#aro-ace

[guess-ill-dye]

"What do you mean you don't want to get married? Everyone doe-"

#guess-ill-dye #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aromantic asexual #ace-aro #aro-ace

[platoniromantic-feelings]

Allos will say and commit the most deranged, most unhealthy-sounding nonsense you've ever heard, and then say, "haha but that's normal tho, i'm so normal, this is a normal thing to do or feel, like maybe it's regrettable but it's totally normal".

#aro-ace #asexual #aromantic #allos being annoying #i will never understand why they do these things to themselves #platoniromantic-feelings original

[batri-jopa]

ASK ME ANYTHING:

Answering question from @love-too (hi there👋):

When did I realize I'm aroace?

I think I was 34 / almost 35. I don't remember how I got to read the online article about aromantism but it was in the evening, few days after aromantic awareness week. And though my brain used to instinctively recognise a word "aromantic" as something like "emotionless sociopath" and "asexual" more like "snobistic cold fish" - I always am curious about other person's point of view and so I started to read... And then eventually I was searching and reading everything more about it I could find, and I ended up walking around my room till the late night hours, feeling so excited that all pieces of the puzzles suddenly fit so perfectly. And I was literally laughing at myself because how can anyone feel so happy after finding out to be a "freak"? And in my age? How can anyone in their right mind wish purposely to be a part of the rejected group? I could have still pretend I'm "hetero" as I did all my life, couldn't I? Yet it felt so incredibly liberating to be AroAce (to be queer even - though at that time I still thought I have no right to call myself that). It was as if I finally was a part of something bigger instead of being on the margins of my society.

And on the top of all: it was like I got absolution from the universe for not achieving all the "essential life goals" (partner and children) on time. I got freedom. I got free from constant yearning to finally get "what everyone already has". I got free from feeling like a loser who missed the last bus. Free from feeling something must be wrong with me if nobody wants me. Free from feeling guilty that I could never love anyone back... (at least not in the "right" way). And I got free to feel satisfied with everything I achieved instead. Free to feel genuinely happy and proud of my education, my job, my house, my cat, my drawing skills, my movies, my reading and writing, my friends, my furniture, my clothes, my colourful walls, my collection of calendars, my travels, my photographs and everything everything else!

I got the green light to feel happy on my own terms and I've been sooo enjoying it ever since!😍

#...except maybe for these 2-3 days a month but that's another story🙃 #ask me anything #aroace #aro/ace #aro ace #aro-ace #aroace positivity #aromantic asexual #aromantic #asexual #aspec #a spec #aro positivity #ace positivity #realizing things #queer #lgtbq #lgbtq pride #pride🌈

[y0ud0ntkn0wwh0]

An Aro-Ace flag on my wall because of a rogue light beam.

#Aroace #aro-ace #aro ace #flag #light #light flag

[juliangreystoke]

Yesterday I saw someone wanting stories that address touch-hunger in aro folks. Friend, I got you! Check out #AdventrerMage! Not one but TWO aro-ace leads! https://www.amazon.com/Adventurer-Mage-Julian-Greystoke-ebook/dp/B0C3PWKVKV/ref=sr_1_1?crid=KGCKKFA8QD27&keywords=adventurer+mage&qid=1686066502&sprefix=adventurer+mage%2Caps%2C126&sr=8-1

#lgbtq #lgbtq pride #queer characters #ace #aro-ace #asexual #aromantic #best friends #touch hunger #touch starved #fantasy adventure #adventurer Mage #fantasy book #queer book #acerep #ace representation #platonic soulmates

[just-miru]

month of gay means gay icon btw.

(aro-ace flag added by me and incredible fanart made by @/spookyratking)

#these colours fit her so well tbh #slay #scary girl #aro-ace #icon

[endless-shelter]

Uptown girl She's been living in her uptown world-

Taís is real again!! She gets to be in more modern clothes as a treat for the nerd of the 2100s

#art #my art #oc art #taís #taís arias #sketch #doodle #aromantic #aro-ace #i think im just gonna put those tags in her posts just in case lol #surprise!!! i still draw stuff i just dont have anything near complete most of the time and ofc it's all ocs

[icameheretowinry]

Ummm i was just informed of THIS

“Alterous attraction is a type of attraction, much like romantic or sexual attraction. However, this term describes the desire to be emotionally close to someone in a way that is neither exclusively platonic nor wholly romantic, but rather somewhere in the middle. Some describe it as the orientation related to the grey area between platonic and romantic attraction, and it is sometimes described as simply "the intense desire for (emotional) closeness." This term is often used within and associated with the aro-ace community.”

