#sorry I MEAN IT RESPECTFULLY

[grechkathekasha]

bonus:

my favorite part of secret invasion is when in 1ep maria revealed that she has a gf and in 2ep it was their wedding!! y’all also loved this, right? it was so nice of marvel to do this finally!!

(dedicating this to @blackhillverse )

#drop dead gorgeous #I recognize the council has made a decision but given that it’s a stupid-ass decision #I’ve elected to ignore it #delulu #maria hill #I don’t care what anyone says it’s my fav fanon in marvel #queer coded character #change my mind she’s so LESBIAN #I want her to **** me and then **** and **** #sorry I MEAN IT RESPECTFULLY #lesbian #marvel is homophobic #if marvel has the audacity for doing shit i have the audacity to forget about that completely #and act like nothing happened #that’s my number one golden rule #cobie smulders #marvel fanart #lgbt art #pride 2023 #digital fanart #secret invasion #mcu fanart #procreate

[antihibikase-archive]

It is incredibly isolating to navigate through fandom as an aromantic person. Aro experiences are so varied, and there is no definite aro experience that encapsulates the alienation that fandom spaces cause for certain people.

Fandom is mostly built and structured on shipping. And if not, the blorbofication of characters, which tends to go down the shipping pipeline; where does that leave the romance repulsed aro person who genuinely does not want to see any form of shipping? Platonic dynamics, right?

Yeah, sure. But by platonic dynamics, it's only "best friends" or "family" right? Where does that leave the aro folks with undefined labels? No, qprs aren't a get-out-of-jail card.

And qprs- they have no rules or standards set upon them by society, not even having a clear definition for what it is, because not all qprs are the same. Yet, for some reason, it ended up becoming the "nonbinary" option to a lot of people- not romantic or "regular" platonic? Qpr it is, right?

But where does that leave the aro folk who don't want a qpr? Who don't wish to see characters depicted in pairs or trios or so forth- who embrace the lack of a partner?

And these concepts presented; when aro folk talk about them, do you care? And if you do, do you understand? Do you try to?

If you aren't aro, but wish to be supportive, are you a genuine ally? Do you raise the concerns of aro folk you share the space with?

Or do you take a look at these concepts- and decide you understand them "well" enough? Do you decide to speak for aro folks instead?

Do you depict relationships outside of romance because you believe in the importance of platonic relationships? Will you accept the fact that not all platonic interactions will be familial or "best friends"?

Can you accept depictions of qprs outside of "more than friends, less than lovers"? Are you willing to accept it is not just "best friends" or "romance lite"? Will you accept that nothing is inherently romantic- and characters in a qpr may fall under your standards of lovers?

Can you resist the urge to put every character in a pair or trio or group? Are you comfortable with the notion of characters finding more joy in being by themselves, outside of all those lenses you see them in?

It's good if you can.

And if you can't, at the very least, do you understand why some aro folk in your space are upset? Embittered by your favorite ships? Starving for representation?

Did you depict these characters with these concepts with the knowledge that aromanticism is fluid?

#antihibikase.txt #Long Post #((I'm sorry. I have been thinking about this for weeks and I am unhappy.)) #((Honestly? I have been feeling more and more isolated in fandom recently.)) #((It hurts. I know non aro folks are trying.)) #((And its hard to describe. It's alienating.)) #((And the typical fandom response is more representation- which is well-meaning.)) #((But. Specifically to non aro folk. When you depict these aro concepts are you normal about them.)) #((Do you do so respectfully.)) #((Reminder that qprs are not restricted to aro folks btw.)) #((I'm so so tired. It's easy to say you care but then completely miss the mark.)) #((And just in case- this is NOT alluding to anyone. Please allow me to let my rage be my own.)) #((Or to share this with those who understand.)) #((And if you as a non aro person feel attacked by this- sorry.)) #((I did my best to word this as firmly as possible without sounding angry because I am aware that-)) #((-many will read this in bad faith.)) #((Okay to reblog btw.)) #((This isn't one of my usual rambles despite it being under my txt tag.))

[lilpatison]

[Moulin Rouge 2001] art dump

(Because this movie lives rent free in my head.)

