#make health care free

[silenthillbunni]

lately i've been finding it so so hard to be positive and hopeful. and it's making me so bitter and hateful. i hate it but i dont know what to do about it

#idk it's just all too much to deal w #i have sm pains and physical discomforts. money issues. stress bc my avpd is making school very hard for me to finish #i have suicidal thoughts and really bad anxiety every single day. i've basically begged the mental health care system for help for 7 months #like i've kept contacting them and asking them but they havent done anything at all for me. i dont even get to see anyone and talk #i just dont know what to do or how to handle it #im so stressed abt the future. i have to finish school but then choose smth so i can go to school/get a degree & get a job #im holding my mom down and back and i need to find a way to kove out from her and support myself #i have no friends to meet or hangout with and destress with etc etc and im really feeling the lack of it #idk the list just goes on and on and on #nothing is working and idk how to fix it. but also i know that me and only me have to find a way bc there is no help #i struggle bc of my avpd and mental health but there is no treatment for me to get. they just dont wanna give me *any* help at all #im just so frustrated. and every day is the same. everyday is full of some physical pain anxiety stress worries suicidal thoughts etc etc #i cant break free idk how!!!! my life is so fkn boring and pathetic and miserable #i never get to relax bc all of a sudden last year i got extremely noise sensitive. and it's never quiet anywhere in this city #anyway yeah i could just keep going. and like now im feeling anxious bc my tooth is aching :(( #it -everything- never stops or lets up or relents. and it makes me wanna die even more. #so... idk im just incapable of being hopeful abt anything and that's really killing me idk

[thundergrace]

We do not want this. This is not a decision being made on behalf of the American people. Literally, no one wants this, and we're being forced to pay for it. Our tax dollars funding genocide. I feel sick. I don't think any amount of protests on any scale will change anything because clearly, this is a nefarious and corrupt government decision, likely fueled by greed. It wasn't made with American citizens in mind, so I'm not sure how we can stop it.

#free palestine #we're still dealing with inflation #we're in a housing crisis #they won't forgive all student loan debt #they won't make university free or affordable #won't consider universal health care or #universal basic income #or reparations for Black Americans #and our social security and entitlement programs are always in danger #ALL because of what they claim we can't afford #yet we KEEP giving BILLIONS to other countries #at least it was understandable when it was actual aid #but this is literally for weapons to murder innocent people

[soldier-poet-king]

Will my suffering never cease

- went to good Friday evening service even tho it's not a day of obligation, didn't go yesterday evening to Maundy Thursday for a variety of reasons

- priest manages to fit homophobia and transphobia into his sermon. Not even gay marriage. Just unions, that let ppl share taxes and have hospital visiting rights. And big bad scary surgery. Like. Completely unrelated to the matter at hand. Says SO LITTLE abt the Passion, managed to talk for 10 minutes without really saying ANYTHING. Takes Pilate's 'what is truth' and instead of engaging in the long philosophical and theological discussion around that question, decides to use it as a rallying cry against wokeism and a godless progressive society.

- my two ex best friends were there. Ran into them. + One's husband, who I introduced her to a decade ago. Like I'm mostly over that, no longer shitty and resentful, fully know that it was partially my fault and born from my own terribleness at 19 and undiagnosed untreated mental illness. Still uhhh hurts tho??? As a reminder?

- music bad. Ok I'm petty. I'll give the trads (1) point. I don't like guitar mass. I will NOT agree with the trads in assigning moral weight to my aesthetic preference. It's simply a preference, which does not make any musical form inherently superior to the others. But the triduum really lends itself to Latin hymns and chants, in my heart. My other fave church music is traditional Black spirituals. I would greatly prefer either. But just. If it sounds like an acoustic version of a pop love song. I just. I can't. I KNOW I'm the weird about Jesus romantically girlie. But I am not vibin with this folks

Literally would have simply Walked Out. Hit da bricks during the homily. But was with my family so 1) cannot out myself 2) did not have house keys on me, so I was suck regardless

Anyway I said I wasn't going to do fun things today but I'm so upset and cranky and I did chores all day, I am going to catch up on dungeon meshi. Marcille is my best favourite cringefail girl I'm obsessed with her and surely the wlw neurotic fussy mage who loves her friends will not betray me like this