#OK THIS MAKES SO MUCH SENSE #I FOUND OUT IN A DAMN UQUIZ #aro #ace #aro-ace #aro spec #ace spec

[rose-0f-winter]

I went to my first Christopher Street Day Celebration today.

I've been waiting for this day since I came out as ace two years ago, shortly before Corona shut down every event. I've been preparing for this day for three weeks. I bought rainbow shoelaces and a rainbow belt and I painted hearts in ace colours on my shirts. I was excited. I went alone because none of my friends had time or wanted to go there which was fine by me. I wanted to go to be amoung queer people. To be among my people. I listened to queer artists by myself, most of them gay, trans or bi. I listened to a political discussion on transgender people which was awesome.

Then I cried on the train home.

Among the thousands of people on that street, not one carried an ace flag. Not one stand sold them. It was all rainbow, trans, bi and one had pan. I spotted (1) ace flag on the stand of a political party, knee-high, so that I only noticed it the third time I walked by.

I have always been confident and proud in my sexuality and I spent a lot of time online surrounded by other ace people on social media. I have read countless hate-comments, too, of course. I knew we were underrepresented.

But I had never felt it. I have never felt so alone and lost before. Nobody talked to me about my flag. Nobody asked. Nobody cared.

I have two ace friends, both biromantic, but mostly they just identify as bi because it's easier than explaining that they don't feel something other people feel. I can't do that. I am aro-ace, or the "neither-nor", as a friend's mom calls me. I am more than happy with my sexuality but for the first time, I felt isolated because of it today. I can't just jump into another community like others who might be lucky enough to experience romantic attraction. I only have that one label and even though most people I meet pity me for it, I have only ever found comfort in it. Until today at least.

After today, I hate those comments even more. "We don't need a label for everything", "Asexuality is not real", "Try hormone therapy". We need this label. I need this label. Because I have no other way to identify myself. It's important to represent the aro/ace community, to show that we exist, we are here, and we are valid. Not only on social media but outside as well. To help other aces find themselves and find others like them. Nobody should feel alone and lost just because they happen to belong to an underrepresented community.

I know I never want to feel like that again.

#christopher street day #csd #pride parade #pride month #asexuality #asexual #aromanticism #aromantic #ace #aro #aro-ace #aroace #ace representation

[reasonablysurmised]

Me, WELL past the target high school demographic and pretty settled in my self-knowledge and identity, by the time I've made it merely into the second chapter of Alice Oseman's Loveless:

Oh no I am being SO perceived. Goddammit.

#the mortifying ordeal of being known and portrayed in a cute quirky YA novel #loveless #alice oseman #loveless alice oseman #aromantic #asexual #aro-ace

[thetruejerrycan]

Paging all gays, how do I concisely label my sexuality?

Up until recently I’ve considered myself bisexual and that’s all. I’m quite confused for the time being though I’m pretty confident on these things right now:

I used to have romantic crushes on people regardless of gender but I haven’t had one since early this year

I’m not interested in a romantic relationship (primarily because I’m not comfortable making sacrifices for other people and struggle to take care of even myself)

I regularly can have high libido and sexual fantasies (though rarely involving other real people in my life)

BUT the complicated thing is that I don’t think even when given the opportunity that I’m particularly interested in performing sexual acts with another person

Friendship breakups are 100,000x more heartbreaking to me than romantic relationship breakups

I think it’s possible I’m aromantic and somewhere on the asexuality spectrum, but since I do have mild interest in engaging in sexual activity, I don’t think “ace” or even “gray” alone cut it in terms of shortly communicating what I am. Feel free to ask any questions if it helps you suggest appropriate labels for me, and thank you in advance! Hope you’re having a gay old time

#lgbtq #sexuality #identity #queer #bi #bisexual #ace #acespec #asexual #aro #aromantic #aro-ace #graysexual #greysexual

[platoniromantic-feelings]

A friend of mine just told me that he was asked on a date by a stranger today. He declined the request, though he said he was flattered by it and not upset or disturbed at being asked on a date by someone he had only known for an hour or two.

