#your liberation comes from you

[genderkoolaid]

the most annoying thing abt anti-kink queer people is that when you point out that gayness has always been considered a kink by homophobes, they jump in with "umm but being gay isn't a kink!! that's homophobic!!!! saying that gay people and kinky people are in the same fight means you think gay people are gross perverts!!!! homophobia!!!!!!!!!!!"

like congratulations! you are doing exactly what they want!!!! in your desperate search for social acceptability you have tried to place yourself on the same side as straight people ("people with normal, non-offensive sexualities" vs "people with dangerous, offensive, strange sexualities") not understanding that they will never actually let you have the same social acceptance they do while ALSO helping them hurt the exact people they want to hurt who should be your closest allies!!! your hubristic desire for assimilation into the heterosexual american dream will most likely end with you thrown aside as a gross fag the first chance they get while in the mean time you are becoming an arm of the exact cisheteropatriarchy you claim to be against!!! aaaah!!!!!!!!!!!!

they will ALWAYS see us as gross perverts. they will see YOU as a gross pervert, a kinky freak, a sex criminal, even if all you ever do is politely hold hands with your partner and kiss them on the cheek. instead of trying to find a grosser pervert that you can help them condemn so they release you from gross perverthood, maybe try asking this question: what's so wrong with gross perverts?

#if you think your liberation will come from gaining the approval of homophobes you will never get liberation #and if you think liberation can never be achieved as long as we are looked down on by homophobes #you will be waiting on liberation until you die #m.

[very-lost-hobbit]

"US proxy war in Ukraine" Beating u with lead pipes

#Ukraine. is. fighting. a. genocide. Yes USA foreign policy has a lot to be critisized but a TINY SLIVER of a defence budget #being sent to Ukraine is NOT one of them (except the fucking. lack of actual teeth and backing but that's not unique to the US) #UKRAINE. WOULD FIGHT. ANYWAYS. YOU GODDAMN DINGDONGS. #And the more information that comes out from liberated territories the more I'm pissed off that people piss and moan #about arming Ukraine (WHICH THE US ISN'T EVEN DOING RIGHT NOW BECAUSE OF YOUR STUPID INTERNAL POLITICS!!!!) #rusbots fuck off it'll be block on sight I'm not arguing about this lmfao #I'm taking a break from internet I've seen too much of this shit lately peace gang see you in a few days ✌ #current events #kat gets personal #me #ukraine

[not-gray-politics]

Trans women. I'm grabbing you by the shoulders and yelling. YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE SKINNY TO BE FEMININE AND PRETTY AND CUTE. PLEASE STOP MAKING DIETS PART OF YOUR TRANSITION GOALS. WEIGHT LOSS IS A SCAM. I LOVE YOU. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELVES. YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL.

#I see so many transfems say they want to have “flat stomachs” or do diet and exercise regimes to try and get an “hourglass figure” #and it really worries me. girls you do not have to destroy yourselves to fit into unachievable beauty standards #the vast majority of cis women don't even fit those standards #and the same goes for you transmascs! I see you! I see you trying to get smaller chests and hurting yourselves with weight loss routines #and excessive workouts. it's not worth it. weight loss has OVER a 90% long-term failure rate and there's a reason for that #I assure you whatever diet you think you've found that “works for you” won't be working so well 5 years from now #and you're going to blame yourself for “slacking off”. but it's not you. it was never you. it was designed to fail. #these standards are made to hurt people and then sell them a false solution at the price of your health #I encourage you to transition if you'd like and live your best life I really do. but please please please do so SAFELY. #if weight loss is part of your transition goals please reevaluate WHY you believe thinness is necessary for achieving femininity #(or masculinity or androgyny but this stuff particularly affects women in the way it's marketed) #do research on fatphobia and the roots of weight loss culture. Learn where these ideas come from and why they're so prevalent. #It's extremely important #take care. stay safe. love you very much #trans #fat liberation #transgender #lgbt #trans rights #fat positivity #diet culture #fatphobia #transfem #trans positivity #transgirl #trans women #trans woman

[uncanny-tranny]

Do you believe in transandrophobia

I mean, I talk at length about being a trans man and the intersections of my trans manhood and interacting in a world which often doesn't want people like me to exist, so even if I don't really call my experiences that, maybe you might? I generally support people calling their experiences with oppression how they see it, which is why some trans men say they experience misogyny and some don't. Neither are "more correct" because we almost all experience transphobia, misogyny, and everything else slightly differently.

