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hearmeouteliza · 3 years

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11, 12, 13 with Donald, 20?

This got longer than expected, so I’ll cut it to be safe for mobile. Apparently, some buttons I didn’t think I had got pushed. :-D

Is there an unpopular character you like that the fandom doesn’t? Why?

I don’t know that the fandom doesn’t like Beakley, exactly, but they definitely don’t show her enough love. What’s not to adore about her? They took a pretty one-dimensional character from the original series (I mean, I love OG Ducktales, but, with a few exceptions, her main purpose was to keep the house in order and freak out over things) and made her a total badass. Except we’ve seen that she’s not just that. She has a soft side she guards fiercely, especially where her family’s concerned. And the fandom ate that up when it came to Webby, who got a similar treatment and went from being “the annoying little sister” to being awesome. But...I don’t know why Mrs. B got as ignored. I can understand it with younger fans, who relate more to a non-adult character, but a lot of the adult fandom has slept on this, too. The really salty part of me wants to say it’s because she’s not as shippable, but I’ll just leave my ramblings with this: give this badass spy grandma some more love and attention.

I assume this response surprises no one who’s been following me for longer than five minutes.

Is there an unpopular arc that you like that the fandom doesn’t? Why?

...sort of? The Timephoon into Glomtales story of Louie’s grounding. I’m going to set the salt container from “sprinkle” to “pour” here, but a lot of the fandom was all “uwu poor baby Louie” “his mom’s so mean to him” “Della doesn’t get Louie” “Louie hates Della” or variations thereof. Even those who admit he deserved to be grounded (he did) jump on him. Again, if it was the younger fans, who have probably been resentful of being grounded within recent memory, I’d shrug and move on. But it’s a lot of adults, too.

Here’s my hot take on that. Louie messed up, big, and he deserved to be punished. It’s also a huge growth moment for Della as a parent that she brought herself to do it, as hard as it was for her. She wasn’t reveling in it. Did she go a bit overboard? ...yes, and, yes, she did make a mistake in telling Louie he needed to change his ways to be part of the family. Except, she didn’t make a mistake for the reasons many people seem to think. They interpreted it the same way Louie did, “Shape up or you’re out.” I firmly believe it was meant to be a reminder that his schemes could hurt the family if he didn’t stop and think. That being part of a family means not just focusing on yourself, but what’s right for everyone. It’s a lesson Della had to learn the hard way, and she’s trying to pass it on to her kid. But she doesn’t 100% understand how secretly sensitive he is yet, and he misinterpreted her words. This actually happens in real life. Parents try to do their best, but they aren’t always perfect. And the kid is not always right, either.

“Moonvasion” made it clear that they’re starting to get each other, but the fandom seems to prefer Louie holding onto the grudge and distancing himself from Della, and I just don’t get it. I really like that “Escape from the Impossibin” established that their relationship seems to be just fine, but I still see that take creeping around.

Unpopular opinion about Donald?

I don’t know that it’s unpopular, but I don’t see it explicitly stated a lot, so I’ll talk about it here. The Donald we saw in “The Shadow War” after he got the voicebox is absolutely the real Donald F. Duck. He has been saying these things all along, mostly. His anger sometimes cancels out his intelligence, because it overwhelms him and he gets frustrated and stops thinking, but for the most part, he’s bold and brash and ridiculously dramatic. Trauma also got in the way of it for him; he lost his twin to it. So, yeah, while his anger and PTSD (which definitely have some overlap) do a number on him, down deep, he is the storm when he’s at his peak. That side of him comes out instantly when people understand him, because it boosts his confidence and removes one of his biggest stumbling blocks. And that’s also why I don’t have a problem with his voice being clear in “Quack Pack.” That was Donald’s wish, his fantasy world, and in it, he just wants to be understood. Tony Anselmo’s Donald is pure and iconic, but Don Cheadle’s Donald is how Donald sees himself.

What is the purest ship in the fandom?

Donsy. Donsy. D o n s y.

It’s a classic, iconic ship, and I love it...but I haven’t always. I love this version of it so much, because it’s nice to see them in a healthy relationship. I’m a sucker for “we fight because it’s fun” ships (hello, Scroldie), but it hasn’t always been fun in past incarnations of Donsy. They’ve both been unreasonable in various portrayals (though, admittedly, Daisy is guilty of a lot of it). It’s just so...cute, done in such a sweet, playful light. I love Daisy asking herself if Donald needed a mother or a girlfriend (this is legit, girl, and figure that out at the beginning) but not hesitating to rush back to his defense. I love Donald being awkward and adorable around her, but free to be himself because she (literally) understands him (see above).

I definitely ship Donald with others (”three gay caballeros”, anyone?) , and you will pry “bisexual Donald” from my cold, dead hands...but Donsy is so sweet and soft and it’s exactly the sort of fluff my heart needs.

#answered #pholux-twg #donald duck #ship meme #fandom discourse #just in case #i didn't go full tilt but there is some #donsy #ducktales 2017 #louie duck #della duck #bentina beakley #ducktales headcanons

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pigtailedgirl · 4 years

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Cobra Kai LOVE

So I finally got to watch all of Cobra Kai after loving the first two free episodes on Youtube but not affording it or having access til Netflix.

Dad and I nostalgia tripped it together and it's so good and it was also a great little family thing to do for us, since we always watched the movies as a family and are missing Mom, and I cried (there were some moments in season 2 especially hard) and laughed and we both loved it and I can't wait for season 3.

What can you say about a show that picks up 30 years after a properties heyday and kills as a tie-in! That honours the themes, and even better the cheese and feelings of the originals. Be it kick-ass karate, 80s style and music, the over the top plotting, and the profound kinda searching for inner life peace mixed with silly karate moves or metaphors and longing for Dad guidance.

I absolutely adore Johnny, who is by no means a perfect person. He's a stunted functional alcoholic who reopens his best part of his life, he tragically peaked in high-school (Christ!), for the best intentioned reasons, not realizing until committing the same mistakes how toxic it was the first go round.

Daniel. Oh you sweet fucking it up-ward man. Every movie was Miyagi having to help you pull your hot head out of your own ass because you were desperate to earn inner acceptance through outer validation and he's not around to do it anymore and you sweet pea think you've got it figured out, that you can give it to kids or protect them from the bullying toxicity of the way that high-school and a loss of place moving to California and Cobra Kai did you in, but you just keep jumping from victim to projecting and anticipating victim-hood and responding against Miyagi's first lesson, learn karate so you don't have to use it to fight.

It's sad and beautiful that these two are twinned and stuck in their pasts. Man-children in their 50s still trying to grow up (And figure out technology in Johnny's case LOL) hurting their future generation.

The teen themes are great.

Teen Breakdown of S1 & S2

The beginning popular crowd being easy and simple bullies. Morphing in Season 2 as both Cobra Kai and Demetri, Robbie and Sam trade off with Hawk and Tory on are we the bullied or the bullies all at once. Free for all high-school fight!

Aisha and Miguel represent the honesty of strength of self and confidence in finding themselves and their voice in Cobra Kai.

Hawk and Demitri, of using a newfound self to bully or staying safe to play victim.

Robbie as the growth from getting respect and guidance from Miyagi karate and Daniel, being the truest student, to the heartbreaking reality it doesn't mean you still don't crave wanting to be declared ultimate right or winner and fuck yourself over with your past issues.

As Miguel does the twin tango with him in having innate respectability and good moral guidance, even passing it to Johnny, but slipping into loss at the karate finals, mentally giving into loss of morality being violent to show his strength and losing himself and his GF, and physically when he's hurt (please be just hurt) defending the good guidance of mercy and stopping fighting.

But yeah, I could do essays on all the teens.

Then there's Sam, Daniel 's daughter. Robbie's mirror student and Aisha should be her foil but I fear based on a rumour and the way of season 2, they went with the easier and show attractive rival GF Tory. Samantha Larusso is a problem. She is marked good, to be going the way of Robbie to being the child of the former protagonist that leads into a creation of harmony among the two karate's and teachers/families/philosophies. Instead despite the show sympathizing and trying to identify with her as that role, she's straight up a cause of strife and exhibits neither the good traits of Miyagi karate, or a inner self confident bravado of Cobra Kai. She's almost the bizzaro evil version of a teen Ali, and that guy from the third movie. She thinks she's both victim and bad ass and she's just someone who needs a good dose of someone sitting her down to tell her she's owed or earned either status. And Aisha, the friend she wasted for faux status as a popular pretty girl, as well as her adult parents letting her currently skate responsibilities of teenage dramas and violence, and her suitors, whom she waffles unhealthy betwixt so that they all suffer, are the ones to do it. She doesn't need her ass kicked by Tory, who is a one note character, she needs her mindset toggled by realizing her self-wants aren't priority. Basically grow up, and outta the me mentality.

What's fabulous is the show honoring it's roots in teen drama and life so it's not like the drama is too over the top. How their world revolves around them and their perception of the importance of their wants. Romance. Party. Popularity. Identity.

Leading to the teenage version of power posturing. Bullying. (Which even the adults haven't mastered escape from.)

The high-school pettiness and importance of structure and status and coolness. The different norms of today versus the 80's that are still about wealth, the right looks (cultural or physical), and violence being the forever enforcer. Of course kids will break down along the lines of Cobra Kai and Miyagi karate. Brute correctness or passive acceptance?

Seeking strength and refusing to accept weakness of self builds confidence. Using that strength to physically fight in anything but defense brings a cycle of conflict and violence.

Neither the past nor the present generation ignore the other big life influence of the age. There you have the Daddy or parental abandonment angles.

Johnny's step dad failed him in absentee. Kreese used his position as teacher to abuse him. Johnny failed his kid in absentee. Johnny tries to uses his teacher position with Miguel to fix all these errors. Meanwhile Daniel is over there in the opposite corner with lost his father figure, and then Miyagi taught him respect and guidance and Daniel regained one and clung, and now Daniel is a lost or losing father figure to his own son and daughter, the family unit does not respect him or seek his guide. So he entwines his then teaching Sam and Robbie as a fix.

But does karate fix this shit?

So all these kids they drag in are confounded by the lessons because a step would be stop you yokels and talk or acknowledge what really happened in high-school and with All Valley and Ali and Kreese and Miyagi. And move on.

You won 30 years ago Daniel. Miyagi was a great old man and your teacher and like a Dad but you never had to be the best or have the girl to earn him. You got bullied by Kreese & co, were devalued because you weren't rich or popular in high-school. Some people were dicks. Or worse. Tell the world. You don't have to beat them now and forever to hold to knowing that. Be a happy car salesman and focus on your own kids.

Johnny, 30 years have passed my dude. You were okay with defeat when you gave Daniel that trophy and said he was all right. Cling to that guy, not the jerk with a shitty teacher/Dad, pining for a girl you were in conflict with. And stop reliving the mindset you were the loser in those things ending. You missed out on living with your losses and celebrating the moments between and after. Find a GF. Reconcile with your biological son. Admire and mentor your students of now. Take a lesson from your Miguel and be like the young man you clearly are learning from. You will never be a loser to this kid, you will always be the bad ass who defended him.

Also also, I hilariously crack-ship Daniel/Johnny as a love hate bromance. HEAD GAMES vid it!!

Also, Daniel's wife is a treasure with her snark on the childishness of this karate feud. She the MVP.

And I legit cried with my Dad and the Miyagi grave visit. At the Tommy scenes. At the Miguel voicemail. At the Mrs. Larusso Dad on my shoulder scene.

And you can't not laugh at dick billboard.

#cobra kai #season 1 & 2 spoilers #new show to love

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trulymadlysydney · 5 years

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Okay Sydney. My coworkers keep telling me I could legit be a Disney princess (I work with kids and I’m very good at being all whimsical and playful and whatnot) and I know that’s like one of your dream jobs right?! So let’s band together and make it our mission to become fucking Disney princesses together okay???? What’s the first step in the process girl!!!

Ugh god I used to want it soooo bad haha. I gave up on the dream, mostly because I moved out of California, but I think I’ll never stop lowkey wishing it happened. BUT YAY! I BELIEVE IN YOU BABY!

