#social convention

[postersbykeith]

#quotes #T S Eliot #we die to each other daily #social convention

[beethovensdream]

The enemies of art and of morals, the enemies that is of love, are the same: social convention and neurosis. One may fail to see the individual… because we are ourselves sunk in a social whole which we allow uncritically to determine our reactions, or because we see each other exclusively as so determined. Or we may fail to see the individual because we are completely enclosed in a fantasy world of our own into which we try to draw things from outside, not grasping their reality and independence, making them into dream objects of our own. Iris Murdoch

#iris murdoch #love #art #neurosis #social convention

[regarding-stories]

Soul vs Social Convention

So. Back at it again. I'm finishing up my process of "grieving" the disappointing resolution of The Quintessential Quintuplets Movie. Before I talked about what kind of genre I would place the story in and if it fulfills narrative expectations.

What however made my peace with all of it was the realization that the story consists of two parts, and I only like one of them. One thread is the burgeoning love that brings all six of them together. And the other thread is social convention - what is a partner, what is marriage, what is love supposedly, and what am I to do with my life.

We talk about social convention because society not only provides some answers to these questions, it tends to ingrain them and enforce them. It takes preferred constructs and tells us "This is how you should be. This is how you should think." And the ending is nothing but conventional.

It's 2023, though. I saw actual, real-world young people rather happily extend their relationship to a polyamorous triple, and when I look around the internet they're hardly the only ones. The concept of marriage itself or eternal bliss with one person actually looked like it would go away during the 1990s to 2000s. It certainly made a comeback. But who really expects to live their whole life with one person? At the very least, people think they will try out multiple people and then end up with somebody who stands the test of time. But often enough people cycle through partners instead.

Now, granted, the story takes place in Japan. Social convention has more weight, and at least YouTubers claim that the concept of calling someone who is not married by 25 a "Christmas cake" (which was left out too long) has not yet found its well-deserved end. So, in a product geared at teenagers, maybe it needed to be a safe bet - maybe the heartbreak was even intended? Who knows.

What I do know that the whole story as a journey betrays a different conception of love from where it ends. If you look at second half of first season till the end of second season, you see that the sisters will seek love but also share in each other's happiness and sadness. They make mistakes, especially Ichika, but in principle they all have the potential to share Futaro. And he loves all of them.

When he refuses to decide - that's when he is the last time "like himself." When he boldly declares he loves all of them. I believe him. I believe he loves and cherishes each of them individually and all of them together.

What is love then?

If you love each of them, what is the difference? Sexual attraction, maybe. But that should have been easy to figure out - unless he's kind of into all of them. They are different personalities but same body type, after all. It's not a stretch to believe he could be reasonably attract to any of them.

And do we really believe these sisters could not share that man? They run after each other and spy on their dates, not to spoil them (well, Nino), but to actually help or share in the joy.

But they're each trapped in their belief in convention, and so is the author. Yes, a situation as it played out can happen. But it seems to be simplistic concept of love. Romantic love is supposedly a different love from... just love. And it's supposedly something that you just know somewhere.

And sometimes that may be true, and sometimes not.

What I fault the story for is telling the story of the higher love, the one that shares and cherishes and then supplant it with a story of selfishness and hurt. And maybe many people can not allow for anything else, making this a safe bet. And sadly, maybe, it was money in the bank to rile people's emotions up and give them a forced, late conclusion so everybody stays until the end.

I'm not saying polyamory is better. I'm saying it really could have worked here. That's what makes the first half of the movie still work, and then all the lines are drawn again, roll the conventional ending. And it feels just flat in comparison.

Yes, the sisters join together to support Yotsuba. But they're also locked out now. We have been told what love is and has to be - decisive, binary, conventional. And if you stick together, it has to be forever. I think the six of them together could have made a hell of a team to face life together while continuing to grow and trying to make their individual dreams happen.

My new head canon.

PS - this is by the way exactly expressed in an exchange between Yotsuba and Futaro. She asks if this scenario was possible. And he says some forms of happiness come at the expense of someone else's. His head example is who scores highest in an exam. But love isn't a national final exam. I don't think somebody's love has to be at the expense of somebody else. That's where the trap lies convention set.

