#when you really think about it

[ash-tree-eyes]

You heard it here first folks; the fifteenth fear is the UK government and they are sending Mr Bonzo after your blood

#when you really think about it #are the extinction and the uk government really all that different? #probably #i’m from africa i don’t know shit about uk politics #the magnus protocol #tmagp

[swiftiethatyouhate]

the fact that karlie walked into this exact kitchen in the morning, probably still in her pajamas, to make tay a cup of coffee is MY coffee

#taylor swift #when you really think about it #swifties #taylorswift #the eras tour #gaylor swift #kaylor #eras tour #lgbetty #gaylor #karlie kloss

[mlm-blues]

well i mean at the end of the day im just a guy arent i

#when you really think about it #saying stuff

[iturbide]

What would baby Grima think of humans that have dragon blood? What would Lucina think of baby Grima? Would the baby be confused about he and his "parents" (older selves) being called the same name?

Let's be real, here: I think Baby!Grima would have more trouble getting used to the fact that other dragons aren't called Grima. They're Grima. Mama's Grima. Papa's Grima. Logically, to the tiny baby brain, that means every dragon mama is also Grima, and every dragon papa is also Grima, right?

No. No, baby. Good try, but no.

So it would take a while, but eventually the baby would get used to the idea that okay, just the black and purple dragons with six wings are Grima (not just the black ones, because one of the big black ones is Dheginsea; and not just the purple ones, because one of the purpley ones is Idunn and Fae laughed when they called her Grima). Eventually Baby!Grima would get a better handle on dragon categories -- which would still have their own confusing points: some little!Tikis are silver and others are gold, and then there are Tikis that are silver but they look different because they're big!Tikis and not little!Tikis; and all of the Tikis (both kinds of silver and gold) are Divine Dragons, but Fae is also a Divine Dragon even though she's all fuzzy and soft because apparently she's a Divine Dragon from a different world.

It's very confusing. But eventually they get used to it.

As for humans with dragon blood...mostly it would be a curiosity. Because dragons smell one way (even if they look human), and humans smell another, but some humans smell kind of like dragons even though they don't usually turn into dragons (there are exceptions, like the Corrins and Ninian). And that's not even getting into how Mama Grima and Papa Grima are both dragons and have dragon shapes, but they usually interact through a shape that looks human and smells kind of like a dragon and is totally separate from the dragon form. Once they get their baby brain around that, everything else would probably feel like a cakewalk.

Lucina...probably wouldn't go out of her way to spend time around baby!Grima. She has understandable trauma associated with the Fell Dragons; that doesn't go away just because baby!Grima is tiny. She wouldn't try to hurt them, though, and she would generally be gentle when they try to interact with her, but she wouldn't be seeking them out, either.

#answered #anonymous #dragon creche #gotta love baby brains learning to categorize #when you really think about it #the dragon situation in askr is absolutely insane #this would make most adults' heads spin

[philcollinsenjoyer]

john kramer and adam i think

#when you really think about it #saw

[cemeteryklaus]

Of course The Umbrella Academy Season 3 would come out during Pride Month lol

#when you really think about it

[maxladcomics]

Those first two anon asks were two different people.... I'm the one who you put the huge answer on! And oh my goooddd Papyrus really IS Gaster... Or a piece of him anyway. I love how much Sans loves his brother and I hope that him being Gaster doesn't change anything between them. Papyrus has always been my favorite character and Gaster has always interested me. I love a mystery. I don't care what the answer is, I just hope we see more or at the very least READ more about the skeletons in Deltarune as well!

Yeah. YEAH.

Papyrus loves his brother so much it's so great. The way he shows interest in his interests, he knows he's lazy and messy but doesn't excuse it and doesn't clean up after him, he sees his faults and pushes him to do better. He's the one that encouraged Sans to get a job in the first place! I wonder if he's trying to encourage him to tell better puns by telling them.. a clever form of critique.

Anyway I think anyone's concern should be whether Papyrus murdered someone or not cuz I'm very sure he did lol.