This is gonna be super long and for some it might ruin the magic? So I’m going to put it under a cut:

I’m not sure where you live, but if you’re somewhere near one of the parks, you’re in luck. (Not to say you have to live close to a park, but auditions that aren’t in the same states as the parks generally tend to be for like, cruises and overseas locations) Go to the Disney Auditions website and see if there are any near you or any that you’re willing to travel to.

ALSO, make sure that you’re going for “Look Alike” auditions. I made the mistake of going to a Character Performer audition once and it turned out that it was only for the fur characters, like Mickey, Minnie, Pluto, etc. Which is fine but not really what I ever wanted to do.

The princess audition process is SURPRISINGLY strict, but it’s fun. There were girls around me who were auditioning for like, the eighth or ninth time and still didn’t get cast. (I met a girl who literally was already Snow White in the PARADE at the park, and she still got cut at the first round!) So I do want to say definitely DON’T give up if it doesn’t happen the first few times. I went to… I think three princess auditions? And I got cut right after the first round all three times. It was also difficult because at one or those auditions, they were looking for girls to be Tiana, Pocahontas, Moana, etc (And even a few Snow White’s, and for that they need like PORCELAIN white skin) and they didn’t clarify that on the website beforehand. Since I obvs don’t fit any of those, I was cut lol.

AGAIN, it’s super competitive but it’s a lot of fun. They play Disney songs and line you up for the first round, and all they ask is for you to say hi and state your name. That’s IT. They look you up and down, listen to the way you speak, and see right off the bat if they could see you as ANY character. From a simple introduction alone, they will either cut you or send you to the next round. This round is one of the hardest ones, because they cut hundreds of girls. (YES, hundreds of girls show up to these auditions every time.)

I never continued past that round, but I heard and read online that after that, they measure your height to make sure you fit the height requirements, and I’ve heard different things from there. Some people say they had to do an improvisation exercise as if they were a princess in the parks. Some say they were given a script to read. Some people say there was a group activity. Some even say they got to try on the costume right then and there to be evaluated by the casting directors. I’ve also read about some girls getting cast THAT day, while others get a callback and the audition lasts two-three days. It just depends I think.

I won’t lie and say that being cut immediately didn’t break my heart every time. It doesn’t matter how much you love children, it doesn’t matter how much you know about the parks or about the character you’re wanting to portray. It doesn’t matter how much work you’ve put into learning this character’s mannerisms, or how much of a fit you think you’d be. I spent hours upon hours watching videos of character interactions, pausing it when a guest would ask a question and coming up with the response I would say if I were that princess. I perfected accents, and I even learned how to sign the autographs of the Princesses that I thought I would fit with. The truth of the matter is though, if they don’t IMMEDIATELY make that connection right off the bat, you’re cut. And that sucks so bad, it really does. But!!! You just never know what exactly they��re looking for.

All that being said! YES, it’s a lot and it IS super competitive, but I personally loved it every time. If its something you really really want, GO AFTER IT and don’t give up! Even if you have to audition eight or nine or MORE times like some of the girls I met, don’t give up. You NEVER know what they’re looking for, and every audition they’re looking for something different. There might be one audition where they’re looking for a girl who looks nothing like you (like when I went and they were looking for Tiana’s) but the next time you go to an audition after that, you could check every single box of what they’re looking for. You just never know!

GOOD LUCK BABY!!!

#this was probably SO MUCH LONGER than you were hoping for lmfao #sorry for all the info

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grinwolfe · 5 years

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Ok ok ok

I've had this fanfic in my head for a while and I'm not sure if I'll ever write it because I've never been much of a writer but I want to share my idea anyways.

It's a Lucifer/Supernatural crossover.

Let's say it starts in the supernatural universe when the boys are on a hunt, probably something like a werewolf or vampire, a cliche monster. I think it could be in any season since this would be an identical setup to the French mistake, unless we use Jack who is notoriously bad at controlling his powers.

I originally went with the idea that only Sam and Dean get sucked into Lucifer's universe, but I think Castiel getting dragged along too makes a better juxtaposition to the angels in the foreign universe. Trouble is, the monster gets sucked through too, and they land in a wide alley.

In the confusion, the monster succeeds in overpowering the boys and tearing off. They give chase, guns/machete/angel blade out until they reach the street, which is packed full of people and a few beat cops hanging around too, so they act natural and hide their weapons.

They figure out they're in Los Angeles, Sam tries to call Jack to let him know what's happened but the number is disconnected. Castiel tries to sense Jack but he can't, which naturally makes them all concerned. The brothers have contacts all over, LA is no different so one of them starts calling to find backup, since they don't have the impala with all the hunter gear and FBI disguises. Every single call is a wrong number. Up a creek without a paddle they decide to find a place where they can use a computer- internet cafe, library, wherever.

About 6 hours later, Detective Decker is called to a crime scene, Ella examining a recently savaged body and Lucifer consulting. Ella remarks on the uber weirdness, how it seems almost animalistic, the strength that would be needed to rip the poor soul apart. Lucifer cracks jokes, like he does, but not much else can be made of it until the coroner can examine further.

About 20 min previous, the boys were sitting in a cheap hotel room. While very similar to their own universe there have been enough differences for them to cotton on that they're not in Kansas anymore which they all find very distressing. Castiel is mollified to find he is still an angel and still has all his abilities. Dean bought a radio and some other supplies and has built a police scanner. As per previous supernatural episodes, they know that they will need the grace of an archangel to get back to their own universe, but they absolutely must kill the monster before they go. Sam has searched and found no mention of Hunters, Men of Letters, or monsters at all, besides the normal mythos that always exists. They pick up the call for the recently mentioned deceased, and decide to go see what's up.

They find themselves standing in the crowd of looky loos, and standing out as well since they're the tallest and wearing plaid in LA. Dean wants to pretend to be agent with the fake badge in his wallet but Sam stops him, reminding him it's a different universe and their badges might look very different from what they look like here. While they're arguing in undertones, Castiel slips under the police tape to get a closer look. He makes it about halfway there before Ella or Decker stops him, tells him off for interfering in a crime scene and to get back past the line. Cass got close enough to see that it was a monster victim and returns to the brothers, which Decker notices and makes a mental note to remember them because they were suspicious. Then the regular canvassing of the victim's friends family and coworkers starts. Ella notices a street cam aimed at the crime scene. Lucifer does... Lucifer stuff. Drama, impetuous attitudes, good ol' Luci.

The boys are feeling particularly fucked back at the hotel. No weapons, no car, no disguises, and how do you track a wandering monster in LA besides following the bodies? Castiel tries to contact Heaven on angel radio, if there is one in this universe, but he gets mixed results. There was definitely a divine influence in the world, most likely a heaven but Castiel can't be heard and what he does hear is unintelligible, possibly a difference frequency and/or code.

I'm not entirely sure on this part, but I expect Dean is drinking at a bar, alone or with any of the others. Either someone overhears that they're in trouble or they look upset enough to prompt a conversation. When they explain vaguely that what they need is nearly impossible to get and that they haven't got any friends to back them up, they are told about a nightclub owner who grants favors, occasionally the impossible one. The boys aren't sure about mingling in a foreign universe but if this man called Mr. Morningstar can get the other ingredients needed for the spell, then it can't hurt to try, can it?

Ella and Decker and Dan are reviewing the CTV footage and even though it's barely been caught in the upper left corner, its obvious this perp is acting inhuman, which they believe is a mental illness or a weird drug interaction. Once they go back to their desks Lucifer returns and Ella describes the attack as if the person was a movie monster, to which Lucifer replied that it might look that way but not to worry, his father destroyed all the monsters centuries ago.

The boys go to Lux, which is mostly empty since it's so early. A few girls are dancing, sam and cass are doubtful about getting legit help here but Dean enjoys the atmosphere. They ask the bartender for Mr. Morningstar. The bartender tells them he's not seeing anyone right now. Sam says that they need a favour. The man says they'll have better luck getting his boss's attention later tonight when all the guests come. Cass says it's urgent, a matter of life and death. The bartender reluctantly picks up the phone and calls upstairs to Lucifer's suite, who agrees to come down to deal with them.

The first thing Lucifer does when he sees them is comment on the plaid, asking if they just came from a hunting trip and asking Castiel if he is an accountant. He was going to turn them away but once seeing them in person, they were the perfect combination of weird and sexy to keep his interest. They say they hear he's the man to come to for favors and that they need supplies. Lucifer prompts them to get to the point. Sam tries to prepare him, that it sounds ridiculous but it's really important that it's all authentic. They list off the ingredients needed to send them back, sans archangel grace. Lucifer asks 'what on earth do you need all that for?' And points out that everything they've asked for is priceless if not impossible to find. He asks again what they want it for, and for that matter who are they, and the boys give up, getting up to leave because explaining that they're from another universe will just get them laughed out anyways.

Before they take a step Decker comes in and calls out 'Lucifer!' The boys freeze and Decker comes down, apologising for interrupting and Lucifer waves her apology aside. As she comes up to him to talk the boys all turn back to him, and cass pulls out his angel blade. Lucifer wonders what they are really up to, they seems to have extensive divine knowledge. They ask him if he's lucifer to which he confirms. They continue checking and confirming that he is indeed the fallen angel. Decker realizes these men were at the crime scene and sees the angel blade sticking out of the end of castiel's sleeve. Before she can say anything Dean draws his gun on Lucifer. It's all a kerfuffle, decker is trying to talk the boys down and then Maze walks in, and Castiel can see her true face so he let's everyone know, which surprises Lucifer and he asks how does cass know? Cass replies that he's an angel. Lucifer asks which one? Cass gives his name and Lucifer disagrees since knows his brother castiel and this man was not it. Maze says that cass doesnt look like an angel but he also doesn't look right as a human. Angel possession is talked about, which is in the SpN universe but not Luci's. Probably play around with the idea that Angel's in this universe can have their own bodies because they are a product of two very different beings, light and dark, while castiel is just made from light and frequency. Maze says he looks like something huge and alive got shoved up inside a human shaped jar. Sam reminds Dean that they will need Lucifer's grace to get home and they lower their weapons reluctantly.

Lucifer at some point shows off by showing his wings which astounds the boys. Castiel is urged to try it and for the first time the brothers see cass's black wings. The brothers admit that they're both working the same case, that its a monster they brought over from another universe and what its specs are- decker is getting fatigued by two revelations in one day.

Regular shenanigans continue. The boys are determined to hate Lucifer but the more time they spend with him the more they bond: dean with good food, alcohol and women, sam with insider history lore and bad jokes, castiel with Lucifer's clear affection for decker and his desire to protect humans. There will be karaoke at some point. The boys help with the case, meet Ella and hit it off. They meet Dan and really don't. There are clashes in methodology, decker sees the fake badge and the brothers explain that they dont get paid to save the world.

And I dont really know after that point. Obviously they kill the monster and get home, and that they wish they could have this Lucifer instead of theirs. Anyone is welcome to this story, if you want to do something with it. I'm great at starting but I lose interest once there's work to be done.

#fanfic #fanfiction #lucifer morningstar #lucifer #supernatural #crossover

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whenimgoodandready · 5 years

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You guys remember how in “Conquer”, Hekapoo mentioned the Tavern when there was nothing left for the Marc-nificent Seven to do? Ever wonder what that was cuz I always thought it was that bar she and Marco were at along with Talon (“Night Life”) and maybe even where The Kill Devil Pass Riders Club hung out at (“A Boy and His DC-700XE”), but it was actually The Dragon Spit Tavern. So where’s this “Tavern, Tavern” place? Do I need an I.D?

*The Tavern at the End of the Multiverse-Welcome to The Tavern at the End of the Multiverse! A place that sits on the boundary between reality and nonexistence! Where magical beings come to to get away from unruly magic and evil tyrants to just drink, play pool and chill. She says she, Star, Marco, Eclipsa, Meteora and Moon can stay here and be safe and wait for this whole “Mina thing” to blow over............THAT’S IT!? THAT’S THE PLAN!? SIT AROUND AND DO NOTHING WHILE PEOPLE DIE BACK HOME WHILE IT’S RUN BY A PSYCHO B*TCH WARRIOR AND HER ARMY!? I’m seeing a pattern here:In “Battle for Mewni:”Return to Mewni”/“Puddle Defender”, that was Moons idea cuz she never had a plan, then it was Toms plan when there was nothing left to do about Meteora’s rampage (“Conquer”) and more importantly, it was Stars “go-to” solution by running away from her problems before her character development! Poeple! People! We👏🏻need👏🏻to👏🏻do👏🏻something!👏🏻 IT’S THE END OF THE WORLD AS WE KNOW IT!

