#multigender moment

[boygirldykething]

do you ever fall in love w a straight girl and go "oh no she won't like me i'm a girl" but also "i have a chance i'm a boy" but also "she can't like me i'm a girl" but also "s

#multigender moment #actually just i'm insecure moment #but as someone who desperately needs to never inconvenience anyone ever i feel a specific guilt for being weird in the gender #but like that's such a messue #d:

[ferretwhomst]

i need to be mabel in a boy way and stan in a girl way. is this anything

#having a multigender moment dont mind me >:P #ferret rambles

[boydykedevo]

song: I wish i was a girl

me (trans guy): this is so real

#having a multigender moment......... #icarus is talking

[chaos-in-one]

The tragedy that is your boyfriend being too far away to give kisses to

#⛔/hyperion #I want to kiss her :(((( #sobs #yearning #yearning so bad #gay moment #mlm #mlm thoughts #mlm post #men loving men #exclusionists dni #transphobes fuck off #radfems dni #my partner is literally multigender so shoo I dont want to risk any anti trans mfs being here

[atthebell-moved]

i love being a guy and a girl its so swag

#bell.txt #multigender moment letsgo #well has been all week but yknow. really feeling it rn

[rube-too-many-fandoms]

i have six different names. tf is up with that

#i promise i am just as confused as you are #gender moment #my gender won’t let me just have one or two #hey at least if anyone steals my identity online they’ll be confused as fuck #gender shmender #lgbtq #lgbtq+ #genderqueer #gender is complicated #gender issues #gender is weird #lgbtqia #more in the tags than in the post lmao #lgbt #nonbinary #enby #non binary #multigender #ruby’s lgbtq+ posts #ruby’s posts

[trans-androgyne]

The sentiment that men inherently need to “protect” women is not progressive, it is just straight patriarchy. However, my biggest issue with this is the way it talks about trans men. I need queer people to understand that trans men do not just magically get blanket access to gendered/male privilege the moment they figure out they’re a guy. Cis men have gendered privilege and some trans men can conditionally access certain parts if/when they’re perceived as cis men. But identifying as a man alone doesn’t actually materially do anything for you if you aren’t always treated like one. What about closeted trans men? Non-passing trans men? Multigender trans men who are also women — where do they fit in here? What privilege do trans men receive in medical contexts where they’re treated as female and subject to the misogyny that comes with that? “Male privilege” cannot be framed as “you have it or you don’t” if you actually try for a moment to operate outside the cisnormative sex/gender binary. People with privilege (including women) should use it to uplift those without, but absolutely no group of trans people can be assumed to have access to gendered privilege as a whole.

#transandrophobia #intracommunity issues tag #mine #long post

[doberbutts]

(Different anon here.) I'm intersex and I DESPISE the TMA/TME terms. Transmisogyny and transandrophobia are both useful terms, but neither is "worse," and neither is somehow exclusive. I know trans women who get mistaken for trans men, I know trans men who get mistaken for trans women, I know nonbinary people who get mistaken for both, I know other intersex people who get mistaken for whatever pisses people off the most in that moment.

I get called both a dyke and a faggot from car windows, despite being neither WLW or MLM. I get called a tranny every couple of days, despite the fact that I identify as intersex, NOT transgender!

Nobody CARES what my actual identity is, they just know I've got a body that doesn't "look right," so I'm fair game to harass and abuse. Do I get to call myself TMA despite not being a trans woman? Am I somehow TME despite the fact that I experience what is objectively transmisogyny? I'm not a trans man, I'm not a trans woman, I'm not transmasc, I'm not transfemme--I'm intersex!

Watching perisex trans people play these weird pissing contest games where they try to decide who's most oppressed, while all of them are throwing intersex people under the bus...ugh. Perisex people, do better. Why are trans spaces so fixated on preserving the fucking sex binary?

Out of all of the asks I got, that's pretty close to my frustration with the whole thing honestly. Perhaps because I also am intersex and thus my experience is a bit different than others as well, but I've always been really aware of what lines I have to toe in order to not get hatecrimed in broad daylight. The lines were recently redrawn due to my transition but the learning process has been... rough... as things that I used to have to do are now things that actively create danger for me, and visa versa.

I have another ask in my inbox about the binary thing and I mentioned it when I first joined this discussion about how not every trans person easily fits into "trans fem" and trans masc" and I'm wondering not only what this arguing thinks of trans neutrals and multigender people but also how left out they must feel in this entire thing. Forcibly assigned one way or the other despite fighting to not have to deal with that, or altogether erased and silenced from the discussion.

In my refusal to allow trans men to be erased from conversations that affect them, I need to be careful not to erase mascs, neutrals, and more. I'm not always the best at it, but I think it is important that the effort is there.

