#undecided relationship

[pryvatee]

A love letter to summer

June 28th, 2022

On those warm mornings, you make me feel so full and fuzzy. Your light shines so gently on me and you make me feel like I can take on the whole world with just my bare hands. You make me feel grateful to be alive and I want to create endless memories that would become endless stories to be recount. I wish I could live eternally with you by my side. I love the way you breath life into all matters and how you bring everyone and everything together so beautifully and effortlessly. You are so very mysterious and kind, and I? I am so hopelessly in love with you.

#music #thoughts #undecided relationship #kim oki #Spotify

[ace-sher-bi-john]

Sherlock Holmes: Aro-Spec, A-Spec, Gay Icon

What is Sherlock Holmes' orientation?

Asexual? Aromantic? Homosexual/romantic? Why not all three?

Something I've noticed during my time in this fandom is that people can't always agree on what Sherlock's sexual/romantic orientation is. Most people say that he's gay, some people say that he's ace. These two headcanons are rarely paired together.

I've seen people who think he's asexual be called homophobic because it feels like it's taking away from the gay representation they get from Johnlock. What they don't appear to realize is that asexual people can still have romantic or even sexual relationships. It also seems that people confuse being asexual with being aromantic a lot. Asexuality and aromanticism are not the same thing.

(There are lots of people who don't ship Johnlock, and either ship Sherl with someone else or with no one and that's valid! I personally am a Johnlock shipper)

Asexuality is defined as a lack of sexual attraction and Aromanticism is defined as a lack of romantic attraction. Both of these have a spectrum as well.

Asexual people can experience sexual attraction, only experience it sometimes, or not experience it at all. If you are anywhere on the asexual spectrum, it simply means that you don't experience an urge to have sex with someone in some or all cases.

You might enjoy sex. You might be repulsed by it. You might be completely indifferent towards it. You might even have urges every now and then. That is still valid. On one end of the spectrum, you don't experience any sexual attraction, on the other, you do experience sexual attraction, and all throughout the middle are varying levels of attraction/urges or lack thereof. There are more identities out there under the ace umbrella. There's demisexual which means that you only experience sexual attraction towards people you've developed an emotional connection with first. Greysexual means that you rarely experience sexual attraction, but it does happen sometimes. Lithosexual means you experience sexual attraction, but don't want it reciprocated. There are many more, you can do your research if you want to know all of them. I don't want to make this post too long, as I fear I may already have done.

The same thing goes for the aromantic spectrum.

Being aromantic means that you don't experience romantic attraction. Depending on where you are on the spectrum, you may experience romantic attraction sometimes, or not at all. Some aromantic people love the idea of romance, romantic gestures, have no problem holding hands, kissing, etc. You can participate in romantic relationships, you can get married, and it will never mean you're less aromantic. All being aromantic means is that you don't feel romantic attraction. It being a spectrum means that on one end, you do experience romantic attraction and on the other end you don't. All in the middle, you experience varying levels of romantic attraction. The labels are basically the same as the ace labels and mean basically the same thing.

(Edit: I've just noticed that I forgot to mention queer platonic relationships. So here we go)

Aromantic people may experience feelings for friends that go beyond friendship, but aren't in anyway romantic or sexual. They may choose to form relationships with others that are more than friendship but not quite romantic. These are called Queer Platonic Relationships or QPRs. They are just as valid as romantic relationships and are not just friendships. People in QPRs love their partner just as deeply, if not more so than people in romantic relationships.

When someone is asexual, but not aromantic, you put a label for their romantic attraction. For example: Biromantic asexual, heteromantic asexual, homoromantic asexual, panromantic asexual, etc.

So basically, you can experience limited or no sexual/romantic attraction and still have relationships. You can be aroace and gay. So therefore my headcanon is that Sherlock is grey-homoromantic asexual.

It took me a little bit of deciding between demiromantic and greyromantic. But they both sound just as cliche as the other. In both cases, John is the one and only person that Sherlock ever falls in love with. If he's demi, it's because he's never gotten this emotionally close to someone before and that's why John is his only love. But I wanted to see Sherlock struggle with his new, unfamiliar romantic feelings from the beginning. From that very first day that John walked into the lab at Bart's.

