#people are complex by human nature

[craycraybluejay]

On the next episode of Are Maleness and Sadism Interlinked or Am I Just Weird About My Masculinity and Kink

#my tranny sex mysticism is cooler than your cissy sex mysticism #although gender in general is a construct and everyone ties things to their gender which have little or no #real connection to anything like that #bc gender is identity #clothes are the easiest example but #i think i understand when people say stuff that sounds nonsensical like 'my gender is venus flytrap' #because gender is identity and if its a big thing in your identity you kinda like #connect it to your femaleness or maleness or both neither other #like when a girl fights shes still feminine kicking ass and that doesnt make her any less good at kicking ass #or when a guy does his nails it can very much be a masculine thing for him #its all made up and based on vague feelings and concepts #so sure conservatives feel free to identify as an ak47 you know its not a gotcha #and radfems feel free to keep calling me a monster it makes me hard <3 #but yea like. identity is both complex and simple. its the human condition to identify with things #and i dont think 'neogenders' are particularly new i just think we had different words or no words for that #but people have and always will identify with anything and everything #thats human nature. we mirror and absorb and grow #even twin sisters experience femaleness differently or even call it different things #girlhood or being a lady etc etc #even within the cishet society gender is not as simple as authoritarians would like you to believe #anyway yeah my gender identity is sadistic male aligned freak and other things

[dailymothanon]

Alaska stole his cat's affections, and HIS affections too. How dare he, who does he think he is. No one knows how Alaska has not been suffocated in his sleep yet from all of those behemoths

plus after reading a lot on Alaska Malamutes I have come to the conclusion that yep. That is Alaska, just as Maine coons are literally Maine cuz I said so

I’ve just been experimenting with random tattoos, I like cozy clustered things u see. So uurhh I just slapped a buncha fireweed flowers (very popular flower in Alaska, we have that thing where we like to see how long winters gonna be, like the Groundhog Day of Alaska but with flowers) forget me nots, and stars or whatever, I’m just playing around with it till something sticks

#Alaska just gets nature like that brah #Except for people #He agonizes human socializing #What do you mean he’s supposed to interact with people that are complex #That is so weird #wttt #wttt shipping #wttt fan art #wttt alaska #wttt maine #wttt facts #wttt fanart #wttt headcanons #wttsh fanart #wttsh #wttsh headcanons #wttsh alaska #wttsh maine

[musical-chick-13]

Regarding the previous post, I think the way I approach trying to evaluate a piece of art is asking "Do I think the positive things I get out of it outweigh the parts of it that I don't like?" And when I call something a "guilty pleasure" song/show/book/piece of media/etc. it's really more in the sense of, "Given who I am as a person, the flaws I've found in this should be complete dealbreakers for me, but somehow they aren't, and it makes me feel like I'm having an identity crisis."

#like. I think something like...idk shiki or cxgf excels on multiple levels. I understand why I like them. given the things I look for in art #it makes sense that these shows would speak to me because they make the effort to showcase those things I look for. because the people #in charge of those works clearly valued the same kinds of things and cared about seriously exploring them. #but with something like. uh. ctrlz. that is NOT the case and I frequently found myself going 'why would anyone make this writing #decision?' but I still sat through all 3 seasons of it! I still really enjoyed it! those flaws SHOULD have made me give up according to #personal history but they never did. and I very very much genuinely question why. I have NO IDEA why I still care about this #silly convoluted teen drama show so much. but I do. I wrote SO MANY FUCKING POSTS ABOUT IT. #I really love wicked the musical. I've heard many people call it 'hokey' or 'cheesy' or 'objectively bad' but here's the thing! I DON'T #think it's bad!!! like literally at all!!!!!! and it does do some genuinely cool things in regard to the music and the way the characters #develop and what the show says about the nature of prejudice and human connection. is it like. idk Serious™ the way that something like #Parade is? no. but it doesn't have to be. it does what it sets out to do and it does it well and this is why the whole '''objective #evaluation''' thing doesn't actually mean anything. I value thoughtfully-constructed music and dynamic female characters #(which this musical has). I value stories that deal with the complex and messy feelings that come with being a human (which this musical #has). I value stories about 'other'ness and romantic subplots that aren't just built on 'This Girl Is Pretty' (which this musical has). #and I value professional displays of technical vocal ability because I know how fucking DIFFICULT that is (which this musical...if you cast #it well...has). #if you value something else in a musical then yeah you will probably think THIS one is '''objectively bad''' #if you don't see the point of musicals as an art form you will probably think wicked is '''objectively bad''' #do you see where the problem with categorizing analysis like this is??

