#sex? romance? what is romance

[rearranging-deck-chairs]

i think to me yaz&14 is like,,,ce monde où tu n'existes pas/heavy in your arms

#not that one is the one song and the other is the other #more like #the tension of these two songs next to each other #is the tension in every scene with them i think #tbh heavy in your arms does a lot of that on its own already florence and the machine is a good soundtrack for this fic #but it's not All. i think this french song is a good complement #also wondering at what point you have to tag it as / instead of & #like what are the criteria for that #sex? romance? what is romance #what does history mean #if THIS isnt romantic but every single scene here is a direct result of the romance? #the romance that wasnt there! #the romance defined by its own absence! #i'll probably keep it & but like. questions #been a while since i wasnt sure how to tag but actually now that i think abt it every new ship i write i start out not knowing how to tag #not that i have a lot of them

[hybrix-hidings]

Honestly everyone give it up for repulsed aces/aros. Yall get so much shit for having boundaries and its frustrating to watch. You're all getting sent complimentary gift baskets

#aromantic #asexual #aspec #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #I was very briefly romance repulsed due to An Incident and like #every time i tried being like 'hey theres a PDA channel can you use that for this' to my friends with partners theyd throw a shit fit #anyway what im trying to say is that yall are strong as fuck and deserve to have boundaries respected.

[gaygayhomesexualgay]

the a in lgbtqia stands for alien because thats what we are apperently

#“sex/romance is what makes us human!!!” #asexual spectrum #asexual #aromantic asexual #aroace #aspec #aromantism #arospec #aro pride #aromantic #aromanticism #asexuality #aro #aroacespec #acespec

[no-nightingalez]

I don’t understand the concept of sex as the natural progression of romance. I understand having sex, I understand how it can be romantic, I just don’t understand how it is seen as the only course that romance takes.

Like love confessions immediately turning to sex is always so ???????? to me. Like ok get it I guess but how did we get here???

#it’s just very confusing to me #i don’t quite get how romance and sex are connected #to me those are two very disconnected things #like yeah i could probably hook up with a hot girl at a club #but i don’t think id ever confess my love to someone and immediately #jump their bones or whatever #what even is love actually #might be aro #idk #asexual #aroace #cw sex mention #asexuality #cw sexuality #arospec #acespec #my txt

[literalcyborg]

Everyone is all for sex positivity until aroallos want equality, huh?

Everyone is all for stopping the sexualization of women until they’re ace, hm?

Everyone is all for community and openness until cishet aces or aros want to be rightfully recognized as queer, right?

Stop the aphobic bullshit and take a step back. Look at your biases. Look at the language you use and realize how mean you’re being. Learn from your mistakes and become a kinder person.

I used to be aphobic. I didn’t understand how someone could feel little to no romantic attraction especially, and it was because I am very alloromantic. But that is exactly how homophobes look at the rest of the queer community. Since they don’t experience the attraction we do, the choose to believe it’s not real.

Just because you don’t fully understand what it’s like to be aspec doesn’t mean you should be hating aspec people. They are queer too. Fucking treat them as such.

#like come on #‘sex and romance are what makes us human!’ #*chucks a penguin at you* BEHOLD! A MAN!!! #aspec #aromantic #asexual #aphobes fuck off #aphobia #I’m not aspec myself but fuck you if you think I’m not gonna stand up for the aspec people I love

[viviennevermillion]

Seeing people only use "but some asexuals have sex!!!" and "some aromantics are in romantic relationships!!!" so they can sexualize & ship the little representation we get makes me hope someone explicitly establishes a popular character as sex-repulsed so we can see the shippers get cooked online for it

#i'm not even complaining if someone specifically writes an asexual character as a sex-favorable ace #or puts the aros in qprs or writes a romantic relationship exploring how a character who doesn't experience romantic attraction navigates i #but if all you do is discard their asexuality & use the existence of sex-favorable and romance-favorable aces as a gotcha #to hide the fact that you're just portraying this character as allo anyway #we all know what you're doing #asexual #asexuality #aromantic #aro #ace #aroace #sex repulsed

[thebluekid-underyourbed]

Yknow aromantic and asexual need to start being shown as two different labels more often. Cuz like we aroace people are cool and we have the power to destroy god right, but like aroallo people and alloace people are just as fucking cool.