[multigenderswag]

sorry if youve already talked abt this, i couldnt find much -- as a multigender/genderfluid person, what do i do regarding hormone therapy? my dream appearance changes literally by the hour, some moments i deeply deeply yearn for the effects of hrt & some moments i get scared of it because i dont want anything to change. im sure some of it is just general fear of change but it also is Definitely gender-related a lot of the time .. im really just not sure what to do :[ tips/experiences?

I think the question to keep in mind is what would be the easiest "default" body to have? If there are certain traits that you would want to change on a regular basis, what would make that trait easiest to adjust?

In case that's not making sense, the aspect of my body that I have this question about is my chest. My chest dysphoria/euphoria fluctuates a lot, so sometimes I want boobs and sometimes I really want a flat chest. I'm trying to figure out whether it would be easiest to have a flat chest and use breast forms sometimes, or have boobs and bind sometimes.

Just... ask yourself what would minimize dysphoria and what would make it easiest to maximize euphoria. It's okay if you don't know the answer yet- gender stuff takes time, and there's nothing wrong with being unsure.

As for the general fear of change, I have no idea how to help you there because I'm very much also struggling with that, but I wish you the best of luck.

#asks #advice #medical transition #genderfluid #in my case i'm leaning towards 'top surgery and breast forms sometimes' bc binding is uncomfortable for me #but i'm not sure yet! and that's okay!

[boygirldykething]

i love being a masculine man and i love being a masculine woman and i love being masc and i loooove being a butch i look in the mirror and i go damn girl you are a boy

#d: #rare gender euphoria moment #multigender #butch

[impunkster-syndrome]

If you support the idea of transfem separatism, please never interact with me, a transfem.

My kind of transfem identity is going to be cut out of those groups due to my AGAB. It's transfem in the nonbinary and deconstructed way. You are only supporting a very specific (Often white, perisex, abled, able to pass, out of the closet, and many other factors) groups of transfems, not all of us. You don't support multigender, transfemasc/transmascfem, intersex, altersex, mspec queers, nonbinary, people who have a separate body transition than their gender, butch transfems, and anyone who is not the same kind of transfem that is idealized by the queer community. What do you do about transfems who cannot transition with HRT or surgery for medical reasons or due to disability? Do you see them as "basically men" and do some bioessentialism, or do you hold space for percieved or real masculinity in your spaces?

I'm not a transfem who can be in those spaces because of how anything else is seen as "basically male" or "woman+" and the inherent bigotry of that. The absolute rancid radfem rhetoric about bi lesbians (They are perfectly welcome to my blog because the labels don't hurt anyone) that has been in the transmisogyny discussion is vile. Just because you are queer of any variety, that does not give you a pass to vomit up the rhetoric of our oppressors and the same people who don't want us to exist at the mere moment you see it as if being allowed to not have bigotry directed at you is a limited resource. It's not limited and never should be because no one deserves oppression, because making oppression "deserved" is and always will be abuser/bully rhetoric.

#transmisogyny

[genderqueerdykes]

i have cerebral palsy, and i’m a forearm crutch user. i’m also bigender and bisexual. i feel like people see me as more of a child or “innocent minded”, as i’ve been told. they don’t expect me to have the weird gender or any queerness at all.

i struggle a lot with passing, as i’m biologically male and want nothing more than to seem totally androgynous. but my disability prevents me from dressing how i’d like. when i use she/her pronoun pins, people go out of their way to misgender me. when i use he/him pins, they all call me she. it just sucks being a queer disabled person because it feels like no one takes you seriously for either thing because of the other.

hello there, i'm sorry this took so long to reply to, as well as to hear what you're going through

i understand where you're coming from for sure with feeling as though people infantilize you for using mobility aids. people do the same to me with my wheelchair, and when i used a walker. i'm sorry that people treat you poorly for your disability and then push that treatment on to your gender as well. people seem to find reasons to tear every part of you down when they see that you're disabled. it's sickening

i'm sorry to hear that people are going out of their way to misgender you no matter what. i find that i've had that experience around the wrong people, too. i think due to my autism a lot of people view me the same way, as "innocent minded" and go out of their way to see me as the opposite of what i want at any given time. people argue with my for being genderfluid and multigender and bisexual as well, people refuse to trust my own word for my experience and will become fixated on my birth sex for some reason

i'm sorry that people disrespect your pronouns whenever you try to express them, and i'm sorry they refuse to see you as who you tell them you are at that given moment. it's not fair to you that they treat you poorly because they know you're disabled. it happens to many of us, you're not alone, and people need to learn to trust us to be the arbiters of our lived experiences instead of forcing their views on us because they think we're incapable of thinking for ourselves just because we're disabled folk

take care of yourself. i know i'm not there for you in person, but i see you for who you are. your disability does not take away your ability to know who you are. you will always know yourself better than anyone else. i hope things get better for you. stay safe out there, you are valued