#the duality of fran #faith tag #also like #.highly unlikely that i was the only closeted queer person there #and obvs extra full of the triduum a lot of non regulars attending #so GLAD that they decided to make it such a lovely and welcoming environment for THE BIGGEST MOST SIGNIFICANT WEEKEND IN THE FAITH. #surely this will encourage people and make them feel welcome and loved and cared for #yes yes there's that flannery oconnor bit abt not judging priests harshly #but also. its one thing to have a bad homily #not discussing the philosophy of pilates question is fine. i get most ppl are not versed in greco roman thought #but the absolute just. whining reactionary social conservatism #ON GOOD FRIDAY??? #even going as far as to be like 'those few of us who keep the faith' #okay sir. this isnt some uwu im so special and faithful unlike all those abomination degenerate queers #gonna get gay married for tax purposes/green card out of spite #(green card both ways i can get u cad citizenship lmao) #remove my reproductive system. idgaf. uterus free to a good home. all it does is give me health problems anyway #tho that last one is less dysphoria and more just. it's a fuckin pain in my ass medically speaking #also the triduum is THEE celebration for the gay chrisitans. its john the beloved. its judas. its projecting for us ok

[sprout-senior]

ever so slightly embarrassing pro tip:

eating is literally so much easier when you make imaginary friends who worry about you and encourage you to take care of yourself

#sprouts yapping #i mean whatever works works #mental health #spoonie #coping skills #self care tips #i am cringe but i am free #free from malnutrition *finger guns* #again slightly embarrassed to admit to doing this but like #there are literally only benefits here #and i am aware #and more importantly if this helps anyone figure out how to make self care easier #then it’s awesome and rad and not weird at all #i will not be embarrassed of myself if it means others will not be embarrassed of themselves for the same things #call that character development #also. for those who read tags this far: #it’s horror sans for me #not just him but as far as eating goes he’s the main guy #completely out of character considering canon horror is pretty violent #but that Does Not Matter bc my personal characterization is what helps So There

[ox1-lovesick]

hi

#life update nobody asked for lol #I missed you guys my pookie wookie dookies #I deleted all my social media and life is so great wow #still a lot of mental health problems but I'm finally learning to deal with my emotions and not hate life (wow) #is it bad for me to say I'm so glad I left blr #I will probably never come back here lol but I think (?) today is txt's debut anniversary and since I am the self proclaimed empress of moa #downgrading to a flip phone actually #I unstanned txt and all the kpop peoples too (SHOCKER) #I do feel really nostalgic and sad when I think about them but I think it was the thing I needed most #delulu is infact not the solulu #daydreaming about beomgyu being the new student at my school and being soobin's bestie was never the greatest idea hey #it's so freeing to not care about them and focus on what's infront of me #if you need a sign to start growing out of kpop and start worrying about your own life here it is babe 😭 don't let anybody give you shit #Not to say kpop is bad or anything I just think for me it was getting a bit out of hand #As much as we all make fun of the delulus it's so easy to fall down that spiral when these idols constantly tell you they love you #The parasocial relationship was REAL istg these people felt like my friends #Hueningkai does not give a FUCK about me and he is so real for that #Thinking about deleting this blog but I'm logging off after this so I very well may forget it exists again #But I just wanted to share what's been going on #And I miss you guys a lot #I may have outgrown kpop and tumblr but you all still have a special place in my heart #I miss the good old days 😭 when discord let's me back in I might visit wme #Not much has changed with me but mentally I feel like a whole new person #But I hope you all are doing GREAT #Living your best lives and doing things that make you happy #You owe it to yourself more than you owe these celebrities anything #xoxo savie 😝🤟🤟🔥🔥🔥

[poelya]

team "poe and han are alike but not like that (fanon arrogant playboy stereotype)"

#sorry I read that han solo 2016 comic and god han has this little soliloquy about the stars and the freedom he finds in them and it's. #the same exact sentiment poe expresses in age of resistance. #It makes sense tho Poe was - snorts - conceptualized to be the st's han #they've been clear about that since tfa which I find mildly hysterical. besties you accidentally knocked Leia's archetype in there too #but still. #and free fall goes hard on the han/qira parallels #altho I maintain that zorii does more to prove poe is more leia than anything. oh ur ex is a smuggler who acts like she doesn't care but #actually does?? and isn't as selfish as she likes to claim? #yeah that's what I thought you'd say you adopted organa you (fond) #anyway. #nym speaks #unrebloggable bc I'd rather. [Remembers suicide jokes are bad for ur mental health] shower w a bear than this break containment

[vamp1rate]

okay so a few people showed interest in a post going further into this topic so here goes.

