#the kind of negative effects that letting your past control your life can have. so you vow to do better for ur future family

[psychelis-new]

pick a pile: "It's about timing"

take a breath, close your eyes and ask yourself a time-related question. then, open your eyes and choose the photo or number that calls you the most to find out about the possible amount of time needed for/time span in which the subject you're enquiring about may manifest or start manifesting for you. reminder timing can change according on different factors: this reading mainly wants to provide some kind of general advice/have a calming effect.

don’t take the reading too seriously. only take what resonates with you and leave the rest. if you're not called by any pile, let this reading slid as it may not hold messages for you. if you're called by more than one pile, there may be messages in each of those piles. remember that is a general reading and some things may not resonate with you. energies can change and readings are based on present ones (as you read); you're always in charge of your life.

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pile 1

timing: present time, short time, imminent (2 months max.) it depends also on your ability to focus on what you can control/yourself (keep your mind in check as it may sabotage you through insecurities and similar)/stay grounded. you're attracting your blessings anyway, just try to stay as calm as you can and keep working.

song: still life | dawn golden

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pile 2

timing: next year, more likely end of the year or late autumn. I heard july too (could be specific for some or a confirmation -eg. a birth month). it may be also when you are near to close a cycle in your life (end of self insecurities)/divine timing. you'll balancing out something in your life too, either your inner/outer self or two endeavours or simply two energies.

song: dynamite | bts

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pile 3

timing: in 10 months-2 years. march could be a favorable month or a confirmation of some kind (eg. birth month). go slow, keep working on your happiness and be determined. If this is really what you want and what really makes you happy too, it will be (check within during these months).

song: i like | kut klose

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pile 4

timing: 8 months or 2-4 years. something needs to be changed within you or your approach to this matter. even if you cannot see it well yet and it feels so far away, be hopeful and more determined. you may meet help on the way. "a pinch of belief" (dunno what it means or if it resonates with anyone... maybe somebody wants to cook something?)

song: easy | danileigh, chris brown

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pile 5

timing: it's a surprise! keep working on healing your heart, especially from negative past experiences/emotions you may still carry within and find a hard time to free yourself from. try to not overworry if you can. take good care of you and be kind with yourself if it's taking a while: it's okay, even if it seems unbearable at times. be patient.

song: heart to heart | mac demarco

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pile 6

timing: when you start a new cycle or you are in a moment of reflection/pause. divine timing. might happen suddenly and shake things up a bit. try to close that hurtful chapter and take time for yourself. grow your confidence. let the Universe work for you behind the scenes.

song: butterfly | crazy town

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[a-d-nox]

pac/pap: how can you rejuvenate yourself this spring

take what resonates leave what doesn't - nothing is 100% for you because these aren't personalized so please no angry comments or dms about what i am saying not being a good fit for you or that you "don't claim" just keep scrolling if that is the case. be kind, self reflect, and have fun.

last pac/pap: what awaits you at the end of the rainbow and how can you follow the path to abundance?

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pile one

it is time to hit a rest button - it is not too late for you to begin again. take inventory of life right now. what needs to go in your life? when you identify these things, habits, and people, realize that now is the time to declutter. keeping these things, habits, and people in your life is just holding you back and sabotaging you from living your best life.

now is the time to be more empathetic, compassionate and emotionally intelligent - start with yourself first and foremost. life is hard and at the end of the day it is just you against the world, so be kind and protect yourself. create boundaries to protect yourself from others who are trying to disturb your peace.

lead others and be a voice of authority and stability in the tough times ahead. try your best to remain calm and hold your ground. rely on your instincts to be mature and confident around others that might try to knock you down. now might be the time for you to take a trip so that you can cool off and get away from situations that might be negatively effecting you.

pile 2

celebrate everything you can. reflect on where you are in life and what you have achieved - celebrate it. the more you show enthusiasm, the more you will find yourself feeling pleased in life. you have to balance all that hard work someway, so do so in a way that brings you joy (shop, go out, take a trip, etc).

this the spring is an end of something and the start of something entirely new. let it end - allow yourself to see everything that has happened as a lesson (nothing is without purpose). peace is coming so just practice some gratitude in the meantime, and you will find yourself in a better spot. start making space for new things.

you are fighting for your happiness, but i feel like more and more challenges and obstacles are bound to arise. be assertive and strategic instead of defensive. show courage in the face of adversity. listen to your intuition during this time - the storm isn't over yet. focus only on what you can control and do so with grace.

pile 3

now is the time to be a bit more confident in yourself - you need to trust that you are capable of anything. have faith in the universe that it will protect you as you begin to live life more authentically and in the way you wish to. don't hesitate, don't worry about looking weak, and be comfortable with being vulnerable.

self-reflecting is a good thing but i get the sense that you might a bit too hard on yourself. release yourself from these harsh judgments - you aren't perfect, no one is so accept things that you view as faults/wrongdoings and move on. it does you no good to be too self-critical. look at spring as if this a new beginning - nothing from your past needs to be connected too you. begin again with a new outlook on life.

take breaks when you need them. you are hard on yourself so please take any chances you can to calm your mind and try out some introspection in regards to the pervious paragraph. are you creating your own stress and anxiety? meditation and sleep might be the cure - so rest, self-reflect, breathe, and calm yourself.

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[mattodore]

okay so because previous anons asked about sex, I wanna ask about aftercare, how they act after sex? oh and i’m curious how their sex life change after being together for a while

xoxo <3

their aftercare isn't always aftercare-101, if i'm honest. theo is very bad at it and doesn't really... ever... do that for matthias. and matthias may be very good at giving aftercare but theo is incredibly resistant to it. i mentioned earlier that theo really gets off on praise, but... he also flinches away from it. he's so twisted up about so much of what he wants and he's really, uh... well. he makes it really hard to get close to him and offer comfort despite how much he desires it. matthias can't say certain things without scaring theo off (and i mean, like, theo will quite literally run away), so he has to talk around what he wants to say and what theo needs to hear to prevent theo from bolting before he can bring him down.

matthias takes a long time cleaning theo up and massaging his muscles after, and he'll hum or talk to himself in polish so theo knows he's still there touching him (but isn't stirred before he comes to himself on his own by english he can understand). when he's finished, he'll ask theo very simple yes or no questions that let matthias know how theo's feeling without outright asking how he's feeling. he also checks on theo throughout the day, but he has to be even more subtle there or theo starts to feel smothered. is your body okay? do you want me to get you dressed? does your head hurt? do you want me to read to you? he focuses on asking about the physical and what theo wants to do rather than theo’s emotions. matthias has learned that asking if theo's feeling okay after is a quick way to trigger a very, very negative response in theo. it's one of the reasons why i think matthias is constantly asking theo in the heat of sex how he's feeling, because that's when theo is so preoccupied by the physical aspect that the emotional effects leak out without him fighting to keep them in. it takes a few months for theo to get comfortable with the feelings he has after sex with him before matthias can really give him proper aftercare. that’s why the sex they have early on is never anything too crazy. matthias coaxes theo into a better place first.