What is this whole "one cannot exist without the other" bullshit. That kinda shit is only supposed to happen with like life and death. light and dark. peace and chaos. we don't need that, cuz we're all just pure chaos. you want peace look elsewhere, bc aro without the ace and ace without the aro is very welcome into our aro and ace spaces of madness and maniacal plotting to take over the world.

#mfs are just mad because “wHY aRe yOu hAVinG sEx wiTHouT rOMaNCe” and “WhY ARe YoU hAVinG rOmaNce wiThouT sEx” #like bro stfu people will pick and choose whatever they want in a relationship #as long as all parties consent what the hell does it matter #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #aroallo #aceallo #alloaro #alloace #queer #lgbtq+ #lgbt pride #pride #aro pride #ace pride

[quicksilverdaisyday]

BUT YOU REALLY NEED TO LISTEN TO ME, BECAUSE I’M TELLING YOU THE TRUTH, I MEAN THIS, I’M OKAY (trust me.)

#scott pilgrim #scott pilgrim takes off #scott pilgrim vs the world #scott pilgrim fanart #kim pine #knives chau #stephen stills #young neil #neil nordegraf #young neil nordegraf #mcr #my chemical romance #three cheers for sweet revenge #sex bob-omb #this is what i meant by sex bob-omb emo phase btw

[fanfic-gremlin-ft-trauma]

Here to spread my aroace azula agenda

#azula #azula fanart #atla #atla fanart #I’m so sorry #but like #I’m also not #like yes obviously lesbian azula is amazing #but what if #cuz like this girl is 90% driven by approval and Getting Shit Done so #she doesn’t have time for such peasantry #(romance and sex) #feel free to use the 2nd one as a pfp if you so please

[fun-k-boards]

I've never understood the excitement around marriage. I've never understood the 'rush' around the idea of a relationship. I've never understood the heartbreak or annoyance people feel when they're alone for valentine's day, or when their partner doesn't give them a gift for it. I've never understood why someone would like kissing with their tongues or on the lips. I've never understood why naked bodies are sexual. I've never understood why I should feel my world shatter when someone rejects me. I've never understood why I should be expected to 'just give the relationship a try' when someone confesses to me. I've never understood why friends will demean someone by implying they just 'aren't good enough' because their friend got rejected by that person, no matter how gentle or respectful the rejection was.

I've never understood why sex and romance need to be brought up and hyper focused on in every conversation imaginable.

I'll probably never understand.

#aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aroace #acearo #there's nothing wrong with people who enjoy romance or sex by the way #this is kind of just a vent post #i guess? #im sort of just confused about romance snd sex so thats what this is about #to be clear i dont want to experience either #im not at all ashamed to be aroace

[redysetdare]

for every person who ships aro/ace coded/canon characters I will headcanon said characters as completely romance and sex repulsed. Y'know, to restore balance to the force.

#text #silly post #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aroace #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #aspec #I have some more serious thoughts on the matter but I don't wanna bother with it #anyways don't take this seriously that's what the silly post tag means

[roguelibrarian]

If you can't bring yourself to say one (1) positive thing about sex or romance repulsed aspecs without immediately pivoting to assuring sex and romance favorable aspecs that they're So Valid and making it about them or lecturing sex and romance repulsed people about our "responsibility" to "work hard" to avoid "becoming sex/romance negative" because we're "more susceptible to it" then how about you just shut up and not subject us to your fake allyship in the first place?

#i am so fucking tired #fuck all the way off #aro blogging #romance repulsed #sex repulsed #aphobia cw #and that's what it is. yes even if you're also aspec.

[coolaidstain]

TIL that theres aphobes on Tumblr trying to claim that Jughead Jones has actually been gay coded the whole time and that saying he's ace is homophobic I fucking hate it here

#as an ace person who grew up on the archie comics this really pissed me off #like theres literally a canon gay charecter in the comics why do you have to take the one charecter aces have #and honestly i have yet to see anyone actually do proper analysis and explain in what way the charecter is gay coded at all #the only point ive seen anyone make that supposedly reveals his “obvious gay coding” #is that he was never intrested in women in the comics #WELL GUESS WHAT #HE WASENT INTRESTED IN MEN EITHER #IN FACT HE WASNT INTRESTED IN ANYONE #AND EXPRESSED DISTASTE IN THE CONCEPT OF SEX AND ROMANCE ENTIRELY #YOU KNOW WHAT ORIENTATION THAT SOUNDS AN AWFUL LOT LIKE? #HMMM I DONT KNOW ABOUT THIS ONE FOLKS #I CANT QUITE PUT MY FINGER ON IT #VOTE NOW ON YOUR PHONES #im so tired of this shit #can people just let us exist please #jughead jones #archie comics #asexual #aromantic #aroace #ace discourse #aphobia #tw swearing