I'm still not sure how I feel about Deltarune pff, but I'd prefer to focus on Undertale, and there's a lot of hints that Papyrus IS Gaster already in there. Or if he's not, he was definitely heavily involved in whatever Gaster did.

Papyrus is forgettable, no one else is.

#undertale theory #secret theory that Papyrus has done playthroughs #just like flowey #just like us #when you really think about it #he behaves like a player would #he actively interacts with others #he mentions an aspect of games like events with characters

[chronicsyd]

Belos and Horde Prime: Meritocracy vs Fascism: A “Discussion” of sorts...

Something I wanted to discuss for a WHILE now is how some people described Belos’ system as “authoritarian” but its portrayal of that definitely differs from what you’d find from things like Horde Prime from She-ra. When we the viewer and Luz reach the boiling isles, Belos’ system is seen as normalized, that this is how things are usually run within the Boiling Isles with the little to few outcasts like Eda the Owl Lady. Of course this is because Belos has been in power for so long and the people who are born on the Isles now are just born into this society, they don’t know anything different. Compare that to She-ra, when Prime reaches Etheria we see how Different Etheria and by extension Hordak’s Horde is from how Prime operates.

Now one of the ways that Belos is different from Prime is that the Boiling Isles operates moreso on the prospect of Meritocracy: A system stating power should be given to individuals on the basis of merit. And we definitely see this with characters like Amity (or well, specifically season 1 Amity) when she says things like “I have been working my whole life to get to the top”, Lilith who essentially has a breakdown when trying to figure out who she wants to be when redeeming herself and no longer apart of the Emperors Coven, and of course Hunter the Golden Guard. And that things like joining the Emperors Coven (the only Coven where all types of magic were allowed) was only reserved for best of the best. (One of the most historically known of is was back in Ancient China)

Compare that to Prime, who operates on a more Fascist regime: A Government with the basis of a powerful leader and state control and opposition is not allowed. And we truly see this in the way he treats Hordak when they first arrive on Primes ship “I made you in my image, but you have become an abomination.”, All of Primes other clones and his Chipped Followers. (And we all know that the most historically well known instance of Fascism was back in 1940’s Germany)  

(Not to say that other places like the US doesn’t or couldn’t fall into either one of these traps. Meritocracy being outright normalized where the more money, influence, and power you have the more successful you’ll likely be. But also not to say that the US hasn’t fallen into a Fascist trap either; Trump and MAGA as a whole being a good example of this as only two years ago an insurrection happened due to him and others demining democracy and the election results. However, this isn’t what this post is about. I am discussing “family cartoons” after all and that’s where I want to keep my focus at.)

We see throughout season one of The Owl House, we see the consequences of those who try and make their own path breaking out of the mold. Eda the Owl Lady being the paradime of Rebellion against Belos and constantly being persecuted by those around her. With characters like Amity, because she allowed her pursuit for success overtake her personality which definitely lead to her treating others poorly. Amity as a whole throughout season 1 is our gateway into this Meritocratic society, and why her breakdown after “Covention” is so meaningful. Because she tied her success with how the system was enforced; and if there are people who can do magic without following the rules set by this society it means that all the hard work and expectations that she has put on herself to be all for naught. We also see a gateway into the Emperors Coven as a whole through Lilith, who shares many parallels with Amity. See, the Emperors Coven desires loyalty over studiousness and while Eda could really care less about labels and the covens; not being selected for the Emperors Coven would have led to a disastrous blow from Lilith which is why she ends up cursing Eda, because she knew that she wouldn’t be able to beat her. But of course its not all sunshine and rainbows in the Emperors Coven, herself and her loyalty belonged to Belos with him making constant threats with banishing her and making her a covenless witch (with the knowledge of what punishments come with that). And then we get our third gateway with Hunter the Golden Guard. Throughout most of season 2, we see Belos keep hunter in line with both a myriad of threats but also ‘promises’ that “The Titan has Big plans for you” essentially keeping that Meritocracy in place with “do what you’re supposed to and you’ll be rewarded”. In this we see that Hunter is one of the most to have blind loyalty towards Belos as we see with the beginning of ‘Hollow Mind’ where he outright laughs at Luz’s accusation of Belos being evil and having other plans and Hunter also keeping the system afloat by enforcing Belos’ demands. Now of course we learn that in season 2 that Belos is trying to drain magic as whole, essentially killing all witches that have been marked with a coven sigil. Making a deal with The Collector that he’d free him in order to learn about the draining spell.