​i also think it’s important to clarify that it’s not like they’re always having kinky sex. still, theo usually needs physical touch after vanilla sex as well. matthias himself always craves conversation afterwards, so he waits for theo to stir awake (because he often falls asleep after sex) or come back into his body fully to talk to him.

as for changes to their sex life after they’ve been together for awhile… i believe i've talked about this before, but their sexual dynamic turns on its head after a few years. theo starts to take control of the reins and gets more comfortable asking for and doing what he wants. with theo he just has a lot holding him back and it's only after he's grown as a person and worked past a majority of his intimacy issues that he can act on the desires he's been burying waaay down. there's a sort of brattiness that theo starts to have a lot of fun with during sex—a lot of pushing and prodding, withholding, insulting... matthias is having the time of his life lmao, like he loves being challenged and pushed around. matthias takes on a more submissive role during sex as they age, which is fun for him. plus it's kind of the dynamic they've always had outside of sex anyway. of course, there are never any set roles in their sexual life so i'm not saying that it's always like that, but theo enjoys telling matthias what to do and how to do it. they have a lot of fun with it.

#river dipping #asks #anonymous #oc extras #nsft #theodore doe #matthias evanoff #a burning house to live in #echthroi #finally done..... actually patting myself on the back for being able to answer all of these in a day and a half like #normally being asked anything abt my ocs takes me forever to get to bc i just take everything so seriously #......................................exhibit a: this reply jnjhkjfnghk #my ocs are just really complicated so i feel like i have to really expand upon each new bit of information #like theo is NOT ! well adjusted in the slightest #and while matthias can read people very easily it doesn't mean that there aren't times where he messes up #theo is very closed off and he will lash out at the slightest thing that spooks him #and he also... is not really experienced in having good sex yk? so he's so bad at aftercare which i guess is like. well. #good thing your partner is someone who's used to being left to his own devices after experiencing major physical and emotional stressors #matthias can usually take himself out of a scene just because of the nature of his past... #but i think theo does pick up on what matthias does for him after awhile and he tries incorporating it into 'aftercare' #but................. i don't think he really understands what all he should be saying and doing for a few years like not until he's #domming matthias more frequently and has taken the time to look at The Internet lmao jkfjnhkjn i imagine it shocks him a bit #matthias may be good at sex but he does have his blind spots and those normally involve himself… so he never told theo that what he does #for him should be reciprocated………… additionally matthias is very much a giver not a taker #like he doesn’t expect or even really want theo to ask how he’s feeling. but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t need that. #….have been rereading this for the last thirty minutes idk why this is what i’m like Yikes ! about responding to 😭 #whatever post ‼️ theo isn’t good at sex i’ve said it before who can be surprised he gives zero aftercare

[roobylavender]

(Really long ask ahead i’m sorry!) I think your thoughts on dick and his similarities vs differences to bruce are so interesting! Personally i’m wondering how much of NTT played an influence on this kind of characterization bc i’ve never fully finished ntt but i read like nearly all the pre-80s batman 1940 issues lol and dick very much was portrayed as more idealistic than bruce in some ways while more no-nonsense (? For lack of better word) in other ways, like when it comes to batman easing up a little on selina for romance reasons LOL. Though ofc dick totally turns into - well, a dick - in team books, as i grow older i find myself far more compelled by a potential story of an 18 yr old who seemed to have the whole weight of the world on his shoulders (by his own perception) and breaking under his own impractically strong sense of duty and sky-high expectations for others, then realizing as he grows older that it doesn’t have to be that way esp after seeing the perspectives of characters like kory, wally, joey, roy, etc. Like personally as someone who never really had a huge interest in NTT anyway, i’m surprised at how desperately people want to hold on to the characterization of dick when he was 18-19 and never letting him grow past that, like it’s so difficult for me to believe that at age 25 he would be the same uptight controlling kid that he was at 19. Maybe i’m biased though bc i was like one of those insufferable INTJ internet stereotypes as a teenager, and while that worldview did bring me achievements i’m proud of like the fact that i’m in med school rn studying what i love, i still know that at age 22 i have changed SO much from when i was 18 and i can’t imagine any reasonably mature or normally-functioning person (let alone someone high-functioning like dick) not doing the same lol. Especially since dick is the kind of person who would literally die if he’s not constantly growing and evolving past his faults bc of his insufferable perfectionism, idk how he’d be willfully blind to the negative effects of his worldview in early NTT and refuse to grow from there. He even has a quote that’s like “i’ve spent years as a student of my own behavior” which i always found highly encouraging bc i know he really does want to improve himself even at his worst. It reminds me of that Marcus Aurelius quote: “if someone can prove me wrong and show me my mistake in any thought or action, i shall gladly change. I seek the truth, which never harmed anyone; the harm is to persist in one’s own self-deception and ignorance.” But what are your thoughts? (Thank you for reading all this 🥹)

oh i absolutely agree! i cannot tell you how many times i think about the person i was a couple years ago and who i am now like i cringe so much omg.. maturity is an ever persistent process even if we don't recognize its effects immediately and it absolutely is crazy to think that anyone would remain in such a static state of mind for several years on end. esp when like you said dick is someone who wants to be better! so despite his several hypocrisies it is nonetheless in his best interests to look internally and analyze and evolve. and i feel like that very much could have happened had there been any actual segue between dick's breakup with kory and his re-entry into the batfam. i don't think there was much of a connection between these two sets of writers at all and so what you got is what felt like two very distinct parts of dick's life that didn't necessarily reveal a bridge point. so it's not entirely unrealistic that dick may grow to be the person (at least to some extent) that bat canon portrayed him to be in the years that followed but i certainly think as it stands it felt unearned and like all of his issues explored in ntt were conveniently swept to the side without any semblance of closure (albeit i do think some of these issues are addressed in outsiders '03 but in that dickheaded way that winick explores things generally. so i'm not sure it's the kind of closure people actually want). it's very sad and ig that's what people cling to more than anything. it's not that they're opposed to him growing to be a better person but that they're opposed to a version of dick who feels like he sprung out of nothing

#ironically enough i Do think dick going back to gotham after the kory breakup made sense #like when something that big happens in your life what are you going to do. seek the advice of the one person you look up to more than anyt #ing right. but marv wolfman complicated things by writing bruce the way he did so rather than bruce playing an active part #in guiding dick through some of his issues and mistakes he instead became dick's burden to bear through extensive post knightfall trauma #and i mean you all know i Love knightfall. i really do it gives me brainworms upon brainworms #but i wish there had been just one moment. like after it was all over. that bruce and dick actually got to talk and like #discuss dick's problems yknow #i get the feeling they didn't delve much when writing prodigal bc they had to set up the next arcs and stuff but it's like #come on. come on. they could've afforded it. if dick really had to come back to gotham for a temporary stint where he tried to find himself #than a proper conversation with bruce about what he was going through should have been a part of that #bc i do think working with bruce's new cavalry of three teen heroes (tim / steph / cass) would have borne wonderful opportunities #for dick to grow as a leader and peer considering his ridiculous expectations of others and how this would measure up against teenagers #but the problem is that bat canon decided he was going to magically gel with everyone bc he was emotionally more well adjusted than bruce #was. like ok. ok. whateverrrrrrrr #like idk it's so funny they were given a dick with a plethora of issues and instead of using any of that ammo they were like nah #we're going to make our lives harder and give him new problems manifested out of thin air. totally makes sense. bullseye #outbox

[cosmichighpriestess]

𓆩♡𓆪You Were Born To Be Free𓆩♡𓆪

My dear friends, we love you so very much,

Each one of you was born knowing you were completely free. You entered the world expecting to experience the contrast which would inspire you to create. You came knowing you could adjust your vibration and attract whatever you wanted.

