#it such a toxic fucking mindset &

[catgirlweed]

rotating them in my brain

#this isnt super good but its v late and i wanted to get the vibes out #love these two <3 the toxic wives #could write a whole essay on roses fucked upness and jades self pitying mindset maybe one day #homestuck #homestuck beyond canon #jade harley #rose lalonde #jaderose #upd8 spoilers #upd8 fanart #m'art!

[oceanwithouthermoon]

i think its weird that i have to make this disclaimer but the internet is crazy so wtvr,, anyway,,

if i say i dont like something, that doesnt mean "that thing is bad and nobody should post it.."

i swear literally every time i even mention that i dislike something, people will go "wow does that mean u fucking hate me cuz i post that thing? ur a fucking stupid bitch and all ur opinions r wrong" LIKE ?? er.. no. just because i say i dont like certain characterizations of certain characters (the saiki k fandom is CRAZY about this cuz i can state an opinion on literally any character and a group of people will still go 'well only we're allowed to post our opinions about them because we're always right!1!1!'), or certain ship tropes (mentioned my hatred of toxic yaoi maybe once or twice on here months ago and people STILL get mad at me as if i said toxic yaoi lovers r evil or something), or certain ships, or WHATEVER, does not mean that i HATE the people who are posting them or that i think they shouldnt post them at all, NO, im just posting about my personal tastes on my personal blog and it would be extremely weird and hypocritical if i decided that i was the ONLY person that was allowed to do that,,

i think the only reason people assume that is because there are a lot of other people on here who ARE like that, and a lot of people toe the line between posting that they dont like something and posting that they think everyone who likes that thing is stupid, annoying, and wrong,, so i guess all i can say is, sorry for whatever made you make these assumptions but they arent true about me so plz leave me alone ʘ‿ʘ ur doing the same thing to me that ur accusing me of but i didnt do it in the first place so ur just actively being a dick for no reason

#crazy that the mindset some people on here have is that theyre the only ones allowed to post their opinions #ive repeated this a lot on this blog but i rlly think people forget that the person on the other side of the screen is in fact a person #if ur harassing people and publicly making fun of them then ur just as bad as any real life bully #that shit isnt as funny or harmless as u like to pretend it is #not once have i ever targetted anyone or went on someones blog to harass them over my opinion #yet people think its fine to do the same to me and treat it as if its like. revenge or something #like ? me saying 'i dont like toxic yaoi' is not equivalent to someone going on someone elses page and going 'how tf do u like toxic yaoi' #I DONT CARE !! all ive ever done is sit in my own little bubble and had opinions and that makes people mad #honestly though the people who will publicly talk and post abt it are significantly meaner #and i want to act like im not bothered by it because i know most of them r just angry that someone has a different opinion #and they want all their followers to bandwagon off of them (idk why maybe for validation or whatever-same reasons anyone would bully) #but seriously if u actually do think that something i said was out of line and crossed thise boundaries- just fucking tell me ? #im a person bro. ur solution to disagreeing with me shouldnt be 'lol im gonna post abt this and make everyone harass them' #have a conversation with me dude i dont bite ? if u cant talk to me like a person then just dont fucking say anything wtf #its so cowardly to be like 'well no i didnt wanna say anything to u cuz i didnt wanna be rude.. so instead i publicly made fun of u!' #LIKE WHATTTT STOPPPPP </3333 #ok anyway this post wasnt supposed to get THAT serious. #MY POINT IS just be considerate of other people and dont base ur hatred off of assumptions #ur deflecting the blame onto someone else because u dont want to admit that ur just a fucking bully lol #being inconsiderate on here is something ive also been guilty of back when i first joined the fandom and was clueless #but grown ass adults who have been on here way longer r still doing that shit which is crazy #and i cant say anything because they have so much leverage over me and idk if its on purpose or if they dont even realize #ok im putting fandom tags cuz i want people to see this sorry. this is my one post thats actually targetted but its at a lot of people #so if u look at this and think 'hey i do that' pls evaluate urself<3 #i mean its also targetted at everyone who does this anonomously so i dont know who it is OKOK IM DONE BYE SORRY HOPE THIS IS UNDERSTANDABLE #watch nobody read this fr #saiki k #tdlosk #the disastrous life of saiki k. #meows post

[entombedego]

i hate it when i do something so well, but people fall blind to the way i shine and don't compliment me. i just did all that and you looked past me like im a mere ghost when i know im so more than that.

the world doesn't deserve me.