At the end of the day, trans liberation must happen with all of us no matter what their experience is. I've seen so much "discourse" surrounding terms like these when at the end of the day, we're still being oppressed no matter what we call our experiences. I think it's okay for people to label their experiences as they see fit, but I don't think that's the end-all-be-all. I guess my sole focal point is trans liberation before debating about what terms we have to use.

I always find asks like this to be very odd, mostly because I don't know what the context behind this is or why it's asked. If you want a more direct answer to my political or philosophical views, I really would at least like more details as to what inspired questions like these so I can clarify, expand, or discuss specific points.

#ask #anon #trans #transgender #lgbt #lgbtq #ftm #nonbinary #blog boundaries #(mostly for the last paragraph) #i think this ask is especially odd to me because i talk so often about being a trans man and what my experiences are #and also because 'believe in' is weird to me #like i follow a lot of other trans men* as well and other trans people who talk at length about trans lib and how they fit in with that #i think being able to engage with the idea that we must have each other's backs even if we aren't fond of each other is important #YES you're going to come across trans people you don't like or who use language for themselves you don't like... #...but how you treat them is more important. do you sacrifice them or do you include them in trans liberation? #are there trans people who you just don't like so you do your best to exclude them from trans liberation? #when i talk about trans liberation i don't mean that you have to like all trans people #hell *i* don't like all trans people. we're flawed and we can be plain TERRIBLE. but i don't exclude them from trans lib #not liking (and hating) people is part of the human condition 👍

[rotzaprachim]

you’re thinking about how easily massive numbers of the wildly antisemitic tankies would have been pulled into the actual political tenets of (esp early to mid 20th century) armed Zionism and you’re laughing?????

#This folks is why analysis of ideology and the structures of an ideology is important #Rather than just random ass ethnic signposting #A lot of people see Zionism as something suspicious and jewy that had to do with Jews - I don’t like them #But the reality of Zionism as an initially distinctly leftist branch of political ideology that sought to liberate an oppressed people #With that tiny niggly wiggly issue of the fact people might #Already have lived on that land???? Ohhhh boy #All these cottage core back to the land the world would be better if I could reject modernity and return to the ancient ways of Farming #Society is broken it cannot be fixed the only option is to found a New Tough society that will fix all our previous problems #And we’ll get round to it in heavily armed leftist commune farming settlements #Which we will defend with violence because any violence in the name of an oppressed people is justified and our legitimacy comes from the #Rifle!!! #The only reason you see this ideology as inherently removed and bizarre is antisemitism and the only reason you see yourself removed from i #Also antisemitism!!! #You would have done numbers in ahdut ha-avoda you would have called Ben gurion abbaleh/ #Remember: a bunch of the people who got sucked into this of ideology weren’t the *rich Republican aipac Jews*!*’ your head #They were broke often very secular Jewish leftists working dead end gig economy jobs in farms and sweatshops for whom the idea of a Brave #New World with a. Brave new culture was very appealing and liberating #It offered something new to the broken. #It’s important to talk about this stuff to talk about how it can be undone #But also. The world is not divided into the Oppressed and the Unoppressed #Your political ideology does not stop you from hurting others #No political ideology even anti capitalism or leftism is innately pure- all can harm others #No ethnic and cultural identity no matter how oppressed is free from the potential to subjugate others #No identity or ideology is greater than the right of other people to live freely #Cycles of oppression and the pyramid structure of many empires result in oppressed people harming other oppressed people #Many many goyim think that they’re removed from the logic of Zionism because they aren’t Jews because it’s something wierd and jewy #But I see a lot of the most destructive logics parroted by leftists every day

[samaspic31]

You can’t make this shit up you click on an article about how hamas hostages were treated (for the sake of checking yourself on bias and with the intention to verify it with multiple sources) and the headline will be « return from the horrors of hamas » and then the text is actually « they treated me rather well just didn’t have much food and i was in danger due to Israeli airstrikes” You know the shit the government claims necessary to rescue them. This world is bullshit