Sherlock doesn't even know what the weird emotions he's feeling are. They are subtle at first, because love at first sight is even more cliche. He doesn't really start to feel them as anything too distracting or difficult until the pool incident. Almost losing John, caused other unfamiliar feelings that Sherlock didn't want to deal with, along with the telltale signs of romantic love. But Sherlock chooses to ignore it for as long as possible, denying the fact that he could be in love with anyone. Let alone his very straight, not gay in the slightest, bi in denial roommate. It's too much of a risk with anyone. Platonic relationships are already a risk, but he's seen the strange things that romantic love can do to people. He doesn't allow himself to feel most emotions anyway, why would he allow himself to feel romantic love?

Once he allows himself to realize that the emotion he's feeling is romantic love, he struggles with his identity. He knows that he's aromantic, so how is it possible that he's feeling this way? Eventually he will come to discover greyromanticism and realize that he's not crazy, and he's not suddenly alloromantic. He is experiencing rare romantic feelings for John, which he's never experienced before and will likely never experience again.

He's still aromantic. He's not "fixed". Sherlock is valid in being aromantic and feeling romantic attraction.

Then add in some asexual tension once they finally get together and we should be good to go!

Thank you for reading. Hopefully that wasn't too long for you.

#sherlock #bbc sherlock #johnlock #queer platonic relationship #romantic relationship #queer platonic johnlock #or possibly romantic johnlock #I am still undecided as to whether I want to portray them romantic or qpr #either way they are “soul mates” #they are life partners #aroace sherlock #greyromantic sherlock holmes #grey-homoromantic sherlock #grey-homoromantic ace sherlock #aromantic #asexual #asexuality #aromantism #aromanticism #sherlock holmes #john watson #aro panic #ace panic #gay #gay ace #bisexual john watson #bi in denial john watson #lgbtq+ #the asexual tension is *real* #asexuality isn't boring

[autism-swagger]

Local girltwink in her boydyke era

Closeups under cut

#butcher? more butch?? butchlier???? idfk man #RIP Jackie Taylor you would've made such a handsome butch 😔 #also I just realized that the little guy kinda looks like Nat. it's not. it's supposed to be me #but ​you can choose to interpret it as Nat lowkey swooning over Jax if you want to lol #this's part of my au wherein Jackie almost freezes but is brought inside by Nat n Travis #(a lot fewer people die than in canon. it's (relatively) happy) #(they don't hunt each other. a couple of the girls (gn) die from various causes. but not murder. this includes Coach Ben) #she loses several fingers and an ear to frostbite #and Shauna still cuts a chunk outta her arm lol #because let's be real that bitch is crazy (affectionate) #these are of ~19-20 year old Jackie #she moved outta Wiskayok the first chance she got #(to either California or New York. I'm undecided. some major city) #she holds a pretty major grudge against the rest of the survivors for uh. fairly obvious reasons #she's roommates with Nat and Travis (who's relationship is a lot healthier than canon because Javi didn't die) #but she hasn't spoken to any of the others since they were all rescued #it has JackieNat bestie-ism. and maybe more. who knows #(me. I know) #wow this's just turned into me rambling about my au #my art #Yellowjackets tag

[chthonicrose]

just realized one of my newest OCs is a warrior who has been fighting monsters for 40-50 years and is at LEAST fifty years old and is nonbinary in a dehumanized kinda way and anyway it looks like danny trejo now because I was reminded that I posted I wanted to make a nonbinary oc who looked like danny trejo. and I need to come up with a concrete appearance for its... er. well. you could call him an LI I guess. for its supporting character because otherwise I'm just going to keep picturing some kind of unholy hybrid of astarion and dorian pavus wearing leather pants

#stuff and nonsense #bladeforge #are either ranseur or [name undecided] capable of love. discuss. #can you have a love interest if you don't consider yourself a person who can have relationships

[kerryweaverlesbian]

Dufhsjrj Jack did NOT need to psychic blast them before he left. Monster allegations getting harder to beat.

#spn liveblog #I'm still undecided on jack. him and Cas's relationship is weeeird. #like he did mind control on him from the womb we all saw it.

