#thin skin

[ropesbypatricia]

Rope Techniques: How I accommodate crepe/thin skin when I tie

I thought I'd drop some techniques I like to use when I'm self-tying or tying another human with thin/crepe skin

What is crepe skin?

"Crepey skin is thin and looks finely wrinkled like crepe paper. It may also sag or feel loose. While crepey skin is similar to common wrinkles in many ways, the condition tends to impact larger areas, and this skin feels noticeably more fragile and thin..."

What causes crepe skin?

Lots of things included but not limited to: sun damage, aging, rapid weight loss or gain, certain genetic disorders, smoking, alcohol use, and dehydration

How is crepe skin different than non-crepe skin?

It is thinner, less elastic, and more prone to bruise, rip, and damage when under stress, pressure, injury

How do I as a rope top account for my own or another's crepe skin in rope bondage?

I recommend wearing comfortable, form-fitting clothes over the areas of the body I might be tying that have creping. I almost always wear leggings and a camisole or bodysuit when I'm tying myself for practice and development - tying directly over slack skin, especially as a beginner, can be a very tricky and painful experience - I recommend practicing over clothing and then moving to implement your practice onto your exposed flesh if you choose

Speaking on tender flesh: Running your fingers underneath a rope line which is wrapping crepe skin can be a pretty miserable and pinchy affair as the flesh has a tendency to stay with your finger as you move to clear the lines, and can easily find itself pinched between the ropes and your finger 🥲

Instead of running my finger under my rope, I gently pull the skin away from any areas where it has become nipped or grabbed up in the rope - a similar technique is useful when working with adipose tissue

Stay well-hydrated if possible - keep your skin clean, exfoliated and moisturized. I find happy skin plays best with rope, and my skin is happiest these days when I'm hydrated, dry-rubbed, and well-oiled 😌

I understand that the risk for side effects like bruising, rope marks, rope burns, etc.. is higher in crepe regions than in skin that is more elastic and collagen-rich. I can use what I find to be best practices to minimize risks, but I acknowledge that the base line for the skin's vulnerability to dermal injury is higher to begin with

If you have any questions you think I can answer or any tips for working with thin skin and rope you'd like to share, please lmk!

Happy roping to you all ❤️➰❤️

#rope is ageless #rope is shapeless #rope accommodates #shibari #thin skin #crepe skin #all bodies are rope bodies #rope techniques #self tie

[mysandwichgiver]

The CEO of Spoutible, Christopher Bouzy, is now telling folks that "'spouting" criticism of his policies is "not cool." And if you tell him that's not a cool thing for a CEO to spout, he deletes the reply, and then if you "spout" about the deleted reply, he "beaches" (suspends) your account.

Well now I can spend more time on my new Tumblr account that my daughter made for me so I would stop ranting about the hypocrisy on Spoutible, lol.

#spoutible #Hypocrisy #thin skin

[soulinkpoetry]

Maybe then it wouldn’t hurt as much.

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#words hurt #too sensitive #thin skin #soulinkpoetry #poetry #thoughts #she writes #feelings #poets on tumblr

[judgingbooksbycovers]

Thin Skin: Essays

By Jenn Shapland.

Design by Tom Etherington.

#Thin Skin #Jenn Shapland #Tom Etherington #books #book covers

[whilereadingandwalking]

Thin Skin: Essays by Jenn Shapland is an excellent collection about what it means to be sensitive, to be "thin-skinned," to open your eyes to the reality of just how permeable everything truly is. From the chemicals that seep into our bodies due to negligence to the false boundaries of white suburbia ad its "safety" to the struggle of trying to get work done, especially creative work, when the world is barraging us on all sides, Shapland digs into the places where boundaries dissolve and ask what is wrong with her that she has to expose uncomfortable truths, call things out, that she can't shake off things, has to spread it, has to deal with the pain of knowing.

Shapland's essays turn in on themselves, shift and curve. She takes us on what seems like a digression but that turns into the same question, the same fear. The strongest essay by far is "Thin Skin" itself and its argument that being "tough" is being obtuse, that we have to stop pretending, that we have to look the truth in the eye despite the fears it will cause. "Strangers on a Train" and "The Toomuchness" both unpack false senses of safety, of impregnability, of what we should be sacred of, of what we can survive.

