of fanart for it and like, seven fics. but i still think the dynamic of bird and fox would be fun to work with in writing depending on the bird Grian is hybridized with, especially if Grian is the smaller one. also in limlife??? hello?? Etho, swearing loyalty and promising to be someones sword is not heterosexual behaviour. what they had in limlife, even if brief, had me shaking i'll be real. also, for their hermitcraft dynamic, it'd be hot if i threw Scar into the mix, for flavour.

Pearl/Etho/Tango, consensual workplace relationships make me absolutely insane, it could tear apart their business or bring it further together. they have the kind of dynamic that makes my head absolutely fucking empty, one of those 'i just think theyre neat' kind of ships. the culture clash between each of their species and their own personal tastes, Tango's a blaze and they mate for life, Pearl's a siren and they don't do much for romance, Etho's a fox and they come and go- but they make it happen in spite of that. im working on getting them a canonized Ao3 tag right now, they have such a fun dynamic. also, they fucked in that post office when no one was looking.

tbh these are all really closely tied, and i also have a soft spot for tangtho and the team ties poly. they're all really fun ships, i just really enjoy polyships to be real with ya'll. and the life series and hermitcraft are full of so many possible polyships that its just making me foam at the fucking mouth. sorry boat boys enjoyers, the vision has not yet engulfed me, but hey im a multishipper it might be yet to happen.

#asks #the bestie anon #ethoslab #i just love putting this sopping wet pathetic excuse of a man in relationships. it makes me grin. #mcyt #heres hoping this sparks the poly postal vision in someone elses head

[mommyclaws]

look as a lesbian I don’t get why it’s so awful to just want lesbian spaces?? We as queer people all have different experiences and we can have smaller spaces while still embracing the whole community.

Lesbians go through different experiences than bi non-men do. That DOES NOT mean “we suffer more” or whatever because I hate the whole oppression olympics shit. We are not attracted to men neither sexually nor romantically, and that’s what makes us oppressed in this heteronormative world. We go through harassment, corrective rape, violence, and conversion “therapy” because we are homosexual. If my dad ever found out I was exclusively attracted to women I would get kicked out. Why is it suddenly so awful and “gatekeepy” to ask us to have our own spaces? We still have sapphic spaces! We even have bi spaces and pan spaces! Heck, I see gay non-women are allowed to have their own spaces!

It’s harmful to be treated as a monolith. I’m not attracted to men, and saying im an “exclusionist” for this is lesbophobic. I’m not evil for being exclusively attracted to non-men. I’m not evil for saying we should have our own spaces while we’d still have sapphic spaces!

Words have meanings, and the lesbian label is important to me, for all of its history and all of my struggles. I’m tired of us all being seen as “big mean lesbians who hate men” so so much. It reeks of misogyny to me.

I am heavily disappointed, and I ask everyone to please understand why bi lesbians are harmful.

I'm disappointed you've missed the point of my post. I was talking about the history of different lesbians and sapphics being excluded and hated in our community through generations. The conversation wasn't about bi lesbians specifically, it was about the butches, transfemmes, Pan/Bi, Aro/Ace, nonbinary, and countless other identities that were or ARE still considered not "valid" members of our community at point or another. I was pointing out how this "Bi Lesbian exclusion" is just a repeat of past mistakes and in the retrospective it is rooted in radfem/terf ideology that claims sapphics have to present and feel a certain way to be accepted. I didn’t say anywhere that being attracted to non-men is evil, I didn’t call anyone a “big mean lesbian”. You’re putting words into my mouth. That entire post was about defending sapphic’s right to attraction and expression.

Lesbian, bisexual, pansexual, non cis women and etc can all be oppressed, harassed, hate crimed, rejected by friends/family and other terrible things for their non heteronormative attraction.