The only reason all this sh*t is happening is cuz it’s all Moons fault! No thanks to her, Stars friends are fatally injured, Globgors bedridden, Monsters are in danger, Mewni is nearly destroyed and worst of all, Star hates Moon! To the point where she won’t even acknowledge her existence! Are you happy now, Moon!? Huh!? Are you!? Out of everything in your bad parenting throughout the show with Star:1.attempting to send her to St.Olgas! (“Star Comes to Earth”) 2.forbidding her from playing Flags with the family! (“Game of Flags”) 3.making her go through a corny “Princess Song”! (“Face the Music”) 4.forcing her to leave Earth! (“Starcrushed”) 5.not doing a God damn thing to stop Ludo/Toffee! (“Battle for Mewni:”Return to Mewni”/“Puddle Defender”) 6.not taking her side on Eclipsas innocence! (“Stranger Danger”) 7.not explaining the differences on what exactly is a Monster! (“Starfari”) 8.ignoring her about Mina crashing her Monster/Mewman mixer party! (“The Bogbeast of Boggabah”) 9.not trusting Eclipsa and basically abandoning Star! (“Moon Remembers”) and 10.not warning her about Minas upcoming attack on Eclipsa! (“Ghost of Butterfly Castle”), but no Moon! Nooooooo! This! THIS! Is what makes Star see you as the scum of Mewni! What’s more hurtful!? This ep (along with the other double 11min ep), came out on Mother’s Day! SO HAPPY F*CKING MOTHERS DAY! MOON! Star HATES YOU!!! (echos on “You”). Eclipsa agrees me that this is a bad idea to just sit around and do nothing cuz her husband back home is dying! Thank you! Eclipsa our now former queen is the only one thinking logically about this and let me just say-Wait, Eclipsa, what are you doing with that pool stick!?.............you’re gonna play pool!? After what’s going on!? WTF!? Oh! You’re life’s a mess. I see, let me go through the list:1.She and her mother had opposing views on Monsters (The Magic Book of Spells, Solaria and Eclipsas Chapters), 2.she was forced to marry a man she didn’t love (The Magic Book of Spells, Eclipsas Chapter), 3.she got seperated from her second husband and daughter, 4.she had to get her name cleared (“Butterfly Trap”) and 5.the Mewmans hated her when she became queen (“Yada Yada Berries”). She NEVER had a time off to just chill, so I guess maybe she deserves this after all the sh*t she went through, huh? Despite everything that went down, she thanks Moon for convincing Rhombulus to free Globgor since she at least got her family back (“Cornonation”). Well, least something still likes her.

It’s no Happy Hour on Mewni that’s for sure! Mina was getting ready to push every Monster (and “Monster smoocher”) over a cliff (those poor Buff Kids. Mina you’re horrible!), but stops when she wants it to be grand to have Globgor go with it. Thankfully, River and Eddie has hidden him away and are doing everything they can to save him! (Bless You River!). As for Stars friends, their wound are getting worse! Quirky Guy confides to Janna about how he never achieved being cool, but is okay with being “quirky”. This probably woke Janna there, maybe she thought she was cool only to just be satisfied with being quirky too. Yeah, you’re quirky Janna, but we love you for that anyway! It’s what makes you, You! And also-*POP* 😱 OMG! THEY KILLED QUIRKY! YOU BASTARDS! It’s getting worse for Globgor too! RIVER! GET TO THE SANCUTARY ASAP AND SAVE GLOBGOR!

Star declares she hates magic and wants it destroyed! WHOA! WHOA! WHOA THERE GIRL! Are you f*cking serious!? Destroy magic!? Okay, so maybe it did cause a lot of trouble for you. In fact, why don’t I make that list! (sorry, I just Love making lists) I’m a list maker:1.It caused Toffee to gain control over it (“Storm the Castle”), 2.It made her new wand even more unstable with magic (“My New Wand!”), 3.It gave Ludo power (“Ludo in the Wild”), 4.A simple gift card almost got her and Marco killed (“Gift of the Card”), 5.it almost destroyed her universe (“Mathmagic”), 6.it made Toffee almost kill her mom and the MHC (“Starcrushed”), 7.it causes her problems with her Mewberty form (“Sweet Dreams”/“Night Life”), 8.it almost got everyone killed (“Divide”/“Conquer”), 9.it killed her! (“Battle for Mewni:”Toffee”) and more recently, IT TURNED A PEASANT GIRL INTO AN INDESTRUCABLE SUPERMEWMAN ALONG WITH AN ARMY TO GO WITH IT! Thanks a million to the worst Queens in all of Mewni! I’m lookin’ at you Solaria and Moon! :P Although, there are some good things about magic too, First AND ONLY evidence, ✨💖Starco! 💖✨After her temper tantrum, she finds out Glossaryck is in the Tavern too and goes to confront him about this magic business. Okay, so here’s the plan, an actual plan! Since Mina and the Solarian army are invincible, we got three options on what to do:

1.Stay in the Tavern and chill.

2.Moon gives Eclipsa back the wand, so she can use her total annhilation spell on Mina and her army even if it means causing more destruction

3.Moon can go make amends with Star and they can all go back to kick Minas a**!

The last part seems legit! Let’s go with that! Hey Star! Moon wants to talk to-Why are you shoving yourself in Glossarycks eye!? Star!? *POP*.................STAR WHERE’D THE F*CK YOU GO!?

Star lands in “Glossarycks dimension” where she reveals her plan to destroy the magic by saying The Whispering Spell (“Storm the Castle”/“Battle for Mewni:”Toffee”) in the Realm of Magic!🤯. WHOOOOOOOOA! Slow your roll there girl! You’re just angry! You don’t mean that!? Do you? Glossaryck too thinks it’s drastic and (in the most cartoony fashion) shows her what will happen if she does destroy the magic by pulling out The Tapestry Room (a.k.a. The Grandma Room). Yup! It’s that room! The place where we got the answer on who “Spades” (Eclipsa) was (“Into the Wand”) and how it what got Daron thinking about making more grandmothers (The Magic Book of Spells). It was also where we all finally got to see what the fandoms been demanding since the book came out, Star meeting all the past Queens of Mewni! (they all had glowing blank white eyes. It was freaky!). They were all looking at Stars Tapestry! (it looked different from the last time we saw it. It was more colorful and cute, but now it’s more dark and bold colored like the rest. And finished!). It depicted Star standing over a black goo puddle holding the Solarian Blade with her parents, Monsters and Eclipsa and Globgor smiling behind her. What we could take from that is Star successfully defeated Mina Loveberry by destroying the magic, Moon and Star making amends, the Monsters safe and Globgor healed and reunited with Eclipsa. Looks to be all “good” right? Weeeeeeeeelllll, you guys aren’t really looking at “the big picture”................(whispers) Marco’s missing! Did he not survive!? Is he dead!? What happened!? Oh! He’s just back on Earth where he belongs. No Magic=No Marco😢 (and no Glossaryck cuz he’s not in the tapestry as well). With no magic means no more dimensional scissors, no more Mewberty portal traveling, no more magic wells, NO MORE STARCO! 😭. So I guess this means Toffee was right! He was right all along! From having Star destroy her wand (“Storm the Castle”) to corrupting the Realm of Magic (“Battle for Mewni:”Toffee”) it was all to keep all this abuse from happening! WOW! Who would’ve thought a bad guy was trying to fix everything this entire time! SURPRISE! (screams) WTF!? So, after what we just saw, what’s Star gonna do?..................she’s gonna destroy the magic anyway!? Don! Don! Don!

First off, Thank you Hekapoo for saving the gang from Mina except what followed was stupid cuz we basically have no plan and the main idea for people in this show is to “just chill and wait for all this to blow over” and it never works, sooooooooo yeah! Second, I know Moon feels like sh*t right now after what went down and that Star hates her with a firey passion and will probably never forgive her for it, but like I had mentioned, she’s not like Mina. She doesn’t like putting innocent people in danger just to make a point and even though she failed a spot check on teaming up with Mina, nobody’s perfect. Not even Moon the Undaunted. Sure Eclipsa was incompetant as a queen, but that doesn’t mean you had to put her life in danger! Along with Stars friends and Globgor! We all make mistakes (some worse than others), but the thing about making mistakes is we can all learn from it! Like, for example, Moon learned to never work with mentally unstable washed up psycho b*tch warriors! If that tapestry was correct than I’m sure Moon and Star can rekindle their relationship. Let’s hope River and Eddie can make it in time for the sancutary to save Globgor otherwise it’s “Pop Goes the Monster” for him! And who’s next on Stars list of friends!? Rich Pigeon!? Kelly!? PONY HEAD!? You know sh*ts gonna go down when even JANNA is freaking out about this! SOMEONE JUST DIED BEFORE HER VERY EYES! That’s traumatizing! Star seemed to be overreacting there on the whole “Destroy All Magic” thing, but is it really the best idea!? I mean, maybe if she had stuck around a bit and listened to Eclipsas third option it would’ve all been done by now! Glossaryck seemed freaked out when Star told him about her plan to destroy magic and I’m not sure if he showed her her tapestry to let her know it was a bad idea or if it was to save his own a** since he won’t exist after that (shrugs). Thirdly, with the whole “grandma reunion” I was pretty disappointed that we didn’t get to hear any of them speak with voice actors and just murmure whispers. Was this for us fans to shut up about giving us what we want!? Like, did it go something like this, “Alright! Fine! You guys want Star meeting her ancestors!? Fine! Her you go!? But guess what!? They won’t talk! You know why!? Cuz we don’t have that like of budget or time CUZ WE GOT A F*CKING SHOW TO WRAP UP OVER HERE!” :P. Sounds pretty passive-aggressive to me. Just sayin’. As for Stars comment on why Marco was sent to Mewni when Glossaryck said he belonged on Earth, I can vouch for that! Ahem! FIRST BORN SENT HIM THERE CUZ STAR ASKED TO GO TO MEWNI! (“Mama Star”). DOY! That’s why he was in the Lint Catcher! I don’t know about her sending Moon to Pie Island, but I’m guessing this it was Marcos first time in the Realm of Magic, she sent him to Mewni cuz of Stars orders and Moon to Pie Island cuz she sensed she belonged there. That’s just my theory. Finally, what really hurts is that Star is willing to sacrifice her relationship with Marco to defeat Mina (she finally called him her boyfriend 😢). Is this it!? Is this funny to the creators!? Giving us Starco, after 4 years of shipping, fanarts, fanfics, theorizes and dedication to the show, only to snatch it out of our hands! YOU SICK MINDED F*CKS! HOW DARE YOU!? IF THERE WAS AN ANGERLY CRYING EMOJI I’D PUT IT UP! This’ll end up being Stars shortest relationship in the history of the show! Why does Daron hate us!? As for Toffee, well, I heard people say he didn’t want the magic destroyed for the greater good cuz he was only doing it for his own benefit. He never wanted equality for Monsters/Mewmans, just superiority for Monsters and mostly his people the Septarians. So even if his goal was selfish, it was right to not let it fall under the wrong hands. Especially when it’s in the hands of someone who went through the trope From Nobody To Nightmare (def.)-an unknown individual who undergoes a transformation that makes them empowered, but becomes notorious. Toffees long since dead, but his last dying words were true. Only he knew how things would turn out! I’m over my limit

#svtfoe #The Tavern at the End of the Multiverse #svtfoe The Tavern at the End of the Multiverse #drinking #swearing #cursing

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tanyaryanmusic · 5 years

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To All the Buttholes I’ve Loved Before.

I’m so glad I had the opportunity to date so many buttholes.

Buttholes are such an important part of the self-development process. They highlight all the areas in that we lack. If you have trouble drawing boundaries - no problem! A butthole will come a take advantage of you until you figure it out.

You struggle with being a constant people-pleaser? You will eventually come across the forever un-pleaseable butthole.

Doesn’t matter what the goal of your personal journey into self discovery; overcoming your issues with confrontation, temper, drama, perfectionism, your value and/or self worth. There’s a butthole for that.

