#tme lesbians

[txttletale]

what's the deal with stone butch blues?

nothing inparticular it's just a semiautobiographical novel and i think it's very funny how it often gets put on reading lists alognside like big volumes of Academic Queer Theory. and us Girls need to start doing that with seirous weakness because it wqould be funny

#ask #a slightly more serious answer is that the reason this happens with SBB #is because a lot of queer people (esp. tme lesbians bc. yknow. its about and by one) find it speaks meaningfully to their experiences #and yknow. i know a lot of transfems who feel that way about serious weakness. although it is MUCH funnier thing #to tell people to read as if it were theory. like im having a little funny jokes time here

[cruelsister-moved2]

feels like a lot of you didn’t see the study which found that lesbians are the most likely of the whole LGBT+ community to support trans people because i still keep seeing takes like “not ALL lesbians are terfs, just because a lot are 🥰” or “most lesbians aren’t terfs, but most terfs are lesbians, so it’s fine to hold lesbians to extra scrutiny 😍” or casual, unsupported claims that “transphobia is a big[ger] issue in the lesbian community” by people who actually think they’re doing lesbian positivity and it’s INSANE because you’re wrong! and this leads to a significant proportion of lesbians actually delaying coming out because they’re afraid of being assumed to be transphobes, meanwhile transphobia among bi people and gay men (and transmisogyny among tme trans people) often goes completely unchecked. 

#i think everyone owes trans lesbians a big fucking apology today and every day!! #like every day i lose my mind that we live on a planet where tme people will accuse trans lesbians of being [transmisogynists] just for #being lesbians like actually kill yourself #anyway saying those kinds of things is literally just as lesbophobic as the ppl who say lesbian flag is a terf dogwhistle or w/e

[punkeropercyjackson]

Gentlemen perfer blondes but blondes perfer the ladies

#this is a joke on how often blonde girl characters are lesbian-coded + i love how the person who made this phrase was an ace woman😭😭😭 #lesbiansafe #butch #femme #lesbian headcanons #lesbian positivity #annabeth chase #cassie sandsmark #cissie king-jones #gwen stacy #maya hart #sam puckett #ino yamanaka #yang xiao long #chloe bourgeois #samus aran #riza hawkeye #winry rockbell #edward elric #< since i've seen so many lesbians in the fma fandom both transfem and tme say ed is one!! #lucy heartfilia #clover totally spies #pacifica northwest #karen starr #temari #💌 #comphet #summerposting #kara danvers

[magz]

Same additions on people's posts criticizing transmisogyny and centering transfems.

It can't always be the same 1 Leslie Feinberg book, and maybe 1 Bell Hooks book. When saying people don't read.

No transfeminism or transwomanism book gets this amount of cliché action or attention, even.

#there is no way for 1 novel book by a white TME butch lesbian from very specific LGBT scene can encompass all experience. #nor be such a good introduction to transmisogyny and transfem experience n lgbt feminism that its the only book told as default. #text post #o post #transmisogyny mention

[molsno]

I find it amusing when tme lesbians on here make a big show about how much they love trans lesbians and how interconnected our struggles are because it comes off as the most obvious posturing to me. my experience with the "lesbian community" on tumblr has ranged from conditional and shaky acceptance that ends with a block the minute I step out of line even once to being completely ignored because I can't be someone's butch comptop dommy mommy. they pretend they love trans women so much but when every single one who tries to get involved with the community is treated like she's on thin ice by default it's so clear how performative it all is.

#kvetching #transmisogyny #I wonder why the tme lesbian community and the trans lesbian community are almost completely separate now! who could possibly guess

[butchmartyr]

genuinely though its kind of insane the transmisogyny and fear trans women just have to live with and how much of it is waved away as exaggeration or paranoia. all i can think of is that bit from infect your friends and loved ones, “THE WHOLE WORLD MONITORS AND MOCKS MY EVERY WAKING MOMENT”, literally it is the strongest part of the entire book just because of how well that describes this shit

#while i was in college on the so called lgbt floor i was basted in it #given weird looks going into the gender neutral bathroom and when wearing my fem halloween costume #told directly when they say nonbinary that they didnt intend people like me #and now that im graduated and moved its just different shit #im pressured to out myself by ‘liberal inclusive’ companies and ghosted after interviews #theres small local terf radio broadcast near me #tme nb lesbians joke in front of me about getting in fights with them while they shit-stir at pride and other events #and i have to laugh along when they 'they dont even know im trans too!' as if theyre playing duck duck goose. meanwhile im wanted dead #and its like nobody else can see the pattern. like everybody sees bits of ugly gray and blue but nobody sees the rotting mold as it is #the state of things is miserable! so we cant stop until young trans girls can experience respect before the age of like 17 or later #sasha seethes

