#it's about the emotional maturity

[strawberry-soot]

not to out myself as a lilia x trein shipper buuuuuut .................................. i made some edits

they're on a date 💕

you can't convince me they're not cute but you are free to judge me for my vile shipping taste as much as you want to. just know lilia and trein will grow on you like dustly old mold and once you've fallen down the lilia/trein rabbit hole i will offer you biscuits and tomato juice but no ladder :)

#twisted wonderland #twst #twst edit #lilia vanrouge #twisted wonderland lilia #lilia twisted wonderland #mozus trein #twisted wonderland trein #lilia x trein #can't belive that's not a tag yet smh #y'all are SLEEPING on this ship #it's about the emotional maturity #it's about unconventional love #it's about equality and autonomy and having enough life experience to really understand the other #it's about LOVE #you can pry this ship from my cold dead hands

[buggachat]

(random s5 finale musings) tbh I don't think Marinette chose to keep The Secrets™ from Adrien because Gabriel asked her to. I feel like Marinette keeping secrets like that is so consistent with her character; she hates giving people bad news, she hates rocking the boat, she hates upsetting people, she always chooses to keep any 'controversial' information to herself for as long as she can get away with (examples: bubbler scarf, telling Queen Bee she was benched, confessing to Adrien, warning Chat Noir about Scarabella or Rena Furtive, never told Chat Noir about Chat Blanc, etc) that I just totally believe she would've done it either way. She was even already having nightmares about Adrien hating her for finding out she defeated his father, so I feel like Gabriel's request was moreso giving her a go-ahead than it was a primary deciding factor, yknow?

#ml s5 spoilers #tbh half the time when thinking about it I forget that gabriel asked her to do it at all #because it just feels like such a Marinette™ thing to do to me lol #to be fair maybe I'm downplaying it? I do think Gabriel's plea struck some emotional chord with her too and helped push her that direction #but again I. totally believe she'd do it either way #and I do strongly believe that her decision is moreso ''I don't want to hurt Adrien'' than it is ''I want to honor Gabriel's final wish'' #she loves to avoid verbal/emotional problems and hoooo boy idk a worse verbal/emotion problem than #telling your boyfriend that his entire life is a lie and that he's not entirely human and that he was abused and controlled and puppeteered #all his life and also that his father was a terrorist and that she saw his mom's corpse in the basement #I mean. I don't think I'd have the emotional maturity to break that to someone either and I'm not.... FOURTEEN.... LOL

[bigothteddies]

oh and btw, that 39 year old telling you how mature you are for your age is a manipulation tactic. It’s not a compliment.

#unimportant thoughts #and I know if you’re the girl reading this right now you’re thinking ‘oh but I can tell he means it! he’s not manipulating me!’ #you’re right #he does probably mean it #he thinks you’re mature #but he thinks that you’re mature because you’re of similar emotional maturity to him #HE’S the one who’s not mature and he doesn’t understand his own actuons and he will be abusive and manipulative for it #because the only thing that matters in his thought processing is what He Wants and what He Feels #he will say and do anything to get what he wants and to feel good about himself #and You are something he wants #Do Not Fall For It #remember: it feels good to get the attention of them #and its hard to deny that and remind yourself that THEYRE the pathetic one for trying to hit up a 19 year old #but you really really need to. for your own safety #I don’t know! i have a mutual i talk to I have a little bit of an age gap with #honestly? it’s noticable. they have feelings and emotions and thought processes that i havent had since i was 19 #and if i feel that way at 25? why the fuck is your 39 year old ‘admirer’ telling you you’re mature for your age #you’re not. you’re 19 and thats awesome. being 19 is awesome. #don’t let a 39 year old take that away from you. #(ages are specific for no reason insert whatever ages you need) #(yes im a little ragey tonight) #delete later

[birchlogz]

#hosea matthews #arthur morgan #rdr2 #red dead redemption 2 #i could go into an unhinged rant abt this actuallt i will. fuck u #this started as like a jokey post but like #idk it lead down this whole rabbithole of arthur's emotional maturity #we know john clearly loved hosea but we only ever see arthurs side #and we see how much hoseas mentorship and wit and love influenced arthur #and although he had a similar influence on john and guided his moral compass i think john is much less mature about processing #and understanding his emotions... like he wouldnt have ran away if he had those skills. #and this idea of arthur figuring out that he thinks of dutch and hosea as parents. that its ok to have parental figures #that arent your biological ones and them being there in your life doesnt replace the connection he had with his mother #i just think john would struggle internally with that concept a lot #he wouldnt want to accept that. he is afraid of having a new family. #this boy needs therapy #anyways #my artz #someonewhos smarter than me should write a fic abt that noneed to credit me i just need to see that in the world #if it exists link it to me now i NEED to cry over it

[ride-a-dromedary]

Just thinking about the implications of this, but Halsin's way of indicating that his family has long passed is: "save for [him], [his] line perished a long time ago".

