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hrrytomlinson · 7 years

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hiiii, here are a bunch of fics I’ve enjoyed and loved reading throughout the month of february. I recommend that you read these great fics in march, if you haven’t already. there are SO many good and unique AUs this round, so please check them out!!

(all fics with a star are my favorites and if there are two stars then it was a favorite favorite)

1. Saved Tonight (30k)**

Harry is the world's most persistent seduction-baker, a questionable dog-sitter, and Louis's biggest fan. Louis hasn't written in years, is trying to pass loneliness off as cynicism, and absolutely hates his fans. It's probably destiny.

2. Too Real to Fake It (82k)*

With seven years of blissful marriage behind them and four wonderfully unique kids to brag about, Harry and Louis seem to finally have life all figured out and under control. How much more real could it get?

Very real it turns out, when Harry reluctantly leaves home for a 5 day business trip leaving Louis to manage their rambunctious, hyperactive household. Do they really have it all under control or are they just faking it?

Featuring all the usual suspects, inside jokes, embarrassing moments and of course, Harry and Louis' wild antics + the addition of their four equally wild and outrageous kids.

3. When You Look Like That (16k)*

“You… you still have the dress form I got you for your eighteenth birthday? You've kept it for ten years, Harry?” Louis’ eyes flick around Harry’s studio. It’s big and modern, with floor to ceiling windows that help flood the room in bright sunlight, just like the lobby. However, he can't stop staring at the faded, but present, heart surrounding the “H + L” written delicately in Louis’ handwriting in the center of the mannequin.

Louis is a songwriter who is nominated for a Grammy and he needs a suit. Fast. He seeks out help from a very popular, very mysterious designer who just so happens to be his ex-boyfriend.

4. Dress You Up In My Love (103k)**

Harry is single, and more than anything wants to find love. Agreeing to sign up to a dating website was a bad, bad idea. Niall's bad, bad idea. Louis is single, but has no interest in relationships. Or so he tells himself.   Harry is a lawyer whose boss, Nick, happens to give him a bonus, which he decides to splurge on a new work wardrobe. Louis is a frustrated designer, working as a personal shopper at Selfridges. Louis happens to be working on the day a very beautiful, but out of his depth, new customer ambles into their department in need of advice. Louis might have just found the muse he never knew he was looking for.

5. Of Honey (24k)*

Harry wants what most hybrids don’t have. Love, for instance. Companionship. Understanding. And sex so good it hurts.

6. If You Keep Holding Me This Way (22k)**

Harry is a uni student who just so happens to enjoy dressing up as a long-haired androgynous sub persona to go out to bars and pick up men to dominate him. He tries to keep his BDSM life and his personal one separated, but that gets difficult when his crush on a classmate gets serious and his two worlds collide.

7. Then We Talk Slow (20k)**

The picture showed Harry smiling widely (with a fucking dimple) at the camera, his glossy brown curls situated artfully around his shoulders. Louis couldn’t see his whole outfit, but it seemed to consist of a pink, floral button-up with most of the buttons undone. Louis could also detect the dark outlines of tattoos on his chest, although he couldn’t quite make out what they were underneath the shirt.

What he could make out was that his own heartrate seemed to have picked up significantly.

Shit.

This was so not good. Not only had Louis drunkenly sent messages in a deliberate attempt to interact with this man, he was now insanely attracted to him without ever having met him in person.

Maybe Liam was right – drunk tweeting really was a horrible, rotten idea.

A famous/non-famous AU in which Louis banters back and forth with his new record company on Twitter, only to find out that Harry is the man behind the tweets.

8. Love Endless (The Road to Recollection) (171k)**

The year is groovy 1973, and eighteen-year-old Louis Tomlinson is as gay as the rainbows that never waste their time in gloomy ole' Fortwright. Would be fine if he wasn't so viciously bullied at both home and school for such a "harmful" sexual preference.

Yeah, yeah, we've all heard this story, haven't we?

Believe him, Louis didn't think he was anything special either.

Until he found the mansion. The notoriously haunted mansion hidden deep within the forests of his tiny blip of a town in Bumfuck Nowhere, Idaho. No one with a brain ever goes near it, but Louis could use a little excitement in his life...and possibly a Band-Aid or two.

