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In case you missed it, here's the Intro episode to "Ace of Hearts: A Podcast for Alloromantic Asexuals"! Spotify | YouTube | Apple

The thumbnail is me grabbing u and bringing you along on this journey LOLOL (only if u want to come along!)

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Flashback to that one moment where it felt like I'd found an aroace cheatcode on life somehow

#qpr #art

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Our "Ace of Hearts: A Podcast for Alloromantic Asexuals" is LIVE!

Spotify | YouTube | Apple Podcasts

Thank you all so much for the messages of support and enthusiasm. They really mean a lot to me, as it's nerve-wracking to put yourself out there, but worth it every time! 💜

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I know I shouldn’t be so upset about this but it pisses me off when people use the term “asexual” to describe a lack of romantic attraction or just assuming all asexuals lack romantic attraction because for me it’s like using the term “lactose intolerant” to describe an allergy to polyester.

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spACE

Art inspired by the Ace flag to celebrate the International Asexuality Day

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We go live TOMORROW! 💜

Tune into the first episode of "Ace of Hearts: A Podcast for Alloromantic Asexuals" tomorrow morning (4/24/2024)

YouTube

Spotify

Podcast description: "The dating world is no easy place for asexuals - people who experience little to no sexual attraction. But none of us have to go it alone. Take a step into our digital clubhouse, a space for alloromantic asexuals to share stories, tips, laments, and laughs. So grab an iced drink, sink into that fuzzy pink beanbag, and join us as we navigate all things love."

#asexual pride #podcast #celebrate asexuality #asexual #asexuality #alloromantic #acepride #lgbtqia #asexual awareness #asexual education #acespec #acespectrum #lgbt #ace #ace podcast #asexual podcast #ace of hearts #alloromantic asexual

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My interpretation of the aro ace flag

sanctioned by my aro ace friend @determinedowl23

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🖤💜 Happy international asexuality day! 🖤💜🐀

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to others, or low or absent interest in or desire for sexual activity 🖤💜

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This year marks me identifying as Asexual for 11 years now. Ask me anything! I would love to help anyone with questions or offer insights for you all. :)

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A lil compilation of ace pride artwork I’ve made over the past year! 💜

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The Space Belongs to the Ace

Happy International Asexuality Day! I thought I'd make a tribute not only to all my fellow aces out there but also to space. To me, my asexuality is, on some level, connected to outer space, and I know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

If you don't know what I mean by that, let me tell you why.

Space has always meant a lot of me as a kid long before I discovered my asexuality. It is defined as a near-perfect vacuum. Outside of celestial bodies, there is almost nothing out there. No air. No other signs of life as far as we are concerned.

Yet if you look beyond, you can discover something beautiful... You can discover stars that have been here for over a millenia. You can discover spirals that are expanding and will continue to expand. You can discover colours and shapes that can captivate you or even comfort you, telling you that everything will be okay.

That's how I felt when I was finally able to label my experiences. That same wonder astronauts feel when they make a new discovery about space? It is the same wonder I felt when I first heard the term "asexual".

Now there are people who are pushing us out of the LGBT+ community. Even after we built our own as they insisted, people still harrass us for "not being oppressed enough" or for "making up a sexuality" or even "endangering the kids by confusing them with something unnatural".

It's 2024. We can't keep pushing away our fellow members when the world is already pushing us away from society. Exclusionism has only ever served to tear us apart while the people who want to hurt us sit back and let us do the work for them. We can't keep doing this. We deserve to have our space.

We belong here too.

#Ik it's not ace day anymore but tbh EVERY day is ace day to me hehe #the way this warmed my heart

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***TW ACEPHOBIA*** TW HOMOPHOBIA *** TW TRANSPHOBIA***

For all the people that always try to debate Yasmin on Twitter, saying: "Why do aces need rights? No one is attacking you, no one cares that you're asexual"

Well, this is just a fraction of the hate we received on Facebook after publicizing our Tr(ace)y project last May:

People seem to care a lot!

Until we can post freely and unapologetically about being ace and get a much bigger ratio of support than hate, we will always keep doing the work. If this is what our project received, I can't even imagine what Yasmin gets in a day. Shoutout to the most badass ace queen ever. Always reminding us to block out the haters!