#sam speaks #idk what to tw this #let me know if it needs one. #the buas im media reporting is staggerring. the lack kf context. the misleading headlines. the biased picking. #oh yikes i typed hamas in the search bar and ‘’free palestine from Hamas’’ came up how fucking disgusting liberation has to come from within #anyways did you know people are incredibly politically shortsighted and bad at grasping scopes of violence and bias #(just in case yeah october 7 was an atrocity it must be understood as retaliation against colonialism tho) #the nyt article about a very moderately left newspaper going ‘’youre just jealous israel is successful (at war crimes ? sir)’’ FROM A FORMER #EMPLOYEE talk about bias broke me #also wikipedia constantly listing israeli deaths before and continuously giving credit to baseless accusations of antisemitism towards any #thing palestinian or even sympathetic. or even not violently against. sigh #also did you know the uk ambassador’s most ‘’progressive’’ stance ? that israel needs to ‘’harness the economic potential of its arab #community too’’ #im turning into the joker

[uncertainty5]

My thoughts on the Watcher drama youtube controversy

lol. lmao

#everyone is being stupid from every angle #go outside and touch grass #it will be very funny if their company goes under but i doubt it #wether they succeed or not will depend on if their already paying fans stay with them and theres enough new fans willing to pay for what is #essentially a single youtube channel with recycled buzzfeed content. And i say that as someone who enjoys puppet history and ghost files #i cant say they aren’t allowed to charge whatever they want no matter what the content is because thats their labor #but i think if u do pay for it then itd better be money you could see disappear from your wallet and not notice #but i do think theyre very very stupid for doing this lol. Ur fanbase is the mostly white tumblr liberal who watches true crime #u cultivated a parasocial fanbase through free content. This backlash is entirely expected. Even if a lot of it comes from content hungry #brain rot and the entitlement to art and media you have a parasocial relationship to #also if u say this is all stevens fault then drink bleach. I dont even care if its revealed as true. WE KNOW WHY UR SAYING IT #watcher drama

[irrigos]

ok i finished The Man Who Was Thursday. it's really funny to me that this book was so influential to fallen londons revolutionaries, when frankly, I think it ultimately has very little to say about anarchism and very much to say about God.

#i mean theres a lot about anarchists in the first few chapters #about how they're just haters basically #and also they're all rich because only rich people would actually want NO government #i think theres a line that's like 'The poor object to being governed badly. The rich object to being governed at all.' #which is... true i think tbh #but also comes from a deep misunderstanding of what an anarchist society would actually look like #but imo the conclusion of the book to me doesnt even really circle back to whether anarchists are evil destroyers or whatever #so i think it's funny that i keep finding analysis of the book that's like 'yeah your average woke liberal is basically like that' #ummmm ok counterpoint: Syme fucking loves trains tho #you know who else loves trains? leftists. hes one of ours bam i claimed him

[cuntylittlesalmon]

i’m finding it really hard to take more media discourse seriously right now because a lot of it tends to be hinder by emotional fragility. the “if something make me feel this type of way (namely the escapist, or the horny) it is inherently above criticism, and any attempts to critique (even if said critique is coming from a place of endearment) is an attack on my morality” stuff.

#esp when it relies on misogyny…….. #like attempting to create a new category of fiction is fine #it happens all the time. but when people tell you that creating That Specific Subgenre is futile & a defanging of the baked-in nature of #The Genre and you hit back with ‘but it’s WOMEN’S fiction!!!’ that is just misogyny #and the original critique was not commentary on your moral politics #however #you’re reaction is now that you have made it such #anyway. i saw a thread on ‘cozy horror’ and i wanted to scream #you are just describing GOTHIC. you are describing DOMESTIC. #these are things that already exist. and attempting to craft something new (and fucking vague as hell) out of it #on the basis of it being ‘by women for women’ (as comforting fiction should inherently be. no terrible bitchy women here no sir! /s) #is fucking futile. and misogynistic. #and this is coming from someone who regularly enjoys romance novels #i UNDERSTAND the desire for soft and escapist fiction #however when people find the politics in them & the discourses surrounding lacking….you can’t get in your feels about it #a lot of this reminds me of the rwrb discourse. it’s the poster child for escapist fiction. it also has some of the most milquetoast #liberalized politics. #like in your escapist fiction palestine is still being violently colonized? AND your find that jokes about that are acceptable? #before cmq removed the line there were tons and tons of these ‘escapist fiction’ readers in their feelings about being told that their book #baby had piss poor politics. are you incapable of seeing flaws in your favorite pieces of fiction? #i’m positive i could pull this into the fandomization of media consumption + the idea of media as identity but it’s dinner time #and i’m hungry :) #anw. sorry the tag essay for anyone who got this far 💀 #i have chronic can’t shut up disease #i would normally rant to my gf but she’s napping 🥺 and i don’t want to disturb her rn