[ingoodjesst]

my current shipping agenda for persona 3 is basically:

this is yukari, and this is yukari's girlfriend mitsuru, and this is mitsuru's boyfriend akihiko, and this is akihiko's boyfriend shinjiro

#a jesst #undecided how the others fit in but know that sees is a big polycule that aigis thinks is the default arrangement for human relationships #and is very confused when people introduce just their one partner and goes. where are the other ones? #persona 3

[binghe-malewife-goals]

Talking about this here bc I glanced at jayvik on twt and immediately decided to dip out of that real quick but

I, personally, view Jayce's and Mel's relationship in a more friends w/ benefits way than anything else. They obviously care for eachother and we see that numerous times; we explicitly see Mel be protective over Jayce.

I was actually rly hoping to like Jayce's and Mel's relationship, but I was disappointed when I saw it on screen. They were just missing something that makes Jayce's relationship with Viktor so special to me.

#also for the love of god this is not Mel hate 😭 #im just ruminating on their relationship and why it simply didn't scratch that itch for me #perhaps this is my maybe demisexual (undecided) ass coming back to bite me #bc i simply cant enjoy ships if i feel like theres no deep foundational bond or if i just dont think they immediately click well #part of me cant help but feel like if the writers wanted mel/jayce to be a romantic relationship on par with cait/vi that #they kinda did a disservice to them? but mel explicitly? #just... thoughts #i feel like jayce is a big puppy and mel is the parttime dogsitter for him when viktor is away and i mean that fondly JDJD #arcane lol #pina talks #jayce talis #mel medarda #viktor lol #(though hes just kinda mentioned) #jayvik related ig

[invinciblerodent]

you know what, actually, he can fuck all the way off with this look

he just can't look at her like that, that's not allowed

pull yourself together, boy, you have a bitch reputation to uphold!!!!!!! you can't look at her like she hung the stars in the sky lest she (rightfully) thinks you as smitten as you are!!!!!!!!!

#squirrel plays bg3 #oc: petyr wildbrook #i want to punch his stupid handsome face so often in this game #because he has a great bitchface absolutely 10/10 no notes #but this face......... boy you're down BAD aren't you #i'm a bit undecided on the relationship progression yet #a part of me is like... well it makes sense for them to have sex at the party; with their cavalier attitude towards physical intimacy #we ARE well after the wine night/first kiss scene #but another part is like.... actually it's weird for both of them if they don't and then that'll likely get stuck in their heads #like that's EMOTIONAL intimacy which they both know fuckall about #but then i don't know where in the plot it makes sense to have a first time before the beach #because i think that comes after initiating things with halsin and then it's... kinda weird?????? ugh #this round of this game is weird for me

[atherix]

Torn between "Hotguy Hero AU" and "Hotguy is a movie from the 80s and is getting a reboot and Scar is cast as Hotguy but everyone thinks it's a legacy casting because he is the original actor's son so he feels like he has to prove himself to everyone that he got the part on his own merits and skills and not because of his father" AU.

..... looking at what I just wrote I think I know lmao

#personal #idk i just really like actor AUs #idk if Grian and Mumbo will be his biggest supporters #or if one of them will be like his biggest critic while the other is the 'give him a chance' kind #also undecided if Scar and his father have/had a good relationship #why am i thinking of ideas for that hgjskfjsjf

[as8bakwthesage]

Thorin: What is wrong with you?!

Sercewe: Well, I have Borderline Personality Disorder, Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, and I have the 'Tism. Any other silly questions?

Thorin: What?!?!

#basically their relationship #one semi-competent person confronting a seemingly not-competent person #sercewe likes to confuse the poor dwarf #i am undecided if i wanna do a self ship with him #i think its more quasiplatonic #but we'll see #sercewe #the hobbit #thorin oakenshield #shitpost

[cluescorner]

The Simon ‘My sibling fucked up because she loves me’ vs the Klavier ‘My sibling fucked up because he hates me’ 