 Now, take All of that and throw it away for a sec while I go back to Horde Prime. Fascism sees the people within not as free thinking citizens but as tools, pieces of a machine if you will, “every part of the machine is of value.” Prime uses manipulation and indoctrination to ensnare followers and keep people dogmatic so that he continued to succeed in his conquest. And we see with Horde Primes hivemind, his chipped followers, and his clones, especially in the case of Wrong Hordak who is absolutely distraught when he is disconnected from the hivemind. Horde Prime presents himself as this omnipotent God and in the words he uses he doesn’t see himself as a conqueror but as more of a divine savior of sorts. And we see this from quotes like “He will set us all free, forever. A world of peace without end.” (which I Should bring up that that’s a Direct quote from one of the most well known Christian prayers. Sorry, the religious flashbacks are just Rushing back to me) Anyways, Prime Wants those two know that fighting him is a worthless endeavor and we are shown this with the things he says, how he’s designed as a whole, and how he is constantly portrayed from an angle to make the character he’s talking to and the viewer feel small and powerless against him. Prime uses tactics like the room of relics that he brings Glimmer to and the food from the extinct planet that he feeds to Glimmer and Catra to show the “weaker enemies” that couldn’t stand up to him. However one way that Prime is able to get others to bend to his will without needing to chip them is by chipping those that have a greater power than them. We see this with “Erlandia” when he sends the chipped princesses to wreak havoc on the town and being powerless to stop them, the town simply bends down to him out of fear. Another way that Prime represents Fascist ideologies is by creating an “other”, a “scapegoat”, “someone to put blame on” as to why people that are under control are suffering and he does this in the form of She-ra herself. In propaganda he blames She-ra as the reason as to why he must keep decimating Etheria and turn the people of Etheria against her. This is similar to how Hordak framed the Princesses in the beginning of the series, as he was desperately trying to replicate Prime’s empire. But the point is that there must be a scapegoat to put the blame on as to why things are going wrong, and if this other is out of the way then there can finally be peace. One of the main reasons as to why Prime doesn’t succeed is because he doesn’t take the time to learn why he failed in the first place (take Kritis for example) instead of learning what he did wrong he tries to whip away the past; as if it never existed. Which is why Wrong Hordak behaves the way that he does when Kritis is brought up. And in the end resistance from even one individual (Hordak) can upset the fragile hierarchy that Prime has put in place. And why at the end of the day, this leads to Prime’s downfall.

Honestly, I could talk about Prime as a whole for Hours but this is getting long enough now (if you wanted that I’d be more than happy to oblige) but that’s all for now! Thx for reading!  

#SheRa and the Princesses of Power #the owl house #Horde Prime #emperor belos #meritocracy #fascism #how these two operate #the emperors coven #discussion #think piece #lgbt #disney #dreamworks #villians #shitpost #some food for thought #i really wanted to discuss this #they are scary #when you really think about it

[currently-having-a-gay-crisis]

it’s my fave tumblr day!!!

#ides of march #rip caesar #i guess #et tu brute #my fave day on here #the posts are all just so good #julius caesar #the real roman’s revenge lmao #when you really think about it #ancient rome #the ides of march have come #but they have not passed #you know #anyways that’s all

[andro-dino]

now I'm curious about question 5.) and 9.) for Axyl and Essi

5. Do you have any voice claims for your OCs?

This is interesting bc I’ve really wanted to make voice claims for my ocs but usually I imagine their voices way too specifically that preexisting stuff never feels just right.