#the quintessential quintuplets #lame ending #social convention #love

[vickihinze]

A Love Story by James R. Coggins

A Love Story by James R. Coggins

Sixth and Last in a Series The marriage of Ruth and Boaz described in the Old Testament book of Ruth was not the usual love story. They got married following a social convention of obligation and need, not romance. They had not known each other for long. What did Boaz know about Ruth? He knew she had shown love and loyalty to Naomi, risking her own future happiness to care for her aging…

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#character #marriage #romance #social convention

[intersectionalpraxis]

The IOF killed yet another journalist while they're on trial for genocide. They're absolute monsters.

Journalists are protected under international laws (especially under areas of "armed conflict" and since the western world/media keeps calling this a "war" [even though this is a genocide, not a war] -that the IOF has been continuously breaking Geneva Conventions and has been committing war crimes because journalists in "war zones must be treated as civilians and protected as such"). The IOF has murdered over 100 of them -these are people with livelihoods, dreams, ambitions, hobbies, families, and friends, and so much more.

I read a post earlier that when Saudia Arabia murdered one journalist back in 2018 (his name was Jamal Khashoggi) there was global outrage -as there should be for MANY reasons whenever a government institution and/or power kills a person whose work is meant to collect information, and to investigate for publication and dissemination to the world -targeting and assassinating speakers and conveyors of news is beyond heinous. But the fact that over 100 PALESTINIAN JOURNALISTS, including their families -have been systemically targeted and killed by the IOF, is despicable. The occupation MUST end and Palestine must be free.

Rest in power and peace, Muhammad.

#feminist #feminism #social justice #free palestine #palestine #freepalastine🇵🇸 #free gaza #settler violence #settler colonialism #current events #war crimes #international court of justice #palestinian journalists #geneva convention #united nations #end the occupation #ceasefire now #gaza news #gaza strip #gaza #gaza update

[walkingcontradictionwithanxiety]

The Con in Social Convention

The Con in Social Convention

Convention, so often a mask for injustice… Edith HamiltonThe Con in Social Convention

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#alittletoopictureimperfect #altpi #blog posts #blogger #blogging #blogs #con #creative writing #essays #freelancer #fresher #informative writing #jobseeker #opinion pieces #reposts #social convention #truth #writer #writing

[the-meghan-m]

I’m sorry neurotypical people just don’t sit like this

#especially not in an interrogation #blatant disregard for social convention 🥰 #fox mulder the woman you are #the x files #x files #mulder #msr #scully #fox mulder #dana scully #mulder and scully #txf

[squarebracket-trickster]

By the way, lurkers are welcome on my blog<33

Yeah, yeah, Writeblr is a community and all that. But I get it.

Some of us have anxiety disorders. Some of us are (or were once) minors on the internet who had it drilled into us to never make our presence known in online spaces lest we get stalked or groomed.

It's okay if interacting is outside of your comfort zone.

Some of us aren't actually on tumblr enough to make making a Writeblr intro worth it.

Some of us prefer to take a few months, maybe years, observing the community to learn the rules. And let's face it, there is a huge learning curve to Tumblr culture. I came here from Pinterest in like 2018 and hooo boy was it intimidating!

Like, I was that 17 year old pinterest lurker with an anxiety disorder who was taught that internet safety meant "never comment on anything" who took a few years before I felt comfortable enough with tumblr culture to reblog things with tags, let alone make public posts.

So I guess what I am saying is, I can't judge. Because I've been there.

Writeblr is a community. And the community (for me) is the best part. And remember that if you don't contribute to the community you don't get to complain about it either. But this is also a public space. Silent observers are to be expected. And on my blog you are welcome.

#I do really think we people who have been here a while forget just how many social rules there are in tumblr culture #I mean ask games and tag games have etiquette #then theres reblogging with commentary versus leaving a comment versus talking in the tags #then there's what tags are appropriate to use on an original post #then there's tumblr's specific vernacular and sense of humour #then there are post formatting conventions #and just learning what tags exist and how to search them #how to organize and sort your own blog #I'm forgetting something but like There is So Much

[realbeefman]

frank reynolds is so silly and goofy he is always smirking even though half the time he straight up doesn't know what is going on. has done every single drug ever. canonical war criminal. has a food fetish. banging one of the hottest women alive (artemis dubois). is completely aware that he’s insane and doesn’t care. he is unmedicated and by god he is free

