#pro freedom for afab people

[nuxtamara]

When people are desperate to have children

Doctors and the government when the people in question are cishet: poor souls, they must be aided in whichever way we can! We must develop means and tools to help them no matter what! We will help them make their dreams come true! We cannot allow such tragedies to prevail in people’s lives.

Doctors and the government when the people in question are not cishet: now listen here! Your lifestyle choices are a bad influence to others, especially impressionable kids. After all, with your mindset and opinion going around we’ll no longer have our single domination over their ways of thinking and their development and that’s a problem! They won’t say it like this and always try to sound righteous and fair, but this is exactly what their actions boil down to

When people are desperate to not have children

Doctors and the government when the people in question are cishet: you’re just misguided, you just don’t know what your future may hold yet, you’ll very likely change your mind, you’re too young, too inexperienced, too this and too that, now let us make this decision for you.

Doctors and the government when the people in question are not cishet: good, carry on 👍 (right this way, now if you’ll just put your head inside this medieval french device with a blade looming up top - no reason other than science of course)

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Tldr: if you’re cishet and want kids you’re a normal, upstanding citizen and deserve to get what you want, including all kinds of help if and when you need it. If both of those things together do not apply to you, then you are the problem and those in control over what you can and cannot do will try long and hard to fix you.

#choices #pro choice #choice #freedom to choose #owning one’s own body #being able to decide for oneself #I am so mad that yet another doctor has tried to persuade me to let them make choices about my own body for me #Why on earth do the government and doctors feel such a desperate need to control afab people in particular #there is no freedom and especially not for the vagina’d #apparently my body belongs to the state #f*ck them #me wanting to not have kids is not in any way disrespectful to all the people out there who do and can’t #their wish is just as valid as mine and we should be accepted equally #my body is not your incubator #respect people with vaginas’ choices no matter what those choices are

[whaleofatjme1920]

hi, can i get headcanons of a reader pregnant with dr. bright’s child, like how he finds out and how he is throughout the pregnancy

Dr. Bright and Fatherhood

[GN!Reader, AFAB I don't,,, actually go too in depth with the pregnancy itself? Just know that YOU are pregnant in this.]

[Warnings: Pregnancy, I mention abortion once, angst]

[AN: this is actually quite angsty because I like it that way!!

THIS IS A PRO CHOICE BLOG I DO NOT WANT TO SEE ANY ANTI-CHOICE LOGIC HERE]

Reblogs are appreciated

Yeah he's not thrilled to be a father. I don't know about you guys but I think Jack is VERY childfree. So the fact he's going to have a kid and you want to keep it??

He had a rough childhood and that's putting it lightly. He's afraid he'll take out all of his trauma, his anger, everything he hasn't had the time to address and work on out on you and the life growing inside of you.

He doesn't want to be a father is what I'm trying to get at.

Jack, when asked for the first time how he felt about you being pregnant by you, says he wished you'd abort. Offers to pay and take care of you after, because he cannot deal with the fact he's responsible for making something and having responsibility for what comes next should you go through with the pregnancy.

He is NOT emotionally helpful during the pregnancy. He hardly wants to know you and can't seem to get his head out of his ass that it's not about him anymore.

He honestly begins to resent you and the baby.

He's very physically very helpful and by textbook standards, does everything he's supposed to.

But he isn't happy. Not one bit. He views it as a loss of freedom, trauma, a mistake he should have been more careful with, and the anger that you are "chaining" the two of you together.

People compliment him all the time for being such an attentive and loving partner! But it's all a front. He'll get whatever you're craving with no complaints. He will massage your back, let you sleep, handle your work and do everything he's supposed to but he's falling out of love.

He feels such a deep obligation to take care of you because that's what he has to do, not what he wants to do. It's expected of him.

During the pregnancy, he only helps decorate, pick things out, when you ask him to. Outside of being around you, he tries to forget that the baby even exists.

It's not that he hates the baby or you, but he's - he doesn't know the first thing about being a father, or even a functioning person. He has a lot of mental health things to address on top of being an immortal. This is terrifying for him.

When the baby is born, he holds her for the first time and feels absolutely nothing. No love, no hatred, just a passing feeling of "there is an infant in my arms and she is crying."

