#yta

[animentality]

#reddit #common decency rule #loud music #being a public nuisance #aita #yta

[one-time-i-dreamt]

I can't believe I am saying this but I hope she divorces him

#not a dream #aita #am i the asshole #yta #reddit #abuse tw

[pluralaita]

Plural Am I The Asshole

Hello, and welcome to plural aita, for anyone who identifies as plural to ask their burning questions about if they are, in fact, the asshole. Every post will have a poll to decide if the verdict!

Poll Guide

YTA = You’re the asshole NTA = Not the asshole (the other party is) JAH = Justified asshole (you’re an asshole, but like, I get it) NAH = No assholes here (everyone is some level of justified) ESH = Everyone sucks here (you’re all assholes) INFO = Not enough information to judge

Now, let's set some ground rules!

No endogenic vs traumagenic discourse

No fake-claiming

No graphic descriptions of abuse

No "AITA for feeling/thinking [blank]" asks. Instead consider what actions you want to take based on those feelings or thoughts. Don't be scared; the anon toggle is your friend.

Mod intros under the cut!

🤍: hi we’re mod checks notes wilson, uhh did system of. 30?? and we had a prophetic dream of this blog 2 years ago

💙: Wsg we're mod coumo. DID system of 50 probably idk. Awakened mod wilson's memory of their dream by having the same idea out of nowhere and also made the blog icon

🩷: We're mod sharp! We're a traumagenic system of about 30 and we made the banner of this blog!

🩵: we’re mod bell! she/they. traumagenic DID sys of 40ish. we don’t do much we just thought this was funny and like drama. DEAD: 2/21

We're mod Welsh. I^ wasn't given a heart because we arent allowed to post. System of about 100 and counting.

❤: Hi! we're mod cropper. he/it prns, and were a quoigenic / agenic system of over 300. we are here because we are very cool (not at all biased)

#dissociative identity disorder #otherwise specified dissociative disorder #DID #OSDD #plural #plurality #plural system #aita #endogenic #endo safe #plural community #actually plural #system #pluralgang #did osdd #osddid #did system #actually did #nta #yta

[vesperione]

AND HOW ABOUT WE DONT POST NPMD DIGITAL TICKET CLIPS ON YOUTUBE BECAUSE ITS STILL PAYWALLED CONTENT, AND HOW ABOUT WE DONT COMMENT “BUTT OUT CHASTITY” UNDER COMMENTS ASKING FOR THE CLIP TO BE TAKEN DOWN

#POSTING PAYWALLED CONTENT DIRECTLY HARMS THE COMPANY. #IVE SAID IT ONCE AND I’LL SAY IT AGAIN #YOU POST PAYWALLED CONTENT AND STARKID LITERALLY HATE YOU #THEYVE GOT AN ENTIRE WIGGLY HIGHLIGHT ON INSTA SAYING THIS EXPLICITLY #YTA #starkid #npmd

[captain-acab]

AITA for adopting one of my brother's daughters while he's in a coma?

And yes, "one of" because he had two daughters. But! In my defense, I honestly never even knew the second one (20F) was alive. I had vaguely known about her, but she was the older sister and we'd never even spoken. She was never in the picture... until like three days ago.

Let me explain. My brother (45M) and I (44M) have been estranged for a long time. We used to be close, but politics got between us and we fought. It was bad, I'm not going to deny that. Once he gave me a black eye, it got super infected and never healed right. I used to hate him. Situations change though, and we finally had a chance for a reunion. All things considered, I was really looking forward to it.

Then everything went to shit. I'm not going to get into it but there was a huge fire—it was a freak accident, and before you ask, no I had nothing to do with it—and my brother and all his kids got trapped in a collapsing building. In the aftermath, the only ones I could find were my brother, and the girl who's now my daughter (now 17F). My brother was hurt really bad, though. He's been in a coma since then. Honestly I'm not sure if he'll ever wake up, but his doctor is a friend of mine and I've made sure they don't pull the plug. My brother's a fighter; I'm sure he wouldn't want that.

But after the accident... His daughter was there, all alone. Basically orphaned, no other family to speak of. Did I have my brother's permission? No. Did I legally have the right to adopt? Probably, I didn't actually take it in front of judge. I was all she had. I've raised her as my own daughter, I love her like my own daughter. She's had a number of mental health issues that I don't want to get into rn, but I've been supportive all the way, and while I'm unmarried, my pharmaceutical company does well enough that I can get her everything she needs.