The only one I have that I think actually kinda fits is one for my guy I just made. I’m gonna make a post abt them on here soon but I think the English dub voice of Pina from Beastars works for him. I think Raine Whispers from the Owl House could also work, but like specifically when they talk a little lower.

And for 9. What is one of your character's theme songs?

Axyl’s would be Hidden in the Sand by Tally Hall, as I’ve mentioned, and Essi’s is Back Up Plan by Rare Americans. Which is funny because it’s a song that was made for a scooby doo movie soundtrack BUT LISTEN IT JUST FITS HER ENERGY. Honestly going through my playlist right now, I think there’s a couple others that could fit them both as well. I’m not gonna make a whole list (at least not right now) but another one for Axyl that stood out to me was As Good as it Gets by Set it Off and for Essi, I dunno if theme song per say, but she would definitely like spy? by whokilledxix

#yk I think back up plan is double funny bc like #when you really think about it #WHY DID THEY GET RARE AMERICANS TO MAKE A SONG FOR THE SCOOB SOUNDTRACK #LIKE I REALLY LIKE RARE AMERICANS BUT HAVE YOU SEEN THEIR OTHER STUFF??? #axel’s silly little thoughts

[terrence-silver]

Terry gets a call that beloved was in a terrible car accident, finds her in a room and begins talking to her- what would Terry be saying to her if he did not know she was about to die? VS what would he be saying to her if he DID know she was going to die?- From the anon now graduated

With either outcome, but especially if his beloved died in a freak accident due to someone's uncontrollable negligence or the negligence of several other drivers all while they're saying their farewells to him over the phone from their literal deathbed to add fuel to the fire, Terry's genuinely going to brutalize, torture and kill someone. I mean it. I refuse to believe he wouldn't do this and ensure it is never discover who did it. It is far less about what he'll say and far more about what he'll do and this goes for whether beloved passes away or not --- if they do die, oh, people should beware. He's out for unholy revenge. I think it takes extremely little for Terry to put someone through unspeakable amounts of pain and relish every second of it, but when he has a life and death incentive? Someone's going to be found floating face down in a local river with the hand that manned their steering wheel attached to their neck, hanging from a rope. Yes, they suffered, but is any amount of suffering enough? Beloved's never coming back, so that corpse would be discovered in an eerily bad shape. Someone was very angry. Terry would take it out the driver, the driver's family, the driver's dog, the car they were driving, the car beloved was in, the chauffeur, the doctors, the nurses, the very hospital, the fucking sidewalk it happened on and the whole city if he could --- and he will. Everyone’s a target. Nobody is safe.

#when you really think about it #really ponder it #terry's revenge at the most extreme must be really scary #terry silver #kk3 #cobra kai #angst #tw; accidents #terry silver x reader #terry silver x beloved

[endusviolence]

Rowling isn't denying holocaust. She just pointed out that burning of transgender health books is a lie as that form of cosmetic surgery didn't exist. But of course you knew that already, didn't you?

I was thinking I'd probably see one of you! You're wrong :) Let's review the history a bit, shall we?

In this case, what we're talking about is the Institut für Sexualwissenschaft, or in English, The Institute of Sexology. This Institute was founded and headed by a gay Jewish sexologist named Magnus Hirschfeld. It was founded in July of 1919 as the first sexology research clinic in the world, and was run as a private, non-profit clinic. Hirschfeld and the researchers who worked there would give out consultations, medical advice, and even treatments for free to their poorer clientele, as well as give thousands of lectures and build a unique library full of books on gender, sexuality, and eroticism. Of course, being a gay man, Hirschfeld focused a lot on the gay community and proving that homosexuality was natural and could not be "cured".

Hirschfeld was unique in his time because he believed that nobody's gender was either one or the other. Rather, he contended that everyone is a mixture of both male and female, with every individual having their own unique mix of traits.