[cyeayt]

being autistic in the mormon church

being autistic in the mormon church was, for me at least, a weird experience. because i wasn't excluded or mocked very often, just smothered in that strange warm beige obligation. because they could tell, they knew i was different just like i did. so they held my hand, told the other children to be nice to me, to make sure i felt included. and my peers did, cause they didn't have a choice, raised to be polite and kind no matter what just like i was. so i was included and invited places, always as an afterthought or a checked box but invited nonetheless, injected into conversations and games by adults that my peers wouldn't dare contradict. 'well meaning' adults who ask me if im okay or if i want to join the group, talking down in the sweetest tones. every christmas and on every birthday they still track me down to give me a card about how much they miss my 'unique perspective', even though i always tried my hardest to fit in and say the normal things.

"Look at that one. it's different and broken, but you must be kind to it. help it stay in the light of god, because god is the only way to save it. we're good, and righteous, and its so lucky to be in the church because we're the only ones who'll ever tolerate it, because that's what god wants."

and i miss it sometimes. standing on the edge of people who i desperately want to be friends with, flitting around in the back of stores and staring at concert posters indecisively until the date has passed. never finding the right spot in a conversation to talk, never working up the courage to ask if i can come too, i miss the people who had to be nice. who had me on a little list in their mind of what they need to get to heaven.

but im never going back. because even i could feel that it was fake. i felt watched and judged and pitied at all times, by peers who would ask me if i was coming then talk amongst themselves about jokes i didnt get and shared friends i didnt know. and i may be lonely now, but id rather do the work and be awkward and sick with nerves and find people and spaces that i actually want to be in who actually want me to be there, even if it seems impossible now. id rather that than go back to that warm suffocating place, familiar like the worst kind of family.

also telling that all the adults im talking about are either women/afab people or members of the bishopric, people whose 'job' it is to be welcoming and nurturing, though these experiences are mostly from young womens so that would also be it, but even women who arent involved in the yw leadership are raised and taught and obligated to do this and i dont blame any of them but its always made me wildly uncomfortable. never as much as random men who would sit down next to me and just start talking like we knew each other tho so eh

#exmormonism #exmo #autism #actually autistic #neurodivergent #no hate pls its all highly personal to me if you find it inaccurate make your own post #this isnt good or articulate but do you get what im saying? #in other words every mormon adult talks to me like im two and wants to make sure i know where my parents are #i know this isnt just me cause ive seen the same shit with some other queer and autistic people in my ward #but sry if this doesnt fit your experience ive mostly been part of nauseatingly liberal wards in blue cities #i used to come home from activity days every week screaming and sobbing cause i started to be able to feel how different and disconnected #i was from the other kids #everyone misses me everyone wants to know what im reading everyone wants me to know that the church loves me and so wont i stay #wont i let them love me like a sick bird in a cage #and now people are nice in way that tells me im free to come back #questioning isnt a sin as long as you find the answers in god #youll be forgiven all of this if you just come back #ugh i dont even know #salt lake city #but im singing it like the 979 theme #utah #trans #nonbinary #this isnt even about that its just another internal feeling that makes me feel different #religion #religious trauma

[mirrorfalls]

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#I guess I shouldn't shoot off about these things when I never studied political science in-depth #But I find it oddly impressive that nobody's (yet) come out and said #That they consider Trump the... not lesser but more preferable of two evils #*Because* he'll fuck up the USA on top of all the other countries #Which has its own appeal for those who think America is already too far gone (was *born* too far gone) and the only justice is its death #This was - for better or worse - the lesson most people take from World War II #(Not exclusively liberal or conservative *or* Western) #That a country with a long enough rap sheet can't be internally reformed - only burned to the ground and rebuilt externally #(There was a limited version of the sentiment floating around at the start of Covid I think) #(Where people called the body count and Trump's bungling response to it America/capitalism's just deserts) #(I guess they cut that out right quick) #... anyway I'm not too sure why I started writing this #Maybe because I find it headscratchy that every anti-Trump post on here talks about his malice and his incompetence in the same breath #When these two things have basically opposite pulls on the far-leftists that are (supposedly) so crucial to Biden winning #'What is good for the Democratic Party is good for America' is already a shaky sell to people who aren't lifelong Blue voters #'What is good for America is good for the world' - you try that one at your own peril

[your-villainous-neighbour]

"Makeup is literally the best part of being a gi-" no. please leave my house.