#simon blackquill #klavier gavin #ace attorney #Ace Attorney Dual Destinies #Ace Attorney Apollo Justice #aura blackquill #btw #I am still undecided about whether I think Kristoph hates Klavier or not #I think it's VERY COMPLICATED #But you know that sibling thing where your sibling has everything relatively easy and gets shit for free that you had to work your ass off #to get and you kinda start getting frustrated by that but you love them and want to see them happy but at the same time you #want them to have SOMETHING bad happen to them for once in their fucking life so that they understand that shit isn't this easy #plus you're also jealous of how little they've gone through and want to see them knocked down a peg #but unlike Kristoph I handled my conflicting feelings and talked to a fucking therapist #plus I love my brothers more than fucking anything and I would never be the one to actually hurt them #whereas Kristoph never fucking matured #or alternatively depending on whether I'm coping with my headcanon bs #Kristoph hates the fact that Klavier recovered from their bullshit but Kristoph could never leave survival mode #why does every post I make turn into a rant about a complicated sibling relationship? #because that's what i do

[underagoldenmoon]

Under a Golden Moon short story: The Thief

The tortoiseshell glances over hir shoulder. Nobody's there, ze thinks, but ze can't convince hirself it's true - if ze's wrong, it's hir death that will be the result. Ze's risking so much for this. It'll be worth it, though. It has to be. Ze takes a last deep breath before striding forward, steadying hir shivering as much as ze can. The building is tall, blocky, built of hard stone. It stretches up to the sky like a message. The door is unlocked. This can't be right, it can't be this easy. But the cat reaches out a white paw, scarred with the marks of a slip-up when ze first started whittling. Ze never made that mistake again: ze has learned by now that ze must be cautious. That lesson will stand hir in good stead. Ze hopes. A glance around. Everything here is brightly-coloured. To the tortoiseshell's left, the stairs stretch upwards, and ze runs up them, taking them two at a time, then three, no longer cautious of the risk. Ze's almost there. Almost there. "There it is!" Ze can't stop hirself from exclaiming hir excitement. Immediately ze regrets it. There's nobody else here, but the sound of hir voice makes hir feel sick. As it always does. Ze grabs the rectangular object, clad in every shade of the rainbow, and tucks it into the bag hung over hir shoulder. A brief smile. And now ze runs. But the door is closed now, and didn't ze leave it open? Ze places a paw onto the inner handle, tries to push it down and open the door. Locked. Panicking now, ze spins around. Hir breath is shallow. Ze can't think. Can't breathe now. Except ze could if ze just pulled hirself together. What's even the point of this? Ze's lying to hirself. Might as well leave hir precious prize behind, because it won't change who ze is. No. Ze's come too far, risked too much, to surrender this hope, hopeless though it may be. Ze looks around for a key. If ze can't find one, ze doubts hir small amount of strength will be enough to force the door open - in which case ze's trapped. Nobody knows ze's here. Nobody can know, because nobody will understand. "Could have sworn I'd closed that door," a voice mutters from the next room. "Can't let the books get damaged. N' if Yew's Guard get to it they're gonna burn 'em all, probably." The thief - because that is what ze is, not a simple scavenger as ze had thought - starts. Ze isn't the only one who knows about this place. Ze isn't the only one who knows about the danger if it is discovered. Ze makes sure that the book is secure, and tightens hir grip on the handle of hir bag, painted with the colours that allegedly symbolise hir identity: two shades of orange, white, two shades of blue. Nobody else in Yew's Guard knows the meaning. If they did, ze would have been exiled by now - hence the need for secrecy. But ze had to indulge this one childish hope. The door to the other room opens, and the thief ducks behind a shelf. A short, scarred tabby walks through the door. They glance at the door, then to the shelf where the thief hides. "Who's there?" they ask. Well. Ze's caught now. "Just me," ze says, stepping out from behind the shelf, clutching the bag in the same manner that a drowning cat might clutch a rope connecting them to the shore. "And who're you?" "I'm…my name is…" ze stops. Ze's not ready for that. "I'm just here to look, I…I swear! I'm not stealing or anything, but it's dangerous at home and -" The tabby sighs. "You took a book. Didn't you." It's not even a question. "Yes, but I'll - I'll return it - just -" "No. Keep it. You need it. I'm Autumn, by the way. She/her." She unlocks the door The thief nods. "My pronouns are… are ze/hir." There's a freedom in admitting it. "And… I mean, my parents called me Golden… and I like the name… but I'm… I don't know, you're meant to change it, aren't you?" "Don't let anyone force ya to do that. 's your name, not theirs." The thief nods again. And makes hir escape.

