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e-i-l-f · 1 month

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there's so much dating advice content on the internet, and you shouldn't follow any of it, no matter who you are

#like if it's about safety or basic basic hygiene sure #but the rest???#wtf just be real #i know that's cliche but the rules the grifters and even the well meaning people are laying out are CRAZY and overcomplicated #'he didn't try to impress me'#maybe he is just being himself and you don't like him and that's okay #like would you really rather someone do basically a party trick to impress you #than be impressed by their genuine actions and personality #why would you want anyone to be fake just bc they're meeting you for the first time #also when ppl are like 'don't talk about _x_ on the nth date'#girl TALK about whatever feels right and/or you feel is inportant for them to know about you etc #nothing is off the table idk as long as your being real #and if they don't like it #then they are NOT FOR YOU #all these convoluted rules basically encouraging people to hide their true selves lead to bad relationships that are built before thin veils #obv i mean if you're dating for relationships and not just hookups #every new person i dated would know after the first time we met that i am #not religious #childfree and staying that way #commie left #vegan #have multiple animal companions #etc #these things are important to know for embarking on a potentially long term serious relationship #i do not want to waste anyone's time #and i don't want them to waaste mine either

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e-i-l-f · 3 months

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i had an abortion when i was in college and it is still, to this day, in the top 5 best decisions i've ever made in my whole life.

i did not and have never felt sadness or any other negative feelings about it. in fact, i have only felt positive feelings about it; relief, joy, gratefulness, etc.

some try to compare abortion to other things, but making the decision to kill your womb-bound child is like no other decision to kill. the decision is the bearer's alone.

#abortion #i don't understand the discussion #it's like nothing else #there is no comparison #every comparison is an automatic fallacy and should be met as such in any discussion about abortion #there is no other time that a life is physically tied to your body

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e-i-l-f · 3 months

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come to me in my darkest hour, make this right and it won't be sour, i'm counting on you please take this detour, i'm counting on you, blood flow to my core

#i just want to write more #text #personal

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e-i-l-f · 4 months

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btw not telling people to change their art, love y'all so much; not telling any women that it's annoying that you have big boobs, lol, love y'all so much also; people who do criticize smaller chested body types though... like, dude just let me have like the four characters there are. please. it's just a woman with small boobs. what is your problem.

i know this is my own insecurity but i need to vent to the void and i'm probably not going to be very articulate but i am so SICK of the world wide obsession with big boobs, super sick of big boobs being a symbol of maturity, sexiness, womanhood etc in fictional characters and that mentality bleeding so fully into real life.

i'm sick of there hardly being any characters who are full grown women with b cups and under, like //fuck// off.

smaller chested characters are almost exclusively children, and when we do actually get a woman character with smaller boobs, i often see real life women CRITICIZING this choice, especially if that character has any kind of romance, people being like "it's problematic that she looks so young" SHE LOOKS LIKE EVERY OTHER FEMALE CHARACTER SHE IS JUST LESS CURVY. A lot of real life women look like that so fuck off about it.

like do you want us to apologize? sorry i don't have big boobs? sorry i don't fit the criteria that proves to you that i'm a woman???

this has been exacerbated lately by real life stuff, bc a lot of transfem art online, especially by furries for some reason, are like obsessive about having big boobs like it feels like all the jokes lately are about "haha she told the trans dr to make her boobs huge and now she has back problems". just makes me rly fucking annoyed bc i'm a borderline furry i guess and these are my people and i enjoy interacting and hearing trans perspectives and furry perspectives and all other sorts but.

i'm all over the place. TL;DR people i interact with online seem increasingly vocal lately about the old-as-time and incredibly obnoxious human obsession with big boobs, and it's been getting to me.

this isn't anything i'd want to block anyone over, like i love my mutuals and they are funny, vibrant people but tumblr has been the one safe social media for me, it's the only one i have anymore, bc it's been the only social media i can be on without immediately feeling like shit about myself.

sometimes i feel like i finally love myself, and then something that seems like it should be rly insignificant just builds and builds until i'm crushed.

shout out to public figures like Zoe Saldana and Kiera Knightley for making me feel normal. shout out to my irl transfem friends who do not seem to have this obsession and ground me when i feel crazy about this.