#jesus fuck i hate twitter so much #do you not see how harmful this rhetoric is. do you not see how sad it is that youve decided #making your face look appealing to another should NOT be the best part of being a giel #it's not fuckjng t*rf rhetoric to say sit back and examine where your fixation on looking flawless comes from #if you truly are doing it only for yourselr #why do you not do it when you're home alone #why do you do it differently/to varying degrees based on who you're hanging out with #why do you not do it when you're depressed? #there's absolutely nothing wrong with make up but it's worth examining why choice feminism seems insistent #on taking the onus off women in liberation. taking the onus off women to introspect and work on internalised misogyny #patriarchy isn't just within men it's within me and it's within you #i do my makeup every morning before college. nonetheless i recognise where this comes from and I dont consider it the best part of #being feminine #there are much better parts to being feminine #even as a joke. it's fucking stupid. #''best part of being a girl is when my man tells me what to do'' see how that sounds

[marshmallowprotection]

Okay so - Kait, please forgive me for this extremely cringe and just...'ugh, really? 🙄' request. ;;

...would Ray like a...let's say, who does very much not fit in to what's conventionally 'pretty'...?

I've always been a tomboy, through and through.

I've never even touched makeup, my skin isn't...great, and I've never worn a dress or skirt in my life.

...what would Ray think of that?! He certainly seems to like more...feminine girls.

...aaah ;;;

Ray, please like me! 😭😭😭

Hey, Anon.

Let's make one thing abundantly clear so you don't have to feel any self-doubt, Ray loves you no matter what. It doesn't matter what aesthetic you prefer to align yourself with when you choose what you like to wear or how you like to use style.

As long as you are the object of his affection, that's the only thing that matters to him. You mean the world to him because you are the person that you are. He is obsessed with you and only you. That means that it doesn't matter what you dress like, what you look like, or anything of that nature. You are already his idealized fantasy. 

You don't have to change anything about yourself nor do you have to fill a role to be the person he loves. He already wants you as you are so there's nothing you need to change or feel insecure about when it comes to your appearance, personality, or what have you. 

You don't need to change anything about yourself because he is already infatuated with the idea of you. 

He's been dreaming of the day that you could come into his life so he would finally know what it felt like the field desired by the object of his affection. You are the very reason he's been able to survive in hell for so long. He has been living in what is basically a stewing pit of Hell for God knows how long and the only thing that's helped him get through this suffering is the thought of knowing that one day you would be able to join him.

Then, it would no longer feel as though he's suffering because he would finally have the reward at the end of the line. Ray would be able to experience happiness at the Eternal party because you would be there with him and it would all be worth it. That's his goal.

The only thing you need to think about is how to convince him that you do like him as much as he likes you. However, I can see where you came to the conclusion that he might not be as obsessed with you as he might be with someone who loves to dress up!

Many of the people who like him in the fandom are people who love to play into his theatrics and love of fairy tales. Not everyone, but a decent chunk of people love the idea of being able to dress up and play the role of a princess or prince for Ray.

The reason why a lot of people play into this is that everybody understands that what Ray wants more than anything is to be able to live inside a fairytale where he is the prince that gets to whisk you away to happily ever after. You don't have to fit the conventional role of his love interest in that story aesthetically or whatever you think you need to fit to be his object of affection. This is more about him being able to fill the role that he wants more than anything.

This is about him being able to be your prince. It's honestly less about you being the princess/prince for him.

Don't get it twisted and don't feel insecure about yourself because you don't feel like you fit into a role that is staunchly more quote-un-quote, “feminine”, than you are comfortable with. You don't need to wear dresses or skirts, you don't need to have "flawless" skin, and you don't need to be something that you aren't.