Aside from it being a decidedly more old fashioned and more eloquent way of indicating what happened (as is shown in shades in Halsin's speaking patterns, which is likely trying to illustrate his age as well as push the "wise mentor" angle), by stating that his line has ended with him, practically, it means both sets of grandparents are gone, both parents are gone, and either Halsin is an only child (unlikely considering Wood Elves, but possible), or any and all of his siblings are gone, too. And if you stretch what you consider part of a line, rather than just keeping direct, that could extend to aunts and uncles and cousins as well (though it's hard to say concretely what Halsin includes in a familial line).

So it leaves me to wonder what happened to reduce an entire elven line to one elf, when Halsin himself is only just approaching middle-age and he pointedly says it happened a long time ago, so it wasn't a recent event, and the lot of them likely didn't die from old age/natural causes. Was his entire village wiped out at one point? Disease or a raid or orcs or a wildfire or what?

#BG3 Musing #Halsin Posting #Halsin #or am i over thinking this and halsin's mention of familial line only means like he was an only child and has no children #and his parents are dead? #wood elves are largely polyamorous AND the most populous of the elven races #their families in high forest are often pretty big - and i would assume there would be multiple parents - so it's just a little curious #anyway catch me trying to decipher halsin's dad lore #wood elf villages often take council from druids in the area and they are highly revered - maybe halsin being one of the only elves left #was taken in by whomever it was giving his village council and that's how he ended up in the emerald grove #and then as a young druid he went traversing out and about #halsin's had to bury two families is what i'm saying no wonder he wants one - he is survivor's guilt squared #and if experiencing death is a milestone in how elves emotionally mature - halsin is likely an example of premature maturation #like i wouldn't be surprised it halsin's emotional maturation was screwed around too like astarion's he's just healthier about it #anyway tell me your secrets elf man or at least larian let me read more of halsin's journals

[ruben-the-cowboy]

The fact that John was the same age as Jack in the Epilogue when he was about to be hanged for his crimes.. (12 years old)

Yes, this is in fact what I’m thinking about

(I also think his efforts are overlooked because he struggles with creating a stable environment for Jack when his wasn’t always stable)

(Anyways, crying in the club over baby John crying in fear on the gallows in 1885)

#I always think about the fact that we know how mature Jack is in the epilogue #which really he isn’t very mature at all (as to be expected from a 12 year old) #but we all know that John and Jack are very similar based on Jack’s personality in the epilogue of RDR1 #so we can assume that John was very similar in temperament as Jack is in 1907 #so I can always imagine john (being Jack’s age) scared for his life on those gallows #it makes me emotional that’s it #red dead redemption #red dead redemption 2 #rdr2 #rdr2 fandom #john marston #jack marston

[pansyfemme]

not how body language works.

#ppl will just. say shit. insane #for context the video this is a reponse to is in fact. not great but like still. dude #this is ‘the dark empath vs the secret narcassist’ shit again #i feel like. people who brag about their empathy and emotional maturity cannot be using the word ‘evil’ for real people they dont know but.

[daily-hanamura]

#p4 #persona 4 #p4g #persona 4 golden #hanamura yosuke #yosuke hanamura #im chewing glass over the way yosuke is holding himself and the team together #as always yosuke tends to fill in and speak for yu because yu doesn't like to talk much but im just #the way he's keeping calm here and reminding everyone not to be blinded by emotions even though theyre all anxious about nanako #“we'll do this the same way as always” like yosuke is one of the most emotionally sensitive members of the team #his emotions about saki was the catalyst for the IT forming like yosuke is so protective about the people around him #but he understands at this point that the team - and yu - don't need that from him #they need a level headed voice keeping them grounded #and for yu especially who must be the most frustrated right now #yosuke recognises what is needed and steps in to fill that #and i think its both a sign of remarkable maturity of yosuke's growth but also his place as yu's trusted confidant #but also!! also!! the way the team nods in agreement at his words!!! the way he helped create this shared understanding amongst them!!! #:'))))) yosuke...... #he's good with his queue

[reblogglelog]

Sad Boy Hours: Billy Batson

He's trying so hard to get the screaming adults in the room to just stop screaming at each other and be reasonable.