Hallucination: "A perception-like experience with the clarity and impact of a true perception but without the external stimulation of the relevant sensory organ." This means perceiving something to be there, real in the physical world, when there isn't actually anything in reality causing causing the perception.

these can be:

auditory (hearing things)

visual (seeing things)

olfactory (smelling things)

gustatory (tasting things)

tactile (feeling things on or under skin)

somatic (feeling things further within the body)

Illusion: "A misperception or misinterpretation of a real external stimulus." This means that there is in the real physical world, something causing the perception, but the brain is sending signals that whatever is being perceived is something else. Examples would be seeing an inanimate object as being an animal, hearing wind blowing as human voices, etc.

Both of these are things that many people will experience at least once in their lives, for various reasons. However, if it is causing impairment to functioning/making it harder to go about your life, then it is considered to be a symptom.

sources here are the DSM-V, as well as like, personal experience lol.

#uhhh i should come up with some tags for this post #actuallypsychotic #spoonie #mental health awareness #actually mentally ill #actually disabled #schizoposting #this post is for everyone btw. im just trying to tag some places where ppl i think might be interested would hang out lol #but anyone can reblog feel free to reblog #also feel free to dm me personally for a pdf copy of the dsm-v. who care #and if anyone has any questions let me know im happy to elaborate #i hope i didnt over explain too much. im trying to make this post more accessible #but i actually have no clue how many of these terms other people know and dont know #anyways. enjoy #dinosting

[autistic-earth-genasi]

Okay update on the therapy situation. I emailed my psychiatrist at Kaiser like the therapist recommended and he responded super fast and said he’d already sent a referral which is awesome. However, I got the follow up info today and apparently the referral is for an online therapy thing called Path Mental Health. It’s basically an online portal where you can search for a therapist which is fine but unfortunately it’s only for in network therapists and so the therapist I want isn’t on it. I do plan to give it a decent try and look through the therapists on there but a cursory look told me there are very few or none that specialize in autism and lgbtq issues which are two of the main things I want. Also the therapist I found is overall a much better match than anyone I’ve seen on Path so far. I might be willing to try someone else but it is only online sessions, no in person and I’ve done therapy on zoom before and I hated it. I don’t feel as much of a connection with the therapist and I find it really distracting to be able to see myself on camera.

So basically I’m starting to formulate how I’m going to push back. Like I said I will give it a serious try over the weekend when I’ve hopefully calmed down (I almost had a meltdown when I got the email and saw everything). But I know there is a good chance I won’t find anyone (after literal months of searching different therapy sites I found my list of maybe 4 therapists I was interested in contacting so chances are slim) so I need to figure out my arguments for why they should cover the specific therapist I found instead of any of the ones on that site. I know this is a thing they do because at my consultation, the therapist said one of his other patients was able to get them to cover it, you just have to fight. So far here’s what I have:

They only offer online services which I’ve tried before and found it difficult to really connect with a therapist. Also I don’t have the best internet connection and I live with a roommate so I am not guaranteed to have a private place to have my sessions (the last part is not entirely true bc I have my own room but I do have to be careful how loud I talk bc she can hear me and also past experiences have taught me that people are very afraid of confidentiality laws).

I cannot find someone who specializes in autism, anxiety, trauma, lgbtq+ issues, and family issues who matches my availability (it sucks a little bit because I have not talked to the psychiatrist or anyone at Kaiser about autism and I’m really not looking forward to it but needing specialized care is one of the strongest arguments I have).

Also if they push back would it be a bad idea to 1. Say I’ve already had a consultation with this therapist and 2. Say that he told me he has another patient that got Kaiser to cover therapy with him (in the case that they say they can’t cover it/there’s nothing they can do bc I know that’s bullshit)? Or would that make things worse?