Of course I didn’t always see it this way. I went through a stretch of disliking, and in some cases, loathing these people for a period of time. I would relive and replay all the ways they had wronged me, hurt me or taken advantage of me. Then that got kind of boring so I decided to reflect on their impact. I was able to take away valuable and insightful lessons that helped me to understand myself and the world a little bit better. And even if in most cases I learned maybe a little too late, I still learned.

I’m not sure who coined the term serial monogamist, but I think that would describe my dating habits as well as any. I have dated enough to fully emerge myself in the experiences of various nuances of men on the butthole spectrum:

There was the one that was so sweet and sensitive but turned out that his ‘sensitivity’ was actually a stealthy form of manipulation, and for bonus points, he was also a low-key misogynist racist. NBD. Then there was the passive aggressive who wanted time, love and attention but could not request this directly so he used the silent treatment to get his way and to avoid conversations he didn’t want to have. Then the ‘I-can’t-live-without-you, you’re-my-whole-world’ one that slowly got me to do everything for him because he needed me and I was ‘always so much better at it’ than he was. That was actually super clever. Well done.

And then there was that one guy that when we broke up he called my home phone number 28 times in the middle of the night. And my cell phone 16 times. (No exaggeration here people. I’ve never seen anything like it.) And he left voicemails and texts that rom-coms base their desperate post-breakup characters off of - calling the first time just sad… the second one was more desperate. Then it was fiercely angry with horrendous name-calling. Then apologetic. Then sad again. And so on. I am absolutely one to indulge in the occasional hyperbole, but this was legit what happened. I suspect there are some deeper issues there.

Anyway. If you get the chance to reflect on these experiences in an objective manner, you get to pull out all the skillsets that they left you with. In many of my own experiences it came down to me learning to honour my value, draw boundaries, and have more self-respect.

If you get really keen on being objective, reflective and learning; you can also take away how you, yourself were a butthole. I am fully aware of the level 10 butthole I have been in certain circumstances (none of which will be listed today, because I know you think I’m perfect and I would hate to disillusion you). I also see the miscommunications that happened, and how things sort of got muttled, and therefore people got hurt unnecessarily. But hey, we’re all a little tougher now with a better sense of humour. Right? Or perhaps, the less desirable outcome, in which we’re all a little more jaded with a bitter sense of humour. Either way.

Each of the experiences with these buttholes (and my being the occasional butthole) really helped me to identify the man I chose to marry. They created this metaphorical checklist that I was able to go through.

Oh, you do that thing where you twist everything up and have no responsibility for anything? … nah. No thanks.

Ah yes, I am familiar with this technique. This is the avoid-it-until-she-gives-up technique. Nope. Next!

Hm, I am noticing how defensive and mean I get around you. I don’t like this version of me. Peace mofo, I’m out.

As awful as it sounds, there was a period of time when I was dating the man that became my husband that I was practically waiting for him to do something ignorant. But he just never really did… Don’t get me wrong, it’s not like he’s perfect. It’s more that he’s accountable. He has his moments, and he’s the first to tell me he’s sorry, or that it’s not my fault or that he just needs a bit of time to figure something out. If he’s been a bit insensitive or I have felt hurt, I tell him. He listens to me and he always apologizes. (And he doesn’t say dumb stuff like: “I’m sorry you feel that way.” Or “Calm down it was only two fries!”)

My husband respects the shit out of me. It kills me that his mother has passed away because I always want to thank her for whatever she did to make him the man he is today (I do regularly thank his dad), and I want to take notes so I can one day raise a human to be so considerate and kind.

He cherishes me. He makes me feel important to him. I feel valued, trusted and loved.

I once told him about my insanely unreasonable fear of getting locked out of the house. That day (THAT DAY) he went to Home Depot and changed the deadbolt out for a mechanical deadbolt so I didn’t have to worry about losing my key. I didn’t ask him to do that, he just did. ‘Cause he’s awesome.

He always cleans the kitchen if I cook. And often will help me clean the kitchen if he’s cooked. He does the laundry, he plans dates, and buys my favourite snacks when I’m PMS-y. He also buys me flowers every time he comes home from a long stint at work.

But most importantly, I can be all the weirdest versions of myself. He supports me with my experimenting, pushing boundaries and trying new things. I am allowed to feel all my feelings, and I feel truly safe knowing that he’s not threatened by my experiencing emotions. My favourite part of our relationship is that neither of us holds the other one to blame when we are sad, upset or hurt. Even if it was their doing… we don’t say “You hurt me” … it’s “I’m hurt.”

I know that we’ve only been together for a short time but this isn’t the first time I’ve been in a relationship for 2 years, and this one is different. At this point in previous relationships I am usually acutely aware of things that are making me feel stifled and uncomfortable, and simultaneously naively optimistic that all that garbage will get sorted out - and then it doesn’t, and maybe it lasts a few months more until it inevitably comes to a strained end. I’m just really grateful to be this far in and there’s no garbage. There’s effort, communication, and the occasional disagreement. But it’s pretty mellow. And I love that.

There’s a Buddhist quote that discusses finding your person, I’m going to paraphrase it because I can’t remember it and Google was NO help. It says something along the lines of: when you meet your life-partner it won’t be all sweaty palms, heart pounding and fireworks, instead, it will be this noticeable sense of calm. AKA it won’t be this dramatic hot/cold soap opera. I think we base our expectations of love on movies, TV and storybooks - which is a distorted adaptation of reality. It’s not to say you won’t get butterflies or nervous - sometimes I still do with Brin! But mostly he makes me feel ease. And it was like that from day one. Easy.

There are many people with a long dating history of failed relationships that will tell you there aren’t many good ones left. They’re the first to tell me that I really lucked out with how awesome Brinley is. Don’t worry all, I am well aware that my husband is straight-up the tits. But I want to get across something I feel is very important. I truly feel that I was able to identify my husband as someone to spend my life with because I reflected and learned from my past relationships. I was willing to look myself in the face and acknowledge where I needed to adjust and shift for my own personal growth; and I was able to very distinctly know what I wanted in the human being that would become my life-partner. I became so clear on this that I had decided I would rather be alone and happy by myself, than to settle for a relationship that only filled me up part way.

Before I met Brinley I made a list. A list of qualities and traits that were all inspired by the previous relationships that I had experienced. It was a pretty detailed list. When I completed my list, I read through it, and my first thought was: “Wow. If this person exists. He’s a pretty remarkable person.” It made me reflect. If I find this incredible person, then I ought to be the most incredible version of myself that I can be. I ought to be willing to return these same qualities. It’s not terribly fair to ask someone for this level of investment if you’re not willing to come to the table with similar value. So I started doing my best to develop in my own areas, asking myself harder questions: Are you ready for your person? Truly. The person that you know you want. The one that is going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Are you taking care of yourself? Are you comfortable being all of yourself? Are you responsible with your money? Are you brave enough to own your feelings and your mistakes? Are you able to stand up for yourself? All of this inquiry gave me the motivation to invest in myself. To hold myself accountable to rise and expand on who I am. To acknowledge my value and observe my deficits with kindness and patience.

So thank you, Buttholes. You were the reasons I was able to make that list. The reasons I knew exactly what I appreciated in a long-term relationship and the reasons I knew exactly what I didn’t need. You helped motivate me to step back and evaluate myself and acknowledge my various strengths and the I’m-working-on-them parts. You helped me to understand and appreciate what a truly incredible person Brinley is. Without the contrasting experiences of your Butthole-ism I may never have been able to fully appreciate the gift that my husband is.

Thanks Buttholes. I only hope I was able to do the same for you.

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dingusandgoofus · 7 years

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Lup vs. Isolation

I've been thinking a lot lately about how Lup would react to coming out of the umbrella and being free again after being trapped inside for ten fucking years, and also how it would feel to suddenly have a body again after not having one for ten years. Like, I'm a Fullmetal Alchemist fan, and I remember piles upon piles of fanfiction about Al getting his body back and constantly getting overstimulated by touch and stuff, which is super legit, and it just got me thinking about Lup's experience.

Now, Lup has died before, and has become a lich before. The sensation of coming back into a body isn't new to her. But she's also never been without a body for more than a year at very, very most, and probably not even that long. So I imagine she has an idea of what to expect (as does Barry, to the same degree, because his deaths on the current plane don't really count for this, as he can't remember being a lich when he's in a body -- i.e. he doesn't remember not having a body).

But one thing Lup has not had before is the lack of stimulation you get from isolation.

Listen, complete isolation fucks people up. People are social animals and they need stimulation, preferably from other people, to remain okay.

Lup has a few advantages in this situation, though.

First of all, she doesn't have a body. This is important because some of the effects of isolation are physical, which she wouldn't have to had to deal with. Even a lot of the mental effects are things like hallucinations, which I don't feel would be applicable to her either. She likely would have the emotional effects, like depression and anxiety and paranoia. But at least there would be nothing physical. Her new body won't have any effect from this either.

Second, Griffin specifically mentions that it takes her a very long time to be able to retain consciousness inside the staff:

“And when her senses return to her, she found herself in a small chamber lined with rich, black curtains. She wasn’t afraid, because she didn’t know how to be. For -- for years inside that place, she just fought for consciousness.

“Her faculties return to her one by one. She could see, and then feel, and then hear, and eventually even extend those senses to the world outside.”

Now, in actual reality, most people can't last more than 48 hours in total isolation, so subtracting years isn't really going to help all that much. But perhaps combined with the previous point of her not having a body to begin with is enough to make some sort of difference.

Third, Lup's senses, as expressed in that quote, are able to extend outside the staff. This isn't going to change a dang thing for all the years she sits alone in Wave Echo Cave. But she's got more than a year with Taako before he finally breaks her out, and that's a whole year to get used to the idea of experiencing sensations again.

I think it's also important to note that her senses are probably dulled, or at least, she can retract them at will. That means if experiencing the world overstimulates her, it wouldn't be difficult for her to retreat somewhere to calm down. She had time to readjust in what is basically an ideal space with no societal expectations and a perfect safe space she could use whenever she needed it.

When she explodes out of that staff, she is itching for a fight and shows no signs of having trouble dealing with the outside world. I attribute this in part to those advantages I just mentioned, and also in part to the fact that she's a lich at that point. Now, liches are magical things that aren't real, and therefore, most of what I say about them could be right??? Could be wrong??? Can anyone really say???

But Griffin does point out that liches are non-corporeal. Barry wants to blow himself up so he can hold her -- i.e. he can't now, because he isn't also a lich. She gives some people “hugs,” but it doesn't really work. That means, and you guessed it, Lup hasn't experienced the sensation of touch, as we know it, in ten years. Liches probably can touch magic, as it were, and I mean, she did sorta punch Edward out of the staff.

I imagine being super sensitive is part of the 'suddenly incorporating a new body' thing. Magnus didn't get into that because he had been without a body for probably fewer than 24 hours. Barry didn't say anything about it, but he's also probably pretty used to it (even if he can't remember), and also, it wouldn't have been good for the pacing of the story at that point if he had had to deal with that.

Lup hasn't had a physical body in ten years, so I think there is probably going to be some sensitivity issues. They don't have to be major issues, though. Consider the mental image of Lup wrapping herself in a satin sheet and rolling on the bed, giggling. Imagine her eating chocolate cake and having to stop after eat bite because it's so rich. Imagine her reveling in how warm Taako's hands are, or the way Barry's breath tickles her cheek.

And this is all stuff she will deal with in time. I imagine there will be some over stimulation involved once in a while, but that's not a forever thing.

I do think that psychological damage is a lot more far reaching, though. I'm only going to focus on the anxiety aspect here, because this essay is already too long and I have a lot to say, but just know this is only one of the possible effects. I plan to try and incorporate more of them into my writing.

Lup has also barely had any actual human (or elf, or whatever) interaction since Cyrus Rockseeker backstabbed her. She couldn't communicate with the outside world, and when she finally managed to actually get a message out, it wasn't understood or really acknowledged. Until she popped out of the umbra staff, the most communication she got out was to fuck up Edward real bad, and that was it.