Some people are failing to realize these exclusively “one identity spaces" they feel are being threatened don't actually exist in real life. Sure someone can have like, a "nonbinaries only" discord server or a meet up with friends who are all the the same identity. But a majority of queer spaces in real life? They don't have those rules because theres no way to separate queer identities neatly like that- There isn't a need to. You're going to find bisexuals and pansexuals and nonbinaries and trans people and all sorts of other identities at the same lesbian bar, the same sapphic support group, the same circle of friends.

So what exactly are these "spaces" that every other identity has and lesbians supposedly don't? Maybe ask why bisexuals, pansexuals, etc also being in a sapphic space feels so threatening to some in the first place? They have a right to be there as well. We are a community.

A label can be used and defined as whatever the owner of the label is comfortable with! "Lesbian" has always been an umbrella term. It can be a singular identity or it can describe any sapphic experience or it can do lots of things, labels have always been flexible in this way. Someone using the label differently than another person isn't harmful. It's expression.

#Not my intention to come off as argumentative! Just a discussion of different views. #I don’t mind discussing different perspectives and defending what I think in return #disclaimer: plz do not harass the asker if you disagree. #lgbt discourse #?? <- for anyone who doesn’t want to see this ig #asks #sa tw #homophobia tw #long post

[racharii]

coming from an enby whos tme (tho i myself am not transmasc), i feel like a lot of transmasc people are doing this "have their cake and eat it too" thing where they want to be perceived as men or men adjacent, in our society a part of the oppressor class, while also still wanting to benefit from structures meant to protect against said class. specifically ones that have been set up in queer spaces. ive met quite a few trans men who were just as vehemently misogynysitic as your average dude bro. and (this is speculation based on convos ive had with trans men im not in every transmascs head) a lot of transmascs have a lot of internalized misogyny that they project onto trans women. ive had an irl ex friend of mine say something that i think encapsulates this particular issue fairly well. this was like 8 years ago, we were talking about trans rep in media (specifically orange is the new black iirc) so im paraphrasing; 'its messed up that we (afabs in this context) are sidelined for people who used to be men, we cant escape the patriarchy.' that was horribly transmisogynistic, so lets unpack it.

it assumes that trans women are just men

it assumes sex essentialism, that they and i were just women. that we were just poor Females having 'our space' encroached on by mean 'former men.'

im not saying that all transmascs think like this ofc. #notallmen. im saying that some do, and enough transmascs have internalized misogyny and not enough self reflection.

just because you are trans doesnt mean you are immune to bigotry and recouping oppressive structures. none of us are free of Sin™️. you as an individual have to make an effort to reflect on your thoughts and actions and how they might affect yourself and others, so that you are not a willing participant of our communities oppression.

for example, ive talked a lot privately about my journey to being a better person, (and pobodies nerfect, its always a learning process, you always will have things you can improve on. and thats okay, were all just human) i initially hated it/its pronouns. 'it' gave me the ick. i was called 'it' as a kid incessantly to make fun of my gender presentation, i couldnt fathom someone else finding peace and even euphoria in using it/its. i bought into the conservative talking points about neopronouns and it/its being detrimental to the trans community. they were "the bad transes" and me? well i use they/them but shakespeare used the singular they so im fine :), im one of the good ones. then one day, i was listening to some video essay idr what or who, but something they said stuck with me, "if it/its makes me happy, why do you care? how does 'it' hurt you really?" my trauma is not everyones trauma, people will find comfort in things that i wont, and thats okay. 'it' hurt me when i was young, by cruel kids and uncaring adults. why am i hurting my community, my fellow transes, by continuing to deny them their autonomy to identify how they like? so i got over 'it.' i saw the real harm was the fucking wedge being driven between us by conservative grifters trying to pick off the weakest in the herd before they go in for the rest of us.

visibility isnt necessarily a good thing for marginalized people. transfemmes are the biggest target of hate in our community atm. they unfortunately serve as the canary. global fascism is on the rise and to be frank, a targeted hate campaign against a trans woman is asking for her to be killed. outed, paraded as a freak, doxxed, swatted, killed. protect trans women, fascism doesnt stop with one group nor will you be saved by being "one of the good ones." trans solidarity, even the people you dont like, even if you think theyre icky or gross or whatever the fuck else you do Not give up trans solidarity. you dont make callout posts, you dont send death threats, you dont send hate mail, if you dont like someone Block Them and move on.

we stand together or we will be eradicated.