#this movie has such a little fandom… AND IT MAKES MY HEART CRY BECAUSE I LOVE IT WAY TOO MUCH. #anyways. I kin Christian and am head over heels in love with Satine. (barks respectfully) mommy - sorry. #let me explain the rat on the last slide. In Russian CRIS means rat. So to me #CHRIStian sounds like RATtian. which I find oddly amusing. actually… He would make for the most precious and adorable pet rat #moulin rouge 2001 #moulin rouge musical #ewan mcgregor #nicole kidman #moulin rouge! #fan art #my art #artists on tumblr

[whereishoney]

he's the earth btw

#secret life #life series #gtws #goodtimeswithscar #secret life smp #trafficblr #slsmp #he's so earth.. like... please #don't define my boys celestial body in relation to another character. blink. staring even. #meaning. if mercury being close to the sun is your only argument for mercury then im sorry but that!! kinda sucks! respectfully.. #but i mean. scar deserves a statement to his character removed from other people (desertduo mainly) yk? #i dont reallyyy have any negative feelings toward pluto? #but people are siphoning in so hard on pluto being far away from everyone else which is like. real . but also #his situation in secret life was distinctly different to his situation in last life #which i wont go into in tags #but it's not okay just trust me </3 #anywayyy #shoutout to allll the other earth supporters on the many platforms ilysm #my art #havent used that in ages lmao

[parkitaco]

next person to reply to one of my very clearly wip posts asking where the fic is gets drop kicked 🫶

#peace and love ! #ik ppl mean well i really truly do but respectfully. use ur brain for like three seconds #to quote overdue etchedstars #you know the situation is bad when local braincellless teenagers say wow i wish i could lend you some braincells #if it’s tagged as a wip it’s ! probably a wip ! that’s all. #ok bitching over sorry.

[artisthedgehog]

why do people always want to fucking touch me

#i get so uncomfortable #“its just a hug” ik its just a fucking hug but #but #but!!! #its uncomfortable #i dont want to #sorry i dont want you to fucking touch me and kiss my face #and then they get mad #they get mad because i dont want them near me and touching me and grabbing my hand and stuff #please just respectfully get away #but THEN they probably think i hate them and it makes me feel mean #can you tell i had a family dinner recently

[danibee33]

every ounce of self-respect leaving my body like:

#I’m SORRY #respectfully #but i mean come on #literally when he does anything #pablo schreiber #the way i would let this man #😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨

[jascurka]

this is purely out of curiosity and i don't want to send hate your way, but do you ship mob and reigen? and if so, why?

I do, yeah. An ex-friend of mine asked me the exact same question (just more... harshly I think and with what I assumed was prejudice) before they decided to part our ways and I could never properly answer them because I was so stressed by the situation, it was hard to gather my thoughts. So I'll do my best to explain here, hopefully to make myself understood better.

Sorry if this gets lenghty >_< I'll just put a readmore right here.

I think the biggest reason for why I like them is their canon relationship that has been explored in the series already quite thoroughly - that they have changed eachother, helped eachother grow and one wouldn't be the person they are without the other. I think most of us understand the depth of it. Reigen is Mob's teacher and friend, someone like an older brother. There surely is a strong bond between them and they've seen each other at their best and worst and still acknowledged and accepted eachother's flaws. They trust eachother, they would give their life for eachother even (at least Reigen would, he almost did in the finale after all). And I do think that they love eachother but in a way that isn't actually romantic in canon. I'm perfectly capable of realizing that and I value it a lot both in the series and in fanworks (one of my fav works of fanfiction is about exactly that).

It was my curiosity that made me search up a ship fic of them, I was just confused why people ship them in the first place and whether it can be good and I found myself enjoying it a lot (to my surprise). It was set into the future, and dealt with some serious topics like loss and acceptance, it was kind of bittersweet. Then I felt that maybe it was just slightly ooc because all of the serirei fics I was busy reading depicted Reigen slightly different. Nontheless, I had the other ship on my mind then so I never really dived into Mob/Reigen, but it changed my perspective on them a lot.

And at some point into all this I realized, why not? Why can't I haz 2 cookies? (god im sorry that was terrible sfjgsdkj). What I mean is that the buildup canon offers can be taken further - more of their relationship can be explored in terms of new tropes, sometimes romantic too.