I think before the incident with the staff, Lup was a very social person. I think she and Taako had a very tight relationship, and both depended on each other very strongly. I think she and Barry were also incredibly close-knit, and they spent a lot of time together. I think that she didn't get a good deal of alone time, because she didn't necessarily want it.

After the staff, though, she might find the constant attention of her lover and her brother and her entire IPRE family overwhelming. There will probably be times that she gets very overwhelmed by the constant barrage of people in her personal space, and there will be some issues concerning the fact that she can't just get away so easily as she could inside the umbrella.

This isn't something the others will ever completely understand. In particular, Taako would take issue with this. In my personal headcanons, Taako and Lup are closer than is actually healthy. I'm talking like no boundaries whatsoever, borderline co-dependency, etc. Taako is going to latch onto her like a starfish once she's around again and he has his memories back. He lost her for ten years. He lost everything about her for ten years.

And Lup will understand. She'll get it. She'll even feel the same way! She wasn't without him as much as he was without her, both physically and mentally, but she's never been without Taako before either, not for this length of time.

There will be times, though, when she won't be able to deal with it. I can only imagine this going very, very poorly the first few times it happens. As kids and teenagers, they only had each other to rely on. They shared everything. If one was said, they would tell the other one about it. And this? This isn't something Lup would know how to share. How did you express that, no, you're the problem, the fact that you're sitting outside the door, pleading for me to tell you what's wrong -- that's what's wrong?

I can see this manifesting in panic attacks. It's not necessarily that she's afraid, it's that there's just too much going on, and her mind can't process everything, and it all feels like danger. Not to mention, even before getting eaten by her staff, she endured an entire century of having to adapt to all sorts of things, under the constant threat of death and being quite literally hunted by a world ending entity. That doesn't do great things to a psyche.

Becoming a Reaper was probably one of the best possible scenarios for her endgame. What better response to an impending panic attack is there than to cut a hole in the fabric of space and pop into the afterlife for a nice breather?

And certainly, time and experience will make things better, and with any luck, she'll develop some positive coping mechanisms to help her through. Her family will learn her signs that something isn't right or that they need to back off and give her space, and they'll learn what things they can do to help her out and calm her down.

But I think it's a very large mistake to assume that the Lup who went into the umbrella is the same person as the Lup who came out.

#;headcanon #m; lup #lup #mental illness cw #i lost the thread of this somewhere around page 2 #and i could be way off base #but this is just me rambling on about this shit

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citrusandbergamot · 5 years

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you know, for such an amazing and fun-loving and quirky show, the RWBY fandom seems anything but.

people’s reaction to stuff is so extreme. it’s not even discussions on headcanons, it’s outright righteousness. and...a lack of appreciation of characters having very flawed (re: human) reactions to stuff.

I am really flabbergasted at the hatred directed towards team RWBY and JNR for how they’ve handled the big lore reveal. To be honest, it would have felt extremely false if everyone had been hunky-dory with Oz’s secrets. His hair is legit full of big and important secrets and like, everything, absolutely everything has changed. Both teams have gone through hell and they have to reconcile their core beliefs and their understanding of the world to this new information. That’s not going to be easy. It hasn’t been easy. It’s been pretty ugly so far.

That’s not a bad thing? It’s probably actually a good thing because it makes everything about the world more complex. It makes the characters more complex. It’s makes them more human.

In some post, somewhere, about this subject, said ‘realism is bad storytelling’. And just like....what? What?

No like, seriously, what the actual. You think that conflict and angst and doubt is only generated by the bad guys? That...it should only come from the bad guys? How...how boring is that. Oh my god, people. You know, this is why I hate most normal AUs, like coffee shop AUs, because no one ever misunderstands each other. No one ever says less than they mean. No one accidentally hurts someone. No one purposefully hurts someone. Everything’s fucking perfect all the time.

It all feels so goddamn false. Like using big spoonfuls of splenda instead of sugar, it just sticks in the back of my mouth and makes my teeth sore. I want characters who have to make up for something. I want characters who have to change. I want characters who refuse to change and how it changes the way people interact with them. I don’t care for stories about people never having doubt, never saying the wrong thing in anger, never lashing out first in order to protect themselves. It’s not pretty and it’s not easy, but it’s distinctly human. Like, I read a fic yesterday and there was self-hatred and tons of angst but everyone just...said what they meant, all the time. Everyone on the side of the angels was just like, oh yeah, this is what the plot needs to do, I have no other motivation other than helping it along. I’m going to say the right thing at the right time, always. The secondary characters had no drive or thoughts of their own. No doubts, no mistrust. No challenge. No growth. No life.

The RWBY characters have gone through a lot. They’re not children any more. They’re not students. This season, and this reveal especially and everything that’s happened afterwards, has really propelled them into positions of authority within the world itself. They’re always been the main characters to the viewer, but now they are major players to people like Oz, Salem, Ironwood, Qrow. It is extremely important, in terms of the story, that team RWBY JNR have made the decision to keep going, to keep fighting with this knowledge. They no longer trust the adults to fix their problems. And they will hold the adults accountable for their actions. And that includes Oz.

I mean, I love a broken character more than anything in life and Oz is as broken as they come. What Oz has been doing all these years/lifetimes is not enough. It’s not working. Clearly, it’s not working. Him keeping all that shit and trauma and whatnot inside is not working and people keep dying. The information/backstory had to come out, and they had to trust that they got the whole truth.

Plus, there’s the fact that they don’t really interact with Oz on a personal level? They never have? I’m not surprised they didn’t offer comfort in the direct aftermath or since. This is ‘please ignore the man behind the curtain’ tipping point. This is the ‘whole damn saviour ideal is a lie’. There is no wizard, there never was. The great and powerful Oz is just a conman. This was always going to happen. This reveal was integral to Oz’s character and the plot, not just for backstory and lore but in how the main characters interact with him and with the world (re: Salem and the Grimm). Oz was their teacher and leader and saviour - literally more of a concept. He has never been on equal footing with any of them. How do you bridge that gap while still acknowledging how betrayed everyone feels?

You don’t. You wait til the next volume. Cause you know who’s going to be in the next volume? General Ironwood!! Oz’s equal ...ish. But more importantly, a man who knew Oz’s secret. He and Glynda knew and they both knew that Qrow didn’t (rewatch season 2 if you don’t believe me). There’s going to be some comeuppance there. On a narrative level, it makes sense to push that emotional fallout until the story has someone on equal footing to Oz. Someone who clearly disagrees with Oz but still respects him, someone who can challenge both Oz and RWBY JNR and get them dealing with each other.

Oz has retreated at the moment because it makes sense, character-wise and narrative-wise. What’s more, Oz has been retreating for a long goddamn time. I think that Oz has been going through the motions. I think it’s been too long. I think too many people have died. I think he’s stopped believing that there will be an end to this horrific cycle. Ruby is the catalyst that will change his opinion on that. But it’s going to take a long time for Oz to listen to her and to confront himself. And not just because of the ...what are people calling it, abuse? of RWBY asking that question of Jinn. Oz does not trust people. The Jinn thing didn’t help but Oz was never going to trust them anyway. He was keeping his secrets to protect them, yes, but mostly to protect himself.

But that’s going to change. Ruby is going to be the catalyst for that change. Oz is going to learn to trust them. But the story had to get through this first. Oz was never going to tell them. In another kind of story, RWBY would have gotten the truth from Salem. The bad guy taunts the good guys with the truth, blah blah blah, that story is so overdone, I’m really glad they’ve skipped it here. They don’t trust Oz at the moment, but they trust that they know what he’s been hiding from them AND the manner of the reveal and the horrific nature of what they saw is going to engender sympathy and compassion, once RWBY and JNR and Qrow actually step back from their hurt and betrayal. But that takes time. You may not like it, cause apparently people want stories to be super simple and full of characters who always do the right thing?

Lol, yeah, okay

Realism is not a dirty word. Anger and hurt and bitterness are human emotions and certain characters have them in spades (Yang, Qrow, Jaune, Raven). It makes them more interesting. It gives them growth, something to overcome. Remember what Yang was like pre-season 3? She’s a different person now because of what she went through. Her zeal and optimism have been altered, permanently. She’s super depressed. Of course she’s going to be angry. She’s gotta learn to deal with that anger because she’s been angry since the Vytal festival. I would have been shocked if Yang had learned Oz’s secrets and been like, oh man, I’m no longer angry at you and the world because clearly you’re traumatized and you need a hug. Yang’s....not really that kind of person. But she’s not done yet working through her shit. She takes a while to process stuff remember. And there has been a fuckton of shit and her family is tied up in half of it.

We’re going to get STRQ backstory or I’m going to start taking hostages. There’s some hell to pay there. Summer dead, Taiyang clearly not interacting with Oz at all if he can help it. Qrow left in the dark and drowning in alcohol, and Raven. Raven, who turned her back on Oz. Gee, I wonder why?

Oz has very good reasons for keeping his mouth shut but people are still getting hurt. And trust is a two-way street.

As for RWBY JNR reactions being extremely or ...mean? Abusive? Whatever it’s being called? People are going to argue and feel hurt when they find out they’ve been lied to. The person doing the lying might have really good reasons to do so but that still doesn’t mean everyone will be okay with it right away. Characters are supposed to be complex. They’re supposed to struggle and make mistakes and react with emotions first and logic second. The way the emotional arc feels to us is not the same as it feels to the characters in the show. You know when you find out something and it shakes the very foundation of your trust in that person? Was it super easy to immediately go, oh no, it’s okay that you lied and manipulated me because you had your reasons? Can you shut off the hurt and the anger like flipping a switch? Haven’t you ever gotten pissed at somebody you love because you misunderstood something and still felt pissed later, even after the misunderstanding was cleared up?

Emotions aren’t always rational. We don’t always react the way that we should have, the way that we would have, if we had been a little calmer. And there was nothing in that reveal that was calm inducing. All the information about Oz’s traumatic history probably paled in comparison to the reveal about the nature of the fight with Salem. As a viewer, and one who likes angst at that, the whole thing made Oz into my new favourite because aaaaaaangst and trauma are my bread and butter. But to the characters, in-universe?

Yeah. Pretty sure the biggest takeaway was ‘okay, everything you do or have ever done is futile, so you’ve all suffered for nothing, kthanks.’

Of course they’re pissed.

If they had just been super okay with everything from the get go, it would have been false. These characters have gone through some shit and they’ve had their whole understanding of the world turned upside down. Of course that’s going to affect them.

The fallout with Oz since the reveal makes sense, on an emotional narrative and pacing level and on a character level. They’re all going to grow from this and become stronger. Oz is going to find some peace, I just know he is.

this is going to be what breaks the cycle. They’re going to have to confront Oz eventually. I think the reason why they haven’t rehashed any part of the fallout yet is because they want to tackle that in a completely different volume. It’s taken them 3 volumes to finally work through JNR’s issues post volume 3. The impact of that JNR scene with the statue in volume 6 would have been cheapened if the characters hadn’t been struggling with the thought of giving up, post-reveal. And that scene is probably one of the best in the whole series. Emotionally, it’s the most mature thing they’ve ever done. Would it have had the same resonance if they’d all been super okay with Oz? And been like, we’re here for you buddy, our hopes and dreams were based on lies this whole time and our friends died for nothing and we’re all probably going to die too but that’s super okay because your ex is an abusive psycho and you’re incredibly broken inside. Let’s all cuddle.

Like, fuck that. Give me characters who are going to stand on their own two feet, who are afraid and powerless but unwilling to back down, who know they have no hope of winning but continue to fight nonetheless. Who’ll stare into the abyss with eyes unflinching, strength built upon truth, not falsehood. Because they must. Because it’s right. Because they are the only ones who can.

I can’t be the only one who sees it, right? That this was necessary? For the characters to grow into real hunters? For them to truly be the change in the world? For RWBY to enter endgame?

They’re going to break the cycle wide open. They had to have this knowledge and they have to come to terms with it. They have to find it in themselves to keep going. They’re going to prove Oz wrong, that people can learn the truth and still keep fighting. It’s not fate or destiny. It’s choice.

I’ve been thinking about Pyrrha’s ‘do you believe in destiny’ line a lot while writing this. Because I didn’t get it for a super long time. Did she feel like she had to agree, because her life had been leading to the destiny of being the Fall Maiden? All that fighting ability, all that heart. It’s always bothered me that it implied it was her destiny to die like that, that the whole thing was inevitable. And with the reveal, futile.

