#let this man be a mother

[whetstonefires]

You know what I realize that people underestimate with Pride & Prejudice is the strategic importance of Jane.

Because like, I recently saw Charlotte and Elizabeth contrasted as the former being pragmatic and the latter holding out for a love match, because she's younger and prettier and thinks she can afford it, and that is very much not what's happening.

The Charlotte take is correct, but the Elizabeth is all wrong. Lizzie doesn't insist on a love match. That's serendipitous and rather unexpected. She wants, exactly as Mr. Bennet says, someone she can respect. Contempt won't do. Mr. Bennet puts it in weirdly sexist terms like he's trying to avoid acknowledging what he did to himself by marrying a self-absorbed idiot, but it's still true. That's what Elizabeth is shooting for: a marriage that won't make her unhappy.

She's grown up watching how miserable her parents make one another; she's not willing to sign up for a lifetime of being bitter and lonely in her own home.

I think she is very aware, in refusing Mr. Collins, that it's reasonably unlikely that anyone she actually respects is going to want her, with her few accomplishments and her lack of property. That she is turning down security and the chance keep the house she grew up in, and all she gets in return may be spinsterhood.

But, crucially, she has absolute faith in Jane.

The bit about teaching Jane's daughters to embroider badly? That's a joke, but it's also a serious potential life plan. Jane is the best creature in the world, and a beauty; there's no chance at all she won't get married to someone worthwhile.

(Bingley mucks this up by breaking Jane's heart, but her prospects remain reasonable if their mother would lay off!)

And if Elizabeth can't replicate that feat, then there's also no doubt in her mind that Jane will let her live in her house as a dependent as long as she likes, and never let it be made shameful or awful to be that impoverished spinster aunt. It will be okay never to be married at all, because she has her sister, whom she trusts absolutely to succeed and to protect her.

And if something eventually happens to Jane's family and they can't keep her anymore, she can throw herself upon the mercy of the Gardeners, who have money and like her very much, and are likewise good people. She has a support network--not a perfect or impregnable one, but it exists. It gives her realistic options.

Spinsterhood was a very dangerous choice; there are reasons you would go to considerable lengths not to risk it.

But Elizabeth has Jane, and her pride, and an understanding of what marrying someone who will make you miserable costs.

That's part of the thesis of the book, I would say! Recurring Austen thought. How important it is not to marry someone who will make you, specifically, unhappy.

She would rather be a dependent of people she likes and trusts than of someone she doesn't, even if the latter is formally considered more secure; she would rather live in a happy, reasonable household as an extra than be the mistress of her own home, but that home is full of Mr. Collins and her mother.

This is a calculation she's making consciously! She's not counting on a better marriage coming along. She just feels the most likely bad outcome from refusing Mr. Collins is still much better than the certain outcome of accepting him. Which is being stuck with Mr. Collins forever.

Elizabeth is also being pragmatic. Austen also endorses her choice, for the person she is and the concerns she has. She's just picking different trade-offs than Charlotte.

Elizabeth's flaw is not in her own priorities; she doesn't make a reckless choice and get lucky. But in being unable to accept that Charlotte's are different, and it doesn't mean there's anything wrong with Charlotte.

Because realistically, when your marriage is your whole family and career forever, and you only get to pick the ones that offer themselves to you, when you are legally bound to the status of dependent, you're always going to be making some trade-offs.

😂 Even the unrealistically ideal dream scenario of wealthy handsome clever ethical Mr. Darcy still asks you to undergo personal growth, accommodate someone else's communication style, and eat a little crow.

#hoc est meum #pride and prejudice #elizabeth bennet #charlotte lucas #meta #charlotte is a much less sociable person than lizzie #so avoiding her husband most of the time and not seeking out his company is more viable for her! #she also has more patience for people being wrong #partly i think because she kinds checks out and lets them get on with it which lizzie isn't too great at even with her mother #people have different needs like that's a thing okay #marriage #spinsterhood #pragmatism #like if elizabeth had to listen to collins talk for a few months straight she would be nearly insane with rage #he's not just a low-quality man he's a man designed to be the worst for her specifically #also note that because jane's marriage is elizabeth's fallback plan #darcy screwed her over personally by interfering between her and bingley #she ofc does not bring this up how could she #but it's intensifying the anger during the hunsford rejection i think