After discovering the mansion was less abandoned than he'd thought, he's now left with the most riveting mystery of a lifetime; every new finding leaving him with more questions. Who is this elusive owner, and why won't they show themselves? Why is there a set of journals in the same handwriting that span over centuries? Why in the world is there a padlock on the refrigerator...and who the hell is Alexander?

9. Dance Me (to the End of Love) (19k)*

You would think that it's a simple process - you meet, you fall in love, you get married. But when you add one lawyer and one overly-competitive high school teacher to that equation, it's no longer a straight line from beginning to end. Or the story of how a simple proposal becomes a competition where no one loses in the end.

10. For a Spell That Can’t be Broken (8k)

“Why do you have to bug him so much, Lou?” Niall asked, chewing on the sleeve of his Gryffindor robes. “He’s a good kid.”

“I’m aware of that,” Louis argued petulantly.

“Are you sure?” Niall asked, his expression sincerely concerned.

“Don’t mind him,” Zayn spoke up. “Louis’ just got a weird fetish for tormenting boys he likes.”

Or a Harry Potter AU where Louis' got a secret crush on Harry and won't admit it until a late entrance into potions class outs him.

11. Cocoons and Crow’s Nests (10k)*

Harry is happy to live his life in the confines of his Cocoon. Louis specializes in breaking down barriers.

It's a young love, coming of age Larry Stylinson one shot.

12. Dance Like Warriors On A Battlefield (20k)*

Down in the arena, the triumphant gladiator places his foot on the back of the loser, holding him there as he waits for instruction on his next move. Kill or let live. It’s barbaric, really, the bloodlust involved in this sport. Louis is pretty sure that if it wasn’t for his distaste for the killing there would be a lot more blood soaking that sand.

As it is, his father rarely gives the kill order anymore. He gives the order to let the loser live. Louis rolls his eyes, turning away. He doesn’t miss the way the gladiator’s eyes linger on him.

13. Record Your Fate (and Write Me In) (13k)*

Harry is the Archivist, it's his job to record what happens in the universe.

He's only a few days into the job when things take an odd turn.

Suddenly, the small blue eyed boy seems more important than writing about crowning dignitaries.

14. Tangled Up in You (45k)

Harry blinks once. And blinks again. And says, his voice dangerous: “Niall, did you get me a mail-order bride?”

Because what the actual fuck. It kind of looks like Niall’s just purchased a person. For Harry.

“What did you get me, then?!” Niall must hear the tinge of hysteria in his voice, because he’s pulling himself together, trying to stop himself from laughing.

There’s still a big grin on his face, though, when he says, “I got you a professional cuddler.”

A professional…what. “What?”

15. This Ain't Just a Thing That You Give Up (34k)

Harry turned to Liam to whisper something about not being in Kansas anymore but his best friend was frozen to his spot with a look of complete disbelief on his face. Harry looked to his right, the direction Liam seemed to be focused on, and saw a small group of people who had paused their discussion to look towards him in confusion.

A small group including Zayn Malik and Louis Tomlinson.

Harry is fairly sure his jaw actually dropped.

"Li, is that...?"

Liam nods his head emphatically. "I'm about 110% sure that yes. It is."

Or… The one where Harry is a baker in addition to being a college student who just happens to meet the crazy famous Louis Tomlinson while on spring break. Featuring personal assistant!niall, roommate and best friend!liam, and costar/model!zayn.

16. Resist Everything Except Temptation (100k)**

The lethargic sound of heels clicking against wood resonated across the sea. Footsteps descended the staircase, every assured step creating a menacing aura as it grew closer. Perspiration gathered along Louis’ palms as the rhythmic sound halted in front of him.

There was a metallic slide of a sword being pulled out of its sheath, the sound startling Louis out of his cocoon of sterile shock. His shoulders jumped as the tip of a blade flattened underneath his jaw. Louis’ distorted reflection stared back at him in the polished metal. Engraved rose petals twisted his appearance as they crawled up the length of the sword. The sword lifted and took Louis’ chin with it.

Standing in front of Louis was Captain Styles.

OR The one where Louis is the commodore's son who is forced to become a part of Harry's crew when he is captured.

17. Far Afield (11k)**

Harry Styles is a witch who owns the best flower shop in Manchester. Lottie Tomlinson is planning her wedding, and brings her brother along to her first appointment. Both men have been having a bad day and sparks fly.