[alrightbuckaroo]

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#i'll probs delete this later but sometimes people in the fandom go so mask off with the microagressions it's wild #no one i follow but seeing some of the asks and the discourse around carlos specifically #like you're going out of your way to make one of the 3 men of color on this show the “bad guy” when he's just as complex as everyone else #“he doesn't talk about things” yes this is considered a flaw; something all humans are allowed to have?? #maybe it's because i took screenwriting classes; but carlos is a fictional character; they're all supposed to have flaws #because they represent humans and none of us are without fault. #characters supposed to have flaws because we're meant to explore them; and at the end of the day; if it's done well...root for them! #we're supposed to look at carlos; someone who's avoidant and reserved and think wow! #we've watched this queer brown man explore his paternal issues; his reserved nature; his avoidant personality & find someone who loves him #in spite of it all #because he loved tk so much that he finally started to love himself

[clefairytea]

Hey I don’t know if you’re still writing about Peaks and Valleys anymore but I was wondering if you are can you write down some of Red’s and Blue’s love languages ok bye

No don't worry they live rent-free in my brain. Hm, see, I'm never sure entirely what people mean when they talk about love languages (I could get into a very boring and long discussion of how the underpinning theory of the whole 'five love languages' is kind of unsubstantiated and unscientific and more of a framework for thinking about these things that's useful as a therapeutic technique but that's neither here nor there). But in terms of like, how they show affection:

They're both not super prone to overt verbal shows of affection. Red for the obvious reasons, but even in writing he finds it kind of awkward. Kanto isn't exactly a "talk about your feelings" culture and they both had kind of weird adolescences. Red was up a mountain hanging out with wild monsters and Blue was raised by Prof Oak, who isn't exactly winning parent of the year

Blue will do a lot of "acts of service" type stuff - he makes sure Red has new clothes that fit and aren't busted, he makes sure the apartment is clean, that he's talked to his Mom recently, that kind of stuff

They'll do a lot of casual touching/cuddling - a lot of leaning on each other, shoulder touches. It's fairly low-key but also relatively constant

Battling lmfao both having literal battles and just endless tedious conversations about battle strategy and Pokemon rearing techniques

Red just kind of follows Blue around a lot even if Blue is going like. Shopping for new douchey capris or something else he has no interest in, Red will still trail around after him. Is that a love language? I think so.

Thanks for asking! That's fun to think about - I wish I had some more substantial stuff for you though!

#clefairy squeaks #I need you to all understand that the love languages and MBTI stuff #It's not so much science or hard facts about humans as it is #Useful frameworks for therapeutic or professional settings to get people to think about their own and others preferences #Like both are oversimplifications of concept facets of human life that doesn't have empirical backing but ARE useful for communicating idea #And facilitating better understanding of others #People get very eye-rolly about them but I do think they have their place #But I think people also get lost in the sauce of trying to boil down THEIR love langauges or THEIR personality type as though like #It means something in nature as though there's an INTJ gene in you somewhere #Rather than just a framework for discussing complex and nuanced ideas in a way that's a bit more easy to understand

[uncanny-tranny]

Scrolling through some terf shit to block them off and I found this wonderful quote

“Trans activists keep saying "sex isn't real Scientists have disproven it! There's no difference between male and female bodies!"

HUH??????2)-5 Last I checked we are ACUTELY AWARE that sex is a real thing, it’s just not as binary as you think it is and also gender is a different anthropological concept. God these straw men could keep away every crow in the tristate area

People take "sex is not as set-in-stone and mythological as we're lead to think, hence why transition works and why intersex people exist" as a personal threat, sometimes because they think that it means "sex isn't real"

What trans people usually are criticizing about peoples perception of human sex is the fact that people tend to see male amd female as almost like they're seperate species with no overlap. Honestly, I see this as an extension of misogyny in that it justifies why women (and people presumed and forced into the gender and sex associated with "woman") "deserve" to be subjected to misogyny.

If human sex had no overlap, I wouldn't be able to transition in any way, but I've gone through my ~sex change~ without a hitch, y'know? Transition really teaches you that human sex has more overlap than people want to think. We are more alike than we are different.

I know you didn't send this ask to hear my views on human sex, but it's something I've seen. The idea that "sex = everything and is your destiny" is outdated, and it harms more than just trans people. It harms intersex people who don't "neatly" fit into the male/female dichotomy immensely, and it hurts perisex cis people. We aren't helped by treating other people like seperate species.

