I will be the last to deny the coolness of high-tech astronomy, don't get me wrong, but,
There is a certain charm, a certain allure to going as low tech as you can, and yet still enjoying the beauty of the universe.
Because even if your equipment is an upside down mouse pad for stability, a small 40yo soviet military telescope, and some biscuits for moral support, you can still touch the cosmos, and partake, at least as an observer, in the motions of its spheres.
On a completely unrelated note, guess what i did at 2am last night
1.) I read Carry On in August and it changed my life.
2.) I wrote a fuckton. More words than I ever expected to.
3.) I received so many beautiful gifts, from @dohrnaira (Mummers House; Jelly Babies - MTG; Jelly Babies - New Year!) and from @artsyunderstudy (Jelly Babies).
4.) I designed some t-shirts on Canvas.
5.) I ate a cake.
6.) I submitted a piece of creative non-fiction to an anthology. It got rejected, but I'm so glad that I let myself be vulnerable and actually submitted, instead of just being paralyzed by anxiety.
7.) I finished two fics that had been languishing since 2021 (They can only be carried and A tasting menu for cats).
8.) I got an awesome new therapist.
9.) I learned how to hold my mother when she cries.
10.) I took risks with my writing. I pushed myself out of my comfort zone, especially with The tears of Mummers House and Jelly Babies.
11.) I gained a lot more confidence in my ability to craft OCs that readers find compelling.
12.) I put together a bunch of care packages.
13.) I tried to write sincere letters and notes to go with those care packages, and not worry about getting things "right," but just putting my messy heart into the words.
14.) I went to a funeral for the first time since the pandemic started.
15.) I went to a wedding for the first time since the pandemic started.
16.) I made new friends (hi! hello!!).
17.) I spent time with old friends who I hadn't seen in years.
18.) I squished a lot of new babies.
19.) I ate a lot of delicious food.
20.) I tried edibles for the first time. Deffo a fan.
21.) This Christmas, I got see my beloved laugh and relax, and it was a gift.
22.) I was sick a lot, sad a lot, angry a lot. But I also laughed so much. There are so many good things to celebrate. ❤️❤️❤️
the funniest meltdown ive ever had was in college when i got so overstimulated that i could Not speak, including over text. one of my friends was trying to talk me through it but i was solely using emojis because they were easier than trying to come up with words so he started using primarily emojis as well just to make things feel balanced. this was not the Most effective strategy... until. he tried to ask me "you okay?" but the way he chose to do that was by sending "👉🏼👌🏼❓" and i was so shocked by suddenly being asked if i was dtf that i was like WHAT???? WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME?????????? and thus was verbal again
"people show their true colours in life threatening situations" no, they show you what they act like when they're mortally terrified, an emotion notorious for literally turning your entire brain off to the point where people who go into those situations as a profession need to be literally trained on how to not have that happen
advice i think we should tell children is that when adults say stuff like ‘now that i’m an adult i get really excited about stuff like coffee tables and bathrooms and rugs etc’ they don’t mean ‘and now i don’t care about blorbo and squimbus from my childhood tv shows anymore’ bc your average adult still loves all the same pop culture stuff they always did; they just have a greater appreciation for the mundane as well. growing up just means you can enjoy life twice as much now. you can get really excited about a new stuffed animal AND about a new kitchen sponge. peace and love
if this comic resonated with you, it would mean the world to me if you donated to this palestinian family's escape fund.
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no creative notes because this isn't that kind of comic.
I know I don’t owe any of you anything but I still felt compelled to write about my long term absence. And I feel far enough away from the dangerous spot I was in to be able to make this comic. I have a therapist now, and she agreed that making this could be a very cathartic gesture, and the start of properly leaving these thoughts behind me. I am still, at seemingly random times, blindsided by fleeting desires to kill myself. They’re always passing urges, but it’s disarming, and uncomfortable. I worry sometimes that my brain’s spent so long thinking only about suicide that it’s forgotten how to think about anything else. Like, now that I've opened that door for myself, I'll never be able to fully shut it again. But I’m trying my best to encourage my mind in other directions. We'll see how that goes.
I am still donating all proceeds from my store to Palestinian causes. So far, I've donated over $15K, not including donations coming from my own pocket or the fundraising streams which jointly raised around $10K. In the time since I made my initial post about where this money would be going, the focus has shifted from aid organisations to directly donating to escape funds.
If you'd like to do the same, you can look at Operation Olive Branch, which hosts hundreds of Palestinian escape funds or donate to Safebow, which has helped facilitate the safe crossing and securing of important medical procedures for over 150 at-risk palestinians since the beginning of the genocide.
my top bit of advice going into the new year: compliment people. especially strangers. literally everyone you interact with if you can. when you buy coffee in the morning compliment the barista's tattoos. when you're chatting with a coworker tell them that by the way you like their outfit. always find something they've chosen to do on purpose. nail polish, jewellery, tattoos, hair colour/style, statement accessory, outfit, etc are all good bets. things people hope will be noticed. things that aren't too personal so it doesn't make them uncomfortable (eg probably not their physical features). i've gotten into the habit of scanning everyone i talk to for something about them that i think is cool so i can tell them. it's a great habit because it makes me notice people and realise just how many neat little details there are in people's presentation of themselves that might pass me by if i wasn't paying attention. and it brings out so much joy. you'd be surprised how much it disarms people to receive an unexpected compliment from someone they don't know. it is the most sincere smile you will see all day long. it feels nice to make people happy but it also means you win the social interaction. establish dominance by complimenting a stranger's earrings and disappearing into the fog
You know I used to think "tumblr's absolute refusal to actually engage with the Trolley Problem in favor of insisting that there must be a third, morally pure option that doesn't require them to make a hard decision and anyone who asks them to make a binary choice is just a short-sighted idiot is really fucking annoying, but I guess it's not actually doing any harm".
Anyway that was before we asked tumblr at large to decide between "guy aiding a genocide but making progress elsewhere" and "guy who would actively and enthusiastically participate in a genocide and would also make everything else much, much worse for everyone elsewhere" and the response was that there must be a third, morally pure option that doesn't require them to make a hard decision and that anyone who asks them to make a binary choice is a short-sighted idiot.