On a personal note I'll just add that I'm rather picky about them and tend to stick to fluff, hurt/comfort and slow slow burns. And I like them most post-canon, a few years into the future. It turns out that it all depends on how they're portrayed for me to like them anyways. I talked on here recently about a work that really had it all and portrayed their relationship in a very satisfying and mature way, with all the complicated feelings, it felt very realistic, especially on Reigen's side. So if anyone wants, here's a rec from me again -> in my dreams (I seem to be more honest) on ao3, just because I think it has all that I like about the ship.

I think that this is the whole point of fanworks - to kind of look further and have fun with it, to see "what if?". Even if it's something sort of.. taboo I guess? Because you get to take it apart in a fictional dimension (if that makes sense). And I completely understand if this is something that can ick some people out or that someone doesn't want to ruin their perception of the characters' relationship. That's totally fine by me and I'm not going to force anyone into liking the ship of course. And there are definitely tropes and tags I really don't want to look into - not everything is for me either.

And I think this goes without saying but I'll add it here anyways: what I like to see in fiction doesn't mean I would like or encourage anyone to do the same thing in real life! It's just interesting to explore from a safe distance where no one can get hurt.

#I didn't mean to make it this long sorry T_T #answered #you dont need to read the fic of course jsdfhskjf i just put it here for anyone interested #also big thanks for asking respectfully #I really appreciate it!

[jimmyenjoyer]

I know I went on a rant today about scott but I cannot for the life of me remember what I said.. I know it was about the flower stuff with jim and saus and then also whatever scott said to owen. But. Dang. My brain is mush. I was so fucking heated too god damn.

#i do remember my mom said she thinks im gonna get a restraining order on me #like #from scott #she also implied i liked him #which. #she knows im a lesbian but i also do obsess over men a lot so #fuck i guess shes not insane for implying that #BUT SHE IS BECAUSE ITS SCOTT???? #respectfully #i do not want him #idk why SOME OF YALL want him to be so honest #that was mean im sorry #im a kinda person ♡ #i think scott looks fine and. has a personality that some enjoy

[maddy-ferguson]

Ngl, I really think that these bylers that are crying 24/7 about "purity culture" or whatever, are playing dumb when they start with their "but Nancy and Steve were 16 and 17 in that scene of s1!!!1" like... We got introduced to these characters at that age and the people playing them were already adults. So yeah, sorry but I think it's easy to see why most viewers would be uncomfortable with a more sexual scene of Mike and Will and it's not automatically homophobia, I think that would be the case with any of the kids since we got introduced to these characters when they were 12 and the actors were babies as well. We literally saw those kids grow. And I'm not saying byler should only get to peck or hold hands, It'd be cool if they have their epic kiss or whatever, but Will hasn't even had his first kiss yet and some of these people are already talking about sex scenes, like... Be for real 😭

funny you should say that...because i've used the nancy was 15-16 in season one argument (last tag) before while also saying that i understand why people find the sex part of their sexualities uncomfortable to discuss. and i wanna reiterate that, again, i totally understand that people feel like they've seen them grow up etc etc and that they still think of the actors themselves as children even thought they're not anymore.

i don't think it's all homophobia because like you said, people would probably feel the same about lucas and max and discussions of sex (i don't know if anyone is discussing that because there's much less discourse to have there and you can't argue that people are homophobic if they disagree with you) but i don't think it would be justified either. the "but we knew the characters when they were little" argument makes me think me of an ancient disney channel/abc show that old people and girl meets world fans who watched it for the first time in the 2010s will know, boy meets world (1993-2000). classic comic of age show, look at these kids. and eric in the back (he's fifteen).

they're eleven at the start of the show and then, what happens in any coming of age story happens, you guessed it...

they grow up. this is them in the later seasons, when the main characters are still in high school i think. they grow up, they talk about sex and about having sex at prom in season five and then they don't have sex right away because they figure it's not the right time yet or something like that, and then they have sex later and get married, the details don't matter. but my point is, who watches a show for five seasons, over years and years and gets upset at the main characters having sex because "this is crazy they used to be children"? isn't that the point of coming of age stories that cover multiple years or that focus on the latter years of adolescence, that they're not children forever and that at one point the characters "come of age" which usually includes their first sexual experiences?