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #nonbinary #transphobia #transphobia tw #tags just in case #what science has proven is that humans are varied #and in my view it proves that nature isn't this ~all-knowing ever-present~ entity that either makes you perfect or not #i see human sex as this complex venn diagram with overlaps. there *are* trends of differences between sexes but by no means... #...indicates that there are *no* similarities between the sexes #and this can be changed. doesn't it make more sense that humans are more alike than they are not? even down to sex #i *cannot* understate how much our views of human sex has harmed intersex people though

[nedsseveredhead]

The worst person you know loves someone. They go home and they pet their dog. They call their mother to check on her because theyve been away for too long. They’re a role model to their kids who are still young enough to believe their parents are super heroes. This isn’t to say they have not caused harm. Its to point out that human beings are multitudes. We all have the capacity for harm. We all have the capacity for love.

#thinking about how its the easy way out to say someone is evil #but its human nature to love #demonizing awful people (oxymoron i know) makes it too easy to be complicit in our own shortcomings #sometimes you do bad things #to someone- you might be the worst person they know #idk where in going wjth this #just thinking about humans and human nature and the complexity of being #just friday things

[morporkian-cryptid]

I wonder how many people before us have been in relationships that challenge the definitions of friendship and romance. It’s something that’s becoming more popular in my generation, but only on a... personal level. It’s more frequent, but it’s still a niche. I learned about other possibilities from my friends and from the internet, but it’s still not in mainstream media. Not in movies, in series, in books. It never was. I’m slowly discovering how freeing it is to live relationships outside of set boxes, and it’s something I’m discovering by myself. Partly because I have friends in open relationships and QPRs... and partly by just thinking “screw it, I might as well listen to what I want regardless of the rules, and see where it takes me”. Maybe it would have taken me longer without the help of the internet and other people’s experiences, but maybe I still would have found that freedom just by listening to myself. Someone must have done it first, right?

So I’m thinking... how many other people before me did that? How many, before they’d ever heard it was possible, built relationships outside of the norm? How many decided to ask out their crush who was already in a couple, and all three made it work? How many made out with their friends in a completely platonic way? How many raised families together with someone they had a deep affection for but no romantic love, and both knew it and were content with it?

How many people discovered the freedom of just listening to their wants and needs, without following the rules? How many people quietly challenged the established definitions of relationships, that we never heard about? Because they’re not chronicled in stories, because we only ever write about the romantic love interest, the best friend, the confidante. But there’s so much more complexity to human relationships, I cannot believe we’re just now starting to explore it. Others before us must have built something different, and thought that they were alone, that they were pioneers. I wish I could know about them, I wish more people today could now that something else is possible.

#this is about polyamory and open relationships and QPRs and relationship anarchy #if you're with the right people life gets so much better when you stop following the rules of what relationship is supposed to work whch way #i'm feeling emotional thinking about all the people before me who came to that realization #on their own #without the help of hundreds or thousands of other people on the internet #because fuck it the internet as we know it has only been around for what? twenty years? #but the complexity of feelings and relationships is inherent to the nature of human beings #you can't put it in neat boxes #it just doesn't work #i wish i could know about all the other people before me #who came to that realization and felt the incredible freedom #of not having to tie your brain up in knots trying to figure out what your feelings meant #or having to shove them under the rug because society says it wouldn't work out #and i really. really. really want more people to break out of those rules and experience the happiness of just. listening to your feelings #and building a relationship tailored to those feelings

[sanguith]

i'm glad i decided to try out a ketosis diet again (aka changing my metabolism to basically only use ketone bodies made from fatty acids for energy by reducing carb intake to max 20g/day) for a few weeks because it was a neat experiment but i'm also glad I decided to stop because now i get to enjoy life's greatest fucking simplest yet finest delicacy: mashed potatoes/sweet potatoes with melted butter and salt. i cannot understand how i could live without that. just. vegetables. keto has opened my eyes to new ways to cook foods and experiment with ingredients but i don't think i can live without carbs. i doubt that the majority of people could. also have you any idea how much good simple near-zero effort food there is out there like holy gosh darn in heaven. i don't have to spend hours cooking something to have a nice meal

