#cw: sexism
soul-dwelling · 2 months ago
So Ohkubo put a message into the final volume of Fire Force. I don’t know whether it’s that big announcement that was teased or not, but if this is the big announcement, then it’s only him insisting that, yes, Fire Force is his last manga.
But that’s not what I want to talk about. And that means getting into spoilers, as I still–still–whine about what I do not like about the main takeaway from this series, and how, in this final(?) message, Ohkubo outright confirms that, yes, this has been a series about death, but whereas I had insisted it was a series where death is taken seriously, he instead is doubling-down on “LOL the power of imagination” crap again.
Content warning regarding how he handled Joker's abuser and Tamaki, so, content warnings about sexism, rape, homophobia, transphobia, and disablism.
Ohkubo: "Fire Force is a story about life, but you could also say that it is a story about death. Death is something that no one has ever experienced." 
...What? I really hope something is lost in translation. I really hope I can look at this with a philosophical understanding, but right now, I can't read that and not think, "Dude, people do experience death--it's a question of whether they know it." If you mean the person dying, yes, they experience death--they just can't tell us what that's like. If you mean that other people around them cannot experience death, no, that's bullshit--you see people die, that is not you literally dying, but you see death and what it does. 
"Yet it can happen at any time to us living beings--" 
"--but can only be explained by our imagination." 
By that same logic, everything is by our "imagination." This is phenomenology--and I'm getting bored with this pseudo-intellectual horseshit. 
"[W]hat is the concept of death?" 
Dude. You already wrote Soul Eater: it was a literal character. You were taking death seriously in Fire Force until you decided, LOL, nah, Shinra can just survive getting stabbed, Akitaru can just flex away a bug bite, and Shinra just resurrects everyone, even a fucking child rapist, Jesus, what the fuck, man.
Since the series wrapped up, my regard for Fire Force is pretty much the same now as when it ended: this sucks. Maybe I’m too close to everything, still in mourning over a parent’s death, but this series does not feel like some way to think about death and the imagination. 
Rather, it seems like one man’s dull diatribe against religion: “Religions are dumb, but humans are dumb and therefore need them, so we might as well imagine a religion that we want!” No, we should be imagining the ethics that we want to hold people accountable to, and leave the “origin stories” of the universe to whatever people believe without harming people but, more importantly, what actual facts show us to be the origins of the world.
And it was one man’s massive ego getting in the way of honoring what he wrote before, especially when it came to writing girls and women: how this freak goes from Maka Albarn to “LOL girls are here to make men horny so that the human race persists” is fucking gross and, God, I still want to delete this blog because I’m that mad at his awful nonsense. Dude gets called out for doing fanservice badly, and his solution is a misogynist screed, whining that reduces sex to just making babies, which, as I said before, is not only limiting whatever personal enjoyment people get from sex but also misogynistic and transphobic (what if you want sex but don’t want to get pregnant?) and homophobic and disablist (what if you want sex but are not in a relationship where any party is capable of being pregnant by that sexual activity?).
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hopeless-thespian · 4 months ago
The funny thing is that Edie isn't 100% my favorite character and that's bc IntSys seemed to be afraid of her getting queerphobic misogynistic harassment weirdly too much, especially for IntSys. So they went hard in the paint to justify fucking everything she does and give her little room to breathe as a character. And as the fanbase has shown, people are so queerphobic and misogynistic that they will flat out make shit up to command hatred for her. There is 100% nothing they can do so even if they wanted to justify her they didn't have to go so OTT.
And that goes for her fanbase too. Let her be wrong with what she was passed down by her family line re: Seiros/Nemesis. Let her be angry about something bc she's 18 and has teenager emotions deep down. Make her a little arrogant post-skip. More, even.
If Dimitri can cruelly torture and murder on his route and be forgiven for traumatizing his friends at the slightest provocation, or if Rhea can try to steal Byleth's body and kill anyone she wants dead with a private army, Edelgard can be a little actual arrogant. I hate when people with the best of intentions fall into sexist traps bc they think they have to prove a woman is flawless, not just say "oh is she flawed? So's your favorite Christian/white man bc that's the GAME.