18. You’re Either In Or You’re Out (12k)

Louis' tone is maybe a bit harsher than necessary, but he still stinging from the suggestion that he was staring at Harry. Sure, the way his legs are encased in those skinny jeans is mildly intriguing. But Louis is here to be the next Top Designer, and he'll be damned if he lets a pretty boy with a sinful mouth get in the way of his dream. Especially if that sinful mouth is spewing phrases like bohemian pantsuit. Honestly.

Or the one where Louis tries out for Project Runway, Harry is his stupidly gorgeous competitor, Liam is Tim Gunn, Zayn is the supermodel host, and Niall is the guest judge who knows nothing about fashion.

19. These Bountiful Silences (123k)**

They live in a world where they can only say four words per day. Harry meets some people that don't want to live that way.

20. Kiss the Boys (8k)

“Being able to blatantly kiss pretty boys out in the open is my favorite part of Pride,” Harry says without preamble, leaning into Louis’ space, inviting pink lips quirking up as they get closer to him. “You up for it?”

“Um,” Louis glances at Zayn for help. He’d thought for sure after the way he’d just seen Zayn and Harry kissing, there had to be something more going on there. The last thing Louis expects to see on Zayn’s face is a knowing grin.

Harry leans closer and for a split-second, Louis wants to meet him halfway but then he thinks better of it. He doesn’t know the landscape here and in just a couple of weeks living with him, he’s already learned that Zayn is really bad about holding his feelings in. He doesn’t want to risk stepping on the toes of his closest friend here at Uni. So, at the last second, Louis raises his empty hand and covers Harry’s mouth before the boy can complete his mission.

“Sorry, Curly,” Louis says jokingly, “I just don’t know where that mouth has been.”

21. Manhattan From The Sky (47k)**

Harry's been raised to know that successful men do not fall in love. Louis believes that love is all you need to be successful in life. They meet.

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Jonny Bairstow: England batsman sets tone in Cricket World Cup

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Jonny Bairstow: England batsman sets tone in Cricket World Cup

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Cricket World Cup: Watch the best of Bairstow as England book semi-final spot

Panic over, for now. As one English sporting team exit at the semi-final stage of one World Cup, a second has fought its way into the last four of another.

The knockout stages of this cricket World Cup do not technically begin until next week, yet England find themselves inadvertently ahead of the game.

A win over India when defeat would have felt terminal, now a demolition of New Zealand by 119 runs in what was effectively a quarter-final.

It is quite some turnaround on a week ago, a revival through adversity that mirrors that of their dominant batsman.

Jonny Bairstow was out for a golden duck in the shock loss to Sri Lanka and holed out for a skittery 27 as defeat followed against Australia and England’s much-vaunted campaign began to plummet at pace.

In the past four days he has now made as many World Cup centuries as England managed in 16 years from 1987.

It is characteristically Bairstow and it has come just in time. A week ago, the 29-year-old was railing against critics of his side, saying that people were waiting for them to fail so they could “jump on their throats”. In response former England skipper Michael Vaughan called that a “negative, pathetic mindset”.

A row often works for the feisty Bairstow and it has worked for his team. England have won two tosses, batted first each time and won through aggression with the bat and parsimony with the ball.

Where there was doubt there is fresh belief. The only jumping in the capacity crowd on Wednesday was up and down.

TMS podcast: An England semi-final, the Plunkett song and Mark Wood’s tiny hands

At a warm, sun-smeared Riverside Bairstow played once again like a man jabbing his finger in your chest as his mates hold him back.

In the first over he faced from Tim Southee he crashed one four through cover off the back foot and another over point with his front foot planted down the track.

In Southee’s next over he hit three boundaries in succession – a full one drilled through mid-wicket, a lofted drive over cover and a slashing pull off his chest.

That was the muscle. Later he would finesse Colin de Grandhomme for two fours in the same over with the sort of delicate late cut that used to define an in-form Ian Bell.

Together with Jason Roy, whose return from injury has brought its own liberation, Bairstow took what had begun as a nervy affair and turned it into raucous knees-up.

England had 25 on the board after three overs and 48 by the end of the sixth. By the time Roy hit a tame catch to cover midway through the 19th, the two aggressors had stuck on 123 off 113 balls, and the plot lines were set.

“He likes a bit of fire in his belly,” Bairstow’s captain Eoin Morgan had noted after his 111 against India on Sunday.

Some batsmen at their best isolate themselves from the bedlam all around to play as if enjoying a net. Bairstow likes to bring the noise. Bairstow is bedlam.