He won't let her touch 963. That's a hard no throughout her infancy and entire childhood.

He tries to protect her in his own ways.

He does not marry you emotionally, buy does so legally for the safety of this baby's childhood. You know he does not love you, at least not like how he used to. Sometimes you see glimpses of it in how he looks at you but it's nearly withered away to nothing.

He watches your daughter grow and still hardly feels any love for her. He feels obligation to ensure she's safe, that she's well taken care of and even puts up a fantastic front that he loves her but she knows he doesn't truly feel that way for her.

Might be one of the only times he really takes Dr. Glass's therapy sessions seriously is when your 6 year old daughter comes up to you and asks "why doesn't daddy love me?"

He tries in his own way to be a good father and it works in nearly every way but emotionally. He just sees her as some kid, a burden, someone who lives with him but he does not love.

But y'know, I don't think he really ends up loving her as a person until she's fully grown and moved out. By that point, she's just as detached and angry at him as he was when he first heard of her.

Later down the line though, after a lot of therapy both separate and together, I think he ends up loving her in his own way in the sense of "yeah, I have a daughter" and he can faintly smile about it. Throughout her childhood, she would say "I don't have a father." But, way, way down the line, she can say she finally has a dad.

#If I was writing this the fluff way just apply any cute hcs abt attentive husbands!! #but I don't see that for my version of Dr. Bright #dr bright headcanon #dr bright x reader #scp x reader #scp headcanons

[nonbinarymoon]

Sigh... Here you guys go. An example of both transmisogyny and transandrophobia and general transphobia all at the same time.... Will this be the trans community's sign to stop fucking fighting about who's oppressed and who's not and who has it worse and what agab is better and whether gender roles have morality and whatever else? Probably not but I hope this gets everyone back on track for at least 2 minutes if not 1 minute. Also to the radfems in this community who dont believe transandrophobia exists, tell me that 🐂💩 again after you see that a majority of these comments are targeted towards trans men. Trans men are men. Any trans man can get pr3g as long as they still have a uterus and are fertile. As far as I know there's still no abortion clinic drive thrus and pro life people unfortunately still exist and also the world hasn't exploded into oblivion yet.

Im not saying trans men have it worse than trans women or that transmisogyny isn't a big deal ofc(as you can clearly see especially with the first pic, trans women got shat on as well and if you think transphobia is even a thing at all you'll know this isnt the first or the last time bigots are going to shit on trans women), but if shit like this isn't enough of a wake up call for the trans community to stop playing oppression olympics with each other, I don't know what will. Shit like this is a slap in the face to trans people in general. Especially straight and mspec trans people. It's sad. And it's even sadder that we as a community would rather spend more time fighting over nonsense than fight perisex cishet bigots, aka our real enemy, like this. Perisex cishet bigots will hate trans people and try everything they can to strip us of our freedom and our autonomy regardless of our identity. Wake up. Stop arguing about shit just to argue about shit. Enough said.

the comments are not much better trust me I only found 3 comments that even mentioned the existence of trans people and I had to do quite some digging in that comment section to find those.

This world is only in trouble because bigots spread hate, not because trans men and transmasc people exist.

We already know how it feels. Its not a pleasant feeling. But I'd rather deal with that than transphobes. I think cishets need the old switcheroo pulled on them and have trans people be the default so they know the pain they make us feel every day. Also, to imply that all trans women would break up with and abandon any transmasc person they happen to impregnate is just absolutely vile. Trans women are not disgusting and cruel monsters. Trans women can have compassion. Trans women are not whatever other bad stereotype about women or cis men there is. Trans women can love. Trans women are not inherently bad people for crying out loud. Also, trans men are not hopeless. Trans men are not unloveable. Trans men are not meant be seen as objects reduced to their reproductive system if they get pregnant. Heck, trans men and trans women should not inherently be enemies to one another. Trans men and trans women can love each other. Trans men and trans women can be happy together.

Again. Trans women are not monsters. They are not mindless sex havers. They are not sperm banks. They are not predators. A trans woman's brain is in their head, not their pants. Trans women are people. Trans women are not misogynistic cis men incels disguised as women in order to oppress afabs(i cant believe I have to say all of this). Also any trans man who has bottom surgery is not able to get pregnant. So no. Not all trans men would be doomed to have children. And not all trans women would be the reason for said childbearing. Trans people are more than their reproductive systems my goodness.