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grim-was-here · 5 months ago
I'm going to be getting back to my usual posting ASAP but I need to talk about this first
I was sick of people on seeing people on my TikTok FYP hating on each other and knew others were having the same problem so I decided to do a little bit of an experiment, I’d go onto a new account's FYP and see how long it would take to find shaming on a new account with the account owner's age set to 14 years old, following no one, no liked posts and with no searched terms either. Within a matter of minutes, I had already seen six.
I hate getting negative on my acc w/ a passion and I'm not trying to say this represents every TikTok user's FYP but these results are something I think people should know about before joining TikTok and especially before potentially becoming addicted to it. The results are below the cut and the TikToks are described not shown due to the fact that even copying the link to them boosts them in the algorithm.
CW For Below Cut:// Body-Shaming, Sexism, Transphobia, Misandry, Lesbophobia, ED Mention, Sexualisation Mention, Death Threat Mention, Brief Mention Of Sex Offender Jokes, Brief Cultural Appropriation Mention
The first was of a tik toker covering up a thin woman’s body with the marker tool and when asked why they did it said it was because “it might trigger some people” and that the woman posting a picture of herself online was encouraging people to develop ED’s.
The second was of a person saying that you aren't allowed to draw women with big hips and big tits because it’s sexualising them even though all of the examples were of women with accurate, possible and natural body proportions. (being a C or D cup at most)
The next 3 were Tik Tok's telling MLM and trans men that it was wrong and/or disgusting to want to like men or be a man with comments agreeing with them saying things like "I hope they get better soon /gen- a they/them lesbian" or "why would you chose to become a creature like that" along with many death threats and even some joking about the trans men in the videos becoming sex offenders
The last TikTok was of a lesbian being mocked for "not being gay enough” by another lesbian
There was another after this of a white woman in America styling their hair into braids and dreadlocks encouraging other white people to do the same but I won't talk about it as I know many black people have already spoken about the person.
Although these TikTok's were not in this order and were not back to back, having normal TikTok's between them, it doesn't change the fact that TikTok clearly has a problem with negativity and that these TikTok's are clearly something that TikTok are not only willing to promote but are also willing to promote to a, to their knowledge, 14 year old. I'm not the first one to find info like this, for example, a youtuber by the name of Salem Tovar had already made a video called "TikTokers Are Photoshopping Their Bodies For Attention" where they also talk about how easy it is to find this content and how easy it is for these creators to get away with these things (this was the main thing that gave me the idea to do this) showing that it indeed isn't a one-time thing.
Luckily I'm someone who doesn't usually get bothered by things like this but I know from experience that a lot of people aren't like that and I feel like if I was still one of them I would want to know this stuff before finding out the hard way and have it mess me up by the time I find out. Do with this info what you will but please just stay safe out there <3
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dwellordream · a year ago
“…In the words of one teacher captured in a recent study by Professor Edward W. Morris, “[T]hey think they are adults too, and they try to act like they should have control sometimes.” Such comments demonstrate that stereotypes of Black girls, interpreted as “loud,” are imbued with adult-like aspirations, and perceived, in turn, as a threat. The same study recorded teachers’ describing Black girls as exhibiting “very ‘mature’ behavior socially (but not academically) sophisticated and ‘controlling at a young age.’ ”
This interpretation of Black girls’ outspokenness may be associated with the stereotype of Black women as aggressive and dominating. Differences in physical development based on the onset of puberty may also play a role in adultification, in light of evidence that “on average, African American girls mature physically at a faster rate than [w]hite girls and as a result can be perceived as older.”
Another important aspect of adultification for Black girls lies in culturally rooted fantasies of Black girls’ sexualization. The commonly held stereotype of Black girls as hypersexualized is defined by “society’s attribution of sex as part of the ‘natural’ role of Black women and girls.” Noting the long history of perceiving Black women as hypersexualized, Monique W. Morris has observed that adultification results in applying these stereotypes to Black girls:
Caricatures of Black femininity are often deposited into distinct chambers of our public consciousness, narrowly defining Black female identity and movement according to the stereotypes described by Pauli Murray as “‘female dominance’ on the one hand and loose morals on the other hand, both growing out of the roles forced upon them during the slavery experience and its aftermath.” As such, in the public’s collective consciousness, latent ideas about Black females as hypersexual, conniving, loud, and sassy predominate. However, age compression renders Black girls just as vulnerable to these aspersive representations.
