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priyaapm · 2 years
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“ A house cannot be made habitable in a day; and after all, how few days go to make up a century. I seek not gaiety nor mirth, not the bright voluptuousness of much sunshine and sparkling waters which please the young and gay. My heart, through weary years of mourning over the dead, is not attuned to mirth. I love the shade and the shadow, and would be alone with my thoughts when I may. ” somehow his words and his looks did not seem to accord, or else it was that his cast of face made his smile look malignant and saturnine.
An excerpt from Dracula (Bram Stoker)
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priyaapm · 2 years
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Every day we performed our blood-soaked calculus. Everyday we decided who lived and who died. Everyday we helped the Allies to victories and nobody knew; victories that would not have been possible without the intelligence that we supplied. And people talk about the war as this epic battle between civilisations. Freedom vs Tyranny. Armies of millions bleeding to the ground. Fleets of ship weighing down the oceans. Planes dropping bombs from the sky until they obliterated the sun itself. The war wasn’t like that for us. For us it was just half a dozen crossword enthusiasts in a tiny village in the south of the England.
An excerpt from The Imitation Game
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priyaapm · 2 years
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when brene brown said “vulnerability is the path back to each other” and bell hooks wrote “cynicism is the great mask of the disappointed and betrayed heart” and amir levine wrote “if you want to take the road to independence and happiness, find the right person to depend on and travel down it with that person” and thich nhat hanh said “you cannot resist loving another person when you really understand them” and barbara l fredrickson wrote “your past moments of love and connection make you lastingly wiser”
basically that to be loved is to be seen, that vulnerability is the key to a joyful life, and that cynicism refrains us from the beautiful impact of intimacy
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priyaapm · 2 years
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If we’re being honest, most of us study our favourite character less like an entomologist studies a bug and more like an astronomer studies a distant star: drawing complicated inferences from extremely limited data, then getting tetchy about it when somebody else draws incompatible but equally well-supported inferences from the same data because it’s the fucking principle of the thing.
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priyaapm · 2 years
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the main thing that puts me off of playing chess is that there is 2000 years of gameplay that hundreds of people with higher IQs than me have spent thousands of hours studying the history of, so much so that when i put the pawn forward they say “ah i see youre going for the bulgarian somersault” and then i try to take their bishop with my knight and they go “aw, rookie mistake, youve played the frenchmans cumsock, and in approximately 37 moves i’ll have won”
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priyaapm · 2 years
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Did you love her wrong?
No you didn’t.
Did you love him wrong?
No you didn’t.
Love out of all things stands to be the most subjective,
You love them exactly how you want to be loved.
Giving love a definition? now that is insanity.
The only truth about love is, that it’s ever changing
And true love is merely what is never lost even if it is ever changing.
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priyaapm · 2 years
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types of healthy coping skills
1. self-soothing
comforting yourself through the 5 senses
Touch: stuffed animals, stress balls, taking a bath, a soft blanket
Hear: music, audio book, guided relaxation
See: snow globe, glitter, calming images, art, anything that pleases you visually 
Taste: tea, mints, gum
Smell: lotion, candles, incense 
2. distraction
removing your focus from the stressor for a period of time
puzzles, art, crafting, reading, movies, gaming, exercise, being social
3. opposite action
doing the opposite of the impulse that aligns with a positive emotion
affirmations, inspiration, lighthearted and encouraging focus
4. emotional awareness
identifying and constructively expressing what you’re feeling
journaling, listing emotions, using a emotional identification chart, drawing, therapy
5. mindfulness
centering and anchoring yourself to the present moment
meditation, guided relaxation, yoga, breathing exercises, candle gazing, going for a walk
6. ask for help
this is important to do when you feel like your coping skills are not enough or they are too negative and detrimental  
therapy is ideal for helping a person create a healthy coping strategy and incorporate it into their life 
*a coping skill is considered healthy if it helps you to deal with stress more positively, does not hinder your progress, and isn’t harmful physically or mentally. A coping skill can become negative when it is used to completely avoid dealing with the stressor. 
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priyaapm · 2 years
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i’m always pissed at something and i have no one to kiss…. life is unbearable
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priyaapm · 2 years
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So what's the point of living if you don't dance in the rain, if you don't take yourself on dates or sit silently in your room binge watching or reading or literally doing anything you love. Remember, no one other than you can heal and love and complete yourself
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priyaapm · 2 years
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Until they become conscious they will never rebel, and until after they have rebelled they cannot become conscious.
- 1984, George Orwell
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priyaapm · 2 years
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To love somebody is a blissful threat. That now, a part of you is only yours and most of you are his. To love somebody is looking at the sea, an unending stretch of water of unfathomable depth. But one scary part of water is that it has a habit of emptying itself. The other is how it evaporates like it was barely there. You could be madly in love some moments and you could be barely there in one.
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priyaapm · 2 years
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— James Baldwin, They Can’t Turn Back
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priyaapm · 2 years
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If I am for others, then who is for me? And if I am for myself, then what am I for?
-Ruslana Korshunova
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priyaapm · 2 years
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oh you have a degree and a career? well i’m going grocery shopping with my mom
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priyaapm · 2 years
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more on my substack <3
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priyaapm · 2 years
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one of the most important things, perhaps the most important thing I have learned in my life is that nice people can fuck each other up in monstrous ways. people can be bone deep kind and loving and self reflective and still lash out under pressure. people can be earnestly neighbourly and charitable and hospitable and generous and still find themselves in situations where they become selfish. people can be well meaning and easygoing and gregarious and hold deep seated opinions that turn them into vicious little bullies under the right conditions. nobody is just one thing, and nobody stays one way. every person is a kaleidoscope and they will surprise you. you will surprise yourself. it's not a warning and it's not a judgement and it's not an excuse, and it's certainly not a reason to stop trying or to stop trusting. it is just a fact.
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priyaapm · 2 years
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it is a tragedy, when a mature mind and a romantic heart are in the same body.
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