None of you ever said, "I want to give someone else control over my life. I want someone else to dictate my happiness or unhappiness. I want to give someone else power over my future. I want to let what someone is doing now, and all they've done in the past dictate what I experience in my life and my future."

Yet, most of you learned to do that somewhere along the way.

You learned to give the behavior and opinions of others more "air time" than the desires of your own soul. You learned to enjoy the "high" of others dramas rather than the peace of God within. You learned to focus on what you and others were doing wrong instead of what you were doing right.

Dear ones, with each decision you make, you can reclaim your God-given power to be the sole creator in your life. While you may be affected by others, you need not let the effect be significant.

Suppose you see something in the news that concerns you. You worry about how it might affect your life. Although innocently, you are starting to give your power away to the behaviors of others. You are focusing on something you don't want, thereby drawing more of what you don't want to you. If, instead, you see something on the news that concerns you and remind yourself immediately. "Ah well, this is someone else's journey I am witnessing. I create my own reality. I will sit briefly and envision a better and kinder world." Then dear ones, even if the behavior on the news is violent and angry, you will attract kind and loving souls into your life.

Suppose you are around someone in your personal life who behaves badly—a boss, coworker, child, or spouse. You can't help but witness their anger, upset, or worry. They are right in front of you. You may not be able to control them, but you can control how much you focus on their negativity vs. how much you focus on their light or the light in anything else around you.

Your spouse may grumble incessantly about the state of the world. You can argue, complain with them, or choose a better vibration. You can say, "Yes, things are stirred up, but we're going to have a great dinner tonight!" You can enjoy your own vibration even when they do not enjoy theirs.

Suppose someone accuses you of putting your head in the sand and ignoring "reality" instead of getting worked and angry. You can get defensive and upset by focusing on their accusation, or you can happily agree! "Yes, I am ignoring much of what makes me miserable while I'm busy being happy!" They may not like that statement. They wanted you to join them in their anger. So what, dear ones? You get to choose. You get to focus on things that make you feel better. Unless you choose this, you are not on a leash tied to feel what others feel.

Your world is loaded with stark contrasts right now. You already know this. You see it frequently. There are substantial political divides. There are arguments about technology and where it is going. There are clashes between old and new parenting styles, education, environmentalism, etc. If you believe contrast is terrible, this can be terrifying. If you see through the eyes of your soul, you'll see an evolving world. The stirring up of the old is birthing the new! The political division inspires young souls who are focusing on solving the world's challenges here and now. While old systems argue about the best way to clean up the environment, young people are actually doing it. While people debate and rage about politics, other individuals are vibrationally and physically creating a unified world in their own lives connecting with those who also want harmony.

You cannot change systems by fighting systems. You can not change others by making them wrong. You will only defeat yourself. You will chain yourself, vibrationally speaking to that which you focus upon. You can never wish for your horrible ex to know the pain they have caused you without causing yourself horrendous pain. You vibrationally chain yourself to that which you focus upon. Turn away, dear ones, from the things that upset you. Turn your sights towards a better world and kinder people. The thoughts that give you joy will become your reality if you allow yourself to enjoy them and give the universe space to deliver their essence.

If you allow yourself to live in a more loving expectant vibration, you will get something that matches the feeling of what you want—something which surprises and delights you! If you dim your light, dial down your vibration, and allow negative situations and people who crave your focus and vibrational companionship to own your mind, then you will delay your creations.

You never intended to be chained to the behaviors of another. Use your power of focus to turn the other cheek, to look away from what upsets, worries, and creates negativity within you. Turn your sights to the good in this world, the good you can find now, and the good you wish to see. Seek, and ye shall find. Knock, and the door will be opened.

The antics of others can become no more impactful than the antics of characters in a play – a play in which you all get to focus on and act in the roles you choose. No matter who does what around you, choosing to remain a victim or become a creator is only a matter of focus. Place your sights where you want them to be, and don't allow the negativity of others to grab your attention for more than a few seconds. Your spirit and your energy are valuable resources. You are worthy of so much more.

God Bless You! We love you so very much.

- The Angels

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[callmelexy]

"You learn much more from letting go of the past than you do from keeping the past." - Ajahn Brahm

13042023

"I think you'll have an 'aha' moment at your family dinner tonight. Something that will make you go 'ooo'." said Natasha when we were on the phone. It was about 30 minutes before the dinner.

I had been anxious the past 2-3 days. It was like an itch that i couldn't scratch away. It's as if the more i scratch it, the more frustrated I got.

My family arrived early and in typical fashion, mummy and Richard went off to buy things before everyone else arrived. I chose to sit with dad... Even instructing him to sit beside me. It was a concious request as I felt I needed some form of protection.

It's a bit deep to go into family history so i will chalk up the relationship to "stringent". We only meet when we need to, we only ask when we need to, we only speak when we need to. Everything else in between was non-existent... At least for me.

As the other family members came in, I put my typical front of hugs and kisses. I would say it was almost genuine. The love I have was real but the resentment I had was also real. A real paradox of emotions.

As the dinner went on, there were more than one 'aha' moment. I didn't know my aunt and brother were part of an animal NGO. I didn't know what Richard's final case study was about. I didn't know one of my aunt was suffering vertigo.

It was multiple 'aha' moments that humbled me real quick... Because by the end of that dinner, I realised how useless feeling resentful was. That the anger, jealousy and overall negative feelings were killing me.

We often speak about "main character energy" (MCE) and how living life through an MCE lense will pull focus onto ourselves and therefore, build self-love. But tonight, i saw a defined line between self-love and selfishness. And that line... for me... was... Ignorance. The ignorance to see the suffering carried by my family members. The ignorance to assume they're having a good life. The ignorance of never asking how they are. The ignorance to not acknowledge the suffering they're going through.

Resentment is a funny feeling. It's the kind of feeling that fuels you to achieve more but also eats you up on the inside. It's as if something is biting you... You want it to stop biting you, yet because it has a hold on you, you run even faster. And you fool yourself into thinking, if i run faster, I would be able to outrun the pain of the bite.

But low and behold... You've ran and ran and ran... You're getting faster with every stride... Yet, you still feel pain because that thing is still biting you.

Tonight I chose to pull off the thing that's biting me, voluntarily. The after effects feel as if blood is gushing out of me. Right now, it's the thunder, lightning and rain before the sun shines again.

Seeing my aunt experience vertigo made me realise that no one gets away with anything. All the havoc she brought upon us is catching up. Hearing that my other aunt is involved in more and more NGO / temple work. made me realise she's not vying for power (maybe a lil bit) but finding a purpose in life before it's too late. What i thought were cousins that leeched upon my kindness were just humans looking for meaningful connections. What i believed was a desperate attempt of connection between my grandmother (way back when) and myself with the gift of a watch, in hindsight, was her way of apologising for the hurt she caused me.

Tonight, I also saw my mother... The woman that suffered so much in the early years of her marriage give her kindness to them. And i could tell it was genuine. If she can accept the hurt given and respond with kindness... Why can't i?

This lead me to think... Perhaps behind some of the unconciously awful things people do, are just desperate measures to gain control (or reasons to go on) through the sufferings of life.

I believe what i'm feeling now is forgiveness.

I am choosing to let go of the pain caused by others, for myself. Because the only person trapped in the resentment I feel for my family... is me.