Three dominant paradigms of Black femininity that originated in the South during the period of slavery have persisted into present-day culture, which “paint Black females as hypersexual, boisterous, aggressive, and unscrupulous”:
• Sapphire (e.g., emasculating, loud, aggressive, angry, stubborn, and unfeminine);
• Jezebel (e.g., hypersexualized, seductive and exploiter of men’s weaknesses); and
• Mammy (e.g., self-sacrificing, nurturing, loving, asexual).
These images and historical stereotypes of Black women have real-life consequences for Black girls today. According to Blake and colleagues, “these stereotypes underlie the implicit bias that shapes many [adult’s] view of Black females [as] ... sexually promiscuous, hedonistic, and in need of socialization.”
For example, “teachers may subconsciously use stereotypical images of Black females ... to interpret Black girls’ behaviors and respond more harshly to Black girls who display behaviors that do not align with traditional standards of femininity in which girls are expected to be docile, diffident, and selfless.” Such “tainted perceptions ... result in patterns of discipline intended to re-form the femininity of African-American girls into something more ‘acceptable.’”
The consequences of educators’ tendencies to associate Black girls’ behavior with stereotypes of adult Black women can be far-reaching. For example, Edward Morris observed that Black female students “appeared less restrained by the view of femininity as docile and compliant, and less expectant of male protection than [w]hite girls in other educational research.”
Morris found that teachers trained their focus on condemning such comportment at the expense of guiding their academic progress—effectively disciplining Black girls for perceived loud and un-ladylike behavior that challenged their authority. Others have similarly observed that Black girls are under greater surveillance of their decorum than their white peers. Perhaps most concretely, researchers suggest that the phenomenon of adultification may contribute to increasingly disproportionate rates of school discipline for Black girls.”
- Rebecca Epstein, Jamilia J. Blake, Thalia González, Girlhood Interrupted: The Erasure of Black Girls’ Childhood
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harrypottercritiques1228 · a year ago
Rowling: Claims to write strong female characters
Also Rowling: Attacks women who take pride in their femininity, writes Hermione to be #NotLikeOtherGirls, has Hermione incapacitated for the latter third of the second book, has all WOC characters be background dressing, names the one Asian woman Cho Chang, pairs the enby-coded Tonks with the gay-coded Remus, and pairs off most the named surviving females with men and gives them at least one or two kids
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serpenteve · a year ago
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rae-gar-targaryen · a year ago
I'm no stranger to working in a male-dominated industry, or participating in traditionally male-dominated sports/hobbies.
That doesn't make me uncomfortable.
What DOES make me uncomfortable is a male colleague calling me "lazy" (for not studying for an exam for months, when I was also working full-time and planning a wedding), "slower," and in the same breath implying that the bar exam I passed was easier than the one he took.
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roanniom · a year ago
I just screamed for a really long time into the void in the tags about my career and sexism and visibility and how I’ve been underappreciated and disrespected, but the minute I went to hit post, my internet went out. So that post won’t post and I don’t want to re-type out the tags. 
But if you’re reading this, please know that you deserve to take up space. Regardless of your gender (identification)/sexuality/race/economic background. 
And you should take up space. Aggressively. Loudly. Boldly. Don’t let a single person - especially an older straight rich white man - let you think that you don’t belong. You don’t want to belong in their space. You deserve your own space. One free of their negativity and backwards thinking. 
One forged and shaped and crafted and nurtured just for you <3
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In another post I wrote:
“Like … right now I’m planning out a story I intend to write in January; it’s supposed to be a kind of deconstruction of the Fremen mirage, and very much one of the thoughts going into it is “yo, a Proud Warrior Race would be a horrible society to live in or have as neighbors, we shouldn’t romanticize them!” and yet … I feel that the “bad guy” culture in it is much better, from a literary viewpoint, for me having given some thought to the material base of their society and how that would shape their culture. I could have just written them as flat edgelordy-grimdark barbarians, but thinking about their culture in materialist terms gave me a more complex and nuanced picture that I think will make for a more interesting and nuanced story and a fictional society that feels more interesting and human and alive.”