#sorry this turned into a rant about impending fascism #but its all connected #rach rants #real cut a liberal a fascist bleeds vibes here recently #also im not proof reading this so sorry for typos #trans

[viismyworld]

CaitVi drabble_____

Vi x Transfemme!Cait

NFSW MINORS AND MEN DNI!!! 🔞🔞🔞

Summary: Broke college student AU where Cait has morning wood so Vi helps her out 

Really just wanted to write Vi pulling a reverse cowgirl (also another rare instance where Vi tops)

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Cait groaned groggily, rolling over to realize Vi wasn't next to her in bed like she was the night before. She looked over with a squint to the bathroom door, it was slightly open, the light peering through, letting her know Vi was there. Once aware of where Vi was, another feeling made itself noticeable; her night shorts were painfully tight…tight enough to frustrate. Fuck….she cursed. Thankfully Vi was in the bathroom (the only bathroom they had in this horrifically cramped apartment unfortunately), so she figured maybe she could rub out the bones before she came out. She shoved the covers off,  freeing her erect member from the confines of her shorts, spitting on her hand and stroking in a rather rushed manner. Not even seconds after the bathroom door swung open, slamming against the wall "Hey have u seen the-" shit! This morning was shaping up to be great, Cait thought. Vi paused at the sight of Caitlyn stopping herself a little too late, the embarrassment on her face apparent. "Woah…a little early for wet dreams don't you think?" She quipped. "It's not- what d'you need…?" Caitlyn asked hurriedly. "Was just looking for the nail clippers is all…" Vi started to catch on to what was going on due to the urgency in Caits tone and the painful boner in her shorts. "Haven't seen them…" Cait said. "Right, okay, I'll look elsewhere then," Vi tried to stifle a snicker. "Please do…you standing there in a towel isn't helping me much…" Vi's ears perked up at that one. "Oh? What, do I turn you on or something?" "I…what no I-!" "Y'know…I guess you're right. Im not being very helpful right now…but…I could be," Vi offered, her tone suggestive. Caitlyn's face grew even redder which seemed impossible with how embarrassed she'd been this whole time. "You-" "Only if you want I mean if not I'll just-" "Wait a second-" Cait couldn't believe she was about to take her up on this, though if she was being honest with herself, she hadn't had good cunt in a while. And if Vi was offering…

Vi stripped herself of her towel, tossing it to the floor as she hopped on top of her roommate. Caitlyn guided her cock inside of Vi's waiting cunt, letting Vi sink down onto her. "Fuuck~" the blue haired woman sighed out. Fuck was right. She was a tight fit, hot and wet as she welcomed her in. Vi smiled, biting her lip as she moved up and down slowly, adjusting to Cait's length. "Fucking hell, you're bigger than I thought you'd be~" she admitted with a strained laugh falling from her lips, though she persisted nonetheless holding herself steady on top of Caitlyn, looking her in the eyes as she soothed her aches. She rose off her cock, only to slam down a little hard, making Caitlyn curse with a throaty groan. She kept at it, slow and bruising before she picked up her pace, finding her expert rhythm, one she'd used to ride other girls before Cait. Sticking her wet hair out of her eyes, she let herself bounce on Caitlyn's cock at her leisure, turning into nothing but a moaning, bouncing mess. Cait held onto her hot body, dampened with water and sweat. She was in awe at how well Vi rode her, practiced hips grounding and grinding in all the right ways, strong legs holding her up and bringing her back down at a perfect pace. Vi seemed to be getting into it, especially when she decided to turn around, coming off of Cait and readjusting herself to where Cait was faced with her tattooed back and perfect ass. Vi sat back on top of her, holding herself up by her hands as she rode her backwards, whining and moaning as she occasionally swept her hair back. "Fuck Vi-" the blue haired woman gasped, watching her cock sink into her roommate over and over as she continued to bounce. Seconds turned to a few long minutes, and Cait felt herself ready to burst. "Shit~ViI'mgonnacumfuck!!!" She breathed out, her breath quickening. Vi laughed, breathing out the words "cum inside me" as she continued, going at it until Caitlyn reached completion. Vi suffered and let out a moan directly from the throat, head falling back as she felt Caitlyn release her load inside her. She smiled at the satisfaction of being filled, finally coming off her roomie after a while. "See? I can be helpful~" 