[ysolt]

Oh. A terf. Nvm

are you mad at me

#violet talks #im transgender. is this about the tme post or me saying we shouldnt put lesbians or bi women over one another

[cosmicanger]

what white LGBTQIA+ don't want to accept (but definitely understand, this is not a they don’t know issue) is that their whiteness and their queerness are inherently joined together in a way that makes them want to use their queerness to deflect on the fact that they're white and benefit DAILY from global anti-Blackness. this is the whole reason that the term "tenderqueer" exists. white LGBTQIA+ are always determined to make themselves out to be the victims of the "nasty Black LGBTQIA+" making fun of them and making mean jokes about them because they're white, and when they see a Black LGBTQIA+ making jokes about white LGBTQIA+, their first instinct is to tell the Black person to remove the "white" from their tweet, but never to remove the "queer" from their tweet. there's a reason for that. it's called a victim complex, weaponizing your whiteness or in this case, what a lot of people call "white tears," which is basically white people wanting to play victim because a Black person made fun of them or call them out for being anti-Black. white LGBTQIA+ oppress all Black people, regardless of whether you slap the word "queer" on or not. white LGBTQIA+ have erased and ostracized Black LGBTQIA+, and now you all play victim when we joke about you all. you all are not the victims of Black LGBTQIA+ and you all will never BE the victims of Black LGBTQIA+. it's not queer infighting to make fun of people who have perpetuated so much isolating antiblackness towards Black LGBTQIA+. stop trying to play victim, you're not one. All white people are oppressors, all white people are c*ps, all white people are settler colonialists regardless of gender or class.

#black trans women #trans #transgender #enby #tme #tma #lgbtq #lesbian #tenderqueer #asexual #gay #bi #queer #intersex #please share #must read #theory #antiblackness #anti blackness

[meteorherd]

also like idk. i feel like people who use "monosexual," "non-lesbian," etc. don't really understand why "nonblack" is an appropriate term to use but "non-asian," for example, isn't. or at least there's some sort of overlap in people who use those terms when describing lgbt oppression. you have to understand how axes of oppression and hierarchical oppression work...those sorts of terms within the lgbt community don't really work when the oppression is horizontal rather than vertical.

#வார்த்தைகள் #using race as an example because i think it's very apparent how oppression of minorities works hierarchically in it. #oppression DOES work hierarchically in some areas within the lgbt community though.... #tma and tme being good examples of terms that DO make sense to use. #but like. monosexual and non-lesbian etc...they don't follow that same logic.

[0w0tsuki]

It's incredibly funny to me that "transmisandry" or "Transandrophobia" or "transmisiny" guys or whatever they're calling themselves don't even have enough faith in their own terms that they cycle them out the instant it's realized it's the same old shit in new wrapping paper. For "DESPERATELY needing a word that's the transman version of transmisoginy" yall don't seem really dedicated to it.

Also let's not forget the terms they make up to hurl at us like

"Oh my god that trann- I mean trans woman uses TME/TMA and doesn't conform to the high standard of acceptability politics. What a fuckin TER-I mean Beadde-I mean Trans Lesbian Seprati-I mean T"I"RF!!!!(and therefore a TERF)"

Like yall wanna accuse us of infighting and being the enemies of TransUnity when yall are constantly at the scrapboard trying to invent new intracommunity slurs for trans women.

Anyways thank you to trans guys who are actually cool about trans women for not letting your brothers poison you into thinking that your in a subculture war with your sisters. Yall are the reminder that most trans guys are cool about us and these assholes are just a vocal minority.

#transmisoginy #transandrophobia truthers #Transandrophobia isn't real #transmisandry isn't real #infighting #terminology #tme/tma #slurs #beaddel #trans lesbian separatist #'T'I'RF' #also for anyone wondering. no. no trans women identfies with these words they're either made up or drudged up from irrelevancy #the most we have is that some tgirls have entertained the idea of reclaiming beaddel to take power out of 'inclusive' transmisoginists hands #but most of us have decided that would do more harm than good

[cruelsister-moved2]

okay ill let u call me a dyke in one ask since i can tell u want to sososo bad and then we will be even <3! 