Here's the issue, though. Remember that other daughter? She just showed up out of the blue, all grown now, and acts like I'm some terrible person for stealing her kid sister. Where was she, you ask? The day after the fire, she went and landed herself in prison. She's a real character—anger issues, trouble with the law going back to childhood, the whole nine yards—but boy does she think I'm The Asshole! Like, I was there for your sister, where the hell were you? Oh yeah, in fucking prison. (Sorry if this is coming across as unsympathetic. It's literally the first time I've talked with her face-to-face and she accuses me of being a groomer. She has this whole victim complex where she's convinced I'm the reason for everything that went wrong with her life). What's worst is, I think my daughter's starting to believe her.

Soon I'll be running for political office, and this older sister is coming in and trying to tear my family apart with her bear hands. She even got a cop* to start investigating my pharmaceutical company! (*I'm pretty sure she's fucking the cop. Like I said, she's a real piece of work.) Now a city council member got my main factory shut down, my business partners are calling for my head, this whole situation is exacerbating my daughter's psychosis, and I'm about at my limit. All because I dared to be a decent father.

Tldr: My estranged brother's in a coma, so I took in one of his daughters, and now the daughter I didn't adopt is calling me a monster. What do you think fellow Zaunites, AITA?

#Aita #Am I the asshole #Nta #Yta #Mine #lol #Funny #Netflix #Tw: unreality #Arcane #League of legends #Vi #Jinx #Powder #Silco #Vi arcane #jinx arcane #Powder arcane #jinx and silco

[mommyhorror]

#YTA

[aita-auto-tagger-test]

tumblr hi am i the asshole????

This is a test blog! I’m trying to see if I can get a script running that will tag a post with the result of an AITA poll

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole #testest #beep #YTA #closed

[tuliptiger]

Vent, don't read if it isn't your thing. I'm an asshole in this event.

We all make mistakes we are flawed beings but I do feel rotten for hurting someone. I was staying at their place here and there, it was very personal for them and a big deal to let someone stay in their house. They have extensive PTSD, an autoimmune disease and a couple other things.

We kind of had a clash or more rather my foot in my mouth situation kind of right when I was deciding to leave permanently anyway. It lined up with them letting me know how, where and why I hurt them. I just feel rotten.

I wasn't as diligent, considerate or thoughtful as I should have been with their autoimmune disease among other things. I hate that it ended that way and I should've left a month ago when I was having doubts and even voiced to them about like hey if me being here is a hazard let me know.

I should've just called it then. I know I can do better and be better but honestly I don't see myself being able to be friends with them anymore without hurting them. Maybe I'm just not that good of a person, maybe I'm lazy and inconsiderate but with everything else going on in my life as an excuse I just dont think I can juggle that.

I did sincerely apologize but it didn't feel great, I can never say the right thing at the right moment. I can do better I can do better yeah but it takes time and patience that I just don't have right now. I feel callous and mean with my thoughts and feelings. I feel like I can't defend myself either, with them it felt like a one sided conversation too.

I didn't voice any of this to them because it isn't about me, it's about my behavior and the things I said hurting them. I was deciding to leave because I just didn't see us matching up at all living style wise. It may have hurt them to hear but my issues and way of living doesn't match up with theirs at all. I have depression, anxiety, ADHD and I'm pretty sure I'm on the spectrum. I have limited amounts of energy and am kind of gross because of it, there are only so many things I'm able to do and sometimes washing my hands isn't a priority. I was raised poor and rural, doesn't mean I can't learn and do better but that is how I live.

Is that an excuse? Absolutely not whatsoever. Did we not match up? Yeah I still maintain that in a totally neutral way of like hey we just don't mesh well. I said it in a fucked up way I think though, I called both of our many issues neurosis and looking back after they told me, yeah it kind of was insensitive for me to say that to them. I didn't mean it that way but I did say it none the less. Their habits and choices of living were because of the autoimmune disease not because of a neurosis. It was because an awful disease they have no control over and takes control of their life in terrible ways and turns their body against them.

I just couldn't live in the same house with them and honestly it sounds like they can't live with a person as inconsiderate and unhygienic as I am. They didn't say it but I know that I was and I didn't meet that standard. I just didn't, nothing derogatory or self demeaning about it.

Idk I just wanted to talk this out because I feel bad, and rightly so I think. I'm just mad at myself I wasn't able to say it in a better way to them and that kind of did lead to a falling out of sorts. They still said they wanted to be friends but I don't see it happening. And maybe I'll just make the choice for both of us and follow through on that.

I know that's a dick move and probably doesn't show my remorse but I don't have the energy or capacity for it. I feel bad for that but I don't think I should honestly, I think it's the best decision for both of us and the way things have been going our thoughts seem to line up pretty well on these issues. I don't want to talk to them again about a hard issue so close to the last one either.