i don't think the having sex part is particularly important in stranger things but also it doesn't have to be for it to be portrayed (see jonathan and nancy), teenagers have sex, it's just the way the world works. i'm not advocating for sex scenes of any kind especially because stranger things isn't a show that features a lot of sex in general, the only "explicit" sex scene being nancy and steve in season one with cuts to barb dying, but i genuinely don't think the duffers would have any qualms about portraying teenage sexuality in general with the party. if they did, they wouldn't have included erica threatening lucas to tell dustin what she found under his bed (it wasn't the communist manifesto) and they wouldn't have had max looking at a shirtless steve for an amount of time that's supposed to make the audience laugh. it's been 7 years. if they do a time jump, the babies will be about 17, played by actors who will all be around 20, the age natalia was when filming season one. the characters are teenagers, babies grow up. it happens to the best of us. i get why people would find it uncomfortable and maybe i would find it uncomfortable too but i wouldn't be scandalized. the duffers had no problem having a child actor portray everything will goes through in seasons one and especially two, i really feel like sex is fine and...not traumatizing or hard to watch compared to every single thing will's gone through lol. and again, i'm not even expecting them to have sex lmao, but i wouldn't cry myself to sleep if they revealed that everyone in the party actually knows what sex is.

last question: do we have any indication that jonathan had talked to more than one other girl (the girl at the halloween party being the one girl i'm counting for him) before he got together with nancy. i'm just asking because of your last sentence, because if we don't he should have slowed down also😭

#yes i'm back to calling people old for no reason. <3 #saying that they will all be around 20 isn't a stretch because noah's turning 19 in 4 months and they haven't begun filming yet. thank you #i'm not mad at you anon sorry for not really agreeing with you and again i get where you're coming from and i don't even expect them to #have sex and if they did i would expect it to be implied like jonathan and nancy but yeah #what i mean when i say it's not particularly important in st is that i don't think they need to have sex for will's arc to be complete or #anything😭 #i would've been happy with jonathan and nancy only kissing in s2 like idc yk it's a detail #i'm not advocating for sex scenes means HERE in this case i'm not anti-sex scenes in general lmao #i didn't watch bmw over years and years i watched it in like. a month and a half maybe i really was not crying when cory started wanting to #have sex and i was 15...an impressionnable kid who knew what sex was...disheartening i know💔 #<- that wasn't me making fun of you anon lmao again i get where you're coming from i just respectfully disagree #i looked up the episode where they have sex and (spoiler alert lol) cory and topanga end up only having sex on their wedding night i think? #and that's not the episode in s5 i'm talking about but they consider having sex and talk about it so still bringing that one up #i found an article about something rider strong (shawn) said about not liking this episode because while they talk about sex at length they #never talk about safe sex and he even talked about his concerns to the showrunner because he thought it was irresponsible since yk young #viewers and all that and he was like maybe you don't get it different generations mine grew up with aids and everything this is really #important and he brushed him off! i thought that was interesting. this has nothing to do with st #ask

[stormyoceans]

lmao so are you ready to admit that puentalay is emotional manipulation at it worst and that puen is the worst bl character ever created or are you still gonna be delusional after how much their episodes sucked ass? i can't wait to never see jimmysea again after last twilight is gonna flop as bad as vice versa did

well to me personally as a person knowing that the man i love and that colored my life pink forever would still understand care love support and want the best for me even if i have other colors and important things in my life other than him is quite literally the epitome of romance and of an healthy relationship but to each their own!!!!!!!

#you guys keep using 'emotional manipulation' so freely and i do not think it means what you think it means but again to each their own!!!!! #don't know what else you want me to say tbh ;;;;;;; #anyway i have two other similar messages but they're much ruder so ain't gonna answer to those sorry #love and light to all but we aren't changing each other's mind so let's just respectfully enjoy what we like and move on #anyway the universe really said 'im gonna do anything in my power not to let monica enjoy her vice versa come back in peace' uh #m: ask #vice versa #our skyy 2

[therewithinthestars]

ok but what is this "in every universe" thing i have going on with excal/umbra/arthur tho, bcs how did they trick me into simping over the same character three different times

#warframe #listen i know it's not the same same character but you know what i mean #maybe i'm just easy to be marketed to 🤔 #stalker too if we count him bcs i do see the similarities 🤠 #Excalibur was my first frame #Umbra I have extreme attachment to he's more of my tenno's parent then lotus is ok im sorry i said it #Arthur................... respectfully gnawing at the bars of my enclosure :) why did they animate him like THAT