And if my father is right and life is "as is". That means my timeline to come to this conclusion, the evolution i have undergone, the strength for self-awareness was never a mistake. That every suffering, joy, disappointment, achievement led me down this path... Because if anything was even 0.00000001% different, the course of my life would not be where it is now.

Thank you, past suffering. You may go now. Leave knowing that you have done your part in teaching me about forgiveness and letting go. I have made peace with you.

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PS: Thank you, Natasha... For lovingly telling me to open my heart tonight (in your own way).

[compassionatereminders]

This is a vent, however I welcome ALL suggestions or thoughts. I appreciate different perspectives.

I have cptsd following an unhealthy family and a long and abusive marriage. I'm in therapy, I'm steadily working on myself and on building my new life as a single parent. My current partner is diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder. They also display MANY characteristics of BPD. (The two disorders do have overlapping symptoms, so do knows)

It is very hard to stay. Much of the bad times are very similar to the mental abuse in my marriage. It's hard to trust my own judgment and memory, and it's also hard to believe the kindness that I experience in the good times. When things are good, it's great! When things start getting difficult, I try to show care and love. They don't make it easy to do though. I'll do 5 caring type things, and it's the 6th thing I should have done that gets all the attention and anger. When things are bad, I am treated like the problem, I am snapped at, I walk on eggshells to keep things calm and then I'm snapped at for walking on eggshells. Help, but don't over help. Give attention, but also don't give any. Engage in conversation, but don't overwhelm and also don't take anything personal when the entire conversation is sharp, critical, occasionally explosive, and dismissive.

The weaknesses I'm working on are mocked or criticized, and then excused away as me making assumptions. And then I get depressed, I feel cloudy headed, I think the bad thoughts I have worked through in therapy. The bad times provoke me and then I regress.

Good times are great. We do things people do *together* rather than isolated and ignored as I was before. Displays is affection. Help when I need it and don't know how to ask. Compliments. Support for my personal goals. Support when I'm feeling defeated or stuck. Laughing, playing games, watching movies. The stuff people do with their partners that I never got to do in my whole life. So much good.

It feels like the effects of my partner's mental illness is reliving my past abuses. My ex did this negative stuff to maintain coercive control and ego. I was essentially a servant at home and a trophy at career events. My current partner does this with cyclic moods or following stressful events and when I'm needed for shielding. Their individual motivations may be different, but the effects on me seem to be the same.

I don't want to end an important relationship with a truly loving, carrying, devoted person. I also don't want to continue living my life on someone else's emotional rollercoaster. Loving someone with mental illness is hard, and I don't want to let the bad stuff ruin the good stuff. I want to better handle the bad times but I haven't figured that out yet. Being logical and predictable with a person in an illogical state is so hard, especially when I'm being blamed and nit-picked. I'm worried I won't figure it out and I'll go right back to the way I was before I left my ex. I want to work with this rather than let it break me, or break us. It's just so hard to see the difference between illness vs abuse when they are so similar.

I'm sad and tired and angry and fed up and sad again.

-D

Thank you for providing a space to vent. I don't know who to talk to right now but I need to talk to someone, or at least let it out. I appreciate that this is a space to do so.

I think that the relationship you're describing here sounds very toxic and unhealthy, and that even if your current partner is a genuinely well-intentioned person who is only acting out because of their mental health issues, that still doesn't mean you should put up with being mistreated like this. Because facts are that for these toxic patterns to actually get resolved, your partner needs to fully realize and take responsibility for changing their behavior - and if they aren't capable of and/or willing to lift that task, nothing you can say or do will make the relationship healthy and safe. So you gotta ask yourself whether your partner is ready to really, truly face their issues and actively work on themselves or whether it's time to walk away. Because there's no shame in walking away from someone who can't treat you right. No, not even if they aren't hurting you on purpose.

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[owlinthelarksnest]

Maybe this is TMI, but I’m honestly to scared to bring this up to a friend or my therapist, and for some reason I feel better committing this knowledge to the void that is the Internet more than brining this up to other people.

Idk, talking about sexual trauma is just hard, especially when there’s a nagging part of you that says you deserved it or it was your fault that you were in that situation.

Idk, when I told my mom that I was assaulted by a drunk guy I was acquaintances with in college, she said it was my fault for letting him into my dorm, and I think about that a lot. It was the first real time I had opened up about an experience like that to anyone, and I think it may have colored the way I see all of my past experiences. Because of this, I couldn’t even tell her in person or over the phone that I was raped two years later. It took me two weeks to come to term with the fact I was raped at all, and I wasn’t anywhere near home at the time, so I told her over text because it was bothering me in the middle of a class. Because of this, she still doesn’t believe that’s something that happened to me, but that’s a whole other can of worms.

The reason I got to thinking about this is that there’s this girl I like, and I think she likes me back, and part of me *wants* to be intimate with her even if it’s not sex, but I don’t know if I could even if I wanted to. It’s hard for me to imagine getting any enjoyment out of any sexual situation because nearly every sexual experience I’ve had has been a negative one.

So like, I’ve been trying to figure out why I am the way I am, and it hasn’t been pretty. Every time I turn over another stone, I find something ugly underneath. I ask myself why I can’t watch normal porn, and I remember that every time I was exposed to it was not of my own volition. I ask why I find shared bathing erotic, and I remember that I was regularly molested in the bath/shower by my dad’s girlfriend’s daughter who was effectively a babysitter. I can’t be in control of my own sexuality because it’s always felt like someone used against me or pushed on me in a moment of vulnerability. The only sexual situations I’ve had that have been 100% comfortable to me are ones where I’m all alone with no one to stare at me like a piece of meat, and even then I can’t even reach orgasm on my own because it’s like it’s too emotionally painful to work myself up to that point, or I feel dirty for indulging that part of myself. This doesn’t even begin to cover the fact that I wasn’t comfortable with the fact that I’m attracted to women until college when I was finally away from my mom, who treated me like a completely different person until I forced myself into a relationship with a guy for a month or two.

Beyond that, not only was I raped by a close friend who said he could “fix me”, but I fucking forgave him when he said he wanted to see me again. We got drunk at a strip club, he took me back to his place, had me give him a lap dance and molested me while trying to get me to come by talking about the girls at the bar. I’ve never told anyone about this or the thing about the babysitter because I’m too ashamed.

So many people have come into my life just because they want to fuck, and I don’t know why. I’ve always seen myself as disgusting, and among other reasons, maybe this has something to do with it. I feel ruined, unclean, like I can’t love anyone. I can never be a bride or a groom because I don’t feel like a human being worthy of that kind of happiness— I’m tainted. I’m unclean. I hate everything about myself and my body, so how could I ever love someone else? I’m just scared and don’t know what to do with myself.

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[thelonesgroup]

Find Your People

There are a number of items that can spell success or failure in a real estate agent's business. Many of these items are under an agent's control - activities that keep an agent top-of-mind with past clients like mailing consistently to a farm and of course, doing a great job with buyers and sellers they are currently working with. However, there are a number of threats that are outside of an agent's control: what the Fed does with interest rates, whether it makes financial sense for a seller to sell, or how much new construction builders build. Today I want to talk about a different kind of threat: the threat of people who aren't a good fit for you.