But I, platoniromantic wreck extraordinaire, am jealous. I don't want to be asked on dates; I want all my friends to date me. I don't want my dearest people to have romantic partners; I want them all to stay my best friends forever and have everyone else keep their hands off them. I want a sort of friendship hareem, in which I am the best friend of all my best friends and no one else is allowed to be my rival for their affections.

It is ridiculous, I know. I have no right to deprive my friends of dating, romance, marriage, and whatever else they may want. I have no right to ask them to reserve their hearts for me — someone who can't even give them "proper" romance or dating, let alone marriage or children.

But the jealousy makes me choke every time a friend of mine mentions dating.

I can't keep doing this. I can't let myself entertain these feelings; I'm supposed to be happy for my friends when they go on dates or find romantic partners or get married or whatever. But I don't know how to stop being jealous, especially when I know that no matter how much I love my friends, eventually they will choose romance over me.

And I cannot tell my friends this. It is not fair to them that I feel this way. What are they supposed to do about it? All it will do is make them feel guilty, or perhaps even resentful toward me. They are entitled to pursue the romantic relationships that make them happy without worrying about me and my unreasonable, selfish jealousy.

Do any of my fellow platoniromantics, or other aromantics, have suggestions or remarks?

#platoniromantic #jealousy #aromantic #aro-ace #romantic friendship #aromantic grief #friendship #platoniromantic-feelings original

[fandomele]

The cute pattern of cats in the aro-ace (aromantic asexual) pride flag colors - 2 versions (paws in the same flag colors or rainbow)

already done: the transgender, aromantic, asexual, lesbian, nonbinary, queerplatonic, bisexual and pansexual ones

find the lgbtqia+ collections and more in the source of this post!

#aroace #aroace merch #aro-ace merch #aro-ace #aromantic asexual #aromantic asexual merch #aroace pride #aro-ace pride #aromantic asexual pride #lgbt #lgbt cats #lgbtqia+ #aro ace merch #aro ace pride #my designs #mine

[fceriestcrdst]

it's pride month & i'm rapidly realizing I'm aro-ace.....because I don't want romantic partnership at-fucking-all. i just want a platonic partnership that's more emotionally intimate than a normal friendship, yanno?? & then sex is just.....not...my...vibe....i...hate it.....like do I write/read about it /yes/ but that doesn't make me any less ace.

i would /never/ want to do that & kissing feels so gross & is so weird???? like do not??? do that??????? & talking about sex outside of fictional characters/self-shipping makes me want to crawl into a hole & die.

i think this is also why I don't find a lot of things most people find hot---hot. I'm just not interested & I've been thinking about this since maybe 2020 onward.

i can be aro-ace & bi/pan & still be valid. i can be these things & poly & still be valid----it's just taken me a long time because aro/ace is shunned during pride month. well, it's shunned always because y'all are too afraid to admit that people can love & want to be loved in ways that aren't romantic or sexual.

anyways....happy pride from your local transmasc nonbinary who has just gone 'oh......oh fuck....' about his sexuality yet again.

#crow rambles #anyways. this is me. this is who I am #its taken me years to get here but god am I glad to be here #aroace #aro-ace #aromantic #asexual #making this none rbable on purpose. this is being posted for cathartic reasons #happy pride month yall #if don't know you please do not interact with this posy

[agnezztealeaf]

Isaac is the aro-ace representation I, personally, deserve 💚🖤💜

#heartstopper #isaac henderson #isaac heartstopper #heartstopper show #alice oseman #asexual #aromantic #aro-ace #My art

[juliangreystoke]

Unearthing art from when I was drafting. Just more badly sketched friendship times Haha

#book art #book characters #Adventurer Mage #Aro-ace #platonic soulmates #best friends #Maeve and Val