(What’s in a name, right? Oh Pyrrha, Pyrrha, I’ll never be over you.)

But it wasn’t destiny. It was choice. That’s what makes that scene so goddamn beautiful. It was Pyrrha’s choice and finally acknowledging that has resolved 3 seasons worth of emotional tension. JNR has been so grief-stricken it’s been painful to watch. But necessary. So goddamn necessary. Otherwise, what’s the point of killing characters off? What’s the point of trauma if it can just be swept under a rug and forgotten about and the characters all reset to their base personalities? If reactions are all the same and characters interchangeable? I suuuuuuper don’t care for stories where characters stay exactly the same. I want it to mean something. I want them to struggle. I want them to have to make the choice between what is right and what is easy.

That’s what the characters are doing. They’re making a choice. Oz is super good at taking choices away from people. It’s not necessarily his fault but intentions are not the same as end result. That’s because it’s destiny but the cycle will never break that way.

RWBY JNR and Qrow have to take their own actions separate from Oz’s machinations. It’s the only way they can win. This is what the narrative had to do. It’s not pretty at the moment but it’s going to be so much more satisfying in the end. They’re wounded, they all are. We have to feel how deep those wounds are to appreciate how they can heal.

It’s choice. If was easy, what would be the point?

(My god I love Oz so very, very much. His trauma reminds me a lot of Sam Winchester. And like Sam, the people around him are pretty judgmental of his past mistakes. It may be uncomfortable or aggravating to watch as a viewer because the punishment is widely disproportionate to the crime but. Like, of course Dean is going to act that way? He’s his own character, who is never going to be objective about Sam and Sam’s actions. It also generates a fuckton of self-hatred and angst for BOTH characters AND makes the moments where working together outweighs any interpersonal strife (eg: Dean stabbing Zachariah in season 5). That moment is sweet as fuck. Where the hell would the conflict have been that whole season if Dean had just been super okay with Sam opening the Cage? We knew he didn’t mean to. We knew Cas was the one who let him out. We knew the angels fucked over the voicemail. We knew Dean was being unfairly, disproportionately angry. We knew Dean had been the one to open the first seal.

We knew Dean was being unreasonable and cruel. It made for a frustrating season. A whole season! Of characters being mean and sure, abusive.

So what.

No, seriously, so fucking what? It’s a great season. It’s the season that keeps on giving, in terms of Sam Winchester angst. I mean, post-Cage is where all the fun horror is, but Sam being isolated and filled with self-loathing and guilt, visited in his dreams by the biggest bad of all? They’re Made For Each Other. Egads, that’s some good shit right there.

Can you imagine if Dean had just been....well, not-Dean about it? If he’d been some smol, soft, uwu boy who’d forgiven Sam immediately? Sam is so frigging heartfelt, he tries so hard. How could anyone not forgive him? (aaaah, the endless meta about Sam and forgiveness, Chuck in heaven, that’s som good shit). Not-Dean would have been the perfect, understanding brother. Not-Dean possibly would have comforted Sam during his various, horrifying withdrawals (goddammit Dean) but . That’s...not who the character is. That’s not how Dean was going to react. And what about all the angst? Where would that have come from? Where would those fantastic eps be of Dean losing faith? Sam trying to hold himself together because he is literally the one who never gives up and being scrapped down to nothing, over and over again because of it? And the resolution of all that? That their love for each other is beyond any hurt or betrayal or doubt they’ve caused each other. That’s...that’s good story telling. It’s fucked up and imperfect and there is some goddamn meat on it to sink into.)

Stop sanitizing stories. Especially when the imperfect reactions are literally the driving force of the emotional narrative.

Ugh.

(Sam Winchester/Ozpin is now my favourite crack ship and I literally have half story mapped out in the time it’s taken me to write this rant, don’t @ me

traumatized playthings of immortal bad guys with a side order of identity/possession issues? caught between destiny and a hard place, with nothing but more trauma and pain to look forward to? two beings in the wasteland, suffering beyond endurance, without end, because giving up isn’t an option?

yeah baby. oh freaking yeah.

ship song: apres moi le deluge by Regina Spektor: I must go on standing, you can’t break that which isn’t yours, I must go on standing, it’s not my own, it’s not my choice

yaaaaaaaas)

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youremyonlyhope · 7 years

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The Lie of the Land

The description of the episode really concerns me.

Umm... Ummmmmm...... UMMMMMMMMM........ UMMMMMMMMM...... THESE MONKS ALL BEING INSERTED INTO HISTORY IS ALL JUST NOPE. “THE TIME THE MONKS DEFEATED THE DALEKS. THE CYBERMEN. THE WEEPING ANGELS.” UM WHAT. AND THE DOCTOR IS DOING LIKE PROPAGANDA OR SOMETHING FOR THE MONKS. WHAT IN THE WORLD IS HAPPENING. WE HAVE A LEGIT DYSTOPIA HERE. THERE ARE CAMPS. SOME PEOPLE REMEMBER THE PROPER HISTORY. THIS IS HORRIBLE. THIS WENT FROM 0-100 REAL QUICK. AND THE MUSIC PLAYING REMINDS ME OF TEN’S SONG FROM END OF TIME. I CAN’T REMEMBER WHICH SONG THOUGH. IT’S REMINDING ME OF EITHER “VALE DECEM” OR “THIS IS GALLIFREY”. I CAN’T THINK RIGHT NOW. ALL I CAN DO IS RECOGNIZE IT, I CAN’T HANDLE TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT IT IS. WHY ALL THE STATUES. YOU MONKS GUYS REALLY LOVE BEING WORSHIPPED DON’T YOU? YOU GOT PROBLEMS. SO MANY PROBLEMS. THAT EVIL CREEPY GRIN FROM THE DOCTOR.

EVERYTHING IS NOPE.

Calling it now, a lot of this episode will be in caps. Awww it’s her mom. Everything’s so dull and grey.... MAGPIE ELECTRICAL. NOW THAT’S A REAL THROWBACK. YES. Nardole! I had noticed the painting in the first house, but now there’s the same one in Bill’s apartment. This is like Big Brother with the TV’s watching you or cameras or whatever it was that watched you. I can’t remember. I read that book like 8 years ago. Oh my god. Yeah. Comics. Some literature/ALL literature wouldn’t have the monks in it. “History was saying ‘hey look I have some examples of Fascism here.’” THE DOCTOR HAS A REAL POINT THERE. Doctor please tell me you aren’t actually really for this though. Oh god her face when he revealed their code to the guards. No. I got distracted counting stitches on the skirt I’m currently crocheting, and Bill started shooting the Doctor. So THAT’S A NEW ONE. THAT’S NEW. I DON’T THINK A COMPANION HAS EVER SHOT THE DOCTOR BEFORE. AT LEAST NOT IN MY MEMORY. Ok Twelve. Pull a Ten and put all your regeneration energy somewhere. “AAAAAHHHHHHHHHH good girl!” DOCTOR YOU JUST DON’T DO STUFF LIKE THAT. NO. BAD DOCTOR. “Everyone exchanged their ammo for blanks.” Well that explains the lack of blood. I thought it was just because it’s a family show and showing blood would be bad and showing the blood of the Doctor would be even worse and showing the blood of the Doctor while he’s getting shot at by his companion would have been completely devastating. “Oh... my... god I am going to beat the sh-” “She keeps hitting me!” Oh my god that was funny. Umm... Almost as smart as the Doctor... the Master? You’re gonna go get Missy? Really?

Bill: “We could have snuck back in but... the Doctor being the Doctor...” Doctor [Laughing Maniacally]

I have captions on, and that caption was perfection. “Wait a sec, why have you got a woman locked in a vault? Because even I think that’s weird and I’ve been attacked by a puddle.” That’s hilarious. I knew the statues were important! Still think they’re all super vain for making them in their image They’re playing what sounds like “This Is Gallifrey” and I’m having feels. What will Doctor Who do when Murray Gold dies? His music is so iconic for New Who. Will Doctor Who still be going then... This brain wave stuff reminds me of season 3 when everyone used the Master’s network against him. Yes Doctor please stop racism. Please and thank you. “You’re gonna plug your brain into it?” “I know. Doesn’t stand a chance.” Ok honestly, this guy should have just grabbed the headset of one of the dead bodies once he noticed his was broken. Come on. I get that you shouldn’t do stuff to dead bodies, but like... he knows the danger of him not hearing the recording constantly. I guess he just fell back into the monks’ brainwashing before he could think to take someone else’s. “Fake news central” Hmm... I know Doctor Who filmed long before Agent Orange became president... but hmm... good timing... Bill should touch him for support or something. Since it’s her memories that link everything. Annnnd everything’s red. Does Bill have a theme yet? I haven’t noticed one. Is this it? The music playing during their “last conversation.” Oh because it’s a fake memory of her mom, a fantasy. OK. The entire world is getting the image of a beautiful black woman with an afro smiling and hold out her hand and it’s making everyone’s memories go back to normal. YES. “Humanity’s doomed to never learn from its mistakes.” Yep. Oh he lets Missy out of the cage thingy sometimes? Missy, are you actually feeling regret? Oh my god. Yes girl. Feel the regret. Feel it. Let it make you better.

OK. Well that was a good 3 parter. I’m glad it all worked out. But like... that dystopia in the first few minutes of this episode... just nope. I couldn’t handle it. Even just 10 minutes of it.

Also, I just listened to This Is Gallifrey and Vale Decem to make sure that those were the songs I had heard during the episode and let me tell you... Murray Gold... is an actual genius. Because I want to cry all over again. It doesn’t help that I’m listening to the versions of the songs in this video and it’s just playing all the Doctor’s regenerations and I got a lot of feels. Especially since Blind Wave has been watching Doctor Who and they have only 2 episodes of Nine left and I’m having Nine feels since I know in 2 weeks I’ll have to watch them go through the heartbreak of losing Nine. Also the fact that John Hurt died this year really isn’t helping at all. Oh my god when Vale Decem just builds with the final chorus of the song just... GENIUS. JOHN WILLIAMS LEVEL OF MUSICAL GENIUS. MURRAY GOLD YOU GENIUS.

#hope watches doctor who #ignore me if you want

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chrissyrants · 7 years

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@peuimporte1

I didn’t say her doing the song was a mistake, in fact I like the song, the mistake was in not telling the other girls about it and promoting it more than the music that was giving her the ability to live out her dream. It was at that point that everyone started believing there was truly some bad blood between them. And yeah, she had plenty of time, but she didn’t tell them. She said so in an interview herself that they didn’t know about it.

Here’s the thing, Camila getting extra attention from the label was in her control. People may not see it that way, but it was. She was the one making herself known as a solo artist and doing more things to put her name out there. She was completely in control of herself gaining more attention. Also, I hate MGK, he’s not a great rapper so I have very little to say about him that will be nice. But it isn’t once in a lifetime. People want to work with her. And before any of the music even came into play people wanted to meet her because of her personality. I’d bet any amount of money that Bad Things would not have done well had it not been for Camila’s fans and 5H fans being as supportive of the song in general as they were. So that was more once in a lifetime for him more than for her.

As far as their label, I’m sure that if they could do it over, they wouldn’t have chose Epic. They knew LA so naturally being offered a deal with his label would’ve been the smartest thing to do at that time. But LA has a habit of ruining girl groups. Ripping them off and apart and trying to boost one over the other. TLC is the perfect example of that. And with them, the moment that Lisa wanted to do something that the other two weren’t exactly in favor of, she basically had a green light to do her own thing, given by LA. He has a habit of it and I’m sure if they’d known that he’s better for a solo artist rather than a group, they would’ve held out for a different label.

There were people who were followed by her and they tweeted something about Lucy or Laucy and afterwards they were blocked. And naturally confused as to why they were blocked. It’s not up to me to decide who Camila can and cannot block, if she wants to block people who are boosting the other girls more than her it’s up to her. I don’t care. I’m not blocked by her. And of course she’d block people who were talking bad about her, I would and I have done that also. Both sides brag and boast about being blocked by either side. It’s nothing new. It’s been happening for months. And NO, MGK didn’t ‘shade’ them, he legit said that they weren’t good people. He blindly judged them based on how Camila came to him. Assuming it was on them if she came sad or depressed. And Val, it wasn’t really shade. It was a dumb comment at best. And since it cut off after that comment you or I or anyone else don’t know what followed it.