Unhealthy Relationships

Occasionally we have a client who does us in, a client who makes us question whether we are in the right business and has us wanting to throw in the towel. Sometimes we have to complete a transaction with an agent who makes us crazy. We may even have an agent in our office that we just do not jive with. There are some agents who are very effected by friction like this and it is important to learn how to identify these situations and protect your energy.

If you don't develop tools for dealing with people that have the potential to suck the life out of you, this will continue to affect you time and time again. The best tool you have is you! By controlling how you react and set your boundaries will ultimately impact how you feel about the situation. You cannot control their behavior, but you can control your behavior.

I can't help but think of Star Trek when thinking about this topic. Get nerdy with me for a moment. When a threat is near, what direction does the captain give? "Shields Up!"

This is a great way to tell yourself that it is time to go on the defensive. And by defensive, I mean taking a few small steps to protect yourself such as:

Limit your interactions. This means that you don't add fuel to the fire. Your goal is to get out of the situation unscathed. Be calm and cool.

Make a boundary and stick to it. Whether it is your hours of operation, an expectation of treatment, or the bottom line, there is a reason you set those boundaries in the first place.

As I like to say when dealing with conflict, remain strong, calm, and firm. Get into the mindset to be supercool. Like Teflon, let the negativity slide right off you.

I hear some of you saying, "What if my situation isn't a one-off and I am surrounded by people sucking away my energy." When you find yourself surrounded by so much negativity then it is time to make a change. This is the year you need to FIND YOUR PEOPLE!

Unhealthy Environments

There is nothing like being with a group of people who are enthusiastic, empowering, and ready to tackle the world. Likewise, there is nothing like being with a group of people who are negative, who think the sky is falling, and who make excuses for their lack of performance rather than hunkering down. They may be nay-sayers. Are you experiencing negativity in places like the following?

Your brokerage.

In your volunteer activities and networking groups.

At home.

By "environment" I mean pretty much anywhere you are when you are not by yourself!

Ongoing negativity like this can have a detrimental effect on your mindset, your business, and your interactions with others. If you are feeling like your environments are dragging you down, ask yourself the following:

Is it just one or two people in these environments? If so, can you limit your engagement and "Shields Up!" whenever possible? If it can be contained and you can work with it, then be aware of it and play defense.

Is it an entire culture? If we are talking about everyone or we are talking about the leadership of your environment, then change is needed. This is where I will be focusing the rest of today's article.

Escaping Negative Culture

I have worked with a lot of agents over the years who are highly affected by negativity or neglect. Real estate agents are people-people who need positive energy around them. If they are deprived of that or are surrounded by negative energy, it will wear an agent down.

For example, I was working with an agent a few years ago who loved her office. It was a great place for her to be and her managing broker was someone who everyone in the industry looked up to. She had a consistent meeting schedule and was always providing information of value to her agents. The office culture was positive and full of good energy for that agent. So, what happened? The managing broker retired and her replacement was someone who had a completely different outlook and approach. He didn't hold meetings the same way as the previous manager, had very stringent communication schedule with the agents which meant a few times when she had an imploding deal, she had trouble getting support. He was constantly bringing in bad news and warnings and, according to this agent, had a "sky is falling" attitude. This changed the entire dynamic of the office.

What is important here is that this was a change in management style, not that it is necessarily good or bad, but his style was not a good fit for this agent. As a result, she found herself avoiding the office or calling him with transactional questions. Her relationship with her office became more and more strained. Ultimately, she decided she could not work with the manager and ended up leaving the office with the goal of finding her people.

I have worked with other agents whose office environment is downright toxic because a few disruptive agents are allowed to behave badly. It brings the morale of the office down and there just aren't enough reasons to stay. In those cases, it might be time for the agent to find their people.

Some agents have also had this experience in networking groups or volunteer organizations. It doesn't seem to matter what the cause is; the group dynamic can be detrimental if the people running the show are grating. The cause may be right, but the people were wrong. These agents needed to find their people.

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Finding Your People

I encourage you to take some time this week to analyze your environments. Be aware of the energy that is good for you and the energy that is bad for you. Do you have a one-off situation that can be contained with your "Shields Up!"? If not, maybe it is time to take more evasive action, redefine your environment, and find your people?

It can be difficult leaving an office or a group that you have invested your time in. Start by asking yourself, "Could I be more productive or contribute more if I was a member of a group that shares a similar outlook and goals?"

For example, one of my agent clients was a member of a committee that was designed to provide support for the local schools. She joined that committee because she believed in the mission. However, what she quickly learned was there was a very toxic dynamic between two of the Board members. It was at the point that their conflict was always THE topic of conversation and the committee was otherwise ineffective. Nothing else could get accomplished. This committee also took several hours of this agent's time per month. The cause was right, but the people were wrong. I encouraged her to take her passion for helping the schools and look around for another committee with people who were more focused on getting things done than being right.

Remember, it isn't necessarily about one person being right and one person being wrong. Sometimes someone is not the right person for someone else. Sometimes the environment or group dynamic isn't the right fit.

This year, give yourself permission to let go of environments and people that are no longer serving you well. Take some time to find your people. Your energy will flourish as a result!

By Denise Lones CSP, CMP, M.I.R.M. The founding partner of The Lones Group, Denise Lones has over three decades of experience in the real estate industry. With agent/broker coaching, expertise in branding, lead generation, strategic marketing, business analysis, new home project planning, product development and more, Denise is nationally recognized as the source for all things real estate. With a passion for improvement, Denise has helped thousands of real estate agents, brokers, and managers build their business to unprecedented levels of success, while helping them maintain balance and quality of life.

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How Can You Overcome Your Self-doubt?

Fear and self-doubt are the two strains of our life. Every student possesses some kind of fear whether it is a fear of exam or fear for good grades or fear from their parents and teacher. Students need to understand that they can overcome fear and self-doubt through active learning and critical thinking. All the International Boarding schools in India had developed various methods through which they help their students in overcoming fear and self-doubt. Extraordinary schools try to inculcate confidence by providing various extracurricular activities and mood booster activities that will help you to overcome your self-doubt and fear.

GD Goenka, Rohtak is one of those schools in India that includes active learning and critical thinking in its curriculum for the students so they can easily overcome any fear and self-doubt which they will face in their course of life. Our faculty members and professional teachers are very supportive in nature and they provide accurate solutions to any kind of student's problem. We believe in providing to the point and knowledgeable solution to our students so they can easily overcome any fear and can easily achieve the desired goals. For the optimal level of education and developing critical thinking skills in students, makes our school one of the top CBSE schools in India. If you have any doubts or want any information regarding our school you can easily contact us through our website.

Now let us discuss some of the ways through which you can overcome your doubts: -

Optimum Ways Through Which You Can Overcome Your Self-doubt

1.     Know When to Say Stop: Whenever you think that you have any doubts about any single thing and it is bubbling up, be quick and assure yourself that you can do it. Don’t let your doubts to overcome yourself as if you let that whisper out of your control, it will transform itself into discouraging sentences. Instead, try to encourage yourself that you can do this work. Don’t let your mind to say that you cannot do this stuff and try to remain as positive as possible. If you remain positive it will help you take over your self-doubt and will disrupt those negative patterns from your life.