Adversity has always brought the best from him. He is the kid who was let go by Leeds United having played in the same youth team as Danny Rose and Fabian Delph for seven years only to forge an alternative sporting career.

His first Test century took 36 innings to arrive. When he celebrated that landmark against South Africa he dwelt on the words of his critics and doubters and thought to himself, “Right, you can stick that where the sun doesn’t shine”.

His 110 in the third Test against Sri Lanka last winter came after he had been left out of the side despite recovering from injury. He has been dropped six times from the Test team and yet will be an essential component in next month’s Ashes.

Even with his county Yorkshire he had scored 19 fifties before he got his first hundred.

There is a theory from one former player close to Bairstow that as a young man, stricken by the suicide of his father David, he was occasionally given too much leeway by those around him, desperate as they were to help him through such an appalling time.

If that sounds unduly harsh there is something about the adult that can still seem at odds with the world. He is often blunt and always honest. Sometimes he can be awkward.

Not many other players would have thought it sensible to greet Australian batsman Cameron Bancroft with a headbutt before the last Ashes series down under.

That incident left him feeling misunderstood but there was no room for confusion on Wednesday.

His century came up off 95 balls with 14 fours and a six, on a ground with as distant a boundary on one side as the one at Edgbaston on Sunday had been short, and he celebrated with abandon: helmet off, arms outstretched, soaking up the cheers and the applause and retribution.

Jonny Bairstow has scored 462 runs in the World Cup – only Joe Root (500) has more for England

At that point England were 194-1 with 20 overs still to come. They never quite kicked on after he played on, driving expansively, for 106 the over after his friend and Test captain Joe Root had been caught behind, but the damage had been done.

This England team are more comfortable batting first. They like to pile on the runs and then wait for their opponents to wilt under the weight of them.

Bairstow, and his alliance with brother-in-arms Roy, allows them to do that. When he scores big runs he wounds the opposition attack and sets free the batsmen who follow to play the same attacking game.

England’s middle order struggles to fire when it is exposed early and wickets are on the board. Its batting line-up is about bullying rather than patient accumulation.

Bairstow sets the pace and sets the tone. On Wednesday he scored 46 runs more than Roy and 64 more than the next highest-scoring English batsman.

England could afford to go 56 balls without a boundary in the later part of their innings because the walls had already been breached.

Two wins on the spin, confidence beginning to flow. Even in the field England look a different team: Jos Buttler’s one-handed diving take to dismiss Martin Guptill, compared to his fumbled stumping a week ago against Australia; Adil Rashid’s one-handed pick-up-and-throw to run out Ross Taylor, when the ground fielding at Lord’s had included fumbles and over-throws.

A semi-final at Edgbaston against Australia or India awaits.

It is England’s first at a World Cup in 27 years. Long may the adversity last.

#Cricket #World

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r0u53 · 6 years

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My Imaginary Friend

“Nobody realizes that some people expend tremendous energy merely to be normal”

- Albert Camus

When we are children some of us can remember having an imaginary friend. I had “Jeremy”. I don’t remember at what point in my childhood I imagined him to life, but, I can remember telling my mother all about the things “Jeremy and I” did outside while playing in the yard. He wasn’t one of those dominate imaginary friends who was involved in everything but since I was the youngest child (by a LOT of years, my brother who is second to last in my siblings is 12 years older than me) who didn’t have siblings to play with I made that person up. Jeremy and I played in the treehouse, swam in the pool, and played on our play set. Jeremy also was there for me during the bad nights. The nights, after my 6th birthday, when my parents would yell and scream for hours on end because of the latest fight that they felt the need to have. I could feel Jeremy holding my hand, laying under the blankets with me, and helped me close my eyes tight and take myself to a pretend land where it was quiet and where screaming was forbidden. Jeremy in all sense of the word was my “sanctuary”. He didn’t yell, he didn’t get mad, and he never, ever left me.