#vi arcane #viarcane #vi lol #vi x reader #caitvi #caitlyn arcane #caitlyn kiramman #violyn

[mj-theskywitch]

Hi! I am new to the term "transandrophobia" and I've been trying to understand it, do you have any good sources for learning more about it? From what I've gleaned so far it just sounds like "trans men experience a unique kind of bigotry" which makes me insanely confused as to why people I follow and generally agree with are arguing against it so passionately. Am I missing something or is this just another case of terf brain rot leaking into really weird places?

hi! thank you for asking, im happy to try and explain. you're correct, transandrophobia is just a term to describe the unique forms of oppression transmasculine people face. some examples are discrimination when trying to access reproductive care, forced detransitioning by pregnancy, the myriad of ways transmasc poc are treated differently (hi thats me), just to name a few.

to my understanding there's a lot of pushback because people believe anyone that identifies as a man or masculine can't experience bigotry because of being a man, because all men benefit from the patriarchy. i find this to be vastly oversimplified, in fact i would say that the majority of men don't benefit from the patriarchy 100% of the time. ask any men of color, or disabled men, or trans men. there are unique experiences we have that are inextricably linked to maleness, and people don't like to acknowledge that.

i think another part of it, and i might be swinging a bat at a hornets nest with this one, but people perceive women, including trans women, as being the Most Oppressed group, so when transmascs try to talk about our specific struggles (not even saying they're inherently worse, just speaking about them in general) people think we're saying that *we* have it the worst and no one else is as oppressed as us, which is total bullshit. it isn't a contest, no one is claiming one is worse than the other, we just want to be able to talk about our unique struggles that are more specific than general transphobia.

i also think a large part of the issue is that for some reason lots of people believe the transphobia transmascs experience is inherently easier than what transfemmes face, which again is bullshit. there's plenty of statistics about how prevalent violence against us is, it just often flies under the radar because the victims are misgendered posthumously. there's been a recent conversation about how transmascs aren't the main targets of terfs and are basically just collateral which. i don't have the time or energy to fully explain why thats a ridiculous and lowkey actually dangerous belief.

anyways, this ended up being a bit long so i hope i was able to answer your question. @genderkoolaid has a lot of resources in hir transandrophobia tag that can also help!

#i appreciate the sincerity in your question anon #transandrophobia

[homochadensistm]

hi, it seems like i’m late to the discussion so feel free to bury this ask if you’ve moved on. i just really want to share my 2 cents about this topic, because it has been weighing on me lately.

so my gf (lesbian) belongs to a poetry club. i won’t bore you with the details but everyone in the club is a young adult, and it’s not uncommon for the club members to write cringy poems about vulgar shit to be funny. well a couple weeks ago, the weekly topic was odes & tributes, and my gf wrote an Ode to Pussy.

she said everyone liked it, except 2 people who said it was “gross” and exclusionary, because not all women have vaginas. her poem was apparently alienating to trans women, and contributed to the systemic otherization of trans women and transfemmes. when they said that, other people in the club started agreeing with them. the consensus was that it’s OK to have a preference for vaginas, but that anyone who does should keep that to themselves.