Promoting education, understanding & compassion always! 💜

#tw acephobia #tw transphobia #tw homophobia #tw #asexual #asexuality #ace #asexual community #asexual education #asexual awareness #hate #spread love #lgbtqia #tracey project #yasmin benoit #asexualpride #pride #LGBT #LGBTQ #pride2023 #pridemonth #pridemonth2023 #LBGTQIA #LGBTpride #acepride #lgbtcommunity #ally #allies #lgbt🌈 #acememes

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Shoutout to aces who are ace because of trauma

Shoutout to aces who've had crushes before

Shoutout to aces with partners

Shoutout to single aces

Shoutout to aroaces

Shoutout to alloaces

Shoutout to aces who are not having a good day

Shoutout to visually impaired aces who can't acess half the Ace Day posts out tvere

Shoutout to neurodivergent aces (eg. autistic ppl because today is double your day ad narcisistic aces because yal are awesome)

Shoutout to aces who love Alastor from Hazbin Hotel

Shoutout to aces who hate Alastor from Hazbin Hotel

Shoutout to young aces (you're not too young to know)

Shoutout to questioning aces (since today is Ace Day you get a free 24h trial with the label, if you like it you can keep trying it)

And shoutout to simply all the aces I didn't mention here, yall are rocking!!! I am very happy you all are here!!!

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RESPECT ALL ASPEC IDENTITIES EVEN IF YOU DONT UNDERSTAND THEM

Get this message onto everyone’s dash rn

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LITERALLY SAME

Credit: mumastsi

#me #asexual #jokes #asexual memes #meme #memes #ace memes #asexuality #asexual pride #asexual problems #asexual awareness #lgbtqia #ace #acespec #asexual spectrum #demisexual #demi #gray #graysexual #greyace #grayace #asexual spec

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Last night I had a conversation with a couple of friends, trying to explain to them how I've been wondering for several months now if I'm asexual. I felt like I had to explain every single reason why I do and they kept telling things like "maybe you just haven't found the right partner" , "maybe there are still some (other) things you could do in bed which don't involve penetration..." Or asking me Qs like: "but do you still masturbate, right?" And they didn't understand that aces can also masturbate.

The main question here is... Do you think I should continue getting myself into situations I know for sure are uncomfortable for me? Just for the sake of "finding out if I'm really ace". I think they're just invalidating my speech tbh. Maybe they don't believe in asexuality????

I'm so sorry that your friends weren't very understanding. I find that a lot of allosexual people see asexuality as a "problem"/"less fulfilling experience" and offer their perspective on fixing said "problem" or trying to find solutions to it. However - these "solutions" are made for allosexual people, not aces. Because your friends inherently see their personal experience as "correct", they may try and steer you in the direction that they, as allos, would find solutions in - "others things in bed without penetration" etc etc. I try not to assume any harm is meant by this, as it seems more like ignorance than maliciousness, but I also don't know your friend-group & dynamics. I totally feel your frustration in having to explain yourself, and have people always "devil's-advocate" you in conversation. I also pondered for many years whether I was ace or not, and had frustrating conversations as well.

Typically, if people have to *wonder * if they are something, 9 times out of 10 they are . Yes, it's perfectly normal for people to wonder things, and even allos at some point in their life might have wondered if they were ace. But the difference here is that you have pondered on this for months. You have had time to think about your experience and usually when people suspect they are ace, they never do so flippantly. If sexual attraction has never come naturally or easy to you, I think you very well may be ace. If asexual is the label that best aligns with how you feel, then you are asexual! I want you to know there is nothing wrong with using a label that fits you now, even if it changes later. Some lucky people find their label that perfectly describes them, and it never changes. But a lot of people go through a journey to find their truth & community. And that is a good thing! If you feel you are asexual, then you are. No one should invalidate that. You know yourself best and know your experience best. We have a video on our channel "How Can I Know If I'm Ace" - very simply put - if you don't typically experience sexual attraction, you are on the asexual spectrum, and by learning more about asexuality, can find the label that best fits you". Also, I'm not sure how open your friends are to learning about it, but they could do well to watch our Asexuality 101 series hahah!

Please don't put yourself in any uncomfortable situations - you know yourself better than anyone and you don't need to "find out" if you're "really asexual" or if "other alternatives" will work for you. Listen to your mind, body & spirit, and if your first reaction to situations is not excitement & attraction, then please don't force yourself to do anything. Your first reaction, your gut reaction is almost always right.

I know it's easier said than done, especially when coming from people whose opinions you hold in regard, but please don't let your friends make you think that: "yOu cAnT kNoCk iT tiLL yOu tRy iT". That's not true. I grew up around a lot of people who were experiencing sexual attraction & sexual feelings long before they ever had sex for the first time. So if they were able to know that they'd want & enjoy sex before trying it, how is you knowing you wouldn't want it before trying it any less valid? It's not.

I hope that in future conversations, your friends support you as any good friends would. Please know you always have community here in the asexual community and that you're not alone.

Long story short, if you feel asexual, then you really are asexual!

Sending so much love, care & support, thank you for sharing your story with me <3

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