If you want birth control and others to be available than make them all free. Stop making people pay money for condoms and whatnot. Demolish capitalism.

Not ableism/sanism as well... also dehumanizing people who acknowledge trans peoples existence and stand up for us does not make this any better. Girls can and do have dicks. Boys can and do have vulvas. Dick ≠ man and vulva ≠ woman.

Again, no let's not switch the roles. Honestly the amount of transphobes advocating to see the roles be reversed is honestly very creepy and feels fetishizing to me. What is this obsession with seeing trans people in a relationship? Why exactly is it that you want to see a trans man be pregnant, even if it will possibly make their dysphoria and estrogen levels skyrocket? What if said trans man is on T? What if said trans man is at the point where there's so much testosterone in their body that having a baby might kill them or at least seriously hurt them? Why are you so excited to see at least two trans people procreate with each other??? Just what? Im sorry but even if a trans woman and a trans man decide to procreate together, why are you entitled to their business? Why do you find that funny? Why do you treat trans people having kids as something weird or unusual as opposed to treating cis men and cis women having kids as the norm? Trans people are not a fetish.

And tbh this world would be a lot better if transphobes didn't exist. Id much rather live in a world where trans women and trans men are treated as people deserving of love and acceptance instead of living in this world that is riddled with hate and bigotry?

Also, to address the last comment, trans men can get pregnant. Trans men are men. Therefore, men can get pregnant. However I have not seen this world get any less anti-abortion since learning that trans men exist. I do not see lots of ultra convenient abortion clinics anywhere. I still have yet to see a pro-abortion ad on a billboard for the first time. I have yet to see reproductive feminism become more inclusive to those who aren't fertile cishet perisex able bodied white women. Terfs and radfems have not disappeared yet. Where are those fetus-deleting atms you cis women feminists promised society once you discovered pregnant men are in fact real? Where are they? Explain yourselves and no a joke or venting is not an excuse to be transphobic, you know better so act like it.

#tw transphobia #tw swearing #tw ableist language #tw sanism #tw misogyny #tw misgendering #tw pregnancy #transunitism #lgbtq #ftm #mtf #trans #lgbt #queer #lgbtqia #activism #transgender #transmasc #trans fem #feminist #trans rights #transandrophobia #abortion #transmisogyny #trans men #trans women #amab #afab #my body my choice #feminism

[fruity-narcissist]

"Pro-life" is such a misleading moniker. If you were pro-life as a concept, you'd be about getting conditions. Destroying homophobia, getting people access to hrt and other gender reaffirming services. You'd be doing things for physical disability, like lowering costs of life saving medication and procedures. Maybe even just making things generally move accessible? You'd be helping the mentally ill access therapy and medication to better their own life. You'd be doing so much in the name of life... I haven't even touched things like poverty. There are more examples.

You aren't pro-life.

You want to control the bodies of others around you.

Women mad other afab people dare not want to be parents. Men mad that afab people dare have control over their own bodies. The list goes on.

You're just a dick who wants to control the lives of people who impact you literally not at all.

You're kinda anti-life, in that sense. Life is free. Children have their own personalities, and grow into people regardless of how you try. People will have different experiences and needs from you (or your expectations.)

You're just... Anti-life doing what it does. Anti-life. Anti-freedom, even.

#queer #Abortion

[astrologypersonalityandcartoons]

(Writer's Note: I'll be posting two each day at 1:00 pm my time for as long as I can manage to do so)

256. God Made Gays too

God made gays

Yes the same god

The one that you praise

Like he made you, you fraud

Some don't choose who we are

No more than you

Yes we are wonderfully, beautifully, bizzare

Yes god made gays too

He made a beautiful spectrum of life

Drink it in hun

Stop with all your strife

Just let us all be done

Let us have/keep our rights

What could it possibly, truly, harm

Doing so would end the fights

We could all finally disarm

God makes gays, just as he makes straights

Nothing will change that

Not even peoples egos if they inflate

Your move, you're up to bat

#257. Pro choice vs pro death of human rights

I said what I said

We all deserve rights

Sorry our spirits aren't dead

This is all our fights

Everyone of us is affected

By old cis men

Deciding what rules are accepted or rejected

The how why and when

Hear us roar

True freedom may seem far

And we're all sore

We'll overcome this scar

You think all of us are weak

Frail or confused things

Claim religious freedom is all you seek

But other freedom no longer rings

Cis women,nonbinary AFABs, trans men

You want us to all give up, lie down

But we will rise again

Hear our mighty sound

#my poem #poetry #poem #thoughts #feelings

[gay-puff]

Today I am angry.