I think it should be fine for 2 people to just...not mesh well and it not be some huge awful thing. I just want to be able to be like hey, I don't see us being friends because I don't think I can step up to the plate and be a better person right now. i just see myself hurting you again, I'm sorry and I wish you well no ill will but I can't be friends right now. And them not take it personally because it really isn't about them. Anyway. If this was an aita I already know I'm the asshole.

#words #I'm pretty harsh I think #I know I'm in the wrong though #I just don't know what to do about it #and it feels bad #sorry if this ruins anyones image of me #or if it hurts you because you relate #I can't change my feelings #vent #iata #yta

[aitapokemon]

AITA for not putting my Happiny back in it’s pokeball while on a bus?

So, my happiny just recently hatched and is a very energetic little baby. She hates being put into her pokeball and loves to run around and explore. I always keep a close eye on her of course, and make sure she doesn’t get too far, but she is only a week old and is already very independent! Anyways, while on the bus the other day she was running around up and down the aisle and kept on trying to get near some other peoples pokemon, who didn’t feel like putting up with her, even though she was just trying to make friends. An older passenger told me that she was being a menace and to put her back into her ball. I thought that was rude, and told him that she wasn’t doing anything wrong and is just a baby, she’s just exploring and wants to get to know the world. He had a couple of more foul words for me, then left the bus with his Buneary, that actually hissed at my Happiny! So, was I the AH? I know that babies can be hard to handle, but I still feel like he was very rude.

YTA for putting your happiny in danger. Even if you’re watching her, if you’re allowing her to run around (ON A BUS no less, you didn’t put her seatbelt on?) and pester unknown pokemon she could get hurt. You don’t know how well trained the other mons on the bus are, what would you do if one snapped at or Arceus forbid attacked her? If you want her to make friends you should let her do it in a safe and friendly environment. Not on public transit.

#aita for letting my infant roll around on the floor of a moving car? smh #y’all come into my askbox with the most WILD takes #pkmn irl #pkmn rp #aita #anonymous #ask #yta

[mu-esli]

You’re not the ass hole… you could have asked for more context about his piece… what was he trying to express? Is it for an assignment what’s the goal?

Everyone isn’t going to enjoy everyone’s art. It’s art. Critiques are hard, try to remain objective as you navigate school.

But you are allowed to be thrown off, remind someone they are going down a slippery rabbit hole that may not translate well, and it’s important to tell ppl to touch grass.

Don’t stop staying it try to provide context

With what I remember of his drawing, if I had asked "what are you trying to express through this piece?" it would have sounded VERY MUCH passive aggressive lol

But maybe that was a more subtle response yeah

#aita #yta #i am the asshole

[asaichiban]

the annoyed look on asaichi's face before he gives in <3

#yta #ytanu ec #ytanu

[yt-asylum]

#youtube intro #YouTube Asylum #Yta

[lizseyi]

The Cskills Awards Bricklaying EWPA Offers A Quick Route To Site Work - YTA

We may be known here at YTA for our beginner and advanced bricklaying courses alike, but it isn’t just training in this crucial trade that we provide; we can also offer a fast-track assessment route to enable you to truly fast-forward your career. 

This is – of course – a reference to our Experienced Worker Practical Assessment (EWPA) pathway, whereby already-experienced bricklayers only need to join us at our Yorkshire assessment centre for one full day (or two days at most), in order to achieve an NVQ Level 2 qualification. 

We make available the EWPA route for various trades – including wall and floor tiling, site carpentry and plastering, as well as bricklaying. 

Whichever pathway one chooses, the broad principle of the EWPA remains the same; through a practical assessment, you can prove that you already have an NVQ Level 2 standard of skills and knowledge, and thereby obtain the blue skilled worker CSCS card that will enable you to gain work on a construction site. 

What are the specifics of the bricklaying EWPA, in particular? 

If it is the bricklaying EWPA that you are especially interested in – and you would be eligible for this route if you have at least five years’ experience in bricklaying – then the principle of how it works is simple. 

When you visit our NVQ centre on the Leeds side of Bradford in West Yorkshire, you will be able to use the skills you have acquired over the years to complete a task, which will then be assessed. 

Your skills as a bricklayer will be evaluated by our NVQ assessor, through a combination of the practical assessment itself, witness testimonies, professional discussion, and direct questioning. 

The bricklaying EWPA is made up of five mandatory units, covering such matters as conforming to general workplace safety, conforming to efficient work practices, the movement and handling of resources, and the erection and setting out of masonry structures. 

You can further support your bid for this EWPA by picking out an optional unit from a long list, encompassing aspects such as erecting masonry cladding in the workplace, the maintenance of slate and tile roofing, and the installation of drainage, to name just a few. 