Any suggestions or tips are appreciated! I really need this to work!

#if I can get them to cover this I will be able to get an autism diagnosis and ongoing therapy for free #so I need this to happen #I’m a bit concerned that if I tell the psychiatrist I think I have autism he’ll say I need to get a diagnosis through Kaiser first #which isn’t the end of the world as long as it’s covered and I think it will be #but I’d rather my therapist do it #he’s a psychiatrist who does therapy btw so he is qualified to diagnose me #it’s so fucked up that this is what you have to go through to get specialized care #like let’s make the most mentally ill people do the most work #I want to burn the entire health system to the ground #autism #mental health #actually autistic #neurodivergent #therapy #autistic #autism diagnosis

[ridiasfangirlings]

is sarumi toxic?? genuine question, i dont know if its just the way certain fanmanga that ive read portrays their relationship. i love the ship with my whole heart, dont get me wrong. ive read lost small world, finished rok and season 1 (halfway through season 2). consuming all kinds of k stuff, i personally dont see it toxic as certain people do (knowing that theyve already reconciled). im super confused on who to believe so here i am asking you

I will say to start that I’m not exactly a neutral third party here, even with me being a filthy multishipper Sarumi is still my ‘main’ ship. That said, I personally don’t consider them to be toxic as a ship. There are definitely elements of their relationship as presented that are not good and could certainly lead to toxicity, but that’s also pretty understandable considering Fushimi as a character is not a healthy person and isn’t equipped to deal with relationships in a healthy way. If we look at, say, only season one Sarumi is a vacuum there’s certainly room to call it toxic, with the way Fushimi interacts with Yata by drawing out all his negative feelings and deliberately goading him into physical violence, but thankfully there’s a lot more to their relationship than episode five of season one.

When you consider the side materials the series is pretty clear that Fushimi’s actions stem from him being an abused and neglected child who clung to the one person who ever showed him affection and who has no idea how to handle things that other people would consider easy. When they join Homra and Fushimi doesn’t feel like he fits in he starts to assume a lot of things, that Yata’s leaving him behind, that he’s going to be rejected, because up until he met Yata Fushimi’s entire life has been him being rejected by the world around him and rejecting the world in turn because it’s his only method of coping. When he burns his Homra tattoo in front of Yata it’s a move intended to hurt them both, because the only way Fushimi knows of to break something that he loves is to do it spectacularly — Fushimi himself can’t break what he cares about so he takes on the persona of the person who could, of the guy who can flawlessly destroy what Fushimi Saruhiko loves every time. Fushimi is so afraid of losing his precious friendship with Yata that he feels like he has to be the one to break it first in order to save himself the pain of losing it. This is a toxic mindset but also a totally understandable one in the context of Fushimi’s character. 

Obviously Fushimi’s way of dealing with his emotions is not healthy but he’s not a healthy person, that’s well established. Are a lot of Fushimi’s problems of his own making? Very much so. Does he really owe Yata an apology for being a dick all this time? Also yes. But Fushimi’s actions are also very understandable due to his upbringing, and Yata himself says that Fushimi is trying to be better — “You have a sense of guilt.” Fushimi’s relationship with Niki is a toxic one because Niki is abusing him and literally doesn’t care about the trauma he’s inflicting on his kid. Fushimi on the other hand is well aware of what he’s inflicting and tries very hard not to care, while still not being able to let go of Yata and still occasionally letting his mask slip (how he has difficulty dealing with a grieving Yata post-S1 for example, and how he still helps Yata in Missing Kings) and ultimately, Fushimi knows what he did was wrong and he and Yata start to reconcile. They aren’t a perfect pure and unproblematic uwu ship but I don’t consider them to be toxic just because Fushimi dared to be mentally ill, the Sarumi I ship isn’t the one where they hate each other and where Fushimi’s still constantly cruel to Yata, it’s the one where they make up and recognize their mistakes and Fushimi starts on a healing path that includes recognizing what he did to Yata and in his own fumbling way trying not to do it again even though it’s difficult for him. (And also frankly if someone does like the toxic version of them go for it, you do you. I really hate how people tend to throw around the word ‘toxic’ as some kind of forbidden brand, like if a ship is not perfect and healthy and wondrous it shouldn’t be shipped. Ship your fictional characters any way you want, as long as you tag things properly! Be free of the need to be judged!)