He is immediately dismissed and storms off, justifiably insulted.

And Billy goes right back to blaming himself, trying to figure out where he went wrong, how he could have fixed things, managed the emotions of the room better--even though he is 100% correct and the adults are absolutely failing, and badly.

"Even if he's wrong...I should respect him." Honey, the thing that's eating at you is the absolute dogshit way they act and then expect you to just accept as normal. These grown-ass heroes should not be hitting each other.

And a degree, honey. Several of them.

He sounds like a teacher trying to get the class to behave and that script keeps failing him. Over and over the adults around him dismiss him for his optimism, ignore his calls for reason. And they're heroes. They're the good guys and they tear into each other regularly and viciously. And Billy is fifteen years old in a room of adults screaming at each other. The team is sometimes down right abusive, and this child is trying to keep them from falling apart.

I worry about him, ya know?

(anyway, thank you for coming to my Sad Boy Hours)

#justice league 80s #jli #justice league international #billy batson #shazam #dc captain marvel #i found so many moments of billy being an absolute sweetie pie and trying desperately to get people to get along #it kinda breaks my heart a little because he's just 15 and these are Grown Ass Adults in the MOST hostile work environment #i got a LOT of feelings about the Emotional Support Child #possibly eldest daughter syndrome but all the kids are older than you and y'all have no parents #he's literally a child soldier #kind of inspired by a fic i read the other day #and just watching billy get emotional slapped around because he Cares #sad boy hours #when the most mature person on the team is the only one who hasn't finished puberty #and i get this is kinda the joke but the sad boy hours got me so #ANGST #“its not that deep” IT IS TO ME

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Acquire BNUUY

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#poorly drawn mdzs #MDZS #season 1 #wei wuxian #lan wangji #Lwj's heart grew 3 sizes that day #I like to think that lwj has been a big bunny guy for years but due to the 'no pets rule' couldn't make his dream come true #that might be canon now that I think more about it #Get yourself a partner that runs wild in the nearby forests to capture juvenile bunnies for you without checking their sex #Get yourself a partner who breaks their stony masked face to look at you like they look at a bunny #This scene...man...go lwj for being a little more honest with what you want. It's hard; you have a lot of emotional maturity to catch up on #baby steps are still steps!

[grimalkinmessor]

The thing about Age Swap AU that I really like is the fact that both Mob and Reigen are inherently so much more unstable.

On Reigen's end, most of it is from the fact that he's a kid—he doesn't have the same amount of emotional intelligence because he has less experience overall, and the fact that his relationship with his parents isn't,,,,great, even in a canon setting. A boy still mucking around in the trenches of parental abuse/neglect is always going to be more rickety emotionally and mentally than a grown man who's been given years to heal and distance himself from it.

And then there's Mob. Mob is a bit more a wild card in this area, just because without Reigen his childhood is more or less an unknown. Did Mogami find him? Would it have made him crueller if Mogami mentored him instead? What about Claw? Did they take him in? Is he still with them, did they fall, does he regret it? Is he jaded or riddled with guilt or stuffed so far back in his shell that it takes a little blond boy wielding a huge emotional and verbal hammer to start breaking through it? Either way, I definitely don't see him being as emotionally stable as canon Mob. He likely hasn't reconciled with Shigeo, he probably never truly accepted his powers, and thus has the emotional maturity of a ten year old—Reigen still beats him on this. Mob's only point of positive advice would've been Ritsu, and that's....I mean, it's Ritsu. He hasn't had any significant good influences in his life so he absolutely struggles on how to be one himself.

The potential for these two to be codependent is SO much higher and I love it. Unhealthy dynamics are my absolute JAM (one of the reasons I have this animatic rotating in my head at top speeds 24/7 365) so the inherent prickliness of whatever Wrongness™ these two have going on just. has me. Reigen clings because it's all he knows how to do—even if Mob banishes him from the office, he's a persistent kid that hasn't learned you shouldn't chase after moody grown men with emotions so repressed it manifests as a literal eldritch alter with no morals to curb its desires. And Mob has had to go even longer alone in this sort of universe than ever, and Reigen is likely the only person who's never been afraid of him; he's latching onto that kid like bear trap and never letting go. He's still tenderhearted, but it's plagued with years and years of loneliness and inner turmoil that he's had no one around to soothe; he's over a decade too late for 'healthy'. Not that Reigen minds <3