#just frantically refreshing my blog for the last hour #baby doll you need help #in the course of making this post i got three more HJELP. #please send one thats like answer the question dyke. for the bit please im giving u a pass okay. #i loooove the way its phrased like my names tme lesbian

[puphoods]

like it used to be everyone liked + used the terms transfem + transmasc because they were used to broadly discuss the issues that trans people who transitioned/were transitioning physically socially or both shared regardless of things like their actual gender + presentation + stuff like they are very useful terms bc it covered a lot of different experiences that otherwise would leave people excluded in these discussions so i dont understand the push to change them so they mean... literally nothing essentially. "transmasc means ur trans + present masculine anyone can be transmasc" so its just masc...

#et cetera #similar gripe with the way people treat the TME/TMA thing but thats a diferent issue #like it was good bc it could cover for example... #AMAB nonbinary people on E trans women who have only transitioned socially transwomen who have undergone #SRS and other gender affirming surgeries but prefer to have a more masc gender presentation someone whos only #transition so far or at all is to present more feminine w no intention of hrt or surgery or social transition etc. #+ transmasc being used the same way #and even sometimes used to talk about butch cis women or nonbinary lesbians who r physically transitioning etc. #though i saw more discussions of transmasc being used in that more liberal way than transfem bc that is closer to my #personal experience etc. etc. etc. like u get what i meannnnnnn

[magz]

While was posting 99% pro-palestine posts last week,

Was witnessing stuff every once while, and also was off tumblr a lot n just letting queue run.

Did see a transfem mutuals post abt bioessentialist transmisogyny breaching containment n getting rbed by ppl that didn't get it.

With Notes like "#so true #misandry" and "#yeah ! no one should say 'hate men'. People blame men for everything" and "#maybe if people listened to lesbians and trans lesbians we wouldn't be in this mess. Read lesbian feminism"* and worse. Like. What.

#*1. 'lesbians and trans lesbians' implies centering tme lesbians as default n center TMEs on transmiso discussions. #2. lesbian feminism is not 'any feminism by lesbians'. it's notoriously the french n u.s. sister ideology to radical feminism from 1970s+ #text post #o post #transmisogyny #sij

[molsno]

one of the reasons I can't really see myself dating a tme lesbian is because so fucking many of them, even if they're trans themselves, think they're incapable of being transmisogynistic. like. there's an inherent power difference between us and sooooooo many tme lesbians want to deny that because they have this gut feeling that they're more oppressed on the basis of being afab and I straight up do not feel safe enough to date someone who thinks that.

and like. that's the thing. a lot of them just never even stop to consider that trans women might feel unsafe around them - they think of it being the other way around. and like, idk, the thought of dating someone who views me as a dangerous man even a little bit, even if they won't admit it and don't think they do, is one of the most terrifying prospects imaginable, because I know that at any time they could turn around and discard me like garbage, tell everyone I know that I'm a dangerous abusive predatory tranny in order to isolate me so that I have no one to turn to.

tme lesbians will read this and think I'm exaggerating, think that kind of thing would only happen if I was actually dangerous and abusive and predatory, completely unaware that I've just described the personal life experience of like 70% of the trans women I know. they don't fucking understand how unbelievably common it is for trans women to be abused, beaten, groomed, and raped by their afab partners, only to have those partners turn around and paint them as the abusers and isolate them. no matter how many times I hear a new variation of this story it never stops making me cry. it makes me want to hold them and give them my unconditional love, tell them they're not dangerous, tell them they deserve gentleness and understanding and safety, make them really believe they deserve someone who will respect their boundaries and desires. if you've ever wondered why trans women mostly only date other trans women, it's because nobody else is doing that for us.

#txt #transmisogyny #I ended up writing way more than I initially intended because I couldn't possibly talk about this without getting emotional #there are good tme lesbians I know quite a few who I do actually feel safe around #but the problem is that it feels like playing russian roulette #except you won't find out if the bullet was live or blank for months or years after pulling the trigger #like. knowing that can you blame those of us who only date other trans women as a result? #my writing

[butchmartyr]

i don’t really hate this post necessarily or anything but it’s really funny to me how people will treat lesbians who will stay/be with trans men like either savior christ figures or evil. like brother… im not saying much, but what i am saying is that there’s a notable amount of bioessentialism in the lesbian community and this is often more of an afab4afab moment for them than anything else like half the time regardless of if you realize it then lol

#i just think it’s really funny. i just think it’s really funny! #maybe just chill out and let’s just take stock of things before we call anyone anything #i will change my mind when I see a tme lesbian stay with her transfem after she becomes bigender or smth #kvetching #genderposting

[cosmicanger]

this

#lgbtq community #lgbtq #lesbian #trans #gay #bi #queer #intersex #asexual #tme #enby #tma #nonbinary #androgynous #androgyny