2.     Try Talking to Someone Regarding Your Self-doubt: It is absolutely fine to talk to somebody regarding your self-doubt. Whenever you keep your thoughts inside and don’t communicate, those thoughts become distorted and you start to exaggerate everything in your life and start to doubt your self-worth. This can build excessive stress in your body and can also impact your health conditions. Therefore, you should try to let them out in the sight. Try to talk to somebody who is very close to you regarding your self- doubts and how you are feeling about them. You can talk to your teachers and parents and even opt for a good mentor. By letting out all your doubts loudly and clearly will help you to exhale all those thoughts that you have in your mind. Talk to someone who is supportive of you and can understand your perspective and can also, change your perspective.

3.     Don’t Let Yourself Stuck into The Comparison Trap: If you are one of those people that compare yourself with other people too often, then it can lead to self-doubt. Don’t try to compare your success with others or don’t let others’ social media posts affect your self-worth. Just understand that whatever you are in your life right now, you are a better version of yourself from the past. Hence, if you still want to compare your self-worth, try to compare your present self with your past self. This will help you to calculate how far you have come in your life and what things you have achieved till now. It will also help you to be motivated and have the energy to get going in your life.

Conclusion:

It is very important for an individual to understand the negative effects of self- doubt and how is can ruin the mental health of an individual. The ones who face this problem should strongly adhere to above three points explained briefly and take them into action to become self-confident instead of doubting on your own self. There are several ways through which one can overcome fears and self-doubts. Especially Best Boarding Schools in Delhi NCR looks into the problem deeply and take necessary actions and measures that benefits the child in boosting their confidence.

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[drsohinisastri]

2023 Financial Horoscope Forecasts

Aries: Now is the moment to make up for past behaviours and errors. You are also putting effort into this. The relationships with others will dramatically improve as a result of this kind of work. Avoid wasting your time on unnecessary and ineffective tasks, according to the best astrologer in India. You won't be able to complete your own responsibilities effectively as a result. Don't disregard the household's elders.

 Taurus : Meeting influential individuals will benefit you and earn you respect, Taurus. Your productivity will consequently increase. Avoid opportunistic pals. Their bad advise may divert you from your intended course, which will leave you feeling let down. As a result, you shouldn't establish a friendship with strangers before assessing their personalities. bolster your professional relationships.

 Gemini: Right now, your self-assurance is helping you achieve fresh success. bolster relationships with trustworthy people. The costs will rise as the means of income do. This could lead to a worsening of the economic situation. As a result, creating a budget is required. Moreover, control your ego and fury.

 Cancer: Your diligence and hard effort will also yield the desired outcome. Your courage will increase with a close friend's encouragement. Be cautious today if any political or legal matters are in progress. There can be conflict over a connected issue. Your attendance on the job site will be required. Cooperation and pleasure inside the family will be pervasive.

 Leo: You won't likely make much money, but you'll be able to balance your budget. In the opposite circumstance, strive to find a solution rather than panicking. Your tenacity will enable you to resolve the issue. It's possible that a cooperation with someone is in the works. Both married life and the workplace will remain harmonious.

Virgo: There will also be good things that occur. There will be relief when all obstacles relating to pupils' academics are removed. Avoid the incorrect controversy. A disagreement on an inheritance may cause conflict. Try to overcome your scepticism. You will have total command over all business operations through the eyes of the top astrologer in India.

 Libra: Both the reach of public relations and your popularity will expand. There will also be a meeting with a few politicians. When performing financial-related jobs, extreme caution must be exercised. Do not deal with anyone at all, either. Try not to dodge any job; come up with a new strategy and you'll succeed in business. Family harmony can result from loving interactions.

 Scorpio : Never overcoming old, detrimental things because doing so would lower your spirits. Keep a positive outlook. Concentrate solely on the present moment. There will be an income and expenditure condition at this time. Due to the loss of harmony within the family, there may be conflict. Eating expired food might harm your liver.

 Sagittarius: The atmosphere in the home will be calm and joyful. Utilize this favourable planetary position to the fullest. You'll be respected at home and in society for your scrupulosity and ideals. Practicality is also essential. Being overly idealistic can be detrimental to you. I think my mood is a little off today. The pace of business operations, which has been slow for some months, will speed up today.

 Capricorn: Everything will get done peacefully. Few people who opposed you can now have their guilt proven against them. should refrain from borrowing excessively or spending a lot of money on appearances. Additionally, keep any promises you have made to others.

 Aquarius : The tide will eventually turn in your favour, Aquarius. In-house family issues may cause conflict between close relatives. Current investments should not be made. Money-related negative situations are evident. In the event of any form of confusion regarding commercial activity, consult family members. A happy family environment is possible. Health can be beneficial.

Pisces : Going to a religious location will also bring you mental tranquilly and make you feel rejuvenated, Pisces. Keep away from those who engage in illegal or harmful behaviour,through the eyes of the famous astrologer in India. In society, there may be instances of embarrassment and shame. Transform your thoughts into constructive deeds. Any type of change in the workplace is not advisable at this time.

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[psalmonesermons]

The power of encouragement Part 2

How to be an encourager by Alan Scobie

Encourage One Another. Say Encouraging Words Daily (Encourage Others: Words of Encouragement Change People!)

Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

Encouraging words are effective.

Have you ever known someone who believed in you, someone who frequently spoke words of encouragement and praise? The kind of person who made you feel you could do it, whatever "it" was? That is the kind of person God wants us to be. Paul gave a good guideline when he wrote that everything, we say should build up the one who is listening.

Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen (Ephesians 4:29).

The same phenomenon, multiplied by thousands of cheering fans, becomes the home court advantage in sports contests. The book of Proverbs sums up the impact encouraging words can have when it says, "The tongue has the power of life and death" (Proverbs 18:21). Your words have an impact. May this Bible study encourage you to become an encourager!

The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life (Proverbs 10:11).

Judas and Silas, who themselves were prophets, said much to encourage and strengthen the brothers (Acts 15:32).

We sent Timothy, who is our brother and God's fellow worker in spreading the gospel of Christ, to strengthen and encourage you in your faith (1 Thessalonians 3:2).

Therefore encourage each other with these words (1 Thessalonians 4:18).

Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching (Hebrews 10:25).

Follow God's example. Be an encourager!

You hear, O LORD, the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry (Psalm 10:17).

For everything that was written in the past was written to teach us, so that through endurance and the encouragement of the Scriptures we might have hope (Romans 15:4).

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you a spirit of unity among yourselves as you follow Christ Jesus (Romans 15:5).

Think positively. Look for things to encourage.

Do you bring sunshine or gloom into the room? If you are a negative person, do not say, "I'm just a worrier. I was born that way." Or "It’s my nature to be depressed." God is in the personality-changing business. He wants you to "be conformed to the likeness of his Son" (Romans 8:29). You can change. You can become known for your encouraging words.

Life is full of problems, and we need to deal with them. But if we are not careful, all we see are the problems. There are lots of good things we can focus on. Instead of "catching people being bad," catch them being good. Make your words a fountain of life. Be a positive person. Encourage one another.

Ask God to help you develop a positive thought life. Immerse yourself in his Word. Pray. Over time, you will discover that you can control the way you think, choosing to focus on some thoughts and to reject others. The following verse can be life changing. Write it out and post it where you will see it regularly, on your refrigerator, bathroom mirror or the dashboard of your car.

Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if any-thing is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things (Philippians 4:8).

When you wake up in the morning, ask God to help you look for and focus on the positive. Pray for this attitude throughout the day. Choose to meditate on the positive. Bring sunshine into the world.