So, I want to infodump a little about this fictional culture I’ve thought up! I decided to split my infodumping into three posts, of which this is the second. In my previous post, I talked about the material conditions and subsistence strategy that shape this culture. If you haven’t read it already, I suggest you click that link and read my last post before you read this one, as it’s important context for what I’ve written here. In this and my next post I’ll talk about these people as a culture instead of just as an economy. I was originally going to make this whole thing two posts, but there’s so much stuff that could go in the culture part I decided I better split that up. In this post I’ll make a broad outline of the less “where does the food come from and where does the sewage go?” aspects of these people’s social structure, try to give you a general picture of how their society works. In my next post I’ll try to give you a more intimate “human” picture of what these people’s lives are like and what sort of people they are; talk more about relationships and attitudes and so on.
History and context:
The ancestors of these people were abducted from Bronze Age Earth by imperialistic aliens and used as basically slaves and slave-soldiers by these aliens. Some time in the last millennium BCE these imperialist aliens and their enemies blew each other up in the interstellar empire equivalent of a nuclear apocalypse. In the aftermath of this war the alien civilizations never really recovered, but the descendants of the human slaves built their own interstellar civilization, and the space nomad raiders I’ve been talking about are one branch of that civilization (the surviving aliens now mostly live on a small number of their planets that avoided destruction during the big ancient war, while nowadays most inhabited worlds in local space are populated more-or-less entirely by humans). There’s complexity here I’m not going to get into now, but as I said in my previous post, a significant point is these space nomad raiders I’m talking about mostly interact with other humans; the foreigners they interact with are mostly other humans, and the victims of their raiding are mostly other humans.  The location of Earth was lost in the chaos of the big ancient war, and Earth continued its independent cultural development (i.e. real history) and was isolated from the rest of the setting and the rest of humanity for about 3500 years or so, with re-contact between Earth humanity and the rest of humanity happening maybe around 30 years before the story I’m planning to write (which takes place some time in the twenty-second or twenty-third century CE).
The story I’m planning takes place against a background of a utopian-ish future Earth society that was in the process of colonizing the solar system fighting an “alien invasion” of these space nomad raiders.
Gender weirdness:
These people went straight from Bronze Age to space age, they completely missed the Enlightenment etc., and their former alien masters had little interest in giving them a more “progressive” culture (and were kind of too starfish alien to even really think in those terms; e.g. they were genderless hermaphrodites, so why wouldn’t they more-or-less just shrug and accept a Bronze Age human’s ideas about human gender?). So, to us these people’s culture would look like a strange mix of the very primitive and the space age, with the two combining in strange ways.
These people have strong gender roles and no concept of gender equality in the sense we think of it. Their society still runs on a “men are warriors, women are non-combatants who at best get patronizing protection and at worst are part of the spoils the men fight over” paradigm. Most younger men are more-or-less full-time warriors; their lives are more-or-less completely dedicating to raiding, defending the community from raids, and preparing for doing these things. If they survive long enough to become too old to fight they usually “retire” and then spend their time doing maintenance work on the weapons and passing on their knowledge to the younger generations of warriors and warriors-in-training. Women do most of the non-combatant work.
This might sound like a recipe for a rather brutal patriarchy, and in a way that conclusion isn’t wrong, but... This means women are doing most of the work of keeping the space habitat running. And remember, much of the labor of keeping a space community alive is specialized skilled labor; the sort of work where trying to extract labor through simple brutality wouldn’t work well. Women are most of the machinists and the repair technicians and the nuclear reactor operators and the doctors and so on. As I said in my last post, you really don’t want to anger the person who fixes the machine that makes the air you breathe, one of the people who tend the nuclear reactor that provides energy to your community, or the person who might do surgery on you. So this is a society with lots of female power (which coexists with horrifying institutionalized abuse of other women).
Now, in my last post I stressed how a society like this will be labor-limited and want to make efficient use of labor, so you may be thinking that having half the population be full-time warriors sounds extremely inefficient. And it would be! But that’s not what these people do. For one thing, that’s a simplification of their system; there are gender-variant male eunuchs and enslaved men who do “women’s work,” and as I said retired warriors do maintenance work on the weapons and raiding ships. But what really helps in making their system viably efficient is their population isn’t 50% male. This is where it gets weird.