At some point, as I got older, Jeremy shifted away from my reality and I came to acknowledge that my imaginary friend wasn’t reasonable to have anymore. I started to realize I had to find a logical way to deal with the stress and unpleasantness that life brings. I couldn’t hide with Jeremy under the blankets when I was in social situations, at work, or while I was praying for the screaming to stop. At that point I felt as if I had no one that I could solidly turn to. This of course was not the truth, I had a lot of people who loved, cared, and wanted the best for me. But in my mind, without Jeremy, I was truly alone. This created the “don’t ask, don’t tell” years. The years in which I ignored the “Are you ok?” questions and instead created a facade that masked over what was really happening inside of my head so no one would notice. The years where I didn’t tell anyone how I was feeling, what was bothering me, and what was too much to bear. Instead I kept this feeling so deeply inside of me that I could feel it gnawing at my stomach, could feel it buzzing inside of my brain, and could feel it slowly killing the happy, light hearted person that I was with “Jeremy”. But the one thing I didn’t let happen was I refused to ever, ever, ever lose it completely. I allowed myself to get to the point of just enough and then I would make it stop. I would never fully allow myself to panic. A lot of time this meant causing myself physical pain that I forced myself to focus on rather than deal with what was going on in my head. I functioned for my entire teenage years and a very big majority of my 20’s with this feeling. It became so part of my life that I simply accepted it as who I was destined to become in this world. Never truly happy but never absolutely miserable. Just there.

“Never have I dealt with anything more difficult than my own soul"

- Unknown

Enter year 26. In January of 2013 I met the man who would absolutely and completely change my life. He was a tall, handsome, shy man who wore a purple batman shirt to a bowling alley that we both didn’t want to be at. And while we barely spoke 10 words to each other that night (introvert couple problems) in the next few months I would never want to hear one persons voice so much in my life. Our relationship felt like a whirlwind of emotions and colors that I had never felt or seen before. We spoke every day, texted from sunrise to sunset, and saw each other as much as we possibly could living an hour apart and both having very busy lives. By November of that year he had asked me to marry him and by May of the following year we were saying “I do”. Before I could realize it he became my new “Jeremy”. He was the one my mind went to to help me deal with the latest stress it had created. He was the one who held my hand, the one who hid under the blankets with me, and the one who never yelled because it was forbidden. Before I realized it I was relying so heavily on him that when he was not around suddenly I completely forgot how I dealt with the bad times and my grip on the panic started slipping.

I remember my first full panic attack. I was facing a work trip that involved me getting on a plane by myself and flying to Las Vegas. It would be the first night sleeping away from my husband, the first time being over 1,000 miles away from him. Enter the night before I was about to leave. I had gone upstairs to our bedroom and in one moment my brain went into the most uncontrollable panic that I didn’t know what was happening to me. I felt my blood go cold inside of my body, I felt my hands shake, felt my lungs burn as I struggled to breath, and I felt myself crying uncontrollably. I could blindly hear my husband running up the stairs and pulling me into his arms. “Baby, what’s wrong” my mind could hear him saying over and over. My mouth opened and I could hear myself say “I’m scared”. In reality it was so much more than “scared” of going on the trip. I was petrified that my mind had suddenly betrayed me. What was this? I didn’t panic. I didn’t allow myself to panic. I held it in, kept control, no breaks, no leeway, 24/7. Who was this weak person who was curled into a ball on our bed while my husband ran his hands through my hair whispering “I’m here baby, it’s ok. I won’t let anything happen to you.”?

“The Mad Hatter: ‘Have I gone mad?’ Alice: I’m afraid so. Your entirely bonkers. But I’ll tell you a secret. All the best people are.”

- C.S. Lewis “Alice in Wonderland”

I remember the first time I heard the word “anxiety” used to describe what was happening to me. It had gotten to the point that my mental state was starting to affect my work and my boss started to notice. He came to me, concerned I was unhappy at my job. I burst into tears, begging for forgiveness. And in an instant my mouth opened and everything came out. I told him everything I had been going through, everything that I was dealing with, and all the nights I had spent awake thinking of every worst possible scenario possible to every situation I might possibly have to face. I told him I was crazy. His words were “Amanda, you are not crazy. You have anxiety.” It’s funny how hearing one simple word changes your entire view of yourself. It’s like uncovering a mirror and slowly letting the reflection show you what you really look like. But that mirror shows you everything that you really don’t like about yourself: the extra weight, the spots on your face, your dark shadows under your eyes, the haircut that isn’t flattering, the makeup that doesn’t look as good as the end of the day. However, this mirror showed the absolutely terrible mental state that I now found myself accepting. I was not strong, I was not in control. I was so incredibly fragile and broken that I did not know who I was. This girl had never existed in my entire life. What was I supposed to do with her?