#feral about them #age swap au #mobrei #reimob #mob psycho 100 #reigen arataka #mob #kageyama shigeo #grown up reigen at least has the emotional maturity and common sense to know how to fix his fuck ups with mob #grown up mob....would NOT have that #and kid reigen likely wouldnt have anyone telling him that hes inherently worth something #canon mob has ritsu and his absent-minded but well meaning parents and even the telepathy club/bic #tiny reigen probably has his sister and thats it #and even then #you couldnt beat that kid off mob with a stick #and ritsu would probably know. hes tried. #it doesnt help that mob has subconciously psychically glued reigen to his ribs #theyre soooo unwell your honor 💕💕

[goemon-fan]

This was easily one of the best Lupin episodes

#there will be a rant in the tags that you can ignore #but it is so upsetting how modern/current lupin took away the depths of these characters and flimsily tries to restore their earlier depth #i'm one of those people who craves depth in what i watch and it's so difficult to like this franchise because it will be so close to doing #something interesting only to abandon it #this episode and part one as a whole was peak lupin in my opinion with each character having emotional depth yet flaws to overcome #yet modern lupin would have you believe that these characters don't desire to improve in any capacity #if we were to just focus on Goemon for example right here he shows depth with revealing hidden emotional maturity and empathy for Lupin by #comforting him and admitting he himself is afraid (which is a big deal for a character like him who is supposed to be unflinching) #but in modern lupin goemon will literally say that he's not afraid of anything and this is written without any hint of irony or depth #i'm okay with mindless entertainment and i understand that this is a series simply about stealing but the character assassination is so #disappointing #and when this series does try to be “deep” they pick the most triggering subject matter possible to depict to the point where it's #practically unwatchable (this is in reference to Part 4 and its constant SA plots as well as the rampant gratuitous child abuse plots #throughout the entire series) #i want so badly to love lupin the 3rd but it's a huge problem when fanfiction understands the characters better than the source material #lupin iii #lupin the third #lupin the 3rd #goemon ishikawa xiii #goemon #arsene lupin iii #jigen daisuke #daisuke jigen #fujiko mine #part 1

[duusheen]

The funeral

#ts4 gameplay #ts4 challenge #ts4 legacy challenge #ts4 screenshots #the light is AWFUL i'm sorry it was cloudy af (╯‵□′)╯︵┻━┻ #anyway that was the spoiler 💔 #Leif has always had the emotional intelligence of a rock lol #He's sad about the passing of his parents and he's hurt and angry because Jay has chosen to show his face NOW in this moment #But instead of TALKING to Jay like a mature grown-up man (which he isn't) he decides he's going to act like an asshole #Nothing new just Leif being Leif I guess #Have you seen Hope there? #She's not scared of Leif but of hearing her daddy talk in that tone #Jay has a special tone for Leif not exactly a growl but clear enough for everyone listening that he's not happy with the man's presence #this is part 1 of 3 btw 👀👀 #I love Jay's profile. I have 6000 pictures of his profile I don't know why I just like how he looks 😩 #pollock legacy #gen4 #jay pollock #miracle holm #leif pollock #hope pollock

[imagionationstation]

Screaming Into The Void

Maybe I’m just tired, but I have to air this out before I take out this frustration on real world problems and people who don’t deserve it.

Maybe I’ll regret it. I dunno. Just-

Okay. Look. I get it. I get it! I get that a wholesome Lou being an endlessly supportive and devoted father is some of the the best, most fluffiest writing ever and I can’t help but bookmark that kind of material every time because MAN it’s a fluffy take on his character and I FEAST on it- BUT! BUT!

That. Does NOT. Make. IT CANON.

For those in the back-

THAT. DOES NOT. MAKE. IT CANON.

Random AU? Absolutely. Creative iteration? You go for it!

Ten years in the future type AU where you acknowledge that he’s made mistakes but he’s trying? Full support!

I swear to you now, I eat that kinda character development up.

But the second- THE SECOND- that you act like he’d make a better father to the 2012 kids than their own dad? During canon series events or even just a few months after the movie? Acting as if he has never been neglectful and has zero faults while entirely making him the opposite of canon because “the 2012 need a better dad who lets them be brothers instead of soldiers” like WHAT?

I promise. I am burning that book. (Mentally, obvs)

You wanna fix it? Tell us you have an AU Lou who would better take care of them. That you’ve created a Splinter based on your favorite parts from the Rise Splinter that they deserve. Even go as far as claim that the brothers will immediately realize how much less ignored or belittled they feel under the AU Lou’s care.

But DO NOT act like you’re writing a canon character.