What I mean by that is that you don't need to force yourself to be somebody else to be loved by somebody. If you are a lot more comfortable not bothering with makeup or frilly clothes, that’s fine! You don't have to be interested in those things nor do you need to use them to make him like you. He already likes you.

In fact, if you are trying to be something you aren't so you can feel affection from another person? That person isn't worthy of your time or care in the first place. The person who is the object of your affection should be somebody that loves you back without hesitation or contempt for things that make you— you. The person you're with should love you for who you are, not what you can be for them by erasing yourself. 

So, no, you don't need to be whatever you think you need to be to fit Ray’s “fantasy”. You don't need to be a princess or a prince to be the person he adores. All you need to do is be yourself. It doesn't matter who you are or how you appear, if you are his MC, then you are the most wonderful person he's ever seen in his life. Male, female, non-binary, or however you identify, Ray loves you just as much as you love him. Girly, tomboy, or whatever aesthetic you have, he loves you all the same.

Also, I hope you know that you do not have to be “conventionally attractive.” Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and just because you don't fit some societal standard for what beauty is, doesn't mean that you aren't beautiful.

The idea of what is "beautiful" is constantly changing and it never stays the same. That's why you shouldn't hold yourself to standards because they never stay the same. All you need to focus on is being yourself and as long as you're happy with yourself, you will find somebody that understands you and cherishes you the way you deserve to be. 

Don't just apply this to this circumstance that you feel insecure about yourself when it comes to Ray.

Take that lesson to heart as somebody who has spent a long time unlearning what it means to be beautiful. Societal standards can really beat you down no matter how hard you try to like the person looking back at you in the mirror. Once you realize that the standard that everybody wants you to reach is not obtainable?

That's when you should focus on being yourself and enjoying Who You Are. It can take a long time to learn how to do that and I'm not saying it's the easiest thing you're ever going to challenge in your life. But, what I am saying is once you stop trying to feel like you need to be something you aren't, it feels like a weight leaves your chest and you can breathe.

None of us are ever going to fit what societal standards define as “beautiful.” You have to learn how to see the beauty in who you are. There's no right or wrong way to learn how to do that. Everybody has to take their own path when it comes to realizing that they don't need to try so hard to fit a bubble that isn't for them.

You don't need to change who you are to be loved. 

The people who really matter are going to be the people who love you as you are. 

#For real #When I was a child #The ‘beauty standard’ was much different than it is right now #And I am still personally affected by what those things did to me #It's taking a long time to unlearn that stuff #But the most liberating thing I can share #Is that when you realize that the standards are nothing more than trends that always change #You realize that there's no point in trying to keep up with all this bullshit #If people don't like you at face value #They sure as hell don't deserve you #If they don't love you when you're at your most comfortable #They do not deserve you when you want to quote-unquote dress up #I'm saying this is somebody who also isn't ‘conventionally attractive’ #Society is really shallow #This is coming from a person who spent the first 19 years of her life as a fat person #Fat is not an ugly word by the way #When I got sick and I lost so much weight because of it #People started treating me differently #Suddenly I had value and I was ‘more attractive’ #And let me tell you that experiencing that was enough to let me know #That beauty standards are bullshit #I had value no matter what size I was #You are wonderful no matter who you are #And I am so sorry that Society has made you feel like you need to be something you aren't to be loved by somebody #Ray doesn't need you to be a princess #All he needs is for you to be yourself #ask #anon #mod kait #tw insecurity

[aromanticjangofett]

christianity literally gives you brainrot

#i'm not even going to specify evangelica christian because fuck it i'm tired #own up to your shit #if i'm not talking about your liberal inclusive church that actively works against bigotry then i'm not talking about you liberal church #billions of people. not caring about well being of humans if it doesn't 'come from god' #not being able or refusing to think about what causes harm #god is the most important you know that god is the most important right? he created everything do you not believe in god are you against go #repeating repeating repeating always coming back to this turning off your brain and heart and conscience your humanity #but humanism is evil i know i've been told that by so many people writing so many godly books #millions of people being told that. thinking they're learning how to be ethical #they took away my mother from me #they fucked up my life #they're the reason queer people don't have any rights #wish i could talk with my mom like with a normal person #like with someone who isn't killing their heart constantly