If, as a consequence of going through the EWPA process, you show that you have reached the standards of the NVQ Level 2 qualification, you will be told of this by the assessor at the end of the day. As a successful candidate, you will gain the Cskills Awards Level 2 NVQ Diploma in Trowel Occupations (Construction) QUA813. 

Would you like to find out more about this pathway for rapidly upgrading your career? 

There aren’t too many training or assessment routes out there that could have such a profound impact on your employability, as this one. So, why not reach out to the YTA team to learn more about what is involved if you take on the bricklaying EWPA, and whether it could be a suitable choice for you? 

Don’t forget that we also offer a variety of other novice and advanced bricklaying courses to help the development of your career. We are one of the most trusted accredited construction training centres in the UK here at YTA, and for good reason. 

#yta

[daddykazuki]

u/daddykazuki on r/AITA

Am I (39M) the asshole for telling my partner (36M) of fourteen years that I’m not gay? 

No, I am not gay, but I do have an adopted daughter with him, share a bed with with him, and we own and run a restaurant together. I went out with a woman yesterday for the first time in years, and he’s mad at me. I didn’t even sleep with her! Am I the asshole?! 

Edit: No, me and the partner are not having sex. 

Edit #2: We adopted our wonderful daughter eleven years ago because we’re family and that’s all I’m going to say in the matter all of you fuck off. 

Edit #3: Stop replying to this post goddamn it I will apologize to him. 

Edit #4: I’m gay. 

#buddy daddies #kazurei #LOL #I love reddit kazuki #wanted to make this into a proper fic but #maybe another time #I might add in the replies later telling Kazuki YTA #and the man arguing with them online #kazuki kusuru #rei suwa

[geniusphilester]

AITA for wearing a wedding dress to my son's wedding?

my son (M, young adult) and his partner (M, young adult) have been engaged for a long time. i (M, elder) thought i might die before i saw them walk down the aisle. but after five long years, the wedding day finally came, and everything was going well: there was good food, i gave my future son-in-law a tip for his piano playing, and, most importantly, i was wearing a snazzy suit. eye-catching, but not attention-grabbing.

it wasn't until everyone was gathering for the ceremony that everything fell apart. i'm not sure what happened! one minute, it felt like the universe glitched. the next, i was wearing a strapless white wedding gown. i'm not kidding; there have definitely been brides who said their vows wearing this thing. i'd never seen it before in my life, but suddenly, i'm slumping around the venue looking like a beautiful, sad angel.

in a moment of panic, i decided to just push through and not interrupt the ceremony. things went okay at first. my son walked down the aisle, his fiance's brother scattered pedals, and then...my son ran away from the wedding. clearly i upset him so much that he couldn't stand to look at me, dressed in white in the front row. fortunately, my now son-in-law saved the day and both the ceremony and the reception happened without a hitch.

still, i feel terrible. i did sit-ups at the reception while they were cutting the cake to cope with my feelings, but i could have so easily ruined that, too. i haven't managed to ask my son if he hates me, but i'm convinced he does. AITA?

#after midnight on christmas and this is how i'm spending my time #i'm sorry (?) #3 #4 #5 #my ramblings #dapg #sims #gamingmas #my vote is that bob pancakes is NTA #my wedding stories? YTA

[aita-blorbos]

AITA for fating all my friends to die?

I need to be clear. The vision I received was not a possibility. My friend and I tapped into the world's most powerful divination magic that would pluck one strand from fate and give that future definite truth. It's not a matter of interpretation or vague prophecy or one branch in the path. The vision is and will be.

Just tapping into that much power nearly killed my friend; he had to be the main conduit because he actually uses divination, not me. We came up with the idea together, behind everyone else's backs, so it's not like I forced him, but if I just said no, he wouldn't have done it, and everyone wouldn't be doomed.

I just wanted to know. I had to know if I could win the coming fight. I thought it mattered too much to leave it unknown, but now I know we'll all die. I saw our old enemies slaughtering us, my friends sacrificing themselves and turning on each other, all of us slowly dropping, put down like dogs, while I'm inevitably trapped where I can't help them. And I felt it all. I felt my friends' hearts stop in my own chest. I tasted the doom I divined.

Of course I didn't want this. But of course I knew it could happen, and now I know it will. I even saw the end of this poll (58% YTA). The only reason I'm typing this is to make sure that everything I experienced is as unavoidable as I know it to be. I at least want to confirm that there's absolutely nothing I can do to save them before I give up.

#aita #am i the asshole #unreality #voters if you dont give this 58% yta im deleting the blog. the wizard has spoken