This leads into the Institute's work with transgender patients. Hirschfeld was actually the one to coin the term "transsexual" in 1923, though this word didn't become popular phrasing until 30 years later when Harry Benjamin began expanding his research (I'll just be shortening it to trans for this brief overview.) For the Institute, their revolutionary work with gay men eventually began to attract other members of the LGBTA+, including of course trans people.

Contrary to what Anon says, sex reassignment surgery was first tested in 1912. It'd already being used on humans throughout Europe during the 1920's by the time a doctor at the Institute named Ludwig Levy-Lenz began performing it on patients in 1931. Hirschfeld was at first opposed, but he came around quickly because it lowered the rate of suicide among their trans patients. Not only was reassignment performed at the Institute, but both facial feminization and facial masculization surgery were also done.

The Institute employed some of these patients, gave them therapy to help with other issues, even gave some of the mentioned surgeries for free to this who could not afford it! They spoke out on their behalf to the public, even getting Berlin police to help them create "transvestite passes" to allow people to dress however they wanted without the threat of being arrested. They worked together to fight the law, including trying to strike down Paragraph 175, which made it illegal to be homosexual. The picture below is from their holiday party, Magnus Hirschfeld being the gentleman on the right with the fabulous mustache. Many of the other people in this photo are transgender.

[Image ID: A black and white photo of a group of people. Some are smiling at the camera, others have serious expressions. Either way, they all seem to be happy. On the right side, an older gentleman in glasses- Magnus Hirschfeld- is sitting. He has short hair and a bushy mustache. He is resting one hand on the shoulder of the person in front of him. His other hand is being held by a person to his left. Another person to his right is holding his shoulder.]

There was always push back against the Institute, especially from conservatives who saw all of this as a bad thing. But conservatism can't stop progress without destroying it. They weren't willing to go that far for a good while. It all ended in March of 1933, when a new Chancellor was elected. The Nazis did not like homosexuals for several reasons. Chief among them, we break the boundaries of "normal" society. Shortly after the election, on May 6th, the book burnings began. The Jewish, gay, and obviously liberal Magnus Hirschfeld and his library of boundary-breaking literature was one of the very first targets. Thankfully, Hirschfeld was spared by virtue of being in Paris at the time (he would die in 1935, before the Nazis were able to invade France). His library wasn't so lucky.

This famous picture of the book burnings was taken after the Institute of Sexology had been raided. That's their books. Literature on so much about sexuality, eroticism, and gender, yes including their new work on trans people. This is the trans community's Alexandria. We're incredibly lucky that enough of it survived for Harry Benjamin and everyone who came after him was able to build on the Institute's work.

[Image ID: A black and white photo of the May Nazi book burning of the Institute of Sexology's library. A soldier, back facing the camera, is throwing a stack of books into the fire. In the background of the right side, a crowd is watching.]

As the Holocaust went on, the homosexuals of Germany became a targeted group. This did include transgender people, no matter what you say. To deny this reality is Holocaust denial. JK Rowling and everyone else who tries to pretend like this isn't reality is participating in that evil. You're agreeing with the Nazis.

But of course, you knew that already, didn't you?

Edit: Added image IDs. I apologize to those using screen readers for forgetting them. Please reblog this version instead.

#transgender #trans history #transsexual #transphobia #Magnus Hirschfeld #holocaust #holocaust denial #book burning #j.k. rowling #jk rowling #just in case you missed what i mean by all this: go fuck yourself anon :) #trans people have always existed #and we will always exist #if you really wanna pick a fight with me over well-documented history then you better bring in some sources to back your shit #queer history #queer #lgbt+ #lgbta+ #lgbt #lgbt history #edit: i finally got around to those damn image IDs. i am so very sorry for totally forgetting that's my bimbo moment of the month #also real quick i thought about adding an image of the actual building but the only one i can find has a Nazi parade in front of it #it was taken the day of the book burning raid and honestly if i were to include it then i'd add it to the first few paragraphs #and i think the story's better told when you uphold the hope Magnus Hirschfeld and all the researchers he worked with had #also keeps being brought up: yes Hirschfeld was a eugenicist. it was a popular belief set that was only discredited after WW2 #Hirschfeld died in 1935. he literally didn't live long enough to see science turn against those beliefs and practices #considering how he changed his mind on transitions i like to think he would've changed his mind on eugenics too if he'd lived

[lgbtlunaverse]

Obsessed with characters who portray themselves as worse than they are. Who are lying to everyone including themselves about it. People generally assume if someone's lying about themselves they're trying to look better but sometimes they're trying to look worse. They attribute agency to where they had none, add intend to accidents, try to convince everyone that this is something they did instead of something that happened to them.