I am angry because four men and one woman decided that our right to privacy and bodily autonomy should “be returned to the power of the states.” AFAB people have lost their privacy when they’ve found themselves pregnant and unable or unwilling to raise that fetus. Because how dare people with uteruses say that they don’t want to be parents. How dare we express that pregnancy is scary and can be awful. How dare we want not bring a child into the world with how it stands.

How dare we ask to have the same rights as a corpse. You cannot take organs from a dead person without  their consent while they were alive. And yet here we are faced with state legislature that wants to make it near or completely impossible to remove what is essentially a parasite that is in our bodies.

I live in a state with trigger laws. I’m lucky that my state would allow abortions in the event of: The life of the pregnant person is threatened by the fetus, incest, and rape, or the child simply wouldn’t survive after birth. I’m lucky because if these laws were how it was before I was even born I would not be alive today. My mother had an abortion before getting pregnant with me because she would have died if she tried to keep that baby. My mom wanted that baby. But they died and then nearly killed my mom.

Two of my sisters have gone through similar things. 

The fact that Roe v Wade has been overturned because it wasn't “part of the constitution” is appalling. What is equally appalling is that those people with one foot in the grave have the audacity to mention they want to look at over turning the decisions that gave me the right to marry whomever I want. They want to repeal the decision against sodomy. They want to repeal these rights that we’ve jut gotten in my life time. It’s horrifying and disgusting.

But this particular rant is about how in some states I would be forced to carry a rapists child to term. This is about that if my family had lived in a different state without Roe I would have never gotten the chance to live. The people making these laws are crying about how they’re pro-life and looking out for the children. But what do they do when that unwanted child is born? They don’t care anymore. They just want little white babies for rich white people to adopt. They care about a clump of cells. They make cries about “But the bible says!” I don’t give a FUCK about the bible.

Quite simply we were taught growing up about religious freedom in this country and honestly that feels like a whole lot of horseshit. Because if you’re not Christian suddenly your beliefs don’t matter. Because if you’re in one of the other religions suddenly your rights can be infringed on. Suddenly if you don’t believe in anything you have your right infringed too.

I hope the children and grandchildren of these justices know that their family member just enabled states to take away their rights. 

There will be people  who will yell that if we don’t like it we should leave. They’re so obviously out of touch from the world because nearly no one in america even has the money to think about leaving. So we have to stay, and we’ll be angry. 

AS I started with this I said I was angry and I meant it. I found out the news when my sister messaged me and I happened to see it when I got up to feed my cats. I was so appalled I went back to bed. When I finally got up for good I made a bagel then cried. I cried because I am in actual danger of being left with a child I have no way to support. If someone rapes me and I can not prove it was rape I will be left with a child who should not have come into the world. I cried because right after having that realization I found the information that they want to take away my ability to marry a woman in any state and leave it up to the states like they’ve done to abortion. I am in a state with a very real possibility of loosing that right if the supreme court overturns that decision too.

So yes. I’m angry. So so many people are angry. After all how can we trust the people in charge when they vote to repeal our human rights?