[crismakesstuff]

cast out of paradise

#please see my vision here #PLEASE #sorry for injecting my catholic trauma into the silly superhero show guys I can’t help it #the fallen angel #invincible #invincible show #invincible fanart #omni man #omniman #nolan grayson #mark grayson #debbie grayson #crismakesstuff #the original painting ‘the fallen angel’ is just SO HIM #the grief the despair and anger about his own choices #ITS NOLAN! #ok but if you guys let me ramble if I had to assign biblical roles to the graysons #i can see nolan as god himself (or lucifer but more so god tbh) debbie is mother mary and mark is jesus #the whole ‘lamb of god’ motif just fits mark wayyyy too well #also I saw someone make art of debbie and mark as ‘la pietà’ and I’ve been a changed person since #AGAIN SORRY FOR THROWING CATHOLIC IMAGERY AT THE SUPERHERO SHOW #this is how my brain wants to cope w it ig ;-; #catholic imagery

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

No time to play. You are being sent away.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #yu ziyuan #jiang yanli #jiang cheng #wei wuxian #Do you know how hard it was to *not* do a 'Sold To One Direction' spoof comic? It took nearly all my will power. #Mostly because it misaligns a little too far off from the canon events and vibes. #But sit with me for a moment. Consider it: #“BEEP BEEP BEEP. I threw my pillow at my alarm clock. ”Wei Wuxian get your lazy ass downstairs!“ Yu Ziyuan yelled. #I ran to the bathroom and looked in the mirror to see my grey orbs staring back at me. #I put my long straight black hair in a ponytail with a red ribbon. #I went downstairs to see my adoptive mother holding a bottle of vodka and a cigarette. #'Listen up whore! I need money to pay the bills so I sold you. Your new owners will be here any minute so go pack!' #I stormed upstairs. There was no way I was going to let her sell me to a creepy old man! #I decided to run away. Since I'm not like other girls I don't have very many friends. #My gay friend Lan Zhan was mean but he lived like a block away. #As I opened the door I saw Wen Chao blocking the door. 'Ello Love. We're your new owners!' #I rolled my eyes and pushed him. 'Aren't you from that stupid Wen Sect? There's no way in hell I'm going with you!' #Hey again. It's me the OP of this blog taking a pause. I haven't actually read this story before aside from the memes #and I am honestly reeling from how this watpad fic chapter ends. What do you mean one of the one direction boys chloroforms her??? #Chapter 2 is so much worse #Why is there such a strong focus on the *eyes* of every boy!!! #This fanfic is a horror story actually. I came into it trying to make a funny parody but I got in over my head. Dear God. #It's me again. Several minutes have passed and I'm on chapter 4. What the FUCK is going on here? #I feel like I opened up pandora's box hoping for a fun little treat and got the plauge upon me. Dont read this fic.

[gunstellations]

a little family

#buddy daddies #my art #doodles #sometimes a family is an two misfit assassins and the daughter of the guy you offed and thats a okay #but lets not talk about that #we love healing in this house and how do you heal if not after suffering #reis journey through depression and kazukis journey through grief #what 1 little girl does to a man #its 5 am all i can offer are doodles but i love them very much #i know we do reasonably get to call them cowards for not making it gay (esp at the end bc come on) #but i do love whatever relationship they have going becuase theyre just. Thats marriage babe.... #theyre not going to be doing any dating with that committment that is the most domestic ass setting ive ever seen #everyone and their mother assumes theyre married/dating and doesnt even question it because theres NO QUESTION T O ASK #only the people involved apparently dont know theyre married #ok nvm they were cowards for not making it gay. but again. theyre clearly married your honor. theyre just a little stupid

[cromulent-marshland]

Rip Mary Shelley, you would’ve loved Lisa Frankenstein. You would’ve called it the best adaptation of your work.

#lisa frankenstein #let’s be real about this. Mary Shelley was the original weird goth girl. #she would’ve loved the back vibration machine scene and the almost kissing in a graveyard scene and every scene #she lost her virginity to a married man on her mothers gravestone #this movie is for her #a hot goth girl and a himbo boy is literally Mary Shelley and Percy Shelley’s relationship to a tee.

[noisesfrombeyondtheuniverse]

Gilear being Fabian and Fig's dad is so much fun to me i hope junior year has a scene with just the three of them.

#Fig is constantly like 'i love my dad' #And Fabian's like 'the man my mother has let into our house is on thin ice' #dimension 20 #fantasy high #gilear faeth #fig faeth #fabian seacaster

[i-am-just-a-girli]

I can forgive my father for all his wrongs against me, if only he had treated my mother differently. It is an echo, of what my mother says, "He may not be a good husband, but he is a good father." How do I tell her that one cannot exist without the other? He will never be a good father. He is not good to my mother.