Remember when I said earlier that a small almost-self-sufficient space community would have tightly controlled reproduction? Among these people, there’s a powerful order of priestesses that does that. They regulate reproduction to prevent over-reproduction or under-reproduction and to minimize the effects of inbreeding ... but they’ve also spent the last couple of thousand years doing eugenics and genetic tinkering on these people. Partially they’re into creepy fascist trying to breed superior warriors stuff, but also at some point they fiddled with the human meiosis process to give these people a naturally unbalanced sex ratio. I’m thinking they got it to the point where something like 60% of the children born among these people are female. The sex ratio among adults is even more skewed because of higher male early mortality rates, a tendency to ritually kill male captives while keeping female captives, etc.. This gives maybe 20% of the adult population being active warriors (remember, the retired warriors are mostly functionally maintenance workers until they get too old and feeble to do that too), which is probably still inefficiently big but manageable.
So these people have some of the social structures and cultural attitudes of a patriarchal society, but they’re a society where men are a minority and masculinity is defined by doing something socially prestigious but economically marginal (and, incidentally to this point but important to understanding their culture, they’re a society where warrior vs. almost everything else is heavily gendered).
Tribal warrior barbarian hordes IN SPACE:
Another aspect of these people being a weird mix of the extremely primitive and the space age is that they have advanced technology but they are basically a patriarchal clan rule society.
The basic social unit of this society is the patrilineal kin-group, i.e. the patriarchal clan. Inheritance is patrilineal and marriage is virilocal; when a woman marries she moves into her husband’s family’s dwelling, she becomes part of her husband’s clan, and her children “belong” to her husband’s clan. Because social kinship is basically unilineal, these clans become quite big; a normal size is thousands of people (and that’s if you don’t count non-kin dependents). A typical habitat community contains maybe five or six of these big clans. Usually the most powerful clan (usually the biggest) is the “royal family” and exercises hegemony over the habitat, while the other clans are allied to it in an arrangement similar to feudal vassalage. Attached to these clans through various vassalage-like and slavery-like arrangements are a large number of non-kin dependents, who usually make up the majority of the community’s population (more on them later). These clans are very much families in the Mafia sense of the word. So, I said earlier that the mobile space habitat community is the basic political unit of this culture, but most of those communities are more like five or six allied big Mafia gangs/families in a trench-coat.
The social glue of this society is blood ties, marriage, vassalage, slavery, and other forms of what can broadly be called fictive kinship style relationships. The line between marriage, vassalage, slavery, and other forms of fictive kinship is often blurry - indeed, these are basically Earth Western concepts that I’m imposing on this society to communicate what it’s like; these people would not carve their own social reality at the places I’m carving it by using these terms. As I said, this is a clan rule society; your social position is basically entirely a question of who your relatives and in-laws are or who you are affiliated with or owned by; the concept of an individual having legal rights (or even really legal personhood) separate from their clan affiliations basically doesn’t exist.
Status and rank within a clan is mostly hereditary, though it’s mediated by gender and age, and there’s also a significant “meritocratic” charismatic component (e.g. a younger son of a previous patriarch who’s a distinguished warrior and popular with the cousins may be chosen for leadership over a less distinguished and less popular older son who all else being equal would have been ahead in the succession order). The clan overall functions as a disciplined hierarchical organization with a delegation of authority and duties that’s orderly enough to be more-or-less functional (patriarch bosses around his brothers and sons, who boss around his cousins, who boss around their cousins, etc.), but there’s a significant amount of jockeying and potential for overlapping conflicting authority within that. Note: I’m making this sound like a basically male hierarchy, but remember that this is a society with lots of female power, the wives of high-status men tend to be high-status themselves and often have significant power bases of their own, so high-status women are very much big players in this.
These communities are economically egalitarian but socially inegalitarian. Your clan leader isn’t much richer than you; he probably has some servants and a somewhat bigger apartment and somewhat nicer clothes and furniture and somewhat better food and so on, but that’s about it - but he can control your life in more-or-less the same way your parents controlled your life when you were 14, you must show him deference, and if he wants almost any sort of favor you’d better give it to him. Power in this society isn’t about having stuff, it’s about being respected and obeyed.
The clan is responsible for the conduct of its members and your conduct reflects on your clan, so this is an “honor culture” where reputation is very important; you can expect to get killed by your own relatives if you harm or embarrass your own clan badly enough, and on the flip-side if you do something heroic your whole clan gets a boost to its reputation and “soft power” by association with you. Between this and what I said in the rest of this section, this is a society where most people (of any gender) have little personal freedom.