I wish I could end this with this amazingly uplifting blurb about how I was able to conquer my anxiety and that instead of my anxious thoughts taking over 85% of my thoughts it now only is 20%. However, I cannot. In all honesty the anxious thoughts are probably 50 -60% of my thoughts. I have however learned that I can gain some control. My support system is 110% part of what makes me strong. Each person who is part of it in some way helps me get through all my bad moments. And by focusing on that I feel like my bad moments don’t last as long. The anxiety isn’t as crippling, it doesn’t last as long, and when it does I feel that I can still remember “This too shall pass.” My anixiety is with me wherever I go. To the grocery store, to that social engagement I don’t want to go to, to all my work trips, and to all the moments that make my heart beat a little bit faster. Always there and holding my hand warning me of all the bad things that could happen in this moment. This is a different version of “Jeremy” that I didn’t know existed but I feel like was always there. He was that part of me that I kept hidden, that I didn’t accept, and I didn’t acknowledge so that I didn’t have to feel so fragile. He was my gut wrenching fear that my parents weren’t going to make it through this fight. He was my absolute devastation and tears over the hurtful words and actions of teenage bully’s. He was the heartbreak of watching death, watching loved ones walk away from you, and the horrible feeling of losing friends. He was the intense pain of change in your life you didn’t want to happen but that happened anyway. He was the few tears you cried when everything became too much. Yes, “Jeremy” was always my anxiety. He was always my little friend.

“And tho she be but little. She is fierce.”

- William Shakespear

There’s a part in The Lord of The Rings book “The Return of the King” where Frodo has finally succumb to the journey. He had completed his journey, destroyed the ring, but found himself too tired to finish. In what he feels is his last moments he turns to his faithful friend and says “I am glad to be here with you Samwise Gamgee. Here at the end of all things.” I can remember being a 15 year old girl reading Lord of The Rings for the first time (the first of 24 times) and feeling such absolute heartbreak at those words. Not just for the characters that I had grown to love but I had the worst yearning to feel that way about someone in my life. To have that person who would find you no matter what and would always be there for you. Anxiety has introduced me to those characters in my life. I have found my Samwise Gamgee’s.

It’s a funny thing, anxiety. While it is terrifying and crippling and absolutely awful, it also really opens your eyes to a whole new world around you. Not while you are in the middle of the blinding panic but in the times in between. In the solitude of your mind finally quieting and the buzzing lifting you start to see what you missed. The best friend that, even tho he’s going through so many problems himself, is always there for you. He’s the one who doesn’t need you to explain what is going on because he just gets it. The one who always signs to you “Are you ok?” because he knows you can’t answer the question out loud. And even if he doesn’t know everything he’s there anyway with a smile and a pun that makes you roll your eyes. Your best friend who might not fully know what you have to deal with on a regular basis understands anyway because she is going through so many changes herself that she to starts to feel the pull of anxiety. And when she knows your days are bad, even though she's 2 hours away, she sends you so many encouraging texts and snapchats to make you laugh just so that you can stop crying. The mother, who you were terrified to tell, that is suddenly so understanding that it makes you cry and wish at the same time that you weren’t telling her. And the husband. The husband who doesn’t even have to ask you anymore because he knows you so well that he can see it in your eyes before you even fully know it yourself. The husband who encourages you to be brave but who doesn’t get mad at you when you can’t be. The husband who holds your hand a little tighter because he can feel the slight trembling in your hands. The husband who kisses your forehead and tells you “I’m so proud of you.” The husband who put the color back in your world. The husband that makes you a little braver with every “Amanda, I love you.” Yes, anxiety, even in it’s worst forms has opened my eyes to what I didn’t realize I had. That support system that gets me through all my long days and all my sleepless nights. They are the real soldiers in this war I fight because in ways I feel like their jobs are harder. They have to feel helpless and they have to watch. And lets face it, as ugly as anxiety is on the inside, it’s a hideous monster on the outside.

In a way this blog post was therapy for me. But it was also my way to say “Thank you.” To my best friends, to my support system, to my amazing husband. And to “Jeremy.” Thank you, for always be there. For always being my friend.