—Reva

#riri verses🖋 #i know my father is not a bad man #he's a good man...one of the greatest dare I say #he's the best son #the best brother #a loving father too #a good husband? sometimes he is....sometimes not #he loves my mother yet he it seems he cannot let my mother love him #yet he longes for love #he's a lonely man #he's a wounded man #and I don't know how to help him. it pains me. #web weaving #web weave #webweaving #to be clear— i love my father. that doesn't mean i can't hate him for the way he treats my mom sometimes. #he has his flaws #everyone does #but i don't where else to speak of my pain #letter to my father #dearest father #father

[silverspadesss]

‘tomas and his two brothers step out…

carrying the alive but at the moment weak and sort of malnourished body of henry hubbard.’

THEIR REACTIONS. what if i sobbed

#neverafter spoilers #neverafter #d20 #dimension 20 #pib #mother timothy goose #ally beardsley #zac oyama #an old man and a cat reuniting with the family they thought were dead #and both after losing someone #sure tim had a heartwrenching conversation and had to come to terms with letting jack go and pib watched alphonse get blown up #turn into a man and fuck off. my point is they both really needed this.

[krasytoonz]

Strawberry Ice Cream Soda-Pop or something like That!

#I love how Barnaby sounds EXACTLY like how I imagined him to Sound! And Howdy’s voice too! It’s so so Great! #and their Interactions.. OH MAN! I CANT believe I would say this But I ship them EVEN MORE #Everytime I replay that Audio of Howdy and Barnaby talking about Family and all I just think to Myself ‘they’re such a Lovely Duo’ #and then Howdy says something About meeting Barnaby’s mom and I just Ascended to Nirvana because you see #It’s Him meeting his Mother in Law and in my Head they’re Married #AND IT’S KILLING ME INSIDE BECAUSE I KNOW ITS ALL PLATONIC BUT I CAN’T HELP BUT SHIP THEM MORE NOW #LIKE THE CHEMISTRY IS DJKSMSMXMX LETS JUST ADMIT IT THEYRE CUTE TOGETHER #welcome home puppet show #welcome home #barnaby x howdy #howdy x barnaby #beaglepillar #laughingstock #welcome home fanart #welcome home arg #welcome home project #fanart #barnaby b beagle #barnaby b. beagle #krasytoonz #barnaby Beagle #wally darling #welcome home barnaby #welcome home howdy #welcome home Wally #my beloved OTP they ARE SO SO SO CUTE

[felis-rach]

You call this a utopia?!

#mother 3 #mother series #mother 3 fanart #earthbound fanart #lucas mother 3 #porky minch #Drawing is hard man #Practicing lineless art still lets go

[pollyannawog]

Funny little cyborg

#polly draws #mother 3 #claus mother 3 #masked man #lucas mother 3 #kumatora #duster mother 3 #earthbound #mother series #boney mother 3 #It has been 10 years since I first played mother 3 and LET ME TELL YOU #it has not done good things to my mental state (complementary) #I havent drawn any of these people in Literal Years so trying to figure out how to do that now

[zutara-reblogs]

Katara haters should be disgusted with themselves.

Also, shoutout to @marauders4evr for the original post. Found it on Pinterest btw

#anti katara hate #let the girl grieve her mother #she literally only brought up her mother like 5 times in the show #stop being an asshole #katara deserved better #katara #atla #atla meta #man am i glad that i dont come into contact with katara haters on a regular basis #i'd lose my mind

[laniidae-passerine]

obsessed with the idea of What Will People Think that permeates actions in Barry. even though it’s a terrible idea, Barry goes on fun runs to support the family of the guy he murdered and posts evidence of it online because he wants to be seen as a good guy. Sally’s mother being more concerned about what the women from her church might say about Joplin than about the real abuse her daughter endured, because they don’t care about that. Cousineau making an awkward public apology to Annie and then later trying to capitalise on Barry’s arrest so he can be a big hero. The big song and dance Cristobal and Hank have to do to hide their relationship and trick people into thinking they’re enemies. Fuches constantly bragging about being The Raven because he wants to be the coolest guy in the prison yard. What people think doesn’t matter. What people think means everything.

#hey bill hader man who exists in the public eye who is subject constantly to the court of public opinion #who is being analysed every day by somebody who is being followed by people with cameras #who works in comedy #let’s talk about this huh??? #help!!!!!!!!!!! #barry hbo #barry #cristobal sifuentes #noho ​hank #sally reed #monroe fuches #barry berkman #gene cousineau #also as an mixed race south asian woman the cold feeling that swept over me #when I realised that Sally’s mother didn’t care that she was abused. did you have to make it public is all. now the neighbours are talking. #What If People See? What Will They Say?