I can see you’re very pro-Camila based on your posts, blog title, and icon. So I expect you to defend her, however I’m not saying anything that would require her to need defending. I’ve never not been a fan of Camila since I watched them compete on XF. I’ve seen the growth that she’s made. I’ve seen the way she holds her heart on her sleeve and her smile on her face even though she may not be feeling the best. I’ve heard her story and how grateful she is to even have been given the opportunity to be in 5H. I’ve seen how she’s the most relatable to a normal teenager - seeing how she’s clumsy, a fangirl, shy, and struggled with friends growing up. I’ve seen her mature through all of that. But it doesn’t mean that everything she’s done is right. It doesn’t mean that she’s done so much wrong that she should be condemned for going after her happiness. There’s nothing wrong with her parents being proud of her. There isn’t. What’s wrong about her is her fans. What’s wrong is the way it appears she went after certain things and the way that the people in her corner back her. It’s nothing to do with her. It’s the people who surround her. I’m not sure if you’ve just barely come across me, as I’m not too active about it this last year, but I’ve always defended Camila. Just go through her tags on my page. There’s plenty of posts about her where I give her the benefit of the doubt cause it’s clear she’s a good person who maybe made some mistakes in execution of her decisions.

I’m a bit irritated that everyone thinks Camila is the only one who received any kind of hate since day 1. She wasn’t. Was the magnitude different, sure. But she wasn’t the only one. And you’re going after the girl and their families the way her fans do. It’s cool, I’m not going to waste my time playing back and forth with he did/she did. And that’s not to be an ass. But the media makes it seem like Camila was the only Latina in the group when she wasn’t. Her fans do the same thing. Seeing that she’s referred to as a ‘true latina’ by them because she but born & raised in Cuba & Mexico before coming here. But it isn’t up to Camila or Lauren or Ally or Dinah or Normani to parent their parents. They don’t need to ask their parents to delete tweets or photos or comments. They’re the children, they don’t need to be the adult to their parents. Plus, and it’s not directed towards you, you’d have to be crazy to think that any of those girls, or any celeb/creator would go out of their way to look for hate. They weren’t all that active. In fact, most of their tweets were them tweeting or RTing a few things then disappearing. Doesn’t mean they searched for it or even found it. And unless it’s on a home page the media ‘detailing hate’ that Camila was getting (and I hadn’t seen many headlines from real media that wasn’t some teen mag or shithead perez hilton) didn’t exist and on top of that, why would they search for it when there are more pressing things, to be real.

Her hanging out with her mom isn’t a bad thing. Her mom is her best friend, there is nothing wrong with that. The only reason I mentioned it was because if she was constantly with her mom, when was she with the other girls to express any kind of issues she might be having. Same with any other celeb friends like Taylor or Hailee or MGK. If she’s never with the girls, then she can never expect them to try to ease some of the hurt because they’ll never actually know. You can’t just assume someone knows you’re going through stuff. And even at this point, I don’t think they hate each other. I don’t even think that they ever did. There may have been some issues, and that’s fine, every friendship has them, but I don’t think there’s bad blood at all. There’s just distance and perhaps hurt. You keep busy to keep from hurting. It’s on both sides. They’re human. At the time she did that billboard shoot she said she tried reaching out but got nothing in return. I’d expect that because they were all likely hurting. It was probably too soon. But fans like to create make believe situations where they might ignore each other because there’s some sort of malice. I don’t think that’s the case honestly. I just think they need proper time to heal the wounds because it wasn’t just them that went through a ‘break up’ so to speak, it was millions of people.

All in all, I’m excited for their music, and I’m excited for her music. For their stories because it’s bound to be more heartfelt and real this time around. Both sides need to spring clean their fans though because these conspiracy theories and assumptions aren’t helpful to either party. And now that LA is gone from Epic, maybe things will get better for them because he was never genuinely a fan of “Fifth Harmony” anyways, and it’s evident in the way that he handled them and their music/promotions/shows.

#Camila Cabello

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datingadviceonreddit · 5 years

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I had been dating a girl for close to 4 years. Just recently we unfortunately broke up. We had always had our disagreements and took a day or 2 to cool off and talk through things, but it's been 2 months since i really stopped talking to her. We both moved away to graduate school. Luckily, our schools were only 3 hours away so it was more or less an ideal situation for what it was. In the beginning I was extremely stressed with my school (Medical) and she got less attention. I could see her becoming more and more sad because I was so busy and she had a-lot of free time. Finally, we agreed to take a step because in her mind she wouldn't expect as much. But i still texted whenever i could, would call her at night and nothing really changed. In undergraduate she did not really drink that much nor go out that much, once she got to her graduate school she started drinking more and going out more. I was a little uneasy about it but knew that I couldn't tell her what to do. Her roomates were both single and kind of boy-crazy and just in general not what she was used to. At one point they hooked up with the same guy and were mad at each other and I told my girlfriend that this is crazy and not good people to be around. She agreed they have issues and assured she isn't involved in that. Her birthday was in the fall and I asked if i could drive up and take her out and spend the weekend together. She was very excited and it went really well. I came home and I guess you could say understood what school was going to take and understood how to balance everything. I asked if she would consider getting back together. I said missed her and love her very much, reiterated that I want to make this work and ultimately want to do life together. I told her this would only make us stronger and i am not interested in anyone else. She took some time to decide and agreed to meet up in a city that was in-between us for dinner. That day comes around and she says she is still on and just has to make sure an assignment is done before we go. I wait until 7 pm knowing this city was atleast 1.5 hours away. She calls and says she forgot about another assignment and wont be able to make it and would call me before midnight (when the assignment was due). She calls and says its not going to work this and that, I was furious just cause we had been dating for 3.5 years, traveled all over the world, had a ton of life experiences together, very involved in each others families, and quite frankly were inseparable (so i thought). I kind of told her how I felt and she was a little suprised i was that angry. I felt like I got played. She asked if she could drive up the next day because the way she did things was not a representation of how she felt about me. I denied. She asked a couple days later if she could come to my city for the weekend and see how it goes. I finally said sure. Weekend went great, I went all out. Flowers on the ground, candles, flowers, took her out to dinner, expressed my feelings. We got back together officially and things went great for a month. I took my finals and was extremely stressed and was busy and not happy. I decided to visit a friend before i went home for break with another buddy of mine. We had fun, but she was on snapchat and i guess tracking my location. I did not know at the time, nor did I do anything wrong or was at places I wasnt suppose to be at. Was with my buddies, my one buddies girlfriend, and her friend. My girlfriend didn't like that I was sitting next to this girl at a sports game? Legit do not now this girl. She was acting weird and i asked whats up via text, she said nothing (i knew that was a lie). 3 hours later she tells me she didnt appreciate me sitting next to this random girl. I was just like wtf, we talked about discussing issues right away. Kind of annoyed. I go home for break, enjoyed time with my family. I go to her city for new years. We have a GREAT time, 4th new years together. Had an awesome time. I asked her late that night after hooking up, if everything was good and are we good. She proceeds to blow up on me. Saying I was somewhere at 4 am on my trip when my buddies were not with me? I guess snapchat only logs your last location when opening it up. Once again she let that simmer for 3 weeks and then blows up on me? Once again i was calm and she was drunk, prob most drunk ive seen her. I go to bed and let things cool off. We agree that it's tense and I don't want her upset, I said i don't want to be with anyone else and am not looking to be with anyone else. Agreed that we need to work on things. I go back to school. We talk, call, facetime, everything is normal. I go skiing at same place with same buddies, and she freaked. Blocked me on everything except text/call. I called for a couple days and was like wtf? Nothing is happening, I'm not with that girl or whatever you are thinking. She comes around and apologizes. We are good for 4 weeks, things aren't perfect, she seems to withhold info from me but still texting and calling as we do. One day I could tell she was off and asked whats up and she was like I am just letting you know I'm not over your trip and still upset. I kind of freaked and took it as the worst like she was trying to run away again. For a week it was back and forth bickering untill she blocked my phone number. I sent her emails of text threads where just weeks ago she was talking about marriage and doesnt want me out of her life etc. I sent her flowers, she responded 2 days later with a cold voicemail. Saying she doesn't know what to do and there was no need to call her. I texted from a different number and just asked what was up, if she was seeing someone else (I saw a picture online that was just questionable, nothing too direct, just had my suspicions), I asked if she could call me and give me some respect after 4 years. She decided to call at 1:45 AM, I was sleeping, she sounded drunk. And just laid into me, saying just straight hurtful shit after all this years. Was mad I saw a picture, said it was nothing, a work event blah blah. Hung up, blocked me again. My birthday was this week and didn't get a call, text, nothing. Meanwhile this dudes bday was around when we stopped talking and she wished him a happy birthday. We always agreed to being civil if things didn't work and still be friends. She said she doesn't wanna be friends and this and that. Just confused how I legit took her on a trip for her birthdays, made her days awesome and I can't even get a text. How she waits 4 weeks to says shes mad at something. She got 2 jobs and said she is working all the time with school and says is so hard and she works 40 hours a week. Never has her phone, which is a lie. I don't get how if her school is so hard why is she calling me that late drunk complaining that she cant talk all night cuz she has work in 4 hours? I feel like the girl completely changed the second she move. I've sent her flowers (multiple times), wrote letters, sent edible arrangements all since we moved to our schools. I feel like she gave up and I am slaving away with school and she is just living it up cause she has some new friends and this and that. My suspicions is she's talking to someone else cause she did this to the ex boyfriend before me. I just don't get why she wouldn't tell me straight up, why I just get blocked and thrown to the curb after 4 years of being each others rock. Its been about a month the last time I've heard her. Last time I talked to her was on a phone at 1:45 am when she was drunk and just saying how bad of a person I am, how I wont be a good husband this and that. I battle everyday because I know I could of done things differently and so could she, I mean 4 years there are going to be hiccups and minor things. But to be kind of ghosted fucking sucks, like I'm away from home, slaving away in the books, and the person who I thought would always be there for me just dipped out with no real explanation. She comes from a family of all girls and things seem like they are just given to her. Idk, it's a weird dynamic so I wonder if that has anything to do with it. She calls her mom every-morning and I know she doesn't discuss her flaws or what she's done to me, just the horrible things I do to make me out to be a villian. She's told white lies to me in the past, but I worked through it as i have made mistakes to. No cheating, or anything like that. I'm just kind of hurt but at the same time like fuck her. It's a weird dynamic, being abandoned by someone who told you weeks before they only saw me in their future and couldn't wait to grow old together sucks. I have no idea whats going through her head, she wont talk to me and I guess that' that. via /r/dating_advice

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garbageivereleasedintothevoid · 5 years

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01-28-19 (Monday)

If it's any indication as to how little I trusted my whole family since I was very young, once when I was like, idk, 7? My aunt Sherri told me there was a bug on my face and I laughed and daid I wasn't falling for that. And everyone was like "She's not joking." and started to reach for me. And I tried to get away and yelled at them to stop teasing me and they actually pulled a giant ant off of my face. And I was legitimately shocked. I was so sure they were just gonna pull a prank on me or whatever. And I had seen them prank each other before and the kids at the babysitters house always pulled super mean pranks on me and no one ever cared that it was mean or made me feel bad.

No one took my feelings into consideration for a long time and once I was away from my parents... Any kind gesture or seeming genuineness was judged as the highest praiseworthy trait. I kept people in my life who didn't truly care about me because I didn't know what being truly cared about was like. Jessi... For example... Like... She went through the motions with me I think. I don't believe she actually WANTED to be a real friend to me and saw me more as a chance to mold me into what she thought was good. And I am a human being. I'm not putty. You can't make me what you want me to be. Especially not when you'll call/message/text me every couple months if that. Seriously. I'd go MONTHS without hearing from her with zero explanation and she'd just act like that was fine and I had no reason to be worried. She wouldn't make posts. She wouldn't be online. She'd just go completely dead silent for months. And I was so worried. Especially after she told me that her now Ex-boyfriend (His name was Ekim. What kind of fucking name is Ekim?? It's Mike backwards and I sometimes wonder if she made him up because of that) had hit her and she'd moved out. Like she always talked about how dangerous her life was in Nashville but if I got worried about her after four months with no contact, she'd get pissed. More than one "Are you okay?" Message and it'd turn into a lecture or an argument. Four goddamn months. She just completely ghosted me.

