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7roaches · 6 months

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sorry that took like an hour i stopped to eat dinner heres my idea

#my art #adventure time #simon petrikov #betty grof #trans #lesbian #petrigrof #ion think i needa tag this for anything theyre both clothed & its not suggestive #i think simon isnt scared of needles but he cant make himself do it himself so betty does it for him #idk how he got by before meeting betty #i also dont think i needa tag this for eva spoilers considering it came out uh #28 years ago #FUCK I JUST REALIZED I FORGOT THE ENTIRE POINT OF THE COMIC HOLD ON #ok 10 min later im back #also i think this kinda implies golbetty is flesh underneath like an eva #ok i think thats all #and in case i dont see you good morning good evening and goodnight

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eighthwholove · 4 months

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On this day in 1996, Paul was announced as the Eighth Doctor!

#a day to celebrate #and thanks to know it all freak for the reminder!#28 years ago #shoot #paul mcgann #doctor who

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dreamsister81 · 10 months

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Gurten Festival: Bern, Switzerland, July 16, 1995 (📷 Domenico Lavorato)

#jeff buckley #28 years ago #mylove #supremebeing #favorite #music #new to me

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hislittleraincloud · 7 months

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I have words but it's only 12:01 on the 27th

#lol #jenna ortega #jenna ortega fandom #28 years ago #it was that long for me #her birthday

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andthebeanstalk · 11 months

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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your-hotdog-husband · 2 years

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Mental Illness +

+ (sensitive poet)

+ (fame?)

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]-[][][][]]>--- (heroin drugs)

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nirvana shotgun death stuff things, angrysadpain

#grunge #70s kid #80s kid #90s kids not #gen-X #jen-X #don't blame me #I was pissed too #28 years ago #1994

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jellydragons · 7 months

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“That’s no ordinary mirror.”

So what do you reckon Wild, like… saw?

Individual frames:

#my post #my art #linked universe #linked universe fanart #linked universe wild #lu wild #tw blood #my favourite pastime is looking at one off panels from literal years ago and going ‘you know what this needs? Implications :)’#aka i find the concept of legend going ‘don’t you DARE break it’ while wild’s staring transfixed halfway to a full blown crisis amusing #if wild’s scars are on the wrong side no they aren’t shhhhh it’s fine we’re fine #(<- literally didn’t notice until after 28 hours of work and is NOT fixing it)#i spent SO long agonising over gif file sizes only to be like ‘oh. vibeo.’ it’s a video btw click play if it ain’t moving #k love you all i need. to look at something other than This for a bit. hugs and kisses

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lanwangjihouse · 9 months

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#on this day 5 years ago #28/07/2018 #bazaar fotoshoot #adore this #wangxiao as wangxian #wang yibo #xiao zhan

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valenfield-inspo · 1 month

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Chris Redfield & Jill Valentine Resident Evil (1996)

Happy 28th Anniversary to the game that started it all! 🧟

#resident evil #re1 #chris redfield #jill valentine #valenfield #chris x jill #jill x chris #my edits #reviledit #i just decided to do the beginning cutscenes instead of the in game footage #i love that they did live action stuff like this back in the day #blood and gore warning #especially with the 4th gif #also gonna tag #flashing gif #just in case #crxjvr #28 years ago wow #anyone feeling old yet?😅

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littlebigmouse · 2 years

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Everyone making fun of Reigen like the dude isn't literally in his late 20s. Dude started the psychic agency when he was like, 24. It's a miracle that place is still running. The fact that Reigen isn't even 30 years old explains absolutely everything about him.

#like yeah of course he extorts a middle schooler for labour he's 28 and eats like a college student #mp100 #reigen arataka #like yeah of course he's weird he has the social circle of a guy who's friends all went to found families ten years ago in his late 20s #he literally had a quarter life crisis #mob psycho 100 #don't get me wrong reigen is absolutely bulliable #i'm just saying if i founded a psychic agency now to spite my parents it would go about the same #if not way worse actually

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loppiopio · 7 months

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just some 🥥 related sillies i've made for that fic we all know.

#durarara #izaya orihara #shizuo heiwajima #shizaya #a cheap imitation #i made a thing #i've been holding off on posting these here for so long whoops #i'm so shy... check out my lemonade guys #i've been very motivated to make various things for this fic as a result of this book club i've been hosting for my friends #i actually made the first image (not the video) like two years ago?#back around when i first read the fic and started being annoying about it to my friends #never posted it though because the shizuo i drew was ugly!!!#and the shizuo i drew for the second image this time around is still ugly!! unfortunately :(#well anyways if it isn't clear the images are both for chapter 19 while the video is for chapters 28 to 29 and a little bit of 30 lol #also i know izaya's actual problem isn't fucking shizuo but kissing him lol but it was funnier to keep it like this #you can check out more of this deranged behaviour over at my twitter of the same name #i know not everyone wants to go there though especially with the current situation...#so i'll try to bring over the more memorable stuff to post in batches over here which i think is the stuff i did any art for #since i've made a lot of multimedia type things dedicated to particular chapters as “marketing” for my friends #but i'm not sure they'll make much sense out of context so #my plan is to compile all of everything i've made for the fic during the book club into a powerpoint that i'll try to keep for posterity #because ngl i feel i went kinda hard with certain things that maybe only two people will appreciate #but i'll do it for those two people out there #also it's a whole book club for aci!!#*i'd* want to see what some random people have been up to with a book club for this fic #be the change you want to see in the world #side note i wonder if having so many fucking tags on your own post is a bad look...#idk it's so much clutter but i have too many things to say!!#i look back at my own previous tags and i physically can't bring myself to read them ahhhh #i hope anyone's enjoying them anyways

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evignonita · 2 months

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You're not invited to my sims 2 themed birthday party.

#i found out that i have the same birthday date as lady gaga 5 years ago and i still haven't gotten over it #i turn 90 on march 28 💖 if you even care #aries queen #i'm getting old my back hurts #ts2 #the sims 2 #simblr #insane me

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gideonisms · 3 months

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Jhkhjjj someone tagged one of my posts advising me not to use harrow as a role model...if anything she should be using me as one! In a just walk out you can leave type of way

#i'm 28 i had my harrowesque religious crisis years ago #now i know i can be a bit clingy if i don't watch myself but i pinkie promise i have never trapped anyone on a planet with me for 18 years

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dreamsister81 · 8 months

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