#food mention #diets #actually anything carb with butter and salt. how can it be so good. call me a lazy goob but i once just microwaved corn and butter #added salt. and it was the most delicious fuckin thing ive ever eaten #i've done low-carb in the past and tried keto a few times and always it felt so great after the keto flu disappeared after a few days #but this time the keto flu did not go away. i felt so weak and awful but at the same time i had less brain fog. and never felt hungry. #but it was werid. i think it might have been because i've been kinda high carb for the last few years and the change was so strong & sudden #also electrolyte imbalances can happen on keto if you're not careful. it's complex. #anyway it got me to eat a bit healthier like (almost) completely avoiding processed foods and unnaturally high sugary stuff #which i just want to generally avoid for personal health reasons which is a whole can of worms but i just dont want to overindulge #sure i can eat an entire bag of candies or chips in an evening if i feel like it but I *feel* my body just being like “nooo” and sure enoug #the next morning i do feel a little bit extra like shit #and another thing: i think i benefit from abrupt diet changes now and then. it feels natural in a way. ye olde scavenger hunter genetics #ya know. our nomadic ancestors would probably have to do that a lot when things weren't year-round available #sometimes only meat for months on end in cold seasons/areas #sometimes basically only plants and nuts roots and seeds and stuff #it's actually remarkable how human metabolism can adapt so much depending on what's available to eat #sometimes fasting for days when food was just nowhere to be found. #i'm not saying “stress your metabolic system it's good for you'” (it probably isnt) just idk. mixing it up a bit at least works for me #btw disclaimer i HATE the whole thing about diet-pressuring and some people claiming that certain diets will solve everything #it doesn't solve all health problems magically. ”"”superfoods“”“ are not a 100% faultless scientifically proven thing. #shit like ''the paleo diet is the number one key to optimal health without medications!!'' no. shut. #on the other hand i do believe diets can help a bit like a nudge. it's just one factor out of many that affects how we feel #ANYWAY conclusion: eat what you want. do what feels right for you. find your own ways to make the food you eat help your health a bit #or don't! be yourself! love yourself! #the chosen method is gonna be different for everybody #but from now on im gonna try and eat as close to natural unprocessed foods as I can in this day and age. it feels right for me somehow. #i think *my* preferred method/diet whatever is to mainly eat natural unprocessed foods and to mix it up a bit now and then with change #for that sweet ''METABOLIC ADAPTATION'' perk that feels good for me #(why did this post become so long. nobody cares. anyway i don't care if nobody cares. i care. *I* care!!! wooopp)

[apostate-in-an-alcove]

It's probably the ex-Christian in me but the rhetoric that humans are inherently evil and irredeemable is so boring and irksome to me that any piece of media that includes those ideas in it immediately becomes unlikable to me.

#ex christian #ex catholic #deconversion #apostate #atheist #deconvert #hate to break to people but humans are far more complicated than that #explore the complexities of human nature instead of doubling down on your black and white thinking you lazy toad

[idiosyncraticrednebula]

Can people stop the "Don't call yourself a feminist if-" crap? Y'all still believe in the blatant lies of that movement and ideology?

#txt #that shit has been shady from day one even if some of the people involved throughout the years had good intentions #i'm sorry but women need to stop thinking this movement has ever been for them. it wasn't even created by women #also christ is literally there. you don't need that movement. christianity did that a looong time ago #“yeah but society was still patri-” shut the hell up with that. i don't want to hear it. y'all have no idea what a patriarchy is anymore #it's just evil men working together to keep women down. the world has never quite worked like that. are y'all this retarded????? #y'all are out here painting shit like a goddamn classic disney villain #the world and human civilization are incredibly complex multidimensional and gray. this isn't a black and white bs #this is the fucking problem with tumblr and people as a whole. nothing is balanced. it's either one extreme or the other #we humans tend to jump to extremes even though things are far more nuanced and complex #we live in a fallen world. this world is unfair but there's a chance at redemption #we can all be better #the problem with this ideology is that they always try to paint men as the natural enemies of women #it's the oppressor and oppressed dynamic #one is evil and the other one is good #this is a very black and white way of looking at humanity and it removes the humanity from both #i hate it because it heavily implies that women have no agency and shit just happens to them basically. nothing they do has an effect. it's #always someone else doing it. like y'all do realize women are the other half of humanity right????? you can't maintain a society without the #other #you'd have to be INSANE to subscribe to this kind of ideology

[goldkrone-struggle-tweets]

I am an adult, I have responsibilities, I can log off at any time, it is beneath me to get involved in or vaguepost about petty fandom disagreements- sees a post ah.