And then I met Sara. And I think... She showed me that friendships aren't supposed to be like how Jessi and I were because Jessi and I were gonna talk on the phone at a certain time and she didn't call so I called her. She didn't answer. I sent a text saying it was almost lights out at the shelter and that I had to go to bed. 45 minutes later I was almost asleep and she texted me upset that I had called her and I texted back and was mad too and she was mad I'd texted her so late and I was like "I can't read your fucking mind." and she ended up calling me and I was already in a bad mood and was like "I have to be quiet or I'll get in trouble." and she started yelling at me. And I was like "You know what Jessi, no. Grow the hell up." And she hung up. And blocked me on fb. And I texted her and was like "Really??" And she said yeah and I told her to go fuck herself. And she blocked me on her phone too. And I didn't contact her that way for a LONG time. I did email her a couple times but she just... She gave me the email months before but she lied or misspelled it the first time and when I asked for clarification, she acted like she wouldn't answer. And she never responded to the email ever. So I just was like "Fuck it." But Sara was there for me. And Sara was angry for me. She... Sara was the first person to be mad at how someone was treating me and I legit saw it was genuine. Sara saw how Jessi treated me for over a year. And she only questioned that once. And she realized that wasn't a good strategy. So she listened. And offered advice but she never criticized Jessi from then on. But when asked, she wouldn't say that Jessi was right. She wouldn't speak actually. Just give me this look and shrug. Sara was there for me building me up while others were trying to tear me down. She was solid. And even when I felt like my inner demons were gonna take me down she was there. And she always knew what to do. Maybe sometimes they were genuine reactions but those... Were the most helpful... Those showed me she truly gave a fuck about me. Sara isn't perfect but she gave me the support I needed plus the room to grow. And she also acknowledged that if I grew away from her that was okay as long as I was growing. But I didn't. I still see her as a wonderful person. And I'm so glad I know her. She supported me through so much of the worst parts of my life. I see her as a part of my friend fanily and that's... Hard for me.

Basically this is just a post about how Jessi was a shit friend all along and I didn't realize it until I Sara showed me what a real friend is like... And then Erin confirmed it because Erin is a true friend. Erin doesn't ghost me for months and Erin is understanding of my life. Erin doesn't insist on me doing and saying things how they want me to. They support me. And give me room to grow away from them if I want. Jessi didn't give me room to grow. She insisted on her way being followed and then ghosted me for months. And she insisted we were such great friends the whole time. Was she using me to feel superior the whole time or did she ever care? I honestly think she had a superiority complex. She had to feel like she was better than someone and that was me. Because I had so little experience. And she also tried to tell me to do things that I knew were gonna get me in trouble and I told her that and she insisted it wouldn't. And a few times I actually did them. And I got into trouble. Mostly shelter stuff. She volunteered at a shelter for queer people specifically in Nashville for like three weeks and she thought that meant that she knew what a women's shelter in Evansville would be like for an AFAB nonbinary person. It wasn't. She thought I could juat go to the staff and say "I'm getting misgendered a lot." And they'd do something about it. They wouldn't. They SHOULD HAVE but they won't. Because shelters don't care. Nobody cares about the trans kid trying to just survive and trying to continue WANTING to survive. Because nobody wants to admit that the system is the problem. And they want ME to be the problem. Because then they don't have to fix the broken system. Because shelters are a system to fix a broken system. And they're broken too. The systems trying to fix the broken system are broken. How long can we just continue on this way acting like the system is perfect and people are broken? People are getting broken by the system. And it's getting blamed on the individual.

I didn't dare bring up getting misgendered by residents to Sarah Wolf for a long ass time. Only by prodding by Sara and April (the first therapist I had at Lampion). And I knew what would happen if I did. And I told them both that and they didn't believe me. And I finally said "FINE I'LL TALK TO HER IF YOU'LL JUST STOP TELLING ME TO." and that was the first time I snapped at Sara. And I talked to Sarah Wolf. And she got PISSED. Accused me of trying to get people thrown out. And I was like "I don't want anyone thrown out. I never said that." And she lectured me for a long time. And I went back and talked to Sara and told her and I was angry. And she didn't know how to respond. But she changed how she reacted to it after that. She would aggressively correctly gender me and correct others in front of me and tell me I was worth a goddamn. And THAT is what really changed things. She gave me support through the awful things I was experiencing. She counteracted what the others were telling me. She made sure I knew I was valued as a person. She wasn't perfect. She made mistakes. But she learned from them. And that made a difference to me.

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templeofgeek · 6 years

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Geek Fashion Icon, Catherine Elhoffer, of Elhoffer Designs talked to us about how she became one of the most popular fashion designers in the geek community. She has dressed celebrities, cosplayers and all manner of fan girls! She creates high-end Geek Bounding Apparel and is based out of Los Angeles, CA. Geek bounding is a subtle way to celebrate your fandom. Her designs are inspired by geek and pop culture. Her designs are high-end, align with modern styles and are made to last. Filling a much-needed void in the geek fashion world! Her design collections have been featured on Temple Of Geek Chic multiple times because we simply can not get enough of her style!

How long have you been interested in fashion/design and how did you get started?

I actually have hated fashion for most of my life, I got into design via costuming! I started in my local RenFaire when I was 15 and started making fae costumes for myself and friends. Then in college I took a fashion design course that I hated because it moved very slowly and the other students were not to my liking, but I loved because the professors loved me because I completely projects early if not on time (which was apparently something kids in the program didn’t do which was so odd to me). One of the professors pulled me aside and told me I needed to hit up the Theatrical Costume Shop because I was too smart for the Fashion program. So I went to the costume shop, got a job, started enrolling in the costume design courses (and it was a small program, pretty much me and at most two other students in other years the entire time I was in school), and then really honed my costume design and construction skills. It’s been almost a decade since I graduated, and I’ve been sewing and designing ever since!

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What inspired you to create Elhoffer Design?

Well the company is named after my surname, Elhoffer, which a lot of people don’t seem to get. They think my first name is El, which is funny to me. But I’ve been using the name ‘Elhoffer Design’ since I moved to LA to pursue costume design. It just made sense to get the URL and to put all my portfolio work onto that site to start getting work. Then I moved into working in geek fashion, due to working on a lot of geek parody film/web shoots and making some clothes to blend in (like a khaleesi inspired tunic that I’d wear on sets when I just needed to feel like a badass). I started working with some big companies that have a lot of licenses, and then when the last one fired me and kinda blacklisted me from other geek fashion companies, I decided to just form my own damn company and go at it solo, because I really loved designing geek apparel and had started to make a name for myself as a designer that created for women, not juniors, and who cared about shape and quality. I started hand-making pieces first, and then as that picked up I filed the LLC paperwork to make it a legit business.

Captain Marvel Inspired Cardigan

What do you feel sets Elhoffer Design apart from the rest of the crowd?

I was told early on in the life of my business that my designs are pretty distinctive, which I didn’t understand for a while. I was just like ‘well, yeah, that’s just my aesthetic, so of course it’s unique’. But it’s a combination of using fabrics that drape really well with colors and lines that tend to flatter the body. I don’t put colors together that clash, I often won’t use more than 3 colors in a single design (though that’s a rule I’ll certainly break if necessary, but I feel anything more than three colors gets to be too garish. Again, in most cases. I have plenty of sweaters that use four colors!). I also put pockets in every flared skirt I make, whether it’s a skirt or dress. Often wand pockets, too. And I also design for curvy women; my fit models are all well endowed, because those with less cleavage can always get things taken in, but rarely can modern apparel be let out or recut to accommodate boobs. That’s apparently unique, because not many apparel companies are designing for curves.

What has the reaction to your designs been like?

Well I’ve been able to expand from hand-making each piece myself to having a small staff of employees, a handful of factories that work with me, and a rather large stock of product on my site! So reaction has been pretty amazing! It actually shocks me how much people seem to love my pieces and work, because I am just so focused on the next piece or doing better and fixing my mistakes that I wasn’t really watching the growth happen in real-time. I was focused on prepping for the next convention or getting a production finished and shipped out that I wasn’t looking as much at the hashtags or the sales numbers! I’m thrilled, of course! And incredibly lucky that so many have been so kind and supportive!

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We understand that it is important for you, that as a business, you are minimizing your carbon footprint. Can you let our readers know a little bit about why that means so much to you and what you do to be environmentally responsible.

The fashion industry, and any industry that is mass-making things (so, every industry, really) is incredibly destructive on the environment. Between product being made cheaply overseas and then shipped over, put onto semis to be driven to a warehouse just to go back on a semi to be shipped to a brick and mortar store, and the lack of environmental regulations overseas (and now here in the US apparently), it’s just important to me to try to make a smaller footprint if possible. I’m not perfect; lots of my fabric used in my cut and sew dresses is still imported from overseas because the US just doesn’t mill textiles like we used to. But I do all my custom knitting in Los Angeles as well as the cutting and sewing of all my apparel. It lets me control more aspects of my designs, but it also means I know that there pieces aren’t moving around too much to make the final product. Besides electricity, I’m not doing too much damage on the environment. I’ve even been collecting scrap cuts from my factories to turn into gloves or other random things to try to reduce physical waste, too. We only have one planet, and I’m just trying to do what I can even as a business who’s mass producing and shipping things worldwide. By the very nature of my business I’m going to leave a footprint on the world: I ship out hundreds of packages a month and they go all over. I use plastic shipping supplies. Like, there are certain things that are just incredibly difficult to get around being an e-commerce site. But I do what I can.

What has been the most satisfying and the most difficult about your journey in fashion design?

By far the most satisfying thing is all the women who message me with pics or tag me on social media saying how they’ve never felt pretty or how they’ve never felt this confident in a piece of clothing. That’s why I do this. The most difficult thing has been dealing with social media and the trolls, nasty comments, the like. Sometimes people feel the need to say I’m a rip off or I’m too expensive, and I feel the need to educate them to help explain why I don’t have Walmart level prices; sometimes by educating they actually start to see the value in my prices, and sometimes they’re just there to troll and complain. So to that, I can’t help them. But I naturally want to help people, so I can get lured into replying to people who don’t deserve my time or energy because I always hope they’re there with the best intentions…

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Do you have a favorite designs, or one that is special to you?

It’s so hard to pick a favorite, because I really do love everything I design. I can’t make something I don’t love. And I also tend to love most the latest thing I’ve done as it’s fresh on my mind. I think my Scavenger dress, being one of my first pieces when I was hand making as well as when I started producing, is probably the most special. It kinda started everything for me.

Hogwarts Houses Inspired cardigan

Do you have any highlights from your adventures in Fashion?

I kinda want to brag for a second about pockets. I was at a company that sold to Think Geek and other major geek-clothing retailers, and I was designing a Jedi dress that TG was ordering. This dress was the first dress I was working on there, and I worked with the pattern room to put pockets in it. My boss hated that it made the dress more expensive, but I told her that we just had to do it. We’d be launching the dress at San Diego Comic Con through the company’s booth and I felt it was crucial to have pockets. Well, it became an instant best seller on the company’s site and at SDCC, because pockets. And at Think Geek all the comments were on how amazing it was that the dress had pockets (on top of the stretch of the fabric). So, within a year we have other companies that also sold to Think Geek putting pockets in their pieces. I like to think it’s because I pushed it so hard. Without those comments would other retailers care about pockets?? Probably not.

What can we look forward to from you in the future?

More (hopefully) great designs! I’m working on holiday season ideas right now and waiting on new samples that I’m excited about. I’m always trying to mix it up and try new styles and new things, so I’m very excited for some upcoming dresses and sweaters, as always.

Just for fun: What is your all time favorite Fandom and why?

Oh god. This is difficult. I guess Harry Potter, but only because I have a particular ship that is just full of really great people who I’ve bonded with over the years. And the fanfic is just so well done. Potter has provided me a lot of comfort over the years and helped me grow in so many ways. Yeah, Potter.

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