#sarumi #Talking K #let ships be toxic let ships be health let them be whatever you want them to be #free yourself from the confinement of caring what others think and indulge yourself! #I hate when people use 'it's toxic' when what they mean is 'I personally dislike this ship' #trying to somehow discredit the ship so disliking it makes them morally superior #it doesn't #if you dislike a ship bc it's not your thing own that shit don't try and act like it makes you a better person #anyway that's my rant for the day ship whatever you want be free to live laugh love Fushimi ships specifically

[iliveinprocrasti-nationn]

one thing abt being disabled/chronically ill that some people don’t get is that sometimes body maintenance that ensures you have the absolute minimum amount of function can also be something that takes away a lot of control and autonomy. you can argue till the cows come home that making those decisions to try and help yourself (or realistically to try to make sure things aren’t worse than they already are) is something that exhibits control and autonomy and stuff, but they can be so limiting in practice because they’re things that take up so much time but have to be done to do anything else

#i have to sleep a lot. i’m at the point where functioning requires 8 hours of sleep if not more #I should probably be getting 10+ but i’m a student and i work so 8 is the minimum. but then also getting ready for bed is a whole process s #the whole thing can take 10-12 hours depending how much im sleeping. just to make sure i can do anything #that is time in my day i cannot use for anything else. it’s not ‘oh but i can push through it’ because i can’t without spending the next da #lightheaded and nauseous and vaguely dizzy and with such intense brain fog I can’t think with my fatigue so bad i genuinely don’t know how #get myself to work a lot of days. my abled peers don’t have to deal with this at all. they have unlimited study time if they want to #and yeah it is a choice i’m making that’s true i could just not do. except i would lose my job and fail out of college because i would not #be able to get to classes or do my homework or think. but being told ‘but you are making choices about your life’ when i have lost so much #of what i used to be able to do because i am spiralling down and continuing to get worse is so. #literally last year i would wake up at 6:30 and then go to school till 3 and then go to my internship until 10 and get home at 11 and be in #bed anywhere from midnight to two in the morning and then wake up the next day and do it all again. i graduated with a 3.9 gpa and made it #into my top college while dealing with my cancer symptoms and then the two surgeries about it #but now i lose half my day to just making sure i can get out of bed. i can’t go anywhere because my body is physically too exhausted #any extra time goes into doing homework or occasionally time to myself #not decimating my health by doing minimum body care responsibilities isn’t freeing. occasionally i have a good day which is freeing but tha #usually goes into just. other things outside class or work or eating. I don’t go do something for myself or go do something fun on good day #because I still can’t. good days just mean i don’t want to lie down on the pavement when i’m going somewhere #I just. I don’t magically have control over my life because i try to get enough sleep. i lose half my day to doing that and ultimately it’s #just a bodily function that would have to happen anyway #this is a vent post im just having a really hard time right now because it feels like im in exponential decline. it was nowhere near this #bad last semester. my grades are tanking and i have no free time because anything outside of sleep is either work or school #vent tw #yall can rb this just ignore my tags completely #disability #chronically ill #i keep trying to explain to people how pots works because that’s all logical but there’s no way to explain what it’s doing to my body or ho #i feel all the time. the last time i felt this bad was when i had a bad flu or immediately after surgeries because i don’t react well to #anesthesia and always come out of them feeling like shit. and now i just feel like this all the time and it’s only getting worse #I can’t even stay up late anymore because my body feels like it isn’t counting the sleep even if I get 8 hours #I can deal if I have a free day the day after but that just leaves Friday and Saturday nights and I usually still have to do homework

[jinstronaut]

imagine putting effort into something for over 200+ days and people getting mad that your free efforts aren’t good enough bc they don’t wanna watch jins skin care routine