#roe v wade #human rights #america #reproductive rights

[skold]

diff anon but can i ask about ur dysphoria? and like how that is as an afab nb person who is partially female-aligned?

so first off i don’t rly like being called female or female-aligned and i also don’t rly like being called a woman but woman-aligned is okay. i id as a girl or as a femme or as nonbinary or any combination of those.

really not interested in getting too into it cuz if i try to explain my experience i have a feeling a lot of people will purposely misunderstand me or twist my words and i don’t appreciate that and i know ppl on here already hate me for daring to be a girl and be openly sexual and unapologetically fat and a sex worker and kinky and pro-freedom of fiction and anti-transmed sooooo anyway

i experience bottom dysphoria. i don’t experience top dysphoria. i have a lot of general social dysphoria abt being assumed to be a cis woman, or referred to as a woman or a female. i also have other body dysphoria and dysmorphia issues that are directly related to secondary sex characteristics. i also have dysphoria wrt sex a lot but that’s like a whole other thing that i think is more of a general being raised afab thing than a bottom dysphoria thing. so idk.

i always feel kinda dumb asserting my nonbinary-ness cuz like i’m afab and look afab. so like i feel like i have no business getting dysphoric over it when realistically nobody fucking cares abt the difference between cis woman and nb femme so lmao

#Anonymous #asks

[rose-against-dersecest]

ace disc.ourse tw /// whatever

AGAIN this is a very petty and probably controversial thing to say but if you’re LGBT / specifically trans and you seriously hate “exclusionists” there is a 100% chance you don’t have any trans women friends. 

Maybe you know trans women, but you’re not nearly close enough to them to discuss politics, oppression, and society with them. You’re not close enough with them for them to trust you with their sincere opinions, and likely there’s no way you have probably even talked to a trans woman for more than a few impersonal and shallow conversations. That’s just my onion!

Because literally all of us are exclusionists. You think all radf/ems are exclusionists? Lmao. Try all trans women. I’ve seen more pedophile rad/fem accounts on this website than I’ve seen inclusionist trans women. 

(This is a separate point, but trans women are predominantly feminist / social justice-leaning, and so rad//fems and us agree on basically everything. It really sucks that they see us as our enemy / people that want to hurt them because like, our goals of freedom and ending the oppression of women line up. I’d follow so many feminist blogs if only they weren’t transmisogynist / transphobic and sucked into that cult of backwards thinking [but oppressed minorities always have found that blaming more oppressed peoples for their suffering is easier than challenging the partriarchal, racist system at large kek <e.g. poor whites blaming black & mexican people for their poverty and lack of work, first-wave feminists demeaning black women / feminists to appeal to the white male working class, trans men / nb people convincing each other that trans women are their true enemy and making radf.em blogs to align with cis transphobes in order to try and get cisgendered people’s validation and praise>]. Like, I know it’s backwards and out-of-touch with reality because I literally said “you need consent of both parties for sex” to a te.rf and they were like “WHOAAAA that’s sw/erf rhetoric dude!!! lmaooo” and I was like............ th-that’s feminism 101. I was so shocked at how unbelievably brainwashed they’d become in the rad/fem echo chambers that they’d truly think that the viewpoint of “sex shouldn’t happen if both parties aren’t happy or if either of them doesn’t want to do it” is a unique, SW.ERF???? viewpoint??????????????? It’s. I’m still blown over by that. They really think every trans girl is a rapist. Like. There’s no joke. They actually think that trans women advocate rape. Oh. My. God???)

Inclusionist trans women exist, that I know, because I have an IRL trans girl friend who said to me once that “ace people are the most oppressed of the LGBT community” when we were at the Pride festival (btw back then I was like... girl. you literally just told me two hours ago you got bullied out of high school for being transgender. you were literally forced to move away and uproot your life there and leave your friends. wh. what.), but I shouldn’t conflate being ace with being an inclusionist, or worse, supporting aces with being an ace inclusionist, because there are tons of exclusionists who are ace, pro-ace, and still exclusionist, but... yeah. 

Basically, it’s very funny when I see trans men / afab non-binary people say that they vehemently hate “exclusionists” (also double funny when they have in their abouts “terfs don’t interact” like lmao. god i wished that worked for trans women. <also i wonder how many of them conflate exclusionists with terfs??? lol>). We get it, you don’t have amab / trans women friends fdsjfkshdfjhsjkdfh

#rose speaks

[spinnerprincess]

so, so here for like, I guess holistic is maybe is the word? holistic ways of therapy, or maybe more accurately, of finding and developing coping methods. 90% of the problems I have could be/should have been treated from a different angle entirely than I encountered with supposedly good programs. long thoughts (and ableism) ahead:

okay, so maybe first thing you do is teach her homework skills, you say. show her how to set timers and plan it out! that'll solve everything!!!! haha. yeah that kind of treatment did nothing actually. if anything it made it harder for me because here I was running up against a mixture of anxiety and frustration and being told "oh, you're doing it wrong, just do it THIS way and it'll get better" shockingly didn't help.