Watch the shows. Both of them.

And stop pretending that Lou is everything that Yoshi should be.

#Do not get me started on fans pretending that the Rise crew are walking therapists/psychologists #If they were as wise and mature and understanding about emotions as fans make them out to be so much crap would never have gone down #Like THE ENTIRE PREMISE OF THE MOVIE for instance??? #teenage mutant ninja turtles 2012 #See what I see TMNT #yoshi hamato #rottmnt hamato yoshi #tmnt hamato yoshi #splinter 2012 #splinter tmnt #rise lou jitsu #rottmnt lou jitsu #lou jitsu #rise fanfic #rise of the tmnt movie #rise of tmnt #rise movie #rise of the tmnt #teenage mutant ninja turtles #tmnt 2012 #tmnt 2k12 #tmnt fandom #2012 tmnt #rise of the teenage mutant ninja turtles

[jemmo]

i didnt watch unknown as it was airing bc i knew it would consume me so i decided to binge it all today. i was correct. it has consumed me.

#i am so unwell #and the thing is there is no specific moment or ep i can point to or rewatch to get out out of my system #there is something about the all consuming atmosphere of the show that’s so dense and heavy it’s impossible to escape it I don’t know how #and i find it incredible how they managed to established that atmosphere and built it so well and reached these peaks of emotion that you’d #think would break all that tension but it just returns 10-fold #like this is how you do storytelling this is how you plot a 12 episode drama #bc you get the peak in ep 6 that is the crux of the story getting revealed but you’re only halfway #there’s still so much story to go and they show all of it #they show that this is a thing that takes time and thought and it perfectly demonstrates how stuck in his ways wei qian is #and i find it incredible how both the actors were able to convey the passing of time and their growing up through their performance you can #really feel how wei yuan matures and how what’s perceived as this childish crush or obsession never leaves bc it was never that it was #always more serious and concrete but in his maturity he can show that #and there’s something so crushing about watching wei qian i swear i choked up so many times watching this show bc they both got to me so bad #but wei qian’s story and his outlook on life is so universal and so true to that older brother role that so many people have #i am rambling so bad i just wanna like… exist in the vibe of this show forever #bc the heaviness of it makes you feel the weight lift in the moments of joy it’s beautiful #unknown

[kicktwine]

anon had a much different message I’ll try to get back to But it spiraled off in my brain and I think like, a character note about the twins especially in the beginning is that they’re very uncomfortable with (if not with most loud emotions) crying. exactly like my brother and I tbr alisaie is not comfortable with it even if it sometimes happens to her without her consent, so she stuffs it behind being snappy so it’ll stop. as the story goes on she doesn’t necessarily get more comfortable with it, she just gets around people who make her feel more okay about it. alphy just seemed unused to it in general - nothing in his life has ever caused emotion like that to overwhelm either reason or ego or logic, and so it just never happened, and even when he was upset he always always distanced how he felt about things from what his role was in the real world. like as a ten year old they were doing this. after hw it kind of starts happening to him wether he wills it or no, mostly around bittersweet or moments of stress release. which rly leads me to believe in the space between arr and hw was a lot more unmentioned (or obliquely mentioned, they kinda leave it to you) awful attempts at feeling really harsh emotions by someone who’s just genuinely never done it before than we hear about directly. he’s just never cried since he was tiny, and it probably sucked. anyways alisaie understands the emotional weight of events instantly and gets to react to them even if she dislikes it later and becomes determined to fix, while alphy still retains the habit of quickly separating himself from an event until it’s like, done with and either fixed or nothing we can do, and then falls apart. they both kinda try to hide it anyways

#I’m not sure where to put these thoughts but I have them. And now you have them #ffxiv #kipspeak #I just think about them. and also the scene where the remaining braves are all encouraging and happy. ;w; #also also the scene where fourchenault (REDACTED FOR SPOILERS) #the short stories… I haven’t read them all but I read the ones about the twins. and estinien bc he’s funny #I just feel very strongly about the dichotomy of how they act vs how they feel vs how many emotions are stuffed into too small bodies #vs how mature they can actually be like a lot . Never on purpose do they do something childish except with each other. which is a shame #Because I want them to. get cat snuggled idiots #Sharlayan in general gives off a very oh you’re feeling? I thought you were working type vibe. of a city #You know who else gives me the same vibes as the twins. Krile #how many times does krile emote loudly. ok then how many times does she say I wish you didn’t see this or something #stress is constant and obvious but we are not going to see it! There’s work!!!