my gf apologized, but now she wishes she hadn’t. as for me, i’m really mad about it. it makes me think of straight people who “accept” gay people, but get mad when gay people hold hands, or kiss in public like straight couples do.

not to mention, the whole “genital preference” thing feels like when straight people call homosexuality a Lifestyle. i hate that. it’s not a preference or a lifestyle!! it is a sexual orientation!! we are born this way!!

my gf was literally just writing about her OWN experiences, and what SHE likes. if someone talking about her own experiences bothers you, then that’s a shame, but it’s your responsibility to cope with that. asking gay people to censor themselves when talking about their own experiences, because someone might be emotionally hurt by it, is extremely entitled.

sorry for the wall of text. i ended up ranting haha. anyway, thanks, i needed to get this off my chest.

Yeah dude thats exactly what Im talking about when I say that ppl no longer view others as human beings but rather as Things that can be Reshaped to be more AcceptableTM (just like str8 ppl censoring gays in the early 2000s). It really irks me and what ur gf experienced is something a lot of my friends also experienced, though not in a poetry club but in local lgbt activity groups. It really is fucking insane and Im not surprised at all by the wave of weird radfems who obsess over pussy that we can see in the last uuuh 5yrs or so. Its crazy to think what a minority of insecure narcissists can do to an entire movement lmao

I recommend writing more funny vaj poems btw troll them to hell and back queen

#lgbt

[neotrances]

i’ve been mostly ignoring ask saying i have no transfemme friends or whatever and to prove it bc it’s just . so ridiculous . to use them like figurines to “help” me i think u ppl r the ones with issues in how u view trans girls bc i dont need to call up every trans girl im friends with to defend my honor or whatever bc they r People not props like ive gotten over 40 “u and all ur tme friends” “none of u even talk to trans women” “u dont even have trans girl friends” and its like im not pulling out a catalog of who i hang around just bc ur insecure in ur shitty kinks and think they are apart of being a woman when they aren’t, get a grip

[hecateisalesbian]

My final TOH Headcanons regarding queerness and relationships

Luz Noceda: Luz is obvi staying with Amity for the rest of her life. Luz is hardcore gnc, and legit uses any pronouns. He slays. They’re still bisexual :)

Amity Blight: Amity is a cis girl that’s a lesbian. I Like it that way. I know lots think of Amity as transfemme or demigirl, and I like those ideas, I really just want a cis queer like Amity :) (also she’s Maybe demisexual)

Willow Park: DEMIGIRL PANSEXUAL. THATS WHAT I AM SAYING. Huntlow forever ♾️

Gus Porter: I’d say bisexual, or maybe omnisexual. I can’t decide if I want Gus to end up with Matt. I think it would be cute, but I like him as he is. I’m not touching what I don’t know, but I think Gustholomule is cute ❤️ Cis dude

Hunter Noceda/Deamonne: Cis, bi-curious. 100% had a mini crush on somebody in the Emperors Coven, and since he never was allowed to interact, he never knew if it was boy or girl.

Darius Deamonne: GAY ICON 👏 Cis or perhaps Demiboy. But he’s a slay all the way. Wears makeup. Marries Alador. Probably slaps odalia for being such a-

Alador Blight: Bisexual king. Does he/him pronouns but is otherwise genderless.

Edric Blight: Hes tough, but I’m saying that he is bi. But he’s got a thing for enbys (his date from s2 had they/them pronouns 👀) Cis man

Emira Blight: HEAR ME OUT OKAY? EMIRA IS TRANS. IM GOING NON-BINARY, PRESENTS MASC AND FEMME. I MEAN LOOK AT THEM AT THE END!!!! Also a bisexual, excludes men

Eda And Raine: the same they always are ❤️

King: I like the idea of being like his dad, kinda bi-gender, but prefers he/him pronouns. I can’t say his sexuality though, because who would he romantically love? There’s no other titans. But I suppose a Titan could just. Poof a child. 🤷

Lilith: is bad girl/them. Aroace. In a platonic relationship w/ Steve 👍 Platonic Relationshop for Steve!