The final two essays were slightly less strong. "Crystal Vortex" was a good but scattered discussion of being creative in a world so rooted in productivity and final products. "The Meaning of Life" unpacks how women are told the true purpose of life is motherhood, and how little she wants to have children. I thought this was the shallowest essay, not because it didn't get there in the end, but because I think much of the analysis was things I've heard before disguised as new analysis (ex. "It doesn't get a lot of airtime, but the witch hunts were one of the foundational events in the construction of the society in which we live"—it gets a lot of airtime, particularly on feminist signs and t-shirts).

Overall, I recommend this beautiful essay collection. Even the essays that weren't as good were still thought-provoking, interesting, and compelling. I'll return to these essays again.

Content warnings for death/grief, institutionalized racism/classism, rape culture, suicide.

#thin skin #jenn shapland #essay collection #book review #nonfiction books #creative nonfiction #my book reviews

[pinkiewitchcraft]

It is okay to have “thin” skin.

It is okay to be sensitive, fragile, easily hurt, to cry over small things, to feel deeply emotional.

You are not obligated to “become thick skinned”, aka stuff your feelings down and pretend you have none. Not only is that unhealthy but that’s not safe nor is it good. It is dangerous and will lead to depression.

And as someone with plenty of experience in shutting myself down, it is not good.

Trying to develop thick skin, which is a completely unattainable thing because humans are meant to feel and meant to have emotions, will only lead to your downfall. It will lead to bottling yourself up until you start bubbling under the surface of the cap, and eventually burst or lash out at the most random times because it’s all too much to handle. That is not a good thing to aspire to.

Acknowledge your feelings, acknowledge that you are soft and sensitive and that you were meant to be, because if you weren’t meant to be that way, you wouldn’t be that way.

So many people glorify being thick skinned, being “unfeeling”, being distant, cold, but that is a facade. A mask they put on to appear superior knowing damn well they themselves are hiding scars which turned into the thick skin they praise so much. Trauma. They’re too scared to acknowledge that they were traumatized, and as a result hide themselves, and think that somehow makes them strong when it doesn’t. At all. It simply makes you depressed. Feeling empty isn’t at all the same as being strong or brave.

Bravery and strength is being who you are and admitting who you are despite what everyone else says. It is unapologetically owning who you are and being proud of that. That is being brave and strong. Hiding who you are for the approval of others, or to seem superior, is not.

And if you have the nerve to shame others for not stuffing their feelings down like you do, for not hiding their feelings and pretending they don’t exist, you are pathetic.

#soft heart #sensitive #sensitivity #thin skinned #thin skin #trauma #trauma mention

[denimbex1986]

'In Christopher Nolan’s “Oppenheimer,” the military asks the architect of the Manhattan Project what he’ll do with Los Alamos now that the bombs have been dropped. “Give the land back to the Indians,” he says. The brass scoffs. The work at Los Alamos will only intensify. There’s no returning the poisoned land.

Jenn Shapland’s new collection of essays, “Thin Skin,” circles the metaphor of being “thin-skinned,” which she defines as meaning to “feel keenly, to perceive things that might go unseen, unnoticed, that others might prefer not to notice.” Her previous book, “My Autobiography of Carson McCullers,” was a case in point: a brilliant dual biography focused on McCullers’ true sexuality and Shapland’s coming into her own identity as a lesbian.

In the opening essay that gives this follow-up its title, Shapland turns to what she notices in New Mexico. The Manhattan Project not only gave the world nuclear war, it pushed Indigenous and Latino people out of their homes and ruined the land and water. Of nearby Santa Fe, where Shapland lives, she writes, “What capitalism offers us: a stage set on which to live our lives without knowing whom we crush. In some ways it is the ultimate colonial insult, to adopt a bastardized version of an ancient cultural lifeway as an aesthetic to draw more white people. The city itself is a lifestyle brand.”

In “Oppenheimer,” a three-hour film, the “Indians” are mentioned twice in passing. The ravages of toxic waste and the horrific aftermath of atomic war are never seen. Shapland’s book is the film “Oppenheimer” should have been, one that reflects on the Manhattan Project’s lasting impact on the world community. With a writing style that recalls the work of Eula Biss and a goal in solidarity with “Who is Wellness For?” by Fariha Róisín, Shapland opens “Thin Skin” with devastating statistics tying nuclear waste to cancer rates before turning to people, speaking with tribal leaders and even with her own parents...

