I sometimes feel like I'm a black sheep of the family due to my neurodivergent nature, but then I look at my half siblings and realize that we have a herd of black sheep and I'm not alone by a long shot and my mom literally grew up as her fam's black sheep. It's just a big herd of black sheep lol.
I cried myself to sleep having come to terms with the fact that I have to spend the next few days reassuring my body that it's safe now and doesn't need to shut down for survival purposes like it did for the first 25 years of my life.
Went to my second therapy appointment YALL and it feels good to express something without someone’s fucking opinion and telling everyone in my life what I said.
But, I’m still grieving this relationship with my family member. Found out she blocked my number and went “no” as soon as she heard I was on the phone. It hurts a fucking lot y’all. Because despite a cousin of mine that’s been off the grid-new phone again and again- she always Facebook messages him and never blocks him. It fucking hurts to know she did just that to me. Especially because it’s like what if something happened to me and she was my last call? And she never had picked up. So fucking disgusting. Makes me hate her more. Because she knows why I left and she still defending an asshat of a man. I did some wrongs myself- which came out when I left but- still fucking hurts to know when you left - she lied behind my back to the family on “what really happened”- to “apologize you both should”- to “respect me this is my home- (my ass of a family member)- to even just saying no. Because I don’t talk to her I’ve cut her out but to fucking know she blocked me- I’m glad I found out like this because makes it easier to know who will not be my last call. Fucking disgusting. I don’t think I’ll ever have a relationship with her till her husband is 6 ft + under ground. Because clearly she is in a toxic relationship and just bullshits everyone when they are good and when they are bad. *eyeroll*
But, it’s ok. We are healing, I have friends- I still have a bit of family. And a nEW MUCH BETTER PAYING JOB! And it’s way easier to lose weight with too :)! So- it’s really what’s been keeping me going to be honest. Saving to move out by myself. It’s a terrible time to do so- with shitty pay checks and high ass rent but a baddie needs to live by herself. Not under another family roof after what happened. My current situation is good, a different family member but- she still chats and tells them about me which really gets to me. Because they always say “classic (my name)” like wow thanks so fucking much. So judgey but can’t even realize what an asswipe is next to her.
Anyway- hope and pray everyone is having a good pride month. I did just cry and had a moment of sadness but crying helps in the long run. Get it out now; and continue working forward. It’s tough it’s shit for days like this; but worth it in the end.
The Good Black Sheep of the Family
#Unique #Rebellious #Stubborn
Image Credit: pimpelucha (Pixabay)
We are familiar with the saying “He/She” is the black sheep of the family. I don’t know who created this reference, but the meaning has always had a derogatory spin to it.
When you describe someone as the “black sheep” of the family or of a group, they are generally considered to be bad, worthless, a disgrace, a rebel, hardheaded, stubborn, the mark of the…
I’ve been low contact with my family since 2019 and officially went no contact this past October (as if it was really much of a change). I still have them on Facebook as I don’t really use Facebook besides to check up on random people from my hometown. And they love nothing more than to sub post about me on there. I haven’t spoken to them in years. Didn’t even go to my father’s funeral. And they think I’m going to show up at my sister’s graduation? After not seeing them for 3 years or having a conversation with them since October? After not inviting them to my WEDDING?
My (former, I guess lol) brother decided to make a post calling our sister his “only sister” and that he “wouldn’t miss this day for her”. The same brother who stopped talking to me just because he didn’t like me years ago when we lived in the SAME HOUSE. We would literally be home alone together and he wouldn’t mutter two words at me. The same brother who used to beat the shit out of me as a kid. The same brother who bought everyone else Christmas presents BUT me. Same brother who told everyone I wasn’t allowed to have his cell phone number because he didn’t like me. Same brother who went to JAIL for beating his child’s mother and made our grandmother who doesn’t even work bail him out. I closed out of Facebook before I could see what my narcissistic mother had to say and I probably won’t open that dumb website again except to delete my account.