actually not only did it not help but the sessions were so ineffective at targeting and aiding my issues that I believed executive dysfunction was a misdiagnosis for years after lolololol

homework finally worked for me in college because I learned how to accurately assess how long homework would take me, both when intensely focused and when not focused, and allowed myself to plan in loose, vague but certain chunks of time. I learned that what worked for me was being able to say "I'm doing this now" and not have it interrupted by family or others, was being able to choose my workspace and background noise. nothing rigid. ever. freedom to work through it at any pace I needed.

some assignments still fell through but compared to my track record in high school it worked wonders for me. and I never repeated the experience of feeling paralyzing anxiety and shame so intense about having to turn an essay in a month late that I failed the class simply for not turning it in. which happened to me. for high school English. aka my future bachelor's degree.

so why did this work for me? how did I find what worked for me? well because I wasn't goddamn thinking about it for homework, which for years gave me pretty much constant horrible emotions. no, I stumbled into these methods by realizing that for some reason my brain didn't like certain forms of routine and did like others. plans made one way would stick and feel fantastic, other plans made me feel cramped and awful. sometimes spontaneous decisions were perfect and other times they caused me to freeze up and panic.

learning those distinctions and navigating them for other things - classes, my social life, hell, even just what video game I'm in the mood to play - eventually allowed me to distinguish the specific levels of fluidity vs routine structure that worked for me and helped me navigate my executive dysfunction - which I belatedly realized was what I was doing.

so this is what I mean by a holistic approach: you have a kid who's bad at doing her homework, probably because of executive function. newsflash: she knows it's important. she's not deliberately procrastinating. and she's pretty ashamed that despite being such a "smart kid" she struggles to do it.

so don't help her using goddamn homework! ask her about other things. tell her, it's okay if she struggles! she's different from other people, and you just want to help her get done not as much the homework, but anything.

maybe her room isn't clean, but she does LIKE it clean - how can she make cleaning her room work for her? what about afternoon activities? does her parents' tendency to call her out of her room randomly interrupt her ability to get things done - not just homework? does making sudden plans with friends work right away? no? what about with an hour's notice? etc.

I imagine a world where the support I needed went beyond the direct problem with the RESULT of my executive dysfunction, and actually helped me deal with the dang thing. that would have been... incredible. and I know it's possible! I know a thorough therapist or social worker or whatever else could do it. absolutely.

but homework support failed me. completely. do instead I failed freshman year classes, and then, threatened by parents with being permanently cut off from internet friends, spent the next year working myself into a near-suicidal depression just to keep up with neurotypical students and get the best grades of my high school career.

pro tip: I got good grades in college that didn't require me to sacrifice my mental health. while autistic and dealing with executive dysfunction. stunning I know. not every autistic individual safely can - or should - or needs to of course. my autism isn't everyone's autism for sure. neither is my executive dysfunction.

I just mean to demonstrate that treating kids for the symptom, I suppose, and not the cause, doesn't work. Like at all. And the difference between a failing student in high school and a very successful student in college - both of them me, and the high school student being the one receiving professional "treatment" - demonstrate that divide pretty nicely.

it's also almost like... they tried to treat only the problem that neurotypical society cares about... and not the invisible problems, the ones the neurodivergent person herself is dealing with, and would like help with, which greatly affects her ability to deal with the neurotypicals-should-do-this problem too... shocking. [/sarcasm]

Another example! Showing me smiley faces when I was a kid, to better learn reading emotions, didn't do shit for my ability to read them in other people because that came more from a mixture of mild face blindness and trouble connecting with my own emotions. if someone had helped me find ways to cope with those things, instead of targeting a frankly kind of ableist notion of "she's bad at normal conversation :////" then I might have found my coping methods for that sooner, too.

...small aside. how did they diagnose me for like 1/2 the supposed symptoms of autism but not. actually. figure out that I was autistic. (I guess because AFAB, is probably the answer,,, wonder if that one and only one therapist I actually liked would have figured it out, given more time.)