#i love being the best at everything but everyone else hates it #im a hater #haterism #girl interupted syndrome #girl interrupted #girlblogger #girlblogging #girl things #npd traits #narc posting #female hysteria #toxic #toxic mindset #toxic relationship #hell is a teenage girl #actually mentally ill #mentally fucked #female manipulator #female rage #adult human female #misanthropy #misanthrope #god complex

[honeypleasejustkillme]

people say “don’t let other people consume you” but if i’m not living for myself then i’ve gotta let others consume me, they’re the only reason i’m here

#actually bpd #bpd problems #bpd vent #actually borderline #actually mentally ill #bpd fp #bpd #bpd shitposting #bpd favorite person #bpd mood #just saw a post that was like this and i’ve gotta say what i’m saying because i feel like people are too scared to be ‶toxic″ but i’m not #i know my mindset is ‶toxic″ or whatever but if it’s the reason i’m here then let me fucking live the way i am

[katyspersonal]

People that headcanon Maria as butch lesbian and/or Eileen as black woman and still are kind and respectful to different takes are good and beautiful and lovely and Great Ones can't even help them to ascend any further because they are already perfect and they get so many bitches.

People that headcanon Maria as butch lesbian and/or Eileen as black woman and trash on different takes while accusing people of bigotries are terrible and dumb and absolutely repulsive and do not take homophobia/racism seriously if they think having different headcanons on fictional characters is any of these bigotries, they should stop using the pretense of caring about real world issues to get away with shunning, passive aggression, bullying and cruelty in the fandom for the "awful sin" of being different and Rom would never want to be friends with them

People that started to dislike these headcanons just because of bad experiences with toxic fans should temporarily stop keeping track on fandom updates so they can heal and rediscover them, contradictory spirit doesn't make you free from bad people but makes you another side of the bad people coin and true freedom lays in raging individualism, don't let them claim headcanons as their weapons because butch lesbian Maria and black Eileen did nothing wrong to you and exist to make people happy, it is their enforcers who are bad.

#I kinda helped someone for whom mariadeline got ruined because of toxic fans to like ship again so?? #but I was not able to help someone who went disliking black eileen because of bullying for saying that she- #-did not have canon face so people could not act like she was a representation #bloodborne #fandomry rambles #both bullies and their victims should reject the 'community' mindset and fix their eyes on SOURCE material #what do YOU honestly feel and think? without influence from the fandom? #THIS is your priority #not bending to enforcers nor having different headcanon 'out of spite' #only your honest true non-influenced opinion is real manifestation of your creativity #and anyone who questions your beliefs over HEADCANONS is objectively evil and manipulative #at the very least thankfully bullies are not as organized as they COULD be #they are more like groups of bandits (the screechy guy and their mini-horde of mutuals) #if the Discord Church started pushing this mentality and hire hunters we'd be even more fucked! #doesn't change the fact that these groups of bandits should not exist though #'ugh I hate the community mindset' *makes a post that is nothing but caring about community's mental state* #lol lmao even #anyways I grab both enforcers and 'contradictory' haters and bonk their heads together #do better!

[iamanartichoke]

I made the mistake of scrolling the dash last night, hoping to re-engage my Loki fandom feels, only to be reminded of why I've more or less quit this fandom - which, for the record, is bc I don't know if it's purity culture or "woke" culture or just "for the love of god, I'm begging you to touch grass" culture, but I'd like to engage with my blorbo without running into posts spouting takes like "saying Loki has small, slender hands is a feminization kink (and therefore bad)." Like?? I think there's something inherently anti-genderfluidity(?) to assume that men can't have small, slender hands or that having small, slender hands is automatically a feminine trait, and also Loki does have small, slender hands, and also even if it is being written as some kind of a kink, so what? Why are we kink-shaming?

I mean, I don't know, it just seems like there are more and more and more things that are being shamed, or criticized, based on an arbitrary sense of morality that undermines fiction as a creative, explorative form of art and it's just beyond exhausting - and fucking obnoxious - at this point.