Speak positively. Be an encourager. Encourage others daily.

When you talk, you make a series of choices about what subjects to discuss, what memories to bring up, and what points to make. There always are negative things you could say, but there also are positive ones. Choose the positive. Choose to specialize in encouraging words, not in critical comments. As Paul wrote, "Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification" (Romans 14:19).

Bring friendly speech into your relationships.

Do not start complaining as soon as you see your spouse, child, employee, neighbour, or someone else. Ask about his or her day. Give a compliment. Share stories about your day, insights from Bible study, victories on the job, or other things they may be interested in.

Voice words of encouragement, appreciation, support, and respect.

Acknowledge others' abilities and efforts. If someone feels inadequate, encourage him or her.

Monitor your positive and negative remarks.

Learn to be self-aware and listen to what you say. Be sure you make many more positive comments than negative ones.

Respond to problems with hope and encouragement.

When someone talks about personal difficulties, do not respond with a "gloom and doom" attitude. Listen with compassion and avoid simplistic advice. Say something such as, "I know this is a tough time for you, but it won't last. Let me encourage you: God will see you through, and I'm here to help, too."

[God] comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God (2 Corinthians 1:4).

And we urge you, brothers, warn those who are idle, encourage the timid, help the weak, be patient with everyone (1 Thessalonians 5:14).

Avoid subtle criticisms.

Watch out for subtle ways you may tear others down, such as pointing out how quickly you can mow the lawn when you know it takes them twice as long.

Discuss problems as a friend.

There are times in every relationship—in a family, on the job, or wherever—when people discuss difficult topics. When you do, speak in a courteous, friendly manner. The way you speak usually is more important than whether your opinions are right or wrong.

You may wish to consider adopting one or both of the personal applications below.

Personal application 1: Plan to say encouraging words.

(1) List the key people in your life.

(2) Beside each name, write how encouraging you are with that person.

(3) Pray for God to help you recognize the power of encouragement and to encourage one another—to say encouraging words, not discouraging words.

Personal application 2: Follow through and encourage others daily.

Make it a habit to encourage those around you. Consider keeping track of how you are doing on a day-by-day basis. For example, you could:

(1) Make a brief note on a calendar each day you encourage someone.

(2) Keep an encouragement journal or diary.

Amen

Personal Prayer

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[manifestingsage]

In a world full of technology and social media, finding and using our voices can feel overwhelming. We all know that social media allows us to share our thoughts, ideas and opinions, however, do we use this same freedom in person? Sometimes speaking our truth face to face can feel intimidating. How do we allow ourselves to find our voice without feeling the need to type it up and rewrite it until it sounds perfect?It took me years to find my voice and speak my truth to the people around me. I'm sure we all know that feeling of living in a family that has very opinionated or sarcastic responses. One day, I realized that what makes me unique is speaking my truth. I was tired of trying to please others and not sharing my thoughts or point of view on a matter. I was tired of just letting toxic people tell me how I should or shouldn't think.If this sounds familiar, you've come to the write place. Learning to find and use your voice is the most empowering experience you will have in life. It not only allows you to share your truth, but you also learn so much more about yourself. Here are 4 simple techniques to finding and using your voice:Create stillness in a world of chaosTake time to meditate every day. Train your mind to focus only on your breath. Pay attention to what kind of thoughts pop into your head - are they positive, negative, or anxiety driven? Acknowledge your thoughts and bring your attention back to the present moment.During your meditation, visualize a sacred or quiet place in your mind. A place that brings stillness, calmness, and happiness. For me, this is a vibrant garden filled with beautiful flowers and a small seating area for me to 'sit'. There are white and yellow butterflies fluttering around, bees buzzing in the air, hummingbirds going from flower to flower, and birds chirping. This is my happy place; a place where nothing can be touched and nothing can go wrong. A place just for me.What's your happy place?Wherever your place is, you can learn a lot about yourself and where you find most enjoyment.Have daily check-in's with yourselfIt's important to check in with yourself a few times a day. This can help bring you back to the present moment if you find yourself getting worked up about a situation that's out of your control, something that happened in the past, or worrying about the future.I have a pop up on my phone every two hours from 6:00am-8:00pm every day. This reminds me to check in with myself and how I'm feeling. It's a great reminder that a majority of the anxious, sad, or angry emotions I experience is just a feeling and will pass. I acknowledge those emotions and then move on with my day as best I can.Whether you write a sticky note on your mirror, have reminders on your phone, or carry a journal with you - find an effective way that can help you stay grounded and bring you back to your true self.Visualize what you want in lifeA great exercise for finding your voice and speaking your truth is to visualize what kind of life you want. Do you enjoy a fast paced lifestyle, constantly on the go? Or maybe you prefer living in a quiet environment in the countryside. Do you have goals of becoming the next famous singer or actress? Or maybe running your own business one day?Whatever life you envision, this is all yours. Make sure to actively visualize the life you want everyday. Create a vision board, meditate on it, draw images.Try your best to listen to the universe and understand what it needs from you in order to bring your vision to fruition. Practice using your voiceOnce you find and understand your goals in life, you can start practicing and using your voice. Speak your vision and share it with the world.Start a blog, write a book, share your thoughts on social media, find the courage to speak up to your family members or friends who always think they know what's best.Take action towards your vision and what you believe in. Volunteer, sign a petition, donate to different charities each moth, go out and protest - find ways to use your voice like you never have before.

Journal about what you believe in and why you believe in it. Feel free to use some of the journal prompts I have listed in my recent blog post: 20 Powerful Journal Prompts For Self Discovery.There are plenty of ways to discover more about yourself and what you believe in. Using these techniques is what can help you discover what makes you stand out from the crowd. It's important to be confident in yourself, your thoughts and feelings. This is what makes us all unique in our own way."Communicate. Even when it's uncomfortable or uneasy. One of the best ways to heal is simply getting everything out." - Anonymous. Click here to read this complete article. Disclaimer : This article is originally published in thehippielifeofriley.com. All the rights of content are owned by thehippielifeofriley.com. We have published a part of the article with due credits and link to the original author and source.

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Touch at Midnight || Vampire!Brahms x Reader

A/N: This took so long, I am sure half of you forgot about this mini series I did. I’m sorry this took forever, I was just trying to make it perfect as well as work on requests too. I hope you all enjoy!

Warnings: NSFW, R18+, breast worship, blood kink, biting, oral (m receiving), dom!brahms, rough sex, no prep, reader is under mind control so consensual/non-consensual, mentions of masturbation, plenty foul/dirty talk, creampie

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There was a time in your life that you thought you’d live past eighty and get to watch your children, grand-children and even great-grand-children, grow up. There was a time that you believed in the world being a decent place and that you would make your mark on it one day. Now, you realized just how delusional it all sounded. Now, you knelt before a man you thought you knew, thought you would grow old with, thought you would love forever, your life dangling before you with nothing to spare. 

When you had met Brahms, you never thought anything of him; just that he was a strange man who liked to keep to himself. You’d applied for a job to work under him; to cook, clean and care for him, as though he couldn’t do it himself. During the first few months of your duties, things were tense with you being new and Brahms really trying to understand what kind of woman you were. However, as the months went on into years, you slowly became drawn to the man, often times thinking of him from dusk until dawn. 

Your mistake really.