If there’s anyone I didn’t mention you can ask me what I think :)

#lgbtq #queer #headcanons #luz noceda #amity blight #willow park #gus porter #hunter deamonne #hunter noceda #Alador Blight #edric blight #emira blight #darius deamonne #edalyn clawthorne #raine whispers #king clawthorne #Lilith Clawthorne #steve tholomule #mattholomule #Toh

[ratundying]

Truly disappointed and angry that im seeing callout posts on my dash right now. Are you listening to the TMA people around you talking about how heavily call out culture has effected the way transmisogyny is perpetuated? Or are you just pretending to care about transwomen and transfemmes in the sake of “trans unity” and feeling good about yourself while you refuse to unlearn the behaviors and ideas you have that genuinely harm them and make them feel unsafe around you. Posting about the Rita’s situation and how much you hate matt and transmisogyny and then turning around to post a callout post literally calling someone a “sexpest” is so extremely disingenuous and proves that you only care about transfemmes and transwomen until you decide that they have done something that disgusts you.

You have to understand that if you are engaging in something that can genuinely ruin someone’s life, especially someone who is already at high risk of being ostracized and harmed by their communities because of their identities, on the grounds of your personal disgust with them, you are not that far away from what TERFs are doing when they start harassment campaigns against transwomen because of their disgust with them for being trans, and doing so makes it harder for people not to fall into harassment campaigns from TERFS because they will bring up the exact same points that you do.

I do not care how immoral or disgusting the things they are being accused of (whether they’ve actually done said things or not) are, no one deserves to have all supports in their life and the possibility of future supports removed based on the information strangers on the internet have decided to spread about them.

If you are reading this and thinking “but what about…” yes this applies to that too. Killing the cop in your head must apply to every way our current state of policing and “justice” have seeped into your brain and thought patterns or it is meaningless.

Please know that if you continue to do this shit you are making it clear how unsafe you are to transwomen and transfemmes, and I will block you on sight.

#these r just my personal thoughts that i felt i really needed to say #pls continue to listen to TMA people who are talking about this

[system-of-a-feather]

Dude before I go do my therapy work Im out here for, I do wanna say the whole afab systems cant call an alter transfemme lacks a lot of insight into transexperiences and nuance. Cause like, yes generally I do feel ablot of cases can be in bad taste if said person is perisex afab that has no experience transitioning

But like, as the like only heavy femme part in a borderline almost basically intersex AFAB transman body that has been on T for 1.5 years, I legit spent an hour femming up with the guidance of a transwoman on YouTube and am wearing my women clothes that let me show of my tits as a "hey look Im a WOMAN" and I kid you not, most angles of selfies make me look like a man dressing up as a woman

I legit struggle to pass as a ciswoman honest to god I technically never was and this far into transition like.... itd be far fetched and a lot of effort to "pass" as a ciswoman especially to bigots

And so like, I don't really identify as a transwoman and I think I COULD argue transfemme but tbh I really don't care, cause I'm more than fine just calling myself a feminine part and/or categorizing my feminity closer to that of a cross dresser than that of a trans experience cause like

Yeah not passing as a ciswoman is annoying but tbh doesnt matter too much to me

But ya know, its whatever honestly. I aint trying to argue cause honestly, I dont call myself a transwoman or transfemme and dont intend to or want to at least unless my feelings change when we eventually get top surgery

But ya know, food for thought and all

#alter: aderis #syscourse #discourse #trans discourse #transmasculine #transfeminine #trans feminine #trans masculine

[princessboyblue]

i lost my virginity!!!! :3

i lost my virginity two days ago with a mommy dom and it was so incredible and i can’t stop thinking about it