#anyway i just needed to get that off my chest #bc every time i try to hop back on tumblr and like. do things #here comes this fucking fandom being like 'hahaha no' #'bc can we address how this is problematic or that's a kink or how there is only one true loki and here's all the ways in which #your loki is not my loki and wow what an abuse/torture/fascist apologist you are' and just #it's not just that it's obnoxious as fuck (though it is) #it's that this mindset is no longer limited to just tumblr or fandom spaces #it and similar mindsets have spread into the real world and books are being banned #and anti-lgbt+ laws are being passed to 'save the children' #there's no fucking escape from this toxic thought-policing basically #it's all a slippery slope #so anyway see y'all again in six months or whatever #i'm sure i'll have 3/4s of the fandom blocked by the point that loki season 2 drops #but in case there's still 1/4 of people left who actually want to talk about #character analysis and valid criticism based on the material and not morals #i guess we'll see #mood gif #standom frank

[happylittletrees3]

love how u can tell when capitalism has rooted itself in people.

like…me being upset that i was scheduled for a weekend at work that i took off a month ago for the third time is not “well it happens sometimes” worthy, that’s fucked up

#anti capitalism #fuck capitalism #like it’s a stupid job to #literally working in a restruant kitchen #don’t get me wrong i enjoy it but this mindset of it being ok for superiors to not respect your time #but you must respect theirs? #it’s toxic

[thejoontit]

Parents will be like "we gave birth to u, u gotta obey us".

Bro- I never asked to be born?? I still don't like living rn, I ain't grateful for nth cuz I don't want it, why you expecting literally anything frm me??

#desi things #desi academia #desiblr #desi aesthetic #fuck this #indian parents #this is just wrong #idk idk #toxic mindset

[cream-and-tea]

yknow i talk a lot of shit about pallas but i WILL say that everything they add to the character relationship web is absolute GOLD truly no one is doing it like them. mutual dependence and obsession and maybe even tenderness forming w their narrative foil/fellow protagonist until their character arcs become inextricably linked. hamlet n hortatio dynamic w their deadbestfriend. You’re Just Like Me For Real (derogatory) gayass rivalry constantly happening in the background. You’re Just Like Me For Real (affectionate) tragic attempted mentorship also happening the background. they have mommy issues from a character that isn’t even technically related to them.

#to bring it all back to bullying i think it’s bc pallas has such a specific mindset and way of interacting w the world #that you can put them into any kind of character dynamic and the entire thing will warp around them into its most fucked up version #Advent Horizon Of Toxicity lmao #also in case you couldn’t tell i’m talking about their relationship w agnes nina calliope fiver and the director in this post #in that order #i could probably write full essays on how each of these relationships individually effect pallas + the story at large #like i cannot express enough that there is So Much Going On Here #wip: ghost story #pallas

[citrine-elephant]

gotta say, dissociation is a great survival mechanism and i'm absolutely fascinated every single day by psychology in general, and my own personal brain chemistry

just being an "outside observer" to my own internal struggles? so weird. so cool! love how weird the brain is and how complex the skullmeat is.

#personal #vent #see my mental health was going great until situations happened #but dissociation is protecting me from spiraling too far which is so cool! #but also i got better coping mechs and experience now #like the inspiration! #exploring leon's deep dpression again yeah? #the idea of 'what's the point in crying/panicking when it doesn't change what's out of my control?' #yes it can be toxic! crying feels good man #no bottling that shit up #but radical acceptance of the situation and acknowledging that 'yeah i can't do shit about it' is a way to deal with it #do what you can #don't hang on to what you *can't* #SO ANYWAY just that mindset of 'yeah tho wtf is the point of crying' i wanna use with leon #with leon it can be more toxic until post-vendetta ok #it feels good to be a fucking wreck *through* characters #helps process that shit #take care my tag readers <3

[corignem]

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#im gonna be so so forreal-- #the star wars fandom was always my all time favourite to write in #the sad part is that during bOTH of my more intense/longer periods on the fandom... #i was tangled up each time with a different 'best friend' that ended up being deeply. deeply fucking toxic and possessive toward me #so for the longest time it's been SO HARD to touch those fandoms ya know??? #which is why my focus in the past couple of years has been so heavily fandoms that neither were all that involved in bc??? #there's less of these toxic and painful memories #but im sobs bc i MISS these things that made me find such joy and love #idk im rambling but long story short #2024 is hopefully the year i stop avoiding things bc of bad memories and work through it instead with the healthier mindset i have now #tbd

[proship-safe-area]

No offense but "polite" antis are even worse than the ones who are honest about wanting proshippers to kill themselves.