One thing these people mercifully mostly don’t have is the spiraling inter-clan blood-feuds that often happen in clan rule societies on Earth. You really, really, really don’t want gloves-off open gang warfare in a space habitat. So, these people have developed powerful social mechanisms for resolving disputes before they get to the blood feud stage. Unfortunately, these dispute resolution mechanisms themselves include lethal violence, i.e. there’s a tradition of often lethal dueling. These basically controlled murders are a significant cause of male early mortality among these people, so in that sense this is a very violent society even internally, before you get to all the violence they inflict on outsiders. However, this violence is very gender-asymmetric; among these people the taboos against killing women are stronger than the taboos against killing men, and there are especially very strong taboos against killing female skilled specialists (doctors, engineers, etc.). Ironically, as a consequence of the way male eunuchs and enslaved men are considered not really men, they are more-or-less grouped with the women for purposes of these taboos, so they are often actually safer from intra-community violence than higher-status men are.
This basically fits with men in these communities doing something that is prestigious but economically marginal; they get some prestige and power and privilege, but they are treated as disposable, and you can interpret the dueling as them having internalized this collective judgment on them. Mind you, it’s mostly not the same people getting both ends of this deal; it’s mostly the high-status men who get the “prestige and power and privilege” end of the deal, and the low-ranking warriors tend to get more of the “treated as disposable” end of the deal. Though in fairness this society is one with an idea that a leader is supposed to actually lead in battle, so high-status men often do take the same sort of risks as their subordinates (on the other hand, the strong hereditary element of power in this society means it trends toward gerontocracy, so the guys at the very top are often “retired” from direct participation in fighting).
In my previous post I said that humans usually prefer sharing or trading to violent theft because violent theft means risk of injury or death. That’s kind of true of these people, but with these people there’s an internal social pressure that acts in the opposite direction. In this society, heroic deeds in battle reflect positively on your clan and increase its prestige and “soft power,” and also because of the charismatic “meritocratic” component of their hierarchy impressing people by performing heroic deeds in battle is one of the few avenues of social mobility available to men in this society (note: “heroic deeds” in this context often means things like pulling off some particularly audacious heist; things that directly benefit the community if they succeed, so in a sense this is a smart incentive system). So this society will have a lot of ambitious young men who at least kind of want battles to happen so they have opportunities to prove themselves, and clan leaders will similarly often want battles to happen so they have opportunities to increase the prestige and influence of their clan.  Also, individuals and clans who contribute to a successful raid often get to keep some of the loot or have the right to control how some or all of it is distributed, and that makes raiding tempting to people who aren’t satisfied with what they have in the status quo even if the community as a whole has enough resources. So this is a society that’s likely to be more violent than is “rational,” if you define “rational” as “acts like a hive mind instead of like an actual human community made up of people who have their own goals.” Their whole social structure basically reflects that sort of dynamic; their warrior class is probably inefficiently big, but masculinity and participation in the raiding have become so entwined that they can’t shrink it without facing ferocious resistance from people who have their whole identity invested in being warriors; you can’t take somebody who’s been literally raised from birth to do one thing and has their whole sense of self-worth bound up in it and just casually reassign them to a different job (I’m thinking the man = warrior thing started when these people were slave-soldiers + logistical support “camp followers,” and survived a transition from “we’re an army with some ‘live off the land’ short-term self-sufficiency capacity” to “we’re space nomads who use violence as part of our survival strategy”).
“Women’s spaces” and non-kin clan dependents:
Societies with very strong gender roles often have lots of homosociality, and these people very much fit that pattern. Because women do most of the productive work among these people, most of the habitat community’s work-spaces are female majority spaces that the male warriors don’t directly interact with much (there are male eunuchs and enslaved men working in there with the women, but in these people’s gender system those hardly count as men, and anyway the women outnumber them quite solidly). So, basically, this society has a more-or-less separate majority female social world that has its own social networks, its own strong affiliation/friendship groups (mostly work gangs), and its own centers of power.