#you don’t have to reblog anything i make i never even implied that but like #“nO One Is mAkING yoU Do tHis CArE abOUt yoUrSelF! #right but it’s not abt my mental health is it #bc if it was y’all would’ve said that earlier #it’s the content 🤔 #i’m fine there’s never any pressure really from my own self to make anything but like #the entitlement to BERATE me because i had the audacity to take a 10 min clip and make it last longer so i could idk #enjoy my free time #wild #.txt

[scaredofmyocs]

I love it when i accidentally stay up on the night im supposed to be catching up on sleep it totallly doesnt make me feel horrible all week long

#talk post #i love this blog i want to live here #I cant!!! i just cant!!! go to bed at a normal fucking time istg #but noooooo the wild grinders wiki no some stupid bullshit no one has ever cared about before #WHEN I DONT GET ENOUGH SLEEP MY MENTAL HEALTH GETS WAY WORSE!!!!! IF I DONT FIX IT WE ARE GOING TO GET TOO SILLY #(yelling at a mirror) #seriously bothers me tho that Im always worried about how intense my negative feelings have been lately #and im like “oh ill just get more sleep” and then immediately fuck it up the next night making me tired all week #making me feel SO bad in the mornings and at night and increasing my paranoia and other such thoughts #and in trying to tune it all out just forget about it again leading to me fucking it up again #this is a bit dramatic its only happened 2 weeks in a row #but that feels like a lot because thats like 10 nights where i felt like i blinked and i had to wake up and go to school #and not only deal with my shitty social skills but the results of said thing #and also try to fight the thoughts that are like “this shits pointless im not doing this” LIKE PLEASE pretend to be normal for one year #and also that one teacher i have who demands every students attention while he teaches like i already finished the work sheet shut it #like i do well in that class just let me do what i want im not being distracting like girl i have at least an 87 dw about me #PLUS most of the time im not even on my phone he just really wants me to look at the board but girl as i said I ALREADY DID WHATS ON THERE #i feel like i never get to relax but i do all the time so i dont know what i mean #i keep saying “its ok as long as i can bury all my thoughts and just keep going while filling what free time i have with things i enjoy” #but things only work for so long #i hate the passage of time #anyawy erm wrong my guitar is in my mind (stupid ass guitar riff) #walks over to my bed and trips on the way falling asleep on the floor #ramble #hit post

[advestager]

A/I STAN IN THE DASH. I REPEAT A/I STAN GOT THROUGH MY FILTERS INTO THE FUCKIN DASH THIS IS NOT A DRILL

#unfollowed immediately but good FUCKIN grief will i ever be free #i don't care if you find it pretty i don't care if it saves you time it is literally built upon #abusing the work of others and fucking over their mental health or livelihoods #for the sake of commodifying what was meant as GENUINE COMMUNICATION with our fellow human beings #i'm not even talking abt like. what it might do to artists or writers #i'm talking abt the people (usually in the global south) who get fucked over by (usually usamerican or western) companies #who don't care about what it does to their mental health to process a fuckton of data that contains graphic fucking atrocities #and pay them pennies by the hour when they DO remember to pay them #it's scummy practices at EVERY level and i'm sorry if you think you're an ~anarchist~ #but unless YOU are the one sifting through the bulk of the internet to make a functional prediction machine #(which isn't even SAPIENT the name is just fucking false advertisement) #you can fuck off with your 'nyah nyah you're a crybaby who can't accept progress ppl hated photography too' bullshit #(also like. i Do care abt artists and writers and translators. obviously. but that stupid argument abt how all intellectual property is #the work of satan and that's why ai is Okay Actually drives me up the fucking WALL #tell that to the brother of that artist who has soulless fucking ARSEHOLES making money #off his dead sister's art through ai) #ok. ok ok i'm shutting up now i have no chill when it comes to this subject #ai wank #theftware tag #joji.txt

[ottiliere]

i really am not trying to be rude but the way you are going about your hospital au reads really fetishy. i understand depicting self harm in a realistic manner (and in fact i am all for it) but you’re putting graphic self harm on your main blog and accepting fanart for it as well. mental illness and self harm is a serious topic and the way you speak about it comes off as flippant, as if you’re just talking about the weather. i am begging you to reevaluate the way you post about this au

i make it a point to not respond to bait but i'm sorry this one is really funny. would it make you feel better if i had a laundry list of ptsd experiences in my carrd. do you want to see some epic pics of my arms. you do not have to follow me and i tag everything appropriately so people can blacklist it. i am not your responsibility and you are not mine.