[theodoravery]

jeez guys, with the way some of y'all are reacting to the new story MAYBE having some sort of sex related plot it's like you're being held at gunpoint and forced to play every single book romance club puts out? be fucking for real

#this 'rc is turning into choices' crap is getting real old #if sex scares you so much then go and read a real fucking book without sex. idk what to tell you atp #there are more than 40 stories on the app currently. it's not like you have nothing to choose from #people are allowed to want to read different things and/or be horny. stop bitching so much #romance club

[invinciblerodent]

So, uh.... my boy has finally got a boyfriend, I finally got Gale's second romance scene, and... man. I have a LOT of thoughts and feelings, and woefully few words to describe them. (But I'll try to keep it vague, lol.)

I honestly love how the writers didn't shy away from writing this to be something so earnestly, unapologetically STRANGE, but so heartfelt and romantic. That Weave scene, while it sounds weird on paper, I honestly don't think I've seen a romance scene that was more representative of a character before. I already felt like I related to Gale quite a bit, but now, I feel like I see him on almost a whole new level. Now, he showed just how deeply INTENSE a man he is.

Yeah, there is a bit of showboating in him (though I've always kinda seen that as less of a "look how awesome I am" and more a "look how useful I can be, please like me"), and overall he presented a pretty restrained image- but now, with that recolored by this, I feel like it all goes to show how he really just YEARNS for someone to know him. It most shows in how after telling him that you love him too, he immediately throws all his doors open, invites you in, whisks you away to the part of the world that feels most meaningful to him, shows you all that he feels important- the Weave included.

He wants to show you everything, to share all that he feels is himself with you, be DEEPLY, INTIMATELY KNOWN by you... and he just wants to GIVE you so much, show you so much love, so much pleasure, so much OF HIMSELF, that just one set of limbs, just one of him isn't even enough! He wants to melt into you, hold you with more limbs than a human could ever possess, become one with you and give you all that he is while taking in all that you are...!!!!

And all he wants in return is that you accept him, with a his... unusual, eager, awkward, kind, smart-mouthed, somewhat melodramatic, loving, silly, deeply DEVOTED self, and his love that feels so vast, he wouldn't be able to fully express it even if there were three of him. This man is so full of love for you, he's all but bursting at the seams.

I feel... emotional. I don't think I've ever been THIS moved by a video game love scene (I can't even bring myself to call it a sex scene, these mfs didn't just have sex, they made love), like I know that feeling!!!! I've FELT that before!!!!! And I, as myself, a person, not as someone roleplaying a character, felt weirdly SEEN just now!!!!

I'm just overall very impressed.

.... Oh, and the way he drops on one knee to kiss his new, dwarfy boyfriend? Just adorable. I know all companions do that when they touch a shorter player character (I still love the way Karlach crumpled into my boy's arms in the hug scene), but it still feels kinda special.

(You just know these two assholes are going to be so deeply OBNOXIOUS about being in love. Like yes, they already were, but now that they know their feelings are mutual, they'll be like... fkin holding hands while traveling, and cuddling by the fire, and all that cutesy shit. God, I'm so endeared.)

#squirrel plays bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 gale #bg3 gale romance #gale dekarios #gale of waterdeep #what a way for Arvid to end his 35 years of celibacy #he won't be able to wipe that dopey look off his face for at least the next day #I'm sure there'll be some... less esoteric and more MORTAL activities too but.... yeah this had to be their first time #it set the bar very high though for sure #i also instantly got why his romance is strictly monogamous #yeah that felt less like sex and more like trading parts of their fkin souls #i fully get it now #that was the perfect first time for them #(i also just went for a long rest because I wanted to swap Gale's spells out whoops)

[magicalgirlmascot]

I think the funniest possible version of "everyone in Bionicle is aroace" is "everyone in Bionicle is aroace except for Matau"

#bionicle #my thoughts on the aroace thing in general do not matter here bc they are complex and not something i'm going to get into on a sillay poast #however 'matau is the only heterosexual person in the universe' is an extremely funny take #that said there's no way he knows what sex is. matau gets no bitches and also doesn't actually know what the end goal of getting bitches is #negative rizz. absolutely abysmal game. this is true whether or not there is romance allowed