Being a clan-based patriarchal society, these people also have a marriage system that’s kind of a bad deal for women (patrilineal and virilocal marriage strengthens male-centered social networks while disrupting female-centered social networks, and makes wives vulnerable to abuse). This is a society where patriarchal family institutions coexist with a semi-separate female-majority social world and lots of female power, so a lot of women respond to the former by never marrying. If this was a more conventional patriarchal society this might mean lots of childless spinsters, but this is a society where maintaining high genetic diversity is a community survival imperative and where a female majority population and high female homosociality makes it easy to create all-female cooperative child-care arrangements, so the result is lots of unmarried mothers.
Note: “unmarried” may be a simplification here, I’m thinking there might be a sort of “marriage lite” where the woman gets some of the benefits of marriage (e.g. her husband has “honor code” obligations to protect her and her children from harm and take revenge on anyone who harms or kills her or one of her children) but she and her husband keep separate residences and her husband and his kin have no authority over her. But if this status exists it’s basically a formal recognition of a boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship and the woman can “divorce” the man whenever she wants. Possibly the line between boyfriend/girlfriend and husband/wife in this culture is fluid (IIRC in a lot of past societies all a heterosexual couple had to do to be considered married was live together and call each other husband and wife, and I could see the sort of “marriage-lite” I’m talking about here being similarly fluid, though since the couple not living together is part of the point of it the details of how it works would have to be different).
Children of unmarried (or “married lite”) mothers are for purposes of clan affiliation considered to have no father. This means they’re by default more-or-less outside the clan system, especially if the mother doesn’t have a patrilineal descent connection to one of the local clans (e.g. if she’s an abductee who was taken in a raid). Because being an unmarried (or “married lite”) mother is a better deal for the majority of women, offspring of unmarried (or “married lite”) mothers are usually a majority of the habitat community’s population. So in a typical community of these people, the local big clans dominate the community politically but are actually a minority of the community’s population.
I’m thinking the way this is usually handled is legally fatherless people legally directly “belong” to the “king” (the leader of the community’s most powerful clan). But in practice legally fatherless children are usually raised by majority-female cooperative child-care groups in majority female social spaces that have a lot of independence, and if they’re female they’ll usually spend their entire lives in those spaces and follow the same reproductive strategy their mothers did. So the effect is to strengthen the semi-separate social world character of these female majority work-spaces.
That’s how it works with legally fatherless girls and women, with legally fatherless boys and men things are more complicated. If you’re a legally fatherless boy among these people you spend the first 11-12 years of your life with your mother, and then you’re given various aptitude and fitness tests, and if you fail you’re left with your mother to be raised to be a worker, and if you pass you’re taken away from your mother and given to a group of legally fatherless warriors and retired warriors to be raised by them and if all goes well ultimately become one of them. It’s a bit like what the Spartans did, though thankfully the training is actually significantly less nasty than what they did in the agoge; I’ll talk about it more in my next post.
I’ll generally talk more about the details of what life in this society is like in my next post!
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lord-scaredycat · a year ago
Good reasons to wear clothes: -it’s cold and they’re warm -for protection from the sun -I don’t want weird stuff to touch my private parts because it’s not safe and could lead to infections and the like -for additional protection in case of a fall -I am proud of my culture/my identity and these clothes represent it well :) -these clothes are fab 
 Bad reasons to wear clothes: -I’m ashamed of my body (don’t be, we’re all just a bunch of meat on wet bones, and your meat looks lovely <3) -clothes are the only thing keeping me from committing sexual assault because I’m a pathetic dumbfuck who can’t control myself -“it’s a sin to have a body how dare you have one go hide it immediately you disgusting heathen or else don’t complain if we murder you”
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doingitforbokuto · a year ago
thinking about sexism and the fact that I will always have to deal with it and deadass I wanna kill myself
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dwellordream · a year ago
I don't know why so much of the Jaime discourse around his relationship with Cersei is about him having to feel ashamed for the incest. I really don't think that is the point. To aknowledge their terrible treatment of each other is important, but it doesn't really make sense for him to feel disgusted about the incest itself now that he has spent 30 years of his life in that relationship...
To be honest I’ve never see much of that discourse but maybe I’m just not active in those circles? I’ve read fics where they characterized Jaime as becoming viscerally disgusted with Cersei and rejecting her in a very demeaning way talking about how ‘old and ugly and used she is’ (the writers didn’t really seem to see this as misogynistic and cruel, just ‘the reality’), but I’ve never seen much where he specifically highlights how disgusting their incestuous behavior was.