I’m not going to let this get to me anymore once I type this post. I’ve known for years that they were not the loving family I deserved. It just sucks that when I finally had enough and stopped associating they couldn’t take the hint and finally after multiple missed life events decided to throw a fit online.
She crawls out of her bed, blanket at hand, and starts to look at her surroundings. What is this feeling that has suddenly grasped hold of her? She can hear her heartbeat, trying to pound itself out from her chest, leaving her almost breathless. What is it? She questions herself.
Allowing her body to take control of her, she starts to walk toward the living room. She stands still. Eyes fixed on what is a table for ten. She glances at each accompanied chair. Her mother, father, three older sisters and five older brothers make ten. She stares. She watches them feast and laugh. Not one of them even notices her standing there. She keeps watching them; pictures and all. She wants to speak, scream, storm toward the table, but she can't. She just stands, struggling for air. Body weakening, eyes blurring; even then, the image stood burned inside of her, crisp as day.
She reaches up for help and tries to get someone’s attention, someone. Mom? Dad? Sis? Bro! All that came out of her mouth was a tiny gasp of air, as she collapses to the ground. Her heart, she can still feel her heart beating.
The laughter! She can still hear it! Oh what joy! She can speak and walk! Hey Mom! Dad! Got a spare chair?! Hey, hey Mom! Dad! Stop playing guys, look, its me, I’m awake! Guys? Yo bro wassup! Sis! Hellloooo?! Rrrrr…. huh?
Wait, let me see that photo album! Come on! Hello, can anyone hear me! Am I talking to myself, this is not funny guys, seriously….
Wait… No, no, keep going…. All the family portraits…. It’s me-less…. Oh.
The GIW succeeded in passing an under the radar law that described ghosts as non-sentient beings. Leading to the Government cracking down on Amity Park and capturing any ghosts they saw.
Danny saved who he could, telling them not to come back to Amity Park for their own safety. That being said, he couldn't save everyone, not as Phantom and especially not as Fenton.
He didn't like to think on it much.
Thankfully it seemed that Halfas had it a bit better than pure ghosts, being seen as semi-sentient due to their human half. But it still wasn't enough for his parents to think he was safe in Amity, so instead of staying in Amity Park they decided to move him.
Which proved to be a far faster process than they thought it would be, because his identity was leaked to the government, as for how they knew? They overheard Wes Weston trying to convince someone of his theory and ran with it.
So now Danny and Jazz had to be quickly relocated to Gotham, and yes, they love you Danny, but with his track record they need Jazz to act as an assurance he wouldn't go out 'heroing' and stay on the down low.
Jack and Maddie stayed behind to negotiate the Anti-Ecto acts.
Jack told the two of them to meet at this specific coffee shop in Gotham, because he already asked for someone he knew to come and pick them up, which confused them because who would he know in Gotham?
But, on the way to said coffee shop, Danny and Cujo (who Danny brought along because he was not leaving him behind in Amity of all places now.) was kidnapped by a giant crocodile man.
Right under Jazz's nose too. She only realized when she reached said coffee shop, safe to say she wasn't pleased. The coffee shop seemed to be entirely booked by one man, with multiple people acting as 'guards' so to speak, not that Jazz couldn't take care of them but she preferred to avoid violence if she could.
The person she and Danny were supposed to meet turned out to be one Oswald Cobblepot, otherwise known as the Penguin, a black sheep of the Fentinightingles and Jack's friend. (I CANNOT for the LIFE of me remember where I saw this idea, but if you ever come across this post know that YOU yes YOU were the one who helped the crafting of this idea)
Oswald: Where's the other one.
Jazz: A giant crocodile kidnapped him.
Oswald: Say what.
Meanwhile Danny got himself comfortable in the sewers of Gotham with Cujo as he stared up at a 9 foot tall man who goes by Killer Croc, who looks increasingly unsure, regretful and sorrowful of his decision to kidnap Danny.
Danny finds out that his actual name is Waylon Jones, and that the sole reason he was kidnapped was because he thought him to be his long-lost dead brother.