#this is about tenko bnha #but it is also about dahlia ace attorney #watch the nezumiVA videos on ace attorney trilogy they're great #anyway dahlia saying she (at like. 6 years old) apparently convinced her father to abandon her sister. hmmm #also everyone including herself thinking of her as the manipulator in control with terry when she was 14 dating a 20 y/o #anyway these characters both did do terrible things but feel the need to pile on more and remove nuance from where it exists #to convince themselves that this is what they really want. that they chose this. #it's about the loss of control it's about being a victim feeling worse than being a villain #at least if you were the bad guy you had autonomy #shimura tenko #shigaraki tomura #dahlia hawthorne

[perfectlyripeclementine]

calling my lover "mine" but not in the way that my toothbrush or notebook are mine, mine in the way my neighborhood is mine, and also everybody else's, "mine" like mine to tend to, mine to care for, mine to love. "mine" not like possession but devotion.

#nonbinary love #nblnb yearning #nb4nb #nblnb #wholesomeposting #yearning hours #ive been thinking about how some languages dont have a possessive tense #so you dont say “i have a thing” but rather “a thing is by me” #and like im not usually one for psycho linguistics and like critical thoughts etc etc etc #but i really like the framework of responsibility/commitment rather than ownership #i think about this mostly in terms of ecology #and relation to land #but i also love it as it applies to language shared between lovers #like i LOVE calling them mine or for them to call me theirs #but i'm also nonmonog and that was kinda weird to square for a while #and it clicked one time when i was talking about my neighborhood and i was like well #when i say my neighborhood or my city it's understood i'm not taking it away from anybody else #its understood i just mean the city where i live #so why cant we apply the same to lovers? #mine in the way i want to show up for you again and again #ok #done now

[inkskinned]

the thing is that they're so fascinated by sex, they love sex, they can't imagine a world without sex - they need sex to sell things, they need sex to be part of their personality, they need sex to prove their power - but they hate sex. they are disgusted by it.

sex is the only thing that holds their attention, and it is also the thing that can never be discussed directly.

you can't tell a child the normal names for parts of their body, that's sexual in nature, because the body isn't a body, it's a vessel of sex. it doesn't matter that it's been proven in studies (over and over) that kids need to know the names of their genitals; that they internalize sexual shame at a very young age and know it's 'dirty' to have a body; that it overwhelmingly protects children for them to have the correct words to communicate with. what matters is that they're sexual organs. what matters is that it freaks them out to think about kids having body parts - which only exist in the context of sex.

it's gross to talk about a period or how to check for cancer in a testicle or breast. that is nasty, illicit. there will be no pain meds for harsh medical procedures, just because they feature a cervix.

but they will put out an ad of you scantily-clad. you will sell their cars for them, because you have abs, a body. you will drip sex. you will ooze it, like a goo. like you were put on this planet to secrete wealth into their open palms.

they will hit you with that same palm. it will be disgusting that you like leather or leashes, but they will put their movie characters in leather and latex. it will be wrong of you to want sexual freedom, but they will mark their success in the number of people they bed.

they will crow that it's inappropriate for children so there will be no lessons on how to properly apply a condom, even to teens. it's teaching them the wrong things. no lessons on the diversity of sexual organ growth, none on how to obtain consent properly, none on how to recognize when you feel unsafe in your body. if you are a teenager, you have probably already been sexualized at some point in your life. you will have seen someone also-your-age who is splashed across a tv screen or a magazine or married to someone three times your age. you will watch people pull their hair into pigtails so they look like you. so that they can be sexy because of youth. one of the most common pornography searches involves newly-18 young women. girls. the words "barely legal," a hiss of glass sand over your skin.