“Not to spoil the ending for you or anything, but everything is going to be ok”

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Exposed Narcissist Kathy Griffin In Full Damage Control This scenario is so classic, a narcissist bullies someone and then calls them the bully while pretending to be the victim. Failed comic Kathy Griffin poses for a picture depicting herself holding the bloodied decapitated head of the President. This picture is so terrorist Isis style that many people are upset and offended. The President's eleven year old son also sees this image on social media and thought that his father was dead but the narcissist claims no responsibility but blames his parents for his seeing it. Kathy used every trick in the narcissist playbook to try to wriggle out of her showing her true, hateful, violent colors to the world by blaming everyone but herself as we will see with a step by step analysis of these events. Last week comic Kathy Griffin had a moment where she thought that she would make points with Isis, terrorists, Snoop Dog (who made a video of shooting the President), and all other narcissists who think violence and killing is called for if you don't like someone by setting up a photo shoot with herself holding the decapitated head of the President. It didn't work out quite as well as she hoped for because many found it offensive and twisted, even Chelsea Clinton! If you can offend a Clinton it's got to be really bad. To make matters worse CNN also cancelled her from their propaganda news show and her hosting their New Year's Eve show, not that they disapproved of her actions but the backlash was too much from decent normal people and they would be exposed for what they truly are. Many on social media posted links and phone numbers of the venues where she was scheduled to play and urged others to call and demand that they cancel her events, which they did. Because of HER actions she lost lots of money and was exposed as a cold hearted snake. Now what does a narcissist do in this situation? Blame someone else! Anyone else! Everyone she can think of! So Kathy gets a couple of high profile civil rights lawyers to do a press conference with her because the poor little victim needs not one but two lawyers to defend her from the imagined injustice she is facing. Kathy starts this press conference by saying that she's not afraid of our President, he's a bully, and that she's dealt with older white guys trying to keep her down her whole career and that she's a woman in a male dominated field. Okay Kathy, you posed with the decapitated head of someone but they are the bully, you didn't give any proof that they are the bully but you saying it makes it so. She then attacks all older white guys for treating women unfairly. She goes on and states that she's done stand up comedy in war zones and hospitals trying to prove that she's a good person and is just misunderstood. In the same sentence she says that she participated in "the image" trying to deflect from the fact that the whole photo shoot was her idea and instead tried to change reality saying it was another's idea and she just participated innocently. She then states that her half-assed apology given a couple days before the press conference still stands but negates it with then stating, "If you don't stand up you get run over". I guess beheading the President Isis style is standing up now. She then states that if she could do it over that she would just have a blow up doll and no ketchup while she rolls her eyes. The rolling of her eyes says it all, people overreacted with their feelings on this and she finds that ridiculous. She then makes up a false narrative of the President and his grown children attacking her and trying to ruin her life forever with no corrobarating evidence of this. She then goes on about the supposed death threats that she is receiving, falsely trying to connect them to the President and his family. If she has received death threats it was from another violent, off the wall crack pot such as herself. Her photo shoot was a death threat if anything. She then goes on with, " Today it's me and tomorrow it could be you." She then tries to portray that she's a role model for young girls and that some nerdy girl in Illinois may be watching her to see how she handles being threatened with death by the President of the United States of America even though later in this press conference she states that children should not watch her because of her vileness. Kathy then states that she shouldn't have to die for her actions and in the same sentence mentions a Secret Service investigation being conducted against her with her lawyer throwing in that the other first families of the White House did not come after her for her "jokes" about them, again trying to change reality and making the false allegation that the first family ordered the Secret Service to investigate her. I know this is false because all over social media people were posting the phone number of the Secret Service and urging others to call and insist on an investigation. It was the normal, law abiding citizens of this country that were outraged by her actions that prompted an investigation. She then states that she is being victimized because the President wants to deflect from his being investigated by the F.B.I., you know the false Russian narrative that he has communist ties to them even though after many months of investigation there is no evidence of any collusion with them. She then goes on playing the older woman card and not only the woman card but the little, tiny, helpless woman card by stating that she's 110 lbs and everyone has turned on her because of the President is a bully, not because she showed the world her true evil self. She then goes on about some gay guy who is afraid to come out but gets to laugh at her shows trying to prove how good she is for humanity and that she's really a good person despite her Isis tactics. She then tries to act like what she did was just making fun of the President and it was all blown out of proportion. The narcissist never accepting responsibilty, something must be wrong with you if you found