#under a golden moon #character: golden #character: autumn #short story #under a golden moon short story #Autumn's so cool actually I hope everyone likes her #Also I'm as yet undecided as to whether or not Golden will change hir name #Up until this point it's kinda been a given since gendered names aren't a thing in this universe but… #Thinking through hir relationship with hir family I'm not sure #But at the same time I've kept the protagonist names since version one (minus the fact it was a Warrior Cats fanfic then) #And idk. Sentimentality. #I want hir to stay as Golden but I need to decide if that's right for hir #Because if it isn't I can't force that

[newts-and-sharks]

Pick two numbers from 1-12

#reblog answer is preferable #I’m trying to flesh out character relationships and interactions #also finalize personalities bc one of em is undecided rn and I want them to be both loved and hated

[eighthdoctor]

Are you writing Sylvanas as a lesbian? The comparing boyfriends jab at Jaina led me to believe you thought she was bi. Which is actually very rare in sylvaina fic, but when I have seen it it's usually for *shivers* Nathanos related reasons.

oh no sorry, I am 100% writing her as a kinsey 6

the jab is specifically about Jaina's awful taste in boyfriends, Sylvanas had no intention of ever reciprocating

#asks for ts #Anonymous #undecided on whether jaina is bi (evidence: thrall) or a lesbian with an exception (evidence: still thrall) #however the only reasonable explanation for kalec is Compulsory Heterosexuality #world's most boring man #blorbos from my games #the power to manipulate belief #sylvanas & nathanos is PROFOUNDLY WEIRD AND FUCKED UP but not uh. hm. not A Relationship TM.

[orcelito]

Being asked to choose between akeshu and vashwood in that tumblr post is really quite mean of them

I chose vashwood by basis of tragedy bc. Oof ouch ow. I haven't even seen it all yet and yet it hurts. Stampede only fans wouldn't understand.

At least akechi has the potential of being alive lol. Can't say that with vashwood

#speculation nation #trigun spoilers/ #now if it were a plain 'who is my favorite' Wellllllllll #right now it's undeniably vashwood let's be real. u guys have seen it in motion. #it's like akeshu but with adults and one of them is a weird alien angel thing and the other is a genetically modified priest #and YES we get the hitman falling in love with his mark. except infinitely more relationship development (in trimax at least) #gnawing at the bit rn. as i have been for the past almost 2 weeks now. i will never be the same #hfkshxjd i will return to my akeshu writing in time but Listen. listen. vashwood is akeshu but More #of course i still love my boys very much and i will not abandon them #but Objectively. as a pairing. vashwood is just getting to me So Much rn. they r so goofy and they r so tragic #akeshu is playing 5d chess with a million unsaid things. vashwood is two men caught up in a hell of a world #disagreeing ideologically but sticking with each other thru thick and thin. laughing and joking around and being best of friends #battle boyfriends. the only people who can keep up with each other. #the only human vash can lean on in a fight bc he knows he's not gonna just croak like most people #but in the end.......😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 #that poll made me really realize where my current priorities are. but really. we been knew. #and this is why im thinking about writing vashwood. still undecided about anything aside from vague alien smut lmfao #i'll come up with something. i should probably try to finish trimax first tho. 🤔🤔🤔🤔

[guideaus]

i think abt trigun too much, i couldnt help thinking of it even when i watched eeaao

#personal #when i watched mp100 i couldnt help but think it did the themes of love and forgiveness and all that better #and eeaao is obviously different. abt asian american families/generational trauma/mother-daughter relationships and all that #but w trigun's manga i cant help but always think of a nicer end i guess? #beyond just my wolfwood lives thing but even extending to knives #w him i really feel like it's undecided plot-wise i guess and could be whatever #i have a essay basically in my drafts for the conditions for it to work #but i cant help but think abt it ugh #and like joy chasing after her mother and her mom finally going to her and joy runs away even though she'd been wanting her... #im just like aaaaaaa