Arguably the worst I’ve read along these lines was one where the author implied that Cersei deserved to be physically abused by Robert and portrayed her as using it to guilt trip Jaime (the same story later had Cersei executed by Robert while Jaime got away scott free, which 🙃) but Jaime regretting the incest specifically is seldom brought up, imo.
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muffinrecord · a year ago
I don’t want to get into discourse too much on this blog, but I want to add something I’ve been seeing a lot of. 
It’s all well and good that folks are pointing out that PMMM/MR has a female fanbase, but I think it’s also important to emphasize that there’s literally nothing wrong with a dude, yes including an adult dude, liking the show or game.
I think there is this take that the only reason a man could possibly be interested in the show is because he’s somehow getting off on kids suffering or interested in them. That’s really disgustingly sexist. It’s fucking nasty. Men are not inherently sleazy creatures who cannot control themselves. Not only does this attitude handwave away sexism as something inherent, (oh boys will be boys), but it stereotypes people in gross and disgusting ways. You’re just reinforcing gender roles.
I’m friends with a lot of dude fans in this fandom and want to know something? All of them are kind, respectful, and thoughtful people. They’re not gross. 
As a kid, I used to love Yu Yu Hakusho and Dragonball. I would pretend I was Yusuke and Goku. If I, a cisgender woman, can relate to male characters, then why can’t a cisgender dude relate to female characters? There isn’t that much of a divide. 
All the guys in this fandom, you don’t need to justify your reasoning for being in this space. If you’re gross then fuck off, but assuming a person is gross because of their gender isn’t cool. I worry that younger male fans may feel like they don't belong in this space, or that it's "wrong" for them to like the series. It’s not. You belong here too :)
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shadowtarot · 2 years ago
Food For Thoguht: Naoto and Sae
While fishing in New Horizons, I realized a detail present with Naoto and Sae that I don’t think people tend to connect the dots to. That being, Sexism in the legal field. This is a bit of a touchy topic, so I’ll put this under readmore.
Now Persona isn’t shy about showing Sexism, but when it comes to Naoto and Sae they stand out to me since they actually have moments where they actually speak out about everything they deal with.
Starting with Naoto, the IT goes most of the game assuming our Detective Prince is...well a guy. Naoto makes no qualms to correct anyone and it’s not until you face her shadow that you learn that, it’s better to pretend to be something you’re not if it means being accepted. That lying to yourself is better then being open. Hence why a lot people tend to interpret this as Naoto being trans, which honestly is not the point the game is trying to push, as it’s more down to a young woman not even out of high school yet having to be constantly fearful of the mistreatment she’d get if she started to correct people that she was female due to the work she’s found herself in. 
Women and especially wives are seen as “Submissive” in Japanese culture, and yeah it’s fucked up. Put’s Bernie’s support in 3H into perspective right? But uh, back on topic.
Sae is shown multiple times through out the game to be jostled around and stressed. She gets taken off the PT case without her consent, is PISSED when Akechi makes a joke about taking her case from her (Since even though he’s a kid, it’s still a man taking a job headed by a woman originally) and so on.
When Sae snaps at Makoto, it’s due to all the shit she has to deal with. Sae’s Palace reflects the corrupt nature of the legal system like Akechi says. But honestly it’s closer to home then that. It represents that Sae getting ANYWHERE in the work she’s in is a gamble. Sure she wins the cases she takes, but it’s always seen as cheating in her eyes given what she’s always told. So she internalizes it all and it manifests as that Palace. When Sae’s heart is changed, it’s because she finally took a step to say “Fuck this” and actually did something of her own choice in confidence, saving Ren.
Naoto, after accepting her Shadow starts to be more open with who she is. And makes it more obvious that she’s going to define who she really is. Dating Naoto you can have her dress in the female uniform finally, but honestly I think it’s more empowering for her to take what used to be a crutch and turn it into something positive. 
And it’s honestly inspiring.
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revretch · 2 years ago
You know, there’s been a lot of discourse about Islam and the unfairness of forcing a woman to cover up her face...but it’s increasingly becoming apparent that we need to have a conversation about how people in America don’t have the freedom to cover up their faces.
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