“Thin Skin” asks readers to consider themselves and the world they occupy — not the future, but the present. The choices we make for this world are for ourselves. “We can leave other things behind besides children,” Shapland writes. “Other forms of longevity exist, even if they are unquantifiable.”

At one point in “The Meaning of Life,” Shapland runs into a group of women in their 60s and 70s traveling and having a ball. “When they do not have children, or the burden of someday having them, or the need to prepare their lives to have them, they are at least free to be children themselves.” The alt-right, in response to “Black Lives Matter,” says “All Lives Matter.” “Thin Skin” motivates us to act like we believe it.'

#Jenn Shapland #The Manhattan Project #Oppenheimer #Christopher Nolan #Thin Skin

[nando161mando]

The definition of 'thin skinned':

Conservative Christians enraged at Macy's Thanksgiving Parade for being a trans "extravaganza" - LGBTQ Nation

#conservatives #christianity #christians #christofascists #lgbtqia #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqia+ solidarity #transgender #trans solidarity #trans #thin skin #religion #dogma #bible nonsense #god #jesus #jesus christ #bigots #liberal hypocrisy #republican hypocrisy #hypocrite #gop hypocrisy #right wing extremism #right wing terrorism #right wing politics #right wing women #right wing bullshit #far right #neofascism #class war

[i-noctiflora]

Mudd the 1st ( Elon Musk aka Apartheid Clyde) suspended Daniel Radcliffe's twitter for clear parody...

#musk #elon musk #twitter #daniel radcliffe #twitter crash #thin skin #trans

[femmee-enfant]

#not mine #thin skin #leave her wild #sharyn marsh #poem #poetry #spilled ink

[authorstalker]

My December, January, & February Reads

Will I ever have time to read again????? Here's a pathetic roundup of the past three months.

Thin Skin, Jenn Shapland - One of the most beautiful book covers I've ever seen. The essay topics are a real bummer—radioactive waste, consumerism, the struggle to find meaning—and as someone who loves contemplating life's horrors, I had a great time reading this collection.

Jonathan Abernathy You Are Kind, Molly McGhee - This would kill as a TV adaptation. Apple, since it seems like we're never getting Severance season two, here ya go!

Winter Storms, Elin Hilderbrand - I have no critiques; a perfectly pleasant, festive read.

Big Swiss, Jen Beagin - An incredibly fun time, pulled me right out of a reading slump. It's hilarious and I haven't read anything like it—thank you, Jen Beagin!

#books #monthly reads #jen beagin #big swiss #upstate #women writers #elin hilderbrand #winter storms #molly mcghee #jonathan abernathy you are kind #jenn shapland #essays #thin skin

[kammartinez]

#writing #jenn shapland #thin skin #books

[whats-in-a-sentence]

If you think of the Earth as our mother, then the topsoil isn't anywhere near as thick as her skin. It's thinner than the first layer of her epidermis. If Mother Earth was a person, the topsoil would be thinner than a single cell on the outside of her body.

"Soil: The incredible story of what keeps the earth, and us, healthy" - Matthew Evans

#book quotes #soil #matthew evans #nonfiction #earth #planet earth #mother earth #topsoil #thin skin #epidermis

[soulinkpoetry]

Don’t let the criticism of people who don’t matter get to you. Grow a thicker skin, where harsh words don’t penetrate it.

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#thin skin #sensitive soul #harsh words #soulinkpoetry #poetry #she writes #tumblr poets #thoughts #feelings #that’s life

[carry-on-my-wayward-butt]

imagine getting twenty four hours of a fraction of a taste of what marginalized bloggers on this fucking site have been told "doesn't break TOS" for the past 15 years and deciding to openly threaten to just nuke the entire website lmfao

#op #you know what makes people hesitant to fork money over to tumblr? #the fact that the leadership is so incredibly out of touch with the reality of this place #that his paper thin skin chafes at the mere thought of transparency and accountability. #you're a grown man worth hundreds of millions of dollars #stop pissing and shitting in your diaper about your feelings being hurt and do your fucking job

[kamreadsandrecs]

#writing #jenn shapland #thin skin #books