(i’m an afab enby and she is transfemme)

i met her on a dating app, and we had been talking for a few weeks. i was so nervous getting there, but as soon as she saw me she gave me a hug and told me how cute i looked which made me feel better. she took me to her room and we just chatted for a little bit on her bed and she turned some music on. as we were talking she put a hand on my thigh, which i got distracted by instantly and started becoming shyer than i already was, which she found adorable. she asked if she could kiss me, and as soon as i said yes her lips were on mine and it felt so good. she started teasing me through my shorts, then on top of my panties, then on my pussy… i was literally coming apart under her touch, it wasn’t long before ‘mommy’ slipped from my lips

we fucked for 5 hours.. she rubbed my clit, fingered me, ate me out.. i sucked on her tits and cock, we 69’d.. she marked my body, made me cum multiple times, and took my virginity completely by fucking me with her cock.. in multiple positions. all whilst calling me her good girl and princess.. all whilst i was whining and and calling her mommy. fuck, at one point i was begging for her cock and asking her to spank me

the best part was she made sure to check with me each time, she slowed or stopped whenever i asked her to, she praised me, and we took breaks where we would just cuddle or make out. because it was my first time i bled, and she would stop to clean me up before teasing my clit again. i felt so fuzzy and subby, by the end of i was so fucked out i couldn’t answer her properly i could only whimper

it was so much fun and it was so good and i can’t stop thinking about it, and i get so wet whenever i do, regardless of where i am or what im doing

i can’t wait to be fucked by mommy again

#nonbinary nsft #nb nsft #trans nsft #lesbian nsft #mommy k!nk #domme mommy #bluewrites #bd/sm mommy #bd/sm dom #bd/sm little #transfem nsft #wlw nsft #t4t nblw #t4t nsft #nblw nsft #dom mommy #mommy #virginity #losing virginity #first time

[scrollypoly]

Stirringjuice is trans guys, stop spreading false info that they're transphobic. I think its really odd that Alex dropped being trans saying it was a joke, that makes me upset that he called being trans a joke, like that should raise red flags. There are unfortunately people who fetishize trans people and being trans, that's what Kister was doing.

Edit: hey nvmd on that first sentence, i spent an hour writing up my thoughts on that document and tumblr ate it! So now i have to re type all of that and im pissed :)

I just finished reading the document and reblogged my post, so if you want to see my whole thoughts, theres that, but im gonna respond to this instead of deleting it like i was going to.

Hi! Im also trans. Being transgender does not absolve you from making transphobic or transmisogynistic comments. And there was definitely transmisogynistic rhetoric that was used as an argument against Alex's case. It does not matter how Alex ultimately identifies as, as in the time where they presented as transfeminine, simple comments about their clothing with no implication were called predatory, their presentation as feminine was called predatory. And i wont lie, we cant even see how they were dressing in those pictures that they gave, because the entire photo was censored out. Why use a photo as evidence of fetishistic or predatory behavior if we cant even see the photo?

I do think Alex did have inappropriate interactions with people in that server. But them simply dressing femininely and saying they want to be feminine or a girl is not anything inappropriate or predatory.

As for Alex saying it was a joke, I said in my prior post that i didnt really believe what they said here, and i think that for a couple reasons. One, Alex seemed pretty genuinely engaged with their presentation and seemed happy and comforted with their presentation. And two, Alex's mental health patterns have shown that they are a person who clings to the comforts and support they can get from people, and also shows that they are a person who isnt grounded with their self very much. So rather than looking at an out of context screenshot . . .

. . . Im going to look at the pattern of behavior that i see and draw my conclusions for that. And even if Alex isn't transfemme or just likes crossdressing, theres nothing wrong with that either. Theres nothing wrong with dressing femininely, whether you are feminine or not.

Youre still allowed to be hurt by his statements, you can have your personal feelings about everything thats happened. But I am too, and im gonna point it out when i see harmful rhetoric used