#this is about the duck should get human rights thing btw if you care #duck #ahiru #meta #fandom wank #I Disagree With People On The Internet. shocking I know but that's how it is #she is happy on the lake as a duck? idk. skeptical. are you sure #she can't relate to other birds and sees them as simple creatures as a human with more complex desires #she just has fakir and that's not enough she can't live like that she deserves more than that #and who are you to accuse me of “not knowing the show is about self acceptance” #I have made multiple separate tag rants on the topic. I know about it I just disagree. we exist #I know what the show is about. I just don't think that it was written in a convincing or satisfying enough way #for me to fully agree with it #like from here it just looks like a character who is placed in an unstable and miserable situation #purely because it's what she naturally is. even though she displays few behaviors typical to that. and thinks “it sucks” #and she has to accept that because? it's not convincing and is frankly circular #if you want a narrative like that then DON'T FUCKING LAST UNICORN IT. #don't place an ant on a circuit board give it for a brief moment the capacity to comprehend the circuit board #and then tear that knowledge away and leave it an ant again and expect it to be fine with that and keep on trucking like normal because #“oh well this wasn't meant for my eyes let me just forget about it” #no!!! #pick Anything else to use as your metaphor. I'm begging you. #when your self acceptance metaphor is a textbook fucking cosmic horror story you are *doing something wrong* #and I'm saying this because I love this show #unrelated but the cosmic horror angle here is kinda interesting actually. hmm. #mysterious and transmutable

[235uranium]

every day i barely restrain the urge to bitch about the social sciences

#☢️.txt #listen. all of the fields under this umbrella are legitimate and worth studying #but trying to group them with mainline stem is. silly at best #ppl always turn this into a 'hard vs soft sciences' thing but like. its not that! #im gonna be honest before i took higher level social science classes i didnt think much about this but like. the social sciences #place huge emphasis on the subjective nature of things and imho that goes against the very core philosophy of the natural + logical science #and like. that methodology WORKS for these fields. history benefits from a degree of subjectivity #but social 'scientists' always get pissed off that natural and logical scientists DONT consider that valid #in our fields!!! god the amount of social 'scientists' who insert themselves into physics discussions #using extremely complex aspects of quantum mechanics to justify themselves #while half of them bitch about being expected to know stats. is absurd #im gonna be real i think ppl are attached to the term social sciences bc they think thats the only way for those fields to be taken #seriously and like. thats the fucking problem isnt it???? #you want fields outside of STEM proper to be taken seriously but you continually reinforce this idea by insisting #fields like history and sociology Have to be sciences in the same way as biology and mathematics #and instead of accepting that. youre the humanities its fine its literally fucking fine #you do stuff that scientists dont do. bc science alone cannot answer every single question people have #the naturalistic + objectivist worldview is very good in certain contexts! but it has faults! #and the same applies to the philosophies behind social sciences! #you cannot use the techniques in anthropology in physics and vice versa. its fucking fine #also humanities people need to stop craving approval from STEM people its so. #you are reinforcing the cycle youre pissed off about

[weirderscience]

avatar is like detroit become human to me where i can see the potential and the themes its trying to approach but ultimately fails to, simply bc its written by a white guy whos never had to reflect on his own internal biases and would rather appropriate the struggles of bipoc for his own pet issue that cannot be discussed without fully acknowledging said struggles. so it ends up being a really sanitized and whitewashed version of itself that manages to say absolutely nothing substantial and treat itself like its groundbreaking regardless

#like avatar does a really good job of like. saying colonialism is bad #but refuses to elevate indigenous voices on environmental issues #and doesnt even really acknowledge its own racism #like the naavi are essentially a monolith that is inherently more connected with the planet than humans #and paralleling that with real like sentiment that native people are like. mystical beings #that have some sort of innate spiritual connection to nature #thats kind of bad. #wish theyd like. show naavi as having a central motive other than 'nature is important to me' #or naavi that have complex motivations that dont utilize magic native stereotypes #god this franchise would be so much better if neytiri was the main character #labz.txt

[natpetersoncore]

heard the dsmp ending was trash and yknow what? glad the last i truly cared for the story was the pogtopia arc

#that ended two whole years ago what #anyways #not to say what happened after pogtopia arc wasn’t interesting #some of it was up to the disc finale #and quackitys lore is so fascinating to me #but it all feels disconnected yknow? #like for me it ended with the pogtopia/manberg finale #bc i was THERE #and it felt like such a shift afterwards #the story got so much more complex in a way i didn’t always care for #people fighting each other in wars over land?? human nature at its finest??? amazing #magic? eh #i lost interest as much as i wanted to keep enjoying it #dream smp

[wilberave]

what i wouldn’t give to just get people who know fuck all about mythology to stop fucking talking about mythology. you all sound so fucking stupid……

#they’re not just stories that get retold and they weren’t all originally to explain natural phenomen #if you took a fucking INTRO LEVEL anthropology class you would know that #everyone so obviously looks at ancient people as like #dumbed down simplified versions of humans now who couldn’t POSSIBLY have complex beliefs and ideas coded into their literature #it’s not even anti-intellectualism anymore like yall are just dumb! sorry!!!