this act offensive. A reporter then asks Kathy's lawyer about Kathy's past statement about going after the President's eleven year old son Barron and after Kathy made a dismissive 'Tsk' adding that she thinks a comic should be able to go after everyone ( including innocent children) her lawyer then jumps right in there saying that she thinks that this statement is from years ago like that makes it better if he was even younger when narcissist Kathy said that she would attack him. The narcissist lawyer then out-narcs Kathy by coming on very aggressive about this question stating that it is a misleading, ridiculous question meaning a question that she didn't like and that since kathy didn't mention Barron today it shouldn't be brought up. She then deflects away from Kathy's statement on attacking a child with, " Comics can say things that are not appropriate for children, comics can create images that are not appropriate for children, many things on the news are not appropriate for children." She does not address Kathy's threatening attacks on a child but blames Barron's parents for not filtering out what Barron sees on T.V. or on social media. The reporter then asks her if the President can filter out all major news media's showing Kathy's picture of holding the decapitated President's head and she puts on her narcissistic 'disgusted' face and says that the news stations (propaganda centers) depict the President in far worse light than anything Kathy has done and Kathy's 'Piece' had nothing to do with Barron so why are you even asking about this? Narcissists hate when you bring up something that they have no answer for and are being held accountable for. Kathy then jumps in and says that she makes fun of everybody in her acts (even children) but it's O.K. because she makes fun of herself more and she's 'super real'. Another reporter then asks about Barron being traumatized seeing his father's head decapitated and her lawyer says, "Allegedly, we don't know that everything the Trumps says is true". There was no sincere apology from either narcissist if it was true that a child was traumatized or not and it was the parent's fault if he was. Kathy then states that she is not appropriate for child, guess she forgot about the nerdy little girl in Illinois watching how she will handle the fall out of her actions. Another reporter asks Kathy about her statement about being bullied by the Trump family outside of social media and she states that she doesn't think that they have to because of HER IMPRESSION that they have mobilized their armies and their bots to use her as a distraction. Narcissists are famous for having no evidence of their claims and they are excellent mind readers. She then calls the President a fool and that she will not be collateral damage for him. We all know who the fool is here, Kathy. Kathy then goes on about how the President 'broke her' even though earlier in this press conference she vows to fight back and not back down. The poor little narcissist is trying to get sympathy. "He broke me, broke me...broke me" ... fake crying, no tears...and I apologized because it was the right thing to do....and I meant it". No tears but a crying, fake face. "And then I realized this isn't right (narcissists cannot admit that what they did was wrong, it must be something else". Kathy, it must be a grand plan from the President of the United States of America to deflect from something else because you're so damn important and should be in the history books. "I would never want to hurt anyone much less a child". Kathy, you admitted that you said that you were going after him because comics can do that, no matter how much you hurt them. Then a reporter asks her about CNN firing her and she said that a bunch of old white guys are trying silence her and her lawyer jumps in with it is censorship and it's wrong. So much for admitting that what she did was wrong and in poor taste, now it's discrimination from the old white guys at CNN. Another reporter asks Kathy that if she were a guy would the Secret Service be investigating her and she states, "No, cut the crap, this is a woman thing". I guess it wasn't a deflection tactic from the President after all? She then goes on about older white guys again owning the venues she plays at and signing her checks discriminating against her, I personally have always thought that Kathy was white herself. Am I mistaken? Wasn't it those old white guys that booked her and paid her? Those evil bastards. Kathy was then asked that if she was given the chance what would she say to Melania and Barron Trump. After a long moment of silence Kathy looks to her lawyer to bail her out of this question and her lawyer asks her, "Do you have anything to say to them?" and Kathy states that she does not. True remorse or any true accountability from a narcissist? Never. A reporter than asks Kathy about the first lady's statement regarding Kathy's mental health and Kathy addressing this by stating that there are many in this administration are 'super nut jobs'. Projection at it's finest. Her lawyer then jumps in saying the President shouldn't criticize artists and comics, even though they depict his beheading. This lawyer then falsely states that the Trump family is on Twitter calling for Kathy and anyone else that supports her to be fired from their jobs. A reporter then brings up Anderson Cooper calling Kathy's photo disgusting and Kathy again goes into a fake crying act with shaking hand and all and said that that really hurt her. Again a narcissist not able to admit that what they did was inappropiate and yes, disgusting. Kathy recovers very quickly (as narcissists do because the crying act isn't real) for the next question about her on video after the photo shoot saying that she would go to prison for this and she again attacks the President falsely claim that he wants to murder her even though she was the one with his head in her hands. Yvonne Clerebout www.stopthenarcissistsnow.com Please watch the video and see a true narcissist in action. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wKV-D895t4&t=98s

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