barely legal. there are bills in place that will not allow people to feel safe in their own bodies. there are people working so hard to punish any person for having sex in a way that isn't god-fearing and submissive. heteronormative. the sex has to be at their feet, on your knees, your eyes wet. when was the first time you saw another person crying in pornography and thought - okay but for real. she looks super unhappy. later, when you are unhappy, you will close your eyes and ignore the feeling and act the role you have been taught to keep playing. they will punish the sex workers, remove the places they can practice their trade safely. they will then make casual jokes about how they sexually harass their nanny.

and they love sex but they hate that you're having sex. you need to have their ornamental, perfunctory, dispassionate sex. so you can't kiss your girlfriend in the bible belt because it is gross to have sex with someone of the same gender. so you can't get your tubes tied in new england because you might change your mind. so you can't admit you were sexually assaulted because real men don't get hurt, you should be grateful. you cannot handle your own body, you cannot handle the risks involved, let other people decide that for you. you aren't ready yet.

but they need you to have sex because you need to have kids. at 15, you are old enough to parent. you are not old enough to hear the word fuck too many times on television.

they are horrified by sex and they never stop talking about it, thinking about it, making everything unnecessarily preverted. the saying - a thief thinks everyone steals. they stand up at their podiums and they look out at the crowd and they sign a bill into place that makes sexwork even more unsafe and they stand up and smile and sign a bill that makes gender-affirming care illegal and they get up and they shrug their shoulders and write don't say gay and they get up, and they make the world about sex, but this horrible, plastic vision of it that they have. this wretched, emotionless thing that holds so much weight it's staggering. they put their whole spine behind it and they push and they say it's normal!

this horrible world they live in. disgusted and also obsessed.

#this shifts gender so much bc it actually affects everyone #yes it's a gendered phenomenon. i have written a LOT about how different genders experience it. that's for a different post. #writeblr #ps my comments about seeing someone cry -- this is not to shame any person #and on this blog we support workers. #at the same time it's a really hard experience to see someone that looks like you. clearly in agony. and have them forced to keep going. #when you're young it doesn't necessarily look like acting. it looks scary. and that's what this is about - the fact that teens #have likely already been exposed to that definition of things. because the internet exists #and without the context of healthy education. THAT is the image burned into their minds about what it looks like. #it's also just one of those personal nuanced biases - #at 19 i thought it was normal to be in pain. to cry. to not-like-it. that it should be perfunctory. #it was what i had seen. #and it didn't help that my religious upbringing was like . 'yeah that's what you get for premarital. but also for the reference #we do think you should never actually enjoy it lol' #so like the point im making is that ppl get exposed to that stuff without the context of something more tender #and assume .... 'oh. so it's fine i am not enjoying myself'. and i know they do because I DID. #he was my first boyfriend. how was i supposed to know any different #i didn't even have the mental wherewithal to realize im a lesbian . like THAT used to suffering.

[yassifiedrumpelstiltskin]

the idea that detransitioning means you were a fake trans person/lying is such a bad and unnuanced one

i know so many people who went through a period of their life where they genuinely felt like a different gender, or where their gender presentation was changing and that made them think about their gender in new ways, or etc etc etc i can go on . and that doesn't mean that now, when some of them currently identify with the gender they were assigned at birth, that they were faking it or that phase of their life didn't mean anything

and it also REALLY REALLY doesn't mean that it discounts trans people, especially those who don't want to present in a binary gendered way, on the basis that it's a phase or they might change their mind later

gender identity and presentation is so fluid for so many people and there is a tendency (as with everything on the internet ig) to black-and-whiteify an issue that has had nuance for so so long

#trans positivity #nonbinary positivity #gender is fluid #what even is gender #when you really think about it #gender is a hat and a way to be comfortable in your body at any given time