don't ask about crazy april - 2017
don’t ask about (crazy) april.
I call my mother crazy, drinking a 40 oz. with my friends,
her hands trembling as she laments the twenty-two years
she spent in this country
trying to get rich,
but I call her even crazier when I watch her bury herself in roulette table debt,
in the side-glances, overeager neck-vein grins of her friends
who she will steadily lose in the next five years,
who each rattle off in Shanghainese:
“I don’t mean to be rude, but please don’t forget, april,
you owe me $2500.”
forget, she wouldn’t,
she would lie awake, dry-eyed, the kind that hurts to blink,
sinking into her cloud mattress, hoping for relief,
after dry-swallowing lumps of Metformin, Lisinopril, a little aspirin tab—
but her body aches, even after all the Tramadol,
in the thick bull-like muscle of her calves,
in the livid blue joints of her toes, ankles,
in her doughy midsection, the gut,
and her mind throbs, incessantly, pumping anxiety and dull pains
from the time wasted, misspent
in casinos, praying
with one hand on the slot machine, the other rummaging around
in the recycled envelope that’s reserved for the rent,
both hands over her head as she flung skateboards, televisions, shoes,
at my head.
I call her crazy, remembering ten years back:
I drew on sidewalks with cantaloupe-colored chalk while my sister hurled cans of RC Cola,
my mother bragged to her friends about her recent rental home,
how large, how spacious, how luxurious, how vintage,
little did they know about how we slept at night, cockroaches seeping out of the rotting walls,
how we never ate anything out of the toaster because a rat had melted in it,
how the ceiling bulged down over our beds, sure to leak rainwater,
oh, she wanted her friends to know
that twenty-two years weren’t squandered—
as I held onto her in the evenings, tracing the deep lines in the corners of her eyes,
to which she told me to put on sunscreen so I could stay young forever,
so I could “catch a man with more prospects than your father,”
but sunscreen was the least of her worries,
because at 2 am her eyes would glaze over
amid dizzying cigarette smoke, stark neon JACKPOT! lights,
as she hoped for two days, unsleeping,
relentlessly wishing to replenish the thousand dollars she’d just shoveled into the casino furnace.
I call april crazy but I know she’s not all that.
she convinces herself:
that she did not leave her parents, sisters, and brothers behind
in Shanghai, in 1992,
to work in a dusty Chinese restaurant so she can rake in a hefty hundred dollars a day
(if she’s lucky),
that she did not grit her teeth through the Cultural Revolution,
forgoing an education to kneel in a re-education labor camp,
to accept that she’d never see her eldest brother again
because a mining cave had crushed him instantaneously,
that she did not stand shoulder-to-shoulder with peers,
stoning teachers and the old man who sells slippers to death,
to steal silverware from buffets so my sister and I wouldn’t have to eat
with our grubby fingers,
that she did not watch Mao’s Red Guards
infest her childhood home, ravenously kicking and clawing through drawers
for jewelry, for antiques, for anything,
no, she did not watch them seize and surrender her home
so she could continue dragging her feet in a new land
that isn’t the kindest to those who speak in nonsensical English-Chinese sentences.
tonight, I call my mother crazy out of habit, even though she is not there,
but elsewhere, in her boisterous smoky coin jingling second home,
and I stand in the kitchen, failing to remember
that time april handled a pan over the stove, on the phone with her sister,
scrambling eggs for me, eight years old,
dabbing her eyes with a grease-stained paper towel,
incoherently stringing together words to tell me
that her mother had died—
and yet, she sat down then and sits down now, bursting with a manic euphoria,
at her usual spot in between the Vietnamese grandma and the long-haired Mexican,
spinning poker chips with her rough sausage fingers.
I call her crazy, as I squint under sickly fluorescent light,
scarfing down whatever’s in the fridge,
watching my father in his Batman shorts, on his knees, in the dead of night,
vacuuming up and picking out bits of Honeynut Cheerios
that my mother had spilled and crushed in the blotchy carpet
like an overgrown child,
and I wait for her to come home.
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Just a comic about Rem Saverem.
Nai loved his mother, he truly did. If not, why would he grace her mercy to escape the ship with them? Why wouldn't he kill her himself, and instead left fate to decide upon her demise?
He loathed the Rem he sees in Luida, the Rem he sees in Meryl, the Rem he sees in Vash; he hates the 'Rem' that was crafted in his mind over the years, haunting him wherever he go. But would he hate the actual Rem had he seen her again?
Nai loved her just as much as he hates her, and he hates that he loved her, just as much as he hates the humanity both his loved ones had chosen over him.
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April - 04.18.2017
trust not, even your mother, she said.
and I do not.
I peer down in my food, in my drink,
in my clothes
for arsenic, perhaps.
forget not, your mother, I thought.
she sits across from me,
reeking of restaurant grease—please do not ask about that.
talks in circles about her day,
about the woman driving the Jaguar
with her pig nose flicked up towards the upper glass ceiling,
and I laugh,
seethe in awe, soak in her resilience,
in her crest and trough of gross manipulation and addiction,
fear for her,
the day I follow her to her deathbed.
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This poem is really indicative of the obvious cognitive dissonance that was going on in my head. I hadn't met my wife yet and I still had that incredibly toxic group of friends around---but this was around the time I'd started to think about shedding all of that.
there were three layers:
distrust of my mother, and unease
defense of my mother, because I'd really started to understand what she had to endure
and still...being both disgusted and idk confused and hurt about my mother's gambling addiction
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