it takes courage to be kind. it takes effort to be kind. no, it does not cost $0 to be kind. Kindness is a choice. Sometimes, a hard one. But people still make it and that's what keeps the world going.
So many therapists are LAUGHABLY misinformed about autism. When I was first researching autism I brought it up to my therapist and she laughed it off because I knew not to only talk about my special interests during therapy, and I didn’t stim super visibly and frequently. That was an incredibly invalidating experience for me.
Even after that, when I could tell she’d considered it further and realized my theory had merit, it was like she was afraid of the word autism. She’d say I was quirky, or a little different, or just very sensitive, and that I “moved at my own rhythm”. At the very most she’d admit that I might have some slight traits but if I was autistic I would be “very very high-functioning” and probably didn’t meet enough criteria to be diagnosed. She agreed I should get an evaluation, but mostly so I could find out other disorders I might have.
Anyway, I got the diagnosis. She of course spun it like she’d been sure it was going to happen the whole time. She made sure to assure me that no one could tell, and again how extremely high-functioning I was. She’s still afraid to say autistic, and will jump through hoops to avoid saying the word.
It’s so frustrating to me just how stigmatized autism is, even in the mental health field. Professionals fail to understand the spectrum part of autism.
I will not name names but *stares at allistic people* some people *stares specifically at allistic therapists and other mental health area allistics* need to learn how annoying it is to be labeled by how tolerable your autism is.
One cannot be *mildly* autistic. One cannot have *a touch* of the tism. Your autistic or your not. If someone came up to you and said to your face "your mildly annoying" would you be offended? Because that's what you're saying. I don't care if my symptoms annoy you, I care about how it feels like the clothes I'm wearing are strangling me.
I get really bad vibes from doctors describing their patients as "attractive" and having a "seductive presentation" in a paper that describes these same patients as "highly likely to file a complaint or make up stories of malpractice."
friendly april fool’s day reminder to not prank anyone who suffers from psychosis. they already have a very fragile connection to reality, they don’t need you making it more difficult for them.
remembering a conversation i had with my therapist where it became clear that we just weren't on the same page.
me: i have adhd/executive functioning problems that make it so that it can be almost impossible for me to do something i'm not interested in/don't want to do.
therapist: is this a problem at work, too? you still get up and go to work when you're scheduled, right?
me: for now yeah but that could change the moment my brain decides going to work is no longer worth my time
therapist: so if you weren't interested anymore you'd just... stop going to work? what happens if your brain wakes up one day and decides "no, i'm not doing this?" how do you make yourself do it anyways?
me: i don't. i live in constant fear that one day i will simply lose motivation to go to work and decide not to show up regardless of the consequences. i am unable to rationalize completing a task i don't want to do regardless of how significant or severe the consequences are. one day i'm worried i'll just quit because i've decided i don't want to be there anymore.
therapist: ...oh
me: so what should i do about this? how do i make it easier to convince myself to do things i don't like because there will be massive consequences if i don't?
therapist: get a job you like?
me: i don't have a college degree yet so it is difficult to find a job in a field i'm interested in without the necessary qualifications (plus the vast wealth of jobs that specify that applicants need at least a bachelor's degree)
therapist: so what if you went back to college?
me: remember how i said applying to colleges is a task i don't find interesting at all? and how i find it nearly impossible to complete tasks i don't want to do?