do you think all these people who earnestly enjoy this au are being brainwashed by me? into thinking self-harm is awesome and super cool? into thinking that it’s super awesome to have pica and eat markers? people take a lot of enjoyment out of this au and draw a lot of fanart for it because it hits close to home or they've lived similar experiences. i cannot tell you the amount of kind asks i've gotten (many unposted) talking about how cathartic it is to see someone for the first time in ages posting stuff like this unfiltered unashamed just flat out posting. it's life. people get excited because nobody else fucking does this. you think i don't know mental health is a serious topic? you think i don't know self-harm is a serious topic? the way i talk about this au isn't "fetishy," you can make jokes about your own experiences and find humor in the misery you've lived. you are so wildly used to seeing the same sanitized depiction of these topics over and over again it’s actually concerning. this is literally a "you" problem.

#ask #'i am begging you' to engage with earnest depictions of trauma and self-harm in places other than tumblr ventblogs #you can make art and stories involving mental health issues. you can. #and i think you would hate everything that i am doing with him. #you would hate the fact that i think about him being a csa victim all the time and how it affects his brain and perception of life #and all of his relationships #and the reason i never post anything about that is because i suspect i would get asks like this in droves #but #i do not care what you think. sorry. this is a BLOG this is my personal blog and i am going to post what i want to here. #feel free to not engage.

[protego-et-servio]

Kids and Screens

I saw someone complaining about kids being on screens a lot and, honestly, I wonder how much these people realize that screens aren't an awful replacement for toys.

I'm not saying completely replace toys for screens, but screens aren't totally without imagination or socialization.

First off, many kids we see right now had to go through 2-3 years of online learning thanks to Covid. They also had to learn to socialize through online meeting and messenger apps.

I know, because my youngest is super extroverted. Covid was hard for them. They did - and still do - talk with friends over messengers or Zooms. They really enjoy playing Roblox and video chatting with friends.

Secondly, lots of apps inspire imagination. There's so many games that are basically digital dolls and in many cases they're more accessible for poorer kids. Like I had Barbies, but I only had a few outfits for them since they were expensive.

My kid has tons of apps with dolls and a mind-boggling assortment of clothes. They're always making up stories for the dolls and likes when they can make houses.

Thirdly, kids have access to other stuff than games on tablets and phones. Ebooks, audiobooks, drawing apps, writing apps. The Internet is literally at their fingertips and they have tons of resources to learn.

Yeah, we don't know the effects of kids growing up with screens as an innate part of their life AND there's definitely a need for balance. And there can be something said about corporations wanting to get kids hooked on electronics.

But

You don't know what a family's balance is from one snapshot of one day of their life.

As parents (from a US perspective, since that's my experience,) we are navigating plagues, climate change, political upheaval, growing class divide, public schools becoming defunded, economic inflation, daily shootings, and - if we or our children are of a marginalized group - targeted political attacks, and more.

Parents are tired and kids are getting such the shit-end of the stick in this world.

I'm not going to fault them for finding an escape in online games, media, writing, or digital art.

#technology #parenting #parenthood #kids screen time #covid honestly made us more lenient about screens #we just make sure they read or listen to an audiobook or draw between allotted hours #my kids' schools rarely give homework too so 🤷‍♀️ #you want kids better behaved? Then you best: #support universal basic income and universal healthcare #support free lunches and public school funding #support paternal leave and living wage and lessening the class divide and combating climate change #support gun control #support mental health care providers #support LGBTQ+ rights #fight police brutality and white supremacy and fascism

[arabian-batboy]

What wrong with the Harley Quinn show attempting to humanized Joker? I mean dc have humanized characters like Deathstroke in recent years

Sooooooo, did you not feel anything was wrong when you typed "What wrong with the Harley Quinn show attempting to humanize Joker"? Like not for one second?

#I literally explained whats wrong with that in the post #also I don't like Deathstroke or any other white terrorists being humanized #but its not like Slade goes around taxing the rich making health care and education free like The Joker in the HQ show