#asks #answers #bigender #bisexual #androgyny #androgynous #disability #disabled #cerebral palsy #misgendering

[this-is-exorsexism]

a binary trans man i knew would say that our two multigender transfem friends would "realize" they were "really" transfems", "actually women", "fully transfem", etc a lot.

both of them are transfems. both of them are women. they describe themselves as women/transfem (they use both words). they just also are men at the same time. he didn't see that as "real" transfemininity, because they're bigender. meanwhile he made many girlboy jokes and tried to act like his idea of gender was incredibly progressive.

this is exorsexism.

it seems like especially multigender people's identities are reduced to whichever part is convenient for someone at the moment, in this case, erasing someone's transfemininity and womanhood. manhood and womanhood or manhood and femininity are not opposite or mutually exclusive, one does not cancel out the other.

and that last part though! i've seen this so much where binary trans people think they have such a complex gender experience and progressive views on gender but then are bad about nonbinary people.

#nonbinary #exorsexism #this is exorsexism #bigender #transfem

[fuck-you-showerthoughts]

So, I'm sorry if this is rude and I'm sure you've been asked this before but I haven't seen it on the blog, but can you go into some details as to what (if any) other labels you've used? For some reason I remembered you as transmasc and I wanted to know more about your gender journey!

Of course! For a long time I considered myself sort of vaguely nonbinary, picking “demigirl” if I had to put a label on it and mostly not really bothering with it haha. It stuck that way for a good few years along with my pan/ace labels until 2021ish? When I ended up much more enmeshed into transmasc communities and had my first real sexual attraction moment, leading to a good few nonsensical tumblr posts and the eventual realization that I was, on some level, a gay guy.

Things are still pretty complicated and quite honestly I can’t be bothered to parse it all out, but currently I consider myself trans in both binary directions and use multigender & genderqueer as labels <3

(Many thanks to @genderkoolaid for being my main exposure to queer lit and multigender experiences <3)

#I’m still very ace (that one attraction experience has stuck around as the only one so far) #but I don’t really use pansexual as a label for myself anymore #I still have a huge soft spot for it but currently fagdyke fits the whole thing going on a bit better haha #mod talk #asks

[catgirl-catboy]

Hate how dumb society is about multigender people.

I say I'm a guy, and people get it. I go up to some other people saying I'm a girl, and they get it. Hell, people seem to understand that I'm a dude one day and a lady the next.

But the moment I claim that I am both at once, suddenly I get completely fucking de-gendered, because society is incapable of thinking of men and women as anything but opposite. That my claim to masculinity cancels out my womanhood.

and honestly, I really feel like Terf rhetoric is a factor in this.

#vent #multigender #genderqueer

[trans-androgyne]

When discussing things like privilege and oppression, people seem to have one of two ideas about transmasculinity depending on what suits them best at the moment. They either picture a passing masculine trans man or a femme-presenting non-binary person. Both of these prototypes are skinny and White and relatively palatable to the general public. They find it easy to paint both as basically having cis privilege anyway, just wanting to play up their oppression to make people feel bad for them or excuse their (trans)misogyny. They’ll call the former a misogynistic dangerous Aiden and the latter a basically cis theyfab. There’s no room at all for people like me, people on T but still perceived as a butch lesbian. Closeted transmascs. Intersex transmascs. Multigender transmascs. Gnc transmascs who’ll wear a beard and a dress, but are allegedly exempt from experiencing transmisogyny. And yet even those two prototypes still get discriminated against, assaulted, and killed in cold blood. But that must have been despite their male/cis privilege.

It’s funny that those narratives are so dominant. Have you considered you’re seeing transmascs as privileged because you’re only hearing from the most privileged transmascs? That the handful of skinny White transmasc youtubers and musicians and celebrities you can name only got that far because they fit the picture? But invisibility is a privilege, so I guess the rest of us should shut up and be grateful.

#you people treat transmascs like absolute dog shit and we’re just a supposed to man up and take it since we’re So Privileged Anyway #and consider that treating White as the default when considering privilege is not as fucking progressive as you think #some of us have our gender interact with our racialization. believe it or not. #transandrophobia #transphobia #misogyny #<they’ll be so misogynistic to afab nonbinary folks while probably also telling them they don’t experience misogyny since they’re not women #mine #intracommunity issues tag #long post #so much sarcasm in this to be clear