See, you had no clue that he was a monster; something only silly children believed in. He was soft and gentle before you’d found out- another mistake on your part. Now he stared down at you with dark eyes that were once directed towards you with such kindness and joy that you almost fell for it; you did fall for it the more you realize. You fell for a man with no remorse for taking a human life, a man that could kill you with just one movement, a man that you didn’t know. Those thoughts alone nearly killed you. 

You’d been sitting on the floor in front of his chair he had in the corner of the library, the moon peeking through the window curtains and casting a small amount of light towards his feet. His eyes were the only thing you could see on his face here in the dark; red with an anger so hot you had to pray he’d have mercy on you. You don’t know how long you’d been like this, unable to move as he stared down at you without moving an inch. The hair on your skin rose when he finally spoke, slow but sharp, “You had to be nosey, didn’t you?” Your lips trembled as you contemplated speaking. “I truly had no intention of ever hurting you; you did your work around the house wonderfully. Dare I say that you were the best at it?”

Your heart hammered in your chest at the confirmation of other caretakers before you, all of which were most likely dead. They probably got too comfortable too and went looking around in places that were off limits for a reason. Like his bedroom; where you remember finding a trunk full of blood bags from the hospital down the road. “Please,” you whimpered, watching him blink before shaking his head, silencing you. 

“I’ve spent years in that pretty little head of yours, listening to everything. I know all of your secrets, (Y/N).” You sucked in a breath as he leaned forward in his chair, hovering over your face with a look that only made you want to cower even more. “I’m honored to know how fond you were of me, truthfully I am. I’d grown fond of you as well, but,” he clicked his tongue, reaching out and grabbing your jaw roughly, ignoring your whimpers of pain. “You know too much.”

“Please, I won’t tell anyone I swear! Just let me go and I’ll leave tow-” you were cut off by a sharp laugh; Brahms’ eyes wild and manic. 

“Leave? No, no, no, you’re never leaving me.” His eyes were intense, red as the flames of hell and staring into your own without so much as blinking. “Here are your options; be my personal blood bank until you die, which is usually a couple of weeks, or, prove to me that you’re worth keeping alive. Of course, both require you to stay here with me,” Brahms touched your cheek gently with his other hand, moving some hair from your eyes. 

“You know I care about you, don’t you (Y/N)? Don’t you want to stay with me?” His words had an effect on your mind that made it hard to think. The world seemed to slow, as if you’d been drugged, but you knew that it was just the power he had, manipulating your mind to believe that whatever he said was true. You could feel tears fall from your eyes as you stared into his condemning ones, a soft hush falling from his lips as he wiped the tears away. 

It was wrong for you to say yes, you knew it even though you couldn’t stop it. Yet, some dark part inside of you almost wished he would keep you this way; brain being manipulated by whatever he wanted for the rest of your days. At least that way, you could imagine everything being right; you could day dream on the thoughts he forced inside your head. One’s where you end up with him, one’s where your happy.

One’s where he loved you just as much as you loved him.

This isn’t love, you thought as you made yourself sit up enough to press your lips against his. 

This isn’t what I wanted, you told yourself when he spread his legs in the chair and you unzipped his pants. 

This wasn’t how I was supposed to live, you cried as his fingers moved through your hair, guiding your mouth up and down his cock.

All you could do was prove to him that your life meant more than just being used as food. The buck of his hips every time you swirled your tongue around the tip of his cock made your eyes sting, the length making it hard to take all of it in your mouth. “You look so pretty like this,” Brahms gasped as he felt you take more of his member in your mouth, his eyes scanning your face and his mind going a mile a minute. He knew everything you were thinking as he pushed more ideas into your head, his control on you something he wished he’d never have to do. 

A lulling tug of tiredness waved in the back of his head, knowing that he hadn’t gotten to eat tonight because of the unfortunate incident of you finding his real food supply in his room. Of course, fresh blood always tasted so much better than the crap he had in bags. Brahms felt himself grow bored of watching you try to make him come, you jaw surely was hurting by now. Roughly grabbing your hair, he pulled you off his cock before standing up and pulling you up with him. You barely could get a word out as he turned you facing the front of the shiny, black piano, bending you down to where your front half was pressed against the cool surface. 

He wasted no time in ripping your clothes off of you, throwing them around the room and spreading your legs for his wandering eyes to see. A low growl made your cunt clench as he watched your juices build at your entrance where he drug the tip of his cock across. Brahms gave you no warning before sinking inside you to the base, the air practically taken from your lungs as he began moving immediately, your tight walls getting him off perfectly. “Do you know how many nights I wanted to do this?” He asked as he thrusted his hips roughly, the tip of his cock ramming against your cervix with no signs of easing up. “I’ve watched you, my innocent, precious (Y/N). Your fingers stuffing this filthy whole of yours as you squirm in bed, trying to cum.”

You can feel your walls tighten around his length at his words, your hands trying to grip the flat surface of the piano from the force he was jostling you around with. Your breasts bounced wildly, his hands coming up from your hips to find purchase there. His fingers pinched your nipples, twisting them and pulling until you were soaking his cock in your juices. “Did you know I was watching you touch yourself? I bet you did; you liked it didn’t you? Having someone else watch you fuck yourself until your tired...hmm?” 

“N-No,” you groan, trying to reason with yourself, but the impending orgasm you felt building making it all the harder to. Quickly, Brahms moved you to where you were facing him, your back fully pressed against the piano as he fucked into you at an in-human pace. You couldn’t help the sounds that were coming out of your mouth, urging him to continue. 

“I know what’s in your mind, my love. I’ve seen you think of me while you squirt all over the sheets,” you tremble at his words as his thumb barely grazes your clit. His mouth moving to your breasts, taking one nipple into his mouth and nibbling on it before teasing it with his tongue. With one sharp sting, he sinks his teeth into your breast, a short cry coming from your lips as he eases his hip movements while lapping at the blood pooling from the wounds. “If only you could see in my mind too. Then you could see just how man nights I’ve fucked my fist to the thoughts of this.” He chuckled to himself, licking his lips that were stained crimson. Pulling his head back, he stared down at you with something you didn’t recognize. 

The feeling was good though. Something positive out of the emotional negative you’d been put through. Brahms nearly stilled when you reached up and touched his face, his eyes watching yours for any signs of you trying to get away; all he found was sincerity. Running your fingers through his curly hair, you pressed his head down to yours where he kissed you without another word. From there, the sex was as beautiful as the day you first met him. Then, there had been sun, now there was the moon shining down on both of you. When he had first shaken your hand is was cold but now as he held yours, pinned above your head, it was all warm. 

His teeth managed to find your neck, biting there and feeding a couple of times but other than there, his lips never left yours which were swollen from the heatedness of the kiss. You moaned into his mouth when his fingers circled your clit, your thighs shaking from the intensity of the orgasm that proceeded to wash through you. Brahms made sure to hold you close, swallowing your gasps and cries of pleasure as he eased you through your orgasm. His cock twitched inside you a few more times before he finally came, deep inside you with no regrets. Everything was quiet for a minute, your lips molding against his and the soft pants leaving them was the only sound left. 

When he finally pulled away, you could see the glowing red of his eyes fade, returning to their normal hazel color and looking down at you with the kindness you had once known. His hands moved the hair out of your face and wiped away any tears that still fell, his fingers gentle against your skin. This may have been a different man to you now, but he was still the Brahms you’d fallen in love with years ago. 

That was enough to make you stay.

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