[ickypuppi3]

genuinely what do people expect to happen when they tell you that the fictional character or ship you like is bad

#fandom wank #am i supposed to be like oh sorry #deleting my blog and going to church tomorrow #time to repent my sins #?? #it’s also wild that strangers on the internet think they can tell you what you can and can’t like #nothing but the audacity #like girl respectfully you are nothing to me and your opinion means shit #why would i listen to you #is that mean i don’t really care

[sonego]

why are you calling that hijabi they? she's probably a woman

hi, it took me ages to reply to this sorry lol but i just use they/them for people i don't know for sure the pronouns of. obviously i'm aware this person's probably a woman (i know how islam works) and probably uses she/her pronouns. still, lgbt+ muslims exist and not all women use she/her pronouns so since i don't really know them and don't know what they'd rather be called i use they 🤷

#sorry if i offended any muslim person but i honestly see no harm in this? i use they for strangers any stranger #as we say here l'apparenza inganna and i'm not gonna assume anyone's pronouns based on anything #at least online bc unfortunately my native language which i speak irl is not gender neutral #so i'm basically forced to gender strangers sometimes like it's not so easy when in casual conversation to avoid gendering the other person #bc that's just how the language works and even if i try we're all just used to everything being gendered #so hey at least online where i'm writing and not speaking let me be gender neutral 😭 #nico answers #i mean all this respectfully and idk lmk if there's a reason why i shouldn't do this that i'm not aware of but ? as of rn i see no issue #anon

[sherlockig]

#belly button eehhhh #i am looking respectfully #i promise #ofmd #our flag means death #darling honey light of my life #i continue even after saying i am done sorry sorry sorry #rhys darby #stede bonnet #mine

[americankimchi]

trying to find more padawan obi wan fics out there that don’t do the following:

turn qui gon into a villainous caricature by reducing him from a complicated, traumatized character to Horrible Person Who Abused Our Poor Obi-Wan Unjustly For His Entire Padawanship Without Pause

turn yoda into a crusty evil gremlin who is cold, calculating, and supremely manipulative. usually framed in a way to make him stuck in his old ways. basically the jedi equivalent of a republican conservative.

and for some reason ki adi mundi also gets this treatment??? what’s going on here

forget that the jedi are a religious community and not a government/military organization

ignore the jedi’s philosophies and ignore or misinterpret the tenets of the jedi code in bad faith

CONSTANTLY say that the jedi are incapable/not allowed to love because ~love is attachment and attachment is forbidden~ when this is so far off what canon AND george lucas tells us it’s hysterical

have obi wan defect/be abandoned by/get kicked out/otherwise leave the jedi order for whatever reason to join the mandalorians

if above happens, uses obi wan and the mandalorians as a mouthpiece to criticize the jedi order for being an inherently flawed organization for which there is no redemption

and instead does the following:

literally just treats the jedi with respect. please. i’m begging you. if i see another “the jedi order lets their children be abused within their organization because for some reason an entire temple full of level 100 psychic empaths would either not notice or care that one of their own is suffering” ice cold take i’m going to explode

#personal #most of the fics i've enjoyed reading fall into either one or more of these pitfalls and i just ignore it and move on #but just once....... just once i would like the ability to read a longfic where i don't have to slide my eyes over a paragraph #and willfully ignore its contents for my peace of mind hjgkhfjkdhgkjf #TO BE FAIR i have found many fics that i DO love with my whole heart that DO treat the jedi respectfully #but. statistically speaking. they are the minority............... #my kingdom to never see another ''the mandalorians were better than the jedi and obi wan would do so much better there<333'' fic ever again #like what do you MEANNNN #obi wan LIVED BREATHED AND LOVED being a jedi so much he is the DEFINITION of service above self #HIS FIRST AND GREATEST LOVE IS THE FORCE. HIS SECOND IS THE JEDI. #WHAT DO YOU MEAN HE WOULD LOVE THE MANDALORIANS MORE. WHAT DO YOU MEEEEEAAAAAAAAAANNNNNNNN #THE JEDI WERE HIS FAMILYYYYYYYYYYyyYyYYYYyyyyyyyy #okay sorry i'm done sjkghfjkdg #it's just. the last three or four fics i've read. have all checked at least one or two boxes on my list and i'm tired 😔😔😔