#neutral #proship #proship safe #proshippers please interact #antis being antis #antis dni #the polite ones are so fucking annoying #'oh but i just wanna help you get over this toxic mindset not trying to start a fight' first of all fuck you #these people seem very predatory to me #and if anyone still doesn't convert to antishipping there is a guaranteed chance they'll leave their polite side for dead #because antis are like that #proshipping #pro ship #pro fiction #profic #comship #problematic shipping #and if they can't win with insults they decide to trauma dump on you to make you feel bad #like sorry that happened but how is that relevant to the argument??? #i bet these fuckers call themselves too.

[entombedego]

i dont use my jealousy to sulk in a corner and cry. i use it as inspiration to be better than you, i will be jealous and only stop when im better and have more than you. im not jealous, im inspired to be better than you because i know that i am and will be everything you wish you were

#im a hater #haterism #girl interupted syndrome #girl interrupted #girlblogger #girlblogging #girl things #npd traits #narc posting #female hysteria #toxic #toxic mindset #toxic relationship #hell is a teenage girl #actually mentally ill #mentally fucked #female manipulator #female rage #adult human female #misanthropy #misanthrope #god complex

[mechanomorphic]

yeah i think im done with splatfests. at least for now.

#i love the game so so much and i used to have so much fun w splatfests #idk if its just the ppl i get matched with but theres not really any fun or spirit as a team #the disconnects are awful and constant #ive also noticed i myself getting salty and having that toxic mindset and its. not good lmao #also if shiver wins Again there is literally no point in picking a team other than shiver if you care about winning #which tbh i dont. its just so fucking boring for her to always win #and i love shiver !!! i think shes fun as a character ! #but her winstreak is making her usually hilarious attitude so Fucking Grating and i dont wanna hate a character bcs of that #tldr not having fun. playing salmon run for a bit #vent //

[hella1975]

dude congratulations on telling ur mom about fanfic!! it was super brave of u and i'm glad she reacted well :) ur so cool xx

i HATE myself i was immediately like 'this is sarcastic' no bitch you have trust issues anywayyyyyyy thank you bestie!!! she however immediately dobbed me in it by bringing it up in front of my very judgemental sister yesterday like 'what was that thing you said [my name]? fan fiction?' and my sister went 'oh yeah?' but held eye contact with me the WHOLE TIME

#im actually really annoyed about it? like i SAID to my mum 'dont tell [sister's name]' bc she'll assume fanfic is something i Partake in #and she's of the generation that judges that shit #like i SAID to my mum 'you genuinely just dont get it like of course YOU think it sounds cool bc you only know it as a concept' #like she couldn't get her head around it when i said people are really really mean about this kind of thing #but still she agreed not to bring it up and then?? immediately did??? #and she does this ALL THE TIME like i tell her not to tell my sister shit and she says she wont #and then she does??? #bc her attitude is 'i hate when we have secrets' okay but also sometimes it's just not your place to say shit?? #like when i came out to her i made it VERY clear that it was MY choice to tell me sister if and when i wanted to #and i was and still am not in a place where im willing to do that #and like a WEEK after i came out to my mum she - IN FRONT OF MY SISTER - looked me in the eye upon a convo #we were having about gay people and went 'are you bisexual then?' and i had to LIE and say no which is obviously such an awful feeling #and she just played dumb?????????? #AND AND AND this whole thing ive got atm with the therapist and my ~exam anxiety~ i hadn't told my sister about #bc i just didnt want to talk about it bc i know it's a toxic mindset to have but im still in a place #where im really embarrassed about it all #AND MY MUM TOLD MY SISTER?!?!?! it's all just so fucking annoying but if i stopped telling her shit she would hit the ROOF #anyway sorry to derail your positive ask anon i dont regret telling my mum about fic she just keeps ignoring my requests for privacy lol #ask

[pokemonruby]

my therapist is wonderful actually because she’s this intimidating six foot something woman and she just threatened to beat the shit out of my horrible fucking mom if things ever escalated between us. love you kaitlyn 

#she's so chill and very validating and is actually very conscious of my situation (toxic environment + borderline poverty) #at least more so than anyone else i've ever spoken with #she's actively working with me to hatch a plan to get myself tf out of here but there's been a lot of bumps since it's very. complicated #but said i was smart and i could benefit greatly as a freelancer since getting a 'normal' job is definitely out of the question #i'm working toward it. i'm finally braving myself up to go to the doctor's on wednesday for some health issues i've been having #if it's anemia like i assume i can maybe get some supplements or vitamins and work out a better diet plan so i can go with elias to the gym #i'm supremely nervous but i'm in the mindset of ok just do it. just fucking do it. rip it off like a band-aid and have it done with #riley rambles