[milimeters-morales]

thinking of the similarities between rio and miles again. their awkward smiles are the same and they both kind of hunch in on themselves when put on the spot/nervous, and both try to diffuse that air with a joke/playful phrase. how similar do you think Miles G. and Rio-42 act? do you think they have super similar upset behaviors?? do you think they’re just more alike in general ever since jeff passed away??? or has Miles G. been getting distant bc of grief despite loving his mom so much and needing her so he acts more like Aaron than anyone else?? i’m so sick

#grief pushing you away from your mother? i’ve been drowned in a random creek #we should kill whoever decided the earth 42 thing it’s amazing. i love it it’s given up so much opportunity. let’s END them. #miles morales #spiderman #spider man #rio morales #prowler miles #miles g #m&m posts

[puppetmaster13u]

Prompt 242

   He looks the same as he had that fateful day, a storm raging around him and risking sending the ship down into the abyss. Hair whipping in the wind as the sky roars its deadly challenge echoed by the beasts they all sought to bring down those centuries ago. 

   It looks just as human as they- that is to say not at all, not anymore. A body twisted, sand and lightning melding into a molten sea ever-expanding. Its eyes as gold as the treasure it guards, brilliant blues and greens dancing across bodies in sigils unknown. 

   It looks exactly as it did that time ago, smile dancing on its lips as the sky opened up in torrents, like blood gushing from a wound. “You’re free to go,” it says, in words they understand and words they don’t. “You don’t have to stay here any longer.” 

   “Where will we go?” They ask, so very tired of this eternal battle, of being trapped in crashing waves and storms of water and sand. Being tossed one way and the other, never able to go home, for home was gone long ago. 

   It looks up, their own gaze following, the ship crashing through the dredges of a storm they had thought eternal. And for the first time in eternities, they see them. The stars. Dancing and dripping from a serpentine form that cradles the Sun and Moon, smiling down to the beast and them alike. 

   And so, they take from the seas, and take to the stars instead. 

#Prompts #DCxDP #DPxDC #Storm Core Tucker #Space Core Danny #Life Core Sam #Look I’m just saying I wouldn’t be surprised if there’s some trapped spirits from one of Tucker’s past lives #let liminals/ghosts be eldritch to normal people #Why yes the eternal trio are now Ancients #No ghost king Danny here just space man who loves his husband & wife #they might have accidentally made a few cults #And the other ancients aren’t helping they’re cooing about it #like its babies first drawing or something #they’re just tryin to fix this shit that was done through these dimensions a while ago #Sam might have been behind the league of assassins accidentally #Time travel & dimension travel is honestly part of their normal #Sun Core Dan #Moon Core Ellie #Dan & Ellie cackle at them until they get dragged into the accidental pantheon too #Dan gets revenge by telling the mortals that Danny/Phantom/etc is his mother which causes misunderstandings #You know how creation and god myths can get lmao #Ellie claims different things to each dimension and giggles mischeviously #Also feel free to do any sort of crossover or multiple crossovers #Danny Phantom #danny phantom crossover

[dolorianwolf]

INTERFACING - You let the empty bottle go. Upon contact with the ground it shatters into pieces that scatter, joining its intact brothers on the cold linoleum of your kitchen floor.

YOU - It'll hurt.

HALF LIGHT - Of course it will. Do not jump down from this countertop. You will cut yourself and bleed out through the soles of your feet.

INLAND EMPIRE - That's not what he meant.

ELECTROCHEMISTRY - What then, the hangover?

PHYSICAL INSTRUMENT - The shoulder?

VOLITION - The failure?

LOGIC - The resetting of the timer? Going back to day zero...

YOU - No.

ESPRIT DE CORPS - The idea of letting Kim know that he could not protect you from this. It rips a hole in your stomach for all to see.

YOU - But who else could I tell?

[VOLITION: Impossible] - Call Jean

[PAIN THRESHOLD: Challenging] - Call Kim

[ELECTROCHEMISTRY: Easy] - …

#disco elysium #harry du bois #the furies #alcohol abuse/alcoholism #ficlet #inspired by ''who do I tell/The idea of letting my mother know/she could not protect me from the world/ #It makes me ill/So who do I tell'' that i wrote a while back but will never publish anyway so now im turning it into a DE ficlet #aka op recently reset a timer of their own and is taking it out on the poor fictional man theyre obsessed with dot jpeg