#something really deeply relatable about frank #he lives a life i yearn to live #i mean sort of #like i’m not that into foraging but if i had a buddy i could get into it #its more the way he just so flagrantly violates social conventions #like im so painfully aware that im weird all the time #and he lived like that!!! for decades!!! #gives me hope and confidence in being loved in spite of my more bizarre private behaviors #frank reynolds #its always sunny in philadelphia #its always sunny #iasip

[cuntlos]

carlos on 🎞️ by jackcrapa

#I am upholding the social convention of pretty privilege #carlos sainz #carlos sainz jr

[susansontag]

before the fashion history fandom lays into a period drama for not having historically accurate costuming they should maybe ask themselves if they believe the only point of costuming in a period piece is accuracy or if there are maybe other concerns in fiction

#little women 2019 huuuge casualty of this #those outfits. conveyed character psychology and relationship to the social conventions of the time #moth.txt

[chocodile]

I made a website!

https://www.chocodile.net

https://www.chocodile.net

https://www.chocodile.net

At present, it's basically just a big fancy "about" section with a small portfolio, but I have vague plans to maybe do an RSS art feed and maybe make some goofy retro Web 2.0 JavaScript toys (dressup dolls, personality quizzes, etc) like I built for the websites I made when I was 13. Eventually.

I got a wee little webring banner, too. You can find the code for it on my site... lemme know if you wanna trade webring links.

#web 2.0 #web2 #html #indie web #personal website #food // #gotta have something official to direct convention applications to since social media is kinda unreliable these days

[aq2003]

a criticism that i absolutely despise about thirteen is the "she's socially awkward, less confident, and more nervous about coming off as weird and this is out of character" take. because this ties into one of her defining character traits as an incarnation. yes all the doctors previous have been strange and offputting to some degree and have mainly not cared about coming off that way (save for ten, who mostly does want to come off as a friendly affable dude and asks if he's being rude sometimes but doesn't have moments where he's apologetic about his oddness in itself). but for thirteen her whole deal is that after twelve's dying wish was basically "ALWAYS BE NICE TO PEOPLE NO MATTER HOW MUCH ETERNAL RAGE AND SADNESS YOU KEEP IN YOUR SOUL" she tries to hide/repress any negative, less "presentable" sides of her from her close friends even when they can tell she's trying to hide it and are attempting to offer emotional support. she tries to be conscious of how she comes off after like, centuries of not really giving a fuck about this. and she clearly struggles with it and this is why she feels so fish-out-of-water in multiple different ways. it's not out of nowhere nor is it ooc (especially bc it was something you saw a little bit of with ten)

#ive seen this criticism in many different places and it . Annoys me! for many reasons. #5 hour chibnall hate video essay you were right about the companion character writing and the politics being bad but this is like #one of thirteen's most notable traits that also ties into the most interesting part of her character #'thirteen is oblivious human social conventions' like both eleven and twelve at MULTIPLE different points? #'thirteen is needy' Oh you mean like ten was needy? like ten had a scene where he was straight up talking to the air #bc he missed martha so bad and generally absolutely needs a companion with him lest he literally be driven insane? #dr who #13 era #the 'i'm very socially awkward' scene is so fucking bad though im not defending it

[intersectionalpraxis]

#feminist #feminism #social justice #free palestine #palestine #freepalastine🇵🇸 #free gaza #settler violence #settler colonialism #current events #british imperialism #united kingdom #war crimes #gaza genocide #genocide #geneva convention #united nations #current news #fuck imperialism #international court of justice

[couchsterfield]

why does no one talk about how insanely funny mcdermott is 😭

Also find it hilarious how Mcdermott gets away with so much, like if anyone else treats patrick like that patrick would be so so full of hatred but no pat just keeps on hanging out w this guy

mcdermott wont share cocaine and Patricks like ugh ok :/ and thats it

#why is he lowkey patricks best friend after tim left for rehab #cus hes always with pat in any social convention #american psycho #couch ramblings #craig mcdermott

[lil-miss]

All Zims with chronic pain (especially mine) get to bite people during pain episodes without consequences.

In fact, if they bite a Dib they will get a little treat.

#I want to bite people but alas I am bound by 'social conventions' and 'rules' #lesbian alien posting #homestead homestuck housewife #galaxy girls iz #invader zim au #invader zim #zadr #fem zim #fem dib #lesbian zadr #fem zadr